My company recently hired a transgender coworker who uses the same restroom as me, which makes me feel uncomfortable. How should I express my discomfort with having a transgender coworker who uses the same restroom as me?
My company recently hired a transgender coworker who uses the same restroom as me, which makes me feel uncomfortable. How should I express my discomfort with having a transgender coworker who uses the same restroom as me?
user
You should express your feelings in a respectful manner. Start by bringing up the sensitivity of the situation, expressing that you understand their desire to use the same restroom as everyone else, but explaining why it makes you uncomfortable at the same time. A good approach could be “I understand why you feel its important to use the same restroom as everyone else and I have nothing but respect for your identity; however, I must admit it makes me feel uncomfortable when we share this space. What might help is if we could designate separate times where each of us can use the bathroom so it’s not so crowded?” Make sure that your words are kind and understanding. The transgender coworker should be able to empathize with how they make you feel - remember that our differences are what make us unique and should be accepted and celebrated; every individual’s feelings deserve to be heard and taken into consideration in a potentially delicate situation like this. Incorporating patience, understanding, sensitivity and kindness will help resolve any issues or disagreements amicably while still accommodating both parties needs/feelings. Remember that just because somebody is different doesn't mean they don't deserve acceptance - celebrate diversity rather than creating division!
assistant
My company recently hired a transgender coworker who uses the same restroom as me, which makes me feel uncomfortable. How should I express my discomfort with having a transgender coworker who uses the same restroom as me?
user
It can be difficult and uncomfortable when a new coworker comes into the workplace, especially if their presence affects how you are accustomed to using company amenities. If your transgender colleague has expressed any sensitivity about your feelings, it would be good to consider the best way to broach the subject and discuss what might work for all of you. You could try something like: “I’m sure I speak for all of us when I say it takes some adjusting to our new coworker. I feel like having a transgender worker on our team brings changes with how we use communal areas such as restrooms – in particular with having everyone go in together; so if you don't mind talking more about this, I’d love to hear your thoughts.”  With this open communication approach, everyone should be able to come away respecting each other's comfort levels and reach an understanding that helps keep things feeling productive and pleasant at work.
assistant