Kylie turned 11 months old on September 4th. I can't believe she is almost a year old! Time has flown by and she has changed so much before our eyes. Here is her list of new tricks and fun things.
1. She is now signing...all finished (w/one hand), cookie, milk, more, & please.
2. Is now cruising....so it shouldn't much longer on the crawling.
3. Has 4 teeth including a huge gap between her two front teeth (so did Cole).
4. Loves all food but especially loves BEANS....great!!
6. Last weekend I think she started seperation anxiety!!
7. Is terrified of men dressed up like shepards...that's another story.
8. She loves music and will dance and stomp her foot or shake her leg.
9. She is already practicing her karate chops on her big brother...he loves it!
10.Loves going for rides in her little car & likes to pretend to steer.
11.She really loves books and will sit forever and just flip through them.
That's it for now for our sweet baby girl....until next month at One Year Old!
I had to throw in this hilarious picture of Kylie. She gets this look from her Dad!!
It is recipe swap time again over at Grocery Cart Challenge.
Follow directions on pudding box. Beat in Eagle Brand Milk and then fold in whip cream and vanilla. Layer your pudding mix, bananas and cookies in the order you like. This makes a ton of pudding so it is perfect for taking to a party or potluck.
It's that time again....Recipe Swap Friday over at Grocery Cart Challenge. The recipe I came up with is from the Kraft Magazine. This recipe is super easy and really yummy!!
PLACE all ingredients in slow cooker; mix well. Cover with lid.
COOK on LOW for 4 to 6 hours (or on HIGH for 3 hours).
Prepare as directed, using your favorite flavor of KRAFT Barbecue Sauce.
Cole: My wish did not come true Mom.
Me: What was your wish?
Cole: To have something else for Supper!
And to think we were just having leftover Tacos. I usually get the whole "You're better than Rachel Ray Mom!!"
Kylie turned 9 months old on June 4th and decided it was time to CRAWL, CUT TWO TEETH AND PULL UP all in about a weeks time! Where did my little baby go? She had her 9 month Dr. visit yesterday and she is slowly moving up the charts. She now weighs 16 lbs.-%25, stands 27 1/2 inches-%25 and her little noggin is in the %50! The Dr. seemed pleased with her growth and the Acid Reflux doesn't seem to be coming back!! She she has come a long way from the poor little baby girl that use to just cry and cry in pain!! Well, I guess I need to go baby proof the house...my little munchkin is started to make her way through out the house! We love you Kylie!!
This is Cole's Kindergarten class picture taken in the fall.
Just a few shots of the last day of school. They had a big blow up slip and slide and the kids had a blast. Everyone got to sign beach balls and each others class T-shirts. We all ate pizza and had popsicles...what a great last day of school!!
I think that fits him perfectly!! Pops came up to see the production and then later Pops and Rob went back to the school and surprised Cole with Pizza for lunch. We asked Cole where he would like to go for his Graduation Dinner and he chose Quesadilla House (it is really called the Texican but Cole has called it Quesadilla House since he was about 3). After Dinner we gave him a few presents to celebrate his milestone. I can't believe he is almost finished with Kindergarten...the year went by so fast!!
Living in the country has its advantages, especially if you are a little boy. Today while we were burning limbs Cole asked if he could....hmm what word should I use......we'll just say "tinkle"....I know that's a girl word. Anyway before relieving himself he decided it was a good idea to dig a hole first.......let's just say he is a good shot and no I did not let him cover the hole back up!
Boys will be Boys no matter where you live...it's just better that the neighbors don't see!!
Mother's Day has come and gone and I am left with more beautiful gifts to treasure. No I didn't get a diamond ring or new car, I got the best gifts a girl could want. I got Homemade from the heart gifts and with lunch to boot it was a great Mother's Day!
This is a card that my sweet family made me and Kylie even signed the card. See the picture of her in her highchair signing it. Rob took a picture of Cole doing the same thing on my very first Mother's Day!
This is a clay heart that Cole made me in Art at school. It came home on Friday in a package and Cole wanted me to open it then soooo bad. I had to hide it so he wouldn't open it for me. I wanted to be surprised on Mother's Day. I love it!!
This is a Periwinkle that his teacher helped him plant in a beautifully painted pot!!
Cole had his first T-ball game of the season last Saturday and he was in "Full Swing". He missed a whole season of sports due to my pregnancy so he was ready.
I call this the "Tushie Swing"
This is Cole and a Kindergarten classmate, Issac on opposing teams.
Cole throwing one into home. Notice the grass hanging out of his mouth. He spent the whole game with that grass in his mouth. Sunflower seeds, grass....I guess it's all the same!!
Our little girl turned 8 months old yesterday....where has the time gone?
"Ba" when we go outside, which we think is Bye-Bye. When I leave to pick-up Cole from school I always say "lets go Bye-Bye and when we walk Daddy and Cole out to leave in the morning we say "Bye-Bye".
2. She is holding her own bottle...she needs a little help putting her hands on it to start. It is a very heavy bottle with all the components inside!!
3. She loves all the baby food we have given her. Although she has made a few faces at some things (like Meat, I would too cause it STINKS) she has not turned anything down. It is finally starting to show-have you checked out those thighs!!!
4. Although she is not crawling yet she is doing much better about being on her tummy. When she is on her tummy she turns all around instead of going forward.
5. Since being off of the Reflux pillow she has started turning over in her bed. And around and upside down!! She finally has freedom to move around and does not stay in one spot for too long.
6. She is officially off of her medication and so far so good. We will keep praying that all goes well.
7. She likes to wave at other people except her Mommy and Daddy. Other people will tell her Hi and have been saying she is waving and we finally got to see her do it. It is really cute cause she will do it even when people aren't looking at her.
8. She likes attention and will GROWL until you give her some!! It is kinda hard to have a conversation with someone with all that growling but once you acknowledge her she will stop.
9. Kylie is the happiest most content baby I have ever seen. Once she got over her rough couple of weeks after birth she has been the easiest baby and likes everyone and we LOVE her!!
Wow I got tagged......Not that anyone is going to care about this but here goes...except Jessica since she is the one that tagged me!!
1. I grew up in the country with and around cows, chickens, horses, rabbits, a hog, etc. and been able to witness lots of births of many animals. I was in 4-H, FFA, judged hay once, helped grow our own veggies and use to love to drive my 3-wheeler all over the country side…I know I'm a Nerd!! Who woulda thunk it!!
2. My middle name is Ann and had always been the plan, but my mother had trouble deciding between Betty and Leslie as my first name. I glad she went with Leslie.
3. I am addicted to movies and T.V. in general but my guilty pleasure is reality T.V. such as Big Brother, Survivor, Hells Kitchen, American Idol, and Biggest Loser.
4. I use to play the piano and clarinet but now I don't have a musical bone in my body. I do still have the same piano that my Mom, Sister and I played on.
5. Speaking of bones, I have never officially broken a bone. I think I broke a toe once but never went to the Dr. I have gone to the ER for a sprained ankle though.
7. I am a very sentimental person and love heirlooms. Although my home is not decorated with new and matching furniture, most of it is furnished with antiques from both sides of my family which I love!! Some of the things I have are rocking chairs, an iron bed, glass door knob, my great-grandmothers painted wooden bowl, paper that my grandmother wrote Silent Night on in German and something very special my grandmother's wedding book from 1918 complete with a baptism picture of her.
So not very interesting but there you have it!
Can you tell what is missing? Cole lost his first tooth yesterday and now he is officially NOT a little boy. He has been telling me for a while now that he is not a baby anymore but now this just seals the deal. He has waited a long time to get on the "Lost Tooth" chart at school and he finally made it. You would have thought that he just got his first chest hair. It means a lot to make it on that chart!! Only one more boy to loose a tooth and school isn't even out yet! I wish that was all I had to worry about. To be young again....and by the way now I REALLY feel OLD!
Here he is checking himself out in the mirror. It all starts with the lost tooth, then I guess it will be zits next...although he has already been experimenting with new hair styles.
Here Cole is posing with my Tooth Fairy pillow. It is one of the few things I still have from my childhood so it feels really good to have my Son be able to use it. He actually was very excited to put his tooth in the little pocket and then he placed it under his pillow to wait for the "dough".
This was this morning after the Tooth Fairy left. I think he was expecting more but with the "economy" the way it is the Tooth Fairy had to "cut back"!!
Rob has decided to build Cole a tree house and while it is technically a "house" it will not be in a tree. It will be "one with the tree limbs" though. We just didn't want to risk hurting our big beautiful oak tree so Rob is building it underneath it. Cole really wants him to connect it to his play scape so that may come at a later date. Our entire property is like a big rock pile so it has taken a while due to Rob hitting nothing but rock when he was digging the holes. I hope now it can take off and Cole can be in it by Summer. I need it up by the Summer for my sanity!! I am documenting the progress so here is what he has done so far.


