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Can You Ever Stop Loving Someone and Find Love in Someone Else?
If you are in the worst of a breakup and trying to move on, you've probably wondered, can you ever stop loving someone and want to love someone else again?
Love comes with happiness and pain. All the goodness you feel together feels that much worse when things are over. In those moments you wonder, can you ever stop loving someone? I've been there.
Whether you've been cheated on, lied to, or broken up with, still loving that person is what makes it all hurt so much. But, you can't just turn those feelings off like a switch. When you've been with someone, for even a short time, you get accustomed to that. You are not just fond of them, but you expect them to be around.
When you've been hurt by someone, you carry so many feelings for them. You may be sad, angry, and even infuriated, but the love doesn't just disappear. The only reason it is hurting so much is because the love is lingering.
But, can that stop? Can you ever stop loving someone?
Why you want to stop loving someone
Eventually, love can cease. It can decrease in intensity and those feelings you have for that person can become almost unnoticeable. But, just because you want to stop loving someone doesn't mean it's easy. I'm sure you know you cannot always control your feelings.
This is why we fall in love with people that may not be appropriate. This is why we get angry and say things we end up regretting. Feelings can take over and even when we know they are harming us, it can feel impossible to turn them off.
But, as you also probably know, love isn't always rational. It makes us do crazy things. And those things aren't just knocking on someone's door in the middle of the night. Love can throw you into heartbreak and tear you down.
Most of us have been there or maybe even there right now. In those moments it can feel like letting go of that love will never happen. In the midst of heartbreak, you think this pain will last forever. This is when we beg ourselves to stop loving someone. We believe that if the love goes away, the pain will go with it.
When you stop loving someone, you feel like you have moved on. You feel like you are ready to step forward and put the past behind you. But with that, so many people claim to love someone forever. Even after a breakup, heartbreak, and years of being apart, some people claim that the love is still there.
So, can you ever stop loving someone? Or will the love always be there in some capacity?
Can you ever stop loving someone?
It is never easy to stop loving someone, no matter what's happened. The problem is human nature. We cling to familiarity. We want what we had back. And we don't want the change. We don't want to have to move on and find someone else. All of that prevents us from letting the love for that person fade away.
Even if you know that moving on is what's best for you, part of you clings to what you know. This is why many people believe you can never stop loving someone. Thankfully, I'm not one of those people. Love can be forever, but it isn't always. Love can change, grow, weaken, and stop.
You can be in love with someone, break up, and still love them but in a different way. You can love someone more and more. And you can love someone less and less until you stop loving them. It is possible, no matter how hard it seems.
Why it's hard to stop loving someone
The reason it can be so hard to stop loving someone is that it isn't something you can will to happen. You can't force yourself to stop loving someone and just let go. You can distract yourself with other things and act like you're over it, but love doesn't just stop in its tracks.
Figuring out how to stop loving someone isn't a matter of wanting it or working for it. It takes time, patience, and perspective.
After being in love through most of high school and college, I figured I would always love the guy I was with. I thought even though I'd move on and find someone else, I would always carry love for him. When we finally went our separate ways we even told each other that'd we'd always love each other.
That simply wasn't true. I look back on that time fondly. I remember the good times and bad times. And I appreciate what that entire relationship taught me, but I no longer love him. And it only took about six months for me to realize it.
It will be different for you and everyone else, but there is a difference between appreciation and love. There is a difference between wishing the best for someone and still loving them.
The key difference
That difference is time. When you've been apart from someone, it is easier to let them slip your mind. When you don't see them or speak to them, you get preoccupied with the rest of your life.
Eventually, you grow. You look back on the relationship and what you learned from it rather than the actual person. When you meet someone new and share your past, you don't talk about your ex but what you went through. That growth and time gives you perspective. You learn that not all love is forever.
Another great example is Friends. Yes, Friends, the 90's TV show. It is my go-to for relatable anecdotes.
A forever love would be Rachel and Ross. Although dysfunctional *that's a topic for another article*, they always loved each other. That love may have wavered from time to time and went from platonic to romantic, but never ended.
A temporary love was Monica and Richard. She loved him. She thought they would get married. But it didn't work. It was hard for her to move on. They had their on and off moments too. But in the end, she stopped loving him.
I know it's just a TV show, but you can stop loving someone. When it's not meant to be and it's hurting you, you can stop loving them. You need to mourn the loss and adjust to the changes but eventually, you can stop loving someone.
When it feels impossible, realize that the feeling is temporary. Love heightens everything. It makes you feel so much more intensely. But as that fades with time, you realize that that love was temporary.
You may always have loving feelings for those from your past, but you can stop loving them.
Everyone's journey to letting go of love will be different. Some peoples' love stories end with someone new while others end in years of singlehood. Neither is wrong. Sometimes knowing that you can stop loving someone is all you need to start letting them go and move forward with your life.
So, can you ever stop loving someone? Yes, it is possible, but give yourself the space and time to grieve to move forward healthily.
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CodeY
By Lamar Rutherford
Not for me 😔
Troubling messaging within the book, kept me from getting behind this story
Finding the perfect partner is easier said than done.
Initially about three friends in search of their perfect genetic matches, the story takes a dark turn when one friend undermines another for the sake of science. In the end, the parents and their children must come together to save the world from evil forces.
Codey by Lamar Rutherford is a sci-fi romance turned adventure thriller turned military sci-fi. The structure of the book is unique because it is divided into three parts. The first part which focuses on the three friends and medical professionals on their quest to find the perfect match. The second part has the three friends partnered and with children but some struggling with their relationships. While the latter part is more tightly focused on the results of the CodeY experiment: kids with unique abilities.
Unlike traditionally published books that usually follow a strict dos and dont's formula, this one doesn't. Which makes for positive surprises, and some that weren't so positive for me. The author did a superb job in bending and twisting different genders into this book. In fact, this book could be split into the three respective parts and fall into three different categories in any bookstore or library—even different age groups. Adults who enjoy romance would love the first part of the book. Readers that are into sci-fi thrillers would dig the second part, and young readers would be into the third, as they read about a bunch of kids fighting bad guys.
However, there were some spots in the book I didn't care for. The dialogue at the beginning, while the romantic leads are getting to know one another, lacked emotional depth. I found it unrealistic that two characters comfortable with each other kept referring to the other by their first names within the dialogue. By relying mostly on conversation with little to no action beats, the dialogue felt more melodramatic than emotional in the first and most romantic part of the book.
In the last part of the book, two girls are raped (it is not shown only told after it happens), and I found the dialogue in this scene troublesome because it felt unrealistic and gave a dangerous message. By choosing to rely on dialogue instead of showing inner turmoil, the author made the brief scene where the reader finds out two of the characters were raped unrealistic. Choosing to focus only on the emotion of anger, the author didn't give the moment or character the complexity it deserved. As a Victim Advocate, I know anger is not the only emotion felt after a rape; in fact, it is an array of emotions that go through the victim, sometimes in waves. Each victim is different in how they manifest these emotions. This was not depicted in the book.
