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Breast cancer is the most prevalent cancer worldwide with an estimation of 7.8 million females alive with it at the end of 2020. In 2020, 25,928 cases of female breast cancer were reported in Pakistan making it the highest among all other malignancies. This research paper is part of a larger research study using an exploratory sequential mixed method research to broadly investigate the impact of breast cancer on a couple’s marital satisfaction; this paper highlights the relationship between breast cancer and sexual satisfaction and then its impact on couples’ married life. The data collected in the qualitative data collection phase was thematically analyzed and the outcomes were verified in the second phase of quantitative data collection and analysis. The findings of both data approved the prior assumption that the sexual satisfaction of both cancer patients and their spouses is impacted by breast cancer and its resulting in relationship strains.
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Being in a relationship, especially living with another person, can trigger us. One of the most important things is communication. Being able to share your thoughts, feelings, dreams, fears and emotions is paramount. Without communication, wires cross, judgements are made, expectations are created, assumptions sneak in and all kinds of arguments- big or small- can arise.
Love is a journey. It requires action, intention and a commitment to supporting oneather through life’s highs and lows. Love is about giving as well as being open to receiving, both of which can be challenging at times. Yet love is also about freedom, laughter, joy, adventure, exploration, connection, friendship and belonging. To experience the highs of a loving relationship, here are five wonderful habits to cultivate.
While we briefly mentioned communication already, it really is the pivotal key to a healthy and happy relationship. Being able to openly talk to your partner ensures that you understand one another, and even if you happen to disagree on things, you can have respect and understanding for your partners beliefs and point of view. No two people are alike! And while you may have plenty in common, you are always bound to discover differences in opinion and in what you like or dislike. Bottling up emotions creates resentment and only festers under the surface, guaranteed to explode at some point in time! When issues are dealt with in the moment, they don’t have the chance to escalate or cause ongoing pain or suffering. We can’t read our partners mind, so being able to share openly is so important. It creates respect and a deeper sense of love, appreciation and admiration. Take time to listen to your partner- really listen! Too often these days we listen while we keep our eyes on our phone! Allow your partner to be heard and create a space where you both feel safe and comfortable to be vulnerable. Prioritise communication and reap the benefits of a loving relationship.
Being in a relationship means being aware and mindful of your partners needs. Life is busy and day to day we are often swallowed up with an array of tasks, activities, appointments and obligations. It can be easy to start to take a relationship for granted and get caught up in our own little bubble. Being mindful often means being perceptive. Take time to notice how your partner is acting- do they seem a little down, a little distracted, anxious, euphoric?! Listen to the words that may not be spoken. Think about ways that you can surprise your partner in a supportive and caring way. These may be simple things like doing a load of washing when they have a big week, cooking a meal for the two of you when the other is home late, or simply checking in with a text message if you are running behind schedule. Being mindful and aware of your partners needs brings so much compassion, love and appreciation to a relationship.
Diversity and Spontaneity
As humans we are creatures of habit. Once the initial excitement of a new relationship dies down, we tend to fall into regular established patterns, habits and dynamics that are comfortable. So comfortable in fact, things can become a little dull! Think back to the start of your relationship when you went to the trouble to get ready, when you put thought into dates, when you sent them loving texts in the middle of the day for no reason. Keep the passion of your relationship alive by surprising and delighting your partner. Make the effort to get out and try new things- explore somewhere new, go camping or hiking, try a new restaurant, go to different events with diverse groups of people- keep things interesting. Pj’s and netflix is a delicious combo for many couples! Yet it can also be detrimental to the relationship in the long term! We need diversity and spontaneity in life to feel alive. Surprise your partner with things you know they will appreciate. Take it in turns of planning a unique date night each week. Variety is the spice of life!
Gratitude and Giving
Being appreciated is such a beautiful part of any relationship. Take time to show your gratitude when your partner does something for you- even if it is something small. The little ways we give to our partner become the big things- making a cup of coffee in the morning, a gentle foot rub at the end of the day, a shared smile over a group dinner conversation, grabbing the laundry off the line, walking the dog, a simple flower left on the kitchen table. When we stop being grateful for these little things, chances are, they may vanish! When you consistently show your gratitude, your partner will feel seen and appreciated. This creates a beautiful reciprocal cycle as both people in the relationship feel happy and drawn to give more, knowing they will be appreciated and the favour will be returned. Relationships are always about giving and receiving and the moment they become one way, warning bells start to sound! Give generously and show gratitude whenever possible.
Making sure that you practice self care and self love and dedicate time to filling up your own cup is essential for a relationship to thrive. Chances are there are many things that you love doing that your partner is not so interested in and vice versa. It can be easy to let our own needs slide in a relationship, but this only leads to resentment and despondency. Set aside time for you both to do the things that light you up. Allow time for you to nourish and delight in time with your own separate friends and family. Don’t feel guilty when you need space and time to yourself- this time we spend tending to our own needs and passions serves to make us better partners. You can’t give from an empty cup, so prioritise time for self care.
Finally, one extra bonus tip! One of the most incredible ways to strengthen a relationship is travel. Experiencing a new land, new culture and new place with someone you love is utterly magical. Travel allows you the time to reconnect without the pressures and distractions of daily life. As a result, you rediscover all the things that you love about your partner and the things that brought you together. As you try new things, you grow together, and create memories that last a lifetime. This is one of the reasons why we have developed our Pop-Up Couples Retreats at The Palm Tree House. A Couples Retreat is all about taking time out with the one you love in a beautiful luxurious space where you can unwind, replenish and combine a healthy getaway with a tropical adventure. Everything is optional and you and your partner have the time and space to create the retreat week your way. Fill up your own cup whilst also taking time to reconnect as a couple.


