Thomas R. Hoerr argues that sometimes principals can try too hard to be “liked” which can undermine their ability to lead. This can lead to these problems:
- We are not clear about our expectations.
- We only give feedback on what’s positive.
- We do not hold firm to our beliefs.
However, he does believe that principals can and should be nice while maintaining power and responsibilities. He suggests these ways to be nice and avoid the above problems:
- Set out expectations in a nice way–by listening, explaining, and giving latitude about how the plans are designed.
- Give both positive and negative feedback, ideally in a 5:1 positive-to-negative ratio.
- Hold firm to beliefs while listening and incorporating others’ ideas when possible.
Overall, he suggests principals be considerate, take the time to know and understand others, and be clear about what is being done and why.
Authors: Thomas R. Hoerr