5 Secrets to a Happy Marriage
How hard is it to get married?
From a procedural standpoint, it’s actually quite easy.
All you need to do is get registered, pay a fee and find someone to officiate the wedding. These days, you don’t even have to find the bride or groom yourself! Reality television shows like Married at First Sight show that anyone can get married—even to a complete stranger. But once the couples have said “I do,” how often do they live happily ever after?
It’s not hard to make a wedding happen, but it does take effort to make a marriage last. According to Tony Ferretti and Peter J. Weiss, authors of The Love Fight, the necessary factors to create a strong bond with your spouse can be summarised in five key principles.
1. Partnership of equals
You participate as an equal partner in your marriage and take responsibility for your own feelings, thoughts and actions.
“It’s important to clarify that we are not talking about an equal delegation or distribution of work duties. Rather, we mean an equal personal responsibility as adult partners in the marriage relationship,” say Ferretti and Weiss.
Any attempt to control or change your spouse will not help your marriage. On the contrary, doing so almost guarantees the marriage will go wrong. Thinking that your spouse is the problem and trying to fix him or her won’t help your relationship. Sure, your spouse may have issues, but you probably do too. If you want a strong marriage, you must be prepared to change yourself. Change has to start in you. When one partner is truly focused on being the best person that he or she can be, quite often the spouse decides to change too.
However, not only should you not try to control your spouse, you also must not relinquish control of yourself. Being passive and avoiding responsibility by allowing your spouse to inappropriately control aspects of life also leads to an unequal relationship.
Dysfunctional people tend to attract dysfunctional partners. The good news is that the reverse is also true—emotionally healthy people can attract emotionally healthy partners. By maintaining responsibility for your feelings, thoughts and actions, you are preparing a solid foundation for a lasting marriage.
2. Marriage is a priority
You are fully engaged, committed and make the relationship with your spouse a high priority.
This second principle states that you are fully engaged and committed to your relationship and make it a priority. But how high of a priority is it, really? That’s up to you, but if you want a strong marriage, then it’s going to have to be more important than your job, the kids, the in-laws, hobbies and just about everything else in your life.
Ferretti and Weiss believe that most people fall into one of two categories—Achievers or Connectors. Achievers are often driven by success. They may be excellent at winning clients at work but struggle with relationships. On the other hand, connecters are able to develop deep relationships with likeminded friends but may struggle to keep their Achiever spouses interested. Marriage works best when Achievers and Connectors learn how to communicate in the ways that their partner understands. Both Achievers and Connectors need to see their marriage as a priority.
Achievers get satisfaction from their accomplishments and they must view their marriage as something worth investing in. Meanwhile, Connectors value relationships so highly that they can often become people pleasers and approval seekers, who put themselves last in order to make others happy. Their self-worth becomes tied up in their spouse’s happiness. They need to acknowledge when they are having these feelings and not be afraid to address difficult issues with their partner.
It should be noted that seeing marriage as a priority doesn’t mean that marriage should be more important than your own spiritual and emotional wellness. Marriage works best when both participants are spiritually and emotionally well. As flight attendants teach in the case of an in-flight aeroplane decompression, you must take your own oxygen first before trying to assist others.
3. Communication and conflict resolution
You strive to communicate effectively and to constructively manage and resolve conflicts.
Like death and taxes, conflicts in marriage are a given. But differences in opinion don’t have to be something negative. Resolving difficult issues in healthy and productive ways can actually bring couples closer together.
Achievers and Connectors may have difficulties in this area. Achievers are competitive by nature and simply want to win the argument. On the other hand, Connectors usually value relationships more than winning and may give in too quickly, only to walk away with lingering resentment.
“I” statements such as, “I get frustrated when you interrupt me,” are most helpful in this context. Being able to constructively express your thoughts and feelings without blaming the other person is one of the most important abilities in avoiding problems from unresolved conflict.
Like exercising muscles in the gym, facing conflict squarely and working through the pain will help you grow emotionally and make the relationship stronger. Meanwhile, just as avoiding exercise causes muscles to atrophy, avoiding conflict because it is painful can cause serious damage to your relationship.
4. Forgiveness and trust
You are willing to forgive and work to rebuild and maintain trust.
Even with the best communication and conflict resolution, feelings are going to get hurt. Sometimes the issues will be minor and sometimes they will be major. This is where forgiveness and building trust comes in. Forgiving your spouse is not just for his or her benefit! It is for your benefit and for the benefit of the relationship. Forgiveness allows you to let go of anger and bypass the resentment that will build if you bottle up your anger inside.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean that all of your spouse’s actions are tolerable or acceptable. For example, a wife should not have to tolerate her husband’s affairs. However, if she hopes to have a happy future with her husband, she will need to forgive (not forget) his past transgressions. At the same time, he will need to stop his cheating if he wants his marriage to continue.
When you forgive, you enable yourself to achieve personal healing, even if you choose not to maintain a relationship with the person who hurt you. It is not about the other person’s response, it’s about letting go of the internal pain.
Some people have an easier time forgiving than others. Their ability to forgive might be based more on their experiences growing up or on prior relationships, rather than their personalities. However, Achievers, with their high personal standards, may find it more difficult to forgive themselves. Connectors may struggle to forgive others because they feel like they have invested so much in the relationship.
Forgiveness is an active process that takes effort. Most people can’t forgive instantly, especially for major hurts. But the decision to forgive resets a person’s ability to trust, to be vulnerable with others and to ensure they don’t take unresolved anger and hurt into future relationships.
You strive for physical and emotional intimacy with your spouse.
People experience, express and receive love in different ways. Some people would prefer a delicious home-cooked meal, others positive affirmations and others presents. Partners need to understand one another’s love languages in order to communicate love appropriately.
Connectors often desire emotional intimacy before sexual intimacy while the more disconnected Achievers may open up emotionally following physical interaction. Understand that your spouse may be different to you. When you understand what your partner prefers, you’ll be able to connect better and energise your marriage.
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About Homesexuality in General
The Cases of Sexual Orientation.
Attitudes Toward Homosexuality.
Fay and Lesbian Families.
Fay and Lesbian Parents.
How Many Are Out There?
Divorced Lesbian Mothers and Fay Fathers.
Lesbian and Fay Men Choosing Parent-hood.
The Children of Fay and Lesbian Parents.
Tender and Sexual Orientation.
Children Born to Lesbian Mothers.
Implications for Counselors.
I. About Homesexuality in General.
Homosexuality is sexual activity between individuals of the same sex. Both men and women may be considhomosexual. Female homosexuals often call themlesbians. Male homosexuals sometimes refer to themselves as gay. Scientists estimate that 1 to 10 perof men and women in the United States feel sexuattracted primarily to members of their own sex.
Some people are not entirely homosexual or entirely heterosexual (sexually attracted only to the opposite sex). Some people with homosexual experiences or tenden-cies marry individuals of the opposite sex and have chilMany people who identify themselves as heterohave participated in some kind of homosexual activity at some time in their lives. People who are strongly attracted to members of both sexes are called bisexuals.
It is fairly common for young boys — and, less frefor young girls — to masturbate (handle or rub their sex organs). Boys may stimulate each other in this way, and so may girls. Such activity rarely indicates or develops into a homosexual orientation. In most cases, the young people are simply exploring their own sexual development. See Sex (Puberty).
Some homosexual behavior results from the unavaila-bility of partners of the opposite sex and may not reflect a homosexual interest that continues once partners of the opposite sex become available. Thus, a person who spends long periods separated from the opposite sex may turn to members of his or her own sex for sexual partners. For example, such a situation may occur in prison.
Many homosexuals hide their homosexuality. Others are more open about it. Many join gay or lesbian groups. Sometimes two homosexuals establish a long-term relationship that is similar to marriage.
2. The causes of sexual orientation are not fully un-derstood. Some experts believe all people are born with a bisexual potential. But for a majority of people, either homosexuality or heterosexuality becomes their sexual orientation.
Most experts feel that a number of different factors can influence the direction of one's sexual orientation. Some researchers have suggested that sexual orienta-tion results chiefly from biological factors. These may ina specific gene inherited from a parent or the ef-fect of hormones in the mother's womb on the developing brain of a fetus. Other researchers believe a person's sexual orientation is associated primarily with social and psychological factors. For example, according to one theory, children can learn through pleasurable sexual experiences to become increasingly attracted to either of the sexes or to both sexes.
Homosexuality is more comfortable than heterosexufor many men and women. Some people try to change their sexual orientation through psychiatric treatment. However, learning to manage and appreciate one's feelings and life style may be a more realistic goal for people.
3. Attitudes toward homosexuality.
Throughout hishomosexuality has existed in most societies. Varicultures have differed in their attitudes toward it. For example, some ancient Greeks not only accepted homosexuality but considered it to be an ideal relationship —perhaps because ancient Greek men bethat only men could fulfill the role of true friend and lover. Other cultures have permitted homosexuality but have not encouraged it. Still others have forbidden it, and some have punished homosexuals.
Today, many people in most Western countries conhomosexuality immoral or unnatural.


