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Loggerhead Sea Turtle
Marcia Gannon, Auburn University
The loggerhead sea turtle (Caretta caretta) is found globally within temperate and subtropical waters. Though the loggerhead sea turtle is the most common species of sea turtle found in Alabama, it is threatened by extinction in the state and throughout its habitat. These turtles nest seasonally along the shoreline of Alabama (Baldwin and Mobile Counties) and can also be found foraging off Alabama in the northeastern Gulf of Mexico.
Adult loggerhead sea turtles weigh between 220-400 pounds (90-180 kilograms) and are generally 35-42 inches (80-106 centimeters) long, measured by the carapace (upper shell). Adults range in color from light brown to red along the top (dorsal) shell and body. They are off-white to yellow on the bottom (ventral) shell (plastron) and body. Loggerhead sea turtles are named for their wide head and strong jaws. These powerful jaws are used for crushing food items such as crabs, horseshoe crabs, and mollusks, as well as various invertebrates.
Loggerhead sea turtles nest on Alabama beaches, from the Florida border to Dauphin Island. The majority of nesting occurs between Fort Morgan and Gulf Shores, between April and August. Hatchlings emerge from their nests after the eggs have incubated for 50-65 days. Females can lay an average of 115 eggs per nest and lay an average of five sets of eggs during the season. Female loggerheads return to nesting beaches close to where the female herself hatched. Loggerhead sea turtles leave a distinct track when they come ashore, and this is often helpful for biologists when several turtle species nest on the same beach. Female loggerhead sea turtles come ashore individually, usually at night, to dig nests for their eggs and prefer beaches with vegetation along the dunes and very little light and activity. Turtles may at any point prior to actually depositing eggs halt their efforts at creating a nest if they are disturbed and return to the water. Once a nesting female begins depositing eggs, however, she will continue until she has completed the nest.
In most animals, sex chromosomes (which carry genes) determine whether an individual is male or female, but in some reptiles, including sea turtles, sex is determined by the temperature of the sand during incubation. Warmer temperatures result in more females and cooler temperatures in more males. There is some variability of temperature within the nest and over the nesting period, so most nests produce at least some of each sex.
Loggerhead Sea Turtle Hatchlings
Once hatchlings leave the nest, they must make their way into the ocean surf and out to open water. The hatchlings will move with currents and floating sargassum (a type of seaweed found floating at the surface), surviving off floating invertebrates. Subadult loggerheads will return to near-shore waters to forage once they have grown to a size substantial enough to evade most predators. Loggerheads will become mature adults at approximately 65 years of age. At that time, females may migrate thousands of miles from foraging grounds to nesting beaches.
Loggerhead sea turtles are considered at risk of extinction throughout their global range. The National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration estimates that the global numbers of loggerhead sea turtles have decreased by approximately 47 percent within the last 50 years. The Center for Biological Diversity estimates there are approximately 50,000 loggerhead sea turtles worldwide. Within Alabama, sea turtle nest numbers varied from 235 nests in 2016 to 72 nests in 2018. The International Union for the Conservation of Nature's Red List describes the loggerhead sea turtle as "vulnerable" to extinction. The trade in loggerhead sea turtles and their parts is prohibited by the Convention on International Trade in Endangered Species of Fauna and Flora (CITES). Within the United States, loggerhead sea turtles are considered threatened and protected by the Endangered Species Act overseen by the U.S. Fish and Wildlife Service. Within Alabama, loggerhead sea turtles are rare and considered one of the species of highest conservation concern, therefore making them a priority in research and conservation efforts within the state. Loggerhead sea turtles are considered a nongame species within Alabama, further protecting them from hunting.
Natural threats to sea turtles include raccoons, feral hogs, and Atlantic ghost crabs (Geukensia demissa), all of which consume turtle eggs. Some predators, such as ghost crabs, and various species of fish (including sharks) may also consume hatchlings or smaller juveniles. As sea turtles increase in size, the numbers of predators decrease significantly, as the turtles become too large to swallow.
Aside from natural threats, loggerhead sea turtles face many threats from human activities. Fishing activities are a leading threat posed by humans. Loggerhead sea turtles are at risk for capture in gill nets, trawls, crab pots, and longlines, for example. Starting in the late 1980s, high sea turtle deaths from commercial shrimp trawling led to shrimp boats being required to acquire and use a Turtle Exclude Device (TED), which allowed sea turtles to escape the trawl while containing most of the shrimp. This device helped to increase the number of nesting females. Loggerhead sea turtles and fisheries also compete for certain food animals such as blue crabs (Callinectes sapidus) and horseshoe crabs (Limulus polyphemus). When humans gather too many of these, loggerheads in that area may go hungry. Loggerheads are also often injured or killed when they are struck by boats or their propellers.
Another human-imposed threat is beach development, which decreases the amount of nesting sites and increases light pollution in areas where beach is still available. Anthropogenic (or artificial) lighting can draw hatchlings in the wrong direction, where they may die in roads or dunes or parking lots. Buildings may also block sunlight and decrease the temperature of the sand, which can increase incubation periods and/or alter the sexes of the sea turtles that hatch from the nest.
Plastic pollution is also a human-imposed threat. Plastic bags and balloons may be mistaken for food and the sea turtle may eat it and die as a result. Plastics can also be barriers for nesting, sometimes trapping females as they make their way along the beach. Floating fishing gear, whether plastic or not, may entangle loggerheads and cause drowning and shell deformation. Fertilizers and other substances that end up in the oceans can spur the growth of substances such as algae that may release toxins into the water. The toxins may affect the loggerhead sea turtle through the food it eats.
Climate change (the global and/or regional change in climate attributed to the amount of carbon dioxide in the atmosphere) is another threat to loggerhead sea turtles. Changes in weather patterns, such as an increase in hurricanes, may destroy nests on beaches. Increased temperatures have the potential to change the amount of female and male sea turtles that hatch from nests. Climate change can even affect the currents of the ocean which may affect the amount of food available for sea turtles.
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The Entered Apprentice learns in the first degree lecture about the four cardinal virtues; Temperance, Fortitude, Prudence and Justice. Some brethren and I recently have been having a discussion about the topic of Justice, so I wanted to explore what it means in the Masonic sense.
Justice is that standard or boundary of right which enables us to render to every man without distinction his just due. This virtue is not only consistent with Divine and human laws, but is the very cement and support of civil society; and as Justice in a great measure constitutes the real good man, so should it be the invariable practice of every Mason never to deviate from the minutest principles thereof. The charge you received while standing in the northeast corner of the Lodge, your feet forming a right angle, was an allusion to the pedal.
So what does this mean in the Masonic Lodge? Our ritual frequently uses the phrase "in every well governed lodge". This makes reference to a set of principles of how lodges conduct their business, how the brethren interact with each other and how problems that arise within the lodge are ultimately dealt with.
A lodge is created with the granting of a charter from a Grand Lodge. The Grand Lodge has issued this charter based upon the rules of its own constitution and by-laws. This constitution and by-laws were created by a group of men – Masons, who agreed to utilize these common principles in the execution of the fraternal business.
Men become Masons through a process outlined within this constitution and by-laws via the ritual of our fraternity. The ritual illustrates through an allegorical story the important principals and lessons that serve as the basis for masonry.
Justice thus forms the very basis of our organization, it guides how we conduct our business, how we deal with issues that face us and provide the guidance in carrying out the actions necessary to keep peace and harmony within the institution.
We are thus taught not only the importance of our obligation, but also an approach to which it should be carried out.
What does this mean within the local lodge? As brethren we have an obligation, a responsibility and a duty to help each other in the seeing that our common goals, rules and high standards are maintained.
This can lead to some difficult choices at times, especially when you must "in the decision of every trespass against our rules, you are to judge with candor, admonish with friendship, and reprehend with justice".
These tasks are not to be taken lightly, but are often necessary to maintain harmony within the lodge, sustain our high moral standards and ultimately fulfill our obligations to each other.
To understand the first speculative understanding of justice I find it best to look at it from the philosophical views that would have influenced them, which it is reasonable to assume would be Kantian ethics.
Act only according to that maxim by which you can at the same time will that it should become a universal law.
Act in such a way that you treat humanity, whether in your own person or in the person of another, always at the same time as an end and never simply as a means.
A rational being must always regard himself as giving laws either as member or as sovereign in a kingdom of ends which is rendered possible by the freedom of will.


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Pickens to Obama: Oil Era Is Over & The Abundant Fossil Fuel You've Never Heard Of
December 6th, 2008 - by admin
Dave Hendricks / infoZine & Jeremy Kutner / The Christian Science Monitor – 2008-12-06 22:24:19
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Pickens to Obama: Oil Era Is Over
Dave Hendricks / infoZine
WASHINGTON, DC (December 04, 2008) — Scripps Howard Foundation Wire — infoZine — And while he's at it, Obama should offer $50,000 to anyone who modifies his or her 18-wheeler to run on natural gas instead of diesel, Pickens said. Speaking just blocks from the White House at an event sponsored by Republican speechwriters, Pickens pitched his now-famous plan to end America's reliance on imported oil.
