Thursday, November 19, 2009
Let me tell you about a modern blind date. A good friend called me and asked if I were willing to meet a new man. What a question. Of course I was. She told me his name - he is someone quite well known in Israel - although I couldn't remember what he looked like. And - he said himself that he wanted to meet someone. (That's a good sign already, no?)
Aha! - I said to myself. I'll Google him - see what he looks like - learn a bit about him - be a bit prepared. And so I did.
When I arrived at the restaurant I recognized him immediately - remember, I Googled him - and walked over to greet him. "Hello", I said. "I recognized you because I Googled you". ( I thought that was a good beginning. Let him know that I was clever and computer literate.)
"Hello", he replied. "I didn't know what you looked like because you have no picture on Google - but I Googled you, too, and already know a lot about you".
Was that a good thing or a bad thing? He had read some of my blogs - about 15 or 20 of them - so he had a fair idea of where I stand politically, what I do in my spare time, what I read, my opinions on a lot of issues - you get the idea....you read my blogs.
And - he had already made up his mind that we weren't going to "work" together. How do I know? He told me so! The first thing he said to me was that we weren't on the same page politically - so we wouldn't discuss politics. Ooookaaay. Mind you, I didn't mind that we have opposing political views. (I already knew that - I read it on Google.) It makes life more interesting - I know what I think - I'd like to know what someone else thinks.
Then he told me that he noticed that I was a foodie and he was, too, and that I shouldn't think for a minute that he doesn't know how to cook. That was great with me. I love having company when I cook.
He continued by saying that he read that I have a lot of friends with whom I spend a great deal of time. He does not particularly like to be with people and I should understand that if we were to be together I would have to live a "split" life. My life with him and just with him - and my outgoing social life with my friends, without him. I should understand that if I invited him for dinner he would probably refuse the invitation. (I don't think so.)
I have a great life. The only reason I would consider adding someone to my life is to enhance it.
The truth is we ate and drank and talked for three hours. And we got on well together. Maybe if we'd had a chance to meet without Google getting in the way we might have decided we liked each other "in spite of.....".
As it was, Google had made up his mind for him. So - I'm not sure whether to say "Thank you Google for saving me a lot of time in a relationship that was not going to go anywhere." - or - "Damn you Google for putting the kibosh on a relationship before it ever had a chance to begin".
Was the old kind of blind date better? Her friend said she was gorgeous and funny and his friend said he was gorgeous and rich - now go knock yourselves out.
OK friends - keep looking - I'm still available.


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Tuesday, 17 February 2015
Love. It seems like a fitting topic given Valentine's Day has just been. We all experience it, albeit in different ways. Love can manifest itself in a variety of circumstances, often with unexpected people. While it's nice to be loved, there's something far more precious, at least for me. I live for loving. To have another allow you to love them - for them to be vulnerable enough to accept your adoration and encouragement - that's what's truly special about love. So while others may wish away "bloody Valentine's" for it reminds them of a romantic love they are missing; I look forward to the gentle reminder on February the 14th to express my appreciation for the family and friends whom I cherish.


Does it get any cuter than this?This is Ian, the very special recipient of the quilt. I think the smile says it all! I didn’t meet him until last year, but I fell in love with him immediately. Ian’s dad Andy is one of the most amazingly wonderful friends I have ever had, so it’s no surprise that his son is also awesome. This picture brings a smile to my heart – and my face!


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This week I was going to post more great things about college, and about how much I’m enjoying it. Which is a lot. I fucking love college right now. I thought though after a few minor things occurred this week online that I should maybe write a little bit about them. So this week is about overcoming break ups.
Contrary to previous postings, generally I am not a male whore. I’m usually very monogamous, I have never cheated on a partner, and in some ways I still retain a Ted Mosby-esque belief that someday I’ll meet “the one”. These days I’m not such a hopeless romantic, but somewhere in my core I think there still is, which sounds ridiculously cheesy. Anyway…
There have been 2 major relationships in my life. One lasted the best part of a year, the other 9 months. The latter was my first big relationship. This was the first person I fell in love with, this was the person who I first thought I’d have a real future with. For the most part when we were together we were inseparable. We were the couple who knew what each other was thinking, we were that couple who naturally gelled together, but mostly we were that annoying couple who did everything together. We had talked about moving in together, getting married, and raising children. For me it was perfect. So when it all ended I struggled to come to terms with why this had happened. When our relationship ended, she said it was because she needed “space to get to know herself again”. A few weeks later I found out she was seeing another guy. For the longest time I thought she had cheated on me with him and left me for this man. This was 4 years ago.
A year later I was talked into joining an online dating site. After about a month I began exchanging messages with a girl who lived 15 miles away. Soon after we began dating, and things quickly became serious. After a while we fell in love, and became that annoying couple everyone hates. I was painfully aware of how my prior relationship had turned out and was hesitant to become as attached as I had been before. Although we shared a lot, and she knew of my past history, I became quite detached at times. For her I think this was quite difficult. In private we’d be quite close, whereas in public I’d tend to let her drift away. I don’t think this was a conscious effort, but I understood where I may have been coming from subconsciously. The result was combustive.
We’d usually have at least one major argument once a month, and at least once a month she’d threaten to end it. Two years to the day, on the anniversary my first relationship ended, we ended ours. This was a hard time for me, 2 rejections on the same date was destroying. We eventually made up 3 months later promising we’d be more considerate to one another, and after 5 months of arguing, false break ups, and making up we broke up for the final time, one week before Christmas. She broke up with me, but then a week later wanted to get back together. I had simply had enough. I really loved the girl, but we just weren’t working, we were a horrible couple, and I couldn’t see a happy future for either of us. This was almost 2 years ago.
This week a message began circulating that Facebook had a bug and had begun publishing private messages from as far back as 2007 onto the Timeline on people’s Facebook profiles. (See this article and/or this video:
General feedback said that you could check your timeline to verify whether this has occurred to you, but also to “hide” these messages on your timeline. This, for most people, meant travelling back to your life online 5 years ago. For me, this was right around the time of these 2 relationships – the first beginning in 2007, ending in 2008 – the last beginning in 2009, ending in 2010. Fortunately I didn’t find any private messages published, I did however find the profiles of my ex-girlfriends.
My first ex I had unfriended not long after we had broken up. We’ve only seen each other in passing maybe 3 times since then, on all occasions in the street and from a distance, and I had never wanted to speak to her again. I still don’t. I knew she was still with the guy she had apparently met after breaking up with me, I heard as recent as last year that they were engaged. Her name appeared on my timeline no longer as her maiden name, but with the surname of the man she had been with for the last 4 years. They were now married. I never harboured any desires to rekindle anything with her, but in some way I had hoped that maybe her life had become as fucked up as mine had. The truth is though, I don’t feel anything. I don’t feel depressed that she’s now married to a man she may have cheated on me with. I don’t feel angry that she has moved on, almost without a second thought towards me. I don’t feel happy that she seems to be happy. I feel nothing. I feel as if a burden has somehow been lifted. I felt closure.
Scrolling through the remaining dates and messages I became a little curious, I wondered if my recent ex still had messages on my wall, and if maybe she had reactivated her Facebook account (she had shut down her Facebook at some point around our first break up). We managed to remain friends to a degree, but the last time we spoke was shortly after my grandmother’s death last year. Since then we’d drifted apart, I think her moreso than I for once.
After discovering my first ex was now married I wondered where she was now. This is where it becomes stalker territory, but bear with me through this. I found that not only were the messages still there, but also she had reactivated her account, and she hadn’t set her profile to private. What I found seemed to show she had met someone else and was now preparing to move in with him. For her I feel genuine happiness. When we broke up I told her unless she learnt to deal with anger issues better, she would be alone for the rest of her life. Now here she was, getting on with her life, she looked happy in her profile picture, and even seemed happy in the messages that were public.
I think my life has been a clusterfuck for the longest of times, things have happened and I’ve done things I’ve regretted. To see other people moving on is somehow satisfying, that perhaps there is a light at the end of the tunnel and maybe it’s time for me to finally begin moving on. Stay classy WordPress.