Divorce Process in Japan
Updated: Aug 3, 2020
Hi, everyone. I would like to explain the outline of divorce procedure in Japan this time.
Through my daily works as a lawyer handling family law matters, I strongly feel that the more expanding globalization of flow and move of people and development of internet technology making it easier to communicate among people living different countries, the more increasing numbers of international marriage as well as numbers of legal consultation request from foreign nationals regarding international divorce even in Japan. So I want to answer to typical questions from my forein national clients thinking of divorce this time, namely, how you, as a foreign national living in Japan can get divorced with Japanese spouse, about what items you should make an agreement with your spouse as divorce-related matters.
Q. I’m from France. I got married with my Japanese spouse about 5 years ago in Japan and our marriage is also registered in France. We have 2 years old daughter who has dual nationalities, Japan and France. I’m thinking to get divorced with my wife. But whenever I try to have discussion with my wife regarding our future as family, in other words, divorce, she gets upset and so emotional that I cannot discuss with her constructively. What should I do and from where should I start to proceed the divorce procedure?
In case where married couple’s nationalities are different, you need to confirm which county's law should be applied to your case. According to Act on General Rules For Application of Laws, Article 27(applying mutatis mutandis of Article 25 regarding marriage) , (1) in case where either of married couple has Japanese nationality and lives in Japan habitually, Japanese laws should be applicable law. (2) in case where original country of the married couple is the same, their original country’s laws should be applicable law. (3) In case where each of the married couple’s nationality is different and non-Japanese but both of them live in the same county habitually, the law of country of their habitual domicile should be applicable law.
Let's take a look at each language of Article 25 ,26, 27.
（婚姻の効力） (Effect of Marriage) 第二十五条 婚姻の効力は、夫婦の本国法が同一であるときはその法により、その法がない場合において夫婦の常居所地法が同一であるときはその法により、そのいずれの法もないときは夫婦に最も密接な関係がある地の法による。 Article 25 The effect of a marriage shall be governed by the national law of the husband and wife if their national law is the same, or where that is not the case, by the law of the habitual residence of the husband and wife if their law of the habitual residence is the same, or where neither of these is the case, by the law of the place most closely connected with the husband and wife.
（夫婦財産制） (Marital Property Regime) 第二十六条 前条の規定は、夫婦財産制について準用する。 Article 26 The preceding Article shall apply mutatis mutandis to the marital property regime. ２ 前項の規定にかかわらず、夫婦が、その署名した書面で日付を記載したものにより、次に掲げる法のうちいずれの法によるべきかを定めたときは、夫婦財産制は、その法による。この場合において、その定めは、将来に向かってのみその効力を生ずる。 (2) Notwithstanding the preceding paragraph, if a husband and wife have designated one of the laws listed in the following as the governing law by means of a document signed by them and dated, their marital property regime shall be governed by the law thus designated. In this case, the designation shall be effective only for the future: 一 夫婦の一方が国籍を有する国の法 (i) the law of the country where either husband or wife has nationality; 二 夫婦の一方の常居所地法 (ii) the law of the habitual residence of either husband or wife; or 三 不動産に関する夫婦財産制については、その不動産の所在地法 (iii) with regard to marital property regime regarding real property, the law of the place where the real property is situated. ３ 前二項の規定により外国法を適用すべき夫婦財産制は、日本においてされた法律行為及び日本に在る財産については、善意の第三者に対抗することができない。この場合において、その第三者との間の関係については、夫婦財産制は、日本法による。 (3) The marital property regime to which a foreign law should be applied pursuant to the preceding two paragraphs may not be asserted against a third party without knowledge, to the extent that it is related to any juridical act done in Japan or any property situated in Japan. In this case, in relation to such third party, the marital property regime shall be governed by Japanese law. ４ 前項の規定にかかわらず、第一項又は第二項の規定により適用すべき外国法に基づいてされた夫婦財産契約は、日本においてこれを登記したときは、第三者に対抗することができる。 (4) Notwithstanding the preceding paragraph, a contract on marital property concluded under a foreign law pursuant to paragraph (1) or (2) of this Article may be asserted against a third party when it is registered in Japan.
（離婚） (Divorce) 第二十七条 第二十五条の規定は、離婚について準用する。ただし、夫婦の一方が日本に常居所を有する日本人であるときは、離婚は、日本法による。 Article 27 Article 25 shall apply mutatis mutandis to divorce; provided, however, that if either husband or wife is a Japanese national who has habitual residence in Japan, their divorce shall be governed by Japanese law.
■How to get divorced in Japan
Under Japanese law, there are four ways of divorce.
① Consensual divorce (kyogi-rikon 協議離婚)
This is divorce based on mutual consent between married couple without any involvement of court or other public agencies. You can get divorce legally by just submitting divorce paper signed by both of couple to the municipal office based on mutual agreement. You can get the divorce paper at the municipal office. If you have miner child/children, both of you need to write which parent has child custody after divorce in the divorce paper. Please note that joint custody is not recognized in Japan unlike most of other counties.
It is required that both of couples have intention of divorce at two points, meaning at the time of signing on divorce paper and at the time of submission of divorce paper of municipal office for effectiveness of consensual divorce . Therefore, even if you had intention to get divorced at the time of your signing in the paper, but you change your mind afterward and have no intension at the time of submission of divorce paper, divorce shall be null and void.
However, once the divorce paper accepted by the municipal office, it is almost impossible to cancel the divorce with some exception such as forged signature. In order to claim nullification of divorce, you need to file a legal action with Family court against your spouse. So to prevent submission of divorce paper against your will, you should submit the application of non-acceptance of divorce paper (Fujuri Todoke 離婚不受理届 ) to the municipal office before submittion of divoce paper in advance if you already signed the divorce paper.
2, Mediation divorce ( Chotei-rikon 調停離婚)
If you find impossible or difficult to have discussion with your partner amicably about divorce and other related matters like children and living cost etc., I recommend you to use mediation procedure at Family court which is very popular in Japan.
In mediation procedure, two mediators, one is female and other is male, appointed by Family court, facilitate constructive discussion between both parties, seeking to reach an agreement. Family court located large cities like Tokyo, Oosaka and so on will arrange mediators who can speak foreign languages including English if you have request for such mediators. So, if you are worried about communicating in Japanese with mediators, you are advised to ask the court clerk in charge of your case to arrange mediators with foreign language proficiency.
Soon after your application of mediation with the court, with adjusting with your schedule, the court designates the first session date and time which is set up at the date after 1 or 1.5 month from the date of mediation application. Length of time of one session is generally about 2 hours, but each of couple talks with mediators alternately every 30mitutes, so you do not need to meet and talk directly with opposite party ( your spouse) and you can tell your thought and request regarding divorce conditions to mediators under friendly and receptive atmosphere.
However, you should keep in mind that the purpose of mediation procedure at family court is to reach mutual agreement regarding divorce so that if there is no possibility to reach an agreement between both parties concerned, the court finishes the procedure. Though it's case-by-case, generally nevertheless the court holds 5th or 6th sessions of mediations consecutively, both parties fails to come to an agreement, the procedure also come to an end. It is the same in case that other party dose not attend the session despite of recommendation of appearance by the court.
After closure of mediation procedure, either of parties who wants to get divorced files a sue against a spouse claiming divorce and other related matters such as child custody, visitation of children, division of marital properties, damage compensation and so on with Family court.
3, Adjudication divorce ( shinpan-rikon 審判離婚)
In adjudication procedure, when both of parties come into conclusion of agreement amicably, the court renders the judgement with the same content of agreement between parties concerned. This form of divorce is used in the case that other party’s country dose not admit and nor certify effectiveness of (consensual) divorce in other county except for the divorce authorized by the judicial court.
4, Litigation divorce (saiban-rikon 裁判離婚)
Finally, if both of you fail to reach an agreement in above mentioned processes but you still want to get divorced, you have no choice but filing a litigation against your spouse. When the judge finds your alleged causes of divoce amoung following legal cause of divorce (stipulated in Article 770, Civil Code) , the judge renders judgment ordering divorce and related items. The plaintiff (a spouse claiming divorce) has the burden of proof regarding legal causes of divorce in accordance with Civil Code, Article 770, by objective evidence and persuasive statements.
① Spouse committed adultery
② Abandoned with malicious intention
③ Spouse missing for more 3 years
④ Spouse with irrecoverably serious mental illness
⑤ Other reasons which makes marital relationship impossible to continue
For example, personality-incompatibility, abusive behaviors including domestic violence are contained in cause No⑤
Even once you file a law suit with Family court and litigation proceeding starts, you will have several chance to reach an mutual agreement about divorce through facilitation by the judge before the one-sided judgement.
■ Items to be agreed as divorce conditions
On finalizing the divorce procedure ultimately, you should make comprehensive agreement regarding divorce-related matters as well as divorce in itself in writing in order to prevent further conflicts even after divorce.
In particular, child custody ( if you have miner children) , child support, division of marital property and asset, condition of child visitation, division of pension are must-items in divorce agreement. Other than these items, you can set forth necessary conditions flexibly based on mutual consent.
■Sample of divorce agreement
Here is a sample of divorce agreement in mediation procedure. You can make use of these sample, adjusting language and adding agreed items in your case.
Party A and Party B confirm that both of parties concerned has entered into conclusion of divorce on the date of ●● in the mediation procedure at Tokyo Family court.
Both parties concerned agree that Party A shall be granted legal single child custody of their two children, the first son C ( Birthday; June 14th 2010) and the first daughter D ( Birthday: July 2nd 2013) to take care of the two children under her legal single custody authority.
３、 Financial support involving children
Party B shall pay Party A 100,000JPY per child as child support due by the end of every month until each child graduates from university or similar tertiary educational organization by way of bank transfer to Party A ‘s designated bank account, provided however, both parties shall discuss necessary costs involved in each of child other than the above-mentioned regular child custody payment.
４、Division of marital property.
Both parties confirm that real estate as attached are the scope of marital property to be divided at the time of divorce and agree to sell for financial realization as soon as possibly not later than ●●2020. The financial gain obtained by selling the real estate (as attached) shall be divided evenly between the parties. The gain will be divided after the deduction of the house cleaning, real estate registration-related fees, repairment costs, other necessary costs involving selling the estates and paying off the outstanding housing loan of the estate.
Party A shall cooperate and make necessary arrangement for Party B to meet and spend with two children, Party C and Party D at least for 3 hours once a week and stay the night once a month under the following conditions. ※ You can set forth more detail condition based on mutual consent.
6、 Release and Discharge
Party A and Party B mutually confirm that, between Party A and Party B, other than those stipulated in this agreement, there are no claims and obligations each other.
7、All Cost regarding this mediation application
The cost related this mediation procedure shall be bored on each party’s own.
Hope this blog is helpful for you.
I’m going to write regarding criteria and what elements are considered by the court when it coms to which parent be granted child custody in the next blog.


