Young children are developing self-control and learning what behavior is acceptable and what behavior is not acceptable. How that is done may differ from the 2’s to the 5’s depending on their developmental needs and understanding. The 2’s and 3’s do not always understand the concept of sharing but we address and model it – all the while having two or three duplicates of the same item close by. The 4’s and 5’s understand the concept of “taking turns” – usually when it’s their turn but may still need adult encouragement to give another child a turn.
Aggression is a normal expression of emotion in young children because they are just beginning to learn acceptable ways to channel their anger. This behavior may include hitting, throwing things, name-calling, spitting, biting, pushing or pulling, threatening to not invite one to the birthday party, destroying property or taking someone else’s possessions. What happens when a child becomes aggressive can be frustrating and disturbing to adults, but we also can see it as an opportunity to teach, a chance to model self-discipline and character.Our program recognizes the importance of dealing with aggressive behavior. Teachers help children find acceptable ways to express their anger, negotiate to get what they want or need, and handle aggression directed toward them by their peers.
We encourage children to express their feelings in words and to negotiate resolutions to conflict. We facilitate conversations between children when problems arise. Sometimes we even suggest words that help communicate the children’s feelings. In time with adult support, they are able to use these social skills to solve their own problems.