"This is our last chance to get this problem straightened out," Pickens said. In 10 years, he warned, the US will import 75 percent of its oil — 9 percent more than it did in 2007, according to the government's oil wonks at the Energy Information Administration. And that oil will cost at least $250 a barrel, he said, more than five times what a barrel of crude oil cost in late November.
By his estimates, the country will shell out $10 trillion for foreign oil over the next decade if imports continue rising. Pickens calls this the greatest transfer of wealth in human history, a river of money he says only natural gas can stop.
Pickens, who made his fortune in oil during the 1980s, now runs BP Capital Management, a hedge fund savaged by the recession. One path to recovery, for both the economy and Pickens' investments, is his plan to build huge wind farms to free up natural gas for cars.
Wind farms across the Midwest could supply 20 percent of the country's electricity, replacing the chunk now generated with natural gas. That gas could power cars, an idea Pickens has pitched in numerous TV commercials.
Building thousands of wind turbines across the Midwest would create jobs and shore up Pickens' hefty investment in wind power. His company, Mesa Power, plans to build the world's largest wind farm in Pampa, Texas, once the credit crisis clears up. Unable to secure financing, Pickens was forced to delay the project last month.
Pickens met with Obama and Republican candidate Sen. John McCain, R-Ariz., before the election but did not endorse either one.
"President-elect Obama, I think, understands this issue pretty well," Pickens said.
Despite falling oil prices and uncertainty about the future of wind power, Pickens emphasized that oil is the past, not the future.
"Don't look for cheap oil," Pickens said. "That's over with, it's done."
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The Abundant Fossil Fuel You've Never Heard Of
Jeremy Kutner / The Christian Science Monitor
(December 3, 2008) —At the edges of the Alaskan permafrost, a consortium of government and oil industry scientists are preparing to drill. They aim to tap one of the largest potential energy sources ever discovered, and one that few people have ever heard of: flammable ice crystals packed with hydrocarbons, called methane gas hydrates.
The project, a joint effort between BP, the United States Geological Survey (USGS), and the Department of Energy is set to begin in late 2009 or 2010 and marks the first large-scale production test of this unconventional substance. The group is nearing agreement on a drill site.
Hydrates have been hailed as a paradigm shift in how to achieve energy independence and as a massively abundant source of cleaner-burning natural gas. Others fear it represents an environmental disaster in the making. Until recently it was thought too dangerous and too costly to extract to be of use.
That view is beginning to change. In a recently released report, the USGS for the first time announced details of large hydrate reserves in the Alaskan permafrost that should be recoverable using existing technology. The vast field could hold as much as 85 trillion cubic feet of gas – an amount far less than the dream scenarios put forward in the past, but still massive. Even more important, such movement makes the possibility of getting at the mother lode of hydrate resources – those located offshore – increasingly realistic.
"I never thought this would happen so quickly," says Carolyn Ruppel, a USGS research geophysicist who was heavily involved in prior hydrate research expeditions, referring to the planned production test. While the number of proposed drilling programs is small and significant obstacles remain, "there has been a real change these past four years," Dr. Ruppel says. "It's partially from market pressures."
Underlying the interest in hydrates is their astonishing abundance – and the fact that they exist domestically in Alaska and the Gulf of Mexico. Their appeal is even greater for countries like Japan and India, which have strained oil or gas reserves but abundant hydrate deposits offshore.
A survey of hydrate estimates published in 2007 put US reserves at around 5,700 trillion cubic feet: "Even this later figure … is [about] 150 times the 95-percent-_confidence-level estimate of US conventional natural gas reserve," survey author Ruppel wrote, "and [about] 900 times the current annual gas consumption in the US."
Major hydrate research programs have cropped up in resource-constrained countries like South Korea, India, China, and – most notably – Japan, where Edie Allison of the Department of Energy estimates the government has sunk about $200 million into hydrate research.
In 2007, Japan partnered with Canada to conduct a six-day production test in the permafrost to gain technical knowledge that could help fuel efforts to tap Japan's vast undersea hydrate resources, perhaps the only major hydrocarbon reservoir that country has left.
The results were encouraging, but still an order of magnitude away from justifying large-scale commercial exploitation, says Gordon Pospisil, technology and resource manager for BP Exploration (Alaska) Inc., which is leading the 2009 Alaskan production test. Production would need to be "about a thousand times higher for this to be clearly economical."
Malcolm Lall, coordinator of the Indian National Hydrate Pro_gram, says hydrate re__sources off the Indian coast are too large to ignore. Hydrate potential there "is sufficient for the energy needs of India for the next 15 years," he says. "We're taking this very seriously." More energy in__de__pendence is a huge in___centive, he says, and India hopes to do production tests as early as 2013. "The government has given this a lot of priority … [to] get hydrates commercially viable," he says. "Let's see who gets it first."
International and industry researchers will watch the progress of the BP/USGS test. It may, if things go well, turn gas hydrates from curiosity to solid energy policy. Because of the hydrates' out-of-the-way locations, attractive production rates are necessary for industry and government to consider the vast, costly infrastructure of pipelines and cooling stations needed to get the stuff to market. "The general consensus is that you can expect production problems similar to those of conventional resources," says Tim Collett, USGS's lead hydrate research geologist.
Safety concerns also remain. Drilling turns solid hydrates into gas, but this process actually cools the gas, threatening to turn newly liberated gas bubbles back into solid hydrates in the middle of the drill itself – a dangerous prospect. Many also worry that drilling into hydrates might release clouds of gas that could start an underwater landslide. But most experts say that as knowledge of methane hydrates improves, drilling sites are moving away from high-risk areas.
Whether hydrates represent a key to domestic energy independence or an unnecessary risk is unclear. Hydrates represent a dramatic addition to natural gas resources, but natural gas, despite being cleaner than coal or oil, is still a fossil fuel that produces greenhouse gases. And raw methane, should it escape into the air, is more than 20 times as potent a greenhouse gas as CO2.
"If you still want to produce CO2, natural gas is much better than coal, but as a geoscientist I just get angry that you ever have to burn methane or coal," says Keith Kvenvolden, formerly of the USGS who has been studying hydrates for more than 30 years.
What are methane gas hydrates?
Trapped in ice crystals beneath the arctic permafrost and deep below the ocean is a volatile store of energy so vast that it could redefine world politics.
The mystery substance is methane gas hydrates, solid blocks of ice stuffed with methane gas molecules – natural gas. They are found all over the globe in such astoundingly large amounts that early estimates stated that there were more hydrates than all other fossil fuels combined. Better-informed estimates have tamped down those early figures, but hydrate reserves are still thought to be enormous.
Hydrates, which look like chunks of ice, were first brought to world attention in the mid-1960s by Russian scientists. Hydrates are compounds of water molecules that form under pressure and at low temperatures. They are like ice "cages" that trap gas molecules inside as they freeze.
Hydrate water molecules are very accommodating: An ice cage consisting of a single molecule of frozen water can theoretically hold 160 gas molecules – meaning that finding just a small amount of hydrate can mean a lot of harvestable gas. And while hydrates can suck up a wide range of gases, the most common one is methane, clean-burning natural gas. Hydrates look like chunks of ice. You can even hold them in your hand – or light them on fire.
When the Soviets failed to find a way to exploit them, hydrates became little more than an academic curiosity for three decades. Barriers to exploration were large. The most abundant hydrates were thought to exist only in places forbidding to commercial exploration: in the arctic permafrost and scattered along continental margins under the sea.
No one knew how best to find them.
Rising oil prices, energy-security concerns, and better science has renewed interest in hydrates, which, it turns out, can be harvested much the way natural gas is, even though hydrates are solid.
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ACC Section 221 Response ACC finally presents its um reasoning. I respond in turn.
Here it is people. You are the first to read it. ACC v Cassandra now goes into it's end game now that the Corporation has finally presented its so called position.
36. I note that ACC is considered an Employer despite the Corporation paying its infamous 80% of Nil Calculation. We see that ACC is paying 0.00 but it is evident that this taxpayer is showing up on the IRD process as a person entitled to be receiving Claimant Compensation.
I still have to send the email response so I picked it up.
For the record the final and actual copy is in the ACC v Cassandra post.
I must say the silence is interesting.
I will be making a couple of small adjustments and sending that missive out this morning. Glad I took a moment as it will allow me to cover the issue Grant has raised which I am certain is cured by the Section 6 definition linking straight to RD3 (1) as opposed to RD 3 as a general consideration. I also note there was a view that my last letter would not achieve what I wanted. It very much has. What I was wanting was for the Corporation to provide its legal interpretation so I could pin it down and get my fangs into it. This has been achieved. Apparently someone decided to educate me on the legislation. More fool them. 8 months of stone walling is now over and I can now unleash a rolling waves of legal and political processes which will result in this matter being fully exposed to the wider public.
The Corporation's reasoning is so flawed it beggars belief. The result I believe of ACC Legal and Accounting having a fondness for constructs.
I note that the IOA Response has no individual named on it and it is an official document. So I will post it here so everyone can see the full official response. My updated response will be ready soon.
