What is a Personality Disorder?
by Harley Therapy | Psychological Issues
Worried about a loved one’s strange behaviours, and starting to think he or she has a personality disorder? Or worried about your own ways of thinking and seeing the world?
The myth about personality disorders
Personality disorders are simply terms made up by mental health professionals to describe groups of people with similar symptoms that place them outside the current ‘norms’ of behaviour.
If you have a personality disorder, the way you perceive the world will have made you different than average people since you were a young adult. Your different ways of thinking, feeling, and acting will affect all areas of your life and provide a source of constant challenge, particularly when it comes to relating to others.
How many people have personality disorders?
It’s uncertain how many people have personality disorders. The UK government currently places it somewhere around 15%, but other statistics are lower.
What is certain is that humans are complicated. We all have many sides to our personality. We can be kind and generous one day, hateful and veangeful the next. We act one way with colleagues, another way entirely with an annoying sibling.
Why you might not have a disordered personality
Even if stress makes us act our of character, most of us have a baseline we return to.
A personality disorder is consistent, crosses all areas of life, and has been prevalent since the end of adolescence.
If you have a personality disorder, your average way of being, even when not stressed, makes you an outsider who struggles with interaction and society’s rules.
What are the signs of a personality disorder?
Signs and symptoms of personality disorders vary wildy -- there are currently ten main personality disorders.
But what is always true is that, again:
- a personality disorder means you always think and behave in ways that are markedly different to other people
- these ways of thinking and behaving affect all areas of your life
- and they mean you struggle with relationships and daily living
- you can’t change your challenging behaviours even when you try.
Otherwise, the ten main personality divides into groups of symptoms, or 'clusters'.. These are:
- odd and eccentric behaviours
- dramtic, emotional, or erratic behaviours (including borderline personality disorder)
- anxious or fearful behaviours.
Why personality disorders are controversial
Again, they are not medical illnesses. And they are based around societal norms, which can change across cultures and historical periods.
What was considered normal behaviour in Victorian times, when it was perfectly acceptable to be dramatic and have fainting fits, for example? Would likely qualify as a personality disorder nowadays.
Some mental health professionals feel that diagnosing a client with a personality disorder makes the client feel labeled. They can overidentify with their symptoms, lose their self-esteem, and stop trying to make any sort of progress.
I think I might have a personality disorder, what do I do?
Here in the UK only a psychiatrist can officially diagnose a personality disorder. They then will refer you on to a psychotherapist for treatment. Psychiatrists are of course expensive, and can have long waiting lists.
If you are not sure if you have a personality disorder, it is an option to have some sessions with a psychotherapist who understands personality disorders first. They can give you their honest opinion and refer you to a psychiatrist if they see fit, and can help you with symptom management.
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