Be a Classy Jerk

Now, this timeless proverb could be construed in a variety of ways. The most common interpretation of the adage is that we must be bold at times; bravery and courage are virtues, while cowardice is a vice. But sometimes, it's not simply about taking a chance, it's about enforcing your will or taking a firm hold on the reins, thereby giving you the edge in a typical flirting encounter. Nobody likes a jerk, but a class jerk is a very different animal because he's an individual who doesn't follow classic social mores in the realm of courtesy, but still maintains his image as a gentleman. But how does one walk the fine line between offensive and irresistible? What is the key to coming across as slightly abrasive while keeping your reputation as a class act? And of course, how can this translate to player success?

To break it down to the simplest terms, being a classy jerk is just about being a little different. We always use a variety of techniques when courting women, but most of them revolve around similar requirements, such as politeness, cordial banter, compliments, and so on. Therefore, you can shake things up by tickling a woman's heartstrings in a different way. The traditional way plucks the visible and obvious strings, but the underhanded or opposite way strikes a chord with the strings in the rear –- and that could lead to a whole new experience.

The following are several approaches to use when approaching a target, and all of them border on dangerously offensive, so be sure to follow the guidelines to the letter.

Be the modern bad boy

This is a new day and age, so abandon the theory that women will immediately respond to the played-out rebel role; instead, take on a more modernised version of the quintessential James Dean character. You may also want to assume the role of the uncaring, freewheeling, independent soul. Nothing really bothers you, and all you really live for is the ladies and the occasional thrill, be it legal or otherwise. Silly little rules don't get in your way; you simply ignore them every once in a while. Life is often too predictable, you like to be spontaneous and unscheduled. It's a persona that works wonders more often than you might think, primarily because it appeals to her underlying desire to just cut loose every once in a while. This can lead to our next tip, which centres entirely on a classy form of selfishness (no, really).

The over-the-top approach

We're not suggesting you go crazy and start taking unnecessary risks (that's a bit extreme), but risk-taking may be part of the equation. You're going for a style that fits between raging party animal and passionate yet tender suitor. This is all about exuding confidence in everything that you do, and while the classic style is humble and sweet, this is more of an old-fashioned "man" approach. You are the man. You work hard, party hard and love hard. Some may view this as being a "jerk", but it's simply confidence and self-assurance on a grand scale. If she likes hiking, you talk about your rock-climbing endeavours. If she's playing hard to get, you play hard to get to her. If she mentions her love of Mexican food, you take her to a Mexican restaurant. Get the picture?

You care about one person

Before we leap into an operational definition, let's clarify one thing right off the bat: Caring about yourself doesn't mean you are hostile or overtly offensive, it simply means you're hedonistic to the max. Essentially, you're not out to make people miserable; you're out to make yourself happy. Make sure you understand the distinction before embarking on the "classy-selfishness" endeavour. Without any doubt, women tend to despise men who are self-involved and egoistical,

but if you're careful, you can pull this off with appropriate behaviour. Life is short, and it only makes sense to seize every day by the horns and make yourself happy, so to hell with what anyone else thinks.

Ultimately, it's your schedule that matters, it's your time that matters and it's your life you focus on. As far as you are concerned, she can either accept that or hit the road.

Nice guys finish last

It's not the bad boy act and it's not a chain of negative hits with a twist, this is all about enforcing your will and being so obvious that it borders on offensive or scandalous. You want her, and you're not interested in small talk or making a pithy comment about the weather. You don't care what she's wearing, nor do you care what colour her eyes are. If she's fishing for compliments, she's with the wrong person. For you, the standard flirting ritual has been reduced to a very simple philosophy: Dating and commitment aren't in your vocabulary. One night of hot sex is all you want, and she's gonna know it.

In short, you don't waste your time with niceties, you're an arrow to the target and there's no deviating from the path. She might appreciate your honesty and candour, and above all else, she will be immensely flattered by your overpowering interest. You're not heaping praise on her, but you very attitude is one big, fat compliment -- regardless of how close it comes to breaking those invisible courting rules.

Play the role of the dour, "I-hate-everything" artiste

Let's say you're a musician or an aspiring actor. You should take advantage of that chosen profession to toss a little "Colin Farrell" at her. For whatever reason, down throughout history, women have been attracted to the kind of man who rarely smiles, has a chip on his shoulder the size of Montana, and always adopts a bored visage while in public. You're adopting the "artsy" persona, where you're critical of just about everything, but aren't loud or visibly annoyed. The world sucks, and there isn't anything you can do about it, so why not have a little fun before you die? Just don't step over the line into a sort of paranoid psychosis, keep this little act reigned in lest you frighten her away. You want her to be intrigued by your withdrawn, frowning demeanour, not freaked out.

"Classy jerk" may sound like an oxymoron, but if you're looking to score, it's good to switch tactics here and there. Besides, this won't damage your reputation -- provided you don't overuse these tips -- and if you're successful, you'll know there's more than one way to skin a cat. It's all about adding more techniques to your already-expansive arsenal, so don't discount the effectiveness of the bad boy, the brooding artist or the various "alpha-male" approaches. No, they won't work on all women, but not all women are the same.