You again.I hate you but I love you.
My head really loves you.My heart really hate you
and love you at the same time..
But love it..it still doesn't change a thing.
Love is a crazy thing for me.It made me smile.It made me cry.
It made me feel tormented.I just enjoy it to the extreme.
Hey..I'm just touched you say I'm a good girl.
Hey..I don't know how to make up with a guy,especially it's you.
I don't know what to do,step by step.Teach me eh?Not that
I don't want to..I just really don't know how to.but I love the idea.
Hey..I talk dirty things,but never tempted practice it.
I'm not turn on yet to do 'turn-on-stuff'.
Making out is dirty eh?
Hey..I want to learn,teach and share a lot of things with you.
Hey..I think we can be good friends,if you can't except the fact I love you.
B'coz you are worth knowing.
That's okay.I always have been hurt like this,everytime I fight for the real thing,
some of it worth it.some of it never did work.some of it remain unspoken.
You drive my brain wild.I just really want to talk to you in real life..
It's so boring chatting with you.I want to see you again,
and nah,I'll be very open with you.
It's hard hiding my thoughts like this.everytime.


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In this story, Clementine is worried about the end of Grade 3 because she really loved her teacher and doesn't want to say goodbye. She is also looking forward to the arrival of her new sibling and she is figuring out what to do because she is really mad at her dad and isn't speaking to him. I liked all three main parts of this story and the ending as well.
I like Clementine's character because she is really sweet and thoughtful and when things go wrong she usually meant for them to go right. I think she is a perfect Grade 3 character!
If you like Junie B. you will probably also like Clementine.


Relational Empowerment (Fishbane)
Insights from “Facilitating relational empowerment in couple therapy”, written by Mona DeKoven Fishbane and appearing in Family Process, Vol. 50, No 3, 2011, 337-352. Excerpts below are taken directly from this source with page numbers included.
Power in couples can be looked at in three ways: Power over (involves competition, individualism, partriarchy); Power To (ability to self-regulate, to read and manage own emotions and have voice and respect others’ voice); and Power With (couple’s commitment to co-nurture the relationship through empathy, respect, generosity). ABSTRACT, p. 337
Couples resort to a variety of tactics to connect with each other and end up alienating each other. Power Over. Involves cultural values, hierarchies… Underlying many Power Over interactions is a deep desire to be heard, understood and affirmed. P. 342
Couple therapy can help to facilitate relational empowerment which involves the ability to navigate and regulate one’s inner world (Power To) and to interact successfully with respect and generosity with the partner and form more egalitarian relationships which heightens couple satisfaction(Power With). Increases mastery and hope. P. 339.
Emotional reactivity is hardwired into the brain, especially when threat perceived. Each set each other off through emotional contagion. When the amygdala is highly aroused this shuts down the pre-frontal cortex. Later on the partners often create a narrative which blames the partner and exonerates the self. P. 340
Rather than “I think therefore I am”, it may be more “I feel therefore I am (Cacioppo & Patrick, 2008)”. The brain itself is embodied with a constant body/brain feedback loop. Being aware and regulating one’s own emotions is crucial for relational empowerment” and for empathy in particular. Self-attunement and empathy with others may utilize the same resonance circuits in the brain (Siegel, 2007, 2010). P. 340
Relational empowerment moves from two victims to two co-authors of the relationship. Shared sense of relational responsibility. Challenges automatic reactivity, justifications and blame to develop new skills. P 342
Power Over Dynamics
Physical violence, threats, intimidation
Power struggle, domination
Power To Skills
Flexibility, thoughtfulness, reflection
Emotion regulation, self-soothing
Differentiation of self, boundaries
Making a relational claim
Power With Skills
Shared relational responsibility
Nurturing the ‘we’
Respect, accepting differences
Contents from Table 1, page 342.
Regulating emotions does not mean suppressing emotion with reason, but rather experiencing emotions without becoming overwhelmed. Identifying and naming emotions activates the prefrontal cortex and calms down the emotional brain (Creswell, Way, Eisenberger & Lieberman, 2007). With emotions managed, one can feel safer connecting to self and other. P. 343
Imagery techniques can be helpful- therapist might have the partners imagine their prefrontal cortex calming their rowdy amygdala. Neuroeducation. P. 344
As partners feel more confident about their own emotional regulation, they become less desperate for the other’s capacity to soothe them. P. 344
If one has Power To, one does not become dysregulated but is calm enough to address the issue with the partner. Mindfulness meditation and focused breathing and journaling can help with self-regulation. P. 344
Important to differentiate oneself from one’s partner. Envisage a fence between their “yards”. Enjoy one’s own yard. Can be more compassionate of other because self is not responsible for other. Can challenge the partner more when yard violated. P. 345
Make an emotional claim, to speak one’s own feelings and needs in a manner that also holds concern for the other and the relationship. Challenging gender-based assumptions is an example of this. Not dominate or be dominated. P. 345
Stonewalling feels like abandonment. Need to turn towards the other. Take a time out, a breather to regain emotional control. P. 346
Empathy key aspect of Power With. Mutual empathy helps partners feel secure and connected (attached) as well as validated.
Empathy involves several neurobiological components:
Resonance: a subcortical automatic process in which one feels in one’s body/brain what the other feels;
Cognitive empathy where one consciously puts oneself into the other’s shoes;
Self-regulation and a boundary between self and the other, so one does not become overwhelmed in the face of the other’s pain.
Empathy releases Oxytocin which reduces the stress hormone cortisol. With motivation both men and women can increase their level of empathic accuracy. P. 347.
Empathy can be framed as a set of skills and learned. Blocked by defensiveness, blame and guilt.
Need to take joint responsibility for care and repair in the relationship.
All relationships involve breaks in connection, cycles of connection, disconnection and repair. Even in well attuned mother-child relationships it is estimated that 70% of communication is not in synchrony (Tronick, 2007, p. 159). Fishbane, p. 349.
Therapist need to have Power To or capacity for self-regulation that allow for a safe entry into the couple’s limbic world without being overwhelmed. Therapists needs also Power With to feel feeply with clients and to join them in their limbic experience. P. 350


