Its always hard to say what another doctor saw or thought when someone got care. Miscommunication between providers and patients are extremely common with chronic illness. With flares of chronic illnesses there is often not much that can be done outside of the norm, and brief emergency care is frequently not enough to solve the flare but hospital care is frequently not indicated, which can make one feel very much dismissed.In this case, OPs BF has several huge red flags that suggest he should go to the emergency room for evaluation.Severe worsening nausea and headachesLoss of bowel/bladder controlProgressive coughing and shortness of breathFluid buildup requiring diuretics (this is VERY unusual and requires a significant evaluation that I dont see written about here)
I dont mean to be rude with this question but I know as someone with chronic illnesses I am generally reluctant to go to the ED when they flare up because of the whole history of being told theres nothing doctors can do for me, or its just because Im fat, anxious, whatever. If hes been dismissed by doctors before what should he say now to make sure he actually gets the care he needs?