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Samsung mobile boss takes a big pay cut following profit decline
Due to poor performance in Q3 2014, Samsung's J.K. Shin has seen his well-paid salary decrease substantially. There is clearly some trouble going on inside the Korean giant.
Matthew Benson
While a person's salary isn't necessarily the best indicator of one's latent abilities or worth, a sharp decrease might offer a window into a more serious situation. This is especially true when it comes to corporate executives, the likes of which have, in the internet era, become celebrities in their own rights. One need only think of Apple, T-Mobile, or Tesla and consider how difficult it is to separate the top tiered executives from their company's public image. When it comes to Samsung however, the western world isn't often able to partake in PR from the big-wigs, J.K. Shin included.
The head of Samsung Mobile, Mr.Shin runs a considerable company. With products ranging from the mainstream flagship Galaxy S line, to the portable powerhouse phablet series, the Galaxy Note, to an endless array of tablets, smartwatches, and other devices, it's safe to say he is at the apex of Korea's tech triumph. Unfortunately, due to a tumultuous 3rd quarter earnings report, it seems his salary has been severely cut. As reported by the WSJ, regulatory filing indicates he received 689 million Korean won for Q3 2014, which was calculated to be roughly $630,000. Shin's Q2 salary was 1.7 billion won ($1.5M).
This is, obviously, a very visible representation of the company's performance and, perhaps, an indication of severe disappointment with Shin's performance. It's not currently known whether the mobile boss voluntarily offered to receive a pay cut, as Nintendo's Iwata did some months ago, or if the missing money was a "punishment." Still, we're talking about a decrease of over 50%, which ironically is about how much Samsung's profits dropped in Q3.
Until more information is known about the nature of this pay cut (if it will come to light at all), we can only guess as to its true nature. Still, with 2014 coming to a close, J.K. Shin might have to worry about his Q4 remuneration, provided this quarter doesn't see some major improvements with the release of the Galaxy Note 4 and Note Edge, in addition to the Gear S smartwatch and Galaxy Tab Active.
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Q: Correct usage of c# HttpClient and HttpClientFactory for Dns Round Robin Load Balancing I have a question about the correct way to handle DNS Round Robin Balancing in c# with the HttpClient.
Say you have an API (API 1) which on request potentially calls another API (API 2). So you could have multiple concurrent requests into API 1 calling API 2 multiple times. What is the best way to enabled DNS round robin?
In our case we have APIs in a Kubernetes clusters with multiple replicas for both API 1 and 2. We use Consul Side Car Inject for Service Location (https://www.consul.io/docs/platform/k8s/connect.html)
When we use the HttpClientFactory to resolve the HttpClient like this.
private async Task<string> MakeSomeRequest(string endpoint)
{
    // IHttpClientFactory _clientFactory is injected in the constructor
    var httpClient = _clientFactory.CreateClient();

    httpClient.BaseAddress = baseAddress;

    var result = await httpClient.GetAsync(endpoint);
    return await result.Content.ReadAsStringAsync();
}

We hit the problem that the DNS round robin loadbalencing is not used because the socket is kept open and the HttpClient connection is shared for all the requests. So API 1 gets the first connection to the first instance of API 2 and keeps hitting the same one across all the threads on API 1.
Currently we have ditched the use of the httpClientFactory in favor of ol faithful. Which works because it doesnt keep the socket open.
using (var httpClient = new HttpClient())
{
    httpClient.BaseAddress = baseAddress;
    result = await httpClient.PostAsJsonAsync(endpoint, payload);
    return await result.Content.ReadAsStringAsync();
}

I have considered multiple named registrations of the HttpClientFactory and then randomly selecting one but I'm curious to know if there is a better way?

