Separation and divorce can be a messy, stressful, overwhelming time for a family. Changes in communication patterns, behaviors, physical health and emotional reactions that would usually get noticed right away might be overlooked, and as the family structure and organization become altered, it can make everyone feel off-balance. As this is happening, children’s dependency on the primary parent might also be intensified. Becoming a single parent might leave you feeling used up, alone, and stuck with a new, unfamiliar role. In the midst of this storm, it is important to remember to take the extra time to check in with yourself as both an individual and as a parent so that you can then check in with your kids and their emotional and communication needs.
Checking-in might include talking, family game night, family meals, or creative projects and activities, and may help to prevent behavioral, social, or academic problems. Sometimes your child may refuse to share equal time with you and your estranged partner, or try to take sides. If this happens, try not to take it personally (easier said than done!). Be firm about maintaining the visitation schedule and the importance of the positive involvement and parenting skills of both parents.
Conflict between adult partners can have a huge impact on kids, sometimes beyond childhood, even without their direct experience of the conflict. Children can sense the stress their parents are experiencing and might not have the emotional vocabulary to express what they are noticing. As a parent, it is important to check in with your child’s feelings as well as their understanding of what is happening, and to encourage their self-expression. When a parent models effective and honest communication, their child learns that it’s okay to talk about it, and gains the vocabulary to do so. Bedtime offers an opportunity to connect with your child, and might include giving each child 10-20 minutes to do an ‘emotions scan’, to get rid of any worries before going to sleep. Routine is important to kids, and doing this regularly will help them to feel safer as well as strengthen the parent-child connection.
When conflict between parents is unavoidable, it is important that problems remain between adults and not as a part of parent-child interactions. Leave any feelings of blame for the other parent or family members out of your conversations with the kids. Keep the focus on the children and each family member’s love for them. Reassure the kids “it’s not your fault”; talk through this with them, and tell them both parents, no matter what, love them. Kids need to be able to own this statement. They need to believe it and feel comfortable saying it. Don’t just ask them “do you understand” or “are you okay”; they might “yes” you to avoid this emotionally difficult conversation. Be gentle, be honest, and let them know that it is okay to be sad, angry, hurt, or disappointed.
Ask the family to brainstorm with you ways to deal with the hurt feelings and sadness. Creative projects can help family members to communicate feelings without words, and the process of making art might allow for a chance to identify, express, understand, and eventually master those feelings. Possible projects you could do together are: draw pictures of things you like to do together, write and illustrate a story about a happy day, write or draw what makes you angry on a piece of paper and shred it or safely burn it in the fireplace, make a ‘hope’ jar. Talk to the kids together if possible; and try to keep the conversation civil and compassionate without anger, blaming, or accusatory statements.
As much as possible, maintain schedules and routine, as kids thrive on stability and consistency. If you can, give them a head’s up about any changes that might be happening in their world so they have time to absorb the information and ask questions. Kids take in information at different rates and in different ways. Be aware of how your child adapts to change: what is their communication style? Do they avoid, pretend everything is fine, try to please, or confront? Do they need to take space, do they need time and if so, how much to absorb information before they react, process, are able to discuss or ask questions. Talk to them about these needs. Tell them how you communicate best and worst. Create a ‘safe word’ to end arguments and take self-imposed timeouts. If you can and it seems appropriate, make them feel included in any decision-making. This will also help you take the time to slow things down, remember to breathe, and make space for the big emotions that come up for both you and your children.
Be truthful. Avoid euphemisms, as kids are highly adept at sensing insincerity. Discuss what is happening in age-appropriate terms, filter information while maintaining honesty, let them know that you are also experiencing a lot of different emotions and that is normal and okay. As much as you can, model this for your kids.
Be ready to answer difficult questions, let them know if it is a hard topic for you to talk about, but don’t avoid. Always remember that kids are more perceptive than we give them credit for! Be aware of changing roles as the new family structure takes place, and talk about this with your kids. Taking over adult roles such as caretaking and discipline for younger siblings are behaviors to look out for, as they are often not age- or role-appropriate. Allow them to be helpers, but be sure you and your partner maintain your position as parents. Explain what new expectations of jobs, chores, and roles are, for them, yourself and your estranged partner. Tell them what they need to know to feel safe and loved, and don’t overwhelm them with superfluous and overly emotional or personal details. For the younger kids, keep it simple and straightforward.
Validate their feelings, let them get it all out, and then have them problem solve with you. Have them tell you what they need to be safe. Be a good listener, talk about expectations that are or are not realistic and the reasons. Discuss the real scenario, and take time to hear what they wish, and talk about ways to make it less sad, angry, disappointing or hurtful. Try to avoid “because I said so”. Take a time out for yourself if necessary, and explain beforehand that you might need to do this and why.
If you don’t have the answers, be honest. Avoid the temptation to make promises that you can’t keep. Try to be hopeful and find time for play. Explain that it sometimes takes time to feel better, to be less sad, angry, anxious, disappointed, frustrated, and that it can happen differently for different people. Find ways for your children to grieve and how to process the grief and loss as a family.
Know that sometimes kids need people to talk to other than their parents. Some may avoid talking about how they really feel because they feel guilty adding to their parents’ problems. They might more easily express themselves with someone outside the situation, such as a friend, teacher, relative or counselor. Talk to them about this, and together work out whom it is okay to talk to and what the boundaries of that relationship are. Make sure that you have someone to talk to. Don’t use your kids for your primary emotional support. If they try to fill this role for you, thank them and refocus them on their own feelings. Look for support groups, online resources, and see a counselor or therapist. Most importantly, trust your instincts and remember that your psychological and emotional health is important too.
Project Ideas are suggestions for creative activities that families can do together to promote and facilitate positive and productive discussion of feelings and communicate hopes and fears. Creativity can allow for expression of feelings using metaphor and symbolism. Art Therapy is used with families, couples, and individuals of all ages, and can provide distance and structure for coping with overwhelming, scary, or confusing emotions. For more information on the benefits of Art Therapy, please visit www.internationalarttherapy.org, www.arttherapy.org, orwww.pattersoncounseling.com.
Use an old mason jar or other container with a lid. Decorate it together as a family or make a separate one with each child, using pictures and words from magazines, tissue paper, scrapbooking materials, family pictures, ribbon/yarn, or fabric. Mod Podge craft glue works well for this project. Write ‘hopes’ on small pieces of paper and put them in the jar for safekeeping. This can be done all at once, once a day, or at the end of the week. [***This project can also be done as a ‘worry jar’]
Before bedtime, take some time to check in with your child about how they felt that day. Use words or colors to describe feelings. Start with “How did you feel in your head?” and work your way down as many body parts as you want until you get to their toes. Talk about where the feelings came from and brainstorm with your child ways to let go of any bad or icky feelings – pretend to ball it up and throw it in the trash, make up a catch-phrase to send it away, feed it to the icky-feeling recycler.
Divide a piece of paper in half. Using pictures from magazines, on one side pick out and glue down pictures that show how you feel when you say “goodbye”, and on the other side, use pictures that show how you feel when you say “hello”. Images might represent fears, hopes, coping skills, wishes and goals. This can be used as an opportunity to problem-solve and develop realistic expectations and plans for the future.
What’s My Role?
On a piece of paper, draw an outline of a person. Using pictures from magazines, cut out and glue down pictures that show everything that your mom/dad/sister/ brother/grandparent/aunt/uncle/friend means to you and what they do. You can also make one for yourself, showing what you think you mean to others and what you do as a part of the family. Talk about it with your family.