For those of you that have met my wife Liz you already know that she is the greatest woman of all time. Ok, well, she’s my wife and I love her dearly. She’s been playing the guitar for awhile now and started piecing together a song. A few weeks later here we are with her first song called ‘Oh My Bones’. Click HERE for the link to the mp3. I dig it.
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Well, not always. Therapists agree that some things are better when they're the same. While personality differences can provide variety and excitement, couples need to have similar goals for their relationship if they hope to make it last.
Goals are like a destination. Once you know where you want to end up, it's easier to map out a way to get there.
Before professional matchmaker Jacqueline Nichols sets two clients up on a date, she asks each person for their relationship goals. The two people's goals have to match up before she connects them. Why would she set up a woman who never wants children with a man who wants four? That's a recipe for disaster.
Similar ambitions are especially important in long distance relationships because it gives the couple the feeling they're working toward something.
Additionally, goals can help ensure partners in a long-distance relationship that they are an important part of each other's lives. When you don't see someone every day, it's easy to feel left out. When you're in a long-distance relationship that can be a bitter pill to swallow.
It's important for people in long-distance relationships to bring the other person forward and get them involved in your life, Nichols says. One way this can be done is co-creating goals for your relationship.
Relationship therapist Dr. Gary Brown always asks couples about their vision for the relationship. Do they want to get married? Have a family?
"If everybody agrees then the question becomes 'How do we do this?'" he says.
Brown recommends couples decide on their individual visions for their relationship and then consider how they can combine them. "It's something I do a lot in my practice," he says.
So if you're feeling lost or unsatisfied in your long distance relationship, check in to make sure your relationship goals match your partner's. If you don't have a vision, make one. It doesn't have to be lofty. Goals can range from calling each other every day to moving in together in one year.
When you know where you're going, the trip is much more enjoyable, and your long-distance relationship will be too.
Gerard Schultz joined a street gang during his teens in Phoenix. He was incarcerated for the first time when he was just 16. In 1999 he committed murder, a fact neither he nor Leeanne denies.
He was sentenced to life without parole in 2002 and as part of an inter-state transfer system was sent from Arizona to Illinois. He spent six years in the infamous Tamms Correctional Center before it shut down this January under the orders of Governor Pat Quinn because of allegations of human rights abuses.
Schultz, like many former Tamms inmates, is now being held at Pontiac Correctional Center, on the site of a former death row unit.
Four years ago, Leeanne Vavra was living in San Diego, afraid to leave her house because of the psychological scars left by an abusive marriage. She had her groceries delivered.
A former tattoo artist, she began making paintings for prisoners, which led to a correspondence with Schultz. The two discovered they had actually known each other years earlier when Vavra had run a tattoo parlor in Phoenix that Schultz frequented.
Eventually they started dating, writing 10 pages a day to each other. The courtship occurred completely through writing at first, but grew intimate very quickly, said Vavra.
When Vavra discovered more about the conditions in Tamms- prisoners were kept in total isolation - she decided to move to Iowa, her home state, in order to be closer to Schultz.
Her house is decorated with photographs of Schultz. She and her daughter follow a copy of the prison's meal schedule, so they can eat the same thing as Schultz whenever possible. She places a photograph of Schultz at that table to pretend he's also there. Every time she visits him, she gets a new tattoo.
This devotion is hardly one-sided. Schultz writes her poetry and creates art with the limited supplies he's allowed in prison. He talks to a photoshopped picture of the two together whenever he's lonely.
On Feb. 2, he asked Vavra to marry him. They were separated by glass with guards on both sides, and he was shackled to the floor. She said, yes.
Her decision to date a prisoner has met with harsh disapproval from many of her friends and family. She says it's worth the sacrifices. She also does not try to justify Schultz's past crimes, for which she says he expresses deep remorse.
Her attitude is that Schultz never got a first chance - his father also received a life sentence during his youth - and that he deserves to be loved as much as any other person.
It's difficult to cultivate relationships when there is no physical connection. While technology such as Skype and webcam communications have made connecting over a distance much easier, talking to a laptop is simply not the same as a kiss or hug.
However, current technology can help couples maintain stability and connectivity despite distance, according to Dr. James Koval, professor at California State University, Long Beach.
Though relationship therapists disagree on whether long distance relationships are a growing trend, many find themselves addressing issues of distance in their work.
Here are three ways you can cultivate your relationship from a distance.
1. Communicate often
It is harder to stay in touch when in a long distance relationship, according to psychologist Dr. Sam Von Reiche. Therefore, you have to work a little harder, she says. This means getting creative in the ways in which you communicate. Technology can be a big help as there are myriad ways to connect through webcams, online games and picture sharing sites such as Instagram.
"The more important the relationship the more frequent the contact," is what relationship therapist Dr. Gary Brown recommends. He encourages couples to set aside a specific time or times throughout the week to chat. Frequent communication is good for relationships in general, but especially for long distance relationships, Brown says.
He also recommends a call or text to start and end the day. "Different time zones can make calling problematic but have some type of communication at the beginning of the day and the end of the day," Brown says.
There are some special long distance relationship categories that pose different challenges to communication such as military relationships and relationships with people who are incarcerated. In this case Brown says the same guidelines still apply-have as much contact as possible.
2. See each other often
It's important not to let long periods of time go between being together physically, if you can help it.
Too much absence can be like rust, Brown explains. "It can slowly erode the relationship," he says.
However, professional matchmaker Jacqueline Nichols says that couples need to think through these visits and their costs so that each person feels that they are contributing equally.
Nichols recommends couples create a schedule of visits where perhaps every month the couple rotates who travels. This can create a mutual sense of sacrifice, which can help keep both parties happy. Additionally, this allows for each partner to spend time in the other's world.
Nichols also recommends couples split the cost of travel and food, if possible.
If you can talk about these issues beforehand to make sure you both are on the same page, "then that energy is not going to be drained," Nichols says. No long distance couple wants to spend their time together fighting.
3. Set parameters
Long distance relationships are always easier to navigate if you know there is an end date. If you can set one, do it.
"It's certainly very nice to know when that's possible," Von Reiche says. However, she points out that not every couple can foresee an end date, for example if a spouse is traveling for work.
In this case, it's not about knowing there is an end date but knowing the parameters, she says. Is there an understanding the spouse will be faithful? That they will call every day or every two days? That they will come home on weekends? The couple needs to decide if the relationship is going to work via distance. If not, the spouse needs to look for another job or they need to move.
For Brown, living together needs to be a goal if it's a long-distance relationship where both people want to be together long-term. He agrees that sometimes the end date cannot be known, but it's helpful if the couple can determine a time frame. However, he steers clear of what he calls artificial deadlines - it's better to be honest then to set a date that isn't realistic.
Every couple is different and people express and understand love in different ways. Some people want to talk only two times a week while some may get sad if they don't get a morning text. Some people may not mind traveling to their partner all the time and some may hate it. Some people don't need an end date to participate in a long distance relationship; others can't be in one without it. Whoever you are, it's important to know what both you and your partner need so that you can make each other feel as loved as possible.
And Nichols doesn't want people to forget that the most important thing a partner can do in a long distance relationship "is really choosing to be in it."
They first met in 8th grade student council. They dated briefly after they met (if you can call it dating in 8th grade) and remained friends throughout high school. They started dating again their senior year and decided to do long distance while they attended colleges in different states- David at University of Colorado and Cassie at Miami University in Ohio.
After graduation, they moved to Chicago and bought a condo in Boystown. They decided to get married "when Dave was ready," Cassie said with a smile. David proposed on Christmas Eve in 2009 and they were married October 2010.
In 2011 David decided to go to business school at the University of Wisconsin-Madison. The program was two years long and he and Cassie made the decision to do long distance again.
Going to business school was something David had wanted to do before he and Cassie got married, so they had already talked about it, he said. He only applied to schools in the Midwest including some in the Chicago area, knowing that he wanted to stay close. They decided to see how it was all going to play out - maybe he would stay in Chicago, maybe he wouldn't. Maybe Cassie would move with him if he left Chicago, maybe she wouldn't.
When he got accepted to the University of Wisconsin-Madison, he knew it was the best school for him. At the same time he received that news, Cassie got a promotion at the Lincoln Park Zoo where she worked.
They had to ask themselves what the best thing was for both them and their relationship.
The drive to Madison was only 2 1/2 hours, "so I think we just decided, we can do this," David said. "We've done it before."
Cassie wanted to continue with her job in Chicago because they both knew he was going to be in Madison for only two years. "I didn't want to just move there and get some whatever job," Cassie said.
So they both decided long distance was the best option while David was at school. "I felt it was very much our decision," David said.
The second time around, both Cassie and David agreed that long distance is easier. They're not big phone talkers so they communicate with short calls and texts throughout the day.
And unlike undergrad, they are only a drive away and can see each other whenever they need to, "which made it a little easier mentally," David said.
Not to say it's all been easy. When people hear that Cassie and David are newly married and doing long distance, they can't believe it.
"People look at you like you’re crazy," Cassie said. "Didn't you just get married? That's weird."
Additionally, all the traveling can be exhausting. "There's times when I'm just like, 'Oh I'm so sick of doing this'," Cassie said. "But it's gone really fast."
They have until May when David graduates, and then they have plans to move to Colorado where David will start work at Dish Network LLC.
They both recognize that long distance has always been simply something temporary they do to get to where they want to be - in the same place.
"I always felt it was a means to an end," David said.
Cassie agreed. "I couldn't do it without knowing there was an end in sight," she said.
"And something to look forward to," David added.
But not being able to hold hands, share meals or sleep in the same bed is only part of the problem. The more pressing issue is the fact that space provides the opportunity for individual growth. Unfortunately, relationships often can't handle the strain that this growth creates.
Sarah Marcott knows this first hand.
Marcott, now 25, was just about to graduate high school when her friends set her up with Jack Beyler.
"It was just a casual group hang out thing at first," Marcott said. "He was going to college in Milwaukee and I was going to Eau Claire, so it wasn't anything too serious."
Though both headed their separate ways in the fall, they remained in contact through phone calls and emails. By the time winter break rolled around, they were a couple.
The next year and a half was spent taking turns driving to visit one another on weekends before Marcott decided to transfer to the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee to be closer to Beyler.
"It was great being together," Marcott said. "It was really comfortable and nice, but at the same time I didn't want to get stuck in one place when I was only 21."
With graduation approaching, Marcott feared that she would never get to experience life outside of Wisconsin.
Her solution was to travel.
She and a friend made plans for a cross-country road trip to Alaska where they would spend the summer after graduation in the wilderness.
"Jack was really accepting of the idea," Marcott said. "He understood why I had to leave and he supported my decision."
With the couple committed to the idea of making the relationship work long-distance, they decided to talk on the phone every day to share their experiences. After a few weeks, the six-hour time difference started to throw a wrench into their plan.
"It started to get harder and harder to make time," Marcott said. "I would miss a call and then call back later. By then it wasn't about sharing our days. It was about arguing over why the last phone call was missed. There was a lot of tension."
Marcott places the majority of the responsibility on herself.
"I was changing," she said. "All of a sudden I was busy having these great experiences and I didn't make the time."
When Marcott returned at the summer's end, the couple picked up their relationship, but when Marcott got cabin fever and proposed another trip to Alaska, she was not met with the same unconditional support.
"It was hard for him," she said. "This time he didn't understand why I had to go. It was easier for me because I was leaving and getting to have these adventures and he was just staying behind."
Though the couple agreed to continue their daily phone call regimen, it was met with even less success. The final straw was the drive back to Wisconsin. Marcott was out of reach for days at a time. Not hearing from her signaled the relationship's end.
Within a few weeks of her return, the couple broke up.
"Looking back, I became a different person when we were apart," Marcott said. "I had all this independence that in my mind coming back to a relationship was taking a step backwards. I felt like I wasn't being myself."
According to Laura Stafford, a communications' professor at the University of Kentucky-Lexington, Marcott and Beyler's relationship trajectory is common of young couples that enter into long-distance relationships.
Stafford studied relationships among college students and found that about one-third of couples in a long-distance relationship end it within three months of moving to the same town. The rationale is that there is a loss of autonomy when a couple is forced to interact together on a daily basis.
These results signal that the problem is not that the partners no longer care about one another. Instead, they simply develop different goals and needs that the other person is unable to fulfill.
For Marcott, who has since spent time volunteering in Africa, the possibility of returning to her relationship with Jack is not out of the question.
"I saw him for the first time [since the breakup] last week," she said. "I sensed that he might be interested in getting back together. Who knows? Our time might be over. It might not be. We're still so young. We need to figure out who we are first."
Look at the psychological impact isolation from family had for the former inmates of Tamms Correctional Center. Many began performing self-mutilation, while others fell into mental illness.
Tamms was originally designed to be a temporary prison for the worst of the worst offenders. The philosophy was that by isolating the prisoners, it would break them down and allow them to be reintegrated into the main prison system.
It didn't work, according to Laurie Jo Reynolds, the founder of Tamms Year 10, the human rights campaign, which succeeded in shuttering the prison in January after an executive order by Governor Pat Quinn and a ruling by the Illinois State Supreme Court.
Prisoners had no contact with each other and had only limited contact with their families. Phone calls were forbidden for most of the prison's 13 year existence, and visitations were difficult. The majority of the inmates came from the Chicago area, but Tamms was six hours away and not accessible by public transit, which made visiting impossible for many low-income families. Additionally, the prison had policies designed to discourage visitation, said Reynolds.
Reynolds started a campaign to close the prison, because of the belief that contact with your loved ones is a human right. She helped organize Tamms families to action to get the prison closed despite opposition from the correctional officers' powerful union. They used slogans such as, "I am a mom!" in reference to the civil rights slogan, "I am a man!" and "My brother is not a paycheck."
We tag along with Reynolds as she packs up her office at the School of the Art Institute of Chicago, which housed the project. It's covered with photographs of the men once incarcerated in Tamms – symbols mark whether the man had a parent die during his time in the prison or whether he got married, which believe it or not some of them did. They didn't get to attend their weddings in person.
Reynolds said that prisons are supposed to rehabilitate inmates and that can only happen when their basic needs are met, one of which is contact with their families.
Tamms Year 10 undertook several projects to give inmates contact with their loved ones while they were incarcerated, such as a photo project that allowed prisoners to request a picture of anything they wanted to see. One man asked for a photo of his aunt's house, and another asked for a picture of his mother next to a pile of money.
He was okay. It wasn't his hotel.
Tsakiri Karatzaferi has accepted being separated from loved ones as a reality, but it doesn't mean it's easy. She's decided to follow in her father's footsteps and pursue a career as a war correspondent. That dream has brought her for the time being to Evanston, as she studies at Northwestern University's Medill School.
The graduate student, originally from Greece, discusses what it's like to be separated from the people you love by an ocean. Those people include her parents, sister, friends and man she started dating less than a month before departing to the United States.
For those moments when it seems like you're the only one struggling with a long-distance relationship, Hollywood is there to remind you that the plotline is timeless. Since the movies began, audiences have watched lovers overcome obstacles to be together. Take a look at some of the most memorable films dedicated to long-distance relationships and see if you can't learn something from their endeavors.
This project focuses on relationships at a distance and the ways in which people strengthen these bonds, or have them fall apart.
We have a woman whose fiancé is in prison, a married couple approaching the end of a two-year separation, a family spread all over the world and a woman who found long distance worked better than actually being together, among others. Explore and decide for yourself if absence makes the heart grow fonder.


