Li did not know that her marriage was based on a lie.
The 35-year-old officer worker from Qinghuangdao, in eastern China’s Hebei province, found out she was a “tongqi” six months after marriage. That term, which can be loosely translated into English as "gay-person's wife," is used to describe millions of Chinese straight women who unknowingly marry gay men.
China has around 20 million gay men, and about 80 percent of them marry a woman, according to an estimate from Zhang Beichuan, a prominent Chinese scholar who studies sexuality. Being an openly gay man is socially unacceptable outside of large cities in China, and homosexuality is often still viewed as a medical condition even though the government no longer recognizes it as an illness.
And in a country where the one-child policy was the law of the land for decades, closeted gay men face enormous pressure to marry and start a family–even if they have no interest in women.
That leads many gay men to deceive women like Li, who asked that her full name not be used, into marrying them. The results of these marriages are often unhappy, and sometimes lead to physical and emotional abuse and the spread of sexually-transmitted diseases. In one widely reported incident, an instructor at Sichuan University jumped off a 13-floor building and died after discovering that her husband was gay.
Li's marriage ended in divorce after she used a popular Chinese gay dating app known as "Blued" to learn the truth about her husband – and confronted him. "The more women know about my experience, the less chance they will end up with the same tragedy," she says.
Li has sought help from other women who have had similar experiences through "tongqi" support groups. Still struggling with the aftermath of her divorce, Li, who posted about her experience on a 'tongqi' bulletin board on the Chinese site Baidu, shared her story with Global Journalist's Weimeng Bao. Due to the sensitive nature of the topic, Global Journalist could not independently verify all aspects of her story.
Global Journalist: How did you meet your ex-husband? Did you notice anything unusual?
Li: We were introduced via an acquaintance at the end of 2015. My ex-husband was then 38 and had a six-month marriage in 2008. According to him, the previous divorce was because a health condition of his ex-wife's made it hard for them to have sex.
We then started a relationship. We dated almost everyday, but he never took the initiative to contact me. After a few months, our parents got involved. Each were happy with the other family. My ex-husband soon proposed to me, and I said yes. We got married at the end of May.
We never had sex before marriage. Even a kiss was rare. But I thought this showed that he is a conservative, well-mannered guy. I did not think too much about it.
GJ: When did you start to suspect your husband was gay?
Li: After marriage, we rarely had sex. At the end of June, I accidentally overheard a phone call. My ex-husband was driving at the time and I was sitting by him. He put the call on speaker and a man asked him whether he was busy.
My ex-husband suddenly became furious, and started shouting into the phone: "I'm busy, I'm busy!"
He didn't give the other man a chance to talk. The other man replied sadly, "OK." Then my ex-husband immediately hung up the call.
I started to be suspicious after that incident. On the advice of a gay friend, I installed Blued on my phone. The app shows basic personal information of gay men around you, including their exact location [via GPS], age, height, weight and sexual orientation.
When my ex-husband was with me, I failed to find anybody like him on Blued. However soon after he left home, the app showed that there was a gay man 10 centimeters from me a half an hour ago. That is how I confirmed that my ex-husband is truly gay.
GJ: Did you talk to your ex-husband after discovering this?
Li: I talked to him almost right away. I showed him the Blued page, but he just explained that other gay men registered for him and he merely used the app to make friends. Nothing happened. He convinced me that he loved me and he only needed time to overcome his disgust for the female body. I believed him.
I tried several means in an attempt to convert him. I even tried my best to bear his child. He was still indifferent, refusing conversations with me. He hated me. Once I was mopping the floor while he was playing computer games. I hugged his right leg to act cute, but he hit me with his left slipper in response.
GJ: When did you decide to divorce him?
Li: One month after our talk, I decided to end the marriage. There was one night that my ex-husband decided he would sleep on the couch instead of sharing the bed with me. I was angry, and I said we have to divorce.
His face was distorted. He began to madly hit my head against the couch, punching my face over and over again. My glasses were sent flying and my right eye hurt so much that I could barely see anything. I was later diagnosed with posterior vitreous detachment [a condition caused by the retina separating from a membrane in the eye]. Even now, my right eye still has complications.
That is the night that I became determined to divorce him.
I then told his father that he is gay. His father did not seem surprised, and asked about my plan. I told him I wanted a divorce.
A few days later his mother, who was undergoing chemotherapy, came to me and begged me not to divorce her son. She said she would take my ex-husband to see doctors and cure the "disease." She went to a fortune-teller for help, who told her that the "disease" could only be cured when he turns 42-years-old. His mother decided she didn't want to hold me back, and approved the divorce.
As for my parents, they did not believe my ex-husband was gay. But they agreed to the divorce due to his abuse. I completed all the divorce paperwork within one month.
GJ: Did you feel better after the divorce?
Li: Not really. The pain tormented me for nearly three months.
Before finalizing the divorce proceedings, I was conflicted—I felt I could not live without him, but at the same time I was afraid of him refusing to divorce me.
Nearly no one knows that I have divorced. I didn't want friends or colleagues around me to know about my divorce, let alone that my ex-husband is gay. For a time, I even changed the WeChat [a popular Chinese messaging app] name of a friend who often contacted me to "Husband."
Two months after the divorce, a friend of mine who knew the real reason for my divorce pursued me. He is kind and warm, but I can't bear any kind of intimacy – even hugs. Once, I could not help but kick him when he tried to kiss me.
When I was collecting evidence to verify that my husband is gay, I joined many QQ [a popular online chatting app] groups he was in. I saw too many hardcore pornographic images. Now I feel disgusted with men's bodies.
GJ: Did all the 'tongqi' you know choose to get a divorce like you?
Li: Not every gay man's wife will divorce. It mainly depends on personality and financial situation. Almost everyone struggled and suffered after they realized the truth. For some, their gay husbands may deceive them and tell them they are bisexual and like women as well as men, so the wives may hesitate to get a divorce. Their suffering could be short or long, even endless.
The financial condition matters, especially for those with children. I know an unemployed 'tongqi' with twins. She could just barely take care of one on her own, but could not endure having to separate them. So she stays in the marriage. But she always sends messages to the 'tongqi' QQ chat group at midnight, saying she woke up crying again.
GJ: Why do you think your husband married you in the first place?
Li: I think he did this because he wants a child. Before we got divorced, I created a fake account to chat with him on a gay QQ group. He told me that a gay man must marry a straight woman as soon as he can, because otherwise siblings are the only people he can count on when he gets old. And if a gay man does not get married and has no child, he will disappoint his parents.
I asked him why doesn't he marry a lesbian so he can also have children. He said this is weird and unacceptable.
GJ: Do you still take part in online support groups for women with gay husbands?
Li: Yes, I still chat in these groups every day. I used to just complain to the other 'tongqi,' but now I try to persuade them to get divorced as soon as possible. They are really vulnerable. For instance, one of the wives told me that she felt consoled after her husband showed her flirtatious messages he exchanged with other women in an effort to prove that he's straight. It may sound weird, but these were her real thoughts.
with translation assistance from Xiaosheng Yin


Do you know what your love language is? No? This post is for YOU! I came across this concept from Gary Chapman a little over a year ago & there is no arguing how true it is. There are 5 love languages & each person has 1 main language in which they receive love. Not everyone is the same & while you might think you’re loving them so hard by spending quality time with them, it may not be translating to your partner or even child. Yes, kids have them too! I’ve listed each language below & a short description of each.
Words of Affirmation – this love language uses words to affirm other people & their feelings. This sounds like “You look beautiful today” or “I really love how funny you are”.
Quality Time – this love language is all about spending time & giving the other person your undivided attention.
Physical Touch – this love language uses physical touch as the strongest way to receive love. Holding hands, back tickles, cuddling etc.
Acts of Service – this love language actions speak louder than words.
Receiving Gifts – this love language gifts are what makes them feel loved.
At this point you still might not know what your love language is, so there is this handy little quiz you can take.
Gary Chapman also has a book called the 5 Love Languages that goes further into detail. It’s great if you want to have successful relationships. If you don’t have time to read, sign up for Audible. It has been so nice to listen to books in the car on the way to & from work or while getting ready in the morning.