Turn this pillow over to either side to show your love with this special double sided quote pillow cover. Did you have that special connection with a love one with these words being exchanged between the two of you? I know I did with my son. That is what inspired me to design this pillow cover. We still play this game & he is 33 years old now.
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There was a security guard there called Meir, he had just come back from the rite of passage trip many Israelis take in the wake of their military service and was studying to be a dentist. He worked nights as a security guard to pay for the course, we became pretty friendly and sometimes we would chat in his booth.
One night he told me that shortly after breaking up with his girlfriend of three years his best friend started dating her and that they were getting married the next day.
Naturally I asked him if he was upset with them that they had gotten together, especially so soon after he had been dating her.
He looked at me in confusion and asked? “Why? She gave me the best three years of my life and now she is going to make my best friend happy forever.”
It hadn’t even occurred to him to be angry with them.
His lack of animosity struck me as a lesson in humanity that I have taken with me ever since.


Holiday Companions? December 14 2015, 0 Comments
It's that time of year when it's all about having a companion or 2 around. Someone to share the moments with. Often I get emails from those who don't have that companionship. I've been there myself from time to time. It can get tough. I recently spoke with someone who brought a Ruby home just a few months ago. He told me how much Ruby has helped him thru those rough moments when he's alone. He likes her friendly face. He says she adds a warm vibe to his living space. I am truly appreciative to him for sharing the details of his life. A great guy and I'm happy we could add something to his life to make things brighter. Cheers to you all. Feel free to chat here about your holidays.


Father’s Day (and/or Mother’s Day) can be very stressful times for some people, especially if they don’t have a good relationship the parent in question. Personally, I do not had a good relationship with my father. I last saw him in person (unwillingly) two years ago when the family got together for the passing of our dog, Toffee. Other than that, it’s been about seven years since I last saw him or had any communication with him.
With the help of my therapist, I have been working hard to deal with my traumas, fears, anxieties, etc. caused by complicated family relationships. Although I know I can never have a “great” relationship with my dad, I at least want a good and safe relationship with appropriate boundaries in place. This was the first Father’s Day since cutting off contact where I sent him a card and an email. And later this week, I will be seeing him briefly in person (with proper social distancing measures in place). It has been especially important to me to re-establish contact with my father this year since not only did I lose my Grandpa, but two of my family members have since gotten COVID. Only one has recovered so far.
This is a huge step for me, and has (understandably) led to increased stress and a bit of a mental block. So, there will be no official blog post this week. If you too are working through personal and/or mental health problems, this is your reminder to take a break and be kind to yourself. And if you have a strained relationship with a family member, just know that it’s okay and you are not alone.
Since I don’t have anything new written up this week, please enjoy these silly cat pictures instead:


环亚国际平台总代，if i fall for you, would you fall too?
i love you more and more and more everyday
i don't care what they say, i'm in love with you.
i always know you make me smile please stay for a while now
it's hard to love again, when the only way it's been, when the only love you knew, just walked away.
my heart breaks a little when i hear your name
i miss you so bad .
i don't need words
i need time in your arms
i need love from you
i just want us back to the way we were before.
now i’m looking for somebody’s shoulder to make me feel okay
i feel the love and i feel it burn


Is That Dick Good? Yes, King!
Is That Dick Good? Yes, King!: Many people find it offensive or taboo when discussing the issue of sexual gratification.
However, open and honest discussion of such issues is very important in promoting healthy relationships and personal well-being. This blog,
, delves deeper into the concept of sexual gratification, what it means to be a “good” lover, and how to prioritize communication and consent in an intimate relationship.
Table of Contents
Understanding Sexual Satisfaction
Defining Sexual Satisfaction (H2) – Is That Dick Good? Yes, King!
Sexual satisfaction refers to the contentment and pleasure one experiences during sexual activities. It varies from person to person and encompasses emotional, physical, and psychological aspects. It is essential to recognize that sexual satisfaction is subjective and can differ significantly between partners.
Factors Affecting Sexual Satisfaction (H2) – Is That Dick Good? Yes, King!
Several factors influence an individual’s sexual satisfaction:
Communication and Consent (H3)
Open and effective communication is the foundation of a fulfilling sexual relationship. Both partners must feel comfortable expressing their desires, boundaries, and concerns. Consent is equally vital, ensuring that all activities are mutually agreed upon and enthusiastic.
Emotional Connection (H3) – Is That Dick Good? Yes, King!
Emotional connection can deepen intimacy and enhance sexual experiences. Feeling loved, respected, and valued by your partner leads to more satisfying sexual relationships
Physical Compatibility (H3) – Is That Dick Good? Yes, King!
Physical compatibility is understanding each other’s needs, wants and preferences. This includes aspects such as the frequency of sexual activity, timing, and understanding of each other’s bodies.
Dispelling Myths About Sexual Satisfaction (H2) – Is That Dick Good? Yes, King!
Size Matters (H3)
Contrary to common belief, sexual satisfaction is not solely determined by the size of one’s genitals. It is more about understanding and fulfilling each other’s desires through communication and emotional connection.
Performance Pressure (H3)
Performance pressure can negatively impact sexual satisfaction. It is essential to create an environment where both partners feel comfortable and relaxed, removing unrealistic expectations.
The Role of Communication in Sexual Satisfaction (H2)
Healthy communication is the cornerstone of a satisfying sexual relationship. It involves discussing preferences, boundaries, and desires openly and honestly. Here are some communication tips:
Active Listening (H3)
Listen attentively to your partner’s needs and concerns without interrupting or judging. Show empathy and validate their feelings.
Expressing Desires (H3)
Be vocal about your desires and fantasies. Let your partner know what excites you and what you are comfortable with.
Feedback and Adjustments (H3)
Provide constructive feedback to each other after intimate moments. Use this feedback to make adjustments and enhance future experiences.
Consent: The Bedrock of Sexual Satisfaction (H2)
Understanding Consent (H3)
Consent is an enthusiastic and voluntary agreement to engage in specific sexual activities. It must be given without coercion or pressure.
Continuous Consent (H3)
Consent is an ongoing process and can be withdrawn at any point. Respect your partner’s boundaries and communicate if you are unsure about their comfort level.
Embracing Diversity in Sexual Satisfaction (H2)
No “One Size Fits All” Approach (H3) – Is That Dick Good? Yes, King!
Every individual is unique, and their sexual desires and preferences are too. Embrace and celebrate this diversity, avoiding any judgments or stereotypes.
Respect and Understanding (H3) – Is That Dick Good? Yes, King!
Respect your partner’s choices and be understanding if their desires differ from yours. Prioritize their comfort and pleasure.
In summary, sexual gratification is a highly personal and complex aspect of relationships. By prioritizing communication, consent, and emotional connection, individuals can develop fulfilling and enjoyable sexual experiences with their partners.
Embracing diversity and dispelling myths around sexual gratification can lead to healthier and more meaningful intimate relationships.
How can I improve my sexual communication skills? (H3)
Improving your sexual communication skills involves active listening, expressing desires openly, and providing constructive feedback. Practice empathy and create a safe space for honest conversations with your partner.
What if my partner’s desires are different from mine? (H3)
Respect and understanding are key. Discuss your differences openly, find common ground, and prioritize each other’s pleasure and comfort.
Does sexual satisfaction decline with age? (H3)
Sexual satisfaction can evolve with age, but it doesn’t necessarily decline. Open communication, emotional connection, and adaptability play vital roles in maintaining satisfaction over time.
How do I know if my partner is comfortable during intimacy? (H3)
Ensure that both of you engage in ongoing and enthusiastic consent. Communicate openly, and pay attention to nonverbal cues that indicate comfort or discomfort.
Can sexual satisfaction be achieved without physical intimacy? (H3)
Yes, sexual satisfaction can be achieved through emotional intimacy, mutual understanding, and various forms of non-physical intimacy, depending on the needs and preferences of the individuals involved.
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My friends mom is 4’9 and her dad is 6’5. Whenever she is mad at him, she grabs a chair to yell in his face. Everytime that happens, he’s laughing too hard for her to stay mad. They say it’s the only way they’ve been married for so long.
My friends corgi fell asleep in class
What fucking willy wonka school do these people go to where they can bring FUCKING SLEEPY PUPPIES


