– systematic targeted impact on the child of adult family members and family members. The main and general task of education is the preparation of children for life in the existing social conditions; more narrow, specific – the assimilation of knowledge, skills and skills necessary for the normal formation of the personality in the family.
The aims and means of education are determined by the socio-economic system, the level of development of culture; Family education is usually built on the basis of ideology, morality and the system of relationships of the social stratum to which the family belongs.
Family education is inextricably linked with the self-education of adults, the formation of their qualities and character traits, providing an effective pedagogical impact on children.
It’s okay if you lightly spank the child or give him a slap: not painful and effective.
No one has ever been able to teach anything through physical punishment. With the help of it you can only suppress, force, but not teach. By the way, in the end, children prefer to get a couple of slaps, than to listen to the endless cries of parents, reproaches and grumbling. So this is just a situation where one stupidity replaces another, without giving a result. Constant physical punishment suppresses activity, contributes to the development of neuroses and fears, threatens physical and mental development. It is even more unacceptable to give cuffs or somehow influence the head responsible for the thinking of a person. If you decide to threaten a child, then your weapon should not be a belt, but something funny and innocuous, such as pants, a package, etc.
It is necessary to praise the child constantly.
Recall the words of Paracelsus: “Everything is poison and the whole medicine, the difference is only in the dose.” Praise for effects is similar to a drug: the more you praise, the more you want to be praised. If a child does not have great talents, and he is praised since childhood, highlighting even those features that he does not possess or possesses insufficiently, this can lead to terrible consequences in adolescence and older age. It’s scary to understand that everything you said to you is a lie!
So it is worth remembering:
– Do not praise children for what is achieved not by their own labor;
– do not praise natural abilities and qualities: mind, talent, beauty, strength, health, etc .;
– do not praise for what was given easily – good grades at school, received without much difficulty, things, toys, fearless deeds on the verge of stupidity;
– Do not praise several times for the same thing.
But there is the main rule: if you do not know to praise or not, then be sure to praise!
Do not often show your love for children – it will hurt them.
Parental love is necessary for children. Do not hold back your feelings if the child accepts them: hug him, caress. He will not lose you, but your warmth and affection will warm his heart, they will bring peace to the soul. Love is not an estimate. To love does not mean to praise. To love is first of all to create a halo of protection and understanding. Showing love to the younger, do not forget about the elders: the age of children is not important, love should be to everyone without exception and it requires a tactful manifestation.
Without constant supervision and strictness on the part of parents, the child will be dismissed and enter into bad companies, bandit groups.
It is not paradoxical, but children from good families often come to such organizations, and the reason, as a rule, is excessive rigor, limits, constant control. Not noticing that, parents enslave the child. Do not be surprised that these children are prone to violence – parents themselves taught them. Forced to obey the power of adults, listening, without the right to make decisions on their own, standing in the corners for the slightest fault, they have already experienced moral violence on themselves and will now bring it into the world in perverted form.
A child thinks and perceives the world as well as an adult.
The child does not yet know how to be rational. He feels this world and is not yet spoiled by life.Adults some “serious impulses” are pushed to do, and the child acts on an instant impulse and desire. That’s why children are so unpredictable. An adult is already a formed person with an established character and morality. The child is always confused in himself, can not understand the desires and feelings. It is very difficult for him to understand adults. A child can not think like a big man, he thinks in his own way, in a different way. He is no worse than us and in no way is he more stupid, he is just different. It is necessary to reconcile with this and to improve relations it is necessary to try to understand it.
The child is easier – his world is small and limited.
Recollect yourself: in childhood, houses were tall, big trees, nights full of horror stories, condensed milk and sweets sweeter, and grandmother’s village – an unknown country. This with age, the world of children seems small and insignificant. Children have a different space and time. For them, their little world is a whole universe. They are difficult in it, and even adults create a bunch of problems: they do not understand why a child stands in the middle of a puddle (yes this is the sea …), why he curses (and these words were spoken to each other in the morning …), why did he climb a tall tree it’s better to see, maybe it’s the mast of the ship or the headquarters …). So this is not his world is narrow, and your understanding of his world is limited.
The child lives on earth thanks to his parents and is obliged to obey them.
Sorry for being rude, but he did not ask you to give birth. His appearance in the world was to be a joy for you. Therefore, it is worth taking as a basis the fact that he is as full a citizen on earth as you are. He does not live for you or for you. He lives next to you. You must help him in becoming, as you are responsible for him. If it depends on you financially (this is the law of life), then this does not mean that he must obey you. Any child wants to live his mind and strength. Want a good relationship – learn to manage the child unobtrusively, help get him on his feet and let go at the right time.
You can not praise a child in advance.
It is possible and even necessary. This method even has a name in pedagogical practice: advance approval. Its main principle is to tell the child: “You can do it!” A child should be told that he is better, stronger, smarter, kinder than he seems. Wake up the baby in the morning and praise it right away. “Get up, Count, great things await you!” – this is exactly how the servant of the famous French philosopher Saint-Simon woke up. Morning will lay a positive impulse for the whole day and help with honor to withstand all the failures. And do not forget to praise for the night, let the child fall asleep with thoughts of good and with a feeling of your love for him.
In order to educate, you have to force the children to eat everything while eating.
But this is just dangerous. Food violence is not only a moral blow to a child, but also physical harm to the body. Want the child to finish everything – put it a little. If he does not eat, he will ask for more. If the whole portion does not get into it, it’s not his fault. The child does not want to eat, so he is not hungry. He is not a beast, you do not need to fatten him. But at the same time it is very important that the child has a regime of the day, and for food was allocated a certain time, when the whole family gathers at the table. Children themselves get used to such a rhythm and there will simply be no problems with food.
You have to force the children to learn, even if they do not want to.
The child, of course, will have to remember everything that you put into it. But know: knowledge, obtained under pressure, as a rule, is not absorbed. Many children, after graduating from music school and becoming adults, do not even take up an instrument. Silk jagged knowledge will fly out of the child’s memory very quickly – this is a paradox of short-term memory. If you want the child to really study, then he needs to be interested in, create a sense of joy from the knowledge and experience gained. Then he himself will begin to absorb knowledge like a sponge, and you will only have to create the appropriate conditions for this.