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LEJOG 22 Sep : Southport to Lancaster
Southport pier
While Christine walked to Morrisons for breakfast and lunch provisions, I tackled the slow puncture. Submerging it in water revealed the spot, still hard to identify precisely since it was so tiny with a slow release of bubbles. Patch applied and wheel back on before she returned.
We called in on the electric bike shop round the corner to request use of their track pump, stuck a bit more air in the tyres and set off. The route took us along the sea front and past the pier, the sea goes out a long way along this stretch of coast and was out of sight. We rode past the salt marshes, along quiet lanes and narrow bumpy tracks, enjoyable cycling until the protracted crossing of Preston and its extensive hinterland.
On the way out, we met our first JOGLErs. They'd left John O'Groats on 10th August, taking in Cape Wrath and the Hebrides, riding only about thirty miles per day and camping. The Iced tea room was an unexpected delight along a minor road, after which the terrain became hillier, a foretaste of tomorrow. We checked in at the M6 Travelodge, reaching it in unconventional fashion via the back roads, arriving at 16:30, pity we couldn't have reached Southport at a similar time. It had been another sunny day after a gloomy start but with a strong westerly breeze.
Burger King and Costa didn't appeal, we were saved by M&S Simply Food, we took a stack of salads and falafels back to our room.
Cumulative: 543.3 miles (874.7 km), 9395 metres
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His friend, Vyacheslav Bashkov, however, paints a different picture.
The day before Bashkov, who described Borodin as an honest journalist, said Borodin had contacted him at five a.m. because there was "someone with a weapon on his balcony and people in camouflage and masks on the staircase landing".1 Although Borodin would later call his friend back to say it appeared the security men were taking part in some sort of exercise, Bashkov wondes if something more nefarious had actually happened. And he's not alone.
It's possible that Borodin had attracted the attention of the Kremlin. Back in February, Borodin wrote about the Russian mercenaries known as the "Wagner Group" (Russia's secretive private military force that is fighting in eastern Ukraine and in Syria) who were reportedly killed in Syria in a confrontation with US forces.
Borodin had also investigated political scandals. Which are just as dangerous.
On the same day that Maxim Borodin was found fatally injured, the editor of an official regional newspaper was assaulted in Yekaterinburg.
One of Russia's best-known investigative reporters, Anna Politkovskaya, was shot dead in a lift at her block of flats in 2006 (she had exposed Russian human rights abuses in Chechnya).
In 2008 journalist Mikhail Beketov was left brain-damaged. He had highlighted corruption and fought against the planned destruction of the Khimki forest near Moscow to make way for a road. He died in 2013.
Oleg Kashin was severely injured in an assault in Moscow in 2010. He had been reporting on protests against the Khimki forest highway.
Well-known Russian radio presenter Tatyana Felgengauer was stabbed in the neck while at work at her radio station, Ekho Mosvky.
Every year, Russia watches their independent reporters get attacked while the state does nothing to protect them. They are so brave. We applaud and appreciate the men and women willing to do whatever is necessary to share the truth.
The Daily Beast, April 17, 2018.


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#pragma once
#include <aws/codebuild/CodeBuild_EXPORTS.h>
#include <aws/core/utils/memory/stl/AWSString.h>
#include <aws/core/utils/memory/stl/AWSVector.h>
#include <utility>

namespace Aws
{
template<typename RESULT_TYPE>
class AmazonWebServiceResult;

namespace Utils
{
namespace Json
{
  class JsonValue;
} // namespace Json
} // namespace Utils
namespace CodeBuild
{
namespace Model
{
  class AWS_CODEBUILD_API ListSharedProjectsResult
  {
  public:
    ListSharedProjectsResult();
    ListSharedProjectsResult(const Aws::AmazonWebServiceResult<Aws::Utils::Json::JsonValue>& result);
    ListSharedProjectsResult& operator=(const Aws::AmazonWebServiceResult<Aws::Utils::Json::JsonValue>& result);

    /**
     *
 During a previous call, the maximum number of items that can be returned is
     * the value specified in maxResults. If there more items in the list,
     * then a unique string called a nextToken is returned. To get the next
     * batch of items in the list, call this operation again, adding the next token to
     * the call. To get all of the items in the list, keep calling this operation with
     * each subsequent next token that is returned, until no more next tokens are
     * returned.

     */
    inline const Aws::String& GetNextToken() const{ return m_nextToken; }

    /**
     *
 During a previous call, the maximum number of items that can be returned is
     * the value specified in maxResults. If there more items in the list,
     * then a unique string called a nextToken is returned. To get the next
     * batch of items in the list, call this operation again, adding the next token to
     * the call. To get all of the items in the list, keep calling this operation with
     * each subsequent next token that is returned, until no more next tokens are
     * returned.

     */
    inline void SetNextToken(const Aws::String& value) { m_nextToken = value; }

    /**
     *
 During a previous call, the maximum number of items that can be returned is
     * the value specified in maxResults. If there more items in the list,
     * then a unique string called a nextToken is returned. To get the next
     * batch of items in the list, call this operation again, adding the next token to
     * the call. To get all of the items in the list, keep calling this operation with
     * each subsequent next token that is returned, until no more next tokens are
     * returned.

     */
    inline void SetNextToken(Aws::String&& value) { m_nextToken = std::move(value); }

    /**
     *
 During a previous call, the maximum number of items that can be returned is
     * the value specified in maxResults. If there more items in the list,
     * then a unique string called a nextToken is returned. To get the next
     * batch of items in the list, call this operation again, adding the next token to
     * the call. To get all of the items in the list, keep calling this operation with
     * each subsequent next token that is returned, until no more next tokens are
     * returned.

     */
    inline void SetNextToken(const char* value) { m_nextToken.assign(value); }

    /**
     *
 During a previous call, the maximum number of items that can be returned is
     * the value specified in maxResults. If there more items in the list,
     * then a unique string called a nextToken is returned. To get the next
     * batch of items in the list, call this operation again, adding the next token to
     * the call. To get all of the items in the list, keep calling this operation with
     * each subsequent next token that is returned, until no more next tokens are
     * returned.

