It seems all around me long-term relationships, marriages and families are, or have, or continue to blow up. From posts in the blogging world to my friends and acquaintances and even in my own personal experience, there seems to be so much crap and residual crap floating around. It has all definitely changed my traditional views on marriage, family and relationship longevity over the years.
For context, my parents are still together after 50+ years of marriage. I have four siblings and out of the five of us, four have gotten married and three divorced. I’m one of the divorced sets and have two kids. Same with one of my sisters.
I’m sure I was in love with my husband as much as anyone can be sure of what love actually is. I’m quite certain that he was in love with me, too. At some point he stopped loving me and at some point, after he made that abundantly clear, I eventually stopped loving him. All the emotions that follow the shock and trauma of being suddenly and sloppily un-loved surfaced, and still the residual crap tends to haunt me from time to time.
I think that one of the inherent problems with falling out of love is not the fact of itself that it happens, it’s that people rarely fall out of love simultaneously. Way more often than not it seems to happen that one partner has checked out, possibly moved on, and the other flounders in the crushing tidal waves of emotion, agitated further by the abrupt removal of the object of this huge emotion known as intimate love. And so, love abandoned seems to turn in on itself, mocking the body and soul in which it is housed, ensuring a slow and painful death until it is willingly cast away, because to hold it becomes more painful than letting go. Trusting love again becomes an uphill battle.
I can’t help but wonder how much more humane parting of ways would be if we could, as couples, synchronize our love/un-love watches. Although rare, I have seen couples meet these time frames at roughly the same points together. The result is intriguing, encouraging even, resembling a friendly pat on the back with genuine respect intact. Where children are involved, they are transitioned into a new dynamic, but not one fraught with fear, distrust and bitterness. They do not become the default benefactors of emotions so huge that they are inevitably unleashed, and violently clash between those couples who find themselves at such extremes of the love – un-love spectrum.
I want my daughters to experience love, companionship, long-term relationships and family. What I don’t want is for them to have to experience guilt, low self-esteem, fear of loving again or any other number of negative outcomes the one-sided end of an intense intimate loving relationship can bring. I also don’t want them to be careless with a partner if it is one of my daughters who has fallen out of love and ends the relationship. I want to prepare them so that they don’t avoid love or commitment (because these are wonderful things) but for the reality that things can change and that they know how to act and respond in a way that doesn’t end with either partner being permanently wounded.
I suppose my pondering leads to the fantastical question: Is it possible and desirable that couples when engaging in loving relationships, acknowledge that one day love may dwindle for one, and promise each other that each will call on the foundation of their original love to see each other compassionately through to the other side of un-love?
This musing is brought to you by the grey, dark, cold month of February.


Gabby Barrett - I Hope (lyrics)
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I hope.June 12,2019
I heard this on Sirius XM first and had to find it again. So good
Love this song ❤
Says it all !
If you don’t scream this song at the top of your lungs you’re doing it wrong
Love this song
And I sent it... Lol thanks for the lyric video.
Brooo this song is fireeeeee????????????????????????
*you just ain't him.
I hope, August 13th 2019
Love love love this song want it for to ring back tone
I love this song!! Such an Anthem!!!! I relate to this song so much!!! Because karma hit my ex he cheated on me with his now recent ex they broke up because she cheated on him, karma is a bitch!!! Song is so perfect!!!! ❤???? It is so relatable!!!!!! Xoxo I'm better fir what happened blessing in disguise because I'm more independent!!!
,...... you will have a-good day
My ex fiance cheated on me for a full two months after he proposed didn't tell me until right before he broke up with me which was less than 2 weeks after my dog died and then proceeded to tell me he didn't break up with me to be with her when I know that's not true so I honestly hope that after he leaves for basic training next week that she cheats on him and breaks his heart like he did to me.
ok i was into the song until "i hope she cheats like you did on me"....lol
Lmao ex sent me this song although she is the one who cheated now im happy and she is salty as fuck bahahahahah
this song is the greatest song ever i cant stop listening to this ever scents what my ex did to me i cant stop thinking about him and what he did to me this song cheers me up when i see him he makes me so sad and angry we cant look at each other or even talk now bcs of him i think every boy who cheats or anything needs to listen to this song so they can feel our pain bcs how we love them but so how they dont but the actually do but wont show or tell us!!!
I absolutely love this song and yes, I do scream at the top of my lungs when I hear it. I also think about my EX because he cheated on me with HIS ex girlfriend that cheated on him. Karma does happen and I'm just waiting for it to come around.
I actually got to meet Gabby in person! Me and my uncle put together a show for her at a small park when she was still on the path of discovery :) Very sweet girl, I wish her the best! She has a gift!
Lmao my stupid boyfriend thought I wouldn't find out that he was making plans with other girls and that he wanted to go out and see them when he had plans with me. Staying in my house, eating my food, me loving him, doing everything for him and then he just acts stupid.
Ok just an opinion but doesn't she sound a little bit like Miley Cyrus
my ex boyfriend cheated on me 4 times in 11 months. then when i was physically sick seeing him, suicidal, he made fun of me to his online girlfriend. then when he exhausted his options here, he left, left his son, and moved 2,000 miles away.
I love this song so much ❤❤❤❤❤????????
A song has never hit so hard????
Love this song sounds like me and my ex
Omg me to my ex ????????
Man I love this mine has a bittersweet ending...he was a constant cheater. I finally had enough kicked his sorry behind out.. within a year they had a kid, lost it and she was cheating while he was out of state and the girl ended up dying from a drug overdose...he left stability and a drug free home to end up with a junkie that cheated...sorry not sorry about everything that happened
I absolutely love this song no doubt .......... but my mom cheated on my dad and now I want to sing this for my dad because HE GOT CHEATED ON BY MOM
the 107 people that dislike this song you are dumb
don't feel bad i call everyone dumb
Love this song yea the girls!!!!!
I hope every guy knows how much it ruins a girl to be cheated on because it ruins us inside and out
This one's for you
This song i love because it descibes how i feel about my ex and he did cheat
I was in a relationship with my ex for 4 years, had a house remodeled some of the rooms together, and had got a couple dogs together. Within the 4 years. And last thanksgiving in 2018 I was trying to cut soybeans in the field and she messaged me and said she was leaving me. Found out a week later she had been talking to another guy for weeks and then she came back left again and was talking to someone yet again. And the third time when she came back I said we need to take it slow and she came and stayed the night and found out she was messaging a guy and with that person the weekend after she came back the third time. I was done and so disrespected. I finally said I’m done. And forgot to mention was engaged to married and the wedding should was sept of 2019. But the best thing I have is God with me through it all to keep my head up and move forward
This song is very good and i love it leave a like if u like it and if it is very good
Crazy and sad how a lot of people relate. Good ass song ????
One THING RIGHT...
I sent this song to my ex after he cheated on me
She said she was surprised to right a song where the girl gets treated wrong and wishes the guy well......she did great
Even know I’m married and so happy I still love this song
Tell me she doesn’t sound like miley cyrus and carrie underwood mixed together
i feel like this is the modern day before he cheats a
my ex-boyfriend cheated on me and then left me just feel like I'm falling.....you know?....
This song hits my soul so hard.
Lyndsey Does Gymnastics
I swear she sounds like miley cyrus and demi Lovato
"a 2 am pic from her friend hanging on a guy and you just ain't him"
I love this song
My favorite song ever! ❤
I love this song
This song is so petty I love it lol
I hope she makes you feel the same way about her that I feel about you right now ????????
This is the best song to listen to when you get cheated on
Omg love it
Anne Kathryn Haggod
Love this this is vibes
I love that so much
I haven’t been cheated on but I sing this song like I have ????
In a whole relationship blastin this shit like I'm broken lol
Street Dman 215
may not have won American idol but she got her song on XTU
I hope you spend your last dime to put a rock on her hand ????????
Something you couldn't never do for me two children later
I just want to know what guy hurt her so deep. This song is spiteful.
Unbelievably powerful song
I love this song she is a great singer
Absolutely LOVE this song!! Very powerful and how we feel when you get hurt by that person you trusted..????
I hope she cheats like you did on ME!!!! I hope she makes you happy ????
That took an unexpected turn...
This song is just *absolutely vicious* ! so good!
i love this song my fav ever
I have been cheated on
The last boyfriend, was kind of distant one day, I asked him about it and he said, "I'm so sorry, I never want to make you feel that way, I love you," and a bunch of other stuff. Well he texted me later that day "I just don't like you, sorry I never really did." I called my 'Best Friend' to tell her about it, but she already knew. Now they have been dating for about 5 or 6 months.
So I have been friends with this dude for years .. talked on and off we dated for a little bit online .. he cheated and started dating my other friends gf.. so they both cheated and we found out they had cheated and we’re leaving for each other while my other friends and I were on call she went around social media bragging how we were salty and how she stole him from a “dumb bitch “ .. whatever sis .. fast forward a year or so he unblocked me and we would talk when he was having problems with her by this time they were engaged .. she ended up cheating with his best man before the wedding they broke it off he left ... fast forward a few years and a few horrible relationships later .. he’s with this other chick ... started talking to me again talking about how he isn’t happy with her how she’s vanilla this that and the other talking about how he wants to leave .. all while texting and being on call with me almost 24/7 for 4 months talking about how he’s falling for me he’s gonna leave her to be with me wanted to come see me around Christmas ect ect .. well he starts acting weird then ghosts for like a week after messaging me freaking out .. so I’m worried after a week or so he messages me he is only back with her for this this this and this he wants to be with me still loves me ect ect ... long story short after that line of bs getting me in my feels and having me let all my walls down again .. he ghosted I’m blocked and he’s now engaged to the chick he couldn’t stand XD... I still have all the messages but I’m not gonna be petty and send them to her like I want too ... but u bet ur sweet ass I’m waiting on karma ????????
Love this song but she tall s my story
my friend sent me this song and i now love it
Legit thought it was Miley Cyrus at first lol
???????? I hope she cheats!!!!
Anyone who is here because of someone that did you wrong, just know there are seven billion people in this world, there is bound to be a few toads but don't let what they did change the view of yourself. You are an amazing, hand crafted person who deserves the best from anyone and a cheater is not the best of anybody.
Cheating is a horrible thing no matter who does it. Anyone who does it deserves to have it done to them by someone they love as much as the person they cheated on before loved them.
If y’all want some cheating stories from some strong ass people, scroll down❤
this song is so inspiring to girl everywhere
Today my parents and I were in the car and this song came on and I was in the backseat and I look up in the mirror and my step-dad is looking at me with a huge smile on his face because I was singing this song.
When I first heard this song I thought it was Miley Cyrus ????????????????
I just found out for 5 years I have been being cheated on so thank u for this song
A girl doesnt forget the first time a guy cheats on her it makes her think about her feelings bout every guy shes with ????
Rainy Day Sweetheart
My ex cheated after 3 years of us being happily together. He had even started telling my parents and his that he wanted to propose to me...Found that out after he left. This song and God helped.
“I hope you spend your last dime to put a rock on her hand!”
Am I the only one who listened to this on repeat for 2.5 hours?
same i do to its my favorite
“I hope you both feel sparks by the end of the drive. I hope you know she’s the one by the end of the night. I hope you never ever felt more free, tell your friends that your so happy.” Yo it got me!!!!
I hope she makes you feel the same way about her that I feel about you right now!
13 never dated anyone but love this song, it's amazing how that works......... ????????
Thought this was Miley Cyrus☠
This song touches my soul!! My ex husband ran out on me and our two kids after 16 years for some woman he knew for a week. Broke my heart and soul, but they did me a favor cause I'm better than ever now
I was with my ex fiancé for 2 years he cheated the whole time and I didn't know... While we where living together his mom moved in with us because she needed a place. I was paying for every single thing! I was working at Wendy's making 8.40 an hour ???? he was make 11.50 and his mom drawling social security because she's lazy! Them not paying anything! Come to find out once he broke up with me and I had to move back home out of state that night my "best friend" slept with him... Now they're together. But I know he's getting played???? kenneth McIntosh if you happen to find this and read it I want my shit back! And tell your mom to go fuck herself for all the pain and depression she put me threw and I want my fucking cat too! ☺