When the second victim uses the word 'gentle' to describe her experience, and the adults have a quick discussion on how to address this, I find that messaging dangerous to young girls reading it. Rape violates a person's human right, and it shouldn't be taken lightly in real life nor in a book. Unless rape is detrimental to the story, I don't think authors need to use it, because often these traumas are not given the word count it needs. The plot nor the ending would have suffered if the author would have left this scene out.
While these were troubling parts for me, I can acknowledge that there were some good ones in the book. I particularly liked the banter between friends. When a dialogue didn't require emotional complexities, the author did a magnificent job of conveying sarcasm, quick jokes, and banter between the characters. She gave the characters unique personalities, and in a book with so many of them, I applaud her for this feat. Playing polo, visuals, and tidbits of information about different parts of the world were things that I enjoyed reading. The author did well with these descriptions and all scenes that included action. Again, fans of military thrillers and action-adventure books will not be disappointed when they read the book, particularly those scenes.
Perhaps because I loved the action scenes so much that I felt it was cut too short when it jumped straight into the award ceremony, without a complete closing of the military fighting scene. While the end amused me because the gang was back together after the fight, reading how the young girl that was raped, was now pregnant, held me back from fully enjoying the moment. Not because she was pregnant because that is a possible outcome but because she spots and glances at her rapist in the crowd with romantic feelings. Again, this is a problematic message that paints rape and rapists in a romantic light.
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I am an MFA Creative Writing grad student and an avid reader who knows a thing or two about a good story. I enjoy characters that are as real as the humans I know. I'm a sucker of magic, and witchy things, but I will read it if it has a good blurb. A great cover will catch my eye every time.
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Love Story? – 2022
The pounding of her feet on the treadmill was almost mesmerizing. Keece focused her attention on making the sound of each footstep exactly the same, in perfect rhythm. She could adjust it ever-so-slightly by the way she rolled her toes and each part of her foot on the tread.
"How are you doing Keece?"
The familiar voice startled her. She almost faltered, coming out of her semi-trance. Her cardiologist, Doctor Coleman Janson, was young and handsome, his smile warm and bright against his dark skin, his demeanor comforting, naturally inspiring trust. Beneath his lab coat, she suspected he was in great shape, strong and compact; more inspiration for her to perform well on her heart fitness test.
Keece, a little breathy, replied, "I'm okay. Starting to feel a little winded."
Cole watched her, musing to himself that she hardly looked winded, and her performance was already in the 95th percentile, the equivalent of an Olympic athlete. He had not seen results this strong in a long time, but he kept his face expressionless. He knew better than to influence a patient's results, and he could tell simply by watching her that she had a competitive nature that would kick in if she could assess how she was doing. But, none-the-less, he was impressed.
As he left, he told her, "Okay. See how long you can keep going. We'll gradually increase the intensity, and then stop when your heart rate gets to 160."
She slid back into her semi-trance, trying to make every step perfectly even, her short blonde ponytail swishing rhythmically across her strong shoulders. She had always been in shape, but not overly fit like the gym-rat bodybuilder types. She had come in for the test because her mom had a heart irregularity. Mom was still healthy in her early seventies, but they monitored her carefully. Keece's general physician had suggested the test as a precaution.
Several minutes later, Cole returned. "Okay Keece, start to ease up. We'll start to slow it down."
As the pace eased up, she stepped off gingerly, holding the rails so as not to slip back as the track continued turning. She'd witnessed that kind of dismount and it never ended well. She turned to the doctor and asked, "How did I do?"
Cole smiled warmly, "Very good. Okay, if we run a few more tests?"
"Sure, fine," she agreed, ignoring the faint tingle of apprehension at the back of her neck, more tests sounded like they may not be sure she did "very well."
She was so outstanding on the heart test that Cole was interested to see if she was also as strong in other areas. He tested her coordination, reflexes, ability to jump, everything he could without raising too much suspicion. He could see by her slightly perplexed look that she wondered what the tests had to do with her heart, but at the same time, she seemed to enjoy the challenges.
Cole, mused, it always surprised him what people would do simply because their doctor asked them to. He could see how a bad physician could easily take advantage of a patient. Maybe he was a bit guilty of that himself in this case, but he needed the data on her other abilities to determine if she might be the right match. He knew his friend Radi would want a full report. He briskly moved through several more tests, including collecting a DNA sample, hoping to get through them before she started asking questions.
After testing as much as he could without making things awkward, Cole stated, "So, you're in really good shape."
She replied, a little surprised, "Thanks. That's good to hear. I gather that means my heart is okay?"
Cole smiled, realizing he had forgotten to mention that. "Yes, your heart's in excellent condition."
Keece, relieved, replied, "Well, staying in shape is sort of a job requirement. I have a business that creates and sells virtual reality games for fitness."
Cole laughed. "Ah, I get it. Makes sense that that's a requirement. If only all my clients had that kind of motivation."
After a pause, he continued measuredly, "So is that your workout, doing your games?"
"Actually, I mostly do yoga or a Pilates type workout on my own, and then I play polo," her eyes brightened as she mentioned polo, clearly showing her enthusiasm for the sport.
Cole surprised, replied, "Polo? Real polo? As in on a horse?"
She laughed. "Yah, the real thing. I started playing a few years ago and now I'm completely hooked. It's funny how people have become so much more aware of it thanks to the Patron Polo VR game," she said, imitating the distinctive game announcer voice as she said the name. "When I talked about polo before, people would always ask if it was water polo."
Cole replied enthusiastically, "Oh man, I play Patron Polo all the time with my friends. We love that game! But I can't imagine what it's like to play the real game. That is so cool!"
"I love it. The strategy, the team, the horse…and it keeps you in great shape. The only drawback is that it's not good for the wallet," Keece replied with a guilty grin.
Cole smiled at her self-indulgence. "Sometimes, you just gotta do what you love."
After a slight pause, he continued with curiosity, "Do you have kids?"
Keece a little surprised by the abrupt subject change and personal questions, "No, I never got married. I almost did once. I guess that's not a pre-requisite for having kids these days, but I never really wanted to do it alone, without a partner."
"So, no boyfriend?" Cole sounded surprised but tried to ask casually, trying to confirm her status without seeming too interested.
Keece, wondering slightly if he was hitting on her, replied, "I do kind of have a boyfriend." The doctor did not really seem like he was interested, but why would he ask about her personal life?
Cole pressed her, "Kind of?" Giving her a teasing, questioning look.
Keece looked slightly uncomfortable but smiled a little guiltily as she answered, "I shouldn't say 'kind of,' we've been dating for a year now, but he's much younger, too young for me to take too seriously."
Cole gave her a questioning look. "Too young. Is that possible? I thought you ladies liked a young stud."
"He's in his late 20s. Really young!" she said emphatically and with a big engaging grin. "Fortunately, he looks and acts older, but I know one day he wants to have a family, and by then, I'll probably be 60," she said with a giggle.
Cole marveled to himself, wow she has such a beautiful smile, this guy probably thinks he's a very lucky guy. Cole was pretty sure there were a lot of younger guys who would be interested in dating a woman like Keece.
Cole responded supportively, "Good for you!" To himself, he thought not so good for our experiment, but it sounds like a hurdle that might be surmountable.