Nikki hung up the phone and went back to bed
Frankie rolled over, kissed the top of her head
He said, "When are you going to tell him about us?"
Nikki faced the window, watched the streetlight catch the dust
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Always sees this girl in the lobby so late
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When she came in tonight to scrub herself clean
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When she puts herself together after coming apart
She almost forgets to leave space for her heart
Nikki jumped out of bed like a bomb just went off
She said, "If you love me you'll leave me alone."
Most nights when she leaves she says, "I'm going to my place."
But tonight when she left she said, "I'm going home."
Yeah, tonight when she left she said, "I'm going home."


I met John at the Arcade Comedy Theater because his lovely wife Is an improvisor. I've always enjoyed his company, he makes me laugh. We talk about his new album coming out and his journey with music. We also discuss social media and how it can suck, missing doing stuff, and just making each other laugh. John is such a fun guy to talk to and I loved this chat. Enjoy!


- STUDENT: How are states made?
- ME: Well, when two territories love each other very much...
Why do other ppl have my name wtf
People will stab you in your back and then ask why you’re bleeding.
you can be in a relationship for two years and feel nothing; you can be in a relationship for 2 months and feel everything. time is not a measure of quality; of infatuation, or of love
i love when dogs sigh. its like, hey bud, long day at the office?
[sleep-over voice] are you awake
[sleep-over reply voice] yeah
[regrettable sleepover invitee voice] you guys SHH
[confused sleep-over voice] what is the meaning of life
[annoyed sleep-over voice] dude shut up
[sleep-over host voice] you guys be quiet my moms gonna hear us
[unknown voice] you kids wanna buy some drugs
We’re not something, but we’re not nothing.


Sunday, January 27, 2013
The 5 Love Languages, by Dr. Gary D. Chapman
The title is a bit misleading: This is not a Mars-Venus type book on how to communicate with a partner of opposite gender. It's only peripherally about spoken communication at all. This book is directed at every one who has ever said, "My partner doesn't love me. Oh, he says this, or she does that, sure... but I just don't feel loved."
Dr. Chapman has identified what he terms the 5 love languages by which we communicate our feelings for our mates. The problem? Our mate may not share the same primary means of showing love, so he or she is waiting for some other type of demonstration. The languages are:
1. Quality time
2. Words of affirmation
4. Gifts of service
Quality time: She says, "Sure he is a good man and a good provider, but we never do anything together." He says, "I'm always busy working to provide and then doing chores around the home; how can she possibly say I don't love her?" Answer: He's showing his love in a way that doesn't meet her emotional needs. Prescription: set aside time to do mutually enjoyable things with the focus on each other. Watching TV does not count, nor does playing tennis when the focus is on the game itself. Setting aside 15 minutes a day for an attentive conversation may do the trick.
Words of affirmation: He says, "I always tell her how wonderful she is, but she never says anything like that to me. She doesn't love me." She says, "I kiss and hug him all the time, and we have a great sex life. How can he possibly feel unloved?" Some of us need to hear the words out loud, and if the partner is not necessarily comfortable speaking of emotions and issuing compliments, says Dr. Chapman, get over it! Love is about giving, so if you know your mate needs to hear loving words, you make a habit of saying them.
Gift-giving: She says, "When we were dating, he used to bring me flowers and chocolate, just little tokens to show affection. That dried up as soon as we were married, and now I don't think he cares anymore." Gifts don't need to be extravagant -- people whose primary love language is gift-giving just need a token to demonstrate that their partners are thinking of them. Again, for those who say they don't know how to pick gifts, get over it! Make a gesture. Give it a little thought and offer whatever you give with genuine love. For those who prefer to save and invest their money, Dr. Chapman asks, "Do you want to be wealthy and alone? If not, make some small investments in your relationship." (The cartoon above reminds me of an old Gary Larsen cartoon, picturing a wolf presenting a sheep with a bouquet. The caption: "In the end, their relationship failed -- Irving worried excessively about what the rest of the pack would think, and Agnes just ate the flowers." Clearly gift-giving was his primary language, but not hers.)
Gifts of service: I struggled with this one, especially when the man said, "I work long hours at the mill. I come home and the house is a mess, the kids are a mess, there's no dinner anywhere in sight, the laundry is undone..." I spat at the MP3 player, "For heaven's sake, do you want a wife or a maid?" Some people, though, do feel loved when their partners do things to help, and in fact, that's the primary means of demonstrating love for them. A reverse case: The husband complains that his wife spends hours in the kitchen preparing elaborate gourmet meals which he doesn't enjoy -- he'd rather they spent the time chatting with each other (i.e. spending quality time). The prescription in these cases were, in the first case, the wife should view cooking dinner as a means of showing her love, rather than as an onerous chore, and in the second case, the wife should cook simpler meals and spend more time conversing with her husband. What if, however, the gourmet is cooking elaborate meals because she enjoys it? I guess the answer is that she needs to find a way to give her spouse the quality time that he enjoys to keep him feeling loved.
Touch: Dr. Chapman is quick to point out that sex is a physically-driven necessity for men, and we should not confuse the need for sex with touch as the primary love language. One man said he had two primary love languages: touch and affirming words. Ah, but suppose your wife never told you anything complimentary, or she criticised you in front of others, but you still had a fabulous sex life together, would that work? No, the man replied: If she castigated me publicly, our sexual intimacy would dry up. Then, concluded Dr. Chapman, you've just established that words of affirmation are really your primary love language. For someone who's primary language is touch, the partner can wax poetic with praise, but if there's no affectionate physical contact, the verbiage is wasted. If one spouse says, "Oh, but I'm not a touchy-feely kind of person!", Dr. Chapman's blunt response: Learn to be one. Do you want your partner to feel that you love her? Then you must demonstrate it in the language that she understands -- bringing her gifts may be your preferred way of expressing love, but it's not hers.
In the final chapters, the author helps readers to determine both their own and their partners' primary love languages, and then gives tips on learning to "speak" them. Love is a choice, he reminds us (once we've moved beyond the 'in love' infatuation phase). We need to make conscious choices about the most effective ways to show our love. This is a marvellously down-to-earth, practical guide for anyone who has ever asked, "I love my partner, so why doesn't he (or she) feel loved?"