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Unit 2. RELATIONSHIP
Part I. PHONETICS
Exercise 1. Mark the letter A, B, C, or D to indicate the word whose underlined part differs from the other
three in pronunciation in each of the following questions.
1. A. amazing
2. A. break
3. A. enough
4. A. believes
5. A. kissed
Exercise 2. Mark the letter A, B, C, or D to indicate the word that differs from the other three in the position
of the primary stress in each of the following questions.
6. A. campaign
7. A. advice
8. A. favourite
9. A. argument
10. A. comfortable
Part II. VOCABULARY
Exercise 3. Mark the letter A, B, C or D to indicate the word(s) CLOSEST in meaning to the underlined
word(s) in each of the following questions.
11. I was shocked to find out my boyfriend had cheated on me.
12. He was furious with himself for letting things get out of control.
13. Mary and John have a lot in common.
A. live together
B. spend lots of time together
C. share similar ideas
D. share accommodation
14. She felt unsafe and insecure in love.
15. I am now reconciled with two of my estranged siblings - not just my older brother, but my sister, whom I
hadn't spoken to for 17 years.
16. When couples encounter problems or issues, they may wonder when it is appropriate to visit a marriage
17. He doesn't completely trust online partners, as they usually hide their real identity.
18. Sometimes, in order to get things done, you have to take the initiative.
A. make the last decision
B. make important changes
C. raise the first idea
D. sacrifice for others
19. From the moment they met, he was completely attracted by her.
20. She was so happy when he got down on bended knee and popped the question.
A. asked her out
B. asked her to be on a date
C. asked her to give him some money
D. asked her to marry him
21. Gary didn't always see eye to eye with his father, and this is where the honesty shows through.
A. agree with
B. be truthful with
C. look up to
D. take after
22. Some parents strongly oppose their children's romantic relationship.
Exercise 4. Mark the letter A, B, C, or D to indicate the word(s) OPPOSITE in meaning to the underlined
word(s) in each of the following questions.
23. I was really depressed about his winning the election, like a lot of people.
A. fed up
24. Miss Walker was a mature lady when she married.
25. Students are advised to tune out distractions and focus on study.
26. Don't confess your love to your friends unless you know they feel the same way.
27. Among friends again, we may be happy to confide our innermost secrets.
28 Most of us, even with every communication option possible, drift apart from friends.
A. be independent
B. be associated
C. be isolated
D. be separated
29. Then the strangest thing happens - Will and Marcus strike up an unusual friendship.
A. cover up
B. give up
C. make up
30. He'll give Joe a red rose and a lovey-dovey poem he wrote.
31. Feel free to bring along your significant other to the party.
32. I look up to my father for my whole life.
A. depend on
33. He's a wonderful example of a kind-hearted person with good judgement.
34. The situation seemed hopeless and desperation filled them both with anger.
Exercise 5. Mark the letter A, B, C, or D to indicate the correct answer to each of the following questions.
35. I don't know what to say to break the ____ with someone I've just met at the party.
36. Their close friendship ____ a romantic relationship.
A. brings about
B. puts up
C. takes over
D. turns into
C. settled down
D. worked out
37. It's time I ____ and raised a family.
A. carried on
B. grew up
38. They fell ____ because they disagreed on the care of their young son.
39. All the three boys seem to fall ____ over heels in love with her.
40. She says she has kissed and ____ up with Nigel, and the reunion was a fun night.
41. Due to financial conflict over years, they decided to get ____.
42. Many husbands and wives can't remember why they ever got ____ in the first place because they no longer
have anything in common.
43. We started ____ out together before we realised we were in love.
44. Parents are always willing to lend a sympathetic ____ to their children when they have problems.
45. I have a ____ on a classmate who is very near and dear to me.
46. Jane arranged for me to go on a/an ____ date with a guy from her office.
47. ____ dating involves couples going out together. It gives you the chance to see how your date interacts with
48. If you are lucky, it will be love at first ____.
49. When you start dating somebody regularly, we say that you are ____ somebody.
50. His youngest daughter was the ____ of his eye.
Part III. GRAMMAR
Exercise 6. Mark the letter A, B, C, or D to indicate the correct answer to each of the following questions.
51. What's the matter? You look ____.
52. I have been very ____ up to this point, but I am going to lose my temper if you don't find my baggage
53. You seem more ____ now.
54. These watermelons were ____ sweet.
55. The cake tastes ____.
56. That kitten's fur ____ so soft.
57. The waves crashed on the shore where they ____ cool on my hot feet.
58. The milk went ____ within seven days from opening.
59. You can't blame an automaker for wanting to design a car that looks ____, even if it doesn't have what it
takes under the hood.
60. My darling, you looked ____ in that dress.
61. She looked ____ around for a weapon.
62. Nicole grew ____ from the hours of overtime at work. It became quite ____ that she needed a long
B. amazing well
C. amazingly good
D. amazingly well
63. The young girl sing ____.
A. amazing good
64. She said she would become a ____ singer ____.
65. The skies became ____ as the moon moved between the Earth and the Sun.
A. surprising dark
B. surprising darkly
C. surprisingly dark
D. surprisingly darkly
66. Although my best friend now lives in Da Nang, we still try to keep in touch ____ each other.
C. up to
67. They said it was a great chance to form new friendships and enjoy each other's ____.
68. Terry has been carrying a torch for Liz for years, but she seems not ____.
A. been noticed
D. to notice
69. Many parents are worried that their children will get involved ____ a romantic relationship in their teenage
70. Some people are meant to fall in love ____ each other but not meant to be together.
71. Healthy relationships allow both partners to feel supported and connected but still feel ____.
72. Warmth, ____, and understanding should cost nothing in any country.
73. Talking to professional counsellors who are trained to help people to process feelings, can be most ____.
74. If you have feeling for someone, then you have worked up the ____ to ask them out.
Exercise 7. Mark the letter A, B, C, or D to indicate the underlined part that needs correction in each of the
75. The chef tasted the meat cautious before carefully serving it to his special guest.
76. The doctor felt the leg carefully to see if there were any brokenly bones.
77. After being closed for a long period of time, the house became dirty and smelled awfully.
78. All the members of the committee felt happily about the ultimate decision.
79. Sophie has lived in Thailand for several years. She knows the culture very good.
80. I feel both excited and nervously because I have got a date with Lara tomorrow.
81. The humid weather made it difficultly to enjoy the tropical beach.
82. It was a warm and cosy coffee shop in where they had their first date.
83. Jerry's parents are not pleased because he does not study hardly and seriously enough.
84. I wonder how you felt when you broke up from your ex-girlfriend.
85. Most important, I can quickly either start or end an online relationship whenever I want.
86. The food was good with reasonable price, but the service was slowly.
87. According to Kate's parents' viewpoint, she is never mature enough to be in love.
88. It is his dishonesty what I dislike the most.
89. My students are not so good at Mathematics but they study English good.
90. They are accustomed to share every sorrow and mirth with each other.
Part IV. SPEAKING
Exercise 8. Mark the letter A, B, C, or D to indicate the correct response to each of the following exchanges.
91. “Are you ready? The school bus is leaving.” – “Yes, just a minute. ____”
A. No longer.
B. I'm coming.
C. I'd be OK.
D. I'm leaving.
92. “Hi, Jenny. Where are you going?” – “Sorry, Mike. I can't stop now. ____”
A. Of course not!
C. See you.
D. Watch out!
93. “Were you in school yesterday?” – “No, ____”
A. I was not sure.
B. I was free.
C. I was absent.
D. It was boring
C. No, not at all.
D. Yes, why not?
94. “Do you mind if I sit next to you?” – “____”
A. Don't mention it.
B. My pleasure.
95. “Your new dress looks fantastic!” – “Thanks, ____”
A. I bought it at Daisy's.
B. I'd rather not.
C. It's up to you.
D. You can say that again.
96. “Do you feel like going to the prom with me?” – “ ____”
A. I feel very bored. B. That would be great.
C. Yes, congratulations.
D. You're welcome.
97. "I'm afraid there is no real friendship between boys and girls!”
- “____, Mommy. We are just good friends.”
A. Don't mention it
B. Don't worry
C. I hope so
D. Of course not
98. “I think students must go to single sex schools.” – “No, ____”
A. I totally approve.
B. I disagree.
C. How amazing
D. What a pity.
C. Sounds boring.
D. No, why not?
99. “Didn't you feel tired of being alone?” – “____”
A. Of course not.
B. No, thanks.
100. “What's wrong with you?” – “____”
A. Thank you.
B. I'm having a headache.
C. You are welcome.
D. Yes, I was tired yesterday.
101. “You look so sad. ____” – “I couldn't have my parent's permission.”
A. Can you help me?
B. How do you deal with it?
C. What's the problem?
D. What should I do?
102. “I can't understand why my parents don't allow me to play with boys.” – “____”
A. Me also.
B. Me either.
C. Me neither.
D. Me too
103. “Why don't we talk to Mr Green first? I think he can help.” – “____”
A. Good idea.
B. I understand.
C. Yes, thanks.
D. You are wrong.
104. “Hello. ____” – “Hello. Hold on please. I get you through.”
A. Can I meet Mr Green?
B. Can I take Mr Green's number?
C. May I speak to Mr Green?
D. Where is Mr Green's room?
105. "Can you help Carol to persuade her parents?” – “____”
A. I think so.
B. Not completely.
C. Yes, I'm afraid not.
D. Why not?
Part V. READING
Exercise 9. Read the following passage and mark the letter A, B, C, or D to indicate the correct word or
phrase that best fits each of the numbered blanks.
In a healthy relationship, both partners respect, trust and embrace (106) ____ differences. Both partners
are able to communicate (107) ____ their needs and listen to their partner, and work to resolve conflict
in a rational and (108) ____ way. But maintaining a healthy relationship (109) ____ for skills many
young people are never taught. A lack of these skills, and (110) ____ up in a society that sometimes
celebrates violence or in a community that experiences a high (111) ____ of violence, can lead to
unhealthy and even violent relationships among youth.
Dating violence (112) ____ psychological or emotional violence, such as controlling behaviours or
jealousy; physical violence, such as hitting or punching. More than 20 per cent of all adolescents report
having experienced (113) ____ psychological or physical violence from an intimate partner - and
underreporting remains a concern.
Adolescents, (114) ____ older adolescents, often have romantic relationships, which are long-term,
serious, and intimate. Society has a responsibility to provide young people with the resources, skills, and
space (115) ____ to safeguard their physical and emotional well being in these relationships. Youthserving professionals, educators, and parents can help young people in need access services to (116)
____ dating abuse victimisation. Research also has shown that programmes intended to prevent dating
violence can be (117) ____.
106. A. another's
B. each another's
C. each other's
D. one another's
107. A. effective
108. A. non-violent
109. A. asks
110. A. bringing
111. A. amount
12. A. comprises
113. A. both
114. A. especial
115. A. necessitating
116. A. address
117. A. succeed
Exercise 10. Read the following passage and mark the letter A, B, C, or D to indicate the correct answer to
each of the questions.
Let's see if you can correctly answer the following question: At what age are Latter-day Saint youth
allowed to date? Of course, you probably immediately said, "16". OK, then, how about this one: At
what age are you allowed to have a boyfriend or girlfriend? You may be thinking, “Um, 16. Didn't I just
answer that?" Well, if that was your answer, then, even though you aced the first question, you missed
the second one. Just because you can date when you turn 16 doesn't mean you should immediately start
looking for a steady boyfriend or girlfriend.
For decades, prophets have preached that youth who are in no position to marry should not pair off
exclusively. For instance, President Hinckley (1910-2008) said, "When you are young, do not get
involved in steady dating. When you reach an age where you think of marriage, then is the time to
become so involved. But you boys who are in high school don't need this, and neither do the girls”. So
what does this counsel really mean, and what are the reasons for it?
To begin with, there are two different types of dating: casual dating and steady (or serious) dating. The
distinction between the two has to do with exclusivity. With casual dating, there is no exclusivity. The
two people aren't “a couple” or “an item”, and they don't refer to each other as a “boyfriend” or
“girlfriend”. They don't pair off. People who are casually dating are simply friends. This is the kind of
dating the Church encourages you to do after you turn 16. You should put aside a need to find a “one
and only”. If you're dating casually, you don't expect a relationship to become a romance. You have fun;
you do a variety of things with a variety of people. On the other hand, steady dating means the couple is
exclusive with one another. They expect each other not to date anyone else or to be emotionally or
physically close with other people. Couples who date seriously consider the future, because there is a
real possibility they could stay together. This is the kind of dating the Church encourages young adults
(generally, people in their 20s) to progress toward, because that's the age when they should be thinking
You should avoid becoming exclusive as teenagers, because an exclusive relationship requires a high
level of commitment from both partners, and you're not in a position to make that kind of commitment
as teens – neither emotionally, physically, nor in terms of your future plans. As President Boyd K.
Packer, President of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, has said to youth, “Avoid steady dating.
Steady dating is courtship, and surely the beginning of courtship ought to be delayed until you have
emerged from your teens”.
118. It can be inferred from the first paragraph that ____.
A. dating doesn't mean having exclusive boyfriend or girlfriend
B. teenagers are supposed to have a steady boyfriend or girlfriend
C. teenagers date as many boyfriends or girlfriends as they can
D. young people shouldn't be allowed to date at 16
119. The word “aced” in paragraph 1 is closest in meaning to ____.
A. gave up
C. succeeded in
120. According to the passage, what is NOT true about casual dating?
A. You can be friend with each other.
B. You don't pair off exclusively.
C. You find your "one and only”.
D. You meet different kinds of people.
121. It is stated in the passage that steady dating ____.
A. includes a variety of things with a variety of people
B. is courtship that you ought to have in your teens
C. requires hardly any commitment
D. suits people who are in their 20s
122. Which of the following would serve as the best title for the passage?
A. At what age are young people allowed to date?
B. Casual dating or steady dating.
C. Make your teenage dating by keeping it casual.
D. Popular kinds of dating for teenagers.
Exercise 11. Read the following passage and mark the letter A, B, C, or D to indicate the correct answer to
each of the questions.
It has long been seen as a less romantic way of meeting Mr Right. But finding love over the Internet is a
good way of meeting a marriage partner, research has showed. It found that one in five of those who
have used dating sites to find their perfect partner have gone on to marry someone they met over the
web. The study, by consumer group Which?, also revealed that more than half of the 1,504 people
questioned had been on a date with someone they met in cyberspace. Sixty-two per cent agreed that it
was easier to meet someone on a dating site than in other ways, such as in a pub or club, or through
friends. At the same time, the under-35s were more likely to know someone who had been on a date or
had a long-term relationship with someone they met through online dating. The survey also found that
Match.com and Dating Direct were the most popular dating websites.
Jess Ross, editor of which.co.uk, said: “Online dating is revolutionising the way people meet each other.
Switching the computer on could be the first step to success.” According to industry surveys, more than
22 million people visited dating websites in 2007, and more than two million Britons are signed up to
singles sites. Previous research has shown that couples who get to know each other via emails are more
likely to see each other again after their first date. Two years ago, a study by Bath University revealed
that those who met on dating websites were 94 per cent more likely to see each other after their first
meeting than other couples. The researchers studied relationships formed on online dating website
Match.com over a six-month period. They found that consummate love - described as a balance of
passion, intimacy and commitment - was evident at around 12 months into a relationship. Of the 147
couples who took part in the study, 61 per cent said their relationships had high levels of these
components. The researchers also found that men were more likely to find true love on the Internet than
women. Some 67 per cent of men but just 57 per cent of women said they had experienced consummate
love with an online partner.
Companionate love - a relationship with high levels of intimacy and commitment, but lower levels of
passion - was the next most frequently experienced form of love, exhibited by 16 per cent of the study
group. Dr Jeff Gavin, who led the team, said: “To date, there has been no systematic study of love in
the context-of relationships formed via online dating sites. But with the popularity of online dating, it is
imperative we understand the factors that influence satisfaction in relationships formed in this way.”
Charlotte Harper, of Match.com, said: “We were thrilled to find so many of our former members have
found love. It supports our belief that the Internet does in fact encourage old-fashioned courtship.”
123. According to the passage, online dating is seen as ____.
A. a modern romantic way of dating
B. an economical way of dating
C. the fastest way to find a soul mate
D. a great change in the way people meet
124. The words “cyberspace” in paragraph 2 probably means ____.
A. dating agency
B. group dating
C. online network
D. school club
125. According to the passage, the number of people taking part in a study by Bath University was ____.
A. more than 1500
B. more than 750
C. about 150
D. about 300
126. The words “systematic" in paragraph 5 is closest in meaning to ____.
127. Which of the following statements is NOT true according to the passage?
A. Consummate love has higher levels of passion than companionate love.
B. Less than 20 million people visited dating websites in 2007.
C. Many members of match.com have found love.
D. Men are more likely to find their ideal partner online than women.
128. The word “imperative” in paragraph 5 is closest in meaning to ____.
129. Which of the following statements is TRUE according to the passage?
A. Many couples got married within 12 months since their first meeting.
B. Men were more likely to visit dating websites than women.
C. The number of single people in Britons reduced owing to online dating.
D. Many people had a long-term relationship through online dating.
130. Which of the following would serve as the best title for the passage?
A. Internet does in fact encourage old-fashioned courtship.
B. Online dating - a good way of meeting people.
C. Online dating is showed to help you find your perfect partner.
D. The revolution of online dating is alarming.
Part VI. WRITING
Exercise 12. Mark the letter A, B, C, or D to indicate the sentence that is closest in meaning to each of the
131. I have to take the responsibility.
A. It's I am that responsible.
B. It is I who am responsible.
C. It is me who am responsible.
D. It's that me is responsible.
132. It was her story that made me cry.
A. I was made crying by her story.
B. I was made to cry by her story.
C. Her story made me crying.
D. Her story made me to cry.
133. It is unlikely that he will come on time.
A. He is unlikely to come early.
B. It is likely that he will not come too late.
C. It looks as if he will come late.
D. It seems that he will come lately.
134. He became successful as a professional writer at the age of 20.
A. He did not succeed as a professional writer until he was 20.
B. He did not write professionally until he succeeded at the age of 20.
C. He succeeded as a professional writer until he was 20.
D. He wrote professionally until he became successful at the age of 20.
135. Mai: “Why don't we ask Mr Brown for help?”
A. Mai asked why they did not ask Mr Brown for help.
B. Mai begged Mr Brown for help to find the reason.
C. Mai suggested that they should ask Mr Brown for help.
D. Mai wanted to know why Mr Brown did not help.
Exercise 13. Mark the letter A, B, C, or D to indicate the sentence that best combines each pair of sentences
in the following questions.
136. John lied to Linda. She didn't know the reason.
A. Linda didn't believe that John lied to her.
B. Linda didn't know how John lied to her.
C. Linda didn't know that John lied to her.
D. Linda didn't know what John lied for.
137. Billy did not find his cat in the garden. He found it in the garage.
A. It was the garden and garage that Billy found his cat.
B. It wasn't the garden that Billy did not find his cat.
C. It wasn't the garden but the garage that Billy found his cat.
D. Billy could not find his cat anywhere, even in the garage.
138. She is so attractive. Many boys run after her.
A. So attractive is shę many boys that run after her.
B. So attractive is she that many boys run after her.
C. So attractive she is that many boys run after her.
D. So that attractive she is many boys run after her.
139. You can feel more at ease by taking part in group dating. It's the only way.
A. By taking part in group dating can you only feel more at ease.
B. Only by taking part in group dating can you feel more at ease.
C. The only way you is by taking part in group dating can feel more at ease.
D. The way you can feel more at ease is taking part in only group dating.
140. Mary broke up with her boyfriend. She couldn't stand his complaining.
A. Although Mary broke up with her boyfriend, she couldn't stand his complaining.
B. Mary broke up with her boyfriend because she couldn't stand his complaining.
C. Mary broke up with her boyfriend; however, she couldn't stand his complaining.
D. Mary broke up with her boyfriend in case she couldn't stand his complaining.