It blows my mind to think what could have been throughout 2006-2012. All my time and love wasted on meaningless, infatuated youth. Sure I’ve learned quite a bit from my past relationships, but it really makes me wonder what could have happened if I allowed circumstances to play out. What if I had let my (now) boyfriend kiss me during Halloween 2007 in Santa Barbara, instead of slapping him across the face for being a drunk idiot? Or, what would he have said if I told him how I really felt during my visits to UCSB? From 2006-2010 I was dating Randy- my first boyfriend (ever), I knew I would never marry him (which is why I broke it off, after so long it’s either commitment or end it) but he was fun and I did care about him- main reason why I always steered clear of my (then) friend’s advancements. I really would have cut ties sooner if it meant meeting my future half. If someone would have said to me that the same little boy, who (repeatedly) tried to touch my butt, in middle school would be the man I could possibly end up spending my life with, I would have cried haha
But I’m happier than I have ever been. I have a wonderful man (who is handsome, funny, kind, patient, and a genius!) that has taught me so much about life within these past two years. I’m thankful to have found my imperfectly, perfect stud. His 10inch **** ain’t bad either.


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It happened to you. A notification appears indicating that you have a direct message. Someone wants to connect. You open your DM to see a comment from a stranger on your social media post or a compliment on your recent win to engage in a seemingly innocent conversation. These banter are short-lived when suddenly the details of their offer start coming to you faster than the ninja stars.
What are you doing? I block and delete these messages without flinching. Spammy cold slots are one of my biggest pet peeves and they are not welcome in my space.
Online platforms have opened up opportunities for entrepreneurs to connect with people who would not have been in their orbits before. That’s a good thing, but that doesn’t mean you should throw good manners and etiquette out the window. You wouldn’t directly approach someone in person and immediately start pitching your products to them, so don’t do it online.
Related: The Art of the Client Pitch
The problem of blind cold locations
The cut-and-paste version of your sales pitch that you blindly send out to the masses is completely lacking in personality and sincerity. Worse still, it shows that you are only interested in selfish gains. If you haven’t done your homework to learn more about your prospect and understand their needs, they won’t want to spend their time listening to what you have to say.
My time is precious! A cold pitch shows me you don’t value my time. I am loyal to people who take the time to build a great relationship with me and develop the knowledge, appreciation and trust factors. They are the ones who will be my collaborators for life. Your approach is key. You lose your credibility when you send out a cold pitch without establishing a rapport first.
It takes time to cultivate a lasting business relationship, but the return on investment is far more important than the “spray and pray” method of getting your wares out there. Your time is best spent building lasting relationships with someone who will need you in the future and who will be happy to recommend you multiple times.
Related: 5 Psychology-Based Tips for Gaining and Maintaining a Prospect’s Trust
The right approach
For best results, approach connecting via DM the same way you would in person. At this point, it’s not about making money with that first sale. Keep brand alignment in mind and determine if the person you want to connect with is the right person for your business. Find the people who resonate with what you do and leave your agenda at the door. This will ensure that you approach the relationship with authenticity, and not with “command breath.”
Look for opportunities to develop a genuine connection with them. When you genuinely care about others as a human being, that’s where the magic happens. Knowing their business is important, but also take the time to look at what interests your prospect outside of work. Do you have hobbies, groups or friends in common? Details like this can be found on their online platforms and make it easier for you to connect with them on a personal level.
After you’ve done your research, send a message that offers the other person a benefit. Lead with value! Affirm your acquaintances in a friendly way to start laying the groundwork for your relationship. Also recognize that not everyone will be interested in connecting, no matter how sincere you are.
An excellent relationship between me and a (fitness professional?) I know started in my DM. This person saw a flaw in one of the yoga poses I shared on social media. He wanted to help, so he messaged me. Her request was too direct and personal, she caught me off guard. He’s a generous person and he sincerely wanted to help me, but without knowing him yet, my spider senses kicked in. Fortunately, he pivoted from that first comment and took the time to build my confidence in him.
Over the next few months he was active on my social media, encouraging me through my yoga journey and helping to engage my page. He provided value by sharing tips with me that I could use to improve my poses. Very quickly, I asked him questions. He invested time in developing our relationship and showed me that he was an authority in his area of expertise.
Related: The 6 Worst Opening Moves to Start a Business Relationship
Prioritize quality over quantity
Always prioritize quality over quantity. You don’t need to spam everyone with a thoughtless message that will likely be ignored or blocked. Spend time making genuine connections with the people you align with to build lasting relationships and build effortless long-term business.
People work with people they know, like and trust, no matter where they meet. Technology and online platforms provide valuable benefits to grow our network and work faster, but genuine relationships will always be the key to lasting success.
#cold #pitch #sucks #Heres #approach #prospects


Thursday, November 20, 2014
I am reminded of why I previously chose to be single. I've always been "the girlfriend" type. Loyal puppy dog love. Total devotion. I'm just a serious girl about everything I do. I don't enjoy dating or sleeping around. I want to be with someone who I can see a future with... otherwise, there's no chance! No matter how cute or seemingly perfect someone seems, I need to see a serious frame of mind that is ready for commitment. I've never wanted to get married immediately. I wanted to date someone I could seriously marry, eventually. In admitting this, this is the reason why I CHOSE to be single for so long. Prior to my last boyfriend, I was single for many years. Was abstinent from sex for a couple years when I finally "sealed the deal" with my ex... on our 1st official date. It was unlike me. There was a spark. We'd been texting for awhile leading up to it. We were already crazy about each other on our 1st date. So, why was it so scary to make our relationship official "couple status"? Why so much tip toeing and fear? Connections can be effortless but relationships ARE NOT. It takes work, understanding, and maturity (among a ton of other things!) Also, since my last break up, I rediscovered BREAK UPS SUCK! Heartbreak on any degree are uncomfortable and hurt. You take a risk when you agree to make the couple commitment. Likewise, it takes a lot of courage to end a relationship... when you know that's the most beneficial thing to do in the long run. To finally stop denying to yourself and others of how you really feel. I've been that girl so many times, even outside of romantic relationships. Playing that happy role for others so they think everything is ok and you can also play pretend it's ok. It can be easier to drag unhappiness on, Or Try to sabotage a relationship in a subconscious attempt to lead to it's demise WITHOUT having to concretely make the choice. A "coward's way out". I understand making commitments of any sort can be scary. We need to be honest with ourselves and other's we are making commitments to. Is this what we really want? Are we truly in a place to devote serious energy towards this relationship/situation? In all fields of commitment in life, it's similar to gambling. You may know there's a chance going into something. You place your bet or you don't based on that gut feeling. Either way you're taking a risk of "loosing" or getting hurt. It's a part of basic living instinct, you want to protect yourself! Survival instincts. How can you NOT expect issues when you bring two totally separate humans trying to share a life together? Everyone has a different mind with various experiences that others may not be able to relate to... but you still try to understand. Add mommy, daddy, + family problems to the mix, and you're eating the bittersweet salad of life sprinkled with tasty trauma of past relationships, dressed with basic balsamic human nature.