Hitting “connect” online is so much easier than connecting in real life. That’s why you probably get 10 likes on every Instagram photo, but only have 1 or 2 friends who will actually make plans with you. You’re not alone.
Learning how to find friends in this culture of fake and digital connections is tricky! But you need friends- the kind who meet up in person and are willing to do real-life, real-time stuff.
We’ve got some tips for you to help you find real friends:
How to Find Real Friends
Tip #1: Know Why Real Friendship Matters
It’s not that connecting with people online isn’t friendship- it’s just not the same as living life together in person! The benefits of in-person friendships include:
- Better physical and emotional health
- Reduced mortality risk
- Practice socializing
- Less social isolation
- Deeper connections
- Longer-lasting relationships
- Greater self-confidence
Tip #2: Recognize What a Real Friendship Is
Being a real friend to someone requires more than just clicking keys and tagging photos. Real friendships are about growing together. They involve getting to know each other, sharing goals, cheering each other on, and being there through hard times too.
You’ll know if a friendship is real if:
- You actually spend time together
- You find your life is richer shared
- You like yourself better when you’re with them
- You don’t think about your phone or social media when you’re hanging out
- You can share reality-checks with each other
- You know you can call them if something is wrong
Tip #3: Get Out in the Real World
Sometimes real life friends are found using social media, but usually, you have to get out among people to make in-person friends. If you have trouble finding the time to get out, try setting limits on your screen time!
Here’s how to find friends in real life:
- Take a class at a community center
- Join a small group at Gold’s gym
- Try new activities that are social, like HIIT
- Chat with people you encounter everywhere
- Ask coworkers you enjoy to hang out
- Take the time to listen to people at parties
- Reach out to old acquaintances
- Be friendly with your neighbors
Tip #4: Put Effort Into Connecting Regularly
Showing up at a class once probably won’t result in a real friendship. Making friends takes effort. You need to interact regularly. Use these ideas to make sure your friendships grow instead of just growing stagnant:
- Put your phone away when you’re talking with someone
- Schedule your next get together at the end of a friend-date
- Sign up for an ongoing class together
- Choose an activity or a gym close to you for ease of connecting
- Stay connected and share honestly, even when things are hard
- Remember to say thanks and show appreciation for getting together
Try this to relax (and maybe meet a friend in the process!).
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The challenges of territorial dialogue in times of Covid-19: how to address them through another approach of social management?
On Friday April 3rd 2020, Insuco, Jaime Arteaga & Asociados and the Colombian Mining Association led an online conversation with the objective of reflecting on the challenges of maintaining territorial dialogue in times of Covid-19, from a new perspective of social management.
This space for discussion brought together almost 100 people from the Latin American and Caribbean region, including representatives of the mining, oil and gas, as well as international cooperation sectors, union leaders, academics, among others. Such virtual gathering allowed us to share our views on the challenges that the current international context imposes on us in terms of social dialogue and the strategies that several companies are implementing in order to maintain the relationship and interaction with the communities where they operate and, in this way, to propose solutions to meet the needs of the territories.
Many thanks to all participants for their willingness to accompany us in this discussion and for their valuable contributions! We hope to continue exchanging with you in the near future and we reiterate our invitation to maintain the dialogue.


The survey said 33% of British couples will divorce blames Facebook
According to the website Divorce-Online UK Divorce latest survey shows that, Facebook accused the British are more and more, because 33% of British people in a divorce when the divorce as a reason or the Facebook evidence, and in 2009, when compared to only 20%.Divorce-Online, respectively, in December 2009 and December 2011, conducted two surveys, the number of objects the two surveys are 5,000 people.
Two compared to the findings, the evidence of several divorce Facebook as the most common cause has not changed. They usually spouses and heterosexual acts, including the use of Facebook comments they divorced each other's behavior, and the use of comment wall war. The main three reasons are as follows:
1, to the opposite sex is not appropriate to send a message;
2, the divorced spouse to each other and recrimination;
3, Facebook friends report the behavior of the other party.
In contrast, Twitter is only 0.4% of the divorce case to be mentioned. But this platform is also used as a divorce the two sides to attack each other's communication tools.
Divorce- Online spokesman said in a statement: "social network has become the most basic communication tools, mainly in the form of text messages and e-mail to reflect. If someone wants to seek extra-marital affairs or take liberties with the opposite sex, social networking is the easiest place. The use of Facebook friends complained to the former spouse has become very common, divorce, both parties will use to send Facebook Each other's complaints. But people should pay attention to post comments wall stickers, because parties to a divorce court in child support for property and right to influence decisions of these posts as a class of evidence. "
In fact, Facebook is now appearing in the UK the proportion of divorce cases is not important, important is that this ratio compared with two years ago, has been greatly improved.
In fact, Facebook is not an important factor in causing the divorce, tension between the two sides must not use the service. Moreover, Facebook lead to extramarital affairs are not a necessary step in the couple divorced.
Ultimately, Facebook is a social tool. For a single individual, the social network can help him special insight into many of the individual. Even for marriage, the social network also helps to maintain the couple's relationship. But just like other social media as tools for even the most innocent, the use of the wrong way will cause very bad consequences.
Even ordinary people can realize that Facebook will speed up the divorce process. Many things are derived from the destruction of marriage in social online extramarital affairs.
Experts suggest that users of social services, bearing in mind the use of mind and regular assessment of the intention of friends, Facebook may not be a dating site, but there are countless Internet users are using it with others.


