Death is an inevitable part of life, and grief is a natural part of the healing process but, truth be told, death causes suffering for those left behind. No one really knows the true effects it has unless they have experienced it themselves.
When you have experienced loss you go through a range of emotions and feelings ranging from shock, numbness, sadness, denial, despair, anxiety, anger, guilt, loneliness, depression, helplessness, relief, and yearning.
Dealing with a significant loss can be one of the most difficult times in a person's life as feelings of loss are very personal, and the person going through the loss knows its significance. The prominent feeling people commonly associate with loss is the feeling of grief.
In Grief, there is no recipe or timeline for healing all you can do is take it one day at a time. There’s no right or wrong way to grieve and it should not be rushed. It should be noted that grief has no predictable schedule and is known to be quite painful at times, therefore a grieving person can start crying after hearing a song or comment that makes them think of their loved one.
Feelings Associated to Grief
When experiencing grief, it is common to feel:
Guilt or Remorse
If you’re in grief and finding it hard to cope with the loss of a loved one, there is help and support for you, you’re not alone. It is important to be patient with yourself as you experience your unique reactions to the loss. Just know that with time and support, things generally do get better. However, it is normal for significant dates, holidays, or other reminders to trigger feelings related to the loss.
Take care of yourself, seek the support you need and acknowledge your feelings are valid whenever you experience them because grief is a process and not linear and is more often experienced in cycles. Be patient with the process and allow yourself to have any feelings about your loss as this will help but, make sure you talk about it as this will help you move forward in your healing process.
Listen To Podcast S2 E12: Loss