The reactions, behavior and even looks of others regularly decide the reactions and behaviors of young children. In understanding how young children develop social behavior, we must first look at the socialization process. This includes parents, siblings, and others around him and how they react to children and the force of the reactions. Temper tantrums, biting, bullying, breath holding, anger or aggression, screaming, crying – all are undesirable childhood behavior. With these negative actions, it helps to know why your child is doing it. This article is part of nursery teacher training course, deals with the problems, solutions and how parents can find ways. Problem: a simple thing may bring on the tantrum—like the child wanting to ride the mechanical train at the mall. At first, she starts begging, but the parents being in a hurry, didn't have time. Then, the child falls down on the walkway and started yelling. This was so embarrassing—everyone was looking. This had happened before—and the parents had relented. Solution: Tantrums are hard to overlook and young children often do not understand reasoning. Giving in only results in the child to keep in mind what they had to do in order to get their way. The next time, they think this same method will work again. If parents oppose, the child must beg, cry or scream harder. If out in public, return immediately home. Designate a "tantrum" chair that is set aside for such temper outburst. Tell the child they may sit here and cry, but you will not note soon, the child understands this does not work. Problem: Tina a two-year-old enjoyed playing with Megha, her neighbor. One afternoon as they were playing, Tina's mother heard a loud scream coming from the garden. Quickly, she ran out to see Megha holding her arm and crying. "Tiffany bit me!" she told between crying. Solution: console both the children. Each child wants comfort that they are both loved and cherished. Get involved in their play by showing how to have fun without biting. Ask yourself: is the child who bit tired, hungry or sleepy? Is this a behavior that happens regularly or is this a first time offence?Questions for managing Negative Behavior asked by trainees trenchers of ecce mumbai,Often young children exhibit negative behavior only in front of family members. With strangers, they may exhibit more positive behavior. Possibly this is so because children feel secure showing their feelings to people they rely.Understanding this notion you will still not be able to stop all negative behaviors, but the following ideas may help lessen the likelihood of this behavior
1.Can the child use simple words that express their feelings, such as “I really don’t like this”.
2.Is the child hungry? Being hungry makes a difference.
3.Did the child have an afternoon nap? Make sure the child is not very tired.
4.Are the rules too strict for a child of this age?
5.Is the condition too stressful for the child?
6.Did I bring a book or toy to keep busy my child if we have to wait or sit quietly?
What Can Parents Do?No two families are identical. Children, possess individual personalities. What works for some--will not work for others. However, there are general set of laws for helping young children become a happy child. Some of these suggestions may help you find ways to change negative behavior?
•Center on one or two negative behaviors you want to modify by finding the most bothersome. Don't try too many at once.
•Give the child positive alternatives and let some decision making on their part. (Say: After you finish the milk. You can have your favorite cookie or watch cartoon. Which do you want?)
•Use usual and rational cost for problem behavior. Show children to make the correct decision. Understand this may need time to change.
•Show love and strictness. Follow through on results of cause and effect.
•Affirm rules in a positive way. Explain the "why" of such rules.
•Help your child understand the results of disobeying the rules. Commend good behavior. Look for ways to catch the child following the rule and point out and appreciate.
•Relocate behavior by finding a safer place. (Child plays in a fenced garden instead of near a street.)
•Either take away the child from the cause of the behavior, or take away the cause of the problem from the child.