He then asked, "Do you want a family?"
Keece shook her head, "It's not that I don't, or I should say, didn't want a family, but I'm probably too old now. And I don't think he's planning on kids anytime soon."
Cole trying not to show he was relieved to hear she would be open to having a family asked another question, "How'd you two meet?"
Keece looking a bit sheepish, knowing her answer sounded cliché. "He's my polo instructor. He's a pro from Argentina. He taught me for over a year before I realized he was interested. Even then, I had to be convinced, but we have a lot of fun together. He's a good guy."
Cole, despite his own ideas, replied encouragingly, "Well, I think you go with it. Life is short. If you're havin' fun, enjoy the ride." Then to himself he added, at least until we find you a better option.
They both smirked a little at the riding reference. Then Cole wrapped up their appointment, telling her they would have her official results in a few days, but that she seemed to be in great health, nothing to worry about.
She thanked him and then added, "You should try real polo sometime. Or at least come and watch a real match. They have them every Sunday in Del Mar over the summer."
Cole paused and then smiled warmly, replying as he left the room, "Thanks. I might just do that."
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Lamar Rutherford felt compelled to write and share this story. Her love of the craft is evidenced by her unique fiction style, weaving action-adventure with a romantic twist. As a debut fiction author, Lamar drew on her world travels, many adventures, and love of polo to create this novel, CodeY. view profile
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Only a few more days until the new Annual Catalog goes live. One of my favorite new products is the Daisy Delight Stamp Set and coordinating Daisy Punch. The punch was so popular during the demonstrator pre-order that unfortunately it is on backorder but I was fortunate to get mine. This is one of the cards my ladies will be able to make at my New Catalog Open House next Wednesday, and I'm pretty sure it will be one of their favorite new items too.
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Burlington High School swimmers broke three school records and qualified for the state boys swim meet in six events at the district meet hosted by Linn-Marr High School in Marion Saturday.
Keokuk will have one representative in the state meet with Dylan Jones competing in the 200-yard individual medley.
The state meet is scheduled for Saturday at the University of Iowa's Campus Recreation and Wellness Center in Iowa City.
Burlington advances in four individual events and two relays and senior Blake Wyrick and junior Jacob Mohrfeld will each be competing in four events.
Mohrfeld set a BHS record with a time of 59.66 in the 100-yard breaststroke, good for second place in the district meet. He'll be seeded third among 24 swimmers at state. The previous Burlington record was 1:00.28. Mohrfeld also advances in the 200 individual medley. He finished fourth in the district in 2:04.02 and is seeded 22nd at state.
Mohrfeld, Wyrick, Kale Schuff and Wyatt Hellman advance to the state meet with a third place district finish in 1:40.38. They are seeded 15th in the state meet. The same four swimmers also advance to state in the 200-yard freestyle relay. They finished fourth at the district in a school record 1:30.28 and are seeded 16th at state. The previous school record was 1:31.14.
Wyrick advances in two individual events. He won the district 50-yard freestyle in 21.75 seconds and is seeded 13th in the state meet. He also advances in the 100 freestyle after finishing third at district 48.50 seconds. He's seeded 21st in that event at state.
Schuff finished 10th in the 100-yard backstroke and didn't win a berth in the state meet, but his time of 57.03 seconds broke a BHS record. The previous record was 57.14.
Keokuk's Jones finished second in the 200 individual medley in 1:58.20. He's seeded sixth in the state meet.
Iowa City West won the district team championship with 443 points. Burlington was fifth at 193 points and Keokuk finished eighth with 59.
TIGERS ADVANCE: New London finished second in the team standings in the Class 1A sectional meet at Sigourney and qualify for the regional dual team tournament.
Pekin won the sectional team title with 173.5 points and New London was second at 164. New London will face No. 3 Lisbon at Lisbon Tuesday in the first round of the dual team tourney.
New London also advanced four individuals to the district meet with sectional champions Marcel Lopez and Gabe Carter and runners-up Cameron Raines and Jaxon Allen.
Lopez won the 106-pound title, advancing on a bye and a fall before topping WACO's Larz Smith on an 18-4 major decision in the finals. Carter, at 170 pounds, advanced with a bye and a decision, then beat Van Buren's Caleb Stoltz, 3-1, in the finals. Raines, at 195, went 1-1, then beat Sigourney-Keota's Cade Streigle, 11-3, in the second place wrestleback. Allen, at 220, also went 1-1 before pinning WACO's Landon Provino in 1:45 of the second place match.
WACO was third in the team standings with 149 points, Van Buren was fourth at 138 and Mediapolis was fifth at 137.5. There were seven teams competing.
WACO also advances four wrestlers. Jonah Clark (120) and Jalen Collins (126) won their weight classes and Smith (106) and Robert Frazier (145) each finished second.
Clark advanced with a bye and a fall, then pinned Van Buren's Bruce Claman in 1:48 of the finals. Collins also advanced with a bye and a fall, then won the title with a 17-4 major decision over Jacxon Behrle of Cardinal. Smith went 1-1, then won the second place match by pinning Pekin's Madeline Black in 5:30. Frazier pinned Van Buren's Quentin Story in 2:45, then lost a major decision to Pekin's Cael Baker, 14-2, in the champion match.
Van Buren advances four wrestlers. Tayton Bartholomew won the 182-pound class with a bye, a 3-2 decision over Hunter Akey of Mediapolis and a 6-4 decision of New London's Gavin Holmes. Claman (120), Teddy Metcalf (132) and Caleb Stoltz (170) each advance with second place finishes.
Claman started with two byes, then lost the championship match to WACO's Clark. Metcalf advanced with a bye and a win, then lost to Pekin's Michael Jones in sudden victory in the title match. Stoltz went 1-1, then won the second place match by pinning Pekin's Tanner Bainbridge in 2:44.
Mediapolis advances six wrestlers with three sectional champions and three runners-up. Caleb Lalonde won both of his matches by fall to win the 160-pound class. Keegan Akers at 220 pinned two opponents after opening with a bye. Brennan Breuer (285) advanced with a bye and a fall, then decisioned Cardinal's Dagisteno Shilling, 13-6, in the finals.
Quinten Aney (113), Caden Benz (152) and Hunter Aney (182) advance with second place finishes. Quinten Aney lost to Sigourney-Keota's Mason Dye, 8-2, in the finals. Benz beat New London's Currey Jacobs, 7-1, in the second place match. Hunter Aney decisioned New London's Gavin Holmes , 7-3, in the second place match.
WAPELLO ADVANCES 5: Wapello advanced five wrestlers out of the Class 1A sectional at West Branch.
Highland won the team title with 177 points and Wilton was second at 164. Both advance to the dual team regional Tuesday. Wapello finished third with 147.5 points.
The Indians had four individual champions and a runner-up. Winning their classes were Colton Meeker (113), Mitchell Moore (120), Daniel Meeker (126) and Christopher Ewart (132). Evan Ross advances with a second place finish at 145 pounds.
Colton Meeker pinned Durant's Ethan Gast in 3:21 in the finals. Moore needed just 43 seconds to pin West Branch's Tyler Sieman in his championship match. Daniel Meeker pinned North Cedar's Chase Miller in 29 seconds in the finals. Ewart pinned Highland's Geoff Streb in 3:35 in the finals.
Ross advanced with a bye and a fall, then was pinned by Highland's Brody Hahn in the championship match.
2 FALCONS, 2 WILDCATS ADVANCE: Louisa-Muscatine and Columbus/Winfield-Mount Union each advanced two wrestlers out of the Class 2A sectional tournament at Solon.
Solon won the team title with 268.5 points and West Liberty was second at 227.5. Both advance to the dual team regional Tuesday. Louisa-Muscatine finished fourth at 143 points and Columbus/W-MU was fifth at 112 in the six-team field.
Louisa-Muscatine 285-pounder Gabe Hayes won that division with a bye, a fall and a decision. He beat Tipton's Jesse Liesen, 8-2, in the finals. The Falcons' Cody Calvelage advances with a second place finish at 132 pounds. He advanced with a bye and a major decision, then was pinned in 1:54 of the finals by Solon's Zeb Gnida.
Jarod kadel and Lane Scorpil advance for Columbus/W-MU. Kadel won the 138-pound title with a bye, an 18-second pin of Louisa-Muscatine's Tyler Hanson and a 12-2 major decision over Solon's Aidan Dall. Scorpil finished second at 106 pounds. He received a bye, beat Tipton's Brenan Nantz, 15-3, then was pinned by West Liberty's Alex Beaver in 2:55 in the finals.