Is someone receiving erc considered to and teated as if working and earning? Yes.Therefore ACC levies must be paid from those erc earnings to cover the insurable risk.
Lupine it appears that you have deleted a portion of my posting and added your own comments as if it was mine. Please make the necessary corrections so as not to cause any misunderstandings by the readership As the portion of my comments you have deleted is an important contribution to this discussion and does require serious thought.
As I said PAYE Income Payments are not limited to Salary and Wages.
Also despite the fact I have in no way implied otherwise "EARNINGS" is not limited to PAYE. That is why Section 222 exists.
The argument is whether ACC has missed a class of PAYE Income Payment being Schedular Payments from the entire levy process thus unlawfully denying the entitlements that correspond to that levy process. The answer is YES.
Woo that's a good one. They just about did any legal stuff you need for review or court. Good read and excellent outcome for your client.
Probably got them going that by answering that they good let Mr Pickering off the hook.
Not hard once you have it laid out for you by the so called professionals eh?
ACC probably went to IRD of the answer.
Besides Lupine is still working on it, so the outcome is not here yet.
It is interesting that such a move can be made by others on our posts. That used to be an admin job. Considering you are looking for information of the nature of illegal harassment against you, it would be well worth you following suit. In face I have some of mine that has been changed by yourself.
I am troubled by your use of the word "income" in ACC context in reliance upon PAYE interpretation of the meaning of the word as the ACC may only involve itself with earnings which of course which is only part of income that is capable of being taxed. It seems to me that you are considering that ACC are entitled to levy income that is not earnings. Please clarify your understanding by using the correct terminology is the starting point so as we may properly understand what your viewpoint is rather than just guess what your viewpoint is as I think the ACC seem to have done.
With the letter that Lupine wrote to the ACC one would have thought that he already understood what he was trying to say. Now you are trying to say that he has not properly formed his rationale yet which I find incredible given the ferocity of the letter as if he did have a valid legal argument.
BUT they have just told you that scheduler payments are similar to Progressive payments therefore it would be three times a year to the tax dept with the income from the business. That would mean no ACC Levy until the end of the final year or even the beginning of first part of the next year as under provision tax, ACC Levy cannot be claimed as an expence until it has been paid to IRD. Although, I think I saw where ACC said that they collect your clients data, not the IRD. BUT check it out, because it needs to be.
Lupine has not given us his complete argument. Concerning the last part he has said here if I remember correct is "dah dah dah and if so the answer is Yes". Meaning has Acc missed a meaning for x type of taxation on income.
So as I see it he is still working on his problem. BUT obviously he knows in what direction he is going and what the discrepancy he has there. As I said previously the answer is in front of him and more so now, just like the answer to your problem is in front of you.
Because Tommy Alan Tommy is too busy trying to glean answers to his problems from others post. As no one problems are identical, this is foolish, he should be doing the exercise of collecting his own data from his own discrepancies he has found, having being made from the ACC or anyone else.
It appears he is hoping that all the answers will just appear up here, from others hard work.


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Gender Creative Life
Observations while raising my beautiful, trans & gender nonconforming child
GftT
Fishing in a Sea of Grief
A version of this was republished at The Huffington Post under the title: How I Chased My Gender Creative Child's Bullies Away
I know there are people who don't understand why, or don't agree with the fact that my family is out & proud, advocating publicly for our youngest, gender creative child. That's okay. They don't need to understand or agree with us because it's our family, and it's what's right for us, right now. But we know there are people who don't understand (though they might, if they cared to simply ask us). And we know there are people who disagree (though they're judging only what they can see on the surface, and are all too happy to tell us).
There could be many reasons. Maybe they don't know that my son Charlie encouraged me to write more publicly about him, something beyond my little blog with 2 subscribers. I'd been keeping journals my entire life. I always loved writing, and called it my brain-purging; my therapy. My youngest child actually wanted his story told. Before I ever went public, he heard the first piece I wrote about him and said, "Mom, I not only want you to do this; you have to do this." Charlie, though very young at heart, has always been wiser than his years. So I listened. And I auditioned. And then I read some of my writing for an audience for the first time ever, in the Listen to Your Mother Show.
LTYM was a turning point in my life. The thanks all goes to mom blogger and humoritst Ann Imig, LTYM founder, and local producers Marty Long and KeAnne Hoeg, who heard something in my audition piece they found worthy of a larger audience. LTYM was a place of tremendous growth for me. I was collaborating for the first time with powerful women who were published and accomplished writers in every genre from young adult lit to poetry. At the core of it, though, we were all mothers. Political differences aside, we all understood the literary theme of unconditional love.
This cast of writers changed my entire outlook on life. I began to understand the importance of hearing individual stories. Really hearing, without judgment, without envisioning things through the rose tinted lenses of cis, hetero, white privilege. There was a special kind of juxtaposition in peacefully sitting and hearing someone else's narrative, and then agonizingly sitting and feeling quite a bit of my own discomfort that needed confronting.
Maybe people don't know that Charlie also wanted to meet other kids out there just like him. And that's exactly what has happened, in spades. First, with the launch of our (now official) program of the LGBT Center, S.E.A.R.CH. (Safe Environment for the Acceptance of Rainbow CHildren), Charlie has met several local gender creative and *transgender children. More than anyone would've thought are out there.
As a result of our support group and advocacy, Charlie has gender creative and transgender 10-year-old pals across the world now. Conversely, because of my child's bravery, hundreds more kids and adults have reached out to us in confidence, or have "come out." Just this weekend, Charlie received a large envelope of "fan mail" from the Prospect High School GSA, in San Jose, California. Charlie's "viral" story from September had reached them, and they were compelled to reach out to us. Inside were dozens of handmade cards relaying messages of love. He nearly cried tears of joy as he thoroughly read each one. When he got to the last two, he said, "Oh no… just two left… I don't want this to end."
Victory pose. Charlie's true personality shines through when he wears what he wants to wear.
Thankfully, the messages of love on this family journey from acceptance to advocacy have spoken SO MUCH LOUDER than the messages of hate. But the hate is still out there, and we know that.
But here's the thing. We continue to be public advocates because you can't be a silent advocate. Just like you can't unconditionally love your child, but then tell them you "don't accept" the part that they are LGBTQ+. And also, we do it because someone has got to stand up to the bullying, and in the process, "fish" for other advocates. If you sit idly by and watch someone get bullied, and you do nothing to stop it, you're just as guilty as the bully. We teach that lesson in elementary school.
And here's the other thing. Ever since we went public with Charlie's story, that was the moment that localized, to-his-face teasing and harassment ended. Sure, he still gets asked "are you a boy or a girl?" by the younger kids at school. But I'll take that any day over what was being said to him before.
Most importantly for us, though, was this: the moment we went public was the moment that Charlie came out of a year-long battle with crippling depression and crisis-mode anxiety. At 8 and 9 years old. You can't imagine how excruciating it is to watch a child so young be in so much distress because the universe is trying to put them in a box where they don't fit.
You may not believe a child is capable of such "adult" emotions like anxiety or depression. But I'm the one who kneeled beside him, up to three times a week at the toilet in the school's health room bathroom, for 45 minutes a stretch, holding a cold, wet paper towel on his neck as my baby shook and vomited relentlessly from the anxiety he had been holding in all morning. Were you there? If so, you would've seen firsthand that anxiety and depression can indeed thrive in children.
I was there when the teacher came to get me and let me know my child was having what she thought was an anxiety attack. He was. I took him out of the room and talked him off the ledge. Many times. I wiped his tears and hugged him tight, I reassured him, "no, you're not gay. You'll figure that out when you're older, and if you are gay, still, there's nothing wrong with that, and we will still love you no matter what." Were you there for that difficult conversation?
I was there helping comfort him during eight years of very painful encopresis. Which I had to figure out all on my own because the pediatrician kept saying, "just give him more Miralax." I didn't know then that it was behavioral. I didn't know then it was typical of gender creative and transgender children. But I knew his pain wasn't normal, despite what the doctors said. I carried his extra clothes and cleaning/sterilizing supplies everywhere we went, every day, just in case of accidents. Were you there offering help?
Every morning as I drove him to school, my once chipper, non-stop talker of a child became more and more withdrawn, until he was eventually curled up in a ball on the seat next to me, not wanting to live another day because his life felt so incongruent with his mind and his reality. After months of this, I realized it was more important to have an alive child than a stereotypically conforming child.
I offered him medication. I told him there was helpful therapy and medications for someone with such severe depression and anxiety. But, this child was terrified of pills and at age 8 1/2, had still not taken a single pill his entire life. We had to specifically request oral antibiotics for this reason. One particularly violent anxiety-laden vomiting episode when I was holding his head so he wouldn't bash it on the toilet, I was there when he looked up at me afterwards with bloodshot eyes and said, "I think I'm ready to take the pills now." In that moment of realization, that moment where my baby child realized he would need to conquer some pretty huge phobias in order to get better, were you there?