**Sorry that I have been inconsistent in posting, homework has been hectic and PSAT revision has been taking up a lot of time.**
The best part of school for some. That feeling when you have someone to drool over... whenever they say hi to you or they start a conversation with you... maybe even the slightest flirting, your heart flutters. The sight of them being happy makes you happy. The way they look at something they take interest in... you wish that they looked at you that way... maybe they do? Just never admit it, which makes you want them more. Cuddles. Someone just to listen to you. Someone you honestly like to spend time with. I know for a fact all my previous crushes used to be someone hot who never talked to me... but when you find someone who is genuinely nice to you, and with the extra addition of being drop-dead gorgeous... you can't help but to think about them. No matter the year they're in as long as they make you happy... then why not?
Why am I talking about this? Because I'm one of those girls that thinks the only way for my feelings to be told is anonymously. I can never tell my feelings the way some people can... I'm very envious of someone that can own their feelings... but I do not have the answer as to why I'm like that... all I know is that this boy. He's perfect. The perfect crush. Unfortunately, it looks like thats all it'll be... for now...
For once I'm not being sarcastic.
Yours India x


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I absolutely love holidays and the inner reflection they bring about. I cherish the pause, the time to look back and settle deep into sweet memories. Birthday’s are no exception; to me, they are most precious and worthy of celebration.
Tomorrow, with our family and close friends, we will gather together to celebrate the life of my husband. 44 years ago, tomorrow, he changed the world just by being born into it. When I think about my husband, before our family came into existence, I wonder if he knew just how much of an impact he would have on this world and I wonder if he had some tiny hint inside himself, of the great things he would accomplish in the future. When I look at him today, I see a man, a wonderful and humble man who most likely does not think of himself the same way I see him. It is part of his charm; that I see his perfection and he thinks of ways he can improve himself. I see his careful and thoughtful ways towards me and our children, yet he chases after more care, still and deeper ways to show us his love. Did he know what his particular kind of love would do for our children? That it would fulfill them with deep joy that they can, in turn, pour out onto others? That it would emotionally equip them to grow up in this broken world? That it would settle them in at night, confident of their safety under his roof? Did he know his grounded, stable heart would empower the Mother of these children? Bring about a restored confidence in relationships, in marriage, that had been broken dating back to her childhood? Did he know his commitment to me would repair severed pieces I didn’t even realize existed? I think, probably the answer is no. Of course, he did not know these things. But God did. God formed my husband in his mother’s womb, just like He did the rest of us. He formed each of us for a special kind of greatness and for reasons I do not understand, I get to be the one to live beside and witness, firsthand, the greatness that is my husband. This is exactly the kind of reflection that I adore and cherish and I commission myself for a lifetime, to doing my best to show my husband what kind of wonderful he is.
Jared, today is the day before you. I had no idea my world was changing, tomorrow.
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Both the side has marriage in common. So it do not matter whether you chose your partner or your parents, the thing that matter is the commitment a marriage should have!!
The topic is that wise that every one of us has some views on that, but I really don’t know why it is always contradictory. Many people say that Arrange marriages are good because our parents have experienced their life so they can take better decision, and on the other side they say love marriages are good because it’s you, who have decided with whom you will live the whole life??
But my opinion is, it do not matter whether your marriage is love or arranged…all that matter is the bond you share with your partner. Once you got married you have many adjustment, commitments, and compromises and so on.
What if your was a love marriage and after some time you realize that your partner is not that loyal to you??
And if your parents chose the best person for you, but still you cannot cope-up??
Marriage is that stage which changes a person’s life. Either you are a boy or a girl, both of you has to understand each other. That’s the only way one can live long life with their partners. In ancient times the scenario was different from that of today, so we need to change our mentality. After you have spent 50 long years with your partner it do not matter that it was love or arranged?? That time you cherish the great time you had with each other. So once you know how special you are,, than who cares it was love or arranged!!!
This was my entry for Sony Entertainment Television and IndiBlogger competition for the program Love marriage v/s arrange marriage.


Goodness me! What's it with wives and mothers-in-law? Two women with a stake each in the life of the same man, yet will never see eye to eye. They are always at each other's throat like cat and mouse! The jealous trait of women comes out worst in these twosome.
It's true what I have heard often said. That women are their own worst enemies. I have observed that even sisters from same mother are never very close. Like you've heard the phrase used ' close like a brother'. Women are never close. They are forever comparing themselves. If you have two single girls getting on as friends, soon as one gets into a serious relationship with a man, not to speak of her getting married; enmity immediately ensues. And the friendship splits. You could never count on a woman to act maturely when she is incensed with envy. Even religion is just a tool used by women to manipulate situations in their favour. Women are selfish and users. They know this naturally and that is why they never cut themselves any slacks! The mother feels the need to protect her son from what she knows the wife is capable of, and the wife feels the same way too. Every woman agrees that a woman is next to poison. they just won't say the same when it comes to themselves.
When a woman loves, she loves selfishly and would not care if the whole world is destroyed so long as she gets what she desires. Whatever the seemingly good stuff that a woman does, she has an ulterior motive for it, count on it.
Well, show me a woman temperate in these things, and I'll show you a woman after my heart!


Saturday, September 5, 2015
Couples Who Smoke Together, Stay Together
The list is extensive but in general, not many public media outlets have shared these results.
These benefits may have an even bigger effect when marijuana is smoked between a couple. Many activities are better off shared with a partner, so why not cannabis?
Listed below are a couple of benefits when it comes to smoking weed with your partner.
One of the most common problems couples have is communication. It can be hard to express yourself to your significant other and share your thoughts on a certain subject matter.
Smoking cannabis together can help bring down any emotional walls you two might have and allows you to be more open with each other. This relaxed state can help you both reach an agreement or work on your problems.
Smoking cannabis is known to reduce both stress and anxiety.
When smoking together, try to live in the moment and share with each other what happened throughout your day that may have made you upset. Sharing these instances with one another can help you feel closer and give you a second perspective of your current situation.
According to various testimonies from cannabis users, consuming marijuana can lead to a healthier sex life.
Physical touch sensors are very sensitive when you are medicated, allowing for more pleasure during sexual intercourse. An emotional bond is also more likely to be pronounced, making you feel more in love.
Domestic violence has shown to be very low within couples who enjoy cannabis together.
You are less likely to be irritated or in a combative mood after smoking marijuana.
Having a similar hobby to share is healthy for couples that may not see each other as often as they'd like.


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Dear Love Doctor,
My husband has made it clear on a number of occasions that he prefers me with longer hair. While he is not cruel about this I find his remarks frustrating and controlling. I like my hair short and have a job where this is easier to maintain. Am I being too sensitive or is he being controlling, what are you thoughts?
Dear Love Doctor, my wife and I have been trying to get pregnant for years and even more recently have tried fertility treatments with no success. For both of us this has been really hard as we both want children, however it seems now that having children for us is unlikely and I would like to move forward however she wants to keep trying with further treatments. Our marriage seems to be at breaking point with this issue and I'm not sure how much longer we can go on when we both now want different things.