The Last Charge has teamed up with BDHW Recs for a "Straight Outta Nowhere" full length release. The album should drop in September, but pre-orders packages are already available here. Check out the promo track, 'Under The Gun', here. This is band's first release in 5 years, and will bring 11 tracks of bone-crushing beatdown the band is known for!


The third annual Palette and Palate Stroll offers a chance to sample food and art while getting dressed up and visiting Charleston's historic streets. The even is put on by Charleston Fine Art Dealers' Association.
In 2006 and 2007, the exclusive event exceeded everyone's high expectations, attracting more than 1500 people from across the nation and raising more than $22,000 for the associations' scholarship fund.
A total of 700 tickets are available for $40. Purchase them by calling Smith-Killian Fine Art at (843) 853-0708.
If you do go, just remember the police have stepped up enforcement of public drinking laws.


Most of us know and appreciate that it is extremely dangerous – and illegal – to drive after having too many alcoholic beverages. However, millions of people in the U.S. still make the decision to drink and drive, despite knowing that impaired driving can cause accidents with fatalities and serious injuries. A drunk driver's reckless decision can change your life in an instant.
Drinking too much alcohol prevents a driver from being able to operate a vehicle safely. Alcohol slows reaction times, impairs judgment, causes blurred vision, and can even cause a driver to pass out at the wheel. Drunk drivers are also more prone to speeding and aggressive driving, which is particularly dangerous when the person behind the wheel has impaired reflexes.
Drunk driving accidents cause thousands of fatalities and injured victims, often without recourse. All too often, a drunk driver who causes an accident flees the scene, attempting to avoid detection. Even those drunk drivers apprehended by police may ultimately avoid jail time, only paying a fine, taking classes, or submitting to alcohol treatment. Meanwhile, victims who survive drunk driving accidents often suffer severe life-changing injuries. If you were injured by a drunk driver, you need legal representation you can trust to ensure that drunk driver is held fully accountable and pays for the losses and injuries he or she caused. If you were in an accident in the Savannah area, call Hasner Law as soon as possible at 912-234-2334 or contact us online to discuss your accident and your legal options.
A drunk driving accident can change your life permanently in an instant. You may spend weeks in a hospital, undergo surgeries, and then spend weeks or years in rehabilitative therapy. Such extensive medical care can be extremely costly.
Moreover, many seriously injured individuals do not return to work for some time – if at all. Often traumatic injuries require a patient to refrain from any activities like work, school, or even daily household tasks. If an injury causes lasting impairments, you may not be able to return to your previous profession, or work at all. For example, if you were a scientist, a traumatic brain injury may cause cognitive impairments that make it impossible to return to your career. Likewise, a spinal cord injury may cause permanent paralysis, preventing you from returning to any profession that involves physical labor or activity.
In addition to causing a mountain of medical bills and taking away your livelihood, a catastrophic injury can also change your life on a personal level. You may not be able to engage in the social or recreational activities you once enjoyed. You may even require assistance with basic daily tasks like dressing, or require home health care. All of these changes can result in serious loss of enjoyment of life, in addition to the physical pain and suffering you are already experiencing.
Not every drunk driving accident involves serious injuries. Some lucky victims walk away with relatively minor injuries. However, even minor injuries can result in medical bills and lost income from a few hours or days off work – and these losses should also be compensated. If you were the victim of a drunk driving accident, you should call Hasner Law to discuss your rights to recovery. We handle a wide range of cases and you should consult with a member of our team to learn how we can help you.
If the driver who caused your accident was clearly intoxicated, you may expect to automatically have all your expenses and losses covered. However, a criminal DUI case against the driver may not involve payment of compensation to the accident victims. A criminal conviction for driving under the influence can punish a drunk driver with jail time, fines, license suspension, and similar penalties, but it will rarely involve a significant amount of restitution to accident victims. You are not guaranteed any financial recovery and should hire an attorney to take legal action to protect your rights. With the help of a skilled drunk driving accident attorney, you can take action by filing an insurance claim, a lawsuit in civil court, or both.
You may also need a skilled drunk driving accident attorney to prove that the driver who hit you had been drinking. Insurance companies and civil courts will not simply take your word that a driver was drunk. Instead, you must present evidence of the driver's impairment, as well as evidence that impairment caused the accident and your resulting injuries. Although a criminal conviction for DUI can be used as evidence that a driver was drunk, you will still have to prove that your injuries occurred because of the accident and provide evidence of all your losses, both past and future. More importantly, a skilled drunk driving accident attorney can help you prevail even when the drunk driver avoided a DUI conviction, although you will still need other types of evidence such as witness statements, police reports, and evidence establishing that the driver was drinking before the accident. An attorney can help identify, find, and develop the evidence necessary to your case.
The rules of evidence and civil procedure are extremely complicated, and mistakes can be detrimental to your claim. Even the insurance process can be complex, and insurance companies often try to persuade accident victims to accept less than fair compensation. In either situation, having the right law firm on your side can help ensure your best chances of full recovery.
Gathering and presenting evidence that the driver was drunk and should be held liable.
Calculating and providing proof of your past and future estimated losses.
Filing an insurance claim and handling every communication and negotiation with the adjuster.
Filing a personal injury claim in civil court when needed to recover full and fair compensation from the at-fault driver.
If you have been in a drunk driving accident, it can be confusing and overwhelming to know when to take legal action and when to call an attorney. If your accident occurred in or near Savannah, Hasner Law is here to help. We will advocate for your legal rights and fight for your best possible recovery at every stage of your case. Please call us at 912-232-2334 or contact us online to schedule your free consultation today.


Robinson, George David. The Authorship and Characteristics of the Fourth Gospel and its Interrelation with the Synoptic Gospels; being a Thesis presented to the Manitoba College in partial fulfilment of the requirements for the degree of Bachelor of Divinity. Winnipeg, March 1930.
The Fourth Gospel has been traditionally attributed to John. In modern times there has been much discussion about the authorship and value of the Fourth Gospel as a source of knowledge of its time because of the contradictions between it and the Synoptic Gospels. This thesis is an examination of the Fourth Gospel.


Bethel Holy Church teaches and preaches the Gospel of Jesus Christ. We are a Pentecostal church that believes that holiness is a lifestyle. We welcome the Holy Spirit of God to have His way in our services and in us. We know that there is power in prayer! We love to worship and praise God. On behalf of Pastor Joseph Bell, we welcome the opportunity for you to come worship with us!
We have several awesome ministries: Men's, Women's, Young Adult's & Children's. Join us on Tuesdays at 7pm for Prayer Service, Wednesdays at 6:30pm for Bible Study and Sundays at 11:30am for Morning Worship.
The mission of Bethel Holy Church is to demonstrate our love for Jesus through worship, win souls and care for those in need through ministry and evangelism, and share the blessings of the Lord through Discipleship and Fellowship.


The instance The Democratic times. : Chapter I. A dishonorable peace with rebellion. ... Fellow-citizens! such is the prospect held out to you by the principles of the Democratic Party, as expressed in the Chicago platform. Such are the results of the policy proposed by the leaders of the Democratic Party! .., (electronic resource) represents a material embodiment of a distinct intellectual or artistic creation found in University of Oklahoma Libraries. This resource is a combination of several types including: Instance, Electronic.
Chapter I. A dishonorable peace with rebellion. ... Fellow-citizens! such is the prospect held out to you by the principles of the Democratic Party, as expressed in the Chicago platform. Such are the results of the policy proposed by the leaders of the Democratic Party! ..


My daughter, Lyndsee, was diagnosed in January 2016 with a rare disease, eosinophilic esophagitis. Therefore, she has to live on a prescription formula, Neocate Splash. This is what keeps her alive. She currently has no other safe foods. Her formula costs $1,700 a month. As you can understand, I am very anxious about this as $1,700 a month is a huge amount of money to pay out of pocket. She has been on NC Medicaid which is the only approved insurance in NC to cover her formula, but we found out today her coverage will end on August 31, 2018. She will go on my insurance which is the NC State Health Plan with BCBS since I work at Appalachian State University. They do not cover prescription formula.
I am standing up for my daughter and the other children in North Carolina that needs this formula for survival. Why wouldn't insurance cover a medical need? My daughter depends on this formula to live as she has no other available nutrition. How can insurance deny my 13-year old a medically-necessary food that keeps her alive? She told us that she was afraid to die if insurance decided not to cover her formula. A 13-year old should be enjoying life and not have to worry how she will get her formula paid for each month!


Kingdoms through ages rise and fall. When an impossible plague from a far-off land finds its way to England, a blacksmith and a doctor are the only two men on Earth who have the ability to cure it. The plague does not bring death alone. Those afflicted by it lose themselves to the sickness. They become soulless plaguewalkers, empty shells of humanity who hunt and consume those who still live. They spread the disease until they are destroyed, and such violent action is the only way to stop them.
As the plague ravages Valdus, the largest city in the land, a family is caught in the middle of the battle. A guard and his sister are at ground zero, and they must survive and fight their way to safety.
While those within the city struggle to survive and find shelter, a Northern Kingdom sees the plague as their opportunity to invade. The two cities have been at war for decades over land and beliefs, and the Knights of Valdus are the only defense against the armies of the north.
This is the story of two men seeking to end the plague. This is the story of a family just trying to survive. This is the story of battered knights fighting to protect their city.
This is the story of the Demon's Plague.
Dracula is an 1897 Gothic horror novel by Irish author Bram Stoker. Famous for introducing the character of the vampire Count Dracula, the novel tells the story of Dracula's attempt to move from Transylvania to England, and the battle between Dracula and a small group of men and women led by Professor Abraham Van Helsing.
Frankenstein; or, The Modern Prometheus, is a novel written by English author Mary Shelley about eccentric scientist Victor Frankenstein, who creates a grotesque creature in an unorthodox scientific experiment.
Shelley started writing the story when she was eighteen, and the novel was published when she was twenty. The first edition was published anonymously in London in 1818. Shelley's name appears on the second edition, published in France in 1823.


