Families set the foundation for how children first learn to be loving and interact with others. The values children are raised with become a core part of how they view the world and live their life. Although influenced later in life as teens, in college, and as adults, the core system of beliefs are essential to win against any trial when tested.
To instruct children is not enough. Forming them means a constant push and pull of keeping them aligned until values and discipline becomes part of their lifestyle. When parents teach, they lead by explanation, by modeling, and by providing gentle but firm correction. It is important that parents communicate expectations and what consequences will occur if expectations are not followed.
There is a difference between correction which focuses on the error, and correction which is positive and builds up. Telling a child, “You lied and are going to be nothing but a liar when you grow up”, is not as helpful or encouraging as, “I know you realize how important honesty is.” Affirming, correcting, being positive, and stating facts with minimal blame is the best approach to discipline. A child needs to know they are loved, and there is room for mistakes, but that there are expectations.
Parents must be consistent in what they teach, in what they say, and how they live. They also must be respectful and maintain self-control. Being respectful, parents teach their children how to maturely have a conversation and also how to deal with others during conflict. They do not tolerate name calling, tantrums, or using insults to tear down. Parents also must not lose control, agitated by children or the circumstance. A calm demeanor helps de-escalate confrontations. Always strive to maintain peace, setting time-limits to arguments and consequences, and restoring children to good standing with a clean slate.
Teaching children how to be kind begins at an early age. Parents teach there are boundaries, the importance of sharing, not to cheat or steal, consideration of others, honesty, being polite, practicing generosity, being truthful, standing up for what is right, being respectful, responsible, and obedient to rules or face consequences. These are essential foundations of love and ethics which breed a “Kind Kid” and not just a “Kind Kid” but one who will be successful in having good interactions and spread kindness to others their entire life.
Your Kind, Matters.
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