The cultural beauty of traditional Vietnamese wedding etiquettes
There are three ceremonies in a traditional Vietnamese wedding. Two of them are requirements and one is optional. It means the local people can skip one ceremony and do two others is still fine. Moreover, when two families choose the day for these three ceremonies, they have to pick a “good day” to hold. A “good day” in Vietnamese tradition follows the lunar calendar. Furthermore, it must be the day that does not against the lunar year of birth of bride and bridegroom.
A pre-engagement ceremony is the first official meeting of two families. In the traditional Vietnamese wedding meaning, this is the date when two families admit the relationship of the couple.
The pre-engagement ceremony is usually held in a simple and closed atmosphere. Two families talk closely so that they can understand each other more and build a good relationship. As a result, their daughter and son can feel free to live together with one of the two families. Due to this simpleness, it does not need to prepare complex pre-engagement presents. In this ceremony, the present is just betel leaves and areca nuts. Sometimes, there also are candies and cakes. The most important thing is that all of these presents must be in an even number.
In the traditional Vietnamese wedding, this is the event when two families announce their relationship. The bride’s family has a new son-in-law. And similarly, the bride becomes daughter-in-law of the bridegroom’s family.
Due to its important meaning, there are some etiquettes in the engagement presents. Bridegroom’s family is the one who prepares for all the presents. Those presents are put into the wedding presents trays. As the tradition, the number of trays must be an odd number meanwhile number of objects inside the tray must be an even number. List of presents must have in engagement presents are betel leaves and areca nuts, bánh su sê (a type of cake made from flour and green beans), tea, wine, cigarette, sticky rice and grilled head of a pig. It presents for the thankfulness of bridegroom’s family to the bride’s who gives them a daughter-in-law.
Additionally, the bridegroom’s family must prepare three envelopes of money. One is for the bride mother’s family, one is for bride father family. The left one is for burning incense on the ancestor in the bride’s family. The amount of money depends on the bride’s family requirement.
This ceremony is held in the bride’s family. They invite only relatives of two families joining in. At the end of the etiquette, bride and bridegroom invite their parents with tea as the way they show their thankfulness. After the ceremony, the bride’s family give the bridegroom’s family back one out of three of the presents as the way to reciprocate the bridegroom’s family.
This is the most important event of the traditional Vietnamese wedding etiquettes. If the engagement ceremony is the official announcement to relatives, this event is the official announcement to all of two families’ friends about the wedding. Therefore, the local people always put their most effort to make a wedding ceremony as perfect as possible.
Besides choosing a “good day” to hold the wedding ceremony, two families also have to choose a “good hour” to start the ceremony. It would be the best hour of that day follows the lunar calendar.
A traditional Vietnamese wedding must follow these following etiquettes:
The pre-bridal procession
Before the “good hour” for bride procession, bridegroom’s mother and another relative in his family come to the bride’s house to ask for the bride procession permission. They bring trays of betel leaves and areca nuts with wine. One more purpose of this etiquette is to announce the time bridegroom will come.
The bridal procession
In the “best hour” of the wedding day, bridegroom goes with his father and relatives to the bride’s house for the bridal procession. They go by wedding cars which are normal cars with wedding decoration. Usually, the decoration is the bouquet of red flowers and the manifest of wedding stickers. Normally, the bridegroom’s mother does not go with him. She goes to the bride’s house first to ask for the bride procession permission.
During the time of bride procession, two families introduce each other. The bridegroom’s family gives the bride’s family the trays which groom’s mother brought to the bride’s house. The bride is not allowed to appear until the groom come to take her out. After all, the bridegroom’s family asks the bride’s family to take her to her husband house. Until the bride’s family agrees, they cannot go with the bride. From this moment on, the bride becomes a member of the groom’s family.
Day to coming back bride home
In a traditional Vietnamese wedding, after a wedding ceremony, the bride and groom must come back to the bride’s home. It is a way to show newlywed’s thankfulness to the bride’s parents. Furthermore, this coming back is also a way that the groom’s family shows their respect to the bride’s family. However, it depends on the distance between two families, the time to come back from the wedding day maybe longer.
Even though these traditional Vietnamese wedding etiquettes has lasted for thousands of years, it still remains until today. In the past, Vietnamese wedding was arranged by parents. Hence, the wedding ceremony is a chance for parents to show their network power. By the time, it becomes a tradition of the local even there is not many arranged marriage today.