Cara Membuat Kue Lumpur Lembut dan Lumer di Mulut
Cara Membuat Kue Lumpur Lembut dan Lumer di Mulut - Until one day there is free time we could walk together, and I'm happy and comfortable close to Dika. But in my heart since the first meeting Dika and Diki Diki I've noticed, I like the serious nature mature and reserved. In contrast to the Dika always made strange remarks that make people around him laugh with foolishness. I also do not understand during the road with Dika I am comfortable but why in this heart always wanted to know about Diki. Until now, even I never met again Diki Dika always close to me, well it turns out Diki already moved to Jakarta to go with her uncle went there.
Over the course of time I and Oliver equally as comfortable and attracted to each other we finally decided to establish a relationship. Our relationship no one knows alias secretly dating hehe, is to keep that one day we got together no different. It's been almost a month of our relationship, but the longer we increasingly tenuous Dika was no longer like early know more indifferent he is now busy themselves and rarely giving the news. Plus I heard that Diki was also going out with classmates Arumi Rani name, I feel weird and like not sincere when Diki with others. What is this? It is very clear this is wrong.
And today Diki home from Jakarta, there is joy in the heart, but when he heard the reason Diki home only to meet Rani I became upset and did not want to know about them. I and Oliver was getting away and there is a sense of guilt in the hearts of this Dika Dika away what I think because I always consider our relationship mediocre nothing special and most make Dika angry when I was always asked about Diki him.
Yes indeed during our walk together I always had to ask how's Diki him, perhaps because the question you always wanted to know about Diki makes Dika angry and feel that I like to Diki. I tried to contact Dika but he never reply to a message from me, and because I'm selfish I decided to stay away also from Dika. I wonder what I also do not understand it all. Early sweet yet bitter endless.
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We are so grateful for our relationship with Las Villas de Carlsbad senior living. We love having the opportunity to meet at Las Villas as a group and perform for the residents. The last time we were there one of the gentlemen stop to talk with me for a bit. He was excited to share that his son, though grown now, has happy memories of taking lessons at Giacoletti Music. So grateful for the generations of musicians we have had the opportunity to inspire!
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My Music is a lifeline for me. Love every Genre.
Just wish anybody loved me. Or feel love. Feel what it feels like. It must be pretty friggin amazing. I know what it feels like to have a crush and feel incredible amazing love for somebody else, it’s amazing to be in love everything is fantastic, but to actually know someone has likewise feelings for you. my god the thought blows my mind.
Do people not even know what Unconditional love is? Do you ever feel like you’re the only who feels like they could give unconditional love to anyone and think “My god there has to be someone out there like me, that feels the same way” but you find in that disgusting way that there isn’t because you even aren’t. Even though you try to be. Well I actually would give unconditional love to anyone and everyone. Because I know what it feels like to not have that, let alone any kind of love. Not even from family. Not even my own mother, who should be the gaurenteed person in your life to give you unconditional love. I guess I should be thankful to even have a mom. Just wish she loved me.


“One day you will learn to give and receive love like an open window . . . and it will feel like summer everyday” author unknown
Don’t get this twisted, she ain’t mad at him, not even one little bit. Pretty fed up with herself though. It’s been hard for her to come to terms with this. She’s been trying to get outside of those trees and see that forest. But somehow she just keeps coming back to the recognition that what they have is no way happiness. Yes they’ve handled arguments a little better lately and maybe that’s as much as one should expect. The only problem is this woman, she still believes in love. She has this innate sense of what love is and is not. She wants it and all that goes with it. She thinks perhaps he may want love too, but not from or with her.
Unfortunately she is learning her idea of a good life is far different than his. And when he is with her? Well it feels like he is doing her one big favor to even show up.
So her wide lens view of that forest she calls her relationship, it tells her it is time to make her exit with some semblance of her dignity still intact.
“Sometimes you have to be willing to let go of something old to grab onto something new. You have to be willing to let a part of you die . . . . in order for another part of you to be born.” —-Lisa Nichols


What happened to Leo Sayers first wife? Posted on August 16, 2022 By admin_zxviwxhy Who is his ex-wife Janice Lisseter? Sayer married Janice Lisseter in 1973 but after eleven years of marriage they divorced in 1985. The musician then moved to Australia to live with wife Donatella Piccinetti. The couple split in 2007 after 22 years.


