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### Problem Description
Following #20322 - for me as an Electron user, it's unacceptable that `second-instance` manipulates order of arguments, it's incompatible e.g. with [yargs](https://github.com/yargs/yargs) style (e.g. `myapp.exe -a 1 -b 2`). Current behaviour on Windows is confusing, not well documented.

### Proposed Solution
Although I have [described a workaround](https://github.com/electron/electron/issues/20322#issuecomment-617773983), I would like Electron to somehow overcome Chromium deficiency and pass the original `argv` to the `second-instance` event or pass any custom data comfortably.

I think the best solution could be by adding a string only param msg to `app.requestSingleInstanceLock(msg)` and the [`second-instance`](https://www.electronjs.org/docs/api/app#event-second-instance) would returns the fourth value `msg`.

Other solution may be:
1. `second-instance` would get the original `argv`, not the Chromium one. 
2. If a user pass a custom data `app.requestSingleInstanceLock(argv)`, then the `second-instance` would return this custom data as `argv`, probably processed by `JSON.parse(JSON.stringify(argv))`.

shell/browser/api/electron_api_app.cc
return;
    }
    servers_mojo = absl::nullopt;
    for (const std::string& server_template : secure_dns_server_strings) {
      std::string server_method;
      if (!net::dns_util::IsValidDohTemplate(server_template, &server_method)) {
        thrower.ThrowTypeError(std::string("not a valid DoH template: ") +
                               server_template);
        return;
      }
      bool use_post = server_method == "POST";
      if (!servers_mojo.has_value()) {
        servers_mojo = absl::make_optional<
            std::vector<network::mojom::DnsOverHttpsServerPtr>>();
      }
      network::mojom::DnsOverHttpsServerPtr server_mojo =
          network::mojom::DnsOverHttpsServer::New();
      server_mojo->server_template = std::string(server_template);
      server_mojo->use_post = use_post;
      servers_mojo->emplace_back(std::move(server_mojo));
    }
  }
  if (opts.Has("enableAdditionalDnsQueryTypes") &&
      !opts.Get("enableAdditionalDnsQueryTypes",
                &additional_dns_query_types_enabled)) {
    thrower.ThrowTypeError("enableAdditionalDnsQueryTypes must be a boolean");
    return;
  }