Empirical Study of Influential Elements of E-loyalty
Chinese Journal of Management Science
2014, 22 (6):
Customer loyalty is an important factor for the network businesses to maintain market position and sustainable competitive advantage. However, the existing theoretical literature studies show that complexity and uncertainty of customer loyalty in the network environment have become a bottleneck to hinder further development of e-commerce. Therefore, on the basis of previous literature, structure equation model is built in this paper, regarding trust, online site characteristics, line logistics service quality, customer satisfaction, switching costs as external cause's latent variable, customer loyalty as endogenous latent variable. Questionnaire survey is used to collect empirical data, and factor analysis and structural equation model are introduced reveal influencing factors and action mechanism of customey loyalty in online shopping environment. The study turns out that in a network environment, trust can not only indirectly affect customer loyalty by customer satisfaction, but also can become the direct antecedent variables of customer loyalty. Online site characteristics and quality of logistics services commonly increase the customer satisfaction and indirect impact on customer loyalty accumulation; customer satisfaction and switching costs are the major factors with direct impact on customer loyalty in the network environment. The result reflects online shopping environment customer loyalty influencing factors and mechanism of action, there has very important reference value for network retailers to implement the plan of customer loyalty.
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Factors to Consider when Choosing a Marriage Counselor
There are many benefits associated with marriage counseling. One, you can be able to save your marriage, you can get help preparing for a baby and you can have the ability to communicate effectively. The marriage counselor you choose can determine whether you will get these benefits or if you will be wasting your money. Not every marriage counselor can work best in the problem you are facing that is why it is important to choose the marriage counselor carefully. There are a number of hints that can assist you in identifying the most appropriate marriage counselor. Click here to find couples-therapy marriage counseling Dubai.
It is imperative to consider whether you share your values with the marriage counselor. All marriage counselors have a different approach when it comes to marriage; this is something you need to factor when it comes to making your choice. You don’t have to agree about everything that the marriage counselor says, but it is crucial for you to pick someone with the same values as you. You need to consider the problem that you are facing first, then search for a marriage counselor that has handled such matters before and offered solutions that worked.
The strategy that the marriage counselor uses must also be taken into account. You need to find a marriage counselor that can come up with a strategy that can help you get out of your marital problems. You need to make an inquiry on how the marriage counselor is planning to do the treatment and if there is a specific modality that he uses. Make sure that you pick a marriage counselor that uses a therapy strategy that you and your partner are comfortable with. To learn more about a Thrive Wellbeing Centre, click here.
Making a research about the reputation of the marriage counselor is also imperative when it comes to make a choice. You need a therapist that is known to offer great services to the couples that go to him. You can ask some of your friends that have gone to a therapist before and request them to refer you to the expert they went to. If the therapist has a website, you can look at the reviews that have been made about him by the couples he worked with. Look at his success rates; this means the problems that he has been able to handle successfully. The therapist that you select must have a good reputation for offering high quality services to the people that go to him.


People often suffer in their closest relationships because we don’t know how to talk. If we feel there is no good excuse or opportunity to raise certain questions, we may miss out on conversations that might have rescued us.
Inside this box – a toolkit for relationships – you will find 100 carefully composed questions, designed by leading experts, on how to get lovers talking to one another and their friends about who they are, who they hope to become, some of the things they secretly want, and the pleasures and sorrows of love. ‘What was your family’s attitude to showing affection? How does this affect you now?’ and ‘Is it a sign of cynicism or wisdom to tolerate affairs?’ are just two of the meaty and thought-inspiring questions on offer.
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“Count your blessings (instead of sheep)”- Irving Berlin
As part of the 30 day gratitude challenge I have been doing this month I have been reading up on the positive effects of gratitude, starting with the effects on sleep.
Research suggests that writing down the things we are grateful for before going to bed helps us to fall asleep faster, because it lessens our tendency to ponder and get hung up on negative experiences/ thoughts etc. A study by Wood et al. also linked gratitude to better sleep quality and duration.
On the other side we need good sleep to able to express gratitude (especially towards others). Amie Gordon from Berkeley looked at the effects of poor sleep quality and the negative effects it has on gratitude towards others. Her studies showed that less gratitude expressed is associated with poor sleep, as well as more fighting in relationships with less conflict resolution after a bad night’s sleep. She proposes a bidirectional model in which sleep and social interactions affect each other. Maranges et al. and Strawbridge et al. showed people tend to be less satisfied with their relationships if either they or their partners sleep poorly, and that if one spouse slept badly it affected the health and wellbeing of the other.
So not only does how we sleep affect the amount of gratitude we feel and express, gratitude in turn can affect how we sleep! So taking a few moments before bed to think about what we are grateful for today, and it can be small simple things like coffee in the morning, might just have a bigger effect than we think!


A few days ago, the Wall Street Journal had an article about the financial benefits of marriage. The data indicates that married couples have a higher net worth than couples who cohabitate. While there is no definitive explanation for this, there are some theories. You can read the article here. I have my own theory about this that I might share later.
I hope everyone has a person in their life they can count on no matter what. A person that picks you up when you are down. A person that cheers the loudest when you succeed. A person that listens to your concerns and helps you problem solve. A person that loves you unconditionally. A person who is a true partner in life.
I am fortunate to have such a person in my life. For over 20 years she has been my rock. I don’t know what I did to deserve such an amazing person as my wife. Today I am grateful for my best friend, travel partner, business partner, girlfriend, and wife. I can’t imagine what life would be like without you.
Today is the last day of the Gratitude Challenge. Have you noticed a change? More about that tomorrow.


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If your current spouse was previously married and breached that contract to have an affair with you, you can’t claim ignorance or victim status if you’re the next one cheated on. Cheaters cheat. That’s what they do. You of all people should know that, having demonstrated that you approved of cheating and were willing to facilitate it when you were the beneficiary.


To: The girl I affectionately knew as ‘Laddu’.
I never stopped thinking about you everyday. Saying good-bye isn’t easy and I feel like I just watched you walk out of the door without doing anything. I wanted to tell you how I really felt about you. I wanted to tell you that ‘I love you’. That you’re the most intelligent and beautiful person I’ve ever known. The truth is that since I’ve known you, I cannot love anyone else. I want to spend the rest of my life with you, have kids, a beautiful house, live through happily ever afters and through every obstacle life throws at us. I want to spend forever with you. I keep sitting here believing that everything will be okay, that you’ll walk back into my life someday, that maybe we’ll cross paths in a big city and madly fall in love with each other all over again. Are you my destiny? Or was it destiny that wrote that we’ll never be together?
I hope that someday in the future you’re thinking about me and you come across this post and realize that I didn’t lose you, you lost me.