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Google's grip on DeepMind set to cost taxpayers tens of billions
DeepMind was snapped up by Google in 2014 for around £400m - but one of its early investors believes it is now worth at least $30bn
By Hannah Boland 1 December 2020 • 3:43pm
One of the founding investors in DeepMind has warned that UK taxpayers will miss out on billions of pounds in revenue from a pioneering protein breakthrough because of the sale of the technology company to Google six years ago.
Humayun Sheikh, an early investor in the London-based artificial intelligence company now owned by Google-owner Alphabet, said the news this week that it had cracked the 50-year-old scientific puzzle of protein folding was a sign that it was now looking at more commercial opportunities.
"What they had set out to do was artificial general intelligence, and this is a completely different route."
He said Google's ownership of the company means UK taxpayers miss out on tens of billions of pounds in future economic gains.
Mr Sheikh, who is now chief executive of AI firm Fetch.ai, said research in areas such as these could potentially yield tens of billions of pounds in economic gains for Google, given the advances are "way ahead" of anything other technology companies are achieving.
"If DeepMind hadn't been sold to Google, I'm 99pc sure it would have been unable to raise the money because it was not commercially viable. That's when the Government needed to support it."
He said the UK could have reaped billions in economic benefits had a move been made by the Government.
A spokesman for DeepMind said: "Up until now the team has been focused on performance. What we can say is that we remain committed to delivering on our mission of bringing the benefits of AI to the world.
"We look forward to working with the scientific community to understand the utility of the predictions that our system generates, and exploring where it makes sense to work with others to deliver potential applications. There is huge potential, but we are still thinking through these questions."
According to Mr Sheikh, DeepMind would be "worth something like $20bn to $30bn at least" today.
It was bought by Google in 2014 for £400m, and then placed under the broader Alphabet umbrella.
Since then, the company has hit a number of landmark moments, including on Monday when it announced it had achieved a major scientific breakthrough, using its AI to predict how proteins fold into 3D shapes in a move which could "significantly accelerate" drug development for diseases such as cancer.
Mr Sheikh warned that the world was "heading in the direction" that the most important research organisations were owned by a few major tech companies. "The main risk is they can do what they like with the technology. And, if it doesn't get used in the right way, it's detrimental to every society."
Matt Clifford, chief executive and co-founder of UK talent investor Entrepreneur First, said there was "always a risk with any strategic technology" being in the hands of a few companies. With DeepMind, he said, "right now it's not an issue, but might it be in the future, yes possibly".
He said there were "clearly going to be other strategic technologies that the UK does develop, quantum computing springs to mind, and I think the question is, if we want that capability to be owned by a UK company, do we have the right environment for companies like that to thrive? The answer is probably no."
Mr Clifford said funding of such research by governments was "actually a public good, and potentially even a global public good".
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Philippe Dubuisson-Lebon (born June 19, 1988) is a Canadian professional Canadian football linebacker who is currently a free agent. He played CIS football at the Université de Sherbrooke. He has been a member of the Hamilton Tiger-Cats, Winnipeg Blue Bombers and Ottawa Redblacks.

Professional career

Hamilton Tiger-Cats
Dubuisson-Lebon was signed by the Hamilton Tiger-Cats on October 23, 2012. He was released by the Tiger-Cats on October 31, 2012. He was signed by the Tiger-Cats on April 4, 2013. Dubuisson-Lebon was released by the Tiger-Cats on July 2, 2013. He appeared in one game for the Tiger-Cats.

Winnipeg Blue Bombers
Dubuisson-Lebon signed with the Winnipeg Blue Bombers on July 16, 2013. He appeared in six games for the Blue Bombers.

Ottawa Redblacks
Dubuisson-Lebon was signed by the Ottawa Redblacks on August 26, 2014. He was released by the Redblacks on May 14, 2015.

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This thesis reports original research conducted among grassroots animal rights activists (GARAs) in Dunedin, New Zealand. The principle finding is that GARAs are unique in that they operate according to a dual-ideology of animal and general liberation. Much has been written about animal rights activism and the animal protection movement but few differentiate branches and groups beyond the basic philosophical distinctions of welfarists and rightsists. This study argues that differences in the organisational, lifestyle and tactical choices of specific groups represent more than simple differences in tastes, and proposes a Six-Axis model as an appropriate tool for investigating ideological positioning that may indicate reasons for difference. Drawing on information gathered through participant-observation and in-depth interviews, this study applies the Six-Axis model and explores the experiences GARAs have in grassroots groups and with animals. KEYWORDS: Animal Rights, Grassroots Activism, Animal Protection Movement, Social Movement, Post-Citizenship Movement, Liberation Movement.