Ex Boyfriends (oooo That B!$ch)
First of all, i want to start out by saying …..my ex boyfriend ( ooooo yea that bitch) isn’t up to being what he was born to be. What is that you might ask? A Real Man. For me, A REAL MAN, or should i say what i envision how a man is suppose to treat a woman. First of all guys, A trait of a good man is one that is supportive in nature (meaning it comes natural)of his woman’s ambitions. Second good trait is during a relationship, unselfishness, is a must. Third, a woman needs a man who knows how to handle her. (if you don’t understand that email me i can give you the low down) or READ A D@#M BOOK. Hell why do i have to babysit your grown A$$. Fourth, take time out of your day just to see how she (i’m) doing. Fifth, A way to a woman heart is to make her (me) feel as if i’m the only woman in the WORLD. Six, Guys show your actions in every little detail. For instance, show her (me) how much you truly love her (me) by voicing it. Be passionate about your feeling toward us. Seventh, Guys quit being a real life grinch, and taking the air from my lungs. You can have a woman eating out of your palms if you keep her on cloud nine, with, smiling and laughter. Last but not least, NEVER EVER , NEVER EVER BREAK OUR HEARTS, with lying, non loyalty, not being proactive, or ABUSE.
Just some thoughts
Realsha- 2015 I’m Out


