An external genital exam is part of a normal physical exam in child. I seriously doubt your pediatrician was doing this exam for some sexual purpose. However, I wouldn't force an exam like this on a crying kid, particularly an older kid with a sense of agency, unless it was medically necessary.Many pediatricians will limit their external GU exam on older girls to simply looking externally at labia, to assess pubarche. Doing an external while spreading labia is less common a "check up", unless there's a specific complaint like discharge, itching, rash, whatever. On the other hand, boy will typically have their testicles palpated looking for masses, hernias, varicocele, and assessing normal testicular development.Nobody here can say if the specifics of what your pediatrician were definitely appropriate in the circumstances, but an external GU exam isn't uncommon, and isn't "molestation" in and of itself. But it's something where assent from a 14 y/o girl should be obtained.
Was I molested by my pediatrician? / Is this normal for a pediatric exam?This is going to be all over the place so I'm sorry for that.All I remember was being 14 and being at the pediatricians. I kept saying no. My Mom was in the room and kept saying yes. So my underwear was down and my knees were bent and I was sobbing and my male pediatrician spread my labia just to "look" (with his hands). I was sobbing and saying no and I was ignored.I've talked to various crisis types of hotlines including RAINN and personally found them of no help.