Posted by Fcmnews | Posted in Human Society | Posted on 13-10-2011
You might be experiencing relationship myths that do not really contribute to a having a good relationship with your partner. Here are a few eye-openers fromFisher Capital Management to help you understand your partner and your relationship better.
Myth 1: You do not need to work hard to establish a good relationship. Having a good relationship will need both parties to do a lot of hard work. A clinical psychologist compares a relationship to a garden. It has to be nurtured by both parties to make them happy.
Myth 2: Partners who are in love understand the feelings and needs of each other. Your partner knows what you want and how you feel if you speak out. Constant communication is the key to understanding your partner.
Myth 3: Passion will never fade if you are madly in love. Romantic movies and books express that genuine love initiate passion. However, as partners are accustomed to their routines, passion gradually diminishes. Fisher Capital Management suggests you put creativity and playfulness to keep the passion burning.
Myth 4: You need to have a child to strengthen your marriage. Partners need to discuss and plan ahead when having a child. This should be partnered with responsibility. They must know how to strengthen the relationship especially that a child binds the union.
Myth 5: When you are jealous, you truly love and care for your partner. A good partner never finds ways to have his mate jealous. Jealousy is insecurity which can be healed when you reassure your partner that he is the only one in your life.
Myth 6: A relationship is ruined because of fights. Good fights help partners establish what they want for each other. Resolve the dispute with solutions to understand your partner better.
Myth 7: Your partner must change to make a successful relationship. To make the relationship work, partners need to change for each other. Learn to accept for what he/she is if you want to show your love and respect for him.
Myth 8: Your relationship is in trouble if you undergo couples therapy. Couples therapy does not mean your relationship is in trouble. Discussions with a counselor help resolve problems. This gives you a better view of your partner and your relationship.