December 22, 2020
The past year has brought on a lot of unexpected changes. One profound change is that many couples have gone from working outside their homes to being at home together nearly 24/7—while simultaneously having to face numerous added stressors.
This has obviously put quite a strain on many relationships. According to data compiled by Legal Templates, 2020 has seen an increase in divorce rates from the previous year due to the added pressures of political, medical, and socioeconomic upheavals. The effects of COVID-19 have also devastated families not only economically, but also their intimacy, closeness, and ability to be resilient and compassionate in the face of continued hardship.
But, it doesn’t have to be this way.
Allow me to introduce you to Stefanos Sifandos and Christine Hassler (save $30 on Love Amplified, their breathwork and medication course, with code BEN), master life and relationship coaches with over 30 years of experience. They also happen to be a married couple who are passionate about living in sacred union with each other. Their love story is amazing, but not unique, because anyone and everyone is capable of a conscious, loving, passionate, and ever-evolving relationship. Stef and Christine love love and are committed to supporting others in having epic relationships with themselves and their beloved.
Couples who put the work into their communication, connection, and sex life thrive and grow closer. And couples who allow the stresses of daily life to take priority and put their relationship on autopilot tend to have more arguments, less sex, and grow distant from each other.
Today's article, penned by Christine and Stefanos (who were also my guests on a soon-to-be-released podcast episode this Saturday), will teach you how to put some simple, yet powerful, practices into place to immediately change the course of your relationship for the better. In it, you'll discover how to optimize four key areas of your relationship:
- Navigating Conflict
- Emotional Intimacy
- Connected Sex
You probably want to skip to the part about better sex, but without healthy communication, effective conflict navigation, and emotional intimacy, mind- and heart-blowing sex is not really possible. So, as tempting as it may be to skip to the last part where Christine and Stefanos give you some tantric practices, you will benefit greatly from learning tools to communicate more effectively, argue in a way that leads to fewer disagreements, and create and enhance emotional intimacy so that yes, you and your partner will have the best sex of your lives.
Communication Is Key
No matter how long you and your partner have been together, you most likely have fallen into some communication patterns that are keeping you from actually communicating with each other. Dr. John Gottan, a psychological researcher and clinician who did extensive work on divorce prediction and marital stability explains in his book, The Science of Trust, that both partners in a relationship are emotionally available only 9% of the time. This leaves 91% of your relationship ripe for miscommunication.
There are three key practices you can put into place to make communication with your partner both more effective and more loving:
1. Ditch expectations and form agreements: Let’s face it, when it comes to your partner, you probably have a lot of expectations: You expect him or her to be a mind-reader and just know what you want or need even though you haven't effectively communicated your needs. You get lazy in your communication and just expect your partner to fill in the blanks. All of this leads to conflict, which is completely avoidable if agreements are formed. None of us are mind-readers, and we just set ourselves up for disappointment if we do not form agreements over roles, responsibilities, and expectations in our relationships.
How to practice: Sit down and make a list of all the things you expect your partner to do and ask him or her to do the same. Then, come together and clearly express those expectations and form agreements around them. For example, if you have an expectation that your partner does the dishes, form an agreement on what days of the week he or she will do them. Write out the agreement (i.e., Richard does the dishes M, W, F and Janelle does the dishes T, Th, Sa). Stick to these agreements to build trust and prevent what Christine calls “expectation hangovers.”
2. Check your perception. This is one of the simplest, yet most effective ways to immediately have better communication in your relationship. The essence of this skill is: The message intending to be sent is actually the message received. Think of a time when you said something to your partner and they heard something completely different than what you intended. We all listen with a filter of sorts, meaning that we interpret what we are hearing in ways that are often different from how the person talking actually intended us to receive the message. Many arguments often include the statements, “That is not what I said!” or “I didn’t mean it like that!”
How to practice: To avoid misunderstandings of any kind, practice perception checking. When your partner says something that is triggering or confusing in any way, before reacting with a response, say, “I want to make sure I heard you accurately, you said . . . (and then repeat what you heard your partner say). Is that accurate?” This slows down communication and provides an opportunity to clear up any misunderstanding right on the spot, preventing a future argument.
Also, practice perception checking when you want to make sure that something important you are saying gets across clearly. Right after you express yourself, say, “I want to make sure I communicated myself clearly, could you please repeat back what you heard me say?” This gives your partner a chance to repeat back what they heard ensuring that the message you intended to send was indeed the message that was heard.
3. Communicate your needs. You have needs in your relationship, and that is okay—everybody does. Humans are interdependent beings, and it’s healthy to desire certain things from your partner. Yet, just like we discussed in point #1, you cannot expect your partner to be a mind-reader, or have the expectation that if they loved you they’d “just know what you need.”
You are an adult and it’s your responsibility to express your needs to your partner. For example, one of our clients, Elizabeth, was consistently disappointed that her husband, John, was not affectionate with her in public. Physical affection makes Elizabeth feel safe and loved, but in public, it was rather awkward for John. Because it was a big need for her, she expressed that something as simple as holding her hand or putting his arm around her in public would make her feel really safe and loved. John could hear this was a need of Elizabeth’s, not a demand, and was able to honor her request.
How to practice: Consider what you need in your relationship that you are not receiving. Make a list and then formulate specific requests of your partner that could help meet that need. For instance, instead of “I need to feel more connected to you,” which is a vague request, ask for one date night a week with no phones.
How To Navigate Conflict Smoothly
Arguing is not really a thing to avoid in a relationship. The difference between happy, healthy couples and unhappy couples is not found in the amount they argue, but rather how quickly they can recover from arguments. In his book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, Dr. John Gottman calls repair attempts the “secret weapon” of emotionally intelligent couples. His groundbreaking research over decades shows “the success or failure of a couple’s repair attempts is one of the primary factors in whether a marriage is likely to flourish or flounder.”
Bottom line: Fighting is not bad. However, not being able to repair after a disagreement and come back to a loving place together is.
In our work, we have found three key practices that both reduce the amount and intensity of conflicts and help couples repair faster:
1. Talk, don’t yell. We know this can be challenging when you are in the heat of an argument, but as soon as you start yelling, you are forfeiting the ability to be able to make your points in a clear way. In The Body Keeps Score, author Van Der Kolk elaborates on how trauma can affect the way we receive information, share intimacy, and open ourselves up to relationships.
It is 100% possible to disagree without yelling or screaming at each other, but it may take some practice. Next time you notice yourself yelling, take 3 deep breaths, and then continue speaking. If you are the one being yelled at, instead of raising your voice back, say, “I cannot hear you when you yell at me, I am going to leave the room and when you are ready to speak without yelling, I am all ears.”
2. Form “fighting rules” outside of a fight. Remember the power of making agreements when it comes to communication? The same applies to conflict. We have found it to be incredibly effective for couples to make “fighting rules” soon after an argument when they are back in a calm, connected place.
For example, after one fight we had when one of us stormed out, we made a rule that in an argument, there is no storming off with no explanation. If one of us needs space, we agree to say that we need space and commit to a time when we will be back to finish the discussion. That way, the other one doesn’t feel abandoned or betrayed, which only makes the conflict worse. We also have a certain gesture we use if an argument gets really heated to remind each other that even though we are really angry, we still really love each other: Christine will place her left hand over her heart then layers her right hand over her left and stands or sits there and breathes. This is a pattern interrupt and means that we need space. Stefanos will often drop to the ground, lie on his back, and place his legs over his shoulders in what is known in Western yoga as a “plough position.” This often breaks up the argument, creates space through laughter and the abrupt nature of the movement, and gives us both new perspectives.
To form your fighting rules, sit down with your partner and discuss some of your common arguments and what makes them worse. Does one of you leave? Does one of you shut down? Does one of you yell louder? Does one of you bring up things from the past? Does one of you call the other names? Then, together, come up with the fighting rules that will help prevent you from repeating the same unhealthy cycles.
3. Let go of being right. Arguments happen because two people disagree about something or see something differently, and each person believes that they are right. There is no way to resolve any conflict between two people who are stuck in their own position.
The key here is to remember that you and your partner are on the same team. You both want a healthy, loving relationship. If you are stubborn about your position and do not see and empathize with their side of things, you are on different teams in a lose-lose situation.
A tool that works extremely well for us and the couples we coach to break free from the egoic need to be right in an argument is to write a mission statement for the relationship that is a “north star” for why you choose to be together. This kind of statement can remind you that you are on the same team and pull you out of the addiction of wanting to be right by helping you focus on the bigger picture.
Here’s an example of a mission statement written by clients of ours:
“We choose each other every day. We are committed to our own individual growth and growing together. We choose to understand each other over being right. We are committed to being supportive, understanding, and loving partners so that we are better parents, friends, bosses, and people.”
Set aside time with your partner to write your mission statement. It is a beautiful way to remind you of why you are together and create deeper intimacy. When you have a mission statement in place that you read daily (we suggest putting it up somewhere in your house where you can see it), you’ll be less likely to get stuck on being right in your next argument.
Creating or Deepening Emotional Intimacy
Emotional intimacy, even during the best of times, can be a complex and painful interaction between two people. One of the greatest blocks to intimacy is unconscious, unresolved childhood wounds.
While delving too deep into childhood trauma, attachment theory, and developmental psychology is beyond the scope of this article, if you are interested in exploring your past trauma, Healing Your Attachment Wounds is a great resource that outlines the importance of reconciling past traumatic experiences in order to have healthy, vibrant, and long-lasting intimate relationships as adults.
What we can do for you right now is provide you with five empowering strategies that can reignite intimacy with your partner:
1. Seek help. No person is an island. One of the biggest mistakes couples (and singles) make is that they try and do life alone. We attempt to figure it out by ourselves. We are relational beings, we have evolved and expanded culturally, relationally, and emotionally through connection and relying on other human beings to grow. In her article, The evolutionary roots of human collaboration: coordination and sharing of resources, author Alicia P. Melis states that “Humans’ ability to collaborate to obtain otherwise inaccessible goals may be one main cause for our success as a species.”
When you share things about yourself in therapy and work through them, you diffuse your shame, you heal your trauma, and you don't bring that baggage into your intimate relationships. You feel supported and therefore know how to also ask for help (or space when you need it) in your relationships.
The same can be said for romantic partnerships. Bonding in this way through sharing challenges and difficulties in vulnerable ways can actually deepen emotional intimacy and help you not only see yourself differently (through a lens of deepened self-worth), but also help you empathize, understand, and connect with your partner. These qualities have also been shown to deepen intimacy in romantic partnerships. With all of that said, seek the guidance of a coach, counselor, trauma-informed facilitator, therapist, support group, guide, psychologist, and/or someone you can relate to and trust who can lead you in a supportive way. You’ll be able to face those demons and the pain of the past once you're not in a vacuum. A great resource where you can find credible trauma-informed therapists is the Somatic Experiencing Trauma Institue Practitioner Directory.
2. Love yourself. Seems obvious, right? Well, it’s not as simple as it may appear. Low self-worth, low self-esteem, and minimal self-love are some of the leading causes of couples arguing, hurting each other, or breaking up. We must be responsible for our own thoughts, beliefs, feelings, and states—otherwise, we will expect our partner to “make” us happy, which is an unrealistic expectation to put on anyone. Loving yourself first means you have a greater capacity for loving others. Why? Because you have a real-life, direct example of what love feels like.
Practice this exercise two times daily to begin the path to greater self-love: Spend 3-5 minutes every morning upon awakening and every night prior to sleep just gazing into your left eye. First, just hold your gaze and notice how you feel. Then begin asking yourself questions around self-love such as:
“Why do I love myself deeply?”