When we embraced Charlie and spoke publicly, affirming all the things that our son is, when we began advocating for him, and giving love without conditions, that was the moment we took back the bullying language. Yes, he is feminine. No, there's nothing wrong with that. No, it's not related to sexuality. He's not even thinking in those terms yet. But however he ends up – whether that's hyper-masculine jock, swishy gay, or asexual – we will still love without conditions. And he will not look back on this time with embarrassment, but with pride, because we've taught him to take pride in his whole self. We've taught him that "feminine" does not equal "less than."
Here is a recent article where yet another trans woman, Lizzy, took her life. I have a friend who was friends with Lizzy. My friend also has a young, openly public transgender daughter. About the article on Lizzy, my friend stated:
"TW (trigger warning): it has some screen grabs of what the neo-nazi haters were saying. As for the troll website that taunted her for years, I checked it. They've posted about my daughter, too. No one in the trans community is immune from this kind of hate."
These horrific, trolling comments on social media are indicative of our entire political climate right now. There are lots of us living in a sea of grief. It's not because we're sore losers, either. Our desired candidates have lost many times over and we dealt with it. But this is not normal.
Out there in that sea of rational, sane people are many who worry that our President-elect will do exactly what he said he would do. We see basic human rights on the cusp of being completely obliterated, which is entirely possible, because right now, we are living in an unprecedented level of lunacy. All the progress of the past 60 years could very well be gone sooner rather than later. For those of us who have been working in the trenches to gain and preserve the rights of marginalized people, outsiders have no idea the danger we feel right now. We genuinely saw firsthand our country becoming more accepting, more forgiving, more loving. All of that seemed to vanish overnight with this election.
Yes, I get that a whole population of educated, intelligent working class Americans felt marginalized, and were tired of the "same old, same old." But if they think Trump is the answer, a sociopath who only does things that benefit the Trump name, and who pridefully admits to living off of OPM (Other People's Money), then they are in for the worst letdown of us all.
I could go on about Hillary-haters, too. The fact of the matter is, she's a politician. All politicians lie. It goes with the territory. But, if people invested as much time doing their own valid source research on her as they did sharing memes on social media, they might have learned things like how Benghazi was not Hillary's fault. The Republican Congress cut funding for remote embassies. That was why Benghazi was in danger, and it was therefore Congress to blame for those deaths – not Hillary. This is often the case, especially when one party holds the senate and house majority.
As an out and proud mom raising 3 kids, one of which who happens to self-identify as gender creative, I've been doing everything I can for my political and social responsibilities. Until we speak up and out against the bullies, they will not be hushed. In order to thrive, the bully depends on your silence. No LGBTQ+ person should have to be scared of coming out. No black mother should have to fear her son being attacked every time he leaves the house.
And us white, cis, straight, Christian people have got to get over ourselves. Discrimination is not about you not getting to say Merry Christmas to a diverse crowd (such as parents at a school performance.) Discrimination is more like inappropriate jokes, insults, or name-calling directed at a person because of their race, color, sexual orientation, sex or gender. Discrimination is not the fact that you don't get to celebrate a "white history month." Discrimination is the fact that black people make up only 13% of the American population, and 14% of the monthly drug users, but are 37% of the people arrested for drug-related offenses in America.
In a society where swastikas are being painted in various places, and that behavior is beginning to become normalized (I literally just overheard a news story on a kid who decorated birthday cupcakes with swastikas for a Jewish friend, to be "funny", and I simply shook my head, because I've been hearing swastikas happening over and over again to the point where it's becoming normalized), we cannot be complacent.
So, I speak and write openly and honestly about not only my gender creative son, but about other marginalized populations, especially as I hear more individual stories, and as I learn more. I am writing my family's narrative, because I know it's also the narrative of hundreds, if not thousands of people, who, despite their numbers, are still marginalized. I write in hopes of reaching and maybe even saving that one person on the brink of suicide, like Lizzy. I write honestly. I am fishing for people drowning in a sea of grief. Are you there?
*As a sidebar, for those who don't know, when we refer to transgender children, they are only allowed to transition socially (meaning if a child was assigned male at birth – and that's what they are, assigned, because a doctor looks at their outward genitals and says, 'it's a boy,' or 'it's a girl,' but some children are born intersex, meaning they have a penis AND ovaries, just for one example out of hundreds. Their gender is up for grabs, and only they can decipher that as they get older – A penis alone does not make a boy male.) For example, if a child is assigned male at birth, but knows in their head they are female, then they would live with a female gender expression. A born-male who feels female might grow his hair long and wear stereotypical 'girls' clothing, for example. At puberty, if they are transgender, they *may* take hormone blockers, which are 100% reversible, and which have been used safely since the 1950s in longitudinal studies. Any surgical procedures are not done until adulthood. I thought it important to include this sidebar, because I recently found several people on an online forum discussing how "dangerous and sad it is that kids are allowed to be on life-altering drugs and have gender reassignment surgeries." That's one of those dangerous perpetual myths about trans people that just won't die. Hopefully this clears it up.
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2 thoughts on "Fishing in a Sea of Grief"
loveonastick says:
Wow! I think you're courageous and brilliant and a fantastic mum!
Patti says:
More evidence you are doing the right thing for your child! You are saving her/his life! =)
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Martie Todd Sirois (pronounced 'sir-ROY') is a writer whose work has been frequently featured on HuffPost, Medium, Scary Mommy, and several other media outlets. Martie is also the mom who wrote & posted a letter on social media in 2016 that went viral, thanking the tween girls' clothing store Justice. In the turbulent aftermath of her state's notorious anti-LGBTQ law, HB2 (the "bathroom bill"), Martie wanted to thank Justice for giving her (then, gender creative son) a wonderful and affirming experience despite local government trying to mandate public accommodations (including bathrooms, locker rooms, and changing facilities) to be gender segregated exclusively by the sex indicated on one's birth certificate. She hoped by making her Facebook post public, she could let her local LGBTQ+ community know that this store was an affirming environment for TGNC kids. She never expected it to go viral, but within a few days of publishing it, that letter had been shared over 25,000 times, and two years later, continues to be circulated widely around the internet, with new people discovering it and seeking Martie out to relay how much her letter touched them for various reasons. Martie has also been featured on BuzzFeed, Upworthy, That Odd Mom, Spoke for Red Tricycle, The Good Men Project, Today Show Parenting Community, and many other media outlets. Some of her work has been translated and syndicated worldwide. While she has enjoyed a 30+ year "hobby career" performing on stage as an award-winning actress in both musical and non-musical theatre, Martie now enjoys using her free time to write about any and everything - but mostly about life with three children, the youngest of whom has been gender non-conforming since the age of 2 1/2 years old. In the process of learning how best to support a TGNC child who avidly swims against the current, Martie has also unwittingly (but lovingly) become a speaker, educator, and advocate for the LGBTQ and especially, the TGNC (trans and gender non-conforming) communities. As someone who "writes for therapy" and has kept numerous journals all her life, Martie got her first public and professional writing experience when she read some of her blog material out loud for the first time ever, in an audition, and was then cast in the national live reading event series, Listen To Your Mother (RDU, 2016). For eight years, LTYM gave local writers across all 50 states and Canada a platform to read their original work on motherhood (or about mothers) before a live audience, and to have their readings enshrined forever on the YouTube LTYM channel. LTYM opened up many opportunities for Martie, starting with sharing some of her work on WUNC Radio's (NPR affiliate, NC) "The State of Things" with Frank Stasio. (LTYM, founded by Ann Imig, concluded its eight-year run with a national series finale in 2017.) For her writing, Martie has also been interviewed by John Fugelsang on SiriusXM Insight's "Tell Me Everything, With John Fugelsang;" by The Washington Post; by Kind World of WBUR Radio (NPR, Boston); and she particpated with her husband and TGNC child in "StoryCorps," the prestigious Peabody award-winning podcast that shares important unscripted conversations, with weekly broadcasts debuting on NPR's "Morning Edition." Martie's family's story was one of the recorded stories chosen by StoryCorps to be publicly aired in or around September of 2017. Martie is also the founder and leader of S.E.A.R.CH. (Safe Environmient for the Acceptance of Rainbow CHildren), a program of the LGBT Center of Raleigh, that serves as a playgroup for TGNC children ages 12 and under, and as a discussion group for parents. S.E.A.R.CH. also has a secret Facebook group which currently allows over 260 members, from all over the country and beyond, to celebrate, and have connections with other parents & caregivers supportively raising TGNC children. Martie has proudly served on The Family Equality Council, (Southern Advisory Board), and greatly enjoys opportunities to guest lecture or speak on gender, inclusiveness, gender diversity, and the issues facing TGNC people. She has presented on these topics at a range of locations, from public universities like NCSU, to more private settings among public school guidance counselor meetings. Martie also spoke on a panel that presented on the topic of creating safe & inclusive spaces for LGBTQ+ students, in the Safe Schools of NC's annual Conference for Educators. When not working or writing, Martie loves living and volunteering in her hometown in NC with her husband, Matt, their three beautiful children, and their two peculiar but lovable pets. Visit her online at: www.gendercreativelife.com Twitter: @TheMartieSirois
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This picture remains one of the mystery films in The Museum of Modern Art's collection of Edison negatives. Though often dated 1903, this film probably made in the summer of 1904 or even the summer of 1905. Never released commercially, it was almost certainly commissioned by a showman, perhaps to be projected as part of a stage play, bridging two acts. Rector's on Broadway was one of New York's most popular restaurants. A man falls off a tally-ho and gives chase all the way uptown, passing by Grant's Tomb.
