Bullying Prevention at PJMS
BYSTANDERS vs. UPSTANDERS
Bystanders : Have you done any of these ?
- Some participate in starting the bullying.
- Some laugh or give attention to the bullying, thereby encouraging it.
- Some join in the bullying once has started.
- Some are silent - this silence is most often misinterpreted by the bully as support for the bullying and interpreted by the victim as betrayal and support for the bully.
Upstanders : Have you done any of these yet?
- Take action by telling the bully to stop.
- Take action by getting others to stand up with them to the bully.
- Take action by helping the victim.
- Take action by shifting the focus and redirecting the bully away from the victim.
- Take action by telling an adult who can help.
Becoming an Upstander looks like this :
- Takes courage - Telling a friend who is bullying to stop is hard. They may be mad at you. But at least you won't feel guilt for being silent and allowing the bullying to continue. And you will be doing your friend a huge favor in the end by helping them stop really hurtful behavior.
- Takes action - Doing something that does not support the bullying can be a really small intervention with big results! Three words - "That is bullying" - can cause others to recognize the problem.
- Takes assertiveness - Telling a friend how their behavior makes you feel and how it affects others requires being able to use your voice!
- Takes compassion - Upstanders have the gift of compassion. They recognize when someone is hurt and take steps to help.
- Takes leadership - Upstanders are leaders in their social group, helping others to recognize ways to get along and be supportive to others.
Bystander Revolution | What Can One Person Do To Help?
2015 Anti-Bullying Video
"Be an Upstander" - video by The NED Show