It's surprising that using a non-standard listening port will cause peers to actively avoid connecting to you, is it sensible to add this to the help message and the warnings on startup if people have changed the default? I can't find this behavior mentioned anywhere except for the comments in net.cpp. 

```
// do not allow non-default ports, unless after 50 invalid addresses selected already
if (addr.GetPort() != Params().GetDefaultPort() && nTries < 50)
continue;
```

https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/blob/master/src/net.cpp#L1369

{
    return FindNode(static_cast<CNetAddr>(addr)) || FindNode(addr.ToStringIPPort());
}
bool CConnman::CheckIncomingNonce(uint64_t nonce)
{
    LOCK(cs_vNodes);
    for (const CNode* pnode : vNodes) {
        if (!pnode->fSuccessfullyConnected && !pnode->IsInboundConn() && pnode->GetLocalNonce() == nonce)
            return false;
    }
    return true;
}
static CAddress GetBindAddress(SOCKET sock)
{
    CAddress addr_bind;
    struct sockaddr_storage sockaddr_bind;
    socklen_t sockaddr_bind_len = sizeof(sockaddr_bind);
    if (sock != INVALID_SOCKET) {
        if (!getsockname(sock, (struct sockaddr*)&sockaddr_bind, &sockaddr_bind_len)) {
            addr_bind.SetSockAddr((const struct sockaddr*)&sockaddr_bind);
        } else {
            LogPrint(BCLog::NET, "Warning: getsockname failed\n");
        }
    }
    return addr_bind;
}
CNode* CConnman::ConnectNode(CAddress addrConnect, const char *pszDest, bool fCountFailure, ConnectionType conn_type)