“Why am I worthy of love and affection?”
“Why do I care about myself?”
“Why am I so lovable?”
“Why is my body so beautiful?”
When you ask yourself a question, your brain must search for the answer, providing you with “evidence” and therefore reinforcing a new paradigm. This shifts your perception and state towards what you desire, as opposed to what you don’t have.
Doing this exercise when you first wake up and just before bed is important because your brain is most susceptible to suggestion during those times. If you want to take it even further, you can do this naked and really embrace all of who you are. This will also support you in feeling more confident in your sex life. We suggest doing this practice for at least 66 days as science demonstrates it takes at least this long to form a new habit. However, it can take up to 254 days, depending on various factors.
3. Be less reactive and more responsive. When we are young, we form coping strategies or mechanisms to deal with difficult circumstances. As adults, these “patterns” or strategies continue to play out, irrespective of whether they are applicable to the present moment. Think of it as a “serve and protect” mechanism ingrained within the behavioral foundations and neuronal networks of your brain with relation to how you deal with difficulty and conflict and how you give and receive love. Your brain is often hyper-vigilant and would rather err on the side of caution than be hurt again. You become hyper-protective of yourself, and the “better safe than sorry” card is played reactively. This now becomes what is known as a maladaptive coping strategy.
Here’s an example: We have a client who grew up in a very chaotic home, her parents fought a lot of the time and she walked on eggshells hoping she wouldn’t get in trouble and trigger more yelling. She discovered at an early age that if she was just a “good girl” and pleased her parents, she didn’t get yelled at. This pattern of people-pleasing protected her from more chaos. Now, any time she is concerned about upsetting someone or wants someone to like her, she engages in the pattern of people-pleasing. This is a maladaptive coping strategy because although it may prevent people from getting upset, this pattern hurts her because she ends up feeling like a doormat. In her marriage, she ultimately got so resentful and started pushing her husband away until she shifted out of the people-pleasing pattern and became more authentic.
All you are doing here is bringing the past into the present, and bringing these hyper-vigilant behaviors into your intimate relationships often pushes your partner away. The “fix” for this is breathing. Yes, just breathe… The power of pausing AND breathing will allow you to reflect and be introspective, while consciously choosing the next action you wish to take. This breaks the cycle that is no longer serving you relationally—the cycle that, rather than building intimacy, is destroying it.
Next time you are about to get reactive, do the following:
- Feel your body becoming tense.
- STOP – PAUSE
- Take 5 long, slow breaths. This will calm your nervous system and slow your thoughts down.
- Ask yourself: “How do I want this conversation or situation to go?”
- Choose to respond consciously, and not react.
4. Give your presence. One of the greatest gifts you can give to others is your full attention and presence. Be interested in the whole of your partner, and embrace all of who they are—the good, the bad, and the ugly. Giving your presence means practicing seeing your partner—asking questions, getting to know them, empathizing with them, and checking in regularly with how they are feeling.
Men, this one is particularly for you. When you are in the presence of your partner and they are expressing something that has hurt them, or has concerned them, be there for them in the most honorable way.
- Stand up straight.
- Gaze deeply into their eyes.
- Breathe slowly.
- Pin your shoulders back.
- Physically lean in.
- Ask meaningful questions, such as “What do you need from me right now?”.
- Be sincere.
- Listen intently, without waiting to respond.
5. Give the gift of novelty. Learn to surprise your beloved with a date night, a present, kind words, or a thoughtful gesture. In his best-selling book, The Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman discusses the importance of meeting your partner's needs through their love language. If you're not familiar, the five love languages include physical touch, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, and quality time. Gary Chapman believes that we communicate, and both receive and give love, in primarily one or two of these “languages.” When we receive love in our primary love language, we feel fulfilled and become healthier in the relationship.
Novelty in a relationship can be very healthy and fulfill your partner's love language needs, particularly if done with the right intention. In the article Making It Last – Combating Hedonic Adaptations In Romantic Relationships, authors Bao Jacobs and Lyubomirsky discuss the importance of healthy novelty in relationships. “Healthy,” in the context of a relationship, can be interpreted as consensual, varied, risky (but not unsafe), pleasant to the senses, intriguing, wanting more, encouraging, intimacy building (a deeper sense of closeness is formed), and joyful. There are more elements of course, but these are the core elements that would make bringing novelty to a relationship healthy.
This can present in many ways as mentioned above. Being regular with creating intimacy through novel excitement in the relationship improves connection and creates longevity in romantic relationships.
Practices To Heat Up Your Sex Life
Some of what you're about to read may seem obvious and simple, but with the busyness of life, it's not uncommon to neglect your love life. Sex takes a backseat to the bills, kids, responsibilities, family dynamics, stress, and balancing work with life.
The key is to never stop “dating” your partner. Having them isn’t an entitlement—so, don’t be lazy, continue to be curious, share yourself, be real, create novelty together, and deepen your love for one another. Years together is not an excuse for complacency.
What all this means is that, essentially, you must venture into the unknown together. Below are four powerful practices to reignite (or ignite) your sex life, and take your intimacy to the next level:
1. Breath, Sound, Movement. The various stresses you face in life affect your anxiety levels, your self-worth, immune system, digestion, relationships, quality of your sex life, and mesolimbic dopamine system. One of the ways you can combat stress is through calming breathing techniques, particularly during the sharing of sexual and physical intimacy. See, stress can kill good sex. Quality breathing can improve cognition and circulation, focus, attention, and provide you with a boost of energy during sex. Appropriate breathing techniques can help you relax, concentrate, and last longer in the bedroom.
The lower the stress in your life, generally the more connected, exciting, and fulfilling sex with your partner will be. Deep breathing is crucial to remaining calm because it is linked to your parasympathetic nervous system, the reflex responsible for the “rest and digest” response. Shallow breathing, on the other hand, is more closely associated with the sympathetic nervous system, the reflex responsible for the “flight or fight” response. Irrespective of the “type” of sex you are having, sex in a relaxed state is much more appealing than getting it on under acute stress.
During sex, breathe in deeply and imagine the breath flowing into your genitalia. This will enhance pleasure and allow a sexual rhythm to unfold between you and your partner. As pleasure increases and you are both reaching climax or intensity, slow your movement down and continue to breathe deeper. This may appear as if it is taking you away from focusing on your partner, but what is actually happening is you are deepening your connection to each other through breathing rhythmically, aligning your breath and slowing it down—inhaling as your partner inhales, and exhaling as your partner exhales.
When it comes to sounding, some of you may feel self-conscious. Please don’t. It is natural to make all sorts of sounds, particularly during pleasure. Inhibiting this natural function will retract your intimacy. When you are not vulnerable and open, your partner can feel that and move with trepidation. Opening your voice when feeling pleasure is useful in connecting and deepening intimacy, arousal, and sexual exploration. Push your edge here a little and sound even though you may feel uncomfortable doing so.
Next, ensure you are breathing through your nose. This brings in more oxygen than breathing through your mouth and can provide you with a “natural high” from the accumulated nitric oxide. It also engages your core and pelvic floor in such a way that can enhance your sexual experience. If you want to dive deeper into the power of nasal breathing, check out Patrick Mckeown's book, The Oxygen Advantage: Simple, Scientifically Proven Breathing Techniques to Help You Become Healthier, Slimmer, Faster, and Fitter, and Ben's podcast with Patrick here.
2. Divulge your fantasies, then play. It's not uncommon to be intimidated by your own fantasies. You have told by society what is right and wrong when it comes to having sex, and there is often a narrow view of this. You may hide in secret because you are afraid that you may be shamed for your thoughts and feelings towards what you secretly desire.
When you hold in too much, you hide and that behavior can often leak out in “shadow” ways, such as watching pornography in secret, or possibly even having an affair. Ben has recently written two compelling articles on this subject in his Sabbath Ramblings articles, Sex, Porn & Polyamory Part 1 & Part 2.
This long-term level of suppressing oneself is not healthy. You have to first get comfortable enough with yourself, know what you desire and give yourself permission to share that with, first yourself, then your partner. After you've done this, set a time with your partner to discuss this in an agreed-upon way (non-judgmental and an anything-goes style of conversation). Then, simply agree on what you wish to explore and go for it. You can also really push your edges (in a safe and agreed-upon way) and venture into the unknown, this may look like:
- Having the more submissive partner get bound and teased.
- Film yourselves having sex together.
- Massage each other.
- Incorporate toys into your sex life.
- Watch your partner self-pleasure.
Remember to be safe, know the risks, talk it through, seek support, and do not criticize what the other person is thinking or feeling. This can be very vulnerable and deep for both of you and can push on old low self-esteem issues, so use this time to not only get to know each other differently, but to also build intimacy through trust and nurturing your partner’s vulnerable expression.
3. Explore Tantra. Primarily, Tantra is a way of being—a philosophy and spiritual practice of sorts. Tantric sex is only a small part of the embodied practice. Tantric sex originates from ancient Hinduism and revolves around sexual practices that focus on creating a deep, intimate connection with self, the Universe (nature of reality), and your partner. During tantric sex, the aim is to be present in the moment to achieve a sensual and fulfilling sexual experience.
To be in more of a Tantric space, practice the following:
- Make sex non-linear. It needn't be about direction and orgasm. Explore the body, the mind, stop, connect, talk, feel, be silent, breathe, go back to intercourse, come back to feeling. Eat, be sensual through sounding or movement. Explore each other through all of your senses.
- Make eye contact and gaze into each other. This is known as transfiguration. Take your time absorbing your partner and really feel their expression.
- Slow it down and don't rush. Place your inner focus on your pelvis, then bring it to your heart, your mind, hands, thighs, and then to your partner’s body. Be present to the environment and the room.
- Synchronize your breath. At the same time, you and your partner should breathe in deeply through your nose, hold for 5 seconds, then exhale through the mouth. Feel each other’s abdomen expanding on the inhale by pressing against one another, and then hold and feel the release by paying close attention to it. For males, if you are getting close to orgasm you can try Kapalbhati breathing. If you are about to ejaculate, forcefully exhale all the air out through your mouth, then engage in an automatic deeper (yet passive) inhale through your mouth. Kapalbhati breathing helps prolong/lengthen ejaculation in males. This level of self-control also transfers to other areas of life, reinforcing discipline and confidence.
- Yab-yum is a position where you can practice matching breath and also eye-gazing. One partner sits with their legs crossed, and the other partner sits on their partner’s lap, wrapping their legs around their waist (usually the female or feminine dominant person). You can rub your genitals against each other, engage in penetrative sex, or just sit there in the moment (clothed or unclothed).
Tantric sex is about being in tune with your body and the body of your partner. Part of this process is reaching “God” through each other by slowing down the moment of peak sexual arousal and coming back into presence. Part of Tantric sex is full body orgasmic experiences, multi-orgasmic experiences, and non-ejaculatory practices to prolong sexual intimacy—with the premise that if two people can remain in this space long enough, they may experience a spiritual revelation or what is also known as “Kundalini awakening.”
For more on tantric sex, check out the book Tantra – Sex, Secrecy, Politics and Power in the Study of Religion (available as a free PDF) and also Ben's podcast episode with Jamie Wheal titled “Recapture the Rapture: Biohacking Sex, Tantric Breathwork, Plant Medicines For Orgasmic Enhancement & Much More!“.
As coaches and a married couple, we have experienced and observed a lot over the years about what it takes to have a thriving and passionate relationship.
With everything we’ve learned, we know that what makes a relationship last is relatively simple: healthy communication, fast and effective repair of conflict, emotional intimacy, and connected sex.
The key is putting in the work. No matter how long you have been together, or what you have been through, if you practice what you learned in this article, you will notice a positive shift in your relationship.
- Navigate conflict by talking, not yelling; forming “fighting rules” outside of a fight; and letting go of being right.
- Create emotional intimacy by seeking help; loving yourself; being less reactive and more responsive; giving yourself presence; and surprising your loved one with “gifts of novelty.”
- Heat up your sex life with breath, sound, and movement; divulging, and acting out, your fantasies; and exploring tantric sex.
If you would like some guidance to practice some of the processes we’ve shared above, you can get our free experiential Sacred Union process for couples here. Or, to save $30 on lifetime access to Love Amplified, our breathwork and medication course that includes eight downloadable audios and videos to guide you through your own breathwork and meditation journey, click here and use code BEN.
If we left any questions unanswered, or you have any comments or thoughts to share, please leave them below, and we will respond!


