### Environment

* Dubbo version: 3.2.0
* Operating System version: macos10.15.7
* Java version: 1.8

### Steps to reproduce this issue

使用各种方式导致Module启动失败。

### Expected Behavior

Module启动失败，不暴露MetadataService。

即不执行DefaultApplicationDeployer#prepareApplicationInstance。

### Actual Behavior

由于org.apache.dubbo.config.deploy.DefaultModuleDeployer#onModuleFailed传入错误的状态STARTED，导致执行DefaultApplicationDeployer#prepareApplicationInstance。

```java
private void onModuleFailed(String msg, Throwable ex) {
    try {
        setFailed(ex);
        logger.error(CONFIG_FAILED_START_MODEL, "", "", "Model start failed: " + msg, ex);
        applicationDeployer.notifyModuleChanged(moduleModel, DeployState.STARTED);
    } finally {
        completeStartFuture(false);
    }
}
```


asyncExportingFutures.add(future);
        } else {
            if (!sc.isExported()) {
                sc.export();
                exportedServices.add(sc);
            }
        }
    }
    private void unexportServices() {
        exportedServices.forEach(sc -> {
            try {
                configManager.removeConfig(sc);
                sc.unexport();
            } catch (Exception ) {
                // 
            }
        });
        exportedServices.clear();
        asyncExportingFutures.forEach(future -> {
            if (!future.isDone()) {
                future.cancel(true);
            }
        });
        asyncExportingFutures.clear();
    }
    private void referServices() {
        configManager.getReferences().forEach(rc -> {
            try {
                ReferenceConfig<?> referenceConfig = (ReferenceConfig<?>) rc;
                if (!referenceConfig.isRefreshed()) {