Being a victim brings on a painful feeling of shame. Something happened to you at the hands of somebody else, and you were defeated in that moment. It is a hard pill to swallow. Nobody wants to lack control over their life. Bullying can happen at any age and take place anywhere. If you have been a victim of being mistreated, bullied, or emotionally abused, it is important to know that you must not wallow in self pity. The reason why, is because you are allowing yourself to feel inferior to the person you fell victim to. Life is full of its ups and downs, but there are many opportunities to pull yourself back up.
When you are emotionally abused, it can be hard to find support. Sometimes nobody is there to offer you light upon the emotional abuse and you may start to accept failure. For example: assume somebody told you all your life that you will never amount to anything, and no one told you the opposite. This is where your inner work comes in. If no one else is telling you how worthy you are, tell yourself. Just because nobody is telling you that you are worthy, it doesn’t mean you aren’t. Many people find this difficult because it isn’t enough to tell yourself something positive. It seems like you need someone else telling you that. But this step is really about not trying to prove anything to anyone but yourself. And with this step, telling yourself that you are beautiful, worthy, and important, is like tricking that nasty negative mind that constantly tells you the opposite. When negative thoughts come into your mind, it is best to counter those thoughts with positivity. That is the only way you can beat negativity. Even if you were bullied and teased by other people, it doesn’t help to beat yourself up when other people are already doing that. It is like beating yourself up after you have lost a fight. Where does that get you? No where. You end up even more hurt. But if you lose the fight, and get in the gym, practice, and work on your defense skills, you will be better off.