I read something the other day which surprised me. It suggested that if we have no choice, then we have to behave like a robot. If we have to choose between two alternatives, we are faced with a dilemma, but if we have three possibilities then we have a real choice.
Imagine each possibility in turn as if it was your only way forward. How do you feel?
The idea is that by repeatedly asking ourselves for another possibility, our minds will produce something extra which may well be the solution providing way forward from an apparently stuck place.
A good time to ask for another possibility is just before going to sleep. Then the ‘work’ is done for us by our unconscious mind, so that in the morning, when least expecting it, a new idea pops into our head. If this happens while in the shower make sure you hold onto the new thought long enough to be able to write it down, as the physical act of co-ordination in writing helps to firm up the idea and start the process of moving towards acting upon it.
If you want to read more about ways to make decisions try ‘Living Magically’ by Gill Edwards, especially in her chapter ‘listening to the whispers.