It's surprising that using a non-standard listening port will cause peers to actively avoid connecting to you, is it sensible to add this to the help message and the warnings on startup if people have changed the default? I can't find this behavior mentioned anywhere except for the comments in net.cpp. 

```
// do not allow non-default ports, unless after 50 invalid addresses selected already
if (addr.GetPort() != Params().GetDefaultPort() && nTries < 50)
continue;
```

https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/blob/master/src/net.cpp#L1369

{
    assert(!node.args);
    node.args = &gArgs;
    ArgsManager& argsman = *node.args;
    SetupHelpOptions(argsman);
    argsman.AddArg("-help-debug", "Print help message with debugging options and exit", ArgsManager::ALLOW_ANY, OptionsCategory::DEBUG_TEST); 
    const auto defaultBaseParams = CreateBaseChainParams(CBaseChainParams::MAIN);
    const auto testnetBaseParams = CreateBaseChainParams(CBaseChainParams::TESTNET);
    const auto signetBaseParams = CreateBaseChainParams(CBaseChainParams::SIGNET);
    const auto regtestBaseParams = CreateBaseChainParams(CBaseChainParams::REGTEST);
    const auto defaultChainParams = CreateChainParams(argsman, CBaseChainParams::MAIN);
    const auto testnetChainParams = CreateChainParams(argsman, CBaseChainParams::TESTNET);
    const auto signetChainParams = CreateChainParams(argsman, CBaseChainParams::SIGNET);
    const auto regtestChainParams = CreateChainParams(argsman, CBaseChainParams::REGTEST);
    
    std::vector<std::string> hidden_args = {
        "-dbcrashratio", "-forcecompactdb",
        
        "-choosedatadir", "-lang=<lang>", "-min", "-resetguisettings", "-splash", "-uiplatform"};
    argsman.AddArg("-version", "Print version and exit", ArgsManager::ALLOW_ANY, OptionsCategory::OPTIONS);
#if HAVE_SYSTEM
    argsman.AddArg("-alertnotify=<cmd>", "Execute command when a relevant alert is received or we see a really long fork (%s in cmd is replaced by message)", ArgsManager::ALLOW_ANY, OptionsCategory::OPTIONS);
#endif
    argsman.AddArg("-assumevalid=<hex>", strprintf("If this block is in the chain assume that it and its ancestors are valid and potentially skip their script verification (0 to verify all, default: %s, testnet: %s, signet: %s)", defaultChainParams->GetConsensus().defaultAssumeValid.GetHex(), testnetChainParams->GetConsensus().defaultAssumeValid.GetHex(), signetChainParams->GetConsensus().defaultAssumeValid.GetHex()), ArgsManager::ALLOW_ANY, OptionsCategory::OPTIONS);
    argsman.AddArg("-blocksdir=<dir>", "Specify directory to hold blocks subdirectory for *.dat files (default: <datadir>)", ArgsManager::ALLOW_ANY, OptionsCategory::OPTIONS);
#if HAVE_SYSTEM