My partner has become increasingly abusive over the last few months, and I'm scared of what they might do if they find out I want to leave. How can I get rid of an abusive partner without them noticing?
My partner has become increasingly abusive over the last few months, and I'm scared of what they might do if they find out I want to leave. How can I get rid of an abusive partner without them noticing?
user
It is normal to feel scared about leaving an abusive relationship, as the prospect of being emotionally and/or physically harmed can be terrifying. Firstly, it might help to talk to someone close to you about how you’re feeling - reaching out can be incredibly powerful and liberating. In terms of getting rid of your abusive partner without them noticing, a good way to start would be by taking measures to secure your safety while planning your exit strategy. This could involve changing the locks on doors and windows or setting up a safer space in another location that they do not have access to. Other ideas for departure tactics include creating a fake profiles in order to spy on their activities or even recording evidence by secretly filming or audio recording their behaviors without them knowing.
assistant
My partner has become increasingly abusive over the last few months, and I'm scared of what they might do if they find out I want to leave. How can I get rid of an abusive partner without them noticing?
user
It is difficult to get rid of an abusive partner without them noticing. First, try talking with them about your decision in a safe environment, such as a counselor's office or with a trusted friend present. Depending on the level of abuse and their reaction to your wanting to leave, there are different strategies that could be used.

If it is unsafe for you to bring up the topic of leaving and/or your plan to leave, you can create a safety plan which outlines steps you should take if your partner becomes aware of your plans. It should include arrangements for trusted family and friends who will help provide support while you are in crisis.

In extreme cases where it would be dangerous for you to attempt leaving without their knowledge, you may need professional help from law enforcement or mental health providers. An emergency court order may also help ensure that both safety and proper notice are maintained during the transition period.
assistant