     */
    inline ListSharedProjectsResult& WithNextToken(const Aws::String& value) { SetNextToken(value); return *this;}

    /**
     *
 During a previous call, the maximum number of items that can be returned is
     * the value specified in maxResults. If there more items in the list,
     * then a unique string called a nextToken is returned. To get the next
     * batch of items in the list, call this operation again, adding the next token to
     * the call. To get all of the items in the list, keep calling this operation with
     * each subsequent next token that is returned, until no more next tokens are
     * returned.

     */
    inline ListSharedProjectsResult& WithNextToken(Aws::String&& value) { SetNextToken(std::move(value)); return *this;}

    /**
     *
 During a previous call, the maximum number of items that can be returned is
     * the value specified in maxResults. If there more items in the list,
     * then a unique string called a nextToken is returned. To get the next
     * batch of items in the list, call this operation again, adding the next token to
     * the call. To get all of the items in the list, keep calling this operation with
     * each subsequent next token that is returned, until no more next tokens are
     * returned.

     */
    inline ListSharedProjectsResult& WithNextToken(const char* value) { SetNextToken(value); return *this;}

    /**
     *
 The list of ARNs for the build projects shared with the current AWS account
     * or user.

     */
    inline const Aws::Vector<Aws::String>& GetProjects() const{ return m_projects; }

    /**
     *
 The list of ARNs for the build projects shared with the current AWS account
     * or user.

     */
    inline void SetProjects(const Aws::Vector<Aws::String>& value) { m_projects = value; }

    /**
     *
 The list of ARNs for the build projects shared with the current AWS account
     * or user.

     */
    inline void SetProjects(Aws::Vector<Aws::String>&& value) { m_projects = std::move(value); }

    /**
     *
 The list of ARNs for the build projects shared with the current AWS account
     * or user.

     */
    inline ListSharedProjectsResult& WithProjects(const Aws::Vector<Aws::String>& value) { SetProjects(value); return *this;}

    /**
     *
 The list of ARNs for the build projects shared with the current AWS account
     * or user.

     */
    inline ListSharedProjectsResult& WithProjects(Aws::Vector<Aws::String>&& value) { SetProjects(std::move(value)); return *this;}

    /**
     *
 The list of ARNs for the build projects shared with the current AWS account
     * or user.

     */
    inline ListSharedProjectsResult& AddProjects(const Aws::String& value) { m_projects.push_back(value); return *this; }

    /**
     *
 The list of ARNs for the build projects shared with the current AWS account
     * or user.

     */
    inline ListSharedProjectsResult& AddProjects(Aws::String&& value) { m_projects.push_back(std::move(value)); return *this; }

    /**
     *
 The list of ARNs for the build projects shared with the current AWS account
     * or user.

     */
    inline ListSharedProjectsResult& AddProjects(const char* value) { m_projects.push_back(value); return *this; }

  private:

    Aws::String m_nextToken;

    Aws::Vector<Aws::String> m_projects;
  };

} // namespace Model
} // namespace CodeBuild
} // namespace Aws

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Q: What are the differences in "debug as" vs exported APK No lint markers. The paypal sdk component works completely fine when debugging through every device I've plugged into my computer through eclipse. When I export the project as an APK it "Unfortunately stops" when I get to the paypal part of the app. What would be the key differences in a debug run vs a compiled apk file? Again the live payment services are working fine in the project when run as debug. There are no API keys that are sensitive to SHA1 differences in this project (signed apk vs debug).
Here is a little of what's going on I can see from the report from the app installed from the apk:
java.lang.NoSuchMethodError: no method with name='onEdgeUpdate'   signature='(Lio/card/payment/DetectionInfo;)V' in class Lio/card/payment/CardScanner;
at java.lang.Runtime.nativeLoad(Native Method)
at java.lang.Runtime.doLoad(Runtime.java:418)
at java.lang.Runtime.loadLibrary(Runtime.java:359)
at java.lang.System.loadLibrary(System.java:525)
at io.card.payment.CardScanner.<clinit>(Unknown Source)
at io.card.payment.z.c(Unknown Source)
at io.card.payment.z.a(Unknown Source)
at io.card.payment.CardIOActivity.a(Unknown Source)
at io.card.payment.CardIOActivity.a(Unknown Source)
at com.paypal.android.sdk.payments.PaymentMethodActivity.onCreate(Unknown Source)
at android.app.Activity.performCreate(Activity.java:5133)
at android.app.Instrumentation.callActivityOnCreate(Instrumentation.java:1087)
at android.app.ActivityThread.performLaunchActivity(ActivityThread.java:2175)
at android.app.ActivityThread.handleLaunchActivity(ActivityThread.java:2261)
at android.app.ActivityThread.access$600(ActivityThread.java:141)
at android.app.ActivityThread$H.handleMessage(ActivityThread.java:1256)
at android.os.Handler.dispatchMessage(Handler.java:99)
at android.os.Looper.loop(Looper.java:137)
at android.app.ActivityThread.main(ActivityThread.java:5103)
at java.lang.reflect.Method.invokeNative(Native Method)
at java.lang.reflect.Method.invoke(Method.java:525)
at com.android.internal.os.ZygoteInit$MethodAndArgsCaller.run(ZygoteInit.java:737)
at com.android.internal.os.ZygoteInit.main(ZygoteInit.java:553)
at dalvik.system.NativeStart.main(Native Method)