How To Be Romantic: Celebrate Valentines Day In A MMORPG
My love for you is like an eternal well that spouts sparkly pink champagne love drops. I pondered many ways in which to show my deepest affection for you and pondered even further the ways we could celebrate our loving relationship together. A romantic candlelit dinner for two, mayhaps? Nay, too cliché. 24 red roses delivered to your bedside by a naked me? Non, too contrived. Some shiny silver jewellery perhaps? Niet, I know how you just deplore material things like diamonds and platinum.
But alas, fret not my dear, for I have foundest the perfect way for me to convey my feelings towards yonself! I shall spend all evening in front of my computer questing by myself in World of Warcraft in order to complete a series of trivial tasks and earn special “Love is in the Air” achievements. I shall then take some screenshots of myself receiving the rewards for you to peruse on your laptop alone at a time of your suiting. And thus through this bound our love shall grow ever stronger.
I can only hope that one day you shall find it within your heart to return this favour and shower me with the cyber affection that I so wholly give to you.
You humble and ever obedient husband,


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So this has been my quote, I guess for the past couple of weeks.
Last week, I told you my story about why I chose this quote. Because of heartbreak.
These last few weeks, since I fell apart, have been a rollercoaster of emotion. One moment I could use the quote to empower me. I felt so grateful for those times with him, for those experiences I had with him, for those memories we made. I knew I was so lucky to have had a relationship, especially with him. Who knew that someone would actually like me back!?
Even though it was short, it was still sweet.
And so whenever I got sad, I tried to think of this quote. However I often found that it made me more sad. Because no matter how hard I tried, I wished so much that it wasn’t over.
I tried so hard to be happy that it happened, that I got to spend 3 months feeling like the luckiest girl in the world, being with such a lovely guy…but it was the memories that killed me. It is the memories that break my heart all over again.
Because they are all in the past and thinking of them made me miss him so much. I missed being with him. I missed holding his hand. I missed that feeling, that feeling of pure bliss whenever I was with him.
And I still miss him.
Sometimes it got so hard, because you see he is in three of my classes. Which means I still see him everyday.
I am extremely thankful because there is no awkwardness between us…but that’s the thing there is nothing between us anymore. Other than saying a little hey and smiling at each other if we make eye contact, I’ve gone from talking to him everyday to 0.5 of a conversation.
The distance now, just reminds me of how close we used to be.
And my heart just can’t even begin to comprehend it.
I miss him as a friend. I do want to talk to him more again, but you see I am so worried that he doesn’t want to talk to me.
Sometimes I wish I had answers. Why it went from being so intense and passionate one day, to a sudden stop the next. I often wonder why he moved on, lost the feeling I still feel. Sometimes I just feel like screaming at him, WHY!? WHY!? WHY!? Why did you let me go?
You don’t know how much I wish he still loved me back.
But I have to let him go, I have to just let him go.
And so on that, this quote worked but also didn’t work, maybe time for another?


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From that day on, we was always together. Jenny and me was like peas and carrots. She taught me how to climb… I showed her how to dangle. She helped me to learn how to read. And I showed her to swing. Sometimes we’d just sit out and wait for the stars. For some reason, Jenny didn’t never want to go home. She was my most special friend. My only friend.
I MISS HER ALREADY D;
I already miss you…your hair ,your smile ,your giggle,your eyes ,your hugs ,your kisses, THIS IS GOING TO BE A LONG WEEK


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10 Things Your Daughter Wants You to Know
I’m so excited about this topic because the points literally came from the mouth of the teen girls that I work with! What I’m sharing are the top 10 things that I hear my clients say over and again that I find myself saying, “gosh I need to chat with my parents about this!” So here they are….
Now, I’m not saying that every single teen girl says every single one of these, but these are common themes that I hear all the time. My hope is that from hearing their thoughts, you can tweak your perspective if it will help your personal situation with your daughter or make a slight change in something that you’re doing because of the insight you gain. Doing something a little different can bring you two closer and improve your communication. Plus, when you know better you do better, or in this case, when you hear what the girls say, you can use the information to your advantage. Take what makes sense to you, and leave what doesn’t, okay?
1. Your daughter really does look up to you, especially you moms.
She looks up to you. She respects you. She even values your opinion. She wants your opinion, but she doesn’t necessarily want to ask for it. Deep down she likes to know what your opinion is, yet she often doesn’t act like she even wants to consider it. If you just volunteer your opinion, she’s going to roll her eyes at you, but I promise you, she already knows what you think. She’s been with you since she was born. She already knows what you think. Trust me, when she’s out in the world, what you think is in her head. She really wants to have a deep relationship with you as her mom or dad.
2. When she comes to you with her problems, it’s not necessarily because she wants you to fix them.
Sometimes it’s that she really just wants to vent. Sometimes she gets home from school and she is so frustrated or stressed or overwhelmed that she wants to get it out and say what happened, but she doesn’t want you to attempt to solve her problems. She knows she can figure it out. She will when she’s ready. Just because she’s venting or complaining doesn’t mean she wants you to fix the problem right away or solve it for her. She just wants to know that she’s been heard and has a safe place to vent and get things off her chest.
3. She really considers what happens on social media to be an important part of her life.
Let me first say this, you’re not going to like this one but don’t shoot the messenger …..I’m just passing along what I hear. Her phone is really necessary. Social media is not just for fun…. in their minds. They feel so disconnected when they can’t keep up with what’s going on on Instagram, Snapchat, and all the social platforms. It drives her absolutely crazy when you act like it’s a game, toy, not important, or something that she really shouldn’t be paying attention to. Yes, they are glued to the phone. Yes, they FaceTime and text all the time.
I’m not saying you have to agree with them or even that you should allow this type of phone use. I don’t agree with their perspective either on this one. However, what I am saying is that by understanding just how important staying connected is to them, you can be sensitive to it when you approach the conversation. Or, maybe simply respecting their perspective even when it seems ridiculous.
When I work with families, I usually recommend they come up with a policy or system. Find a way to find a common ground where everyone in your household can come to terms with what you’re going to do as far as managing cell phones and social media. I have some clients who turn their phones in at night. They have to put them on the parents’ dresser or nightstand. Or, when it’s study time and they do their homework in their bedroom, they need to leave their cell phone in a central location downstairs, like on the kitchen counter. You just need to figure out what works for you and your family. I have another family, parents included, who choose to leave all cell phones off the dinner table. You can find a way to have some boundaries that work for your household. You can fight it if you want to, but the truth is, social media isn’t going away.
My suggestion is to figure out what platforms they are on and understand how they work, then set your boundaries and expectations for your family. I have one parent with a 17-year-old daughter who joined Snapchat. She just made up her mind to figure it out. She added her daughter as a friend on Snapchat. They found out they had a lot in common in how they both like to be silly. Snapchat has given them a chance to connect with each other, let their hair down, and use humor together, which ultimately improved communication.
4. She really doesn’t like it when you have conversations about family issues that she’s aware of, but you don’t include her in them.
What I hear from the girls is that they just can’t stand it when their parents don’t talk to them about it and aren’t open about it. They know what’s going on and all it does is makes them feel isolated and like you are treating them like a child. A “family issue” could be when there’s a big family secret or a stressful situation going on between you two as parents. Let me tell you, she knows all about it. She knows the secret, whatever it is. You may think she doesn’t know, but she knows.
What ends up happening is the parent will say “You’re just too young” or “You just don’t understand. Maybe when you’re older.” It’s really conflicting from her perspective. In one instance you are telling her, “Be responsible. You need to be mature. You’ve got to get ready for college.” But then when it comes to the “grown-up conversations”, she’s completely left out of them. So it sends a mixed signal because one minute we’re telling her to grow up and the next minute we’re telling her she’s not old enough. I’m not telling you that you need to tell her all your business, but I am telling you so that you are aware so you can figure out a way to make this work in your favor.
5. Her choice of clothes is not for the reasons you may think.
She doesn’t normally choose her outfits to look a certain way. She’s not trying to wear the slinky dress for the reasons that you might be thinking. Deep down she really is just trying to find her way and fit in. Or she wants to find her way, and not fit in at all. Different girls have different ideas on whether they want to go with the flow or against the grain, but either way it’s all about finding her way. And yes, it is influenced by what she sees on Instagram. And yes, it’s influenced by what she sees other girls wearing at school, or on TV, or whatever the case maybe. She wants to experiment. She wants to see how she can express herself with her clothes or jewelry or whatever she wants to try. Her expression may be things you do not necessarily like, but what I hear all the time is, “My parents are telling me I’m showing too much skin or trying to make a name for myself. I’m really not trying to dress that way it’s just that…” By all means, teach your daughter how to dress according to what you feel is appropriate, but also think about when there’s a time and place that she can really explore and express herself.
6. Sometimes she just wants to be alone.
She just wants some space to think. She doesn’t want you to worry. She doesn’t want you to think she’s depressed. What I hear come out in different ways is some girls are just introverts and they literally need the time to decompress and be alone. Some girls are processing the day and just want to sit and think or listen to music and let their mind process. It doesn’t say anything about you as a parent. They aren’t trying to be mean or nasty. They just want to be alone.
And here’s the funny thing, they know their parents need that down time, too. So then they don’t understand why they can’t have their time. “Dad needs his time to sit on the couch after work so why I can’t I? I know that mom needs me-time, why can’t I?” She will see herself in one of you and want the time as well. Giving her a little space to reset will go a long way in building trust and mutual respect.
7. She does not want to be responsible for your mood.
Just because she may be in a bad mood because she is hormonal, has a bad attitude, or whatever, she doesn’t want it to put you in a bad mood too. She really doesn’t want you to get upset just because she is. When you do, she starts feeling more pressure. It’s OK for you to still be happy when she has a funky attitude.
8. It’s awkward to talk about sex, but she really wants you to.
They want you to bring up sex. They want you to talk about it. They want to know how you feel about it. It’s awkward for them, too. They’re trying to figure out their own position on it. They’re trying to figure out what their beliefs are on it and what they think. What I’m hearing more and more now over the past three years or so is that a lot of teens are saying that our generation as parents is too judgmental. They want to talk to you about things like their sexuality and STDs. They find it unfair when they don’t hear it from you. So if you’re one of those parents who are hush-hush when talking about sex – don’t be. Don’t be afraid to bring it up. Be the parent. Be in charge. Yes, she’s going say it’s awkward and yes she’s going to say it’s uncomfortable, but I promise that she wants to talk to you about it.
9. She wants to talk to you without you freaking out.
I have girls tell me all the time, “I would talk to my mom but she’s just going to freak out. I want to talk to my dad but, oh my gosh, he’s going to freak out if I tell him this.” They say it all the time. They want to open up to you, but they already know once you hear about whatever it may be, it may make you “freak out.” That’s what they say, verbatim. So, in an effort to improve communication and strengthen your connection, really learning how to listen without freaking out will help open up the lines of communication.
10. She really wants to see you have fun and have your own life outside of being a parent.
You know as parents, we can sometimes really make it all about the kids, but not only does your teenage daughter want to see you have a life of your own she needs to see you have a life of your own. She needs to see that you are honoring your goals and dreams. If you’re chasing one of your own dreams or working on something you’re passionate about, you are also giving her permission to do the same when she is a parent. Don’t be afraid to have the girl’s night and date night. Have a fun life outside of being a parent. She will be totally fine with that. In fact, she loves that.
I’m on a mission to inspire girls to stand up and shine. I want them to shine from the light deep within that comes from knowing and loving exactly who you are and sharing that person with the world. If your daughter is struggling to discover her beauty on the inside, the uniqueness that makes her beautiful in her own right, we need to talk! Book a complimentary call here