There are lots of places to take your date on Valentine's Day when you are in the Albuquerque area. Whether you want a romantic dinner or a night out on the town, there is an abundance of things to choose from in the Albuquerque area. Take a look at some of the ideas below:
Grab your loved one and take one of the Valentine's Bike Tours. This is great for those living a healthy lifestyle and want to get out in nature together.
Go watch the hot air balloons lift off at the Friends and Lovers Balloon Rally.
Enjoy a romantic dinner and wine pairing at the Valentine's at Los Poblanos.
Do you and your love like to run? Check out the Sweetheart Run.
Do you love music? Miss the 90s? Head over to the Rt. 66 Casino's Legends Theater to…


Hey guys today’s topic is Relation ship in Japanese. However, this Japanese for when you find right parson in Japan you will use these sentences. So maybe it might be different with some countries.
However, In Japan we do not have dating time like America. Only we do have relationship.
This is most useful sentences for relationship or dating.
Would you like to go out with me today? 今日は私と出かけませんか? (Kyou watashi to dekake masenka?）
I need talk to you something 話したい事がある(Hanashi tai koto ga aru）
What you want to talk about? 何を話したいの? (Nani wo hanashitaino?）
I will tell you when I meet you 会った時に話す (Atta tokini hanasu）
I like your fashion style 私あなたのファッション好きだよ (Watashi anata no fashion sukidayo)
I have been thinking about you あなたの事をずっと考えてた (Anatano koto wo zutto kangaeteta）
I can’t stop thinking about you. Same.
I love you あなたのことが大好き ( Anatano kotoga Daisuki）
Would you be a my girlfriend? 私の彼女になってくれない? (Watashi no kanojyo ni natte kurenai?)
Would you marry me? 結婚してください(Kekkon shitekudasai)
This is all what I know about relationship words.Thank you so much for taking time and checking my website.


To the Teacher he Loved
I have a story to tell,
It’s about a friend in love who fell.
To a teacher he admired very well,
Who made his very own heart swell.
This teacher he loved has her own beauty,
Smooth skin… very creamy.
What my buddy likes most is her being lovely,
Even though he knows she’s twice of his age already.
My friend told me about the person he is dreaming,
At first, I thought he was kidding.
After some reasons, I started believing,
That in his life,” she”, the one who’s missing.
Sometime I asked my friend,
“She’s twice your age, you can’t blend.”
What if time comes, will it end?”
He responded, “Change on my looks for will I not tend.”
Time passed, my friend called me on the phone,
“Pal, I seem to feel alone,
My love, my fantasy has already someone,
I think this guy is handsome!”
Told him, “Wasn’t your fault if he’s tonight’s winner
In fact, there are other girls you can take out for dinner
You did not just deserve for her
Guess that guy of her is a good lover...”
Whenever in the campus we meet,
Putting the JS Prom in conversation makes him grit.
For it was the night he didn’t want to admit,
As a matter of fact, on that same night, he did weep...
Where love ended and where it begun
We must always accept what has been done
When time comes and great things are gone
We must always remember that life must go on…


Did you ever falling in love?
if yes you are a human
Loving someone is not always fun, actually if someone you love is not loving you too. There are many love story about this kind of love, no body want to hurt but if you don't love someone you will also leave him/her. That's the rule of love.
Love always wanted to belong someone, love never see that there is another one who love to love.


When a person says they are single it does not automatically mean that they are lonely. In a recent study put out in June of 2012, 54 million Americans were single. Of those 54 million, 40 million have tried online dating and 35 million were continuing to use online dating services. That could be a big reason why South Bay dating has blossomed recently as a dating haven for singles. If you are looking to get back into the dating world, or to try dating for the first time, consider searching for South bay dating organizations or Bay area singles who enjoy the same activities and adventures you do.
South Bay dating can be exhilarating and fun. Events and adventures like Bay area hiking, happy hour, and recreational sports are designed to break the ice and introduce singles interested in dating bay area. If you feel nervous about meeting new people then you should consider how they feel. Being yourself and relaxing allow your personality to shine through, which is the number one factor when men and women are looking for a partner, and will go a lot further than putting on an act in the long run. Explore your Bay area dating options by searching for South Bay dating groups or singles bars that host monthly events.
South Bay dating is also a great way to meet new friends, romantic or platonic, or maybe both. Instead of ordering Chinese take out and watching old episodes of your favorite show, investigate the South Bay dating scene to find someone who enjoys the same kind of night you do. Putting yourself out there can also lead to personal growth. You might meet a woman who does nothing you enjoy but, because she does these things, you may find yourself becoming more and more interested in doing these activities like hiking, bowling, or painting. Online dating sites allow users to easily see what things potential dates like to do and what they dislike. South Bay dating can be more fun without knowing those things going into a date and seeing what happens. If you are interested in finding Get more on this here.


Friday, 21 September 2012
What Is Love?
During a normal conversation with my best friend about boys and stuff she asked "How do we ever know what love is?" and it got me thinking, so much so that today's scheduled blog post has been put on hold.
The saying "you know when you've found the one" used to annoy me because I never believed it was possible but I can whole heartedly say you do know ladies! Love, to me, is the feeling of being completely relaxed, comfortable and safe in every way around him. Being able to mess around and be ridiculously silly with each other without thinking the other person is weird. Cuddling up every night, sharing everything, talking about your day and having no secrets, being able to fully trust the person you are with. Those special moments when you can turn around at the most random points of the day just to tell them how much you love them, how amazing you think they are or how much they mean to you because I don't think anyone can get bored of hearing that from their partner, I know I don't. When you spend every day with someone that the thought of being apart is the worst feeling. The little things like nicknames and inside jokes. Even the fights that happen, get resolved and are never spoken about again. Thinking or talking about the future, knowing that you want them to play a strong part in it, still being together, still being as in love as you were in the first few months. Starting the day with "I love you" and ending the night with "I love you." Looking at him and knowing he is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. Since being in the relationship I am in I can tell that there is so much more than just a spark, it is definitely love and there is nothing better.
What is love to you?


