When a person or animal who we love leaves it can have a deep and painful effect on us.
1. Know that it's ok to feel sad
Feeling sad reflects on how important they are in our lives, and this is likely to continue when they are gone. When friends or family move away and we do not see them, there can be a similar effect. Our longing for them can feel very painful. It is OK to feel this pain, and it is also OK to be able to talk about it.
2. There is no right or wrong way to grieve
Different cultures deal with loss and bereavement in different ways. Grief is an intensely personal process.
3. Find the right time to express your emotions
When you feel safe and are with people you can trust. This might be days, weeks, months or years after a loss.
4. Talking can be helpful for some people
For others this can be too painful. Find a way to express yourself in a way that suits you; give yourself permission to feel sad and rubbish. Sometimes it is good to talk to people who are not affected because they might be better able to listen without getting too upset.
5. Over time you should feel less pain
If you don’t, then you might want to talk to your school nurse, because you might need some extra support.
6. You might want to create a way to remember that person
For ideas and inspiration, visit Laura Centre or Winston’s Wish (Please see below for details).
how to get help
Loss and bereavement is a difficult time and people can feel very sad and emotional during this time. If you feel sad and want to speak with someone, there are people out there who can help. Talk to someone you can trust either online or over the phone, you can also book appointments to see professionals if needed. People who experience loss and bereavement often need someone to talk to, here are some helpful national services who can help. Remember…..you’re not alone.
Find help in your local area
Find out what services are available to you in your area. Remember your school nurse is always there to give you confidential help and support.