In the debug mode when I press the checkout button it works fine, but here is what is in the logcat, maybe someone can see something:
09-11 12:43:32.932: D/dalvikvm(10630): Trying to load lib /data/app-lib/com.direction.investor.bcms-2/libcardioDecider.so 0x4219ac28
09-11 12:43:32.932: D/dalvikvm(10630): Added shared lib /data/app-lib/com.direction.investor.bcms-2/libcardioDecider.so 0x4219ac28
09-11 12:43:32.932: D/dalvikvm(10630): Trying to load lib /data/app-lib/com.direction.investor.bcms-2/libopencv_core.so 0x4219ac28
09-11 12:43:32.932: D/dalvikvm(10630): Added shared lib /data/app-lib/com.direction.investor.bcms-2/libopencv_core.so 0x4219ac28
09-11 12:43:32.942: D/dalvikvm(10630): No JNI_OnLoad found in /data/app-lib/com.direction.investor.bcms-2/libopencv_core.so 0x4219ac28, skipping init
09-11 12:43:32.942: D/dalvikvm(10630): Trying to load lib /data/app-lib/com.direction.investor.bcms-2/libopencv_imgproc.so 0x4219ac28
09-11 12:43:32.942: D/dalvikvm(10630): Added shared lib /data/app-lib/com.direction.investor.bcms-2/libopencv_imgproc.so 0x4219ac28
09-11 12:43:32.942: D/dalvikvm(10630): No JNI_OnLoad found in /data/app-lib/com.direction.investor.bcms-2/libopencv_imgproc.so 0x4219ac28, skipping init
09-11 12:43:32.942: D/dalvikvm(10630): Trying to load lib /data/app-lib/com.direction.investor.bcms-2/libcardioRecognizer.so 0x4219ac28
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A: According to developer.android, "The ProGuard tool shrinks, optimizes, and obfuscates your code by removing unused code and renaming classes, fields, and methods with semantically obscure names. The result is a smaller sized .apk file that is more difficult to reverse engineer."
I had failed to include the:
 @proguard-paypal.cnf marker in the proguard-project.txt

For future reference on the android paypal sdk please see https://github.com/paypal/PayPal-Android-SDK.


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«Пліт Медузи» ()  — картина французького художника Теодора Жеріко, одне з найзнаменитіших полотен епохи романтизму.

Сюжетна основа
1816 року Англія, яка під час Наполеонівських війн була захопила західноафриканську колонію Сенегал, повернула її Франції. У зв'язку з цим французький уряд відправив до узбережжя Сенегалу чотири фрегати, одним з яких була «Медуза», з метою переправити до Африки представників адміністрації та дослідників. Серед близько 400 чоловік на борту був також новий губернатор Сенегалу рояліст Жульєн-Дезіре Шмальц. Капітаном «Медузи» був Юґ Дюруа де Шомарей, який утік від Наполеона і 25 років пребував у еміграції (Кобленц, Лондон).

Таким чином сюжет картини спирається на реальну подію, що трапилася 2 липня 1816 року біля берегів Сенегалу. Застрягши на мілині Арген за 40 льє від африканського берега, капітан фрегата «Медуза» наказав зробити величезний пліт, оскільки шістьох шлюпок на всіх не вистачало. Невдовзі 150 пасажирів та членів команди висадились на пліт, що мав розміри 8×15 м. Брак харчів призвів до масового канібалізму. Тож тільки 15 чоловік залишилися живими й на тринадцятий день поневірянь були підібрані бригом «Аргус». Подробиці плавання, описані лікарем Медузи Анрі Савіньї, потрясли громадськість, а сама корабельна аварія стала причиною скандалу у французькому уряді через звинувачення в некомпетентності капітана судна та недостатності спроб порятунку потерпілих.

Образне рішення

Велетенське полотно вражає своєю виразною потужністю. Жеріко зумів створити яскравий образ, поєднавши в одній картині мертвих і живих, надію і відчай. Ідея намалювати таке полотно виникла в Жеріко після спілкування з лікарем «Медузи» Анрі Савіньї, якого він зобразив на картині (це бородатий чоловік ліворуч від щогли). Картині передувала величезна підготовча робота.
Жеріко робив численні етюди вмираючих в лікарнях, досліджував колір трупів страчених.

Незважаючи на реальне підґрунтя, картина є яскравим виявом мистецької свободи.  Про те, що пліт був значно більший, Жеріко натякає з лівого боку полотна. Можна припустити, що в реальності офіцери на плоту були в своїх уніформах, а загалом усі потерпілі після 13 днів дрейфу без їжі й води мали доволі жалюгідний вигляд. На картині напрчуд м'язисті людські тіла утворюють своєрідну піраміду, вдивляючись у невидимий для спостерігача рятівний для них корабель Арґус. Бурхливе море й грізні хмари також не відповідають реальним умовам, що були на плоту. Жеріко, напевне, здавалося, що страждання потерпілих від палючого сонця важче зобразити як символ безпомічності перед стихією. Так само не було на плоту зображеного Жеріко вітрила. Команда Арґуса повідомляла, що, помітивши пліт, вони спершу сприйняли щоглу й обривки тканини за рештки вітрила чи вивішену білизну, тоді як насправді це були шматки людського м'яса, вивішені для в'ялення.

Тіло, що праворуч звисає у воду, було домальоване Жеріко напередодні публічного показу, аби підкреслити «піраміду тіл» на плоту. З цієї причини домальоване тіло вийшло відчутно більшим у порівнянні з іншими тілами.

"Пліт «Медузи» став останнім із завершених творів Жеріко. 1818 року, коли Жеріко працював над картиною "Пліт «Медузи», що поклала початок французькому романтизму, Ежен Делакруа, який позував для свого друга, став свідком народження композиції, яка ламала всі звичні уявлення про живопис. Пізніше Делакруа згадував, що побачивши закінчену картину, він «в захваті кинувся бігти, як божевільний, і не міг зупинитися до самого дому».

Реакція публіки
Коли Жеріко виставив "Пліт «Медузи» в Салоні 1819 року, картина викликала обурення публіки, оскільки художник всупереч академічним нормам того часу використовував такий великий формат не для зображення героїчного, повчального або класичного сюжету, а для змалювання страждань.

Картину було придбано 1824 року, зараз вона знаходиться в 77-му залі на 1-му поверсі галереї Денон в Луврі. Код: INV. 4884.

Пліт «Медузи» в мистецтві
 Сюрреаліст Луїс Бунюель, надихнувся картиною Жеріко на створення фільму «Ангел-винищувач» (1962) про групу людей, яких доля ізолювала від навколишнього світу  — щоправда, не на плоту, а у вітальні розкішного особняка.
 1968 року німецький композитор Ганс Вернер Генце написав ораторію «Пліт Медузи», постановка якої вилилася в політичний скандал (ораторія була присвячена Ернесто Че Геварі).
 * 1969 року вийшов роман Веркора «Пліт Медузи» (Le radeau de la Meduse).
 Історія плота «Медузи» була використана в романах Ежена Сю «Саламандра» (1832), Алессандро Барікко «Море-Океан» (2003) та Джуліана Барнса «Історія світу в 10 ½ главах» (1989).
Сьогодні бронзовий барельєф Пліт Медуза роботи Антуана Ете прикрашає могилу Жеріко на паризькому цвинтарі Пер-Лашез.