My husband won't let me hike solo
If you've ever had a partner or loved one tell you that shouldn't hike alone, today's podcast episode is for you. In it I answer a listener's question and share a few thoughts about how to navigate the tricky world or relationships and solo hiking. To learn more check out our website at https://www.hikelikeawoman.com. I'd love to answer your question on the show. All you gotta do is text or send a voice memo to 307-703-0358.


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So I had my dinner with Jay last night. He didn't come over the night before because of.. mis-communication? I don't know. Anyway, he came over and we talked, while I made him his grilled cheese.
Well, I tried, but as I was cooking he wouldn't stop coming over and tickling me, and making me laugh. It was weird. So then, we ate. He opened up a little about his mom, about how he needed her and missed her. I tried to comfort him, but I didn't know what to say. After dinner we watched some old game shows from the 60's and made fun of the people in them, and as we were sitting on the couch he pulled me in and kind of held me. He said he liked it better that way. Then he started kissing me. Like not making out, just like an occasional kiss on the head, or cheek, and even sometimes on the lips. I didn't know what to make of it all. Maybe he just needs comfort, since his mom died, and doesn't think of me in "that way" at all. Or maybe he does. So I just sat there, enjoying it all, until he got a call from Paige. They just talked, and I guess he realized he shouldn't be with me like we were, so he hung up, and then he said he had to go. I walked him to the door to shut it behind him. As he was leaving, he gave me like a longer, more lingering kiss. Once again, we weren't making out or anything. It was just a kiss. But I definitley felt something in it. And then he just walked outside, got in his car, and drove away. I really want to know what I'm supposed to think of what happened. It was a nice, eventful uneventful night.
And then tonight, I'm going out to a rave with Manny. I'm really excited, and I think it should be a lot of fun. I invited Spinner to meet up with us if he wanted to,
just as friends though, so we might see him at some point. I need to meet a guy tonight. Then, my mind will be off Jay, because truthfully- I cannot stop thinking about him.
And that is all.


"Family gatherings" aka "90% of the people here are racist"
"and claim to be none of these things"
"they’re just joking"
"you’re just going through a phase"
"you’ll get used to it"
"so do you have a boyfriend yet?"
My thing is, have sex whenever you decide to want to have sex. You want to have sex on the first night, go ahead. You want to have sex after 20 dates, go ahead. You want to never have sex, go ahead. People think that someone’s sexual choices actually coincide with their personality. If all you can think of someone’s worth is whether they want to have sex or not, then the problem is probably you.


February has been co-opted by the Valentine’s Day People of America so that as soon as the holidays are over, stores everywhere put out their red and pink heart displays and start selling the love to the masses. There’s nothing wrong with this, of course, but at times it almost feels like Valentine’s Day only has value to us if we have a “special someone” to share it with. It is, in other words, a holiday only for people in love. Eff that.
I actually kind of like the idea of Valentine’s Day. It’s great to have a scheduled day to focus on the love in your life. I do, however, balk at the idea that love needs to be directed at a “special someone”. We’re human, our capacity for love is endless and that love can manifest itself in dozens, nay, hundreds of ways.
As someone who has never celebrated Valentine’s Day with a significant other, let me be the first to say that we don’t have to have a love interest, or “bae” as the kids are saying these days, to celebrate - we just need to have love in our hearts (or something cheesy like that). This Valentine’s Day, I want us to take the time to let that love manifest itself. Let’s not feel that if we’re single on Valentine’s Day that this holiday isn’t for us. It is for us, we just have to reframe it:
LOVE YOUR PEOPLE
Love is weird because it’s so idealized. When we think of love we think of romance, and sparks, and companionship, and the idea of being made whole, etc. but the truth is we’re going to love many more people platonically than we will romantically. We have countless family, friends, and even some former flames that we really, truly love, but I bet we can each count on fewer than 10 fingers the people we’ve fallen in love with. That feels important to me.
We should stop being so caught up in this ideal of what love is—the ideal that TV and movies and songs portray—and learn to love the love we have. Let’s use this Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to celebrate the love we share with our loved ones by telling them how we really feel, or by making a gesture of our love for them. It can be something as small as making a phone call to someone who lives across the country or across the world, or it can be something as big as taking your friends or family out to dinner. Whatever it is, let’s use this time to show the people in our lives that we love them.
There is no more important person on this planet to love than ourselves. For a long time, I thought that I’d be happy when I finally met the “girl of my dreams”. That all my problems and insecurities would melt away because this fantastical ideal of a woman would suddenly make things right. I think it’s pretty clear at this point, but that’s not how the game works. It was an unrealistic expectation and incredibly unfair to her, whoever she may have been.
What I learned was no one is going to magically appear in my life to fix me. I had to fix myself. That meant taking better care of myself, both physically and mentally, and learning to really appreciate who I am. It became painfully obvious that until I was able to be happy with myself—hanging out with myself, living with myself, looking at myself—I would never be happy with someone else. We need to take the time and make sure we cultivate the love we have for ourselves because, after all, it’s the most important relationship of our lives.
Love isn’t just for the star-crossed lovers, it’s for everyone, and we all have it. Let’s open our eyes a bit and take notice of the most beautiful aspect of love: that it’s right in front of us at all times.
Until next time – Love.


Court & Stults – Mediation
In a mediation, one specially trained impartial third party helps two (or more) people explore their interests. Their interests are the underlying motivators that that drive their wants, claims, demands, and refusals. Understanding and addressing interests allows negotiating parties to get to the heart of their demands, and realize there may be more than one way to achieve their goals. In this way they can make mutually acceptable decisions about their property, business, family issues, children and financial future.
A mediator informs parties what the issues may be, and facilitates a conversation between them in which both respectfully listen and hear each other, and effectively communicate those things that matter most to them.
A mediator will prepare a memorandum of understanding between the parties which can then be presented to independent legal counsel for preparation of legally binding documents.
Mediators do not represent one part or the other. The decision to hire a mediator has to be made between the parties, and both parties come together to retain a mediator.
Mediation may be suitable for:
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– Business disputes, especially when family members are involved or a relationship needs to be preserved
– Employment disputes