A good, quick analysis of the five major negative behaviors that degrade the performance of a team. The notion is introduced that we all have primary and secondary teams.; and we can loosely apply this thinking to community segmentation in the OPEN world.
This is my second assigned reading for a year-long management seminar. Less intellectually offensive than the first (a Ken Blanchard classic), it still suffers from trying to be the smartest book in the room. The subject is yet another one that is intuitively obvious to me, but that's because I've been building teams for 30 years.
Effective leadership techniques and methods are shown throughout Patrick Lencioni's book "The Five Dysfunctions of a Team". In this blog I am going to analyze and assess a few big leadership techniques and methods that our book's leader Kathryn Peterson puts into play.
To quickly provide some context; at the very beginning of the book a startup tech company is coming down from its "first few euphoric months of existence". People are leaving the company and deadlines are slipping. The company desperately seeks a solution.
Enter our leader Kathryn Peterson.
You come to find that the hiring team perceives Kathryn as a blue-collarish executive. Which is exactly what they aren't looking for in a manager, she's old, she has no real high-tech experience, and she doesn't fit the culture, but in the end she gets the position because of her "amazing gift for building teams".
I would like to focus on how Kathryn uses various leadership techniques to tackle the problems ahead of her and whether or not those techniques were correct in the given situation.
The first technique I would like to discuss starts with Kathryn's decision to take no action for two weeks after being hired. The company is in dire straits and the leader appointed to fix it all is doing nothing for two whole weeks.
She isn't just doing nothing. Our new leader is walking the halls talking with employees, observing as many meetings as she can, and all while taking notes. These aren't notes on just the content of the conversations and meetings. These are notes about the culture and daily practices of the leaders and employees. Kathryn is identifying critical alliances within the organization, getting a feel for the culture in the company, and starting to formulate her vision for the direction she needs to take her team to make the company successful.
This is not a new technique. Many leaders upon taking a new leadership position take the time to learn the daily happenings of a company before acting. You don't build a fence by just randomly digging holes in the ground. You need to plan where those holes go and how you're going to get them there.
I think Kathryn's decision to assess the situation before diving headfirst is an excellent choice and a sign of effective leadership. It shows that she is a planner who likes to get all the facts before diving in, which is a key quality for effective leadership.
On to our second situation.
Near the end of the first off-site meeting the team gets a chance to establish an overarching goal for the rest of the year. The problem though, is that the team has no idea how to narrow a choice down to something they all can agree upon. This has been a challenge for them since the beginning and is one clear sign of a dysfunctional team.
Kathryn starts off by letting the team know exactly what they are going to accomplish as well as reassuring them that they can accomplish this. "We are going to establish something I call our overarching goal for the rest of the year. There is no reason that we can't do this now, right here, today. Someone take a stab".
Through the discussion Kathryn steers the conversation in various ways. For example, telling the other team members to "take them on" when Nick and JR suggest market share to be the goal, or "This is the most productive conversation I've heard since I've been here. Keep going".
In doing so I believe Kathryn is steering the team into setting specific goals, measureable goals, and attainable goals. Those three things are key for a leader to produce. Specific goals are clear and well defined, they leave out and vague or generalizations. Measureable goals give you something to measure your degree of success. Lastly, attainable goals make it so in the end you add morale and confidence to your team instead of setting the bar impossibly high it demoralizes them and takes away their confidence.
At the end of the meeting the team is amazed that they could actually define and agree upon a realistic goal, creating a more functional team. As JR said "We accomplished a lot here, and getting clarity around our major goal is really going to help".
The last example of an effective leadership situation I would like to talk about is how Kathryn handled letting Mikey, the marketing executive, go from the company.
Kathryn demonstrated effective leadership in the face of one of the most difficult things a leader can do; firing someone.
She didn't drag her feet by immediately after the meeting asking Mikey to stay and talk. Kathryn kept it short, showed compassion, and respect while also allowing Mikey to respond. "I don't think you are a fit for this team. And I don't think you really want to be here. Do you know where I'm coming from?" After laying out the evidence based reasons to let Mikey go, Kathryn was upfront in the next meeting with the rest of the team about what had just happened.
Not dragging your feet, keeping it short, showing compassion, talking to your team, and focusing on the future are the right ways for a leader to let someone go from a team and a company. Kathryn didn't beat around the bush by making it a quick but thought out decision. She showed compassion with Mikey and with the rest of the team demonstrating her humanity. Nobody likes to see a coworker leave the company. Lastly, talking to the team and focusing on the future gives the team enough forward momentum to get back up to where they were.
To Dad, for teaching me the value of work.
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What a Brilliant Year!
What a fantastic year we've had! We've seen an increase in the the number of Sooty Terns in the colony this year, which is very encouraging, after recording a fall in numbers in 2015. The breeding season also began earlier than usual which resulted in the very first Sooty Tern chick making an appearance by the 4th of July!
2016 also marks a significant point in Bird island's story, with Mr Guy Savy, the owner of the island, passing the baton to his sons Nick and Alex Savy. Nick and Alex have both spent their childhood on Bird Island and have seen their parents running a small island hotel from its infancy to the successful eco-lodge that it is today. They have learnt the ins and outs of running the lodge and they have a great affinity with the island, the staff and the island's visitors. The Savy brothers have been co-managing Bird Island now since early 2016.
This year also saw us upgrade our transfer service through the signing of an agreement with Air Seychelles, the national airline of the Republic of Seychelles. This was a commitment made by the Bird Island Management, to enhance air access to the island for its local and international visitors. Air Seychelles now operates a flight per day, 340 days a year between Mahe and Bird island. Flight times remain the same.
With the year coming to an end and in preparation for the year 2017, Bird Island Lodge will be closing from the 12th of December 2016 until the 13th of January 2017. We would like to take this opportunity to wish you all Happy Holidays and Best Wishes for the New Year!
Its Turtle Hatchling Season!
It's that time of the year again, when baby Hawksbill turtles will be digging their way up to the surface and finding their way out to sea. If you've never experienced this truly breath-taking moment, now is your chance! Treat yourself this December and make a booking with us for now until the 12th of December 2016 or from the 13th of January 2017 for the month of January and February when you are most likely to see these amazing little creatures. Get ready for some cuteness overload!
The Best Hotels in the Seychelles by Tim Ecott, Travel Destination Expert, The Telegraph
"No spa, no air-con, no golf buggies: this is desert island paradise. Bird Island remains a haven for nature and those who want to immerse themselves in an authentic island experience; it belongs to the giant tortoises, fairy terns and frigate birds."
Read through Tim Ecott's review of Bird Island and what makes it worth visiting.
Bird Island Features in l'Oiseau Magazine "deux iles a tire-d'aile" by Patrice Costa
Bird Island features in l'Oiseau Magazine's "Seychelles, deux îles à tire-d'aile"; A second part article to "A Tire-D'Aile" written a year earlier by Patrice Costa.
Enjoy Mr Costa's account of neighbouring islands and the conservation efforts they've taken to maintain a sustainable balance between nature and tourism.
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Bird Island, Seychelles sur Zone Australe - Antenne Reunion
Airline Updates
* Air Seychelles to introduce direct non-stop twice weekly flights to Seychelles from Dusseldorf and from Durban in March 2017.
* Air Seychelles to increase frequency of direct non-stop flights to Seychelles from Paris from three to four flights per week in March 2017.
* Air Seychelles now codeshares with Etihad Airways, airberlin, Air France, Alitalia, Jet Airways, Niki, South African Airways and Air Serbia.
* Turkish Airlines is now a new direct service to Seychelles from a number of worldwide destinations!
* Condor increases its direct non-stop flights to Seychelles from Frankfurt to two flights per week.
* Qatar Airways re-introduces daily flights to Seychelles from Doha as of December 2016.
* Austrian Airlines to commence a direct non-stop weekly flight to Seychelles from Vienna as of October 2017.
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Jordan is a small country with few natural resources, but it has played a pivotal role in the struggle for power in the Middle East. Jordan's significance results partly from its strategic location at the crossroads of what most Christians, Jews and Muslims call the Holy Land. It is a key ally of the US and, together with Egypt, one of only two Arab nations to have made peace with Israel. The desert kingdom emerged out of the post-World War I division of the Middle East by Britain and France. Britain separated out a semi-autonomous region of Transjordan from Palestine in the early 1920s, and the area gained its independence in 1946 and it adopted the name of Jordan in 1950.
Jordan's economy is among the smallest in the Middle East, with insufficient supplies of water, oil and other natural resources, underlying the government's heavy reliance on foreign assistance. Since King Abdullah II's accession to the throne in 1999, liberal economic policies have resulted in a continuing boom.
Jordan is the 4th freest economy in the Middle East and North Africa, beating traditionally free economies like Israel, the United Arab Emirates and Lebanon. Jordan's developed and modern banking sector is becoming the investment destination of choice and due to its conservative bank policies together with its limited exposure to overseas capital markets, helped Jordan escape the worst of the global financial crisis of 2009.
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Cassini captures a gathering of three moons near the rings' outer edge as the icy worlds dutifully march about Saturn.
Tethys (1,062 kilometers, 660 miles across) hangs in front of Rhea (1,528 kilometers, 949 miles across) near left. Pandora (81 kilometers, 50 miles across) skirts the outer edge of the F ring below center.
The image was taken in visible light with the Cassini spacecraft narrow-angle camera on Aug. 2, 2007. The view was obtained at a distance of approximately 3.7 million kilometers (2.3 million miles) from Saturn. Image scale is about 22 kilometers (14 miles) per pixel.
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VR in 2015: PlayStation VR – Strong Line-Up Makes Up for Lack of Release Info
By Jamie Feltham	 On Dec 30, 2015
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PlayStation VR had a lot to prove in 2015. Though Sony Computer Entertainment (SCE) had hit the ground running with solid tech and a demonstration of the desire to do right by it in 2014, this year it would have to keep up with Oculus VR, now backed by Facebook money, and show that the PlayStation 4 was capable of providing worthwhile virtual reality (VR) experiences. Overall, the company did its device proud, despite the fact that PlayStation VR will likely be the last HMD to launch as we head into 2016.
