 Why does the author think less communication is better?
A recent University of Chicago survey of 10,000 adults found that Americans are having considerably less sex than was generally thought. Deb and I have what seems to us to be a perfectly fine amorous life, yet everywhere I turn the culture tells me--almost mocks me-- you can do better! What would happen to our sex life then, if Deb (who participated in this story because she loves me and because she has tenure) and I tried for the first time to make something happen to it? A woman I know says women's magazines are the best places in America to find sex tips. You're much more likely to land on "Try phone sex, dirty notes, porn videos, fantasy games and sex in new places. ...
 Being too explicit about things takes away some of the emotional aspect
 He is bad at communicating clearly and it makes things more complicated  Being too explicit about things takes away some of the emotional aspect  He thinks communication works better by doing, instead of by talking, especially in the bedroom  His wife doesn't like discussing sex openly, so it's what he is used to