This old-school form of discipline can do more harm than good. The "time-out" technique is not so effective -- and it can even lead to harmful side effects. Put this punishment to rest for good and do these simple steps for a better alternative.
"Am I being too harsh?" "What consequences should I use?" I'm here to tell you that it doesn't matter what you do; there is no right consequence for every action. What matters is that you do what you say you're going to do.
Discipline is different from punishment because it teaches children to learn from their mistakes rather than making them suffer for them. The four R's of consequences actually apply to all discipline techniques, not just natural and logical consequences. Whatever discipline technique you choose, make sure it meets the following four criteria...
Discipline is guidance and teaching a child self-control. If you view children's misbehavior as a mistake in judgment, it may be easier to think of ways to teach a more acceptable alternative. By setting clear limits and disciplining in a positive, loving way.
Positive Discipline starts by having a good relationship with your child, so that he responds to gentle guidance as opposed to threats and punishment. The most effective discipline strategy is to make sure your child wants to please you.
Most parents nowadays try not to use physical punishment. Many have been advised instead to use timeouts to "calm" kids down and correct bad behavior. But any child can explain to you that timeouts are still punishment. And we all know that sending a kid to a timeout it is not the best way to calm him!