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A farmer and his wife are preparing their wedding anniversary dinner. The wife says, ‘Should I go out and kill a chicken?’ The husband replies, ‘Why blame a bird for something that happened twenty years ago?’
A 60-year-old couple are celebrating their 40th wedding anniversary. During the celebration a fairy appears and says that, since they have been such a loving couple, she’ll give them each one wish. The wife wishes to travel around the world. The fairy waves her wand and poof! She has a handful of plane tickets. Next, it’s the husband’s turn. He pauses for a moment, then says, ‘I’d like to have a woman 30 years younger than me.’ So the fairy picks up her wand and poof! He’s 90.
A couple decide to celebrate their 60th wedding anniversary by booking the suite where they had their honeymoon. They have breakfast in bed and the wife says, ‘My dear, this is so romantic. My breasts feel all warm and tingly.’ ‘I’m not surprised,’ replies her husband. ‘One’s hanging in your coffee and the other’s lying on my bacon.’
A couple married for forty years are revisiting the places they went to on their honeymoon. As they drive through the countryside they pass a ranch surrounded by a deer fence. The wife says, ‘Sweetheart, let’s do the same thing we did right here forty years ago.’ So the couple get out of the car and make frantic love against the fence. Back in the car the husband says, ‘Darling, you went crazy out there! You sure never moved like that forty years ago – or any time since!’ The wife replies, ‘Yeah? Well, forty years ago that fence wasn’t electrified!’
On their fortieth wedding anniversary a man says to his wife, ‘Whatever you want, just name it and I’ll buy it for you. It doesn’t matter how much it costs. Just say what you’d like for our anniversary.’ She replies, ‘A divorce.’ ‘To be honest,’ he says. ‘I wasn’t thinking of spending quite that much.’
Tom says to Harry, ‘You’re having an anniversary soon, aren’t you?’ ‘Yes,’ says Harry. ‘A big one, 20 years.’ ‘Wow,’ says Tom. ‘What gift are you going to get your wife?’ Harry replies, ‘A trip to Australia.’ ‘That’s impressive,’ says Tom. ‘But how will you top that on your 25th anniversary?’ ‘Don’t know,’ says Harry. ‘I’ll probably pay her fare back.’
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my hearts been stolen by a loser and I never want it back cx
1 beautiful baby girl ❤
RIP alex </3 8.13.2013
Good bye LiLi. You'll always be in my heart, if you ever see this Liam..I love you.
Tori|single| hardly ever on because I talk to like 1 person.


SET OF MUGS - AND TOGETHER THEY HAD BREAKFAST HAPPILY EVER AFTER
Because there is nothing like a newly-wed breakfast: glorious tasting coffee; true love spread on your toast. These mugs are for couples who are so in love and have a wedding coming up, so they can have breakfast happily ever after.
White porcelain mug. Microwave and dishwasher proof.
Mug capacity: 30 cl.