A SUBURBANITE'S INGENIOUS ALARM's slapstick humor centers on a commuter's attempts to find a foolproof way to wake up in the morning.
Indebted to other comedies of the period, LAUGHING GAS is based on the premise that laughter is contagious.
A comic intersection of various early stock characters that frequently appear in popular American culture. The end result, in this case, is chaos.
A single-shot comedy staged against a painted backdrop, in which a boy plans to play a trick on a drunken rube, only to be outwitted by his intended victim.


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Non-stop to Berlin
Auf der Strecke. Ein Fall für Berlin und Wien
by Claus-Ulrich Bielefeld, Petra Hartlieb
Diogenes Verlag
April 2011 / 368pp
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Set in Berlin and Vienna, this elegant and sophisticated literary whodunnit thrives on the cultural rivalry between the two capitals, and on the personality clash between the lively and outspoken Viennese detective, Anna Habel, and her sceptical colleague from Berlin, Thomas Bernhardt.
On the night train from Vienna to Berlin, up-and-coming young writer Xaver Pucher – 'a would-be German Bret Easton Ellis, an amoral moralist' – is brutally strangled. Habel, herself a lover of literature, is charged with investigating his murder. Hoping for guidance in what seems an overwhelmingly complex case, she reluctantly contacts Bernhardt. Between them, they begin their enquiries.
Events take a turn for the worse when Pucher's agent, a key witness, is found murdered. Bernhardt is assaulted at the scene of the crime and begins to suspect that money is the true motive behind the murders. After three days of misunderstandings over the phone, the two detectives finally meet to attend Pucher's funeral. Next morning, Habel awakens to the news that Pucher's former lover has attempted suicide in an apartment belonging to a rival author. As the plot unravels, links come to light between a property tycoon with roots in the former East Germany on the one hand and the Austrian communist party on the other, with the dandy Pucher mixed up in the middle. Finally Habel, who was convinced all along that the 'solution lies in the manuscript', manages to decipher the ominous text of Pucher's last manuscript.
The plot is seamless and the style consistently elegant and witty. The joint authors skilfully produce distinct differences in tone and emphasis between the two settings. The descriptions of the many faces of Berlin, past and present, are strikingly evocative and succinct, clearly written by somebody who knows the city and its people inside out. The tone of the Viennese chapters is livelier and more openly humorous. There is a delightful scene in which Habel accompanies the forensic experts through her recently burgled flat, utterly distraught at the sight of her belongings scattered throughout her bedroom. She then shows them to her sixteen-year-old son Florian's room, with an equally detailed description of the chaos awaiting them, only to remark that, no, the burglar clearly hadn't entered that room.
A literature-lover's crime novel par excellence.
Claus-Ulrich Bielefeld was born in 1947 in Bad Schwalbach. He studied German, sociology and philosophy. He currently works as a literary editor for Berlin-Brandenburg Radio, and as a literary critic for numerous newspapers.
Petra Hartlieb was born in Munich in 1967 and grew up in northern Austria. She studied psychology and history in Vienna, and then worked as a PR representative and a literary critic in Vienna and Hamburg. Since 2001, she has run a bookshop in Vienna with her husband.
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I have noticed a problem with the sequencing of Hub capsules when viewed on different devices. I always use a desktop or laptop computer to compose and read my pages, and I frequently use text capsules side by side, with one tinted blue or grey to emphasise that the two blocks of text are separate. This format makes for an attractive layout.
On a larger monitor, with these capsules side by side, the natural tendency will always be to read the left capsule first. Then the right. And so that is how I would arrange the content, so that the left side text will be read BEFORE the text in the right capsule.
But looking at the mobile / cell phone preview facility, I see that on a phone screen, the text in the left sided box will be placed lower on the screen and will be read AFTER the text in the right capsule. In other words, the order of reading the text will be very different for mobile users to those who read on a larger screen. That will often lead to the hub appearing disjointed or illogically sequenced.
There is a secondary issue with this, which is probably not solvable. If there is an association between the two capsules I might refer to the right side capsule as the text 'opposite' or 'on the right'. On a phone screen, these references will also be rendered inaccurate.
As far as the main issue is concerned, I would certainly want the facility to have side by side text capsules retained for larger screen users - it helps make HubPages by far the most readable and attractive of all sites of this kind. But could the layout sequence at least be redesigned so that the left side capsule viewed on a desktop or laptop, will be viewed first on a cell phone device - the sequence in which it would be intended to be read?
I have a desktop and I usually read the 'tinted' text first anyway since the left one is longer. So instead of moving the page down and going back I just read the right one first and then the left and then move the page down. I did not know that there was supposed to be any order.
It's not that there is 'supposed' to be an order Examiner-1; it's just that it is normal to read the left side first, just as it has always been normal for one to read the left page of a book first. I'm sure that most people would do this on a large screen that allows these to be placed side by side. But on a phone screen, the right side capsule gets placed first on the screen. It would be helpful if the right side capsule was placed second on the screen. Thanks, Alun.
Perhaps you should take a survey.
Is it seen this way on all phones: as in phones made before a certain year or lower than a certain price.
These days they have so many different mobile phones: up and down, sideways, Smartphones, and so on. Some may see it differently.
I know I try to save right text formats for bullet or numerical summaries. If used this way, there is less concern for the order in which side-by-side texts are read. Good luck with your issue!
If the sequence isn't changed by HubPages then it may be we will have to consider the layout of hubs much more carefully in future in the way you suggest, to ensure that the right-sided column of text (or indeed a photo on the right side of a hub) can fit logically into the article before the text which is next to it on the left side. But hopefully the sequence can be changed in the way I suggest. Thanks for your good wishes Marie. Alun.
This happened to me on an Iphone, and .It did create a disorganized hub. Layouts of these different ways of reading a hub create some issues.
Thanks Brake12. Once upon a time when we all read newspapers and books, everybody saw the page(s) laid out exactly in the way the author intended. Now with a variety of electronic formats, it's much more difficult to be sure how an article will appear to a reader, and to ensure each section of text as well as photos etc are viewed in the right order.
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Food Allergies And Intolerance Diet, Diet Therapy, Food Allergies And Intolerance What To Eat
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botryoid sarcoma
symptoms of botryoid sarcoma, early symptoms and signs of botryoid sarcoma
How To Prevent botryoid Sarcoma, Nursing Measures For botryoid Sarcoma
Introduction To Botryoid Sarcoma-Symptoms-Treatment-Nursing-Diet
Symptoms of botryoid sarcoma
Typical symptoms: When the tumor grows to a certain size, the child has vaginal bloody discharge or irregular vaginal bleeding. At the same time, it is accompanied by a tumor in the vagina, especially when the child is crying, and when the abdominal pressure is applied, the tumor can be seen protruding from the vaginal opening
At the onset of the disease, there are usually no special manifestations. When the tumor grows to a certain size, the child has vaginal bloody discharge or irregular vaginal bleeding. At the same time, there is a tumor in the vagina, especially when the child is crying, and the tumor can be seen protruding from the vaginal opening when the abdominal pressure is applied.
Typical botryoid sarcoma is not difficult to diagnose, but because of its low early manifestations, most tumors have reached a considerable size at the time of diagnosis. For infants with abnormal discharge or suspicious performance, vaginal examination should be performed as soon as possible, and a biopsy should be taken immediately for histological diagnosis if the tumor is found. Stage diagnosis: FIGO stages are as follows:
Stage 0: Carcinoma in situ.
Stage I: The cancer is confined to the vaginal wall.
Stage II: The cancer has invaded the tissues around the vagina, but has not reached the pelvic wall.
Stage III: The cancer has reached the pelvic wall.
Stage IV: The cancer has exceeded the true pelvis or has clinically affected the bladder and rectal mucosa.
Stage Ⅳa: The tumor invades adjacent organs or directly expands out of the true pelvis.
Stage IVb: The tumor has spread to distant organs.
botryoid Sarcoma Diet, Diet, What To Eat For botryoid Sarcoma
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Complications Of botryoid Sarcoma, What Diseases Will botryoid Sarcoma Cause?
How To Diagnose And Differentiate botryoid Sarcoma-botryoid Sarcoma Is Easy To Confuse The Disease
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Neonatal Hypoxic-ischemic Encephalopathy
Nodular Polyarteritis Scleritis


It can seem daunting when you are experiencing energetic shift after energetic shift. We wish for you to understand that it is a great indicator of your success on your enlightenment journey.
You are now able to navigate rapidly shifting energies better than ever before. There are several reasons for this. You have gained skill both in the areas of release and of integration. You are accepting of the fact that good self care is required and are learning to listen to your body and allow it to take the lead. Your trust is much better developed in the process which is allowing you to stay in a space of acceptance which makes shifting with far greater grace, ease, and comfort possible.
