 How does the author see the role of self-help?
What would happen to our sex life then, if Deb (who participated in this story because she loves me and because she has tenure) and I tried for the first time to make something happen to it? A woman I know says women's magazines are the best places in America to find sex tips. You're much more likely to land on "Try phone sex, dirty notes, porn videos, fantasy games and sex in new places. ... An article in the April Cosmopolitan , "The Six Best Sex Positions," seemed more promising than the Redbook playbook. Each position was accompanied by a succinct write-up and a stick-figure diagram. Instead she runs through all the euphemisms for oral sex and then the video cuts to XXX action with gratuitous commentary.
 Self-help can come in a variety of ways but should be low-key in this area
 Self-help is bogus and isn't worth spending energy on  It should be everyone's priority to pursue self-help to improve their sex lives  Self-help is useful when it comes from videos, but not from books  Self-help can come in a variety of ways but should be low-key in this area