Breathing is the Number One tool. Breathing consciously helps move us from a victim place into a place of empowerment, like calling ourselves survivors rather than victims. When we breathe in we take in oxygen or fresh energy. When we breathe out we rid ourselves of carbon dioxide or stale energy that's no longer useful.
Breathing with awareness helps moves whatever is blocking our progress. If we hold our breath it's usually because we're afraid. Either we don't want to let in what's outside us, or we don't want to let out what's inside us.
Breathing consciously calms you any time you feel afraid, anxious, or overwhelmed. It will ground you if you feel spaced out (dissociated). It can help you get back into your body if you feel numb. Some people find it helpful to “remember” to breathe by setting an alarm once an hour. Or buy some coloured stickers – the kind used to code books and papers – and attach one on your watch strap, the toe of your shoe – anywhere where you'll see it. If you want to look less conspicuous, wear an elastic band around your wrist. Twang it – and BREATHE – whenever you remember.
Place your hand on your abdomen. Breathe in slowly to a count of three. ONE … TWO … THREE. Feel your tummy (abdomen) rise under your hand. Breathe out to a count of three. ONE … TWO … THREE. Feel your tummy (abdomen) fall again.
Remember: Breathing is our Number One tool. It reduces stress.