This site is a disaster horrible sloppy mess weird grouping waste of space collection of things with stuff. If you’re looking for clowns who can make balloon animals or monkeys wearing fez caps and little vests… well, you might have better luck checking something like Tinder or heading to the circus. I make no guarantees there is anything here that is worthwhile for you, but you may be amused by some of what you find.
What if we could see, with great tenderness, the painful unmet needs that have shaped our behaviors?
Relationships are the most rewarding and sometimes challenging aspect of this life. Falling in love requires putting your soul in your partner’s hand for safekeeping.True love, in the evolutionary sense, means peace of mind…
“Perhaps all the dragons of our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us once beautiful and brave.”
– Rainer Maria Rilke
5 Principles of Effective Communication
- Wear your heart on your sleeve. Emotional bravery.
- Focus on your needs, not on partner’s shortcomings.
- Be specific.
- Don’t blame – no judgment, anger, or accusations
- Be assertive and non apologetic
3 Main Attachment Styles in Relationships:
- Feels comfortable with intimacy
- Craves intimacy
- Preoccupied with relationships
- Worries about partner’s ability to love them back
- Equates intimacy with loss of independence
- Constantly tries to minimize closeness
Distancing, and all of us do it to limit our intimacy with others when we don’t want to be close, but for the aviodant it’s a tool used on the most important people in their lives.
List of distancing behaviors (also called deactivating strategies):
- Saying (or thinking) “I’m not ready to commit” but staying together.
- Focusing on small imperfections in your partner – the way s/ he talks, dresses, or eats, and allowing it to get in the way of romantic feelings.
- Pining after an ex-girlfriend/ boyfriend – the “phantom ex.”
- Flirting with others – a hurtful way to introduce insecurity into the relationship.
- Not saying “I love you” while implying that you do.
- Pulling away when things are going well – not calling for several days after an intimate date.
- Forming relationships with an impossible future, such as, with someone who is married.
- “Checking out mentally” when your partner is talking.
- Keeping secrets and leaving things foggy to maintain feeling of independence.
- Avoiding physical closeness – not wanting to share the same bed, not wanting to have sex.
An inability to name and talk about feelings cripples a person’s ability to be consciously aware of them. If you are very poor at doing this, you tend to note feelings only as manifested in somatic symptoms like fast heart rate, discomfort, loss of energy, nervousness, etc. This is why talking to someone about how you feel (or writing about it) is also training for being conscious of feelings internally. The more you talk about it to others, the more you can talk about it to yourself.
“An honorable human relationship, that is, one in which two people have the right to use the word love, is a process of deepening the truths they can tell each other. It is important to do this because it breaks down human self-delusion and isolation.”
– Adrienne Rich


I’ve read all sorts of nonsenses about Venus in a bad aspect to Pluto (mostly squares and oppositions, although conjunctions can be tricky too) but the most ludacris one that actually inspired me to write down this post (yes, I am “the proud owner of THE square” too) is the theory about “love curse”.
Well, is it? Somehow it puts you on the display (of course, everything dependes on the rest of the chart, but some things are likely to manifest in every chart with that aspect) of fatal love. Why fatal? Sometimes it seems it drops out of nowhere and suddenly awakes your worst parts: jealousy, possesivness, unrequited love, triangles, dispair…most of those affairs feel very fated and unavoidable. You may get the feeling you’re stucked, you may even feel like you forgot all the spiritual lessions, it’s like being pulled back to the beginning. You know you shouldn’t go for it, you know it’s draining both you and the other person, it’s bad, it’s a rock bottom but somehow you just can’t help it. You’re drawn to that person like a moth to the flame. And I’m not talking about one or two stories. I’m talking about dozens of them. Yes, dozens. Throughout various stages of life.
The most important thing is to try to be non-judgmental to yourself (all that sudden jelaousy and possesivness over your partner might make you desperate and asking yourself over and over again “What on Earth have I become? This is not who I am…”) Like an invisible cord you’re pulled over and over again. How to deal with it?
Well, I have no idea :) I just have some clues that can be useful…except that whole non-judgmental idea, I think you should make peace with the fact that some deeply rooted problems in your pysche will be revealed and you’ll have a chance to learn, grow and “clean that subconciouss mess”.
Let me be more concrete on this topic…
-karma. Piles of love karma :) issues that need to be resolved are mostly based around jelaousy and possesivness
-when you get really jelaous you actually believe in that nasty “program” that tells you no one can really love you and your relationships with partners are doomed to failure. Work on it. Ask yourself: “How did I ‘install’ that in my mind? How can I change it?”
-where is this coming from? That basic untrust?What it the root cause of it? Check your moon placement and its aspects to get a clearer picture. Also, check your South Node. Any planet conjuncting it might be helpful (I have Pluto conjunct my South node. I am aware of the lossess and grievs I had to be put through and will ’till the rest of my life)
-power plays. That’s huge with Venus square Pluto. Somehow you always end up in fighting. But let go that “I loved you so, now I hate you so” crap. Some astrologers claim this aspect can bring pyschical violence, but I think it’s extreme and not apliable to all charts.Again, the Moon will tell you the more concrete story. But try not to be bitter and hateful towards others. This might sound wierd, but some mild version of SM sex might help in a relationship.If you have two passionate partners and a lot of Venus/Pluto stories (both in individual charts and synastry and composite and Davison) sex that includes power plays and roleplaying might help to let out the steam. If you’re into that kind of stuff, of course.
-unreqited love. Triangles. Not being able to let go in a looong time (by looong time I don’t mean a year or two, I’m talking about years, sometimes even decades)
MY own private hell or Venus/Pluto love story
(The Guy had his natal Venus in trine with Pluto and in opposition to Moon. My natal Venus is squaring the Pluto. In our synastry chart we had his Venus squaring my Pluto. Yes, I was “the mad” Pluto person. Read the story, it has a stunning ending)
I met The Guy in a poetry festival I organized. He came from other state to be our guest since he published the poetry antology book we were promoting. He was 18 years older then me, married with two children. He owns a small, underground publishing house. When we met, there were no sparkles, no “fatal” feelings, nothing. He just mentioned he was reading my blog and poetry and that he wants to publish my book. I was very happy. Time moved on, he published the book and we saw each other on various book promotions etc. Nothing ever happened. I actually saw him as a father figure. Not someone very close, but nice, deep and someone I could talk on and on and on.
Three years later he got divorced. Nothing happened untill this summer when he came to my city for the Pogues’ concert. We ended up together and I was overwhelmed and in denial. I started to feel something but it changed me completley. I always thought of him as “my publisher” with whom I discuss poetry, drink beers and babble on and on. Not someone I could intimetly be involved with. He got back home (in another state), we wrote each other messages on regular bases and one thing led to another and I found myself in a long-distance relationship with my 18 years older, divorced publisher. Every single thing inside me said “Stop doing it. You’re gonna get yourself hurt” but of course, it was fated. Could I reacte differently? Yes. Was I able to avoid it? Yes. Did I ended up torned and wounded? I did. And you know, somehow, it’s worth it. I really learned a lot about myself.
Couple weeks after the first “bliss” and beautiful moments, my jelaousy came in. I was extremley jelaous of his female friend whom he knew for 20 years. To cut the long story short, I left him four times because I had a serious doubt he’s in love with her, not with me, and that I will end up hurted again. I would come back every once in a while to him, he would make me believe everything was okay and that I was just paranoid, insecure, possesive girl (yes, those were the exact words he said)…okay, I may be all that, but I just felt her as a huge threath to our relationship. Plus, they were living in the same city, while I was able to see my love only once a month, the rest of the time we would be texting and that was it.
The last time I saw him I left him for good. I told him I can’t put up with him and her, I even met her and then I realized she was the love of his life.He never cheated but I felt it all over the place.
Couple days later we started to email again and the Guy asked me to move in with him and forget all that crap. He even said: “I’ll forgive you your hysterical jelaousy mania”. Yes, those were his words. I was kind of ready to match things up because….I don’t know…I really felt that he loves me although I could feel the constant emotional threath from his female friend. I was in love. I was naive. I didn’t know better. And yes, the sad truth is he convinced me to believe I was paranoid and insecure and I shut off my intuition and inner alarms and believed that I was just the worst version of me. Blame, manipulation, fights, power, passion, those were the basics of our relationship.
So after a week or so of “patching” things up and making plans for the next month when I was supposed to move in his place (yes, leave my house, my country, my life and just walk away and start a new life with him. I was ready to do that) he stopped writing, calling, everything. I’ve send him couple e-mails but nothing happened.
And then…BOOM!My own worst fear…another friend who also knew the Guy told me he ended up with that friend I left him for four times….he told me they’re in a relationship and happy and blah blah. I was devasted but not surprised. I’ve send him one last e-mail and closed that chapter hurted. He answered couple weeks later claiming he’s sorry for hurting me so bad (?) and that he didn’t want me to find that out from the third person.
He deleted his Facebook accounts, he moved in at her place 15 days after we broke up, he disappeared and we have no contact at all. I’m grateful for that. I don’t want to see him, hear him, ever again. I’ve lost my publisher, my friend, my lover and four months later he’s still in a relationship with her, probably happy.
I’m single (I tried to have a new relationship, but as mentioned before, we, the Venus/Pluto square people have a really HARD TIME LETTING GO PEOPLE).
But it’s okay. I’ve learned so much and thank God (ess) there’s astrology, poetry and life as it is to find my relief.
Did I let him go? Not yet. But soon.
Am I angry? A little bit.
Do I hate him?
No, that’s the worst part. I still love him. Although I don’t want to see him or contact him ever again, I still love him. I can’t just switch from love to hate, no matter what. And I can’t let go.
So, guys, if you have a similar story related to Venus Pluto square, I would love to hear it.
This has been very cathartic for a first post!Wow…and there are many more to go…


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Valentine’s Day, a day filled with flowers, chocolates, and romance, is just around the corner! However, some of you single ladies (and gentlemen) dread this so-called “Single Awareness Day” because it brings attention to your lack of having a significant other. But who said that being single meant being alone? Valentine’s Day is the day of love, so why not share the love for your family and friends? Go out and buy your mother a box of chocolates. Create mini valentine cards/gifts for your best girlfriends. And my personal favorite, have a group gathering with your friends to celebrate your love for one another!
Here’s a cute and simple gift tutorial for DIY Vintage Teacup Candles. These will surely put a smile on someone’s face!