by Jaycee DeLorenzo
Characters: Ivy Rossini, Ian Hollister
Being the only girl who cares to see beyond Ian’s bad boy reputation has its advantages, especially when he’s scaring off the jerks who just want to nail the campus sex-guru. It’s when he’s “protecting” her from the advances she welcomes that she wants to lob him over the head and tell him to butt out. But Ivy feels like she’s the one who’s taken a hit when Ian almost kisses her at a party. She knows she should feel relieved when he pulls away, so why is she disappointed instead?
What’s worse, Ivy’s now getting aroused by Ian’s slightest touch and can’t stop entertaining thoughts of a romantic future. But Ian doesn’t do relationships, and she’s not interested in anything casual. In the end, Ivy decides it’s best to keep her growing feelings a secret and hope they’ll pass. However, when Ian begins hinting at wanting to take things to the next level, she’s forced to decide if a chance at something more is worth risking everything they’ve built.
With their friendship and her heart hanging in the balance, can Ivy follow the advice she and Ian give their listeners – to communicate, be honest, and trust in themselves – or will insecurity, stubbornness, and pride ruin any chance of their relationship getting off the ground?
This book is about Ivy Rossini and her bestfriend, Ian Hollister. They have been bestfriends since they were little, and know each other inside out. Ivy co-hosts Riordan College’s radio program, The Truths about Dating and Mating, alongside with Ian. Ivy is the only one who cares to see beyond Ian’s bad boy reputation, and the fact that he has sex with every girl that looks good. Except Ivy. Ian’s always been protective over her, but lately he has becomed over-protectiv. Scaring away those dates Ivy was going out with, threatening them. And then one night, at a party Ian almost kisses Ivy. And suddenly Ivy starts feeling things you really should feel about your best friend, and thinking about him. Like wondering how his hands would feel on her, Ian’s sexy voice seducing her.. ect… But she’s afraid to do anything about, doesn’t want to destory their friendship, so she starts dating others. Yet, she can’t get past those feeling that has developed towards Ian. While Ian giving mixed signals, hinting he wants more, Ivy has to decide if it all is worth risking everything they have built.
The story is well filled with romance, humor, hormones and friendships. I think this book kinda has a message, that we have to take some risk at some point to really get anywhere, or to get what you want and i think that Ivy has a really big decision to explore her feeling for Ian, he could might be the love of her life, or continue being just friends and always wonder ‘what if?’… The friendship between Ivy and Ian is great, and i would love to have that kind of love they had for each other, in my life.
Ivy is awesome! Stubborn as hell, waaaay to honest, big pride and spunky Italian. She has no trouble what she thinks and feels. (well she might have trouble telling Ian what she feels.) I belive under all the hardness, the snarky comments and acting like she doesn’t care, she is just as insecure as any other woman. Ivy is really good at giving advice to dating and sex, but she doesn’t really follow her own advice that she is giving her listeners. But lucky Ivy, she learns from her mistakes.. after a little time has gone… Though i loved Ivy, sometimes i got a bit tired of her.. Sometimes it became to much of her confidence and how she treated Ian at times.. i didn’t like it.. But other than that, she was great 🙂
Ian’s the bad-boy every girl/woman lust for.. He has the body, he has the brain and he has the moves. You cannot help but to lust for him. Even Ivy does. I know that deep down Ian’s a really good man with manners and a good heart, and that he’s just judged by his mistakes in his past. But being the bad-boy, nobody questions him about his past which he likes to keep private so it works for him. No need to get personal and to commitment when everyone knows that he sleeps with them, throw them out (in a good way) and jump to the next one. Just sex, that’s all he needs. Except, not when he start looking at Ivy as more, and suddenly he needs more. Being insecure and thinking nobody really wants to be with him, other then with sex, makes his appreciate Ivy a hell of a lot more, considering she’s the only one who really care about him.
Their friendship is admirable, and i love the passion they have for each other. The book was cute and was an easy read, and i really enjoyed it :)Though sometimes, it became to much back and forth for me so that made me lower the rate of the book.
Rate: 3-3.5 stars.


The most positive(乐观的)person I have ever seen is my dad! He is so positive that I do not ___1___hearing a single word from him which is related (相关的) to hopelessness!
Unlike most mums and dads, my dad never says things that make me feel___2___. He is always there to give me encouragement and help. ___3___1 do wrong things, he always tells me what's right in a positive way. For example, if I am in___4___, he often tells me to open the books he bought me. Then he asks me to read the___5___that can help me with the problems I'm facing. After that, we have a___6___together.
Even though I'm not always a good kid, my dad___7___shouts or gets angry with me. I know that he's___8___ a day—a day when I grow up and understand things in my life.
I can see the reason that he is so positive is because he believes in___9___.And he believes that whatever___10___, it is under control. So we have nothing to worry about. Be positive!
（ ）1. A. mind B. keep C. like D. remember
（ ）2. A. good B. bad C. rich D. poor
（ ）3. A. When B. Until C. Before D. Since
（ ）4. A. fear B. trouble C. surprise D. danger
（ ）5. A. titles B. orders C. stories D. questions
（ ）6. A. discussion B. practice C. meeting D. review
（ ）7. A. usually B. ever C. sometimes D. never
（ ）8. A. looking for B. worrying about
C. waiting for D. thinking about
（ ）9. A. itself B. myself C. himself D. yourself
（ ）10. A. moves B. happens C. appears D. develops
1D 2B 3A 4B 5C 6A 7D 8C 9C 10B


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So what do you do when your friend ‘confronted’ you and asked something awkward like….’I heard that u told someone something not so good bout me, did u?’ ??
I have two answers in mind.
If I don’t want to complicate stuff; I’ll just lie and tell her that the other friend wasn’t telling her the actual truth, she got it wrong, bla bla bla…white lies!
If I want to be a good she-muslim; I’ll just blurt out the truth. After all, it’s not that I was bitching (yep I just said that) about her or anything like that, it’s just that sometimes you need to tell someone when you’re upset over someone or stuffs like that.
(Though that someone is not supposed to know about you telling another friend that you’re upset with her (ok it is confusing!), things always happen for a reason, just wait because something good will eventually come out of it. Because ALLAH always knows what’s best for all of us aite?)
And yep I became a good she-muslim, only in my mind tho, haven’t had the chance to explain..oh, i hate explaining screwed up stuffs!
Q: Why do stuffs tangle up?
A: Because they make life more interesting!
Am in an awkward atmosphere right now.
(I explained everything. MashaAllah I’m feelin goooood!)


It’s Valentine’s Day, and this month’s blog is celebrating love and romance by bringing you first-hand accounts of “How we met.” Read on and enjoy.
Carolyn Ernest: Bob and I met in the operating room at New England Deaconess Hospital. I was a nurse and Bob was an OR tech. After working together for five months, we went to the department’s Christmas party. We started dating and married seven months later. That was 59 years ago. We are blessed.
Chuck Smith: Back in 1963 I got a phone call at 2:30 a.m. from a friend enjoying a wedding rehearsal party in another city. After telling me that he had a girl he wanted me to meet, he handed the phone to the young lady who lived in my area. My experience with blind dates had made me skeptical, but after she returned to her parents’ home, I called (unenthusiastically) to see if she would join me for dinner. She did, and I fell in love with Betsy on that first date. We married the next year, 57 years ago.
Carol Nasr: Ali was a debonair, man-about-town, when we met in New York City just after I graduated from college. Ali’s friend wanted Ali to meet his sister who was staying with me while visiting NYC. As it turned out, Ali was introduced to two young ladies, his friend’s sister and me. In November while I was visiting my parents, now living in The Hague, Ali proposed marriage in a letter. I hesitated before calling him to accept. On December 28, 1965, six months after our first meeting, Ali and I had a fairy-tale wedding in The Hague, complete with a horse and carriage. It has been a fairy-tale ever since.
John F. Sobke: In 1965, I attended the Oktoberfest in Munich. At 10:30 a.m. I was working on my liter of beer and found myself sitting between two girls. I wondered which one I should ask to walk around the grounds with me. One was complaining about her stomach, so I turned to the other (Marilyn) and popped my question. To my delight, she said, “yes.” We spent the rest of the day together, and I had a premonition that I was going to know her for a very long time.
Thus, began a beautiful courtship. Marilyn and I skied, walked in the woods, read Hemingway, and ate together every evening. I finally gained up enough courage to ask her to marry me. Again, to my delight, she said “yes.” I had run through my savings taking her out to dinner every night, so we started eating spaghetti in my apartment. Eight months after that first meeting, we were married in the chapel at Fort McNair in Washington, D.C.
Don McCulloch: I first met my wife after climbing up to a second story balcony and entering her office through a sliding glass door. It was not exactly love at first sight, but I did make a strong first impression. Our first real date was at a French restaurant in downtown Chicago. We were the only customers, so our waiter brought extra wine and sat down with us. All three of us got tipsy. Margaret and I married a year later. After the wedding reception ended, I left Margaret for an hour sitting in her wedding gown in the hotel lobby while I hunted for my car. The car had been parked by my “can’t remember where” uncle in “an adjoining racetrack parking lot.”


