You are not alone. Many people have a problem
with violence, learned from childhood or supported by society.
You can learn less dangerous
and hurtful ways to express your anger.
It is a sign of strength and
courage to ask for help.
You are responsible for your own behaviour.
No one makes you act in a violent way. You have a choice.
will increase if you do not take steps to stop it. You may destroy
your relationship or seriously hurt someone you
Your feelings of insecurity will only get worse
if you continue to act violently.
Blaming your problem on drugs,
alcohol or stress is an excuse.
Apologizing after the abuse will
not erase the problem.
Physical violence and threats of violence
are crimes/criminal harassment.
Do not make assumptions about sexual
activity. No means no whenever it is said.
Be assertive/confident. Walk and act confidently,
even if you don’t
actually feel this way. Say what you mean.
your instincts. Act immediately when you feel you are in danger.
Get away from the
be afraid to ask for help.
Determine your feelings
about sex and sexual limits. You may have different
limits at different
you should know
what you want or don’t want to do, before
you are in a risk situation.
limits. Saying yes to one form of sexual activity
does not mean you can’t
say no to another. This must be talked about
because body language is confusing and mind-reading
Be aware that your level of drug
or alcohol consumption will influence your
make good decisions.
Socialize with people who
share your values.
You are not to blame for someone else’s
behaviour. You are only responsible for your own behaviour.
thrives in silence. Share your problem with a friend or ask for
help from someone you
trust who has