   neutral   Alice, your father is amazing. He ’ s 90 years old and he lives alone in that big house.     neutral   I know. He doesn ’ t like to ask anyone for help. My dad insists on paying his own bills and taking care of himself!  
    neutral   That sounds like my Grandmother. She was always stubbornly independent.     neutral   It seems that folks like my father and your grandmother are determined to be on their own.  
    neutral   They see their independence as a kind of character strength.     neutral   
 But they don't have to do it all by themselves. There are some things we can get
 Those people want total freedom, they say. The ability    happiness   You said it!