The activation of your lightbody and the embodiment of more and more of your highest self is a complex process that is intricate and intelligent. Your body and your soul know exactly what they are doing. If you are feeling overwhelmed energetically, ask for assistance. We are here to help! Also understand that there may be times where you need to isolate yourself temporarily to allow your energetic processes to occur. These times will not last one second longer than necessary and will lead you to deeper connection in the long run.
It can be very beneficial to begin a shift journal where you track your own unique symptoms and how they correlate with astrological elements, solar activity, or other energetic events. Making notes on how your body responds and what brings your comfort and relief will be very helpful to look back on, especially since when you are in the throes of energetic adjustment you enter into a shifted space which can make it difficult to remember what worked later on.
You will be able to, with your awareness, tell exactly what is happening energetically simply by listening to your body. You will get to the point where you will be so adept at knowing what is going on based on how your body is responding that you will no longer need to rely on external sources to tell you what is occurring energetically.
It is yet another way you are moving into being a willing dance partner with the universe and embracing your own mastery and connection with the whole. The more you are able to understand your own unique responses to energies, the more you will also start to see the energetic effect you have on others and different environments, as well, because you will have developed a deeper sense of knowingness and awareness within yourself and for the ever evolving energy you hold.


The space and atmosphere at Unsound created a unique music experience.
Helena Hauff's opener was such an abrupt change from the '80s synth outro of Lena Willikens that she made her presence know immediately. She dove straight into drum-heavy acid techno, and pretty much followed along the same path for her entire set. Hauff was positively relentless in her form, never giving the crowd more than ten seconds to catch their breath before dropping yet another thumper.
While her recordings are by no means soft, they rarely wander into territory as hard as her Unsound set. It was a look into all the classics that have shaped Hauff's releases over the past couple of years. The German producer is known for playing very unorthodox sets, going so far as to drop Slayer tracks out of nowhere. She tends to just play whatever she's feeling, and it appeared that at Unsound, she was in the mood for nothing but pounding techno, much to the delight of the crowd, who were ready to dent the side room's floor after a long night of avant-garde performances at the main stage. Her all-vinyl set was a never-ending stream of quality techno, marking Hauff as one of the top acts of the genre to see live and one of the most exciting newcomers in years.


The Itty Bitty Kitty Committee: The Most Popular Posts Part Four!
The Most Popular Posts Part Four!
Good morning, friends. We're continuing today with our big countdown of the fifty most popular IBKC posts! Today, we're cracking the top twenty!
I think this is the earliest post to make the top fifty list, and probably the IBKC image that has been shared more than any other. It was featured on Cute Overload, which really put us on the map. Prior to the CO feature, we got got maybe a hundred visitors a day, but on the day this was posted, we had 13,000 visitors. It's the reason why many of you found our way to us.
I'm sure she hates this post as much as I love it, but dang, Charlene, you know I had to share it. And now, I'm sharing it again, because so many of you loved this, too. Sorry, Bean.
Those Von Tussles just keep on coming!
When we celebrated our 4th blogiversary, we took a look back.
Poor Bean! This one has been shared a squillion times. It landed on Love Meow, Cute Overload, and I Can Has Cheezburger, too.
It was a very exciting day when we broke this news!
This one one of the most challenging times in our fostering history. Wylla and Audrey's brother had passed from a virus, and we were so worried about the well-being of the girls. Fortunately, things began looking up for the girls, and we all breathed a sigh of relief.
They look so innocent here, but click on the link and watch the video. CRAZY PANTS!
#12 Stepping Out With Wylla Stout - Sweater Shopping!
When Wylla was wee, the poor girl got cold so easy, she wore sweaters when she stepped out. Here she is on a sweater shopping excursion.
We've been very fortunate that in these 9 years of fostering, we've only lost a few kittens. These sad posts always come with many sweet, thoughtful, comforting words from all of you.
Tomorrow will visit our top ten posts. What do you think will be number one? Share your guesses, won't you?
I'm guessing the post when Wylla became a permanent resident will be #1.
If I buy a felt cat pod, will it come with six adorable kittens like yours did? XD It's easy to see why all of these had so many comments and visits. I'm curious what posts ranked higher, and looking forward to finding out.
Jerry Lee will be in the top five posts. Wylla's offical adoption will be there too. I have to guess some of the Dog-a-Thon posts will be there. And Miss, excuse me, MADAME Drewey.
Thanks for the trips down memory lane, complete with chuckles, laughs, snorts at Beanie and tears.
"Two Thumbs Up!" Is definitely the post that brought me to IBKC. Thank you for all the smiles and (happy) tears ever since!
We haven't seen the Tessa reveal yet... that's got to be in the top 10!
Gosh Laurie- some of these posts really got me. Baby Wylla and all those hopes for her, and the sad moments when we all felt our sense of community sorrow so acutely. Alex firmly believes that no kitten has ever come close to being as spectacular as our Zoubisou- but you know, he is biased and he is waiting to see if she is in there tomorrow...heh. But I so loved the day you posted "I'm with Bean". That almost made me wonder if I needed medication. So my vote is a little more flexible!
I'm glad the sad posts made it so high. It shows the strength of the community to share the bad times along with the good. Thank you so much for sharing your fostering adventures with us.
Tressa Lovejoy's introduction will be in the top 10.


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by Lyssadehart | the Coaching Studio Podcast
Season 1 | episode 4
by Lyssadehart | Sep 9, 2021 | the Coaching Studio Podcast | 0 comments
the Coaching Studio Guest
I am very excited to welcome Cynthia Loy Darst, MFA, CPCC, MCC to the Coaching Studio
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TEDtalk – Safe Inside Yourself
Book: Meet Your Inside Team: How to Turn Internal Conflict into Clarity and Move Forward with Your Life
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Lyssa deHart
Hey, Lyssa here, thank you for checking into the Coaching Studio and I'm honored today to introduce my guest, Cynthia Lloyd Darst. Um, I'm gonna tell you a little bit about her before we get into it. So Cynthia has an MFA, which I'm really curious about for another conversation, a CPCC, an ORSCC, and her MCC.
In fact, Cynthia was one of the first eight people in the world to get the MCC designation. So woot, woot, woot. Um, Cynthia was named one of the top 10 most influential coaches in the United States. She has a playful and inspiring style, working with all kinds of people to move from past limitations and into action and fulfillment. Cynthia is passionate about the quality and excellence of the world of coaching and as a result of that has served on/as a founding member of the International Coaching Federation, as well as, served on the Board of Directors and has also been a member of the Professional Coaches and Mentor Association and is also the past President of the Association of Coach Training Organizations.
She's also the author of Meet Your Inside Team: How to Turn Internal Conflict into Clarity and Move Forward with Your Life. Um, it's pretty awesome, right? And she's also done, and one more thing with this uh Ronco set of knives, and she's also done a Ted Talk called Safe Inside Yourself. I'll be putting links to all of these things in the information below.
I want to really quickly read a book review of her book, which I think is brilliant. Meet Your Inside Team: How to Turn Internal Conflict into Clarity and Move Forward with Your Life. The book review is: "What if your inner critic voices were actually wise messengers in disguise? Discover to, discover how to mine their voices for negative gold and how to make peace with their presence in your life. These voices probably aren't going away, but now I have a new revolutionary tools to get my inside team working on my agenda, not theirs. Some steps were playful, others profound, and I could apply them immediately. "
And this was an amazon review that I thought was just so lovely. So congratulations on your book. Um, and also, you know, a great review. I am really curious. So Cynthia, thank you so much for being here today with me.
Cynthia Loy-Darst Thank you for inviting me. Let me just say thank you for inviting me. I'm so happy to connect with you, Lyssa.
Lyssa deHart It's really you know, this is going to be fun. So you have a long history with the International Coaching Federation, given the fact that you're a founding member and one of the first of eight MCCs in the world! What got you into coaching? Like how, what was that journey into coaching for you?
Cynthia Loy-Darst Well, it was, you know, you're, you're taking me back to the very beginning of, because the coaching profession back in those days, it wasn't founded, nobody, nobody knew what coaching was. So there was this, I was there because I had been a professional actor in New York. And I had found out about something called career consultants for professional actors. Actors Information Project was this place I went. And the very first person that I met when I got there was Henry House, now known as Henry Kimsey House, who is one of the three founders of the Coaches Training Institute. So I connected with him, that was back in 1986 for God's sake.
Lyssa deHart Holy Moly.
Cynthia Loy-Darst
Yeah, fast forward a gew years, I was, I made my living as an actor, I decided to leave that because there was, there was something in my purpose that wasn't quite aligned there and bit by bit, I made my way into being curious about what Henry was up to. And by this point in 1992, he and Laura Whitworth had started creating coach training.
