Are we losing our ability to connect?
Quite simple, Social Wellness refers to your relationships with others.
It encompasses the idea of having positive interactions with others since we are all social beings. It involves developing and building close bonds of friendship and intimacy, practicing empathy and effective listening, as well as caring for others and for the common good.
While we have numerous technologies connecting us to friends, family and people across the country, we find ourselves more and more alone and lonely. Take a moment to observe people in coffee shops or restaurants. Many times conversations are happening over cell phones, between one person who is present and another at the other end of the phone, rather than among the people sitting together. Our behaviors suggest using the technology is primary and having the conversation is secondary. These observations are not intended to criticize technology, but rather to suggest a more mindful use of this tool. Important connections happen electronically and technology can be very useful. It is remarkable the power of a few characters to make you feel connected. Technology isn’t the only force contributing to a disconnection among people. Our culture encourages individualism and distraction from the present moment, materialism, and results rather than progress. We seem to be focused on the relatively insignificant aspects of our lives rather than our happiness, relationships, and well being.
Our social health is affected by social history, cultural values, open-mindedness, and knowledge of healthy relationships.
Social Wellness Facts
- Socially isolated people are more susceptible to illness and have a death rate two to three times higher than those who are not socially isolated.
- People who maintain their social network and support systems do better under stress.
- Approximately 20 percent of Americans feel lonely and isolated during their free time.
- Touching, stroking, and hugging can improve health.
- Laughter really is good medicine.
- Cholesterol levels go up when human companionship is lacking.
- Warm, close friendships cause higher levels of immunoglobulin A (an antibody that helps keep away respiratory infections and cavities).
- A strong social network can create a good mood and enhance self-esteem.
Social support is thought to impact physical and mental well being in several different ways. Social support provides an individual with a route to receiving psychological and material resources. These resources exist in three categories: instrumental (money or services), informational (advice or important information), and emotional (empathy, caring, trust, and reassurance). Being a part of a community offers various social relationships that provide many different emotional benefits, i.e. experiencing stress-buffering due to sense of belonging. Relationships provide identification with social roles, promote positive psychological conditions such as purpose, meaning, a sense of identity and self-worth.
In my profession of counseling, I work with individuals on a daily basis struggling to connect with others and have meaningful relationships. Here are some guidelines:
Social Wellness Tips
1.Articulate your thoughts both in public and personal conversations.
2.Think before you speak.
3.Volunteer in your community.
4.Make others feel important, while being genuine.
5.Get to know your personal needs and pursue things and people who nurture those needs.
6.Join a club or organization that interests you.
7.Visit neighbors and friends.
8.Contact and make a specific effort to talk to the people who are supportive in your life.
9.Ask questions, and refrain from doing all the talking.
10.Send “Thank You” notes for kind deeds done in your favor.
11.Allow others to care for you.
12.Balance your social life with your personal life.
As you travel the ELM Mental Wellness path, you’ll become more aware of your importance in society as well as the impact you have on multiple environments. You’ll take an active part in improving our world by encouraging healthier living and initiating better communication with those around you.You’ll actively seek ways to preserve the beauty and balance of nature along the pathway as you discover the power to make willful choices to enhance personal relationships and important friendships, and build a better living space and community.
I can help you grow your social wellness by developing:
- comfort with expressing yourself
- supportive and fulfilling relationships
- Attitude towards your relationships (and your willingness to ask for help)
- Peer acceptance, close bonds and social skills (like assertiveness or conflict resolution)
- The ability to accept others for being different
It is better to contribute to the common welfare of our
community than to think only of ourselves.
It is better to live in harmony with others and our
environment than to live in conflict with them.