Примітки

Література

 Alhadeff, Albert. The Raft of the Medusa: Géricault, Art, and Race, Prestel, 2002, ISBN 3-7913-2782-8, ISBN 978-3-7913-2782-2
 Barnes, Julian.  A History of the World in 10½ Chapters.  London: Jonathan Cape, 1989.  ISBN 0-09-954012-6.  Chapter 5, Shipwreck — аналіз картини.
 Berger, Klaus & Gaericault, Thaeodore. Gericault: Drawings & Watercolors. New York: H. Bittner and Company, 1946.
 Borias, Georges-Antoine. Géricault: The Raft of the 'Medusa''' (Film). The Roland Collection of Films on Art. Directed by Touboul, Adrien, 1968.
 Eitner, Lorenz. Gericault's 'Raft of the Medusa'. New York, Phaidon, 1972. ISBN 0-8021-4392-X
 Hagen, Rose-Marie & Hagen, Rainer. What Great Paintings Say. Vol. 1. Taschen, 2007 (25th Ed). 374-7. ISBN 3-8228-4790-9
 McKee, Alexander. Wreck of the Medusa, The Tragic Story of the Death Raft. London: Souvenir Press, 1975. ISBN 0-451-20044-6
 Miles, Jonathan.  The Wreck of the Medusa: The Most Famous Sea Disaster of the Nineteenth Century. Atlantic Monthly Press, 2007. ISBN 978-0-87113-959-7
 Riding, Christine. «The Raft of the Medusa in Britain». In: Noon, Patrick & Bann, Stephen. Crossing the Channel: British and French Painting in the Age of Romanticism. London: Tate Publishing, June 2003. ISBN 1-85437-513-X
 Riding, Christine. «The Fatal Raft: Christine Riding Looks at British Reaction to the French Tragedy at Sea Immortalised in Gericault's Masterpiece 'the Raft of the Medusa'». History Today, February 2003.
 Rowe Snow, Edward. Tales of Terror and Tragedy. New York: Dodd Mead, 1979. ISBN 0-396-07775-7
 Wellington, Hubert. The Journal of Eugène Delacroix. Phaidon (Cornell University Press), 1980. Library of Congress Number 80-66413
 Rose-Marie Hagen, Rainer Hagen: Meisterwerke im Detail. Vom Teppich von Bayeux bis Diego Rivera. Benedikt Taschen-Verlag, Köln 2000, ISBN 3-8228-4787-9 (див. Bd. 2)
 Jean-Baptiste H. Savigny, Alexandre Corréard (картограф, що вижив разом з Савіньї): Der Schiffbruch der Fregatte Medusa''. Matthes & Seitz, Berlin, 2005, ISBN 3-88221-857-6

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What Music Do Writers Listen to?
New rule: if there's a Lamborghini on the cover, you know it's good.
While I was writing No Sleep till Doomsday (Dru Jasper series, book 3), much to my surprise, I found myself listening to a certain Ukrainian pop music album over and over.
My book features an evil crystal sorceress named Lucretia, and there are subtle references throughout the book to the song "Lucretia, My Reflection" by The Sisters of Mercy.
Searching for music to write by, I found all sorts of cool covers and remixes of "Lucretia, My Reflection." The one version that really captured my attention was by a Ukrainian electronic artist called ZXZ, on the Crystal Blue album.
A song about Lucretia (my crystal sorceress), on an album called Crystal Blue. Was it fate?
I decided to track down ZXZ and find out.
In case you missed it, the Science Fiction Book Club chose A Kiss Before Doomsday as a featured pick. Which, as an author, is incredibly exciting.
To celebrate, I put together a behind-the-scenes special that the book club shared with their members this summer.
If you've ever wondered where writers get their ideas, read on.
Dru Jasper now officially has her own book series. (Yay!) So if you haven't tried it yet, now is the perfect time to start.
Plus, you can get a free bonus ebook.
1. Get the first Dru Jasper ebook for $1.99 (hey, that's 89% off).
2. Tell me when you leave a review (on any website), and I'll send you the latest Dru Jasper novelette, Put A Spell On You, for free. It's my gift to you.
But! The deal only lasts until October 2. So get it while it's hot!
As always, the Tattered Cover was a fantastic place to do a book signing, and I'm eternally grateful to all of the wonderful people there for having me. Sorry about the mess.
I did get the chance to make new friends and talk about the inspirations behind A Kiss Before Doomsday, including secret underground bunkers, magic crystals, go-go boots, demon-possessed muscle cars, and the fact that zombies don't drive. At least as far as I know.
Then I read one of my favorite scenes, answered a bunch of questions from my endlessly smart readers, and gave away handfuls of brightly colored crystals – in this case, sucrose crystals. (Rock candy!) Afterward, we celebrated at the scrumptious restaurant next door, modestly called The Goods.
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I'm a fairly tall guy, but my friend and fellow Colorado author Kevin Wolf is six-foot-six.
True story: my lovely wife's go-go boots are so fabulous that I actually put them in the book. Watch for the scene where Dru goes undercover at a sorcerer's masquerade. These are the boots.
Now available in paperback, ebook, and my favorite format of all – cake!
The coveted "golden bookmark" from the inestimable Tattered Cover. This is seriously cool. I don't feel worthy.
I love top 10 lists. Maybe I just love reading them and trying to think of two or three things they left out. Or maybe that's just me.
At any rate, this is a list that you definitely need to check out.
Recently, I had the great pleasure of chatting with notable Colorado author Mark Stevens, host of The Rocky Mountain Writer podcast. We chatted about writing and publishing, and I read an excerpt from my upcoming book, A Kiss Before Doomsday. Listen to the RMFW podcast here.
When an ancient curse threatens the neighborhood Chinese restaurant, can Dru solve a cryptic riddle, stop an angry spirit, and resist heaps of amazingly tasty dumplings – before an evil army of fiends conquers the world?
Exciting news! I've just released the newest Dru Jasper story: Put A Spell On You.
To celebrate, I'm giving away several copies to my readers. Leave a comment below and you could win it for free!


