How to Stop Bullying
In observance of National Bullying Prevention Month, we are taking the opportunity to highlight the seriousness of bullying and some strategies to prevent and stop it.
Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose. (stopbullying.gov)
“You will not bully, intimidate, or harass any user,” Facebook requires people to pledge when they sign up. Users also agree not to fake their identities or to post content that is hateful or pornographic (The Atlantic)
Most of us have been a victim of bullying at some time in our lives. As we have seen by news reports of suicides that resulted from being bullied, bullying is a serious matter. I hope these strategies will help some of you find ways to prevent and stop bullying.
Types of Bullying
Physical: Hitting, punching, kicking, picking a fight
Verbal: name calling, insults, teasing, mean jokes, gossip
Emotional: Purposely leaving someone out or embarrassing them
Cyber-bullying: spreading rumors online or receiving insulting texts by phone, text, or email
Strategies for Children and Teens
Physical: Do not engage. Assertively tell the person to stop and walk away. If there is a fight, you will get hurt and also get in trouble.
1. Look the bully in the eye and firmly tell him to stop. Be assertive and use confident body language. Example: “Cut it out, Jim!” Stand up tall. Think to yourself, he is acting like a jerk and won’t get away with putting me down.
2. Stay calm. Even if you feel upset, don’t let your emotions show.
3. If the bullying persists, tell an adult you trust who can make an impact. Telling is not the same as tattling.
4. If you see someone being bullied, stand up for him or her, and try to get some friends to join you. Offer friendship to a victim.
5. If you are tempted to tease someone in a mean way, think about what it would be like if someone were doing this to you. Look for your better side.
Emotional: This kind of bullying can often be found inside your social group. You can tell the perpetrators to stop, and you can seek other friends who treat you with respect.
Cyber-bullying: You can report this to the service provider, which can block the person from trying to contact you.
Strategies for Parents
1. Pay attention. If you notice something is wrong with your child, talk about it. Converse with your child on a daily basis and be open to hearing things you don’t like without being critical, so your child will confide in you.
2. If you find out your child is being bullied, take it seriously and take action. Suggest the strategies above.
3. If you find out your child is a bully, it is time to have a serious discussion about the implications.
No one deserves to be bullied. Do not tolerate it for yourself or others. Together, we can make the world a kinder place.