Indecision and judgment are two thought and habit patterns that may initially appear positive but are, in reality, negatives in disguise. Indecision can masquerade as open-minded positivity. Judgment can masquerade as helpful, benevolent, and knowledgeable advice. However, both are forms of fear or anxiety, sending mixed messages to your subconscious mind. How does your subconscious mind respond to mixed messages? Perfectly! But probably in ways that may cause you problems.
Indecisiveness is” shoulds” and “wants” and “oughts” contradicted by “cannots” and “musts” seasoned with expectation and anxiety.
And habitual indecisive thoughts grow into an overall hesitant attitude. Remember, indecisive thoughts are negative thoughts masquerading as positive ones: “I should lose weight – but I can’t curb my appetite,” or “I want to go back to school – but I have to keep my job to support myself.” Indecisiveness is characterized by the thought pattern, “should but.”
Indecisiveness sends mixed messages. It rapidly flips survival responses on and off – keeps your physiology in turmoil with little time to rest. Luckily, you can counter indecisiveness by developing the habit of decision-making. The decision itself is immaterial. The act of making the decision is crucial. If a decision is the right one, so much the better; however, a person can still change their mind. Make a different choice if your original decision doesn’t sit well with you or produce the desired result(s). The goal here is to be decisive.
Decisions in your best interest and that do not intentionally harm anyone are generally the best as far as life-path, peace of mind and health are concerned. Typically, decisions that follow this course don’t adversely affect others. And, it’s vital to remember that when you make decisions based on what pleases or makes other people happy, you’ll often find that neither party is satisfied. Even worse yet, if your good intentions are thwarted, you’ll end up feeling frustrated too, and frustration is a negative feeling that weaves interference into your field.
Decisiveness is the opposite of indecision. Decisiveness breeds commitment. Commitment gives the body clear-cut instruction. No on-again, off-again.
Indecisiveness is a habit that comes from looking at the world through a murky window. When your view isn’t clear, you assume that you don’t have all the information you need to make a clear-cut decision. And you’re right. The only issue with correcting this problem is accepting that you can never have all of the information available. You need to learn to work with the equipment (information) you have at your disposal—no need to analyze every situation to death. Gather as much information as possible, then take what you have and run with it. Make a decision. Become committed. If you are chronically indecisive, learn to overcome it by starting small.
For example, you’re going to lunch with a friend. The first question is always, “Where shall we eat?” Ninety-nine times out of a hundred (not the results of a scientific study), the answer is “I don’t care; where do you want to eat?” “Well, I don’t care, either,” comes the reply. And so it goes. Indecision coupled with trying to make the “other person” happy. A great way to go if you are an accomplished mind-reader. Since most of us aren’t, practice your new decisiveness skills and make a decision!
Practice making small decisions – “I feel like Chinese for lunch today.” Become committed to working toward your choices as long as they point you in the right direction and don’t hurt anyone else. If your companion is allergic to Chinese (or whatever food), she’ll tell you. Then you can make another decision that is beneficial to you, amenable to your companion, and easy on your subconscious.