Laura had worked with Thomas Leonard before that, he was considered one of the pioneers in the field of coaching and so I was like, what are you guys doing? Let me go do this class, I was just curious. And it was so, even then, even in the very second class that was ever delivered and coach training. I was like, oh there's something here, this is interesting and it felt, it felt more in line with me then all of the different, I've been acting, I've been in sales, I've been, it was like, oh yeah, this is the path.
Lyssa deHart Yeah, so there was like something that just sort of like, cha-chink, resonated inside of you, this is it. You know what I love is, I'm hearing you say this also is just the circuitous path that we sometimes take to get to our purpose. And I heard you use that word purpose, right? How did you determine that coaching really was your purpose?
Well, it's it's kind of funny, it's like, it's like, um Mhm you know, it's a great question, it's what, so, so one of the things that I realized as I started getting coached myself was that what had drawn me to acting was that I was extremely curious about how people think.
And I loved having conversations where you're creating and learning about characters and finding out about the dynamics of relationships. And all of these different things. Well, hello, if that like, no wonder I was like, no wonder coaching felt like a fit. I wanted to work with people that were everyday normal human beings, who knew they wanted change in life, knew they wanted something more, didn't know quite what the piece of the puzzle was to, to support, you know, and so that's what now I get to have these rich conversations with people, and sort of pull things apart, so that they can find their best ways forward, right? That to me is really fun.
Lyssa deHart Yeah, no, and it really, I mean your energy just as like totally buried, it's like, I think you've found your calling, right? How do you feel, like how do you feel when you think about your life, and you had this whole life that was pretty robust going into coaching? Right. And then you've had this life since coaching which has been really robust. How do you feel coaching has impacted you personally, within your own life?
Cynthia Loy-Darst Huge, huge. I so you were mentioning my Ted Talk earlier, it's called, you know, Safe Inside Yourself. Most of my early years, I was not safe inside myself, I was terrified, I was always looking for how do I look good here? What's the right move? How do I, I was very you know, the sum of self-critical, like savage.
Lyssa deHart Yeah, externally motivated, right? Like what all those voices out here telling me about myself.
Cynthia Loy-Darst Totally, totally, and by getting coached myself, it's been layer after layer of pulling that apart, getting more in touch with what CTI, we call our leader within our core, who is my core? What do I believe? What fulfills me? What do I choose? How do I be responsible for my life? So years of that have me now in a place where I love the work I do, I engage well, I have nothing to prove uh to me that is a blessing you know?
Lyssa deHart And I think it really speaks to the fact I think most of us, that's part of our journey, letting go of other people's, other people's thoughts about us. And our thoughts about what we think they think about us, because often they're so busy thinking about themselves that they don't really have time to even think about us. But we can create that narrative right? Will Cynthia like me?
Cynthia Loy-Darst Absolutely, absolutely. And I have no idea how it was for you. But for me I was brought up to be a wonderful co-dependent person. And so everything was about what do they think? How do they feel? Blah blah blah.
Yeah. Now I you know, now it's very clear to me like you get to be you, I get to be me, I'm responsible for my feelings, you're responsible for yours. Let's have a conversation here, you know? Yeah. I honestly think it's one of the most important psychological evolutions we go through in life. Is this sense of not do you like me? But the transforming from do you like me to do I like myself, and then do I like you?
Right, so we're making conscious choices not only about ourselves but about the people we choose to have around us. So thank you so much for sharing that, it's beautiful. What do you think when you think about the work that you're doing, what is really keeping your passion alive around coaching?
Cynthia Loy-Darst Well, one of the things that I do, I'm, I have been instrumental and helping to develop leaders for both CRR Global and CTI. And right now I'm actively, I actively have a position where I'm, you know, kind of bringing in new leaders where I'm working with our senior leaders to keep them on their toes, like all of this to me coach, I actually not only love coaching very much, I love coach training. Yeah, and I love, uh I love working with the human who wants, really wants to be able to communicate better, to be able to listen better, and to help them get their hands on that kind of technology, that kind of where do you put your attention, what do you really listening for? How do you not come with your own ideas of what that person should do? But really, really kind of help them unfold and unpack the way they're thinking, right?
Lyssa deHart Well, and that's really, in many ways that's really the MCC journey, isn't it? It's the, it's the transformational journey within the coach first. To letting go of the attachment, to what we think, you know, I used to say a long time ago because I would I did a lot of marriage and couples work and I would say, you know, expectations or um what's the word I'm really looking for? Um potential. Like we fall in love with potential, but it's like, it doesn't matter what my ideas of your potential are, if it's not of interest to you, right? And so as a coach, how do I let go of the idea that you potentially could be anything in the world, but rather be with where you want to be.
Cynthia Loy-Darst Yeah. I love where you're pointing. Here's a here's a metaphor that I use for this. So we, as, we as humans, most of us have no problem that a horse is not more like a bird, right?
Lyssa deHart Right, we're comfortable with that.
Cynthia Loy-Darst Not a problem. Not a problem that your dog isn't more like your horse, right? Whatever. Like they're not a problem. A lizard can be a lizard. However, with humans, it's easy to think that a successful human is supposed to look like this, right? Like this little. Exactly. And how can I allow this human that I'm working with to be a lizard while this one's a bird and this one's a horse? Like how does that? Right.
Lyssa deHart And I love that because I mean it's sort of funny, I was, we could go off on this for on time and so I just there may be a follow-up conversation around this, but I think it really is that sense of how do we allow people to be, who they need to be, versus who we think they need to be? It's beautiful. It's really beautiful. Well, and this really leads into my next question, what is something that you think all coaches need to understand? And it may be a riff off of what we just started having a conversation around, but especially those who are moving from, you know, calling themselves a coach to actually getting coach training to then going from being a certified professional coach to an ACC, then a PCC and maybe ultimately an MCC. What is, what is it that you, words of wisdom would you have for them?
I appreciate, you know, I think it is a little bit of building off of what we're saying. So one of the things that I often see coaches doing and they don't mean to, but, but, and maybe I do it myself sometimes is that is the, is that we get attached to what the client says they want. And if, if our attention goes to, I'm I'm committed to getting a new job, right? This is what I want. This is what I'm coming to coaching for. My client was, you know, they want to make this career leap. That's it.
If my attention goes there too much, I'm actually gonna miss what is, what's, what's going on with my client. So sometimes when I'm working with someone who has never been coached before, I actually, part of the design alliance is to say, I need to tell you I'm going to be more committed to you than what you say you want if we get here great. I don't, I don't really care. I'm interested in you, I'm interested in your development and I'm interested in you becoming the human that you want to become. That's more important.
Lyssa deHart Just so you know, I'm going to totally steal that at this point. Um what, so what I think is beautiful about that is one, it's really solid agreement setting, right, around the relationship that we're going to have. I used to say to couples, look until you guys tell me otherwise your relationship is my client, right? It's the same thing though, I'm always going to be more committed to you than your topic. I want you to have that exploration. I love that Cynthia. I am definitely stealing that. What is one of the biggest misconceptions around coaching that you, that you find?
Cynthia Loy-Darst Oh I think this is one that most coaches find, is that people um still it's getting better but people still think that the coach is going to tell them what to do or be like so generally speaking, Oh yeah, I don't need any more tips, you know like, like that I somehow, you know and so uh so this I guess this is another thing that I, that that I talk to my clients about, you know, my I hold my clients, my clients are a master of their own life, like like right now, you know, you know your life, we're just meeting, how in the world I would presume to think I would know what you need, or what you want, or what your, is ridiculous. The more that I can, the more that I can hold my client as a master and how they work. And allow myself to be curious, to reflect back, to to notice something that I point out so that they can see it. That's cool. That's, that to me is what coaching is about.
Lyssa deHart Yeah, yeah. And I, and I think you're right, you know, I think there's been a really interesting thing that's happened in coaching and I'd be curious your thoughts on this. But everybody wants to call themselves a coach because, you know, they're really good at having friend conversations, right? So like that's coaching. But what they do is exactly what you're talking about, which is they do a lot of talking, telling, educating. You know, basically, if you do this, then you'll get that result. Without any sense of the fact that the other person is the expert in their own life their the master of themselves. So how do you, like how did you learn to throttle that piece back? Which seems so culturally inundated across the planet? Because I listened to coaches from every part of the world, right? And, and that is like the hardest thing for people to get is that their value doesn't come in what they're telling people to do, right?
Right. Oh, I love where you're pointing. It's, it's a very normal struggle for a new coach is to think that that like we, most of the world is so trained, that problem solving is of great value, right? And so if you've been in that world and you've been a problem solver, to to start to translate, how do I provide value here? It's a really, it's a really challenging question. Right?
So the, so part of what is in the way that we, that I trained coaches and primarily this is through the lens, through the lens of co-active training institute, is is that we're, we actually train in our very first session. How do you, how you are listening? Are you listening for? The person says this thing and here's my great idea, here's how I relate to that. We call that level one listening self-focus. Or am I really listening? Level two, am I listening for, "What is this person saying one of their goals? What did they want? What's important to them? " And when, when I put my attention and awareness there, then level one can move back. It doesn't mean I won't have it. It just means, let me move that back. Let me self-manage to focus over here.