“Why don’t I get to choose?”
The question that constantly finds its way floating into my thoughts.
I’m 28 years old and my desire to be married has heightened over the years. I want to be in a relationship and feel the affection of another being. I want to be pursued by someone who wants to be with me. I want a piece of earthly affection that correlates with God’s affection that can only be felt through marriage!
But I don’t get to choose!
Let me tell you a little something about men, they get to choose. Now I’m not saying I don’t get to choose who I marry, but my options are limited compared to the options that a man has and that frustrates me.
Let’s look at two fictional people Daniel and Samantha.
Daniel decides one day that he is ready to date and find that one special girl. Daniel then proceeds to pursue women that he thinks would be a good match for him. Daniel takes Samantha out on a date. A week later he takes Rebecca. Decides Rebecca didn’t work out and takes Samantha out on yet another date. Meets Nicole and wonders if she could be the one and then takes her out as well. Things don’t work out with Nicole so then he decides that he should continue seeing Samantha. He finally begins to pursue Samantha.
Samantha finds herself being taught by the Lord constantly what it looks like to be loved by him, but she currently feels the desire to be in a relationship. She has a heart for marriage and wanting to be married and she feels like that is the direction that the Lord is currently calling her in. Samantha then proceeds to place herself in places that she would meet more godly men for her to potential mate with. Samantha has noticed Daniel before and knows that she is physically attracted to him. One day Daniel asks Samantha on a date and she says yes. Samantha thought it went really well and that Daniel would encourage them to go on yet another date sooner than later. Days go by and she doesn’t hear from Daniel. She’s out with friends one night with friends and sees Daniel on a date with another young lady. She thinks to herself maybe it didn’t go so well. She begins to feel insecure and doubts whether or not she is supposed to be in a relationship or even get married. A week later Daniel calls and asks can they go out again. They end up going Mini golfing and talking after dinner. Samantha feels like everything is a success. She really has made an effort to just be herself with Daniel.
Again Daniel doesn’t call Samantha for a week. Samantha’s friend sees Daniel on a date with the Nicole, the new girl in town, and decides to let Samantha know. Samantha then stops what she is doing and prays to God. “ Lord why don’t I get to choose. How come I can only say yes to date men who desire to date me. Why can’t I ask a man out on a date and pursue him. Lord it just doesn’t seem fair. Are you ever going to allow me to be married?” After ranting and raving at the Lord for about 15 minutes and allowing Him to honestly know where she was at Samantha then prays this, “Lord send me a man that solely wants to pursue me. A man that knows what he desires and doesn’t need to date a number of women to figure out that she is the one. Lord let him be a man that seeks you. Lord allow me to be a woman that doesn’t easily give into those who desire to take me out on dates. Allow me to pray and seek you on whether or not I should say yes. Allow me to be hidden in you O’God.” She receives a call from Daniel asking her out on yet another date and she says……
The answer that Samantha gives Daniel actually doesn’t matter. To be honest on different days I would give it a different answer. Whether or not she answers “yes” or “no” isn’t the problem at hand.
As women we sometimes find ourselves caught up in the who the when and the how. We usually eliminate the why, which is when questions like “why don’t I get to choose?” begin to arise in us. I found that my frustration in not getting to choose is because I am attempting to play God in some sense. “No one is choosing me, so I’m just going to make this happen for myself.” In Samantha’s story, which if were being honest sounds a lot like a number of our own stories, she begins questioning why doesn’t she get to choose who she dates. All the men in the world and she is only left with the ones that decides she could be marriage material. It just doesn’t make sense.
The problem is that we have forgotten that this is a one man pursuit. Instead of desiring to pursue the men we could date, why aren’t we pursuing the one man that’s going to make a difference in our marriage, God?
There is a quote that I love by Maya Angelou “A woman’a heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek Him to find her.” We can’t wave a magic wand and the perfect man just appears before us. Relationships take time, they take work, and they take a lot of God. In our impatience we are not only trying to play the role of God, but we are ultimately taking away the role God gave to men. Some men are doing this dating/pursual of women completely incorrect, that’s just fact. However, when we decide that we should be able to choose we take away things that the Lord is trying to teach the man. How to hear His voice and how to make God-centered choices. Things that will ultimately help him make decisions and to fulfill the leadership role in the marriage that the Lord has given him. Out of our impatience we are choosing to take that away from the man that could potentially be our mate.
I’ll leave you with this, learn to be content in falling deeply in love with Your creator daily. Find rest in knowing that He is good and that He has good things for you. Don’t only have faith, but have confidence that He will give you the things that He has promised you. Please don’t dismantle what the Lord is teaching the man/men in your life. Let God speak to them. When its time for a relationship to ensue or a marriage to begin you’ll know.
So here is my prayer for us today.
Many of our hearts deepest desires is to be married. To feel the love that you have for us manifested in the only earthly love that will give a glimpse into the love. Lord helps us not to be focused on being married women, but focus our eyes on you. Allow us to be so engulfed in Your kingdom business that we are unable to see our husbands coming. I pray that the men who decides to pursue us has to seek you in order to get to us. I pray that you increase the identity that we have in You as daughters. That we realize that you want nothing, but the best for us. Teach us what it means to fall deeper and deeper into love with you. Be our passion. Today we give your our hearts, our husbands, and our desires to be married. Take them and make them completely yours. We ask all these things in the precious name of Jesus, amen.


I fall in love every time and every time I made fall in love Every Time. I'm a swirl that wind himself to be moved and it's me that I move. Cause and effect of the same phenomenon and the phenomenon itself. I cannot free myself from the constraint of a before and an after which
knows no other time than this. And it seem strange it can be, and natural knowing it as if it were this and that my
appearance and what is outside is inside and are together and alone just at the same time. I find you and I lose you, and I never had another and another I never wanted to,
because I already have and always have had. A serious game that entertains and touch, something that stand still and moves. So I fall in love and made fall in love because loving myself I love and
having never win I always lost and I enjoy seriously. I really think so and explain it and explain it to myself it's almost superfluous as
much indispensable as it would be if it were final and not precarious. To live I live and to love I love. And if to live and love me you do not need anything else than what you need, so I'm there and there we are. Let us love us, we love.


I wrote this guest post for Katie on Sunny Side Up a while back and thought it was worth sharing with y’all!
So who doesn’t love a good date night? Whether it’s a night out on the town with a loved one or an afternoon out with friends, dates are great way to connect with people and to release some of the day’s stresses. My boyfriend Neal and I love to go out on dates, but sometimes a date night at home is just what the doctor ordered.
Date nights at home are great because…
- You can save money
- If you’re a parent, you don’t have to hire a babysitter
- You can get creative
- You can wear your pajamas and watch a movie or you can dress up and have a candle light dinner for 2 at home
- You can try out one of the recipes you’ve seen on Sunny Side Up or Coffee Cake and Cardio
Date nights are important for any relationship, both in romantic relationships and with friends (obviously non romantic dates). A number of my friends are married with children and often share about how difficult it is to go out on dates with their significant other. I know I can’t relate to being married and having kids, but I try to help my friends see how easy it is to have a great night with their husband/wife and how they can rekindle those hot date nights from their past. Even the littlest thing, like a surprise dessert for your loved one can prompt a mini date.
10 ideas for a great date night at home
- Choose a theme and roll with it! Maybe it’s an Italian night, filled with vegetable lasagna and Roman Holiday or a game night filled with your favorite board games and that new recipe you’ve been meaning to try.
- Make your night together a priority. Put the laundry to the side, silence your phone, shut off your computer and focus on your loved one.
- Take turns planning date night. Husband one month, wife the next month. This is a great way to bring excitement into the date planning. It may take a few months to catch on, but it will become something you both look forward to.
- Create traditions together! Neal and I love to watch the Charlie Brown movies that correspond with each holiday for example.
- Watch a sporting event and make stadium food (hotdogs, nachos, etc.).
- Take a look at AFI’s Top 100 Movie list and begin cross them off the list. Netflix is a great way to get movies without having to leave the house.
- Go for a walk together
- Plan an indoor picnic
- Plan a future vacation together and brainstorm ways to save money together (keeping spare change, saving all single dollars you get back in change, etc).
- Go to bed early together
You deserve a date night! If you’re single, plan a fun date with friends and/or try out online dating like match.com or eharmony (I highly recommend it).