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Someone asked me the other day what it was that made me want to be an accountant. It got me to thinking, and I finally said it was the relationships. I believe that to be a good accountant it is important to have strong relationships with all your clients. It is this process of developing a relationship with a client that I find very satisfying.
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Jada Pinkett Smith and Will Smith have been married for over 20 years, which is no easy feat for a couple—famous or not. “It’s like dog years when you’re married [in Hollywood],” Ellen DeGeneres quipped to Smith back in 2008 when he and Jada celebrated 10 years of marriage. “That’s like 50 years, right?”
Since the ’90s, Will and Jada have been an institution in Hollywood: They’ve weathered rumors of breakups, affairs, and judgment for their unconventional relationship. While no marriage is perfect, the Smiths seemed to show us all how to make love last. That is until Pinkett Smith dropped a bombshell during an interview with Hoda Kotb in October 2023, revealing the pair have been living “completely separate” lives since 2016.
Here’s a full breakdown of the Smiths’ relationship timeline, and where they stand now.
What’s the best way to meet in Hollywood? On set, of course. The Smiths are no exception. The couple meets after Jada auditioned to play Smith’s girlfriend on The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air (talk about foreshadowing). She doesn’t get the part, and Will is married to Sheree Zampino at the time, who is his son Trey Smith’s mother. Still, there was a connection between the two.
After his split with Zampino, Will calls Jada and asks, “Are you seeing anybody?” She says no, and he replies, “Cool. You’re seeing me now.”
After two years of dating, the couple tie the knot on New Year’s Eve. Jada is pregnant with their first child, Jaden, at the time. After the private ceremony, the newlyweds head to Miami for a three-day honeymoon. They then fly to Washington, DC, to film Enemy of the State together. What a dream job!
It will come to light years later that she and Will didn’t sign a prenup. “Listen, weddings are beautiful, but they can be very romanticized,” she will tell Parade in October 2023, while promoting her memoir, Worthy. “I feel that was a very real moment for the two of us to look each other in the eyes, recognize that there would be tough times in this journey and to say to each other, ‘No matter what, we’re going to figure it out, and that’s why we don’t need a prenup, because I’m making a promise that divorce won’t be necessary, that we will figure this out.’ And we made that promise to each other without all of the bridal wedding beauty; it was just sitting on a log in his mother’s backyard, and going, ‘Hey.’ Having to really look at the possibility of us not being together.”
Jaden Smith is born on July 8.
Two years later, the couple welcome their daughter, Willow Smith, on October 31.
“Work hard, play hard.” That must have been the Smiths’ motto, since they decide to write and produce the sitcom All of Us, inspired by their family. The series runs for four seasons before eventually getting canceled in 2007.
“We wanted a sitcom that really reflected a piece of life that you don’t see often on television and a piece of life that’s very difficult to deal with and a piece of life that we wanted to show could be dealt with in a very mature manner,” Pinkett Smith says about the show.
After eight years of marriage, rumors start spreading that the couple are in an open relationship. Will tells the Daily Mail: “If it came down to it, then one can say to the other, ‘Look, I need to have sex with somebody. I’m not going to if you don’t approve of it—but please approve of it.’”
Jaden proves he has a knack for acting, just like his parents. He appears in his dad’s movie The Pursuit of Happyness. “Jaden is 100% fearless, he will do anything,” Smith tells Vanity Fair. “So as a parent it’s scary, it’s really terrifying—but he is completely willing to live and die by his own artistic decisions and he just doesn’t concern himself with what people think.”
After a decade of marriage, Will explains that the couple will never consider divorce. “What I found is divorce just can’t be an option,” the actor says on The Ellen DeGeneres Show. “It’s really that simple. And I think that’s the problem with LA—there are so many options. So a huge part of the success for [Jada] and I is that we just removed the other options.”
The entire Smith family takes the stage at the 16th annual Nobel Peace Prize Concert in Oslo. Jada and Will host the event because of their dedication to promoting global peace.
Rumors about the marriage begin to swirl again. The couple deny that Jada had an affair with Marc Anthony (her love interest on the show Hawthorne) after a source tells Us Weekly that the two were flirtatious. “They were a little touchy and like they were in their own little world,” the insider says.
People continue to speculate that the pair engage in relationships outside their marriage, causing Jada to address the issue: “I’ve always told Will, ‘You can do whatever you want as long as you can look at yourself in the mirror and be okay,’” she tells HuffPost. “Because at the end of the day, Will is his own man. I’m here as his partner, but he is his own man. He has to decide who he wants to be and that’s not for me to do for him. Or vice versa.”
She later clarifies her statements on Facebook, writing, “Here is how I will change my statement…Will and I BOTH can do WHATEVER we want, because we TRUST each other to do so. This does NOT mean we have an open relationship… this means we have a GROWN one.”
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A common trend in their marriage seems to be assuring the public that their relationship is secure. In 2015, Will once again denies rumors that the couple are dissolving their marriage. “In the interest of redundant, repetitious, over & over again-ness … Jada and I are NOT GETTING A DIVORCE!!!” he writes on Facebook.
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Will and Jada quietly separate. Neither comments publicly on the split, which is not revealed until 2023, when Pinkett Smith speaks with Hoda Kotb about her memoir, Worthy. “It was not a divorce on paper,” Kotb clarifies, “but it was a divorce.” She confirms Kotb’s characterization of her relationship and adds that the couple live “completely separate lives.”
“By the time we got to 2016, we were just exhausted with trying,” Pinkett Smith continues. “I think we were both kind of just still stuck in our fantasy of what we thought the other person should be.”
Jada invites her husband’s ex-wife, Zampino, onto Red Table Talk, the show she hosts with her daughter, Willow, and mother, Adrienne Banfield Norris. During the episode titled “Motherhood,” Zampino and Jada discuss coparenting and how they settled previous issues. Psychotherapist Stacy Kaiser is also invited to help explain how important their dynamic is.
“Is the person you’re dating still intertwined in some way,” Kaiser asks Jada, “with the person who’s their ex? If so, you need to find a way to get along with them because you wouldn’t be dating that person if it weren’t for the person who they broke up with.”
Despite the couple’s consistent denials of affairs and divorce, they admit to having issues in their marriage. They address the perception that famous couples have perfect marriages on an episode of Red Table Talk.
“What was really important about Will and I doing that show together—two things: First of all was really to kind of get rid of the idea that people in the public eye have perfect relationships,” she says on an episode of The Late Show With Stephen Colbert. “We were kind of sick of living up to that. We were real sick of it. And then second of all, really having myself and Will come and talk about our relationship—sometimes you see just women do it alone or you just see a guy do it.”
Singer August Alsina claims that he had a relationship with Jada, and that Will had given him his permission to do so. To address this, Jada invites Smith to Red Table Talk and puts herself in the interviewee’s seat. The couple reveal that they had briefly separated when she started seeing Alsina.
“I got into an entanglement with August,” Jada says. “The only person that can give permission in that particular circumstance is myself. I could actually see how he would perceive it as permission because we were separated amicably, and I think he also wanted to make it clear that he’s also not a home-wrecker. Which he’s not.”
The Smiths also speak to their desire to work on their relationship and stay committed to each other. Will adds, “I told you the first year we were married that I could love you through anything.”
Will writes about the “sacrifices” Jada made on his behalf in his memoir, Will, from taking part in a traditional wedding she didn’t want, to turning down the chance for her band, Wicked Wisdom, to open for Guns N’ Roses so her husband could film The Pursuit of Happyness.
Specifically, Will writes about the moment he realized their marriage “wasn’t working” in 2011 and tells GQ that they “saved” their relationship through “trust and freedom,” a.k.a. nonmonogamy.
“Jada never believed in conventional marriage…. Jada had family members that had an unconventional relationship,” Will told GQ. “So she grew up in a way that was very different than how I grew up. There were significant endless discussions about, what is relational perfection? What is the perfect way to interact as a couple? And for the large part of our relationship, monogamy was what we chose, not thinking of monogamy as the only relational perfection.”
“We could no longer pretend.”
Jada later that year opens up about communicating with her partner in the bedroom and letting go of certain “fantasies.”
“It’s hard,” she says during an episode of Red Table Talk, per E! Online, “The thing Will and I talk about a lot is the journey. We started in this at a very young age, you know, 22 years old. That’s why the accountability part really hit for me because I think you expect your partner to know, especially when it comes to sex. It’s like, ‘Well, if you love me, you should know. If you love me, you should read my mind.’ That’s a huge pitfall.”
She continued, “You tell me what you need. Tell me what you want, and on top of it, I know that I have to be accountable to do the same…. I really try. It’s uncomfortable, but it’s deeply healthy, and I think around sex, because it’s something that we don’t talk about and there’s so much fantasy around it.”
Will slaps Chris Rock on live television during the 2022 Academy Awards after the comedian makes a joke about Jada’s baldness, which is due to alopecia, by comparing her style to Demi Moore’s buzz cut in the 1994 film G.I. Jane. Though Will initially seems to laugh at the joke, he quickly turns angry.
“Keep my wife’s name out your fucking mouth,” he yells at Rock, before approaching the stage to slap him. Later on during the ceremony, Smith wins the best actor award and says in his speech that “love makes you do crazy things.” He is later removed from the Academy and apologizes for his behavior.
Over a year later, in 2023, Jada tells Kotb that she was “shocked” Will called her his wife at the Oscars, saying they “haven’t called each other husband and wife in a long time.” According to Variety, she added, “I’m like, ‘What is going on right now? Keep my wife’s name out of your mouth?’ I’m really worried for Will because I don’t know what’s going on.”
Despite their separation Jada tells Parade that the slap brought her and Will closer together. “Look, everybody wants to ride in the limo, right?” she says. “Everybody wants to be down when everything’s lovely. What happens when things aren’t so lovely? What happens when people who love you need you, and when you need people that you love? And so that was a moment that I feel like we recognized once again, ‘Oh, snap, we are just made for this journey together.’ And I was like, ‘No matter what, I am here with you. I don’t care what is going on.’ And I think that is the moment for both of us when we looked at each other and said, ‘Wow, we’re really what we got.’”
She continues, “We all have our romanticized ideas of how it all should be, and it might not show up in that way. But at the end of the day, do you have someone at your side that you’re willing to go through tough times with and they’re willing to go through tough times with you? I’m very lucky that I can say, ‘Yes, I have someone that’s willing to do that.’”
While promoting her memoir Worthy, Pinkett Smith reveals that she and Smith have lived “completely separate” lives since 2016. When asked why they had decided to keep their relationship status a secret for so many years during her NBC News prime-time special with Hoda Kotb, Jada insists they were simply “not ready” to tell the public. “[We were] still trying to figure out between the two of us how to be in partnership…in regards to, how do we present that to people? We hadn’t figured that out,” she says.
Jada adds that she “made a promise that there will never be a reason for us to get a divorce,” explaining, “We will work through…whatever.”
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In that same vein, Jada tells People that she and Will are “still figuring it out”: “A lot has happened. The thing about relationships is that it’s constantly moving. Relationships are…it’s an organism. It’s its own thing. It’s constantly shifting and constantly moving. There’s a lot that’s transpired in the last two years, and so we’ve been doing some really heavy-duty work together.”
On October 14, The New York Times published a response from Will Smith, reporting that the contents of Worthy “woke him up” and made him realize that Jada is “more resilient, clever, and compassionate than he’d understood.”
In the statement, Will writes, “When you’ve been with someone for more than half of your life, a sort of emotional blindness sets in, and you can all too easily lose your sensitivity to their hidden nuances and subtle beauties.”
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People who later become sexual predators have their own distinct characteristics and life experiences that shape their behavior. However, there are a handful of general traits that sexual predators seem to share.
What is a “sexual predator”?
Simply put, a sexual predator is someone whose primary objective is to engage in sexual activity with someone they have identified as their target. The most common targets are children, but there are predators who also pursue adults. Alarmingly, more than 90% of child sexual predators are men, and victims report that their abuser is almost always someone they know.
Their behavior takes the form of inappropriate, frequently ongoing contact with their victim, whether in person or through online stalking. These days, it generally involves both.
Gaslighting and controlling behavior
Early in the relationship, the predator may be successful in earning the victim’s trust and even dependence through bonding, favors, presents and showering them with attention. The predator may also become overly active on the victim’s social media accounts.
The victim may grow to regard their predator as someone who truly cares for them, perhaps even the only person who truly cares for them. These activities are sometimes referred to as “grooming.”
Other times, the predator might constantly insult the physical traits, clothing, social circle, interests and hobbies of their target. If the victim objects to this abuse, the predator will respond by framing themselves as the victim. They will act as though they only say these things out of “love” until they can coerce an apology from their victim.
With this behavior normalized, predators may start exhibiting jealousy of friends and family then try to box them out of the victim’s life.
Unwelcome physical contact
Many times, this behavior starts with unremarkable touching and casual violations of physical boundaries. A predator might use the excuse of crowded situations (e.g., concerts, events, buses) or playfulness to justify the contact. One or two brushes with private areas may be an honest mistake, but repeated contact is a problem.
With children, this behavior can manifest itself through hugging, cuddling, “helping” with activities like changing clothes or frequent contact with private areas.
Overly interested in children
Some sexual predators are not subtle. They may seek out close friendships with children while having few, if any, adult friends. This often accompanies excessive affection with children, including hugging, kissing and tickling.
Be aware that the signs listed above don’t always mean that someone is a sexual predator. A person could simply appear unsettling or awkward without being a full-blown predator. Also, not all sexual predators have a criminal record. A simple search of law enforcement logs may not reveal anything.
That said, if someone exhibits one or more of these behaviors, use caution and explore your suspicions further before leveling accusations. If handled poorly, you may only succeed in alienating the victim and pushing them closer to their predator.