Lyssa deHart Yeah. And I think we can always use our ideas or what shows up for us to inform our curiosity. So, I mean, if the client seems to have missed some big gaping hole by the end of a conversation, it's not like you're not allowed to say, you know, and I noticed that you never mentioned anything about this. Is there anything useful in there? And if not, we'll move on, you know, where do we go next? Okay. Right.
Cynthia Loy-Darst Exactly. So it's not like you're divorcing your brain, it's not like you're only asking questions, but it is, but it is your just what you said.
Lyssa deHart Yeah, informed curiosity. Right?
Cynthia Loy-Darst Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Lyssa deHart I um, you know, it is that we're talking, I'm wondering, how do you take care of yourself as a coach, like, are there any practices that you have, that you use to keep your coaching, I don't know, clean? Kind of like clean language, or clean eating, you know, clean coaching.
Cynthia Loy-Darst Oh, I love that you're, that's a great question, you know, one of the main things I believe that it's important for me to do as a coach is to live a fulfilled life. So what I mean by that is to be, to know my own values, to live life, like right before we had our conversation today, I went and had a nice swim, I like taking care of myself, taking care of my own time, my own um you know, energy, um giving myself permission to do what works for my body, my way, right? Setting clear boundaries. And it's a fascinating thing because I said, I started setting boundaries long ago around my coaching. And almost no one ever challenges those boundaries at all, right, just because they are clear to me.
Lyssa deHart Well, it isn't that always the greatest problem. It's not the boundaries that we said that other people cross, although that does happen. It's the boundaries that we said that then we trample all over. I blocked this time in my calendar to swim, but oh, look, I need to answer all these emails instead, Right? Like that was me walking over that boundary. Yeah, well, and that's kind of along the lines of then honoring your agreements to yourself also, right?
Cynthia Loy-Darst And just building on this, one of the other things I think is really important is, is having coaches myself. So there, so uh, one I've got, my husband is a brilliant, particularly couples coach, he's lovely with that, but he, but he's a, he's a wonderful coach, right? So sometimes I'll say put your coaching hat on, sometimes I will when I was writing this book, took me forever to write this book, I had to hire a few different coaches because I need a different impact on it, right? Now, so I'm a big, I'm a believer in walking the talk you know? Um And I also think that it doesn't matter how long I've been coaching. Um Sometimes I can't get out of here, and all of my good questions to myself, going, I can't auto coach.
Lyssa deHart It is a little like I don't know who discovered water but it wasn't a fish, right? So I mean, but I think that it's the irony that I see in coaching. And I saw it in therapy also, where you have people who are in these helping professions but they're like but I don't have one. Like I don't need a coach, I just do coaching. And it's like what are you telling your clients about the value of coaching if you don't have a coach.
Cynthia Loy-Darst Right.
Lyssa deHart Right? What is you and if you don't have a self-reflective practice? I mean I think it's one of the things that's genius about that new competency being added to the ICF Competencies of a coaching mindset is that idea that we need that self-care, we need that self-reflective practice, and we also need to make sure we're doing our own work so we can show up. Which is really what I hear you saying?
Cynthia Loy-Darst Yeah. Absolutely. Yeah. Great.
Lyssa deHart Yeah. So, what is it that you're up to today? That you would love to share with us?
Cynthia Loy-Darst What am I up to?
Lyssa deHart Well, what are you up to?
I just moved, so I'm still, I'm still in the process of like I'm setting up my new world and I'm not super quick with that I get so focused on my computer work that I often disregard what's around me and that's something I have to keep working with. Um But it's it it's an interesting thing. I think my, my primary focus these days is honestly with CTI.
And what I'm hoping to do, some years ago, back in around 2010, I can't even believe it's been that long, 2010, 2012, I was offering trainings on the, the first, the first way The Inside Team came into being was as a coach training. It was years later that I then found the way to write the book, and what I, what I want to do, what I'm focused on doing is by this fall starting to create coach training again using Inside Team. It's really a lovely um process, and talk about, when you're talking about like self-awareness. Um Let me just give you a basic.
Lyssa deHart Please.
Thought about it. All right. So when I think of self awareness, like what's that even mean? Right? Well to me that means noticing how I'm thinking, noticing what's going on, and if there's something going on in my life that I'm a little worried about, or that I'm trying to do. Um There's usually some kind of conversation that's happening, you know. Now if I'm going to the grocery store this afternoon, the conversation is like okay what's for dinner? That you know what, what do I need to? You know, we've got the chicken, you know, it's like there's a kind of like and that's all fine and it works out and I know what to do.
But for some things in our life, um particularly the places where we keep saying I want this, I want this, I want this and then nothing happens. Or very little happens. That's usually a place where there's a bigger Inside Team conversation going on. And if we can honestly slow down, find out who's talking, what are they saying? What's the way they think this internal game is played?
Lyssa deHart And how are they sabotaging each other or how are they supporting each other? Right?
Cynthia Loy-Darst Right. And half the time they're all screaming at, they're not even in relationship with each other, Right? Right.
Lyssa deHart And we tune them out because they're noisy.
Cynthia Loy-Darst That's right, that's right. And so then they keep getting louder, particularly the ones that are all freaked out and think you're going to die any minute, right?
Lyssa deHart Survival is sort of one of those important things in our brain knows that will get our attention if we feel like we're at death's door. Um.
Cynthia Loy-Darst Right. Right? So, so when, so even as a coach, when I, am going to bring this back to like coaching, mindset coaching, so as a coach, what is my inside team? What is my awareness on myself, who's the part of me that knows how to be really curious? Who's the part of me that brings compassion to every call, right? Who's the part of me that sometimes needs to be bold and forthright in saying something I'm seeing? And how do I let that person? Right, so it's so it's not just one thing.
Lyssa deHart Mhm.
Cynthia Loy-Darst You know, it's not just coach, it's all these different, it's like a coaching Inside Team, if you will, I'm going to bring to coaching.
Lyssa deHart Yeah, I think that is so important because I think we like to pretend like we're just one thing and not the multifaceted um thing that we are, right? And um you know, how do we, how do we create clarity and awareness around these different parts of ourselves, these different voices so that we can be at choice consciously. About how we want to be in the world, how we want to be coach, how we want to… And I think it goes back to something you said earlier, you know, is this me having an idea about what you need to do? What part of me has decided that it knows what you need to do versus the part of me that is like, I really want to be useful. And that's something I talk about with the students that I work with is, really like, it's not like there's a bad question, it's just there's a scale of usefulness, right? And so how, how useful is that question? And, and, and how useful is that mindset? And so being really aware, I love that. I really appreciate that perspective.
Cynthia Loy-Darst Yeah, beautiful. You know, just in what you're saying there, there's also like, you know, as I'm curious, am I curious for my own understanding?
Lyssa deHart Ding, ding, ding.
Cynthia Loy-Darst You know, where did you buy that shirt? You know, you know, that's that's a question for me, you know, But, but to but to, you know, say, oh my God, Lyssa, this painting behind you, what's the essence of that? What does it spark in you? Something? It's like, you know, my my job as a coach is to evoke the curiosity of my client for themselves.
Lyssa deHart Yes. Yes. Yes. Because if their brain doesn't light up for it, they don't get to retain it. Right, right. If my brain is lit up great, but I don't need to retain it, they need to retain it. So yeah, absolutely, and you're right. Like, what is the meaning of this thing behind me, for me? This is what the meaning that someone else is making? Yeah, brilliant. Just really brilliant. Oh, Cynthia. I think we could probably go on for a really long time, so we might have to have another conversation. Um but I just so much appreciate you being on the show today. I really appreciate it.
Cynthia Loy-Darst This has been um it's been a gift to connect with you, and I'm, one of the things that that excites and thrills me is when I meet other MCCs that it's, with whom it's very clear that they're doing beautiful coaching work in this world. And you, my darling are one of those.
Lyssa deHart Well, thank you for saying so, and I appreciate it and definitely, it is a definitely a mutual respect going on here. I'm really just, I think there's just so much to learn from different people and you know, and I'm really, I just feel so privileged to have the opportunity to have the conversations.
Cynthia Loy-Darst Sweet. Thank you so much.
Lyssa deHart And thank you to our viewers or listeners for being here with us today. You can find out more about Cynthia below. I'll have links to her book, I'll have links to her Ted Talk as well as to her website so that you can hear more or find out more about Darst Team. Com. So yeah, so that you can go in and find out more about Cynthia and the work that she's doing and thank you again so much for being here today.
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Lyssa deHart, LICSW, MCC
Lyssa deHart ditched her therapy practice to become a Leadership Confidence Coach. Along the way she discovered a passion for professional coaching and wanted to find ways to share that passion with the world. Come join her in discovering and meeting some of the most amazing professional coaches on the planet. Her goal is to inspire coaches. Lyssa is the author of StoryJacking: Change Your Dialogue, Transform Your Life. She is an ICF PCC Assessor, Certified Mentor Coach, and budding Coach SuperVisor. Lyssa uses her understanding of the ICF Core Competencies, combined with her knowledge of Neuroscience, to work with people to become extraordinary professional coaches. Let's Go!
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