How to bond with your baby through the first year
Bonding is a natural part of parenthood and plays an important role in the growth of your child. In fact, how you interact with your baby during her first year supports her future physical, emotional, and cognitive development.
But bonding doesn’t always come naturally. At first, it might feel unnatural or awkward. But with a little patience and some new ideas, you can start making meaningful connections that will last a lifetime.
If, after a time, you're still feeling like the connection isn't coming along, speak with your doctor or your child's pediatrician for additional methods and strategies.
Birth to 3 months
Bonding MomentHold your baby in your arms and make eye contact. Show your baby a bright toy. When it catches your baby's eye, slowly move the object.
BenefitWhile you are cuddling and playing with your newborn, your baby is learning to visually track moving objects.
Bonding MomentLay on the floor with your baby and place her on her stomach for about 1 or 2 minutes. Shake a rattle or use your voice to get your baby's attention. When she lifts her head to see you, gently clap or cheer encouragement.
BenefitThis bonding activity helps your baby connect with you while it simultaneously works the muscles in her neck, back, and stomach.
Bonding MomentStand in front of a mirror with your baby and make faces — happy, sad, and excited. Babies love to imitate, so gently cheer when your baby copies you.
BenefitThis builds your baby's social ability to recognize emotional cues, while teaching facial expressions and their meanings.
Bonding MomentTalk to your baby about tasks related to daily routines while you are doing them, such as washing the dishes, doing the laundry, and making the bed.
BenefitTalking with your baby helps connect your voice to her eyes, which can help lay the foundation for a lifetime of conversations.
Bonding MomentPlace your baby on her stomach with a few toys slightly out of reach. When she spots one, help her reach for it by placing the palms of your hands on her feet, and gently pushing her forward toward the toy.
BenefitThis encourages your baby to reach, roll, move, and scoot while playing together.
Bonding MomentOn a piece of paper, draw a simple shape. On another piece of paper, draw two of the same simple shapes. Describe the shapes, colors, and number of objects on the paper.
BenefitThis sets the stage to help your baby learn about quantities of objects.
Bonding MomentGently roll a plush ball toward your baby. Cheer when your baby catches or stops the ball and ask your baby to roll it back. Try it with a little bounce, too.
BenefitYou're helping your baby develop hand-eye coordination while making a fun connection with him.
Bonding MomentPlay a classic game of peekaboo with a small, light blanket over your head. Let your baby take a turn by gently covering her head with the blanket and lifting it away.
BenefitThis will help your baby begin to understand the idea of object permanence (that unseen objects still exist) while having fun at the same time.