As with the HTC Vive, PlayStation VR's year really began back in March when it was still known as Project Morpheus. It was here that SCE lifted the lid on a year's worth of refinements to the original version, revealing a new model with a 1080p OLED display and an added tracking light. The most impressive improvement? That new display had a 120hz refresh rate. PlayStation 4 can't easily run titles in 120fps, but the display could 'reproject' titles that were running at 60fps on console at 120fps in HMD. Just how the company is achieving this (and isn't applying it to other devices) is unclear.
It also made PlayStation VR the first HMD to get a launch window, as SCE announced a H1 2016 release. It was disappointingly far off, but it soon became clear that the Oculus Rift and the HTC Vive were looking at similar release dates.
The rest of the year was essentially highlighted by industry events for PlayStation VR. E3 was an admittedly disappointing showing: SCE revealed a handful of new titles including some impressive debuts from the likes of RIGS: Mechanized Combat League, but revealed no new information about the kit itself. PlayStation VR's section of the SCE press conference was less than three minutes long. The breadth of content on the showfloor helped make up for it in some small way, but this was ultimately a missed opportunity.
Tokyo Game Show (TGS) fared better, with the company finally revealing the full PlayStation VR name. There were also several new demos, including the addition of famous faces such as Final Fantasy and Dynasty Warriors.
But it was Paris Games Week (PGW) in which the big software announcements finally started to take place. Both Gran Turismo Sport and Tekken 7 were confirmed for PlayStation VR at the show in October, while the VR-exclusive Until Dawn: Rush of Blood was also announced.
The PlayStation Experience earlier this month was the last showcase for the year, where SCE hosted arguably the best line-up for PlayStation VR yet. Fan favourite franchises such as Rez and Ace Combat were confirmed to be coming to the kit, while brilliant new indie projects such as 100FT Robot Golf and The Modern Zombie Taxi Co. were revealed.
PlayStation VR has had an encouraging year, even if release details are still a ways off. SCE is clearly committed to make sure VR is done right, and it's building a software library to prove it. Where the kit goes in 2016 may be the most exciting story of the year.
Jamie Feltham
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2004 Fall Members' Meeting Summary
This year's Fall Members' Meeting began with the Max M. Farash Real Estate Roundtable, an enlightening evening for Research Sponsors, Executive Committee members, faculty, and special guests. The event was held at the Rittenhouse Hotel, Philadelphia, on Tuesday evening, October 26.
Jeremy Peat, Group Chief Economist, The Royal Bank of Scotland was the guest dinner speaker. Peat spoke on "Changes in the World Economy," and described a range of key issues likely to influence developments into 2005 and beyond. He highlighted higher oil prices as adding to uncertainty and questioned how long the present 'soft patch' will endure. He also addressed how global imbalances will unwind- not least the twin deficits in the US, whether the Eurozone can re-emerge as a major contributor to global growth and the impact of the emergence of two new economic giants, China and India.
The Wharton School's newest and most innovative building, Jon M. Huntsman Hall was the much-lauded venue for Wednesday's Fall Members' Meeting. Members who enrolled in our Career Mentor Program started the day early, meeting with students over breakfast. The real estate majors who have been paired with industry leaders enjoyed this unique opportunity to acquire insights gained from their Mentor's professional experience. The Zell/Lurie Real Estate Center would like to take this opportunity to express sincere thanks to this year's record number of members who have volunteered their time for a most worthwhile and much appreciated program.
Following breakfast, John Bucksbaum, Chair of the Advisory Board of the Zell/Lurie Real Estate Center welcomed members, guests and students to the meeting. Joseph Gyourko, Center Director and Asuka Nakahara, Associate Director, then delivered a State of the Center address. "We strive to be thought leaders," said Gyourko. "We provide applicable industry research, offer an excellent education and host programs that build a bridge between industry, students and faculty." He continued by outlining the research agenda for 2004/2005 and also welcomed two new faculty members, Fernando Ferreira and Grace Wong. Nakahara noted that industry interest is at an all time high. Thirty companies attended the fourth annual real estate job fair in January. The career mentor program has over 100 mentors matched to students from diverse schools at the university, all of whom are considering a career in real estate. "Student interest continues to rise," said Nakahara, "there are four real estate clubs on campus and the newly expanded curriculum has been well received."
The enormous velocity in sales and consistent value appreciation in what is deemed a "chancy" market was the topic of the first panel session, The Second Home and Condo Market: Are They Too Good to Be True? moderated by Asuka Nakahara. There has been a change in resort living in that more buyers are families as opposed to empty-nesters who had previously dominated the market, explained panelist John Davison, senior vice president, Residence Clubs, Four Seasons Hotels and Resorts. Wharton professor Susan Wachter shared statistics reflecting the status of the market. Only 8% of people own second homes. The average age of these owners is 61 and their median income is $76,000. These homes are scarce and buying is at an all-time high. Prices are increasing and in some areas the percentage of buyers has doubled. Eighty percent buy for lifestyle reasons rather than for investment purposes. "Over the past five years there has been an incredible increase in our volume. We continue to be amazed by how resilient it is," said panelist Edward Coco, managing director of GE Real Estate. There are concerns that rising interest rates will hurt the market, but Bobby Ginn, president of the Ginn Company, a private real estate development and management firm that creates leisure lifestyle and resort communities in the Southeast, says people who retire to Florida aren't stopped by interest rates because they've been planning years in advance.
The second panel, "Mega-projects in Real Estate: Where are they and how do they work?" was moderated by Wharton professor Peter Linneman. The panelists, all of whom work in the billion dollar transaction arena, included Thomas J. Barrack, Jr., president and CEO of Colony Capital; John Bucksbaum; Ronald J. Kravit, managing director, Blackacre Capital Group L.P; and Owen D. Thomas, managing director of Morgan Stanley and president of the firm's real estate private equity funds.
Linneman asked how the panelists' companies avoided being the highest bidder while still remaining highly profitable. "Money is the least important transaction today. It's just a commodity. You need control," said Barrack. "Was there ever a point in these transactions when you said to yourself, 'I'm done? No more?'" asked Linneman. "In large deals there is a pattern of excitement. Then it seems to flatten out. But it still gets scary at certain points," said Bucksbaum. "The worst thing you can do is stop business growth. But you have to ask yourself if you are risking the business."
The panelists debated the ease versus discomfort of the huge transaction. Barrack referred to a recent multi-billion dollar transaction of Caesar's in Las Vegas, which happened in just 18 days. "We had a much easier time in a multi-billion dollar transaction than we would in a smaller transaction," he said. "Dealing a big deal with a sophisticated seller is much better than dealing with a small deal with an unsophisticated one." When asked about hindsight, the panelists concurred that some of their deals might have benefited from a more aggressive stance and courage of convictions.
At lunch, Center Director Joe Gyourko gratefully acknowledged new contributions and pledges received during the year. From Dean Adler and his wife, Susanna Lachs, an endowment was established to support the teaching and research of real estate entrepreneurship in the real estate program at Wharton. Through the initiative and a leadership gift provided by Brad Klatt, as well as a substantial contribution from Robert Toll, a growing permanent endowment for the support and teaching of real estate development at Wharton. From Sylvia Olnick, with the encouragement of Neil Rubler, the continuing support of the Robert Olnick Memorial Fund provides the resources for the development of new case studies throughout our real estate program, as well as stipends to superior students. And from Ron Rubin, Jon Weller and Ed Glickman of Pennsylvania Real Estate Investment Trust, an educational endowment in memory of Sylvan Cohen was established to provide scholarship monies to students interested in pursuing a career in real estate.
The Farash Distinguished Lecturer was Michael Barone, a senior writer at US News and World Report. He is co-author of the Almanac of American Politics and has worked as a lawyer and political scientist. His topical lecture "Politics 2004" focused on the presidential campaign. "I study election returns. Other reporters move on the next story," he said. "Election returns show a pattern of division and the polls this year look like previous election results." Barone pointed out that pre-election polls were divided by religion – not by income, race or economic status. He also noted that this election involved new media, such as Internet BLOGS. Barone concluded that the "rise in civic involvement and engagement is a positive result of this bitterly fought presidential campaign."
The final panel, "Financing Different Types of Real Estate Companies: What Does Capital Require Today?" was moderated by Professor Gyourko. The 1990s saw the rise of new types of firms, ranging from public REITs to private equity companies. The past decade also saw the expansion of the investor base interested in real estate. Panelists from companies with different structures discussed the shift and what is needed to attract capital successfully in the future. "Is this shift temporary or permanent?" asked Gyourko. "These paradigm shifts have been in flows of capital to real estate since 2001, including long term investments in real estate, many of which are receiving higher returns," responded panelist Steve Roth, chairman and CEO of Vornado Realty Trust. Panelist David Steinwedell, chief investment officer of Wells Real Estate Funds added, "Wells has been able to tap into the section of the market that hasn't been able to get into real estate. Those who haven't been on our side of the business are now buying into real estate as part of their investment portfolio. Wells has conservative investors, he continued. "They had originally thought they were in it for income to pay mortgages, bills, etc. But instead, they were seeing a 70% dividend reinvestment. Thus, investors are looking for capital preservation as well as income."
The subject shifted to how investors may or may not shape a business plan. Stuart Rothenberg, managing director of Goldman, Sachs & Company, explained they don't affect Goldman's business plan. "Their investors are told up-front that there are no annual meetings and no fee deals. Their investment is a partnership. And they trust the knowledge of the company." Business plans in the public market may be more influenced by investors. "Everyone has someone to report to-whether it's the public market or 70,000 phone calls from investors," said Steinwedell.
On the subject of types of borrowers, Tom MacManus, president of GMAC Commercial Mortgage, said, "I think because of the positive leverage in the market there are more private investors, using more of other people's money and less of their own."
"How do you see general economic risks spilling over into real estate investing?" asked Gyourko. "Our biggest concern is rates moving ahead of recovery," said MacManus. Roth cautioned, "The world is full of failed investors who tried to guess the interest rates. If you try to run a business, you have to have a feeling for the bigger picture instead of the little movements."
The meeting ended with a reminder from John Bucksbaum to save the date for the Spring Members' Meeting – April 21 & 22, 2005 at the Rittenhouse Hotel.
Posted November 2004