One of the most important things to consider when going to a psychologist in UAE through marriage counseling is how you approach the session. While your spouse may have a negative view of marriage counseling, you should try to change their attitude to one of optimism. This will help your relationship immensely. Here are some tips to keep in mind:
Honesty is key to getting marriage counseling:
If you want your relationship to be stronger, you must be honest with each other. Without honesty, your relationship can be damaged, creating a climate of distrust and conflict. Honesty creates a safe space and a foundation for growth. It is also an important part of your self-defence mechanism, which helps you avoid relationships with people you cannot trust. Fortunately, there are some effective methods for improving your relationship through honesty.
Allowing for differences in your relationship:
Couples who have a wide range of differences and problems may benefit from premarital counseling and therapy to learn how to deal with conflict and work through difficult situations. After all, no relationship is perfect, and each partner brings their ideas, values, opinions, and personal history to the table. Despite the best intentions, these differences can sometimes become a source of frustration and conflict. However, by allowing for differences in marriage counseling, you can make repairing your relationship more enjoyable.
Setting goals for couples therapy:
Whether you are working through issues or seeking help from a marriage counselor, setting goals can improve your relationship. By setting clear goals for each other, you will be able to fight more fairly and find solutions to problems together. Setting goals for marriage counseling does not have to be strenuous, but setting expectations and working together to meet them is important. Set a weekly time limit to spend together, preferably without distractions.
Avoiding the “blame game.”
It’s important to avoid the “blame game” when getting marriage therapy. Playing the blame game can lead to various unhealthy behaviors and is often detrimental to the relationship. It’s also a very effective defence mechanism for many people and often spawns a heated argument or fight. It also tends to bring past problems and disagreements into current arguments, which exacerbates the problem.