Lol...how could i fell in love with that guy ? weird doesn't ? that guy just being my friend...now all changed...wat should i do ?! i can't fell in love with him ! NO ! i can't ! i must
get rid of this stooopid felling ! jeng...jeng...jeng...but how ?! *sigh*! wait ! but y i called him JERK ? oh yeaahhh ! bcoz i want too !
Almost everyday i think abut him ! "Dear Brain,y u make me think about that guy ? y Brain ?! y ?! "
when i think about it back...y should i ask my brain or my other organs ? actually,that guy make me think about him almost everyday...and now i got the answerr y i
called him JERK...bcoz he is the "stupid" thing in my whole life...that the reasonable answer rite ? for me u are the nice JERK in my lifee...kod je laa en...mayb i can't get him for the moment...mayb in the next few month or mayb in a few more YEARS ! i have to wait...wait...and WAIT ! until he will see how much I LOVE HIM !
I lose him before and now...but after this i'll never lose him FOREVER & EVER !
but now i'm afraid if after this i'm gonna lose him...wat i'm gonna to do ?!
Please...don't leave meh ! *lgu Pink !* everyday,every hour...i keep u in my heart...but...did u know that I Love You ? NO ! of course u dunno ! if u know it...i'm gonna be dead !
I wish u can read this ! so this is MY HIDDEN LOVE STORY !
THE END !
Ps : I LOVE YOU ! ♥


About the Project: Narrative Short Film
Production: Sleeves Up Productions
Concept / Writer / Director / Producer / Editor: Erika Kramer
Director of Photography : Kaya Dillon
A 20-something woman gets invited to her ex-girlfriend’s wedding to a man and decides to go. Despite her disapproval of the wedding, she travels to Connecticut for the weekend where she reunites with old friends and her ex and gains a new perspective on her past relationship.


And without faith it is impossible
to please God,
for whoever would approach Him
must believe that He exists and that
He rewards those who seek Him.
Prayer is like a great love.
When you start dating the silence can be awkward,
but as you grow to know each other
you can sit in silence for hours and
just being with each other is a great comfort.
Hope is the ‘little sister’ of faith and charity.
(Cardinal Gianfranco Ravasi)


2.When did your last hug take place?
The last time i hugged my girlfriend
3.Are you a jealous person?
i can be if given a reason to but generally no.
15.Who was the last person you talked to?
16.Do you get butterflies around the person you like?
</////< >/////> if you mean feeling like they make me want to do anything just to hug them, hold them, hold their hand, or just get a kiss then maybe >/////<
23.What are you NOT looking forward to?
I’m not looking forward to my roommate leaving for 6 months in about a month
24.What ARE you looking forward to?
going to extreme thing, and also seeing one ok rock at warped tour!!!! WOOOOOO!!!!
36.Who was the last person you took a picture of?
my bestfriend and her baby sister.
38.When was the last time you were extremely disappointed?
When one of my close friends found the need to exclude our group of friends for their own selfish sake of their pride.
43.What’s your current problem?
i’m tired as hell and i need to find a roommate i can trust for 6 months
47.Have you ever found it hard to tell someone you like them?
yea, it took me an entirety of a semester to even talk to a girl i liked and then it took 1 month to tell her i liked her and 2 months to ask her out >////////<
i’m a very shy person when it comes to relationships, bad experiences in the past….. >.<


Oregon State University & Fraternity/Sorority Relationship Statement
Revision Date: December 7, 2023
Fraternities and sororities have played an important role at Oregon State University (OSU or University) since the founding of the first national organization in 1882. In the past century, both OSU and fraternities and sororities have benefited from the mutual relationship. Fraternities and sororities provide a valuable component of the undergraduate experience and complement the curricular and co-curricular aims of the University. Fraternities and sororities recognized by OSU are expected to maintain this history of positive contribution by conducting themselves in accordance with the shared values and expectations of their affiliate inter/national organizations and the University.
This Relationship Statement between Oregon State University and its fraternities and sororities formalizes those shared values and expectations that are instrumental in ensuring a mutually beneficial relationship between all of the parties. Among the specific areas addressed are leadership development, academic achievement, risk reduction and management, diversity and inclusion, membership development, campus engagement and community service, advising and alumni relations, and community standards. This Relationship Statement serves as the basis for ensuring the positive presence and continued contributions of fraternities and sororities at Oregon State University, and that each party to this document is working collaboratively to enable each other to meet and exceed their individual missions and goals.


Family mediation program
Mediation is about building bridges together
Family mediation services is provided to parents or caregivers of teens between 13-18 years of age, for up to 6 months. The mediator, much like a coach, assists families in working together better as a team!
Family mediation services support parents or caregivers and their teens by:
- Bringing families together
- Giving everyone an opportunity to be heard
- Helping families work together to resolve conflicts
Families can access family mediation services through:
- Ministry of Children and Family Development
- Your teen’s school
- An agency supporting your family
- Or by self-referring
For more information please call 250-645-3795.


I was overwhelmed…
“Maryanne was like a part of the family on our wedding day. She was really calming and really put us both at ease.
I was overwhelmed with the quality of our photos of our wedding day. Thank you so much.” Zara & Joss
Read about this Sheffield wedding on the blog.


When Brain Falls in Love
Love is chemical! Researchers at the
UK’s Rutgers University claim that certain parts of the brain get
all worked up and are the cause of how we behave with our loved one.
In other words, neurons establish specific connections that cause
and maintain the state of love. That’s how we manage to become
attached to someone. The magic doesn’t work the same way for men
and women. While men see their sexual desire aroused, women’s
attractions are mainly based on feelings.
The study consisted of watching what exactly happened in the brain
of someone who just started a relationship. The scientists used the
MRI (magnetic resonance imagery) technique to examine the brain
activities of a group of volunteers. Each time, they were first
shown a photo of someone they knew then a photo of their loved one.
When they saw this second photo it was the right side of the brain
that suddenly started to produce dopamine, creating a surplus of
energy that then turns into loving desire. For the different sexes
this leads to two completely different attitudes!
The female brain activates itself in particular to develop an
emotion based on feelings that’s translated into a surplus of
attention towards their man. However, the man doesn’t weigh
himself down with abstract thoughts and sets in motion the process
of his sexual desire, which he sees in very concrete terms. The
scientists’ conclusion: romance responds to a very specific
mechanism in the brain, and it’s the difference between the two
sexes that allows them to complement each other and feel good
together. Men need sex, women want feelings, and together they
succeed in offering each other what they want.
The neurons’ brain circuits are thus perfectly prepared to
envisage a long-term relationship as long as the two partners
complement each other and are in fact really in love. When a man
wants sex and nothing else, he’s still never totally safe from
being heart-broken if he finds the woman who represents exactly what
he’s looking for. So the old adage that a man keeps his brains
between his legs isn’t false, just as it’s true that a woman
keeps her sex in her head…
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In this episode Christy has the privilege of talking to Madeleine Saxe, M.A., LMFT, a licensed marriage & family therapist in Santa Monica, California.
Madeleine is an amazing, strong woman who started her movement & exercise journey as a serious dancer in New York City & has grown & changed & fallen in love with her healthy lifestyle in Southern California. She has so much to share with us on finding a healthy & fun relationship with exercise.
Madeleine shares from her own personal experience of over-exercising & recovery to now living in a beautiful relationship with exercise that brings her joy, confidence, friendships, fun & happiness.
She currently works out at F45, here in Venice Beach.
We are so excited to have you join her & Christy in this episode. Please feel free to email Madeleine with any questions you may have or reach out to her in any way!
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In this post, I’m seeing give 4 various examples of things to say to your ex lover in order to get their straight back
First of all, I would like to emphasize that these variations can be stated on a phone call or in people, perhaps not via phrases. The things you may previously tell him/her via article will always be less efficient than if you decided to claim it on telephone or perhaps in guy.
If she these days is not replying to the messages, you ought to content her to have her on a call along with you merely. Really the only goal of a text to an ex ought to be to become their on a phone call, so you’re able to after that organize to generally meet the woman face-to-face.
The reason why? of the phone call or even in individual, she’ll have the option to experience a revitalized sense of regard and appeal for you personally when she news you are comfortable along with an emotionally strong spot.
On a call or perhaps in guy, you will probably be capable of getting the chuckling, cheerful and becoming excellent when actually talking to you, but via content – there isn’t any assurance that you will get that impulse.
Article is usually the bad way of getting an ex straight back, since if your ex lover these days possesses a bad notion people, she could see the text messages through a filtering of that damaging understanding.
Eg: If someone dumped some guy since he is vulnerable, she’ll consider their messages as via the place of low self-esteem.
Alternatively, in the event that man ended up being have them on a call or talk to the woman personally and he is an innovative new and enhanced version of himself, this model sense of your might become even more positive and her protecting safeguard will go off.
Exactly what to inform your partner Girlfriend, Fiance or partner to obtain Her Back
1. If https://datingranking.net/seniorpeoplemeet-review/ she’s split up to you because you weren’t an adequate amount of men to be with her (e.g. insecure, needy, clingy, very little function in daily life, etc).
On a call or in people, things to say to this lady is a thing along the lines of, “Hey hunt – i simply were going to suggest that we currently see why you broke up with myself and that I believe that. I am aware that i used to ben’t enough of a person for everyone i look backward on that right now and I laugh at exactly how foolish I became getting, but I also really feel bad for the thing I put you through. Extremely, I just now wish to just take this opportunity to apologize just for the. I’m maybe not planning on all of us to find back together again or something like this, but Recently I thought about being able to give we that apology hence I understand the reason you noticed it actually was directly to split up with me.”
After providing the lady that sort of apology, the next step is usually you are her to meet to you directly, the best places to and then make this model feeling a revitalized sense of regard and appeal available.
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2. If she has broken up with you since you duped.
Cheat hurts, specially when the one who is scammed on was entirely dedicated and dedicated to the relationship.
You cannot assume all dirty break ups may be restored, but good 100s of cases that I’ve handled throughout the years (20% among those getting cheating pause ups where in fact the guy cheated on his lady), about 80per cent top problems can be healed and so the woman will accept situations commitment another potential.
Very, what you should tell the on a telephone call or in people, can be something along the lines of, “Look – it’s up to you whether you imagine just as if you could potentially actually eliminate me personally. I understand that we’re separated nowadays and you most likely dont actually need to eliminate me or trust in me or any such thing like that…I’m definitely not asking for that from you, but what i wish to reveal to you is what I have for your requirements am a silly error based upon my personal immaturity. I am aware which it would have harm you…you most likely dont attention a great deal now, but I just would like you to find out that then the other girl (or people) didn’t imply almost anything to myself mentally. It has been simply me getting silly and immature not so far getting grown-up sufficient to use a committed, sex relationship. I dont be expecting you to definitely want to get together again beside me, but Not long ago I plan to be capable advise you that i’m sorry for just what i did so.”
Afterward, you need their to generally meet along and then make this lady believe a renewed sense of esteem and destination for every person with the get together.
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I've been putting so much pressure on finding a partner. I know I have been; I can actively see myself doing things and thinking things that aren't something I would normally.
I suppose I could say that it's because I haven't been single in so long that I've forgotten how to do it. But I'm not sure if it's exactly that.
I want that feeling of security. I really do. I want that feeling of love, and to share the love I can offer. I want to share my life with someone who means more to me than I do.
I just think I'm going about it the wrong way. I mean, I don't know that I should actually actively look. The most meaningful relationships I've had were ones that just happened when I really wasn't looking for a relationship.
Now, I'm not saying that to find love I have to stop looking... and then it will magically come to me. I'm a bit more realistic than that.
The other night, I dreamt about R. We were doing completely normal things. We watched some tv, went bowling, ate food. All normal, completely friendship things.
Last night, I dreamt about T. Which is absolutely crazy and random, for one thing. But... I don't know. It was really weird: we spent most of the dream not talking to each other; being in a crowd [maybe?] of people. Then I happened upon him in some room, and we started talking. I don't remember much more, but I was hugging him so tight while he bawled like a child in my arms, completely distraught about something. And then we kissed, just lightly, and then I woke up.
I was thinking about these two dreams as I walked to work this morning.
What could they mean?
Two highly emotional 'relationships' I've had, both visiting me in dreams, only days apart. Maybe my subconcious is telling me to stop. To stop trying to force something to happen. I have to let go.
So, I think that I'm going to stop this. This isn't me. And if it is, it's not who I want me to be. I don't want to look at every person I see and wonder.