Sure – weddings are amazing…but the reason we do it is because being married is awesome!
But being married? Ah, that’s where the fun really begins. Why do you thing people all over the world are fighting so hard for marriage equality? It’s because marriage is one of the greatest journeys you’ll go on in your entire life.
Yes, sometimes it will be hard. You’ll get sick of washing his underwear. He might begin to detest the way you chew. Sometimes you’ll just want to scream in each other’s faces. But when the anger and frustration have come and gone, the pay-off is pretty immense.
Here are our top 18 reasons why being married is awesome.
1. When you’re sick there’s someone to look after you. In sickness and in health, remember?
2. You can be as weird as you like and your partner won’t mind.
3. You have someone to have sex with forever! Yay!
4. You have a date for everything.
5. You have someone to catch spiders/open jars/lift heavy things/do all the jobs you don’t want to do.
6. You get to spend every day with your best friend. AND have a the most fun sleep over party every night.
7. You don’t have to go to bed alone. And there’s someone to snuggle you.
8. You don’t have to make difficult decisions alone.
9. You no longer have to make awkward small talk to try and get away from men chatting you up in bars. One flash of your wedding ring: with a ‘sorry, I’m married’ will act as a forcefield.
10. You have someone to blame when things go missing. “Where did you put my…. Never mind.”
11. You don’t have to dress up all the time. Sweatpants are ay-ok from every now and again.
12. You have a second opinion on everything.
13. Being able to call someone your husband/wife is pretty cool.
14. You have someone to share all the special moments with.
15. You have someone who will try and make you laugh even if you don’t feel like you can.
16. You have someone who actually believes in you and wants to motivate you.
17. You don’t have to be embarrassed about farting. Or burpring, or shaving your legs etc etc
18. It ain’t too shabby being with someone who thinks you’re the most attractive person in the world, and the one they want to spend their entire lives with.
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gisela. 19. mexico. out of shape with messy hair.
i wasn’t at school so my best friend posted on my facebook wall “i kind of missed you today” so i asked what she meant by “kind of”
and she answered ”yeah, i’m not sure about my feelings for you, you’re always pissing me off”


So you were set up on a blind date by your friend, and she looks like she went a few rounds with the ugly stick. You don’t want to be rude and just not show up, that’s not good for your reputation. You also don’t want to offend your friend (unless he did this as a prank). So what do you do? You want to be a total gentleman but you want to end the date as quick as possible, so here I present a few tips on how to ruin your first date so she doesn’t even want you to call.
Show up with no plan of action and act like you don’t care. A lot of women like to be chased, so it’s usually up to the man to know what he wants to do for the date, because usually he’s the one asking. Blind dates are a bit harder because chances are some things are already set up by the friends. You can still pretend not to know what to do. A wishy-washy guy will make a woman feel like he didn’t really want to go on the date in the first place or that he has a self-confidence problem.
Don’t show up dressed up. While I would recommend showering because of other people in the vicinity, don’t be particularly worried about grooming. Dress casual, especially if it’s a classy place where normally you would show up a bit dressed up. Wear a hat before the date when you first hear about it. That way by the evening you’ll have that dreaded hat hair.
Be ‘fashionably late’. That is not too late so that she thinks you stood her up, but late enough to let her know that you have better things to do. On a good first date you would probably show up on time and maybe a little earlier, sort of like a good interview. In fact maybe you should read “How to Fail an Interview” to give you a good idea on what to do on a first date.
Don’t compliment her at all. If you do then she feels good about herself and possibly wants to continue to date you. You don’t want to send her mixed signals, although maybe in some cases mixed signals might ruin the first date, but it’s probably better just to not do it at all. Also don’t open doors for her or pull out her chair for her, this is old fashioned chivalry which might get you a second date and you don’t want that.
Don’t have anything to say. First dates are usually to get to know someone, and usually this is done by talking. If you don’t have anything to say then the date will feel like you guys have nothing in common since you’re not conversing about anything. Inversely she may feel that you have too much in common and that you don’t have opposing view points if you don’t say anything. Remember opposites attract, so the more you are similar to her in viewpoints, the less opposite she may feel and would rather not have another date with you.
Go to the movies. Especially guy ones, like action movies with little-to-no romance. If you’re watching the movie chances are you won’t be talking to your date. It’s a rather pleasurable way to spend a date you don’t want to be on, because you don’t even have to look at your date, just enjoy the show.
While I don’t advise making her pay, that would just be rude (unless you’re trying to be rude, in which case read my article about being rude to people). Instead just say you only have enough money for yourself and would she mind going ‘Dutch’. This way you won’t look like a total jerk, you don’t endear your date to you, and you don’t have to pay for the whole date! It’s a win/win scenario, except not to her.
When you walk her to the door, kiss her, and then ask if you can come in. Make her feel as though that’s really all you were on the date for is to get invited in, so she thinks you’re a sleaze. You definitely won’t be getting that second date now!
Don’t call her after the date, perhaps she’ll take the hint if she hasn’t already!
If you follow these tips, you’re sure to ruin your first date.


The stages of life divide the life of a person. I have gone through childhood, puberty, adolescence and now daresay I am on the brink of adulthood. I met many people, some of whom I liked, some of whom I hated, some of whom I loved, some of whom I forgot about. The love I gave and received fluctuated between stages and between people. Each stage I went through had its particular lows and highs, with all of them being very different from each other. There was only one constant during these stages. The unlimited love from my mother.
I am blessed with a particularly awesome mother. The first picture below shows this. My parents were in London for the weekend and this was early Sunday morning. We decided to meet up at St. Paul’s close to noon, but I couldn’t find my parents when I arrived there. They were standing a bit further away and my mom decided to sneak up on me while my dad was taking pictures. Even though the picture is not fully clear, the subconscious love and unbounded happiness of seeing each other is very visible.
The other picture was taken a few moments later, when we were drinking a coffee in a place close to St. Paul’s Cathedral. The chairs made us think we were in church, so we decided to mock God right in front of St. Paul’s and pretend as if we were confessing sins.
Mom, you are invaluable in many ways. Your advice is often spot on, even though it often takes me a long time to realise and admit. You are invariably hard-working and care like nothing else about me and my brother’s happiness. The little things you do for your children are taken for granted too often, but I want you to know that deep inside, both my brother and I know what you sacrifice for us. We both deeply love you for doing so. You are one of a kind, and I am proud of who you are, exemplary in my life. Happy birthday mom, I know I am too far away right now, but do know that I’m thinking of you.


Wat i've did? Wat happened recently? Wat's wrong with that? Why should i cry for you guys? The best friends that i've treated with my real heart,why they treat me so badly? I've gave you guys my sincere and true heart. I'm so tired. Why i can't get any relationship as in friends or boyfriend? Why can you guys be so cruel to me? How do you feel if you were in my shoe? Terated me as if i'm not a human at all. Do you guys actually treat me as your friend?


