QUICK TIP: Identify Alternatives When Setting Limits
When you find yourself having to set a limit with your child, take advantage of the moment as a learning opportunity. Instead of simply telling your child what he or she can NOT do, teach him or her some acceptable alternatives. This not only helps your child to identify other options, but gives your child the opportunity to exercise self-control.
Examples: "Don't use those markers on the walls!" versus "I know that you think that it would be fun to draw on the walls, but markers aren't for using on walls. You can play with the markers on your coloring pad or on some construction paper."
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