Hello, I'd like to help you with your question. Social anxiety develops when someone feels fear in a normal social situation that does not normally cause fear. However, the person begins to experience anxiety and other symptoms that are difficult to cope with. The symptoms become associated with the situation and a fear develops. Feeling angry can be the frustration you feel in dealing with the fear that comes up each time you try to feel normal in a social situation.Facing your fear is one of the best ways to help you feel better. Although it can be difficult when you feel so uncomfortable in public, taking small steps to improve how you feel can help.When it comes to talking with other people and being social, many people experience fears. One of the most significant is not knowing what to say. This also creates the fear that others will feel you are uninterested or even socially awkward. The best way to approach this is to have in mind at least three topics that fit any social situation, such as current events, social events involving the group and something about the group you are in such as something someone is wearing. Practice talking about these topics with "safe" people like family or a close friend. Another fear is that people will notice how nervous you are. To deal with this fear, it helps to confront it by asking yourself "so what?". What can happen if they notice? Everyone has been afraid at one time or another so realizing that can help you feel less nervous. Take along a comforting object, one that gives you tactile sensation, like a smooth stone. It can help to play with this object as you talk to not only distract you from feeling nervous, but also to calm you. When in doubt, bring up something about the other person. A simple compliment can break the ice and make the other person perceive you as approachable and kind. People love to talk about themselves so whenever you feel stuck, ask a question about that person. Learn their interests and ask them about it when you see them, like "how was the game?" Social phobias often develop unexpressed emotions from either childhood or a trauma. Therapy can help a lot to learn what triggers these feelings of fear and what you can do about them. Also, self help can supplement therapy and help you learn how to relax when you feel fearful and learn to enjoy being out with others. Here are some resources to help you: The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook by Edmund J. BourneAnxiety, Phobias, & Panic: A Step-by-Step Program for Regaining Control of Your Life by Reneau Z. Peurifoy http://www.helpguide.org/mental/social_anxiety_support_symptom_causes_treatment.htm
I hope this has helped,Kate
It's not what i meant. I think i'm ok to talking with people. I'm even a good talking person. But i still feel uncomfortable. A feeling from deep inside, that i dont like this situation, even i dont know why. In restaurant, i try to eat fast to finish the meal. In the road, i try to walk so i dont have to see anyone else.
I feel so wrooooong all the time in public. i need to get over all these thing.
If you are uncomfortable in public situations and avoid trying to see others, you either may be developing a social fear or you might have some traits of anti social disorder. But you mention feeling ok talking to others so you may not have a full disorder, just some symptoms. You may also want to explore your background and see if there is something that might be causing how you feel now. Sometimes people develop feelings as adults that are caused by past traumas or situations that harmed them emotionally. These issues do not show themselves until they are adults because before then, it was not safe. Talking to a therapist would help you explore what might be going on and the best way to address it.
I think i have to talking with a therapist to figure out my problem. So can you introduce me some online therapist or any therapy that may work for my situation.
Sorry, I had to step out for a bit. You can see a therapist face to face or on line.Here are some resources to help you:
Here is a guide to on line therapy:
The best therapy option is most likely Cognative Behavioral therapy which helps you change your thinking so you feel better. When you begin therapy, the therapist should do a full evaluation and provide a diagnosis, so you can better understand why you feel as you do. Then they will work with you to find solutions to help.