The global Partner Relationship Management Solution Market provides software tools to help companies manage their channel partner relationships and programs. PRM solutions automate processes involved in partner recruitment, enablement, onboarding, program creation and launch, sales and marketing development, sales incentive administration, performance tracking, communication tools and partner support. Key capabilities include partner profiling, deal registration, marketing campaign management, sales performance tracking, payments and incentives,document vaults and portals.
The global Partner Relationship Management Solution Market is estimated to be valued at US$ 17760.06 Mn in 2023 and is expected to exhibit a CAGR of 18% over the forecast period 2023 to 2030, as highlighted in a new report published by Coherent Market Insights.
One major driver for the growth of the Partner Relationship Management Solution Market is the growing need for automation in channel management across industries. PRM solutions help automate many repetitivetasks involved in managing indirect channel partnerships. This allows channel managers to focus more on strategic priorities like partner engagement and business development. By digitizing processes like deal registration, sales performance tracking and incentive payments, PRM solutions help optimize the partner lifecycle and boost partner profitability. In addition, they provide real-time visibility into partner activities and performance metrics to foster collaboration. Their mobile-enabled features also facilitate an omnichannel experience for partners.
Content: The global partner relationship management solution market is dominated by the customer relationship management (CRM) sub-segment. CRM segment holds around 60% of the total market share owing to its various benefits such as centralized platform for managing leads and customers, streamlined communication and collaboration between businesses and their partners, automated process for activities like lead distribution and deal registration. Other emerging sub-segments include partner management, sales management, and marketing management but CRM remains the leading sub-segment.
Political: The market is positively influenced by various government initiatives promoting partnership between organizations. However, data localization laws and regulations pose challenges to multinational corporations for cross-border data sharing with partners.
Economic: Growing B2B partnerships along with need to streamline collaboration between stakeholders is driving demand. However, economic slowdowns could impact technology spending of businesses.
Social: Changing social behaviors are compelling companies to increasingly rely on third-party partners to reach consumers. Technologies facilitating efficient partner engagement are gaining traction.
Technological: Advancements in cloud, AI, and analytics are enhancing the capabilities of partner relationship management solutions. Platforms are becoming more personalized, predictive, and automated. However, data security concerns limit wider technology adoption.
The Global Partner Relationship Management Solution Market Growth is expected to witness high during the forecast period of 2023 to 2030. The global Partner Relationship Management Solution Market is estimated to be valued at US$ 17760.06 Mn in 2023 and is expected to exhibit a CAGR of 18% over the forecast period 2023 to 2030.
North America dominates currently with a share of over 35% due to extensive technology adoption by enterprises. Asia Pacific is expected to grow at the fastest pace led by countries like China and India adopting these solutions to manage rising number of partners and collaboration needs.
Key players operating in the partner relationship management solution market are Salesforce.com, Inc., LogicBay Corporation, Oracle Corporation, Allbound Inc., International Business Machines Corp, Impartner Software, ZINFI Technologies, Inc., Zyme Solutions, PartnerPath, Blackhawk Engagement Solutions, Inc., The Planet Group, Allbound Inc., and Channeltivity, LLC. Salesforce.com maintains its leadership position owing to its comprehensive and highly customizable platform for partner relationship management.
1. Source: Coherent Market Insights, Public sources, Desk research
2. We have leveraged AI tools to mine information and compile it


We were chuffed to welcome Annie Lavin aka The Relationship Coach to the podcast. When it comes to navigating relationships and dating, Annie seriously knows her shit. She's a relationship skills educator, dating expert and pyschology lecturer. We gathered up some of the most common relationship and dating questions asked by our listeners and discussed them in this episode.
For more information or to work with Annie, visit www.therelationshipcoach.ie or follow her on Instagram at @therelationshipcoach.ie


All kind of relationships has their challenges. When it comes to a marital or romantic relationship, it becomes more challenging to deal with. It takes a lot to build a healthy and sustainable relationship with your partner. This blog post is for you if, you are struggling in your relationship irrespective of the fact, that it is new or you both have been together for years.
Is Love Enough For A Relationship To Sustain?
What makes two individuals come together, to live together, and to share a life? Well, the answer would be LOVE as we all have grown up watching romantic movies, and the most common dialogue we have been heard a lot of time, “your love is enough to me, for the rest of my life”.
But, is love really enough for the couple to spend their whole life together? definitely not, it is like you are making a recipe with only one ingredient. how it would taste like? you can imagine!
What Make a Relationship Healthy?
In every relationship, people come closer for different reasons, such as love, care, affection, emotional dependence, etc. Interestingly, there is no manual book available to tell you about the expiry date or any other instructions, how to deal with every situation you will come across in the future.
A relationship is built and grows with time, it’s not like once you get into it will never end. No, you will have to nurture it, water it, and protect it in any circumstances, and it is a constant process where both partners should put equal effort to make their bond happier, healthier, stronger, and sustainable.
You can find a hundred ways to stay connected. Here are sharing some tips that can help you to keep your relationship healthy:
1. Communication is The Key
- Communication is the fundamental key of any relationship, It makes you feel more connected and happy. When people stop communicating, they start assuming and from there the misunderstanding starts. In a healthy relationship, it is most important to talk to each other, to express well to avoid any confusion.
- Be attentive & listen carefully, for healthy communication listening is also equally important. It makes the other person a sense of understood and helps to build a stronger connection. So next time, when your partner, discuss anything with you, try to listen not just hear.
2. Build A Bond of Trust
- Trust is like the oxygen of any relationship, It is a basic foundation that needs to be strong enough to survive any condition. A sense of trust and to be trusted gives you and the other person security. You can not imagine a relationship without trust.
- Again, trust is built and grows with time, It is the responsibility of both the partner to keep their promises and word. make sure that, there should not be any difference in words and deeds.
3. Make a Routine Together and Follow It
- It may be sound simple, but it is a very effective way to make your bond stronger.
- In today’s fast forward life, it is very crucial to keep one thing unchanged and certain. it gives you inner peace, self-care is extremely essential.
- When you follow a set routine every day. You both will find more connected and you will never be short of time to discuss or communicate if you both are following a set routine.
4. Make Memories Together And Cherish Them
- Initially, all the couples are more into love, spent hours just chatting, find ways to surprise each other, celebrate little things. However as time goes by, we are stuck in family responsibilities, work pressure and other commitments.
- Life is like this, we will never get free time, we will have to grab time in the busy schedule. Make a habit to spend some quality time together on a regular basis and make sure that it is a gadget-free time,
- Plan a vacation at least once a year, try new things that you both enjoy doing together.
5. Stay Connected
- In today’s digital era, it is very easy to connect with the rest of the world including your partner. There must be a lot of messages that have been exchanged between both of you, about groceries, vegetables, parent’s meeting reminders and endless topics.
- Did you remember, when you last texted a sweet, romantic message/mail to your partner? this little act can make your day shinier for both of you.
6. Take It Easy, Show Some Patience
- Every person is unique, different people react to every situation differently. Do not judge your partner, have some patience, give some space and time to the other person and talk politely if you have some concerns.
7. Appreciation and Gratitude
- Thankfulness might be a key to a healthy relationship, it is important to show each other, how much you values the other person.
- Acknowledge the small efforts he/she is putting in to make the relationship work, your partner will feel appreciated and more valued.
8. Give A Space To Each Other
- A healthy relationship means when two people live together, sharing their emotions without any hesitation, setting their goals together, giving and respecting each other space selflessly.
9. Respectfully Sort Out The Conflicts
- Conflicts and clashes are inevitable in any relationship, healthy conflicts, strengthen the relationship. Don’t make the win is your ultimate goal, It doesn’t mean that you should compromise with your self-respect but don’t drag a year old argument in the current situation.
- Everyone knows when to talk but learning when to stop, is important. Sometimes it is wise to let something go and not to stretch fight unnecessary just to prove your point
10. Honesty Is The Best Policy
- Being honest with your partner is key for a healthy relationship to thrive.
- Always stand on the truth, each lie dilutes your bond with your partner.
- Remember, action speaks louder than words, make sure your actions match your words.
11. Maintain Equality
- Equality is something extremely crucial for a healthy relationship, treat your relationship like a partnership, where both the partners are equally treated.
- Equality can be defined in many ways, For instance:
- Decision making
- Household chores
To conclude, I would add, for a healthy relationship always remember that no one is perfect. Accept your partner with his/her mistakes. End of the day what is important is compatibility and that develops with time and trust.
What would happen is not in our hands, but how we respond that matters. So keep rooting your relationship with love, respect, care, and endless support. It is a lifelong learning process. Don’t forget, every cloud has a silver lining.


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So thankful for all of the people that really helped my birthday feel special! I had a great day with lots of family and friends! Thank you @kendallbrooke, my mom, and my future mother-in-law for surprising me. And a special thanks to this guy for surprising me even more!
Not paying bills
daisy meeting her new sister for the first time…. I think she likes her
THIS MAKES ME SO HAPPY
THE DOGS ON THIS WEBSITE ARE KILLING ME AND I’M SO GLAD ABOUT IT.