You knew me when I relied on you the most. You gave everything you had to me. You gave up your sleep. You gave up late nights with your friends. You gave it all so that I could have all of you. And, mama, I would not be the same without you there.
You hugged me when I fell and kissed my boo boos when it hurt. You reminded me how special I was and how I could take on the world. You read me stories and sang me to sleep. You rocked me back to sleep when I was scared of the world. You told me that I had nothing to be scared of because you were my Mama. And because you were my Mama, you wouldn’t let anything happen to me. And you were right. I felt so safe when I was in your arms. I knew nothing would happen to me.
Mama, when my heart was broken, you sat in my room with me and hugged me tight. You let me cry it all out, and then you wiped away the tears and promised everything would be ok. And you were right. Everything was ok. You listened to me when no one else would. You were my safe place. You cried with me when it felt like the whole world was falling a part and you laughed with me when everything was great. Mama, I knew you were always on my side no matter what.
You loved me even when I didn’t want anything to do with you. You loved me even when I yelled at you and said the opposite. You loved even when it was hard. Even when you wanted to give up on me, you loved me. And, mama, there were hard days. There were days and nights when all I wanted was to be away from you. There were times I screamed because I thought you were being so unfair. But, you never gave up on me. You still came through the door I slammed in your face to tell me that you loved me. You walked in when it was hard. When my glares told you I didn’t want anything to do with you. You still came. You still gave me everything you had. And, mama, I’m thankful you didn’t give up on me.
Mama, the years have been tough, but I’m glad you’re my mama. Because I couldn’t imagine you not being there. Through all the late nights sick and hurting, you were there. You wiped all of my tears and hugged me when I came unraveled. You knew I could do it. You knew things I didn’t. You knew everything would be ok. And, it always was. Because you were there. So, thanks for being there Mama. Thanks for never giving up on me. Thanks for being a mama that pursues. Thanks for being a mama that wipes away tears and sings me to sleep when I can’t. I love you mama, forever.


I couldn’t believe my luck. Julie and I had planned our weddings together, essentially, through a wedding planning forum. She got married about a month before me. We ended up meeting for the first time at a mutual friend’s wedding (from the same wedding planning forum)…and now… many years later we see each other again…and I am photographing her 2nd and 3rd child – newborn twins. A beautiful baby boy and a beautiful baby girl. All the while, we stayed connected, in varying degrees, through the web. It’s a small world…er, web.
So anyway, when Julie told me she was pregnant with twins and that I was one of the first to know – I was honored and THRILLED for her. Plans for her newborn twin session were quickly underway. Before I knew it, (actually a more than a few days early), they were here – happy and healthy. Julie, please thank your SIL for me again for being a wonderful assistant and congratulations again on your beautiful babies – enjoy them! And even though you have a beautiful, sweet, and talented photographer in the family, I hope I get to see your adorable kiddies again soon!


It is not enough to tell someone you love them on a regular basis if there is no passion and fire behind the statement. We often say the words, “I love you” without really feeling the meaning of them. Yeah we know the words mean, ”You matter to me… I care about what happens to you…. I think you’re pretty cool.” But there is so much more to it then that. When we are first falling in love, we think about the ideas of what that means. We analyze the relationship and each other. We really look at what is developing and we evaluate whether or not it is safe to say those three little words. It is a big deal to make the decision to say it to someone else. How will they receive it? Do they feel the same way? Will they say, “I love you, too” or will they mumble something about having a meeting they forgot about? After the relationship is going along successfully, we forget to really think about what it means to still be saying, “I love you” to the other person.
Here’s an exercise for you that should help you rediscover what it means to say those words to someone. Think about tone and voice inflection. You can change the meaning of a sentence by which word you give extra punch to. “I love you” is different from “I love you” which is also different from “I love you.” Let’s look at each version separately.
When we say it as “I love you” one is reminded of when someone is depressed and thinks that nobody cares about them. We let the person know they are wrong by letting them know we want to be seen as the exception to that belief system. But take it a step further…. Who are you? What does it mean when YOU are the one saying that you love someone else. What does that entail? Who exactly is loving them?
When we say it as “I love you” then it means more then just “I like you” or “I want you” or “I admire you.” What does the word love mean to you? Are you using the right word? Maybe you really should be saying “I care about you” or “I love how I feel when I’m around you” or “I think you’re amazing.” Sometimes we just cluster a whole bunch of positive emotions together and put them under the umbrella word – love. So take some time and think about what that word means to you and how it is used.
When we say it as “I love you,” what comes to mind is someone being accused of wanting someone else and they adamantly reply, “No! I love YOU!” For this portion of the exercise, think about who it is you say those words to. Who are they really? Are they the same person today as they were when you first started saying it? If you met them on the street for the first time today, as they are now, would you still fall in love with them all over again? Do you still see them for who and what they are deep down inside or are you just saying the words to a memory of who they were when you first met them?
Finally, blend all of these concepts together in your mind. When you tell your partner that you love them, what is it you’re saying in it’s biggest fullest sense? Now write it all down. “I love you means….” You may only have one or two sentences or you may have pages and pages of words describing what it means for you to love that person. It is not important how much you have written, but that you have now reconnected yourself with the root of what it is the words “I love you” means to you. When you say it to your partner, you will say it with real passion and fire again because the meaning will be fresh in your mind. You won’t be simply repeating it on autopilot like so many of us do. Perhaps you will add a passionate kiss and even tell them about this exercise and what came to mind as you contemplated what it means to love them.
You could even ask your partner, “So tell me, what does it mean to you when you say the words, ‘I love you’ to me?” Give them time to think through their answers. Don’t pressure them. It’s a lot like the first time you tell someone that you love them…. you still have to put yourself out there and wait for the honest openhearted response that they give you. Just like with a new relationship, you can’t yell at them for not responding correctly or start nagging about how they ought to be more in touch with their feelings – especially their feelings about you. Perhaps it would be better to agree that you will each take pen and paper and spend some time alone thinking through what you would like to say to the other. Maybe you are both open enough to sit cuddled together on the sofa and share the free flowing thoughts that come to mind as you contemplate together what “I love you” means to you at this stage of your life together. The worst thing you can do is make it like a pop quiz in school where your partner feels like a big fight is going to occur if they don’t answer it correctly and in a timely manner.
Another idea you could try is to write out your own thoughts about what it means to love your partner in your best handwriting and leave it for them as a love letter somewhere that you are sure they will find it. Even if they do not do the same for you, you may still find a deeper more meaningful response from them the next time you tell them those three magical words.