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This arrangement of living together will either result in getting back together after divorce or that one of you will move out eventually when the bitterness gets the best of you. Kylie Jenner's Sisters Support Her — Even If She Decides To Get Back Together With An Ex. Asking your ex to get back together can be scary, but if you take your time and learn from the past,. My ex was awsome and i knew her since i was 13 growing up together and we lost touch after a while, i came back home after a long deployment in the military one day and met her outside a night club and we got back into contact, soon we were in a relationship, i loved her a lot and was skeptical at first because i had my heart broken before as most have. It seems the first love dies hard & it's tough to get over them. Before you go down the road, think hard about what you want from your relationship. 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"We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together" is a pop and bubblegum pop song; its lyrics depict Swift's frustrations at an ex-lover who wants to rekindle their relationship. One woman who broke up and then created a very public getting back together success story is singing superstar Pink. Give as much detail as possible and recommend whatever website or Love Spell Caster you desire. I know you feel lost now, but you owe it to yourself to take the time to reflect on whether to win him or her back. Do you keep praying for your ex? I was praying I would get back together with mine, but that isn’t the type of praying I’m referring to here. getting back together with ex stories. Today I share a story of a client. NC alone is not going to help you get back together. Will My Ex Come Back: These Four Signs Suggest They Might! 4. According to research, roughly 50 percent of couples who breakup end up giving it another go. So let go of over-thinking about the other. 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The song was released as the lead single from Red on August 13, 2012, by Big Machine Records. The real purpose of the No Contact Rule is to get YOURSELF back … not your Ex. The few times we visited. Entertainment Roundup: Janet Jackson and ex, Jermaine Dupri may be getting back together; Faze releases new music | More stories Featured , Thinking Through November 24, 2017 | Tolu. Only 6 percent of the total people who get divorced get remarried to the same person. There are lots of stories where couples get back together after years of being apart, but can this really the case?. Breakups and divorces can be very painful, and not everybody will get over them easily. This is no contact to get your ex girlfriend back remember, so if she’s gonna force a meet, then at least make it be a situation where she’s the one coming to you. I gave a possible opportunity to get back in contact with my first love after nearly 20 years. A frequent customer at Blue 44 in Chevy Chase, Maryland visited the place for a few quarts of gumbo. Tiger Woods and ex-wife Elin Nordegren are in a much better place nearly a decade after a bombshell sex scandal broke up their marriage in 2009 and 2010. Said he still wants me in his life but not as a girlfriend right now. My Success Story - Lisa. Getting back with an ex after years apart is possible but you must first be able to talk to that person; not a just sporadic conversation here of there. We'll probably come along together to another workshop in 2013 and look forward to seeing you both then. Share This Story. Ambivalence also explains why it's so common to get back together, breakup again, and repeat. Now, I don't recommend doing what I did back then as a test whether you are over your Ex or not. Attracting back your ex really does happen, but you have to let go. Let them wait a while and take as much time as you want to evaluate the person again before you get back. 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Yes it might bring him or her back but the underlying issues won’t have been resolved and you’ll end up in the same place again. Since an ex who wants you back is likely to do the opposite of what you expect, here are four real signs that he secretly wants you back. Then, I dumped him. This, of course, is to each other. If your ex is with someone else, he or she may not be in a hurry to get back together because s/he wants to see if the other relationship offers more. Did you ever feel like you had gave up hope and that getting them back was impossible? I don't want my ex back, I just want to hear some stories so please answer. Getting back together with your ex is like returning to a save point on a video game. The process of getting back together after a break up is a very delicate issue and one that you need to tackle carefully in order to succeed. Love Spell Success Stories Love Spells that Work! Share your story, comment, review or testimonial concerning any and all Love Spells, Money Spells, Attraction Spell, Binding Spell etc. You have to let them go. If you often had explosive sex and did crazy things together, there is always the temptation of getting back together just for a romp in the sheets. Instead of moving forward towards someone who will actually make you happy, you’re relegating yourself to relationship purgatory with a guy who didn’t treat you right the first time around. Exes Getting Back Together Stories ★[ EXES GETTING BACK TOGETHER STORIES ]★ Sweetest Message To A Boyfriend ★ Exes Getting Back Together Stories ★★ Get your Ex Boyfriend. 2 weeks later I had a one night stand with someone I don’t know. You can do it too. Reading a few of the stories made me wonder how common this is. How to get your ex wife back: Introspection and Focusing on Yourself. He didn't changed his fb password. Mar 9, 2015. When he told me he couldn't have children, we both spoke to our parents and we told them we wanted to marry. YouTube star Lele Pons raised some eyebrows Saturday night when she kissed her on again, off again boyfriend Juanpa Zurita during the MTV MIAW Awards in Mexico City. Should I believe them? Dr Petra Boynton, the Telegraph's sex and relationship agony aunt, offers advice to a reader who has recently left a. You may know from personal experience that getting back together with an ex can be bad news, but now there's science to back this up. After a relationship has ended, there are times when your ex may come back into your life. 55 minutes ago · 'Back To Life' sheds light on sensitive issue of how return of ex-convicts affect families with British humor through Miri’s fumbling parents The caring father is happy the family is back together. The truth is, giving your ex space now is your best chance of getting him back later. Now is the time for you to get rid of those bad characters and make yourself the real nice person. Last night he called me, and he was under the influence of LSD (his first time doing drugs) and confessed to me that he cheated on me twice with a girl back in high school… he said they had sex twice, and the places he took her to have sex, are the exact same places he. The guilt of what we’ve done is so affecting that we want you to know that we aren’t really that person any longer or that we never really were that person. Let them wait a while and take as much time as you want to evaluate the person again before you get back. Sometimes in order to make a positive change we have to step out from the traditional clothing. 10 Potent Psychological/Emotional Triggers to Get Your Ex Back. “Reuniting with an ex can alleviate much of the anxiety that you may face when dating someone new,” explains Manvelian. My story in relations to the Love Dare is a little older, however, I am so very excited to have just found this site today. And that mediocrity is sometimes enough to warrant getting back together. My ex and I were dating 3 years and we broke up 3 times. So in the absence of that, as hard as it is, the only logical thing to do is to move on. 12 months on I still support my ex and children with 50/50 on school fees etc and pay a considerate amount of child support. The rumour started right after Rana congratulated Arya, who announced his wedding with Sayyeshaa on Valentine's Day. Not because you are afraid of being alone or you just don’t want them to be with someone else. In September 2015, Selena Gomez told ELLE "I don't know!" whether or not she'd ever get back together with Justin Bieber—the guy she officially broke up with in 2012, but had been on and off. What Those Dreams About Your Ex Really Mean. You often feel sad because this truly signals that the ex has moved on and you're not getting back together. The worries that you have been having to get your ex back permanently will be over. No matter what issues you may face, this step-by-step program shows you how to take the initiative, reconcile your differences, and remake your relationship--from the ground up. Bears and Wild Animals. Sometimes you have to give love a second chance—no matter what the dating rulebook says. 21 Celeb Couples Who Broke Up Only to Get Back Together Again The couple showed off some PDA on the model's Instagram story after it appeared they The "Ex's & Oh's" crooner. She’s beginning to wonder if getting back together was a big mistake. First let me start by saying that if you're trying to get a girl back, that already tells me you dropped the ball in a big way the first time around. getting back together with ex stories. Getting an ex back is a lot easier than most guys might think. They are now in the process of getting divorced again. Our reasons for allowing narcissistic ex-partners back into our lives can be even deeper and darker - they go beyond everyday dysfunction and have to do with the effects of abuse. Getting back together just for the sake of the kids is a bad idea. Read my Text Your Ex Back review below to find out if this program is right for you. Leah Messer and Ex Jeremy Calvert Get Their Flirt On in the Comments on Instagram: ‘Props to You’ I don’t want the fantasy of her wanting us to get back together to affect her — I want. 'Making that difficult decision to cut off contact with an ex is a wise one' Material promoting to help get your ex back only prolongs the heartache, as those who have been dumped emotionally. Exes Getting Back Together Stories ★[ EXES GETTING BACK TOGETHER STORIES ]★ Sweetest Message To A Boyfriend ★ Exes Getting Back Together Stories ★★ Get your Ex Boyfriend. Sucessful reconciliation after 8 months- my story 8 Months broken up w/ 6 months of not seeing each other, 4 months NC and We are back together! I've been wanting to post my success story here for awhile now but it's hard to try to sum up everything that's happened in the past year. Unless BOTH you AND your spouse are you willing to work on your relationship, your reconciliation is not likely to go well. Frank Catania is an entrepreneur who owns several businesses. 21 Celeb Couples Who Broke Up Only to Get Back Together Again The couple showed off some PDA on the model's Instagram story after it appeared they The "Ex's & Oh's" crooner. We were being transparent to the Russians about what we were doing, and the Russians had not publicly released a phone call in some 25 years. There’s a possibility for a permanent footprint in your brain when it comes to your first love. While most people need a break immediately following a break-up, a person who professes to still care about you should reach out if only to see how you are doing. Getting Back Together With Your Ex Girlfriend Reversing your breakup can often be a hard-won battle, fought step by step to win your girlfriend over. The guilt of what we’ve done is so affecting that we want you to know that we aren’t really that person any longer or that we never really were that person. Altec, Hi-Ranger, Lift-All, Terex, Versalift, Duralift, MTI, Aerial Lift of love quotes tagalog tumblr sweet Connecticut, and Prentice. Its hard actually because its scary, but let yourself go with the flow and have faith. Look at Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis!According to Science Daily, almost 50 percent of couples break up and get back together. com) Hello, i am Jessica Wayne from TX, USA. The problem is that getting that second chance…. 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But their love story wasn't done. 17 hours ago · Definite Signs That Your Ex Wants To Get Back Together Is your Ex behaving in a strange manner with you? Do you think he wants to get back to you? Is he giving you signs that he want to get back together with you? LikeLoveQuotes. Your dream is trying to help you keep a decent relationship with the ex for the sake of the children, which is another reason why — and I hear this a lot — someone who's divorced [might] hate their ex but keep dreaming they're getting back together, or that they're having sex [with their ex] even though they swear they would never do. When I split up with my ex (the one I dream about), I took it really hard and for a couple of years after hoped we would get back together but never did. As impossible as it may seen, even if you haven't spoken with your ex in a month and you fear it's over, even if it seems like it's hopeless, there are concrete steps you can take to increase the odds of getting back your relationship. You’ll regret for life if you miss last chance of getting Ex Recovery System“. Three months ago, I found your blog and bought your ebook at a time when I had lost all hope because I didn’t know where to start. Much like herpes, exes always come back. If this is your question, let me give you the very best metaphysical answer possible: "Act as if you will Never Get Back Together. If you've been broken up for a longer period of time and would like to start dating your ex boyfriend again, getting back together is actually a lot easier than if you'd just stopped seeing each other. Adopt A Highway: A Search For Purpose In a Ex-Convict Story. It will show you why your relationship goes south and how you can bring your ex girlfriend back with the help of text messages. Before you head down this path, make sure you take the time to figure out if you truly want your ex back for all the right reasons. If you think about getting back together after divorce, statistics are rather gloomy. Karen felt hopeful when she and her ex-boyfriend initially got back. Now is the time for you to get rid of those bad characters and make yourself the real nice person. The ideal time for you to meet the new person in your ex’s life is when the relationship becomes serious and the new person becomes involved with your kids. If you do have children, don't let them know you're dating again for a while. '90 Day Fiance' spoilers: Are Rebecca Parrot and Zied Hakimi still together? Did the '90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days' couple split?. Why You Shouldn't Get Back Together With Your Ex Your relationship has ended. is a man content with working hard at a fast food joint as he slowly puts the pieces of his life back together. 3 Successful Ways of Getting Back Together After a Break-up We already know that breaking up is hard to do, but have you ever heard that getting back together can be just as tough? Deciding to get back together with a person you have already been involved with tends to be very emotional. 14 Things I Learned From Getting Back Together With An Ex. The BBC has paid tribute to journalist and presenter Julian Keane who has died after a long illness. Romantic Quotes about Getting Back Together. This is supported by myriad evidence, including the. restaurant. If this doesn't make sense, it is because Chris's son was really two-years-old at the time, not five as he is portrayed to be in the movie The Pursuit of Happyness. It happens. Sometimes in striving to get back together, you may seem so helpless, you might start feeling that probably you shouldn’t try. Rachel and Ross, Alex and Piper, Serena and Dan: We're all too familiar with the. Getting back together with your ex means facing the hurt and rejection you've experienced before, which can be a hurdle to your relationship getting off to a good, and lasting, start. I didn't know if we'd ever get back together, but I did know he was eligible for a 0 percent interest credit card. relationship stories of manifestation: Please note: By leaving a story, you are agreeing that all stories are true and accurate and that you are releasing your story to this site for others to view. Share stories of you and your ex rekindling your love and getting back together successfully jake64 5 years ago. There is also a possibility that your ex can't land a good hookup and wants to get back with you to get his fix. Real Housewives Of New York Star Tinsley Mortimer & Scott Kluth Are Back Together…Again by Naomi on October 21st, 2019 Albert Einstein once said Insanity is doing the same thing over and over. We would always break up and then later on, no matter how much time went by we would always end up getting back together. He didn't block me. Try out this 1 Weird Trick To Get Your Ex Back here…. Then he ex-boyfriend comes in the picture, and tries to ruin Zak and Marcy. 10 TOP INDICATORS Your Ex Will Come Back. It leaves us with nothing but negativity There has got to be some success stories out there. In Jan of 2010 my husband filed for divorce. restaurant. They worked so well that sometimes I felt like a puppeteer pulling the strings! My story ended happily; my boyfriend and I are back together again. Let them wait a while and take as much time as you want to evaluate the person again before you get back. If this is your question, let me give you the very best metaphysical answer possible: "Act as if you will Never Get Back Together. You often feel sad because this truly signals that the ex has moved on and you're not getting back together. Call me a typical romantic or just delusional, but I do believe that if two people are meant to be together, they will always find their way back to one another. However, it is in your best interest to always, after a breakup, act as if there is no chance. Breaking up image via Shutterstock. They win nothing if they do, except supposed happiness. She knew what I was doing, because she was no idiot, but at the time I was kind of an idiot myself about women, and I thought handwriting analysis was my clever pickup subterfuge. Sometimes in order to make a positive change we have to step out from the traditional clothing. I didn't know if we'd ever get back together, but I did know he was eligible for a 0 percent interest credit card. In a video posted to Twitter by Nana Jibril, a little girl recounted the dramatic tale of what happened when her boyfriend broke up with her and then decided he wanted to get back together. Posted by : Matt Adams | In Part 1 I started telling you my story of life with an obsessive ex. Reading a few of the stories made me wonder how common this is. Some relationships have a better foundation and others were nothing but a series of one night stands. In episode three, Olivia Baker bumped into Spencer's ex-girlfriend Kia Williams and fans are delighted to see her again. Other times it may be a shared history, or a sense of easiness, or at. Friends With Benefits: Donald and Rudy’s Long, Strange Partnership. Dating Your Ex. Our worlds need to fall apart, so we can put them back together the way they were meant to be. If time apart has given both parties a new perspective on their relationship, it’s important that this is discussed openly in order to effect change for the future, and it may be worth considering counselling to give your second attempt a better chance of success. There are two main reasons why your ex (who consistently treated you poorly), did this. How To Take The Last Step of Getting Over Your Ex. I do believe that God can bring two people back together if it’s in His will. The Cure's Robert Smith looks back on 40 years of the band, ahead of the release of the concert film, '40 Live – Curætion-25 + Anniversary' Rolling Stone Send Us a Tip. You will get your ex back and your relationship will be better than ever! I want to hear your story, leave me a comment below. “It’s that old adage of the ‘tears of a clown’. There are gives and takes, ups and downs, and of course the rocking of backs and forths. “Back Together,” which features a verse from Nicki Minaj, is Thicke’s second single since his divorce from ex-wife Paula Patton, the mother of his 5-year-old son, and a $7. Did you ever feel like you had gave up hope and that getting them back was impossible? I don't want my ex back, I just want to hear some stories so please answer. This book will show you how to take the initiative, reconcile your differences, and. And all is done without the generic advice of bringing up the talk, sourpuss attitude (in the name of "boundaries") and ultimatums. The following success stories are based on the most common of the 100s of ex back cases that I’ve personally worked on with clients. When your ex who broke your heart for whatever reason, comes back into your life, it’s an opportunity, just not for what you think. Does anyone have any success stories about getting back together after a break up and needing space? I'd love to hear them to help keep myself hopeful. There's a lot there musically as well. Exes Getting Back Together Stories ★[ EXES GETTING BACK TOGETHER STORIES ]★ Sweetest Message To A Boyfriend ★ Exes Getting Back Together Stories ★★ Get your Ex Boyfriend. They got married in 1997. Getting back together is the solid, comprehensive guide you can count on to get your relationship back on track. This list is NOT about. Your ex may, or may not, be the right one for you. Maybe your ex-spouse got custody after your divorce, or child protective services removed them from your home for cause. Get your ex lover back before Xmas and new year urgently ([email protected] You cringe when hear the word “commitment”. The show is about Rebecca Bunch (Bloom), a successful, overworking and severely. A mathematical algorithm then analyzes your answers and calculates the odds of winning your ex back. To make a long story short he would lie about pretty much everything. well,this time things are completely different from the first story I made about him. On a mean, 70, 000 will my cheating ex boyfriend come back pilgrims go to the temple daily to worship the presiding deity of Master Sri Venkateshwara, a form of Lord Vishnu. Today I share a story of a client. Whatever that means to you. while she lied to me about court and his allegations. Sometimes in striving to get back together, you may seem so helpless, you might start feeling that probably you shouldn’t try. So in the absence of that, as hard as it is, the only logical thing to do is to move on. You wonder if wanting to get back together with your ex will fade or if the feeling means you were never meant to break up in the first place. Jenni 'JWoww' Farley and Boyfriend Zack Are Back Together After Split: Reports they both appeared to share videos taken during the trip on their Instagram Stories. Tiger Woods is a single man these days, but he may not still be over his ex-wife Elin Nordegren. Once you regain your composure, you can then use the laws of the universe to guide you towards your dreams and goals. You want to get back together "for the kids. How often do high school sweethearts (first love) get back together later in life? whether a few years later or many years. Getting back together with your ex is like returning to a save point on a video game. Today's Morning Edition music is from Taylor Swift with "We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together," which was released on her album "Red" five years ago this week. Manifesting Your Ex Back: That is when the Law Of Attraction came into my life. Breaking up image via Shutterstock. I'm dead inside from all my ex and his lawyers WITH turning my eldest (not his) daughter against me. Thinking of getting back with an ex? Consider following these 12 rules for getting back together with a former boyfriend, according to relationship experts. Why You Shouldn't Get Back Together With Your Ex Your relationship has ended. It was good in some ways, because we ended up doing things together that we would not have done pre-breakup #1. Taylor Swift has stated that she has written songs about all of her ex-boyfriends, and that they are the greatest inspiration for her. Share This Story. By Jenna James. If you aren't willing to let go of the past, then you won't have much of a future together. Today, we’re going to talk about why your ex doesn’t respond when you text them and what to do when your ex doesn’t text you back. If you have a child or business together, it stands to reason that you and your ex would remain in contact— but this can remain very business-like. She said: "After listening toTricia interview (as a part of Goddess Interview of the monhtly membership, you can get it here) I must post how good. we got back together 3 days ago, and he was trying to prove himself to me. Help and relationship coaching to get an ex back for good. Tivett's success story - "Yangki, I want to first of all say thank. Get your ex back fast with the help of an expert in Coach Lee Wilson who can coach you how to get the one you love to get back together with you after a breakup. The Extra Baggage. Does anyone have any stories of seeing their ex and old feelings came back and got back together?. What it is, is a last-ditched effort at hanging on for dear life. I get the appeal. I met Lisa at a Chinese restaurant. Real Housewives Of New York Star Tinsley Mortimer & Scott Kluth Are Back Together…Again by Naomi on October 21st, 2019 Albert Einstein once said Insanity is doing the same thing over and over. For whatever reason, you are now apart from your ex, and you miss him! It's time to take charge of your future and find a way to get him back with you again. It doesn’t have to be a permanent break, but it is the. my ex boyfriend and i have been on and off for 2 years. The BBC has paid tribute to journalist and presenter Julian Keane who has died after a long illness. success stories of exes getting back together. Science says getting back together with your ex could be bad for your health On the streets at London Fashion Week spring/summer 2019. " In some cases, I can certainly read a future possibility of coming together again. They kind of always have a tiny place in your heart. Oritte Bendory is a Manhattan based writer and blogger at The Cougel Chronicles: Tales of a Jewish Cougar (Or, If Carrie Bradshaw was Jewish and divorced Big). It leaves us with nothing but negativity There has got to be some success stories out there. They say they’re a family, and they believe that. Then, I dumped him. “Back Together,” which features a verse from Nicki Minaj, is Thicke’s second single since his divorce from ex-wife Paula Patton, the mother of his 5-year-old son, and a $7. If the two of you were having sex and now, after the breakup, your ex has no one for that, your ex might come back to you to fulfill that need. Getting Back Together: How To Reconcile With Your Partner – And Make It Last by Bettie B. If you're thinking of getting back together with an ex, take a few moments and ask yourself these 7 questions dating experts say are important. Do it, only if you are sure that you want to get back together in a relationship with her. College first year, Boyfriend X and I start dating.