Preparing the talk has had me thinking a lot about my own mother and the other women in my life who have guided my path! I have a few I would like to thank!
MY MOMMA: She has an unshaken testimony of the restored gospel of Jesus Christ. She truly is the one person who held our family together through faith and prayer and sweat. We never had to question whether we had her love, respect and support! She has also carried me through many of my own trials. (love you momma, thank you :))
My Sister KELLY: Kelly has been through many trials that no woman should ever have to go through. Yet, she kept her head up, forgave and moved on with her life with hardly ever a word of complaint. Kelly is who I turn to for advice, because I know she will give it to me straight and put me in my place if it calls for it. Kelly is who I also turn to for a good friend and a fun time! (love you sis!)
My Sisters RUTH and FERNIE: You may not be my sisters by blood, but you have apart of my family for as long as I can remember! I turn to you for fun but appreciate the way you have both made me open my mind, look at the world around me and take myself a little less seriously. I also appreciate how you have always had my back :) (love you both sooooo sooooo much!)
Sister PATTY DURBY: Sister Durby taught me in the temple prep classes right before I went to the temple for the first time. It was just me and her and her testimony then has stuck with me throughout my life. Sister Durby truly is a woman of God!
LYNDSEY ESTES: (Sister Durby's daughter): has been one of my best friends throughout my life as a teenager and as an adult. As we grew up Lyndsey married and now has a beautiful family! However, she always took time to talk with me and give me advice and love me as her own sister! Her gentle kindness made her a valuable friend! (thank you Lyndsey)
SISTER RIRIE : My mission mom! You are a woman full of grace and quiet dignity. For the 18 month I was in the mission field she was there to give encouragement and hugs just when they were needed. At times those hugs felt like they came directly from my own mother! You are the kind of women I want to be! (thank you for your love!)
"MOTHERHOOD IS NOT WHAT WAS LEFT OVER AFTER THE FATHER BLESSED HIS SONS WITH PRIESTHOOD ORDINATION. IT WAS THE MOST ENNOBLING ENDOWMENT HE COULD GIVE HIS DAUGHTERS, A SACRED TRUST THAT GAVE WOMEN AN UNPARALLELED ROLE IN HELPING HIS CHILDREN KEEP THEIR SECOND ESTATE."
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Of Mice and Men – Friendship August 26, 2020 by Essay Writer John Steinbeck shows how important a friendship is and how much two people can support each other to survive. Take this bond away and it will create a difficult and almost impossible journey for the two men in. “ Of Mice and Men – Friendship ” Get custom paper NEW! smart matching with writer Lennie, a mentally handicapped, big man with stand out features and George, the small little tough guy, with the brains and great leadership skills. As the two men are trying to escape from a mishap that Lennie is in fault for, George like always tries to back him up. In the novel Of Mice and Men, by John Steinbeck, it is clear that George and Lennie are best friends who always stay together, even though their relationship is strained. But sometimes, friends must do what is best for the other. Due to this, it is clear that George was justified in killing Lennie at the end of the novel. In the novel Of Mice and Men by John Steinbeck, Lennie and George, two hardworking laborers, stay together throughout the whole book. During the period of the novel, The Great Depression, no one looks out for anybody but themselves, in such lost times.
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I never had a dog as a child, but was lucky enough to get my first dog, Frakkur, when I was an adult. I had no idea how he would change my life; the love and connection I felt for him was beyond anything I’d ever experienced before. When Frakkur passed, one of my friends suggested I put his dog tag on my keychain so that he would always be with me, wherever I went. The tag, she explained, was always on his body, and it represented our connection to each other: he belonged to us, and my husband and I to him.
We now have a vibrant two-year-old boy dog, Ivan, who gives us infinite joy and love. I’ve been a fan of Deborah’s jewelry for years, and when I heard that she and Allen were creating a line of dog tags, I knew they would be beyond special. I read the story for each design, and the heart tag story completely captured that feeling of unconditional love, the “incomparable form of devotion,” between Ivan and us.
The technical complexity and beauty of the tag complements its emotional significance: He is ours, and we are his.