The purpose of the research described herein was to develop a kinetic model for quantifying the effects of conditional and compositional variations on non-covalent polymorphic and covalent chemical transformations of gabapentin.
Kinetic models that describe the relationship between polymorphs and degradation product in a series of sequential or parallel steps were devised based on analysis of the resultant concentration time profiles. Model parameters were estimated using non-linear regression and Bayesian methods and evaluated in terms of their quantitative relationship to compositional and conditional variations.
The model was constructed in which co-milling gabapentin with excipients determined three physically-initial concentrations (II0*, II0 and III0) and one chemically-initial concentration (lactam0). For chemical transitions, no humidity effect was present but the catalytic effects of excipients on the conversion of II and III➔lactam were observed. For physical transition, excipient primarily influenced the physical state transition of III➔II through its ability to interact with humidity.
This model was shown to be robust to quantitatively account for the effects of temperature, humidity and excipient on rate constants associated with kinetics for each physical and chemical transition.


In the complex landscape of human relationships, spotting the signs of abuse is not always easy, especially when it’s covertly disguised beneath the surface. Covertly abusive behaviors can be just as damaging as overt abuse, yet they often fly under the radar, making them even more insidious. In this comprehensive guide, we will delve into the world of hidden abusers, shedding light on the subtle signs and tactics they employ. By the end of this article, you will have the tools to recognize and address covertly abusive behaviors in your relationships more effectively.
The Mask of Deception: What is Covert Abuse?
These abusers are adept at maintaining a public image that starkly contrasts with their private conduct. It’s important to understand that covert abusers may not always be aware of their actions, as their deeply ingrained behavior can make it even harder to detect.
Recognizing the Subtle Signs
- Gaslighting: Covert abusers commonly employ the tactic of gaslighting. They manipulate their victims into doubting their own perception of reality. This can include denying past conversations or events, causing their victims to question their memory and sanity.
- Isolation: Covert abusers often isolate their victims from friends and family, making it difficult for them to seek support or validation outside the relationship. They may do this subtly by undermining other relationships or overtly by dictating who their partner can and cannot see.
- Emotional Manipulation: These abusers possess skill in exploiting their partner’s emotions. They may use guilt, shame, or the promise of affection to control and manipulate their partner’s actions and decisions.
- Passive-Aggression: Instead of overt aggression, covert abusers use passive-aggressive tactics, such as giving the silent treatment, sarcasm, or backhanded compliments. These behaviors can erode a person’s self-esteem over time.
Breaking the Cycle
If you suspect you are in a relationship with a covert abuser, it’s crucial to take action:
- Educate Yourself: Understanding covert abuse is the first step. Knowledge empowers you to recognize these behaviors.
- Seek Support: Reach out to trusted friends, family, or a therapist who can provide emotional support and guidance.
- Establish Boundaries: Set clear boundaries and communicate your expectations with your partner. Be firm about what behavior is unacceptable.
- Consider Professional Help: In some cases, couples therapy or individual counseling can help both parties address and resolve issues.
Covertly abusive behaviors in relationships can be challenging to identify, but by staying informed and vigilant, you can protect yourself and your well-being. Remember that mistreatment is undeserved by anyone and seeking help and support demonstrates strength, not weakness. By addressing covert abuse, you can work towards healthier, more fulfilling relationships.


A man breaks into a house looking for money.
Inside he finds a young couple in bed.
He orders the man out of bed and ties him to a chair, while tying the homeowners wife to the bed the convict gets on top of her,kisses her neck, then gets up and goes to the bathroom.
While he`s in there,the husband whispers over to his wife: listen this man is an escaped convict .Look at his clothes! He`s probably spent a long time in jail and has not seen a woman in years.
I saw how he kissed your neck.If he wants sex, don't resist and don't complain........do whatever he tells you.
Satisfy him no matter how he nauseates you, This man is obviously very dangerous. If he gets angry,He'll probably kill both of us. Be strong honey and remember I love you!!,
The wife responds: He was not kissing my neck. He was whispering in my ear.
He told me he`s gay,thinks you are very attractive, and asked if we had any Vaseline.
I told him it was in the bathroom.Be strong honey.......I love you too.


....isn’t there always... Yeah I know. So I wonder if there is always a boy and always a problem why do I seem to never learn??? Frankly why do none of us.... men and women alike continue to make the same mistakes. There is always that one guy or girl who tends to have a hold on us. Or there is that feeling in the back of our head every time we meet someone that this person is different, that they are the one or that they will be the missing puzzle piece as far as love is concerned.
I know people in some twisted relationships I know one person who continuously forgives the person they love and goes back to them even after the person threatened to kill them! Yeah, seriously! But that’s who they love and they keep going back.
I know another person who has had the person they love tell them they only want them for sex now and don't love them anymore but they continue to wait and hope that the person will realize that they love them.
Are we meant to be with other people? Is love truly forever? And how do you love someone and then end up with someone else..... Does this mean love dies and if so, does that mean love can't last forever? So many questions and no answers.
What about us makes us love someone who doesn't seem to love us even if they say the words... the actions don't always sink up. Why do we justify their intentions and actions, forgive them even when our closest friends tell us that the person is dead weight?
I mean lets be honest this isn't the notebook.... the odds of falling in love and marrying the person your meant to be with against all odds and then dying at the same time is highly unlikely! But then think of Johnny Cash and June (I think that’s her name) he died just months after her death... most people think it was of a broken heart.... So this means unless your Noah and Allie eventually one of you will hurt even if you don't cheat, lie, leave.... or just decide you don't love the other person anymore, one of you will die..... which presents the question once more.... are people really meant to be together for forever..... I mean I know our hearts and emotions are different than most animals and we develop attachments to people even if we say we don't want to....
I 've never understood how people say "I don't want a relationship right now".... granted I'm not the girl saying, "I want a boy friend!" You can't tell love or like or whatever what time to enter your life. It happens when it happens and anyone who uses that excuse to push someone away is a scared little bitch or doesn't really give a shit about the other person in the first place. Because wheatear your 17 or 27…. On the fast track or headed nowhere fast it happens when it happens
But I still have no answer....
All I know is what I know. You love who you love and no one can tell you how to do that..... I am proof that it’s not up to you how your heart handles things but it is up to you how you act about it.... yeah its hard but sometime you have to hold your breath sneak to the bathroom, cry your eyes out and then wipe your face and do what you gotta do.
My final thoughts as far as love goes- We are all like children. All running to or from something. Trying to make sense of who we are and the world around us. Either trying to leave the pain or find the joy.
Peace one love I'm out.


Help the picture tiles make friends with each other by finding out how they can connect. A reasoning game that tests and builds upon your ability to reason, categorise and identify relationships between objects.
Take turns to place different tiles together based on the relationship between the pictures on them. Put your thinking caps on and you have a reason to play!
Develops higher order thinking capacities, promotes logical thinking and categorical reasoning. Builds cognitive flexibility while promoting a deeper level of processing and engagement with the ideas. Requires visual processing and encourages communication skills.
2 to 4 players


