With the popularization and rapid and effective development of modern family education, every family gradually pays more and more attention to children's education. When it comes to children's education, every parent will have a lot of experience and uniqueness. Because children have different personalities and growth experiences, and their education methods are also different, children's personalities and development will also be different. However, our purpose is the same, and we all hope that our children will become useful and promising people in the future.
Today, every family and every child is a "loved little bird". As parents, we all hope that this little bird can fly freely, fly higher and farther, but in fact, we are doing the same for us. Children do too many things that they should do by themselves, such as packing clothes and socks, doing handwork... Sometimes, they even stop interference, criticize and criticize, and vent their emotions to them. So as a growing child, how to "ride the wind and waves sometimes, and hang on the clouds to help the sea"?
1. Home-school co-construction, effective combination, and cultivate children's good behavior habits
In order to make children grow up healthily and happily, school education and family education are actually a pair of wings of this "bird", and neither are indispensable. Effective home-school cooperation is the primary premise and necessary condition for educating good children. When children first go to kindergarten, teachers teach them to do their own things by themselves, and to develop good behavior habits from an early age. Dress by yourself, wash your face by yourself, eat by yourself... Develop in good habits and grow up healthily. Home---is the child's first school, and as parents, we need to be better leaders and guides for our children. "Children want to grow up, birds have to fly high", both the school and the family have to give strength. No matter how good the school education is, without the close cooperation of the family, everything is in vain. School education and family education must be in the same direction in terms of goals and measures. As a position for teaching and educating people, the purpose of schools is to cultivate qualified talents and to seek development for the vast majority of children. As a family, our children are our future and our hope. Therefore, as the child's first teacher, we must correct our words and deeds, cooperate with the school's educational philosophy, and work hard for the child's sake.
2. Parents must lead by example and set a good example for their children
The ancients said: "Those who educate others must first educate themselves", and parents are the most important teachers in a child's life. Every bit of getting along with parents, every word and deed of parents, is subtly affecting the development of children. Therefore, no matter what we do, we must set a good example for our children. As the saying goes: "Parents' words and deeds will affect the child's life". And some of our bad practices will become the object of imitation of children. At the end of last year, our children often said some swear words and swear words. When I criticized her loudly, she refuted me loudly, and you adults also cursed others. Why can't I? This sentence of the child surprised me. When I think about it carefully, we do sometimes not pay attention to our words and deeds. Therefore, our family immediately formulated a rectification plan. Anyone who speaks swear words or swears will be punished for standing for 1 minute, or undertake housework for a week. It worked, and we quickly got rid of this little-known bad habit. In addition, our better practice, the children will follow us to do it, for example, if there is delicious food to share with parents and elders, on weekends, when cleaning, the two children will also come over to help, tidy up books, sweep the floor, pour out Garbage, on the bus, give up your seat to the elderly, and children are also scrambling to give up their seats to the elderly... Sometimes, in fact, children do better than us adults. For example, when crossing the road, they are determined not to run a red light. Garbage should be thrown into the trash can... Facts have proved that the best education for our children is to do things well for our children.
3. Learn to communicate with children and be their best friends
Chen Xi, a modern educator, said: "Of course, children's academic performance is important, but quality development is more important. As parents, we always like to be at the top. , I know watching TV, what can you do when you grow up? "...And after a while of "prestige", we either chased dramas with our mobile phones, or went to the circle of friends. We never talked to the children, and inadvertently pulled away the family relationship with the children. Therefore, I think the growth of children It is also closely related to the family environment. The atmosphere is also very important. Children who grow up in a relaxed and harmonious family are confident and optimistic. Therefore, communication with children is the most effective way to shorten the distance between each other. More importantly, Establish a platform for democratic and equal conversation. Parents must be patient and learn to think from their perspectives. In fact, children nowadays are really under a lot of pressure. For example, my daughter Jing Siyao, who is in fifth grade of Shangdongjie Primary School, did not take the exam once. Well, as soon as I entered the house, I locked myself in the bedroom and cried, and I couldn't come out no matter how I called. I only opened the door under our inducement. When I learned that my math score was scary, I immediately became angry and angry. Not only did I not find the reason. Instead, she got furious and beat her hard. For a few days, the children wanted to hide when they saw me. I regretted it again from the bottom of my heart, and after reflecting, I cooked a delicious meal that day, and the family sat at the table. We talked and laughed together, but no one talked about the grades. After the meal, the child took the initiative to help me wash the dishes and chat with me. He also admitted his mistakes to me. I also reasoned and apologized to the child. After that, we took out I carefully analyzed the mistakes in the test paper, and consulted Mr. Jia Peng if he couldn’t do it. Mr. Jia’s serious explanation, and the patience of the parents accompanied the child’s performance. Therefore, when the child made a mistake, it would be a storm. Criticizing education may not solve the problem. It may be more effective to sit down calmly and chat with your child to see where there are mistakes or misunderstandings, and then check and fill in the gaps. As we all know, learning is a boring job. , and as a family, it is also the warmest harbor for everyone. Parents cultivate some good habits and hobbies for their children in due course, such as parent-child reading, poetry competitions, crafting, and playing useful games. It will also bring parents and children closer. As long as we as parents let go of our posture, pay more attention to snacks, accompany our children, and treat them as close friends, children will definitely find happiness in learning and feel the happiness of growth!
4. Make reading and interest a habit, and beautify the child's mind
Books---is the ladder for everyone to climb the peak, the beacon for our voyage, and a good medicine for the sublimation of our soul. At present, in today's promotion of "new reading for all", the school vigorously promotes "parent-child reading" and "reading a book together" activities. In the "Parent-Child Reading Achievement Exhibition" held by Dongjie Primary School in December 2017, the classic fairy tale drama "Little Red Riding Hood" meticulously choreographed by my children won the first prize of the whole school. In recent years, the child has insisted on reading and writing. Under the guidance and encouragement of the head teacher Zhu Yahong, in December 2018, Jing Siyao's study "A Book I Like" won the county-level essay award for excellence and was published on the "Jingshui Readers" platform There are several works. In March this year, the school awarded the child "Little Master of Reading". The son of kindergarten, Jing Boyu, is not to be outdone. Teacher Fu Rong encourages the children to recite a nursery rhyme, a Tang poem or learn to tell a story every week, and tell them to the children the next day. He is also on the Jingshui scholar platform. He also published 2 works. Therefore, Jing Boyu was awarded the honorary title of "Scholarly Family" by Jingchuan Guangcai Kindergarten. The child likes the other and says, "I got 3 awards" whenever anyone sees them. At the same time, I also dipped in the light with the children. At the end of last year, I was awarded the title of "the most beautiful Jingshui scholar" by the Jingchuan County Education Bureau. Hereby, in order to encourage the child's growth and progress, the child's father specially bought a cake for us to celebrate! These may not seem like much, but for children, it is affirmation and recognition of the achievements of their efforts. Children will realize that hard work pays off and take it to heart. The horn of "opening a new reading, building a new era of dreams" has sounded, making reading a fashion in every family, a habit of "reading classic culture and inheriting Chinese civilization" is the responsibility and mission of our contemporary family. Parents can prepare some suitable children's books for their children and make reading cards together... This will not only enrich their knowledge and vision, but also make them full and valuable in their boring time. Now, when I have time, I take my child to the library or to a friend's house, and the books on the shelf have become my child's faithful friends, reading with relish and savoring the truth of the book. The plot in the chat book has become a topic of communication with our children. The family is harmonious and the fragrance of literature pervades, and the child's character will suddenly become brighter, calmer and more confident.