This is Jill.
This is Jack.
This is rape.
This is not rape.
When a man physically forces Jill to have sex we consider it rape.
But when Jill physically forces Jack to have sex, we don’t consider it rape.
We think that Jack’s sexuality negatively affects Jill in a way that Jill’s does not negatively affect’s Jack’s.
Mary Koss agrees.
Mary Koss is the feminist researcher behind the factoid that one in four women will be raped in her lifetime.
In Mary Koss’s original survey only one in sixteen women said “yes” to “have you been raped?”
So how did she get her one in four number?
By asking women “have you ever been physically forced to have sex or have had sex under the influence of drugs or alcohol”
Disregarding the women’s answers to “have you been raped” Mary Koss went on to publish her findings and 1 in 4 became an oft repeated feminist talking point.
Unfortunately Mary Koss encountered an additional problem. When women and men are asked if they were raped, the number of male victims is low. But when women and men are asked if they were “physically forced to have sex”, the number of male victims skyrockets.
On her efforts to correct to correct the problem of too many men saying “yes” to “have you been physically forced to have sex” Mary Koss says:
We worked diligently to develop item wording that captured men’s sense of pressure to have sex and draw their responses into an appropriate category of coercion instead of rape.
Based on Mary Koss’s advice the Center of Disease control decided to separate “physically forced sex” into two categories in their nation wide US study of sexual and domestic violence:
This is rape.
This is made to penetrate.
They then went on to publicize their findings on rape while excluding the majority of male victims of physically forced sex.
When we reclassify “made to penetrate” as rape we see the problem that Mary Koss and the CDC were facing.
They had found that men and women report equal levels of victimization in the past year.
Jack is equally likely to experience physically forced sex as Jill in the last twelve months.
However the CDC found that only 20% of the victims who reported being physically forced into sex in their lifetime were male.
Why is this?
When witnessing two criminals, one female and one male, who are both equally violent, witnesses “misremember” the violence of the female over time. The force she uses is remembered as being less relative to the male. The witnesses’ perception of her agency is whittled away.
The same process is happening with male rape victims. Over time they are bringing their memories in line with the dominant narrative shared by Mary Koss, the CDC, and likely you.
This is rape.
This is not rape.
So when you ask “did someone physically force you to have sex with them in the last year” equal numbers of men and women respond yes.
When you ask “did someone physically force you to have sex with them in the last five years”, the percentage of male victims drops from 50% to 30%.
And when you ask “did someone physically force you to have sex with them in your lifetime”, the percentage of male victims drops again to 20%.
Over time male victims are “misremembering” the violence used against them by female rapists.
Feminists will often assert that 90% of rape victims are female and 99% of rapists are male.
Considering that this is universally seen as rape.
And this is not commonly seen as rape.
It makes sense that the majority of male victims and the majority of female sexual aggressors are excluded from statistics regarding rape… But what’s really remarkable is that as much as ten percent of male rape victims remain to be counted. And that despite being categorically excluded women count for even one percent of rapists.
Feminists are creating a false perception of female victimhood. They are creating a culture of fear targeted at women. They are maintaining the idea that men act and women are acted upon.
is fundamentally different from this:
Wouldn’t it be better if we stopped playing games with people’s lives and recognized that this:
is not fundamentally different than this:
And that all victims of sexual violence–including Jack–deserve equal compassion.
Female criminals seen as less violent:
The Centre of Disease Control’s National Partner and Intimate Violence Survey:
Tables specific to sexual violence:
My Analysis of the CDC’s NIPSVS:
Mary Koss Promotes Rape Culture:
Feminist groups block or remove men’s protections against rape by female sexual predators.