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Guest Post by Randell D. Turner, Ph.D.
DCG DADvisory Team Member
At a recent graduation ceremony, a father looked around as parents, family members, classmates, and friends hugged and took photos with the graduates. Through the crowd, he saw a man crying openly as he waited to hug her. As the two embraced, the father saw the emotion on the man’s face and heard him say to the girl, “I am so proud of you!”
The father was surprised by the man’s reaction, not because the girl’s achievement didn’t deserve recognition, but because the man was her stepfather. For the first time, the father truly realized the remarkable impact this stepfather had had on his daughter’s life. The father finally understood the depth of the stepfather’s love, even though the girl was not his own flesh and blood.
In the United States, nearly half of all children will live with a stepfather, foster father, uncle, or man other than their biological father sometime during their childhood. Yet many fathers are concerned when a new man enters the life of their children’s mother. They’ve heard, among other things, stories about stepfathers who abuse their stepchildren. And many biological fathers view the new man as a threat to the relationship they have with their children.
Tradition often contributes to this confrontational attitude.
As boys, many of us played games in which someone wins and everyone else loses. So as boys grow and eventually become fathers, many often see the world through this same prism. When another man comes into their children’s lives, he’s viewed as a rival for their affection. Instead of talking to the stepfather about working cooperatively to raise the children, many dads go out of their way to make sure the new man appears inferior in the children’s eyes. That way, dads believe they will remain in “first place” in a contest for their children’s love. They may not think about the benefits of a stepfather’s involvement.
When a stepfather or foster father is considered a partner rather than an adversary, however, extended co-parenting can be mutually-beneficial, not only for the men involved but especially for the children.
Building a parenting partnership might be as frightening for stepfathers as it is for biological dads. They might begin to establish a positive relationship merely by communicating through email or text. Putting feelings and ideas into words can give dads time to think about what they want to say and how best to say it. It’s then helpful to follow up to confirm the stepdad has received their message. Once communication is launched, dads and stepdads should talk about:
What are their children’s needs?
What are the children’s strengths?
How can both men encourage their children to develop them?
Where are the children struggling? and
How can dad and stepdad help them through any difficulties?
An excellent area for dads and stepdads to work together is school and homework. If they agree on routines, rules, and expectations related to school and homework – and dad and stepdad agree to aim for consistency in enforcing the rules – they can jointly create a more stable environment for the children’s development. The children will feel twice as important as they see two men working together toward their best interests. Dad’s cooperation with their stepfather also will help reduce or eliminate potential feelings of betrayal and guilt the children might have if they show they care for their stepfather.
Having a stepfather or foster father in their lives does not mean children need their fathers any less. In fact, as a separated or divorced dad, a biological father’s positive involvement is particularly important to children.
A father should take time to get to know his children’s stepfather in order to become more skilled at sensing when something is wrong. He should become aware of the stepfather’s needs, moods, personalities, and overall development as their children grow. By the same token, if children believe their father has a genuine interest in their lives (and not merely “going through the motions” of caring) they may be more willing to confide in him and share their thoughts and emotions when something is bothering them. A dad’s involvement and openness also can pave the way for children to have an equally honest relationship with their stepfather or foster father.
Many men work very hard to be good stepfathers, foster fathers, uncles, and role models. If children are lucky enough to have one of these good men in their lives, biological dads should try to get past any insecurities or jealousies they may have in order to work with this man for the sake of their children. Fathers and stepfathers/foster fathers will need to have patience, understanding, and often a sense of humor. But as with any potential long-term relationship, the benefits will come if they stick with it.
One man can make a positive difference in the life of a child. But two working together with the children’s best interests at heart can more than double the effect.
Randell Turner, Ph.D. is a dad to two daughters, granddad to seven grandchildren, an author, counselor, and a pioneer in the men’s and fatherhood movement. Specializing in healthy masculine intimacy, he has dedicated more than 20 years to working with men who feel broken, rejected, isolated, and lonely because of their struggles with “intimacy ignorance.” His personal and professional experience inspired the creation of “Rescuing the Rogue,” designed to equip men in forging intimate relationships to last a lifetime. For more information on his daddying work, visit his website Unbreakable Bond.