Baby if there’s one thing we know to be true it’s this…Relationships cannot grow or have a chance of becoming happy if there’s no trust. You have to override your natural inclination to trust when you feel love with your intelligence that says due to your experience you can’t rely on what men say. Men also have a lot of hurt from relationships.
Trust is built slowly over time, but it can be shattered in an instant. Honor your loved one by acting with integrity at all times. The only engine that power a good relationship is trust and trust is based on integrity and respect we have for each other.
Any relationship, whether it is personal, business, organizational, community, family, love, or romantic, cannot survive without trust. But, unfortunately, trust in relationships is now rare. Lack of trust may have a negative impact on one’s life. It can destroy the glory of relationships, thereby paving way for jealousy and devastation. Hence, modeling trust in relationships is important to improve the value of a long term deal. Trust in relationships generally depends on how true we are in expressing our feelings to others, particularly to those who are very close to us.
However, it is quite difficult to gain trust in a relationship. Building trust in relationships need considerable effort, commitment and time. Here are some steps to build trust for the maintenance of a healthy relationship. The foremost step is to be predictable. Consistency should be maintained in all the activities you perform. Another vital step to build a healthy relationship is to make sure your words match the message. Belief in others, awareness of one’s needs, and ability to keep secrets are also important for building trust in relationships.
Honesty is also a key to build trust in any relationship. Factors such as insightfulness, responsiveness and unbiased opinions must be considered for winning trust in relationships. Once the trust is established, it can bring many benefits including huge profits with minimum cost, improvement in the reputation of a firm, and enhancement in the quality of relationships. Associate retention, effective communication, and motivation can also be gained through trust in relationships.
Since it can bring a powerful bond of intimacy and credibility in a relationship, trust is highly critical for a society to exist. Life is always built of relationships with people, and trust is vital to fill friendship, honesty, love and passion in a relationship. Trust is considered the central pillar supporting a relationship, and is compared to the concrete foundation of a house. In other words, trust in relationships is a two-way street, demanding equal proportion of respect from either side to manage it effectively.
Trust means to believe. I trust you, means I have no doubt in my mind about your honesty, integrity and credibility. No relationship can survive without trust. How to develop and keep the trust in a relationship forever, because as soon as the trust breaks, the relationship breaks. Trust is the foundation on which a relationship is built. If you don’t trust a person, howsoever you may love him/her, your relationship will not survive, because you have no trust in him/her.
Let us examine this little more. To begin with, every relationship begins with trust in each other. Without the initial trust, the relationship will not move in the beginning itself. In the beginning, one believes without much proof about the others character. It is love and some assessment of how trustworthy the person is. As the relationship grows, fissures start forming because of doubts about whether the other person can be trusted? Was he/she trustworthy from the beginning or was I fooled? Or is he/she changing now? This kind of doubtful thinking causes tremendous strain in a relationship
and with the breaking of trust, the relationship breaks.
How do you manage to build the trust in the earlier period is most important. The beginning can be very dangerous. What may arouse suspicion should be avoided at all the costs. If you have a suspicious partner, you need to be more careful. Small things such as if you are going out, inform where you are going and to meet whom? If there is a change in your mood, talk to your partner and talk about the reasons. If you are facing career problems, rather than hiding them, tell about them to your partner and seek support. Many a times, you will behave differently when you face career issues and that may make your partner think about all types of possibilities. Be open about everything. Your words and body language should be synchronous at all the times. Inform about everything and if not fully possible assure your partner that things are going differently and you are under pressure. Be open. Seek trust and you will get it.
When trust exists in an organization or in a relationship, almost everything else is easier and more comfortable to achieve.
For no geniue reason, this generation is fast changing every good foundation and heritage that sustain a good relationship,trust,worthiness and united in action that smoothens co-operate existence all in the bid to embrace money. Deceit is now the order of the day as truthful people are often made to look stupid. Building trust in relationships is more valuable then money, because once you’ve lost it, it’s bloody hard to get back, and sometimes it’s impossible. Trust is precious, so…
IF you ever find yourself in a situation where you could potentially put someone’s trust in jeopardy, I suggest you tread carefully, very carefully!
You can feel it when someone doesn’t trust you. They constantly ask you questions as though they don’t believe you are competent enough to do it in the way you know how, or they criticize the way you do things because it’s not good enough, or it’s not the way they were taught. Sometimes a lack of trust stems from someone’s own lack of character, and sometimes it comes from someone’s background if they did not grow up in a loving environment where individual growth was encouraged. Someone who does have character but constantly questions you about yours can just be as annoying as someone who doesn’t have character and drops the ball.
When there is no trust in any kind of relationship, you begin to doubt what the other person says or does, and trust me this is not a good thing, especially if you want to build extraordinary relationships, and you do right?…
Well, hunnie , i do want u to know alot of bad people have spoilt the images of the good ones , but i want u to know everybody are not the same ..
I really do not like ,involving any 3rd party in my relationship , and I should have told you this ealier , that u should let us make this a suprise to everyone around you , including your friends , Coz u never can tell what is in we humanbeing heart , Don’t believe everybody that u see and we call our friends is happy about us , People do envy one another..
I believe you honey, most people will not be happy with our relationship but i dont care what they will be saying about us … This are just some experience that we met on this earth even before we are born ..
I just want you to trust me with your whole heart , , I believe God do have something great and good to do in our life , thats why he sent us to one another .. he sent us to one another ..
Yes i know sweetie , but lets keep this to ourselves first ,and wait till when i am finally there with you alright…
Baby , believe me you will never regret of doing this ,and u will never regret of having me there with you .. You just dont know how much i am happy to have u in my life .. You are my world and my happiness .. I cant just imagine my life without you..
Baby , I can understood how happy you are of having me there with you alright .. But baby ,just lets wait till when i am finally there with you ,and then you can show the world how much we mean to each other ..
Even when your friends ask you anything about us , just tell them that there is nothing between us anymore Ok .. Just dont let them destroy our relationship Ok .. Cause , I am here to bring sunshine and happiness into your life ..
I do believe something that will be good and will last forever , will somehow have a rough beginning … We will surely have an Overcomer’s problems in life , We just have to Overcome every of our problems ok ..
And i am making an Oath and a Vow for you , that i will never let you down , and will never break your HEART OK
I want to you take your bible and cross your heart ,and say this to me as well
I will always stand by you through Thick and Thin time ok … Come rain , Come shinny , I will always be by your side sweetie …
And promise me , you will never tell anyone about us , Not until when i finally arrive to your airport ,and hold you in my arms …
Sweetie , there is something i wanted to let you know .. But i dont know how am going to tell you this , coz i dont know how u will feel .. And i wouldnt want u to get mad at me .
Hunnie , its just about me and my Grandma , coz we dont have any foodstuff at home to eat again , and i dont have any penny on me my love ,and the woman i collected foodstuff from oncredit i am oweing her some funds ,and she does not wants to sell any food for us oncredit .. I am just so sad here , and i dont like watching my Grandma starving ..I am not happy telling u this baby
How delightful is your love, my Princess, my bride! How much more pleasing is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your perfume than any spice….Please dont take that too hard okay i just wanna be sure, just if i really deserve you.!
Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame baby…


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The Effect of Summarization Strategy on Reading Comprehension through Summary Writing Ability
Keywords:reading comprehension, summarizing ability, summarization strategy
This study was conducted to investigate the role of summarizing ability as mediator of the effect of summarization strategy on reading comprehension. The study employed a quasi-experimental pre-test and post-test control group design. It was carried out at Azezo Tseda kiﬂeketema Atse Fasil Elementary School. Intact classes of 7th1 (n=54) and 7th2 (n=55) students participated as experimental and control groups, respectively. Students in the treatment and controle groups completed eight reading comprehension lessons using the summarization strategy and the conventional strategy respectively. From them, pre- and post-intervention data were obtained through tests. The data were analyzed through covariate-based structural equation modeling (CB-SEM) using SPSS AMOS v.20. Pretest data were covariated and controlled. The statistical model showed that summarization strategy has a signifcant positive direct effect (β = 2.410, CR = 3.948, p< .005) on summarizing ability; on the other hand, summarizing ability has no signifcant direct effect (β =.178, CR = 1.460, p =.108) on reading comprehension. The strategy also has no signifcant indirect effect on reading comprehension through summarizing ability (β =.430, p =.109). Therefore, summarizing ability has no mediation role in the relationship between summarization strategy and reading comprehension. Based on the fndings, pedagogical and research implications and suggestions were discussed and indicated.


Polikoff to lesbian couples in D.C.: sign the Consent to Parent form
It is absolutely correct that if the hospital does not require a different-sex couple who says they are married to produce a birth certificate then they cannot make such a request of a same-sex couple.
But neither the letter nor the blog post said anything about the Consent to Parent form that enables a lesbian couple to be listed as parents regardless of whether they are married. I followed up and learned that Sibley Hospital says it gives lesbian couples that form. I'm trying to ascertain if the particular couple that contacted GLAA was offered the form.
This situation highlights what I have come to realize is a BIG problem. Lesbian couples think marriage makes them both parents. Period. [In fact,] for a child conceived through donor insemination the two women are both parents and have the right to be listed on the birth certificate and marriage has nothing to do with it....
For most of history marriage was a requirement for legal parentage, but that has not been true for more than 40 years. So when a same-sex couple plan for a child together they also should not have to be married to have their joint parentage recognized. DC's Consent to Parent form is a pathbreaking development that guarantees that every child born in the District of Columbia to a lesbian couple who achieved conception through donor insemination (rather than sexual intercourse) gets both moms listed on the birth certificate.
... A state that does not recognize a couple's marriage may refuse to recognize the nonbio mom's parentage if that parentage derives solely from the marriage.... The DC statute takes into account that many couples -- married or not -- do not do second parent adoptions (it takes time; it costs money to hire a lawyer). Under DC law the women are both parents because they agreed to both be parents and the child was conceived through donor insemination. The Consent to Parent form is the best way to prove this, and it gets both names on the birth certificate. It has nothing to do with marriage. That means it will be harder for a state with a DOMA to decide that it won't recognize the nonbio mom's parentage.
So I am starting to worry that couples want parentage based on marriage as though that was the gold star of parentage. Repeat after me: All children can have two parents even when their parents are not married. It is not disrespectful to grant parentage on a basis other than marriage; it's a GOOD thing -- for all children, not just children of same-sex couples....
My message to lesbian couples: Don't get married to give your child two parents. Get married for other reasons if you like, but not that one. To give your child two parents, make sure the child is born in the District of Columbia and sign the Consent to Parent form.
One of the mothers in the Sibley case wrote to me this morning: "I have never seen this form. it looks great.... The hospital DEFINITELY did not offer this form.... NO ONE in the lesbian community who is having babies knows about this form." It appears that we have some educating to do to inform couples of what they can do to protect their rights, particularly in interstate situations where a state DOMA law is present. Here is the Consent to Parent form.
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