It's surprising that using a non-standard listening port will cause peers to actively avoid connecting to you, is it sensible to add this to the help message and the warnings on startup if people have changed the default? I can't find this behavior mentioned anywhere except for the comments in net.cpp. 

```
// do not allow non-default ports, unless after 50 invalid addresses selected already
if (addr.GetPort() != Params().GetDefaultPort() && nTries < 50)
continue;
```

https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/blob/master/src/net.cpp#L1369

}
#if ENABLE_ZMQ
    RegisterZMQRPCCommands(tableRPC);
#endif
    /* Start the RPC server already.  It will be started in "warmup" mode
     * and not really process calls already (but it will signify connections
     * that the server is there and will be ready later).  Warmup mode will
     * be disabled when initialisation is finished.
     */
    if (args.GetBoolArg("-server", false)) {
        uiInterface.InitMessage_connect(SetRPCWarmupStatus);
        if (!AppInitServers(context, node))
            return InitError(_("Unable to start HTTP server. See debug log for details."));
    }
    
    for (const auto& client : node.chain_clients) {
        if (!client->verify()) {
            return false;
        }
    }
    
    
    
    
    
    fListen = args.GetBoolArg("-listen", DEFAULT_LISTEN);
    fDiscover = args.GetBoolArg("-discover", true);
    const bool ignores_incoming_txs{args.GetBoolArg("-blocksonly", DEFAULT_BLOCKSONLY)};
    assert(!node.banman);
    node.banman = MakeUnique<BanMan>(GetDataDir() / "banlist.dat", &uiInterface, args.GetArg("-bantime", DEFAULT_MISBEHAVING_BANTIME));