<instructions>Your goal is to analyze the following comment and estimate how highly it will be upvoted by the Hacker News community.</instructions><comment><author>mrsmee89</author><text>As someone who has gone through something similar to this, it was heartbreaking to discover that parental alienation is quite common.&lt;p&gt;Child raising is too delicate and nuanced to be relegated to process level decisions. It’s too late for my situation but family court with children involved is something I hope gets revamped sooner rather than later.&lt;p&gt;Many of the family court laws are a relic from a time when the roles of men and women were very different from the standard of today and unfortunately many women use this to their advantage (which I suppose is the rational thing to do).&lt;p&gt;Now, whenever I see a woman claiming to be a victim in a family matter I look way more closely than I would have in the past and I hope society as a whole starts to do this too.&lt;p&gt;Of course, I’m not saying only women use victimhood to their advantage but I am saying that there is a very clear incentive to claim to be a victim in todays society and in family court especially. As long as a woman is ok with lying, it’s almost foolish for her to NOT claim to be the victim. The incentive needs to be removed.</text><parent_chain></parent_chain></comment><story><title>Parental alienation and the unregulated experts shattering children’s lives</title><url>https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2022/jun/12/parental-alienation-and-the-unregulated-experts-shattering-childrens-lives</url></story>
<instructions>Your goal is to analyze the following comment and estimate how highly it will be upvoted by the Hacker News community.</instructions><comment><author>bergenty</author><text>It sounds like you’re supposed to sympathize with the mother in this article but you need to be careful, especially when a court system—- that is generally incredibly biased against the father— makes a ruling in his favor.&lt;p&gt;I can think of plenty of scenarios in what’s described where the mother is incredibly manipulative and plays the victim card as soon as there are consequences.</text><parent_chain></parent_chain></comment><story><title>Parental alienation and the unregulated experts shattering children’s lives</title><url>https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2022/jun/12/parental-alienation-and-the-unregulated-experts-shattering-childrens-lives</url></story>