It all makes sense now. Gay marriage and marijuana are being legalized at the same time.
Leviticus 20:13 says if a man lays with another man, he should be stoned.
We were just misinterpreting it.
Da Kai when he was a puppy! — can’t wait to reunite with my main man


The love that spouses share in marriage is a of the image of God’s perfect love for humanity. Couples preparing for marriage should contact our priests at least eight months in advance. We will accompany our parishioners in their preparation leading to their wedding day and married life.
These steps are a general guide and not an exhaustive list of everything you need to do in the Diocese of St. Augustine to prepare for your marriage:
Contact the parish and request to meet with a priest or deacon. He will set a course of marriage preparation for you and provide you the necessary materials, forms, and resources. He may also assign you to a marriage sponsor (or mentor) couple if your parish has this ministry.
Please be prompt in arranging your first meeting with your priest or deacon. The Catholic Church requires at least 8 months of marriage preparation before the actual wedding. This means that the date set for your wedding must be at least 8-12 months from the date of your first meeting with the priest or deacon, regardless of how long you have been engaged prior.
“A man shall leave his father and mother and cling to his wife and the two shall become as one.” – Genesis 2:24


I drove the 2 ½ hours to have a play date with my granddaughter this week.
As I was in the car and driving, I began to just think and silently pray.
I found myself telling God that I had one goal, just one, today.
It was to enjoy my granddaughter.
Most days have a ton of goals. They can range from doing the laundry or yard work to running errands, leading women’s Bible study or making a nice meal.
This particular day had a goal of relationship.
She is only 1 ½ years old, but we are forming our relationship.
As I pulled into her driveway, I found her looking out the window. I smiled and ran to the window to see her. I held up the new “Tigger” I had purchased and brought with me.
I went inside and whisked her up into my arms to give her a big hug and kiss. It doesn’t matter if I’ve seen her two days or two weeks ago…I love being with her.
We played with her kitchen. We pretended to cook and feed her stuffed animals.
We sang some songs and read stories. We played with her dollhouse and train set.
We ran in circles in her basement playing chase (at least it was supposed to be chase).
We had both lunch and dinner together and got to cuddle and rock before naptime.
I met my goal that day. We made moments together that I will forever cherish.
She matters to me. I desire a relationship with her and I will pursue her and our relationship throughout her life.
When I look at God as parent and Heavenly Father, I see the way He pursues me.
He too desires relationship. He wants to be there every step of the way with me. He wants to smile and enjoy me. He wants to soak in our moments together.
I love to see God as pursuer. He never gives up. He has a goal and that is to love me (and you) and pursue us. There is nothing we can do, will do, or have ever done that will be too much for Him. We matter to Him.
May our eyes be more in tune to seeing the way He is pursuing us today.
May we welcome His presence into our day to day.
May we both smile at the end of the day and say “goal accomplished”.
“Whoever pursues righteousness and love finds life, prosperity and honor.”
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Unbreak My Heart: Book Two
Country singer turned rancher Brett Taylor fought his way out of the bottle so he could have JT Campbell in his life. JT's patience, intelligence, and humor broke through Brett's walls of depression, and now the once-isolated rancher and his young
guy in search of himself are together on Brett's ranch. Texas
While Brett and JT are more in love than ever, they’re still dealing with past baggage and learning how to move forward. Brett’s former lover casts a long shadow over their lives—one JT tries to pretend doesn’t bother him. Can Brett soothe his fears with the sort of sappy, sentimental Valentine’s Day JT was taught to shun growing up—but secretly always wanted?
When Halloween rolls around, a costumed night out at the local bar might lead to another romantic first. And on Christmas morning, JT awakes to some sweet loving and the most meaningful gift he could ever imagine. The New Year truly brings a new beginning—ushered in by some silly, sparkly, and sexy fun.
One year. Four important holidays. Two men who have worked hard for the love and trust they share and the bright future that’s finally within their grasp.


It’s a really bizarre feeling to have people disbelieve your existence, or your reality. Back before gender was really of any concern to me, my biggest fear regarding my relationships was that I would face homophobia for being with a woman. You know, not being allowed to kiss in public, not being able to adopt children, not being able to get legally married, etc. Then I fell in love with someone who was assigned male at birth, and for a long time, we got all the privileges that came with a cis, hetero relationship.
There were people who questioned us at first, because people always assumed Vi was a gay guy. I find it amusing that people were okay with the fact that I was at the time an out lesbian dating a guy, but they couldn’t comprehend a straight identifying guy who they just assumed was secretly gay dating a girl. But anyway…
In 2014, Vi came out to me as bisexual and our relationship – and Vi herself – changed very rapidly. We almost immediately became a much less cisnormative couple, and gender roles became almost nonexistent for us. Vi began to express herself and her gender fluidity and it was beautiful to watch. She very quickly became completely androgynous, fully distancing herself from masculinity. I loved it. She was so much happier.
Naturally, many people just thought that they were right about Vi being secretly gay, and assumed that our relationship was basically a sham and I was totally oblivious or in denial. Girls flocked to Vi and were eager to have her as their token “gay boy” friend, which was really disgusting to watch from afar. People would ask us things like “do you actually have sex?”
They also seemed to think that we were a fake relationship or that Vi was a subpar/nonexistent partner/parent. For instance, one time Vi was hanging out with some friends and talking about our impending move to Las Vegas, and one of these people actually asked her if Caoimhe and I would be coming with her.
Try to digest that for a second. She was implying that there was a chance that Vi was just planning on leaving us and moving to Las Vegas by herself, completely abandoning her wife and new child. When Vi explained that of course we were coming, this friend expressed shock that we were going to remain a family and live together. Why people had and continue to have such a bizarre inability to comprehend our relationship, I seriously do not understand.
This only got worse when Vi came out as trans. People seemed to think that despite the fact that I’m so gay I used to identify as a lesbian, Vi’s transition would somehow nullify our marriage. That either she would want to leave me for a man or I would want to break up because I didn’t want a trans wife.
So, let me make something very clear. VIOLET AND I ARE JUST AS VALID AS ANY OTHER COUPLE. Just because people don’t look or act the way you expect doesn’t mean they can’t love each other. So please stop being assholes.
These days, we are honestly happier than ever before. I think that Vi coming out as trans was probably the best thing that could have happened to us. She is so much kinder and empathetic now, and we are so much more relaxed. Having a wife feels so much more “right” than having a husband did, and she has blossomed as a woman and a mother.
We have to face the dual discrimination of being a queer couple and also a gender nonconforming couple, but it’s absolutely worth the happiness we have now. People still often seem bewildered by us, though. Whenever we go to the doctor with the kids, they will ask us if we are friends, or sisters, never reaching the right answer until we tell them. We receive questions on Facebook from people we barely know along the lines of “No offense but how does your relationship work?” We hear from friends that people question them about us all the time.
It’s strange to know that we are such a close-knit and loving family and yet people question our existence. But I guess that’s what you get for being different.


Vito Gallo and D.O. flip-flop
Posted: July 16, 2013 by pornotycoon
Vito Gallo and D.O. escape from their everyday lives on their first vacation together, and it couldn’t be better! They travel to Costa Rica where they run and romance each other on the beach. But men have needs and after awhile they return to their private room where they can totally embrace each other.


“When you fall for a boy, you try to pin him down too soon. After three days, he wants to kick his way free and get as far away as he can.”
“Oh, yeah? So let’s see who can pick up a decent boy first. Any boy. Even a fat slob like you.”
“That shows how dumb you are. You’re great physically but once they get to know you, they run a mile. They run before even getting to know you!”
“I’m just too young. They’d be scared to sleep with me.”
“But you reek of loose morals.”
“I don’t sleep around.”
“That’s the only thing you don’t do. You have a weird notion of what ‘not sleeping around’ means.”
“That’s what matters, you know.”
“I don’t think so. If I meet a man I love, I’d want to be broken in. He won’t think my first time counts. The first time should be with nobody. I don’t want a guy bragging he had me first. Guys are all sick.”
Catherine Breillat’s obsession with the dialectical nature of love and violence could not be better articulated than in the haunting last words echoed by Anaïs:
Police officer: She was in the woods. She says he didn’t rape her.
Anaïs: Don’t believe me if you don’t want to.