[dropcaps type=’normal’ font_size=’65’ color=’#ed145b’ background_color=” border_color=”]A[/dropcaps]re you single and happy by choice? Or have gotten your heart broken just recently? Regardless of the situation, this goes out to the single squad.
While there might be some of you fretting over the fact that you can’t find a compatible partner, don’t forget that there is also someone out there wanting to find a way out of a destructive relationship. We all know people secretly miserable in a relationship. YOU ARE LIVING SOMEONE’S FANTASY! CHERISH IT!
Being single comes with innumerable advantages; trust me only when you read all the reasons why.
1. LOTS AND LOTS OF SLEEP!
Now you can make up for all the nights you spent on phone talking to your significant other. Sleep for hours and hours without having to worry about someone waiting for you to wake up and message them, without having someone to call you in the middle of your peaceful warm fuzzy cozy…(getting carried away) slumber.
Unlike in a relationship, you can work on knowing yourself better. You can do all the things that while being in a relationship were holding you back. Take up a hobby, volunteer for good, run a drama marathon, wear all your favorite clothes that your ex disliked.
Now that you have sufficient cash, and enough peace, shower self with gifts, go get yourself pampered at a salon, buy yourself a perfect meal, relax at a spa, that too with no check-in texts needed (Where? With whom? What time will you be home?). HA!


