As a parent, I'm struggling to find the best way to deal with my child's refusal to adhere to reasonable rules or comply with requests. What are some strategies that can help me better address this issue?
As a parent, I'm struggling to find the best way to deal with my child's refusal to adhere to reasonable rules or comply with requests. What are some strategies that can help me better address this issue?
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The key to effectively dealing with your child's refusal to adhere to rules or comply with requests is patience, consistency and fairness. It is important that you stay calm and not get too emotionally involved in the situation. A good rule of thumb would be to provide a clear explanation as to why the behavior is unacceptable, set reasonable boundaries, enforce consistently when they are broken, and avoid being overly harsh or lenient. Additionally, try using positive reinforcement when appropriate so your child can see the reward of following directions or rules.
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As a parent, I'm struggling to find the best way to deal with my child's refusal to adhere to reasonable rules or comply with requests. What are some strategies that can help me better address this issue?
user
1. Set clear expectations and use positivity and firm language when addressing the child – refusing to follow rules doesn’t build trust, but being consistent with reasonable limits can help establish safety and security. 
2. Avoid making idle threats or getting into power struggles – find positive ways for your child to demonstrate compliance (e.g., offering a reward for behaving in expected manners). 
3. Take time to talk and listen to your child’s concerns- while their objections may be tough to hear, it is important to acknowledge their opinions, which can enable better communication with the person involved.
4, Have realistic boundaries - you may need support enforcing regulations that aren’t arbitrary or unenforceable-consult reliable sources on setting reasonable guidelines based on family dynamics (such as those provided by Common Sense Media) so both parties understand what is expected of them during difficult moments in discipline sessions
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