Last night before we went to sleep I spent a few minutes laying on my Mat's chest.
Just laying there in my oversized t-shirt on his bare chest listening to him breath while we talked about our life.
It's easy to do when you're half his size.
I told him I loved him. He told me he loved me too.
I said, "you do huh? like you really love me"
And he said, "yeah."
Except he took a deep breath before saying it. He kind of sighed when he said it.
It made me laugh and I told him that it sounded... heavy. Like loving me is heavy.
I know I'm a lot.
He laughed because he is well aware.
He knows it takes guts, wit, patience, and so much humor to love me.
Tonight I sat on our bed wrapped in a big fluffy blanket on my macbook AND my phone while he worked and watched tv from the recliner he has in our bedroom.
I was working on sending out emails for The Hip Handmade Market, helping do some planning for a friend's campaign, and thinking about a few extra things we had come up that we weren't expecting at work all at the same time.
I looked up to see him smiling and starring at me.
I paused for a minute and asked him what.
"I love seeing you like this. In your element. I know there's so much going on in that brain of yours."
Love is real you guys.


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Kouichi Tanemura (種村 孝一 Tanemura Kouichi) is one of the male characters of the series. He made his debut in the first episode, appearing in episodes thereafter from time to time.
He is a 16 year-old boy who is best friends with Ohana Matsumae, the two went to the same middle school together. He is kind and roundabout with his decisions, as stated by Ohana herself. Because of this, Ohana sees that he is very patient. But when the time came when Ohana had to leave, Kouichi saw that she was still unaware of his own feelings for her. Few days before leaving, Ohana meets with him, where he confesses his feelings for her. Before she could give an answer, he runs off.
After a few months, he once tried to visit Ohana. But because the day he went out was the same day everything was chaotic at the inn, he decided to go home without meeting her. They meet up though when Ohana visits Tokyo, to attempt to bring her mom back with her. Here it is found out that a co-worker of Kouichi holds feelings for him, though he rejects her saying that he had someone else in mind. Ohana and Kouichi later have dinner together and they go back to their old selves for a while at least. Ohana runs out shortly afterwards.
He still seems to hold feelings for her, despite their distance. However, he seemingly rejects her over the phone by simply saying "See ya", which means there might not be a next time, when Ohana finally realizes her feelings for him. In episode 23, it is confirmed that he had not fully rejected Ohana and still holds feelings for her. His feelings are reinforced when he sees a video with Ohana working hard at the Kissuiso in it.
It is implied at the end of episode 26 that Kouichi and Ohana are now dating.
- Kouichi is called "Kou-chan" by Ohana, which shows how deep their friendship is.
Ohana Matsumae (waitress) · Nako Oshimizu (waitress) · Tomoe Wajima (head waitress) · Minko Tsurugi (apprentice chef) · Tooru Miyagishi (junior chef) · Renji Togashi (senior chef) · Takako Kawajiri (business consultant) · Enishi Shijima (manager) · Sui Shijima (owner) · Tarou Jiroumaru (laborer) · Denroku Sukegawa (maintenance worker)


My best friend, John Fitzgerald. Someone I can’t get enough of. Someone who takes care of me to his fullest capacity. Them country boys will always be worth it. Let me tell you. And I’m so glad I found him:’) because I might be in love with him. That’s all.


How to Help Kids Understand What Is Going On
Divorce is never easy, especially for the children involved. When a family breaks apart, kids can feel confused, scared, and alone. It is important to help them understand what is going on and to support them through this difficult time. The divorce lawyers Grand Rapids will discuss how divorce affects kids and how you can help them cope with the changes in their lives.
The first thing to understand is that every child reacts to divorce differently. Some kids may seem like they are unaffected by the whole ordeal, while others may act out in school or at home. There is no right or wrong way for a child to react to their parents’ divorce. It is important to be patient and understanding with your kids, no matter how they are handling the situation.
If you are going through a divorce, it is important to sit down with your children and explain what is happening. Answer their questions honestly and patiently. Let them know that it is not their fault and that you still love them very much. It is also a good idea to tell them about the arrangements you have made for visitation and custody so they know what to expect.
If your children are having a hard time adjusting to the divorce, there are a few things you can do to help them. First, try to maintain as much stability in their lives as possible. Kids thrive on routine, so if you can keep their daily schedule the same, it will help them feel more secure. Secondly, be there for them emotionally. Listen to their concerns and answer their questions honestly. Finally, encourage them to express their feelings through art or writing. This can be a great outlet for kids who are struggling to communicate how they are feeling verbally.


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Love spells are energy to recover your ex-darling and utilizing it numerous sweethearts have back their lost love. A few darlings are intrigued to recover his/her affection to hold her/his hand for everlastingly implies doing love marriage with dream love accomplice. So they are extremely insane to see together with him her adoration and now they attempt to go through all existence with smiley confront. We realize that parcel of sweethearts do love profoundly with his life accomplice and they are not intrigued to continue demonstrating intrigued by any other individual his/her accomplice.
Do Love Spells Work?
The answer is definitely yes, spells for love work but only if cast by a professional love spells caster, Although some people, out of ignorance, claim that love spells to manipulate the target, depriving them of their free will, I firmly place a BIG NO on that claim. This is true only of the crudest of spells but not an experienced spell caster like me who knows how to avoid spells of this nature. In fact, spells that deprive an individual of free will are actually more difficult, and less successful, than standard spells of attraction.
Typically, romance spells only bring out a love that we all have within us. Spells that increase love may also increase the magnetic attraction between two individuals by creating an energetic or spiritual link. While two people might realize they are suddenly more attracted to each other, this is not something that would change or alter their free will. Each person could, if they so chose, decide to avoid the other. However, when two people are attracted and in love, they usually don’t choose to do this!
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Binding Love Spells
A real binding love spell that will attract rapidly your true soulmate: have you been alone for too long and want more than anything else to find your partner? Don’t give up! You too deserve to share happy moments with your lover, to be kissed, to be embraced by someone’s arms, and all those little details that make us have a successful love life. Thanks to this love spell you will not only attract persons of the opposite sex but also persons that are fully compatible with you. This amazing binding love spell is based upon a century-old formula that has brought results to the most desperate and lonely souls. Look no further, you just found what you were looking for to find your soulmate.
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Marriage Spells are supposed to be very strong and effective. If you are in a relationship and your lover is not committing or is taking time to decide if she or she or she wants to get married to you or not then these very strong marriage spells are used by which your love will marry you and you will be having a very strong and happy married life.
If you feel for someone and want to get married to that person, but due to some reasons you are not getting married then Take a red rose flower on the petals of the flower you may write the name of the person you love, after you have written the name of the person, you may take the petals to dip it in the rose water and throw the petals outside the house of the person you love.
Gay and Lesbian Love Spells
If you are gay and have run into difficulties in your love life, a voodoo gay love spell will put things right and help you have a fulfilling same-sex relationship.
This Gay and Lesbian Love Spell is very strong and powerful and again this spell will work for both Gay Men and Lesbian Women and will bring people of same-sex closer to each other and will do wonders for same-sex relationships.