Sunday, April 22, 2012
The Love of His Life
I must tell you that I have a real problem with obituaries (and other pieces of writing) that describe someone as the "love of his (or her) life." Unless you know for a fact that you two were destined, for all eternity, to be each others' soulmates (not likely!), AND actually do spend your entire lives together rather than with other people, this person is not (by my definition anyway) the love of your life. . . . A situation in which someone might possibly be called the love of one's life gets complicated in societies which permit divorce (i.e. most societies, hopefully). Here's an example. John and Mary get married. They have two children, John Jr., and Mary Jr. John and Mary later realize that they are (long story short) not compatible after all. They divorce. John later marries Beth. Mary later marries Jim. Many years later, John dies. His obituary reads, "Beth was the love of his life." How do you think John Jr. and Mary Jr. feel about this? It's too bad that he married Mary and had two children with her before he realized that Beth was actually "the love of his life" ! There are plenty of other ways to say that you deeply love someone or spent X number of wonderful years with someone without saying that this person was "the love of my life." OK, that's the end of my complaint.


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Stéphanie: Stephane, wait. Do you feel better?
Stephane: I’m going to work
Stéphanie: I just wanted to know if you’re okay.
Stephane: Yeah I’m super fine thanks.
Stéphanie: So I get it, so you dont want to be my friend anymore?
Stephane: No! I don’t want to be your friend anymore!I don’t want to be your friend anymore! Do I have to nail it on your door? “I don’t want to be your friend.”
Stéphanie: No you, you can’t, you can’t stop being my friend. It’s not something people can decide.
Stephane: Oh yeah they can. People have an argument and they stop talking to each other.
Stéphanie: Okay then lets have a date or something and we can talk about things if thats whats you want.
Stephane: Whats the point you’ll just want me as your friend and then you’ll have a really nice boyfriend and that will kill me.


Eleven years ago today, under the full moon, my love and I were wed. Even though we chose Dias de los Muertos to be our anniversary we chose not to say the words 'til death do us part" in our vows. Eleven years ago it was simply that seperation through death didn't resonate and neither one of us believed in the idea of a jail sentence.
I mean no offense to anyone who says these words in their marriage vows and I understand the meaning behind it for many. What I mean when I say jail sentence is yes, on our wedding day we were deeply in love and our intention was to share and build a life together, but we also loved each other enough to know that if one of us ever decided we were happier outside the marriage that the other would let them go in peace. It may sound strange but marriage for us felt more like stepping into freedom, not a contract, a place where we could make up the rules as we went along without trying to predict the future or write the ending.
Today I find that til death do us part holds deeper meaning than what I originally thought. Jimmy and I have been together fifteen years now and with time comes transition. What I have learned in my marriage so far is that as an evolving human being - one who makes mistakes, isn't perfect and has shed many layers through the years - is that when we take the literal shadow meaning of inevitable death out of the picture, the metaphor becomes one for growth, expansion, new life.
As two humans walking on different spiritual paths of personal growth Jimmy and I have both died a hundred deaths I imagine throughout our marriage and if that meant we were to part each time transition took place, we would be in serious trouble.
I don't believe marriage is about becoming one, we are already connected. I don't believe in the idea of "you complete me" in all it's Hollywood romance. I believe resentment arises when we try to write the story and the script for our partners in such a way that they aren't able to act it out according to our vision - I've tried that method, it doesn't work.
I believe any romantic relationship is a partnership where each person takes self responsibility for what they bring to it. I believe that a partner who can hold the space for transition and change without holding a deep sorrow or mourning for what "once was" and feel safe to be who they are is an honest and beautiful honoring of that love. I also believe in some marriages that letting go is the best way to honor a love that once was.
In our marriage, when we are able to hold space for each other, free from judgement and safe to share truth without taking it personal is where we find ourselves in harmony. It's what allows us to choose trust daily and laugh deeply often. It's not always easy and there was a time where we both questioned if we had come to the end our our road. Thankfully the answer to that question was no, there is so much more for us to explore together, and I happily celebrate today, so proud of us and our journey so far and am grateful for the whole of it. We have grown together and individually, we have brought forth two beautiful girls and continue the work of partnering and building a life we love living... together. Met with love. Rooted in gratitude. Allowed to bend. Free to grow.
Fifteen years ago yesterday I met Jimmy at a Halloween party. Some part of my soul recognized him instantly and shortly after our meeting he gave me a card with an illustration of a magical ship that was flying over the sea. He said it reminded him of us.
Over time that ship has collected many treasured sun-kissed skies, traveled far and wide and weathered a few severely stormy seas over the years. Through it all I am happy to say we remain anchored in love.
I love you, Jimmy. I'm so grateful to have you as my shipmate on this incredible adventure we are continuously navigating together.


Let me just say a little bit about Hani. I remember the first time we met.. on the bus. haha hence the name busmate. Being the gentleman I am(ahem), I remember offering her a seat one day. Those were the days when Clarys did not really think of saving a seat for me. So, I moved to sit inside and we sat together and did the human thing, talk. It wasn't long before we discovered we had the same ESL lecturer, the sporting Ms Rachel.
Anyway, it has been more than half a year since we have known each other and we became much more than mere 'busmates'. We became friends, if you know what i mean. Haha i mean, we became friends that actually care, share, joke, and study (nerded for Mid Year) together and not just seeing each other on the bus while camwhoring the whole journey back.
Hani.. .. ..
WE'RE GONNA MISS YOU!