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To err is achingly human. And hence, conflicts happen in almost every relationship. It's part of the dynamics that comes with real human interactions. In fact, can you think of any relationship in your own life that hasn't seen its share of conflict (and grown from it)?
There, we've established that conflicts are not necessarily a *bad* thing; they indicate that a relationship is alive, and possibly even thriving. But to allow them to continue without resolution is definite relationship suicide. So whether you're working to resolve a conflict you (partly) created or you find yourself as the volunteered arbitrator between two third-parties, having rock-solid Conflict Management skills to smooth things over is an undeniable asset in your relationship toolkit.
It's also an asset you consciously develop.
Our default conflict management "strategy" (if you could call it that), is the fight or flight response. When faced with a potentially unpleasant situation, our animal instincts take over. But that's hardly an evolved response!
In this post, we give you 10 (conscious) conflict management techniques. You may use them in your personal life to elevate your interactions with those dearest to you, or you may use them at work to build strong professional partnerships. The intent is for you to be equipped to constantly come out a winner!
Remember, your first reaction IS the fight or flight addiction. And this makes you an animal: an uncouth and unpredictable animal. Gulp!
You're going to win no wars with this mindset, so ruthlessly ditch your first reaction (and perhaps the second and third one two). Instead, consciously choose to walk away.
We understand that this is easier said than done, especially when you're an intrinsic part of the (conflict management) situation and feel overwhelmed by emotion. But we tell you, there's a definite gladness in walking away from it all (for the moment), even as the other party continues to mutter and stutter.
Peacemaker's Tip: This is useful advice even when you're playing the amicable third party. Don't react based on your initial judgments; you could end up supporting the erring side, or worse, alienate both sides!
You wake up late and notice the alarm's out of batteries. Darn dollar-store batteries! You rush to have a bath and wing it to office on time, but your roommate's beaten you to the bathroom. Double darn! Might as well grab some coffee…. if there's coffee mix in the house. Doesn't anyone buy any grocery these days? You're frustrated and need your coffee!!
Fine, whatever! You rush to the bathroom only to notice that your roommate's still enjoying his/her shower. You bang and yell some more until he/she comes out and you have yet another raging fight that lasts even longer. SECOND conflict of the day… And it continues. God, will this crazy day never end!!!
We'll tell you what we observe differently in this situation: Your *first* conflict began not with your neighbor, but with your own self, when you discovered you overslept. That anger then transformed into frustration (with your roomie) for being forced to wait. And let's not even get into your coffee addiction gone wrong; all those hangover emotions!!
That is the root of any conflict: emotions that hang over from previous situations. Conflicts arise when you choose to share (and spread) your negative emotions.
If you want to train yourself with darn good conflict management skills, the first step is to feel OUT those pesky emotions until you're rid of them. Coz at any point, you can only feel one "type" of emotion here, positive or negative. And this trend continues until you (consciously) do something to intervene.
In fact, this is perhaps the first thing to do after a conflict. Don't react; get away by yourself and get it all out until you cross over to the other side. Only then can you come up with a successful plan for resolution. If you can follow this one step in all your associations, conflict management will come naturally to you.
Peacemaker's tip: As a third-party in a conflict's resolution, you have an excellent opportunity to get either party out of any (initial) negative reaction. Simply listen to their rant (without contributing), until they run out of steam. Once they're done voicing their emotions, they'll have the mental space to listen to your point of view and work towards resolution.
We're not playing Zen-speak here, but leading you to a practical tip to resolve your conflicting situation!
If you've had a chance to play a peacemaker during conflict, you're sure to have noticed how the each party mimics the other. When one party attacks, the other plans his counter-attack. When one party calms down (even for a bit), the other side also sort-of calms down. And this tennis match continues until any one decides to end the conflict, and the other accepts.
The conflict sustains when neither party gives in. But see, here too, they are mimicking and reflecting each other. Even in conflict, they are gloriously in sync!!
If you wait for the other to give-in first, you'll end up waiting, quite uselessly, for a long time! (Unless, the other side turns out to be a leader at conflict management and willingly turns things around). But either way, YOU, have lost!
If you want to become a leader in conflict management, stop chasing the last word IN. Instead, choose to drive the conflict OUT. This doesn't mean that you "give-in" every time; it simply means that you choose to end conflict. Post this, you can still get your point of view across and cleverly win the game.
What we've been doing so far is helping you internalize this one supremely essential tip to master conflict management. Deal with YOURSELF, first.
Do YOU, WANT to resolve the conflict?
You see, you should first want resolution (and not retribution). If you really want this, you will find a way to make it happen. You will do whatever it takes FOR conflict management and resolution.
This cannot happen as long as you focus on the other party involved. With them involved, your first instinctual reaction is a vehement "NO," coz you're more likely to feel the wounded party (a stance that even the other side mimics/ feels). Only with time (and perhaps circumstantial coercion) will you turn the corner.
This choice naturally happens when you withdraw from the conflict and deal with yourself first.
Note: From here, it gets a LOT easier. You not only find the techniques (and intention) for conflict management, you also find the way to resolve it to your direction of choice.
Yes, you're now poised to take the driver's seat. Broadcast this by taking ownership.
The onus here is to take the focus away from finger pointing (a futile exercise that leads to more blame-games). When you turn your finger towards yourself, the other's attention is momentarily arrested so you now have the space to cleverly place your (re)solution.
At this point, it's okay for you to express your (still conflicting) opinion. But retain responsibility for your thoughts and feelings while you attack the problem, and not the personality.
In any conflict, the real problem arises from 2 opposing views on the same situation, never 2 persons. But as long as you focus on the person (who you consider an opponent in conflict), the real problem conveniently lays hidden.
Think it's too much? Let's consider this with an example.
A large construction site enforced safety standards for all its crew. The new project manager was adamant that these standards be followed, under all circumstances. His intention was simple: SAFETY first, always. On the other hand, the construction crew had been trained by the previous manager to work for a different paradigm: BUDGET first, always.
So when they ran short of helmets or safety harnesses, they simply made-do without it rather than pester the manager for more funds. As you can imagine, this led to frequent conflict between the new manager and his crew, as neither understood (or even listened) to the other's point of view. The funny thing was that both parties actually intended to help the other. The crew worried about the manager's budget constraints, and the manager himself was more worried about his crew's safety. They cared about each other, but were unable to express it right coz they were trying to do the other's job!
What do YOU think is the real problem here: the new manager's insistence on the safety of his crew, or the crew's respect for the manager's (initial) budget? Neither! The conflict arose simply because of 2 opposing points of view so neither party got the full picture. If they had stopped to consider the reason for the other's point of view, they would have moved to everybody-wins conflict management resolution in mere seconds!
If you too can single handedly focus on this, you will automatically invite the other party to reflect you too. From this space of mutual consent, a win-win solution can be found.
The word 'compromise' is often misunderstood as a weak stance, rendering you powerless against your opposition. In a conflict management scenario, nothing could be further from the truth.
Consider that you had a major argument at work with a colleague from another team. You had conflicting point of views, and each chose to stick to his viewpoint as it's all about being RIGHT!
Third-parties (and peacemakers) are aware enough to catch any party that is being stubborn in being right. This is the ego at play and wins you no supporters or brownie points during conflict. Becoming open to compromise is to let go of this stubbornness. This is the only key to unlock a win-win resolution, the only working solution that can come out of clear conflict management.
I bet this one caught your attention.
How the heck can you "back" your opponent, the one who is on the other side??
Well, if you're still sticking with that attitude, we suggest you go back to repeating steps 1-8, until you truly are ready for a compromise. This compromise can happen only when you also decide to let the other party win (remember, win-win solution).
This is the winning solution you want from conflict management and resolution. But, you have to play it right and save it for the last.
See, once your opponent has "won," in his language, he has nothing else to fight for. Why would he continue to fight you? He will graciously let you win too.
Most conflicts continue simply because we don't have the strength of mind to deal with the previous steps. But if we can patiently last through it, we will have become an absolute master at conflict management, not only to resolve conflict, but to drive home the winning solution (for you).
Finally, it's your response to the solution that decides whether the conflict has indeed been resolved, or has only been suppressed to erupt later.
A conflict management leader continues to make the best use of all ends. Even if the final solution was not exactly as per your initial intention, you now have a new asset in your toolbox – your erstwhile opponent has now turned into a potential friend!
This is the real winning solution that comes from any good conflict management resolution: to create even stronger human interactions.
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