### Environment

* Dubbo version: 3.1.0
* Operating System version: MacOS 13.0
* Java version: 1.8

### Steps to reproduce this issue
1. 写一个简单的项目（非spring项目）
2. main方法启动一个provider，对外暴露一个简单的api，比如DemoService#sayHi()，用sleep模拟一个耗时3秒的调用
3. main方法再启动一个consumer。创建两个reference去调用2中的api，第一个reference设置timeout为1秒，第二个reference设置超时为5秒

### 预期结果：
- 第一个调用超时，第二个调用正常

### 实际结果：
- 两个调用均超时了

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import java.util.HashMap;
import java.util.Map;
import java.util.Optional;
import java.util.Set;
import java.util.concurrent.ConcurrentHashMap;
import static org.apache.dubbo.common.constants.CommonConstants.CONSUMER;
import static org.apache.dubbo.common.constants.CommonConstants.CONSUMER_SIDE;
import static org.apache.dubbo.common.constants.CommonConstants.DUBBO;
import static org.apache.dubbo.common.constants.CommonConstants.GROUP_KEY;
import static org.apache.dubbo.common.constants.CommonConstants.INTERFACE_KEY;
import static org.apache.dubbo.common.constants.CommonConstants.REMOTE_APPLICATION_KEY;
import static org.apache.dubbo.common.constants.CommonConstants.SIDE_KEY;
import static org.apache.dubbo.common.constants.CommonConstants.VERSION_KEY;
import static org.apache.dubbo.common.utils.StringUtils.isEmpty;
import static org.apache.dubbo.common.utils.StringUtils.isEquals;
public class InstanceAddressURL extends URL {
    private final ServiceInstance instance;
    private final MetadataInfo metadataInfo;
    
    private volatile transient Map<String, Number> numbers;
    private volatile transient Map<String, Map<String, Number>> methodNumbers;
    private volatile transient Set<String> providerFirstParams;
    
    private final transient String protocol;
    protected InstanceAddressURL() {
        this(null, null, null);
    }
    public InstanceAddressURL(
        ServiceInstance instance,
        MetadataInfo metadataInfo