Why do we put other people’s needs before our own?
Sometimes we just need to focus on ourselves. So how can we become more selfish and put ourselves first? I think we live in a society where we look at self-care and look after ourselves as being selfish in a bad way. Selfishness is coined as a bad word in our society. When we hear that word, we think of someone who is a bad person. But selfishness isn’t what people think it is. It isn’t being so concerned about yourself that you treat others badly. It is about not completely neglecting yourself. Is about taking care of yourself first and then taking care of others. Here are some ways to be selfish (to be more selfless):
Stop saying “yes” to things that you don’t want to
When you keep doing things that do not bring you joy, you are just constantly punishing yourself. There is nothing wrong to say “no” to the things that don’t you happy. Are you doing things just because society or social media are telling you to? Start putting yourself first by really thinking about the things you are being asked to do. If you are just doing it for pleasing other people just stop.
Start something new
Start that thing you’ve always dreamed about. Have you always wanted to start learning a new instrument? A new sport? Travel? Had a business idea? Whatever it is you need to go for it. Put your dreams first and don’t let anything get in the way. That’s the whole point of being more selfish. Start putting yourself first so you can be happier and live your dream life.
Say “thank you” when someone compliments you
Why would you deny that you aren’t great at something? Or beautiful? Most people are terrible at taking compliments. We are more comfortable talking about our weaknesses than our strengths. The reason for this is that we don’t want others to think we are bragging and not like us. But you know what? It’s actually quite refreshing to hear someone accepting a compliment. We need to learn how to highlight our strengths and not be afraid of accepting them.
The next time someone compliments you, be enough selfish to take that compliment with a humble and powerful “thank you”.
Take care of yourself in order to help others
You need to take care of yourself first. It’s so important taking care of your needs so that you have something to give to other people. If your needs aren’t fulfilled, then you won’t have anything to give anyone.
Believe in yourself
You have to truly believe it in your heart and practice it daily. Make it a priority little by little, believe in yourself, and truly feel it.
Speak kindly to yourself
This is so important. The way you speak and treat yourself matters the most. Speak to yourself as if you are speaking to someone you really care about, respect, and love. Don’t let anyone fool you, you are already enough.
Be your own best friend
If you’re constantly telling yourself what you’re doing wrong or what you’re not doing good enough, you’re never going to be proud of anything that you accomplished. You are the only person who’s going to be in your life forever. You’ll never go to be able to feel complete fulfillment or complete joy if you can’t be kind to yourself.
Being selfish doesn’t mean you’re forgetting about others, it’s about making yourself a priority. You are just letting yourself become a better version of yourself so you can do more for others.
So tell me, how can you make yourself a priority today?
See you in the next week 💕
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