Pillow Method Paper
The pillow method is a five-step process used to resolve a disagreement or enable two people to gain understanding from a disagreement. The process involves each individual to look at the problem through five different perspectives. These steps or perspectives include: “I’m right you’re wrong”, “You’re right I’m wrong”, “both right both wrong”, “this issue isn’t important”, and “the truth is in all perspectives” (Alder & Proctor, p. 104). The purpose of the pillow method is for each person to gain insight from each step in the process. By looking at the problem from multiple perspectives each person gets the chance to enhance their cognitive complexity (Alder & Proctor, p. 104). In this paper I …show more content…
“Both right, Both wrong”: This step requires the individual to acknowledge the strength and weakness of both sides of the argument (Alder & Proctor, p. 106). After completing the first two steps of the pillow method, I believe that both perspectives have merit and a solution can be found in compromising (Alder & Proctor, p. 106). We both do not agree that guns should be banned, but we both realize that there is problem and something has to be done to fix it. We still do not agree on which way is the best way to fix it. I still believe that tougher gun laws need to be put in place he still believes that there is no problem with the gun laws we already have in place.
“The issue isn’t as important as it seems”: This step of the pillow method requires both parties to examine the importance of the issue and if it is worth continuing to argue over (Alder & Proctor, p. 106). Even though this topic is very important and affects many people’s lives, it is not worth it to continue to argue over because it will not change anything. When people disagree on political topic they tend to get emotional about it. I have witnessed situations