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Although dating sites are an amazing place to find a long lasting partnership, these sites are often not good for people who are out there to just have casual sex. Most dating sites have members that have information available for long term relationship, marriage or starting a family.
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Are you Responsible for your Spouse's Debt in Canada?
If you are married or have a common law relationship, it is likely that you and your spouse have debt. That debt might be combined or even separate. You may have a joint bank account as well. If that is the case, then you are probably wondering what happens if you separate, divorce or even pass away. Unfortunately the answer isn’t very straight forward.


Online dating is an increasingly popular way to meet potential partners, and many people end up in a relationship with someone they met online. The latest research in the US shows that the partners in more than a third of marriages that took place in the past seven years met online, and there are indications that those marriages are marginally more stable and happier than the relationships where the partners met in other ways.
But meeting a person through an online dating service, social networking or email introductions can create a lot of anxiety and stress and can also involve some risk. At Psychology Melbourne we have psychologists who specialise in online dating support and advice. They can help you manage your stress and make good decisions.
With their help, you can learn how to increase your chances of successful encounters while avoiding unnecessary risk. They can help you manage your expectations, be clear about your selection criteria and reduce anxiety and stress.
Remember the golden rules of internet dating:
It’s important to manage one's expectations when entering online dating. If the dates don’t work out, they can lead to feelings of disappointment and hurt and over time, reduced self-esteem and confidence. Remember this is only one way of meeting someone, not the only way.
You will come in contact with a whole range of people, some normal and some who are frankly a bit weird, so don’t be shocked if some of these respond to you.
Be careful not to base your self-esteem entirely on whether people like you or reject you online. Remember that this is a virtual world and people don't really "exist" until you are talking to a real person or seeing them live.
Not getting a response? There could be reasons that have nothing to do with you. Learn to move on and focus your energy and time on someone who is showing genuine interest.
Keep doing things that make you feel good about yourself outside of online dating.
A healthy attitude toward online dating and having realistic expectations will help prevent negative feelings.
The more professional sites will ask you to identify your basic criteria of likes and dislikes, etc. Be clear about your "willing to compromise list" (e.g. living arrangements) and your "not willing to compromise list" (e.g. honesty, career) and stick to these to ensure that you are communicating with the right people.
Be clear about your own personal values and the values that you are wanting from the other person.
It may be helpful to see one of our psychologists to help you identify your core values and whether you are aligned to these values and how they play out in your life.
It’s important that you don't let internet dating control your life. Make sure you have a healthy life balance and are continuing to do the things you enjoy outside of the dating game.
Take time out to relax and exercise and continue with recreational activities. Don't make internet dating your second job. If you're feeling overwhelmed or stressed, you can speak to a psychologist to assist with managing these feelings.
Learn to be assertive if you’re not interested in a particular person and they keep contacting you.


Happy Valentine’s Day!!! Today is a happy day for some, and sad for others. I’ve personally never been a big fan of the holiday, but now that I’m single for the first time in forever I’ve found some real meaning in it. Throughout the first two weeks of February, we see funny memes and make jokes about being single during Valentine’s Day and even though I have a huge sense of humor, I’m not sure if I find these jokes very funny for the reasons below:
1) Why is it a negative thing to be single on Valentine’s Day?
2) Who decided that Valentine’s Day was to express love for a significant other – can’t you express love for your best friend, mom, pet, brother, or yourself?
3) Why do I have to stay in on Valentine’s Day and watch movies, eat ice cream, and cry to myself?
Being single on this holiday has made me find a whole new meaning in love – love for myself. An appreciation for my good qualities and gratitude that I am very blessed to have people in my life that I love and that love me back.
What are your thoughts on this holiday? I would love to hear them!!


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Choosing Dating for Marriage
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All of the weddings or events we design and set up for out clients are very special to us but Crystal and Danny’s wedding at Hotel Maya was something extra special. We had met Crystal about 6 months prior to her wedding and she was so sweet with a smile that lights up a room! Then we met Danny! You could feel the love they had for each other and we loved his involvement in the design of their candy and dessert table! During the planning of their wedding, Crystal had multiple losses in her family, one was her mother! I know their were times when she thought,”How could they plan such a celebration with so much sadness!” With the rest of their families and friends support, they made it to their wedding day and what a magical day it was! We are so thrilled we could be a part of this celebration of love for Crystal and Danny! We are so happy for them and what a perfect Valentine’s Day post to feature!
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A wave of insecurity, helplessness, panic, and blind rage hits you. You think of the life you've built together, brick by brick, all washed away by eight little words. You wonder who to kill first, her or him. Then you think of your children, and now you realize that you actually are going to throw up, because if he isn't here for you anymore, how will you ever manage? Doesn't he know how important he is, to all of you? How much everyone loves him? How much you love him? How could he do this? How could he do this to you?
You still can't understand what happened. You love your family - they're the reason you're alive. Caring for them is your greatest accomplishment. You're a good person, and a good man. You know you are. How could you do this?
You suppose it crept up on you somehow. At first it was just a flirtation, some back and forth banter you thoroughly enjoyed. It seemed harmless enough. You've never been one to sit around and think about what's going on inside you, so you didn't really notice how you started seeking out her company more and more, or when you started talking to her about the less-than-stellar parts of your relationship with your wife. You didn't notice how she seemed to reach out to you, promising to give you everything you needed...everything you weren't getting at home. You can't blame it on her, though - after all, you reached back. Maybe she was lonely, too.
It hurts to think about all of this now. You realize that you stopped feeling important to your wife a long time ago, after the kids started coming, and her focus seemed to shift from you to them. You realize that you never told her when loneliness stopped being something to tolerate until you could see her again, and instead became your relentless, everyday existence. You think about all the times you desperately wanted to hold your wife and didn't even try, because you knew how tired she was. For the first time it hits you that she might not have even known that anything was wrong. Confused and full of shame, you drop your head into your hands.