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It's always wonderful to see your friends. To know that they will give you a place to stay over. That they will set their alarm clock to wake them up on Sunday so that they can spend more time with me. And that they can be artistic with my hair. That they organize big 30th birthday parties where we can all see each other. To know that they are really happy for me and that I can be really happy for them. That they make me drinks and food that should make my flu go away. I just love everything like that.


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Sunday, October 9, 2011
6 years ago today I married the love of my life. We've been through so many good times and hardships. I can't imagine my life without him.
Photo by me. (my favorite picture of us.)
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Whether it’s OkCupid, Tinder, Bumble or just the local bar, modern dating culture is complicated with plenty of opportunity for miscommunication.
This is mainly due to our heavy reliance on technology to establish and maintain contact. Research undertaken by the Pew Research Centre found that 27% of young adults report to using online dating sites, today’s figure has almost tripled since the reported 10% in 2013.
Have you found yourself engaging in a lot of second guessing and endless discussions with your friends about your dating life? Then it is time you became aware of the emerging trends in communication in today’s dating culture and how they may impact you.
‘Ghosting’ is the practice of ending a relationship or dalliance by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication. ‘Ghosting’ is not a new concept. People have been using passive aggressive techniques to end communication long before the dawn of technology. Also known as the ‘Irish Goodbye’ or the ‘Fade away’, this act is especially cruel and emotionally hurtful in that it prevents the ghosted party from gaining closure. Without closure you can be left with questions of what went wrong or may experience feelings of stress as you ponder the demise of the relationship.
“A recent survey released by dating site Plenty of Fish found that that 78% of single 18 – 33 year old site users report that they have been ‘ghosted’ at least once”.
The emotional impact of being ghosted can be signifcant especially for those with already fragile self-esteem. However, it is important to understand why people choose to ghost rather than to have a direct conversation in which they end the contact in a respectful way. The risk of ghosting is higher when there are no social connections, for example a couple who met online rather than a couple introduced by mutual friends. The reason for this increased risk is that there are less social consequences to dropping out of someone’s life. Also due to fear of confrontation, many ghosters justify that fading away will reduce feelings of rejection.
Ghosting can feel like a betrayal or a social rejection. Naomi Eisenberger, PhD, at the University of California and Kipling Williams, PhD, at Purdue University found through their research that social rejection activates many of the same brain regions involved in physical pain. With ghosting, you are often left feeling powerless, unable to justify why this relationship came to an end. It also renders you unable to process constructive criticism that could assist with future dating opportunities.
Ghosting, however, says more about the ghoster than the ghostee. It merely shows that the ghoster could not deal with the discomfort of your emotions. If you are ghosted try to focus your energy on what makes you feel safe in a relationship, such as respect, trust and direct communication.
The act of ‘Zombieing’ is to have someone you care about disappear or ‘ghost’ from your life completely only to have them bring a relationship back from the dead with an unexpected text, call or interaction. Coming back from the dead can involve an old flame reaching out to you in numerous ways. The recurrent theme, however, is that this interaction is unexpected and you had labeled this relationships as ‘dead’.
The idea of reconnecting with an old flame may seem nice at first; however, try not to move too quickly with this zombie. Rekindling old romances can put you in a precarious situation without ample time spent reflecting on why the relationship ended in the first place.
“Romanticizing your past relationship can put you at risk of looking at the past with rose-tinted glasses and forgetting the cause of the demise of your union”
Rosy retrospection refers to the psychological phenomenon that people sometimes judge the past disproportionately more positively than they judge the present. Ask yourself if this relationship is worth bringing back from the dead. If the relationship was characterized by infidelity, dysfunction or betrayal, really take time to contemplate if you would want to relive the past again. It is important not to go into a relationship with the agenda of changing someone, but rather to gradually adjust to each other over time in a kind and gentle way.
Breadcrumbing, has been defined by Urban Dictionary as ‘the act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal text messages (ie “breadcrumbs”) in order to lure a sexual partner without expending much effort’. This act equates to leading someone on and giving them false hope through sporadic contact. Breadcrumbing is also known as ‘keeping someone on the back burner’ or ‘benching’. It is a devaluing and damaging process which erodes the recipient’s self-worth and confidence.
Breadcrumbing can entail a text message here and an Instagram like there with no real commitment or direct communication. These breadcrumbs or sporadic flirtations lead you on a trail of ambiguity, not knowing where you stand and if your feelings are reciprocated. The issue here is identifying when you are being thrown breadcrumbs and becoming aware when you are the one doing the throwing? Many people view breadcrumbing as a way of keeping their options open. However, when it is done to them this nonchalance can turn into feelings of frustration.
If you are in search of a genuine relationship with real commitment try not to waste your time decoding the behavioral patterns of a breadcrumber. By identifying when you feel manipulated by a breadcrumber you can give yourself permission to move forward in a more intentional way, focusing your attention on someone who is ready to give you the attention you deserve.
‘NetFlix & Chill’
‘Netflix and Chill’ is a term used to describe a casual relationship which is focused only on physical intimacy. Once again, it is important not to go into a relationship with the agenda of changing someone, but rather to gradually adjust to each other over time in a kind and gentle way. If someone explicitly tells you they are not ready for a relationship, believe them and respect their honesty. If you have knowingly entered into a Netflix and Chill partnership understand that this partner may not be in search of a monogamous relationship.
In this situation it is important to take time to reflect on your personal comfort levels and what it is that you are looking for in your personal life. Can this person meet your needs on an emotional and practical level?
So now that we have discussed what can go wrong in the dating world, how do you know when you have met the one? Firstly, it is important to take time to reflect on your personal comfort levels. After spending a few hours with someone you may notice your mood has changed. Does this personal make you feel light, happy or more confident or do they evoke feelings of inadeuqacy, shame or codependence.
If you have difficulty understanding your thought processes, your body will often tell you if you feel comfortable around someone. For example, when you feel on guard your body has a tendency to tense up. Be observant of your body language and feelings of pains and aches especially in your shoulders or jawline, which can signify emotional discomfort.
“Individuals in satisfying romantic relationships often self-report experiencing positive changes to their self-concepts as a direct result of their romantic partners”
In a recent study, conducted by the Department of Psychology at the Ursinus College, it was found that when you experience that your partner makes you feel like a better person this is a core indicator that you are in a healthy and potentially long lasting relationship. The study further explains that being with the right person allows you to realize aspects of your ideal self and prompts you to see yourself much more positively.
14 thoughts on “‘Ghosting’ ‘Zombieing’ & ‘Breadcrumbing’ – How to Survive Modern Dating Culture”
I love this! Even as a millennial and at a very young age, I’ve noticed how harmful technology can be on relationships! I’ve honestly never heard any of these terms (besides Netflix and Chill, of course!) but it all makes sense.. Very thought provoking even as a newly wed.. The Modern Dating Culture is a tough world!
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The digital age is just as scary as halloween!!!!
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This was very informative. Thank you.
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“Bringing the relationship back from the dead” haha well put. Good read. Didn’t know there are so many different terms now.
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