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Criticker.com
Film Discussions, Reviews, Bugs and Updates
https://games.criticker.com/forum/
MOVIES you might have missed
https://games.criticker.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=6&t=8081
by gabba2k7
k lets mention some movies which might have slipped under the radar
not so popular (dunno, below 100k votes on imdb?) and-or underrated (for some subjective snobish reasons, like when lots of users compared it with original film, book, had some unrealisic expectations, didnot like actors chosen etc)
personally im interested in
timeframe:1990-till now
genres: thriller, action, horror, maybe some crime and legal dramas.
k, let me start
Jacob's Ladder (1990) 7,5/10 imdb ; thriller, noir horror. /I remember liking its suspense and unease atmo.
Re: MOVIES you might have missed
by ribcage
Angel Heart is an ideal double feature with Jacobs Ladder.
by kgbelliveau
Featured Armie Hammer and Dev Patel it did have a lot of violence but also focused on a different culture and the devestation of a terrorist attack. It was good and did use some of the genre cliches to make it from beginning to end but overall it was a very solid film with good characterization.
by Midaso
Two Step (Alex R Johnson,2014). It astounds me how little seen/talked about this movie is. Definitely would recommend checking out if you like crime dramas...
by Shitbanger
from great to good underrated movies:
https://www.criticker.com/film/The-Forbidden-Room
https://www.criticker.com/film/Affliction
https://www.criticker.com/tv/Stuart-A-Life-Backwards
https://www.criticker.com/film/Bad-Boy-Bubby
https://www.criticker.com/film/Ratcatche
by Maaxwell
https://www.criticker.com/film/Coldblooded/
https://www.criticker.com/film/Brain-Dead/
The Hate U Give- Fantastic powerful drama about gang wars and drugs. It deals with one family trying to break the stigma that this is all there is for them. Very well acted by everyone involved and a must watch for sure.
by AFlickering
a bunch of great stuff with a popularity score of 6/10 or less on criticker (this score refers to quantity of ratings, not the average rating):
Romancing in Thin Air (2012)
johnnie to's greatest movie IMO, thematically speaking it's a thousand times better version of life of pi. don't go breaking my heart 2 is almost as glorious, one of the most savage anti-romcoms ever while still being a great romcom.
Bleak Moments (1971)
mike leigh's underseen debut is one of his very best and strangest.
Hill of Freedom (2014)
often dismissed as minor but it may be hong sang-soo's most organic and sublime construction.
Man's Castle (1933)
fuck i need to see more borzage, he's food for the soul. so do you.
The Unspeakable Act (2012)
way better than all those more popular distaff coming of age movies of recent years (lady bird, the edge of seventeen, diary of a teenage girl etc), directed by critic dan sallitt.
Aaaaaaaah! (2015)
from steve oram, best known for collaborating with wheatley and strickland and thoroughly worthy of those guys.
A Bride for Rip Van Winkle (2016)
a top 3 movie of 2016 for me, a much better examination of identity and artifice in the digital age than iwai's more beloved all about lily chou-chou was.
Combat Shock (1986)
like watching eraserhead while suffering PTSD and dying of a heroin overdose.
Days of Eclipse (1988)
nearly as mesmerising a strugatsky adaptation as stalker.
Eye of God (1997)
exceptionally humane and harrowing southern gothic and the best possible 'problem of evil' allegory.
rivals the act of killing as my favourite doc of the decade, a work of breathtaking portent even if the execution is a little ropey.
Je t'aime moi non plus (1976)
serge gainsbourg's greatest achievement. come for the painful anal sex, stay for all the offhand beauty and tragedy amidst the degeneracy.
Love and Peace (2015)
might be my favourite sion sono after love exposure; a majestically silly christmas musical built atop sadness, rage and mental illness.
Le Monde Vivant (2003)
deadpan fairy tale that's both bressonian and hilarious.
Posle smerti (1915)
this guy is long overdue being inducted into the silent canon.
unhinged, depraved riff on laura that should appeal to fans of lanthimos for its intimidating tonal control.
summer ennui film that plays like gently surreal science fiction; a movie to live in.
Buzzard (2015
death metal office space. the alchemist cookbook is even less seen and really great too. joel potrykus is the shit.
Candy Mountain (1988)
closest thing to the first two jarmusch movies you'll find. it even has a tom waits cameo.
by pisha
Alison Maclean's "Kitchen Sink" is a wonderful short that I could see fans of surreal horror à la Eraserhead enjoying quite a lot. It can be found on YouTube.
by paulofilmo
evelyn wrote: Alison Maclean's "Kitchen Sink" is a wonderful short that I could see fans of surreal horror à la Eraserhead enjoying quite a lot. It can be found on YouTube.
^ yasss
i'll put a vote in for oranges are not the only fruit. (i believe it's basically autobiographical) - girl growing up in a repressive religious household. is gay. etc. adapted herself from the novel (it's by Jeanette Winterson). Jeanette ended up getting a scholarship to Oxford, and lived out of a mini (irl, \i mean).
the film is very darkly comic, to my memory. i've chatted about it with people who live around the corner from me, but it had like 6 ratings on criticker


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This is our11th annual fundraiser for the E.H. Food Bank, E.H. Fuel bank and Youth & Family Services at Holiday time. With your help EHCL has donated over $40,000 in the last 10 years the East Haddam Food Bank, Fuel Bank, and Youth & Family Sevices.
Each Oct/Nov we invite all civic minded individuals and groups to donate decorated Holiday items, Décor, Gifts, and Gift Certficates. We receive them for display at the library on Saturday, November 25th between 1 - 3 pm.
We host an annual Holiday Party with wine, refreshments and entertainment on Friday, December 2nd 7 - 9 pm., open to everyone, to round off our auction. All donations are acknowledged in the program and again on signage where exhibits are displayed.
We encourage creativity and originality and each year we are awed by the display (over 60 items last year), that transforms Rathbun Library and raises funds for the needy in our community.


