There are times when we parent were a quick "stop-must" is the best way to handle things. However, if this is the only way we teach our children how to behave, we are not doing a very thorough job.
The next time you are dealing with a discipline situation try one of these questions:
1. Are you safe?
2. Are you learning something good?
3. Are you being kind?
4. How would you feel if someone did that to you?
5. What could you do differently?
Taking time to teach these questions and to discuss things with your child will help to make your discipline more effective. Cognition + consequences will encourage good behavior.
You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.
(Deuteronomy 6:7, ESV)