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Your wedding ceremony is one of the most important and memorable moments of your life. It's a celebration of love, commitment, and the start of a new chapter with your partner. As you plan for this special day, it's natural to feel overwhelmed with all the details and decisions to make.
Start with a vision
Before delving into the intricate specifics, pause to envision the desired ambiance and aesthetics of your wedding ceremony. Do you want it to be traditional or modern? Indoors or outdoors? Formal or casual? Having a clear vision will guide your decision-making process and ensure that all elements of your ceremony are cohesive.
Choose the right officiant
The person who officiates your wedding ceremony plays a crucial role in setting the tone for the entire event. Whether it's a religious figure, family member, or friend, make sure you choose someone who knows you as a couple and can personalize the ceremony to reflect your love story. Don't be afraid to ask for references or meet with potential officiants before making your decision.
Personalize your vows
Your vows are an opportunity to express your love and commitment to each other in front of your loved ones. Instead of using generic templates, take the time to write personal vows that truly reflect your relationship. You can include inside jokes, heartfelt promises, or even quotes from songs or movies that hold special meaning for you as a couple.
On the day of the wedding, you want everything to run smoothly without any hiccups. To avoid any logistical issues during the ceremony, make sure you have a detailed timeline and communicate it clearly with everyone involved, from the wedding party to the vendors. Don't forget to also have a plan B in case of unexpected weather or other last-minute changes.
Make it memorable
Your wedding ceremony is a celebration of your love and should be a reflection of your unique relationship. Consider incorporating special elements that hold meaning for you as a couple, such as cultural traditions, personalized decorations, or even surprise performances. These little touches will make your ceremony stand out and create lasting memories for you and your guests.
With these five essential tips, you'll be well on your way to having a perfect wedding ceremony. Remember to stay true to yourselves as a couple, and don't get too caught up in the details. At the end of the day, what truly matters is the love between you and your partner.
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Surprising is the best way to make your loved ones feel special and it is something which can boost up the relationships. The feeling one gets when he or she is surprised is very strong rather than doing something with the knowledge. But you need to have a good knowledge and understanding as to the ways you can surprise your loved ones. In order to find a way you need to know their tastes, wishes and interests. Surprising your loved one will not be very difficult if you know them. But you need to be tactful in planning the way of surprising no matter even if it is simple. Following tips are to help you to understand how you can surprise your loved person.
Sending or giving unexpected presents in an unexpected way is a great way to make the loved one feel special. There may be a particular thing which your loved one is interested in and he or she might be collecting money to buy it. You can buy it and present it which will make them very surprised and overjoyed as you have fulfilled one interest of your loved person. You do not have to buy expensive gifts to surprise your loved one sometimes a flower and gift delivery would suffice to surprise him or her. No matter how valuable the unexpected present is the feelings your loved one get when he or she receives it in an unexpected manner will make them feel special and loved.
Pretending an event to be forgotten or reminding a forgotten event in an unexpected manner is a great way to surprise your loved person. It is very common that most men forget all the special days involved in their lives such as the birthdays, anniversaries and etc. and the women are known to be very upset when their men forget these events. No matter if you are a man or woman you can pretend that you forgot a special event and suddenly surprise with something. For an instance you can buy and surprise your loved person with some anniversary gifts flowers in Singapore on your wedding anniversary.
It is well understood that more than any material thing the presence of a loved person can make a person feel very special and you can choose to surprise your loved one with your presence. You might be a person working abroad and you can visit your love person who is longing for your presence unexpectedly which will surprise them and make them feel very happy.


Wednesday, November 25, 2009
Happy Thanksgiving Eve, dear friends. I've made the cranberry sauce and am off to pick up a few last minute things for Thanksgiving. I couldn't leave without wishing all of you a peaceful and blessed Thanksgiving Day with your family and friends. All of you have given me so much pleasure over the past few months with your visits and inspriation. When I started this blog last July I had no idea how much it would open my world to meeting so many wonderful new friends from all over the world.But it has. I am so lucky to have met all of you and I look forward to the Christmas holidays. I am thankful for each and every one of you and I wish you all a Happy Thanksgiving.


Innocence - A Short Story from Award Winning Author Mary Deal
Innocence by Mary Deal
Elise and Joe broke up. She was a senior and Joe was already three years out of high school. He flirted with me when attending school functions with Elise. The slow way he secretly winked at me made me think he liked me more than her. Classmates saw us flirt too. Some of the girls wondered why he went with Elise when I was much prettier. I didn’t know about that. My friends say he dated her because she puts out. He also dated Shera and Clarissa. The kids in school gossiped, saying that those two put out to anyone, but they weren’t the only girls Joe was said to be dating.
I stayed away from the talk. My best friend, Cindi, and I decided it was just a lot of idiocy. Joe was every girl’s dream. When Elise and Joe broke up, I saw my chance. Joe and I have secretly been seeing each other the past three weekends, Friday and Saturday evenings.
“I’ve been seriously attracted to you,” he told me when we first got together.
I had to ask. “Did you do it with Elise?”
He curled up the corner of his mouth and rolled his eyes, like he was embarrassed. “Nah, we never got that close.”
“But you dated for two years.”
“I guess she wanted to move on.” He looked at me curiously. “It wasn’t serious. I date a lot of girls.” His smile widened. “You could be my only girl, if you wanted.”
Somehow, I think he only mentioned his dating others to make me jealous.
Ten o’clock was curfew set by my mom and dad. I met Joe again when I left Cindi’s house early one evening pretending to want to walk home. In the darkened school yard, Joe pressed hard against me till the back of my hips hurt against the concrete wall.
“Let me!” he said, pleading. “You know you want it too.” His hot breath swirled across my neck.
I wanted to lay down right there in the shadows on the school lawn and let him have me, but why hadn’t he tried to kiss me? If a guy cared, wasn’t the kiss what came first? This was happening too fast, and not the way I thought it should. I tried to kiss him and rub my tongue against his lips like I heard other girls talk about, but he pulled away fast. Wasn’t it a kiss that would start it all?
He wrapped his arms all the way around my waist till it seemed we’d melted together. Feeling his excitement between us, I almost gave in. “I can’t, Joe. Not like this.” I was just as aroused. He knew it too, but why hadn’t he tried to kiss me. I really wanted to feel what it was like to be kissed the way I’d heard about.
Clouds in the sky broke apart. The position of the full moon up there shocked me to my senses. I glanced over Joe’s shoulder at my wristwatch. It was five minutes till curfew. If something was to happen to bring Joe and me together, it wasn’t going to be tonight.
I pulled away abruptly. Joe looked hot and shook up and a little dazed. “Fuckin’ curfew!” he said under his breath.
“If I don’t get home, Mom and Dad will put me on probation for a month.” I ran the three blocks from the school yard to our house.
Mom and Dad sat in the living room playfully feeding each other popcorn and watching an old movie. That’s what I wanted; the comfort of a loving life partner, although what we might feed each other wouldn’t be popcorn.
Mom saw me. “You’re such a good girl,” she said. “Always home on time.”
Little did she know that I could have the boyfriend of my dreams if I could have stayed out longer. He’ll be mine soon if I can get past being scared about doing it the first time.
I thought Cindi knew about me and Joe, but how could she? He and I saw each other secretly. I wasn’t ready to tell anyone that me and Joe were going together till I was sure of him. If we went all the way, he’d be mine. After that, I could let everyone know. Still, I was so happy that I wanted to share my secret with my best friend.
Monday morning at school, I walked in to find everyone talking excitedly in the hallway. Some of the girls with the big bad reputations stood crying, which was strange because they usually acted tough. The guys and girls stood apart, which was unusual too. The guys looked confused. I didn’t hear Elise’s showy voice and personality, which usually dominated the halls. Shera, nearly weeping, grabbed Clarissa when she came through the doorway and told her something that made her turn white as a ghost and faint dead away, right there in front of the book lockers.
I found Cindi and asked, “What’s going on?”
“You haven’t heard?”
“I just got here.”
“It’s Elise. She’s gonna die!”
“You know that guy Joe, don’t you? The one she’s been dating?”
“What about Joe?” I asked.
“He gave Elise HIV!”
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(From my short story collection: Off Center in the Attic - Over the Top Stories)