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Parenting/Parent Health + Relationship
Practicing self-kindness is a key to long-term health and happier parenting
By Gemma Alexander
Editor's note: This article was sponsored by THIRA Health.
"Compassion has horrible PR! People equate it with indulgence or wimpiness," says Susan Pollak, Ed.D., cofounder of the Center for Mindfulness and Compassion at Harvard University and author of "Self-Compassion for Parents." But compassion, and especially self-compassion, is exactly what parents need when parenting gets tough.
Kristin Neff, Ph.D., literally wrote the book on self-compassion. The associate professor of educational psychology at the University of Texas at Austin studies self-compassion and is the author of "Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself." Yet for her, self-compassion is more than an academic concept. It is a critical tool that has helped sustain her through the sometimes intense experience of parenting a child with autism.
The science of self-compassion
Part of self-compassion's bad rap comes from it being confused with self-care, a term that has been co-opted by advertisers. Scientists know that self-compassion is so much more than bath bombs and scented candles. "At this point, there are more than 1,500 [scientific] articles on how self-compassion improves motivation, relationships, PTSD recovery, stress management — the research is so powerful," says Pollak.
Self-care, self-kindness and self-compassion have overlapping definitions and are often used interchangeably, but to professionals like Pollak and Neff, there are important differences. Before self-care became another way to say "Treat yo'self!" it was used by medical professionals to describe self-sustaining behaviors that prevent burnout, such as adequate sleep, exercise and healthy eating.
You know what's good for you, so trust your judgement.
Self-kindness adds an emotional element of avoiding judgement and harsh criticism. It is a mirror image of the Golden Rule: treating yourself with the same kindness with which you treat others and that you hope they would extend to you in return.
"Self-compassion is the same experience as compassion for others. It comes from Latin, 'to suffer with.' So, there is an inherent connectedness," says Neff. "It's different from self-pity, where you think, 'My experience is worse or abnormal.' Self-compassion recognizes 'This is the human experience.'"
Pollak puts it this way: "It's like industrial-strength kindness."
Is self-compassion an indulgence? No.
"Self-care and self-compassion both seek to alleviate long-term harm. They are not always as pleasant in the short term [as self-indulgence]," explains Neff. You might enjoy treating yourself to cake in front of the TV more than going to the gym, but you know staying fit will make you feel better in the long run. If you're worried about knowing the difference between cutting yourself some much-needed slack and slacking off, Pollak suggests asking the questions "How does this help?" and "Is it wholesome?"
"Tap into your own values. You know what's good for you, so trust your judgement," says Pollak. Using your values as a guide can help you make sure your self-care is actually taking care of you.
Because self-care is a long-term strategy focused on preventing burnout, it is also limited: It doesn't help in heated moments. In those moments when your kid is having a very public meltdown or you're trying to make dinner to a soundtrack of squabbling, what you need is self-compassion.
Self-compassion can help you respond better in a crisis.
"The human brain empathically resonates with others' emotions. It sounds woo-woo, but the brain really does that," says Neff. Parents and children are especially in tune and communicate emotions pre-verbally. (Google "mirror neurons" to learn more about this cool brain science.) Parents can reverse the feedback loop of heightened emotions by calming themselves through self-compassion exercises.
Self-compassion 101
Pollak notes, "Self-compassion is a set of skills that can be learned and developed." But even when they are convinced of the benefits, many people don't think they have time to practice new skills. Especially when their children are very young, parents often feel like they don't have five minutes to spare, let alone an hour for a class or 45 minutes for meditation.
But even a single slow, mindful breath can help you calm down enough to remember your best parenting skills and respond to a situation appropriately. "Breathe in for you and out for your child," suggests Neff.
A regular self-compassion practice can be boiled down to a mental exercise that takes less than one minute. It can even be done with your eyes open (since you can't always afford to take your eyes off your child!). It's an exercise that has survived trial by fire — Neff even used it successfully when her young son had a tantrum in the middle of a cross-country flight. The steps are simple.
1. Take note, label.
You can't solve a problem without identifying it. You already know that the external problem is your child's tantrum or that your kids are hangry because dinner is late. But give yourself a moment to name your feelings so you can address those, too. You might be feeling frustrated, helpless, incompetent or simply fed up.
2. Remember your common humanity.
Remember that you are not the first parent to experience uncomfortable emotions. Even if the details of your circumstances are unusual, your feelings are not. Every parent has experienced the feelings you just named. Remember that these experiences and feelings are part of parenting and you don't have to take them personally.
3. Give yourself kindness.
Now that you've remembered that this situation is not happening because you are a bad person or a bad parent, or because you have the worst kids ever, you can skip the negative self-talk. Instead, give yourself a pat on the back — maybe even literally. "It seems weird at first to talk to yourself as if you were talking to another person, but with practice it helps give you perspective," says Neff. Tell yourself what you would tell a dear friend in the same situation: "This is hard, but it's going to be okay. You've got this."
"People have a lot of experience showing compassion to others. We just need to give ourselves permission to show it to ourselves. Women in particular are socialized to think of others' needs first, that it's selfish to think of ourselves. That is so harmful, because it robs us of the ability to do what we're asked to do," says Neff. Not only does self-compassion make caregiving more sustainable, our children benefit from the calm we give ourselves. So, by all means, splurge on that manicure if it makes you feel good. But for long-term health and a happier experience of parenting, treat yourself to some self-compassion.
Self-compassion resources
Self-Compassion: Kristin Neff's website provides more information about self-compassion as well as a test that will help you find out how much compassion you show yourself.
Dr. Susan Pollak: Susan Pollak's website offers free meditation practices, blog posts on parenting, interviews, podcasts and more.
Center for Mindful Self-Compassion: The Center for Mindful Self-Compassion offers a range of workshops and training opportunities, including Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC), an eight-week in-person course developed by Neff.
Community of Mindful Parenting: The Community of Mindful Parenting supports parents in the greater Seattle area with mindful parenting practices through classes, special events, articles and a Facebook forum.
The Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education at Stanford (CCARE): CCARE investigates methods for developing compassion and promoting altruism within individuals and society through research, scientific collaborations and academic conferences.
Ten Percent Happier With Dan Harris, "Meditation, Therapy, and 'Murderous Rage'": In this podcast interview, Pollak talks about dealing with anger toward one's child and finding ways to introduce meditation and mindfulness into everyday practice.
"Self-Compassion for Parents: Nurture Your Child by Caring for Yourself" by Susan Pollak, Ed.D.
"Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself" by Kristin Neff, Ph.D.
"Science Explains the Connection Between Self-Compassion and Success" (Forbes magazine) by Kristin Neff, Ph.D.
"The Five Myths of Self-Compassion" (Greater Good Magazine) by Kristin Neff, Ph.D.
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