Posted on 13. June 2013 06:28 by Admin
by Ashley Fern
We let our emotions take over our lives every day and this needs to change. We mistakenly allow our emotions to control ourselves, when in reality; we need to learn how to control our emotions.
As a society, it is much more beneficial to learn to deal with things logically rather than emotionally. If you can train yourself to think rationally and realistically, you will become a much happier person. Your emotions cannot control you; you should control your emotions. Ignoring your feelings won’t make them go away, trust me, I’ve tried on numerous occasions.
“Comfort in expressing your emotions will allow you to share the best of yourself with others, but not being able to control your emotions will reveal your worst.”
Suppressing your emotions is inherently problematic. By bottling up all your emotions, you think you are hiding yourself from different instances of pain. However, one day you will reach your breaking point and the floodgates will open and you will become overwhelmed with a plethora of sentiment. It is much more beneficial to be in touch with your emotions, so that you can truly understand how to manage them.
People lash out at others constantly when they themselves are going through internal, emotional turmoil. Emotions cannot lead your life. You can control how you feel and how you react to things. You never need to feel this type of despair again. For some reason, we do not realize how much control we truly have over our emotions.
“If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.”
By not learning how to handle your emotional outbursts, you risk ruining different relationships you will have over the course of your lifetime. Personal friendships, intimate relationships and office interactions all revolve around the management of emotions.
If you severely disagree with a business partner over a task, you cannot scream at them and force your opinion on them. You need to learn how to efficiently and effectively portray your beliefs in a calm and rational manner. Be open to discussion and keep your attitude in check. No one wants to work with someone who cannot explain him or herself in a coherent manner. The second your emotions work their way into the conversation, your opinion will be cast aside.
How many times have relationships ended because an argument or conversation got out of hand? I know mine have, but that’s probably because that was my intention. Ain’t nobody like a crazy bitch, but sometimes you just want to take a backseat and have the other person end it to relieve you of your guilt.