Mitch & Team!
We are so grateful for everything you have done to get us into our home!!!! We love our new home, even more after it has a kitchen..lol The home/land and the life we plan there is something we both dreamed of prior to even meeting each other. Each of you helped us reach that goal which at times seemed totally impossible. Have a wonderful weekend! We will be moving into our new home!!!! With so much love and thanks, Misty and Brian


There have been some articles such as 10 Women Christian Men Should Not Marry, which basically give a list of certain beliefs and character flaws that are supposed to disqualify someone from being considered for marriage. But that’s kind of negative, don’t you think? Why not write an article about who you should marry? Some people have already written great satirical responses, and I can’t resist adding my voice.
A person’s positive traits should stand out above the negative. If you’re focusing on reasons to not associate with people (whether dating, marriage, or just friendship), you will inevitably find things to dislike about them. And people who do that are the ones who, in my experience, destroy relationships and add a whole lot more misery to the world. Most problems that people consider incompatibility are no more than annoyances that should be insignificant if you actually love the person. So what if one of you likes planning out the future six months in advance, and the other likes taking life as it comes? The one who likes planning can plan all they want, there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s not like one of you is experiencing life six months in the future. You both live in the present.
So here are my ten traits of someone you should marry if you are a human who wants to get married:
1: They are human. This seems obvious, but there have been a few people who married animals or inanimate objects. Not saying you can’t marry animals or inanimate objects, they just aren’t ideal.
2: They are alive. Marrying dead people is legally iffy and honestly kind of gross, especially if their corpse is involved. You should find someone who is alive. The experience is much more interactive.
3: They want to marry you. It’s generally considered rude to marry someone without their permission, and depending on where you live, may also be impossible.
4: They aren’t a close relative. Beyond being illegal in most places, marrying a cousin or brother or sister or aunt or uncle can cause all sorts of problems. I mean, just look how Joffrey Baratheon turned out.
5: They want kids or they don’t want kids. Really, if you two either both want kids, or both don’t want kids, or even if one of you doesn’t and the other kinda does but is okay with not having them…go for it. The important thing is to be okay with the desires of the other person. This goes for many other preferences like frequency of sex, urban or rural living, etc. You don’t have to match perfectly. You just have to love the person more than your own preferences and desires.
6: They love you as you are, and you love them as they are. It’s pretty important to love someone as they are currently, rather than some past or future version of them. You don’t get to live with someone’s past or future self. All you get is the present, with all its flaws and brokenness. Love them in the present, because it’s where you will spend eternity.
7: They respect you even when disagreeing. You don’t want to spend your life with someone who doesn’t respect you. Disagreement is not the issue, it’s how you deal with it. People with differing political beliefs and religions can have great lives together. Again it comes down to loving the person more than your own opinions.
8: They don’t try to manipulate or force you into anything. Complementarians often think that it’s impossible to have a successful relationship with someone if neither of them is in charge of the other, but that’s a childish view of relationships. You’re an adult…at least I hope you are if you’re getting married. Adults should do things like talking about problems, and empathizing, and realizing they can’t always insist on getting their way. At times it may seem like a delicate balance, at times it may be frustrating, but the back-and-forth of compromise has to happen.
9: They are honest and they trust you. Trust is as important as love. You can love someone you don’t trust, or trust someone you don’t love, but you can’t build a strong relationship with someone if you never know whether or not their words are true. Make yourself a trustworthy person. Don’t lie, even if it seems like a small matter, and don’t hide anything unless it’s a special surprise for their birthday or an anniversary or a random romantic evening.
10: Me. You should marry me, because I would like to be married and I’m kind of lonely. I’m not hard to take care of, just make sure I have enough hugs and a steady supply of trust. I also like chocolate but it’s not a requirement. Now accepting applications!
Finally, here are a couple traits of people you probably shouldn’t marry, because why not throw in a little negativity to spice things up?
1: Someone who is a patriarchal control freak who thinks you should submit to his authority and follow advice given by people like the author of the article I linked in the first paragraph.
2: Someone who wants you to change your basic nature in order to fit into a stereotypical gender role that you really don’t belong in.
And because I want to keep writing, I suppose I’ll respond to some of the points in that original article and its brother. Here are some traits of people he says Christians shouldn’t marry:
1: The unbeliever. Well, it’s understandable if you don’t want to marry someone outside of your religion, but maybe not everyone feels that way? And don’t forget that to them, you might be the unbeliever. Everyone’s an unbeliever in some way.
2: Someone older (if a woman) or younger (if a man) than you. Apparently there’s a higher chance of divorce if your ages are farther apart? You know, there’s a higher chance of divorce if you get married. Better stay single.
3: Someone who’s been divorced. The only exceptions given are if the divorce is because of adultery, or if one of the people becomes a Christian and the other one walks out on them because of it. No exception given for abuse. I bet this is one of those pastors who advises abused women to stay with their husbands and try to love them into being better people.
4: A feminist. Oh yes, you really want to stay away from people who believe in social and legal equality for all genders. Can’t have them disrupting your little kingdom or taking away your power over them.
5: Someone who doesn’t try to make other people believe the same things he does. Apparently if you don’t believe there’s a place of eternal torment, you aren’t a Christian. And if you don’t tell people about how doomed they are because they believe differently, then you still aren’t a Christian.
6: Someone who doesn’t want children. Obviously, we should not allow geriatric widows or widowers to fall in love at the nursing home and get married.
7: Someone who likes traveling. Girls who like traveling aren’t as likely to stay home and obey you.
Yeah. I think that’s enough. Now, go make love instead of war.


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To conduct the study , Johnstonbaugh, a sociology doctoral student, had more than 1, college students from seven universities fill out an online survey asking them about their rationale for sexting. But are there small things that might evolve into bigger issues someday? Texting a nude could be risky because you might accidentally text the wrong person, so it can be helpful to double-check. This commitment allows you the luxury to relax a bit more when sending texts. I need to check your package. They were in touch in the build-up. Additionally, it can be challenging to know exactly how secure different means of communication are.
I actually admire your courage for dealing with your mind not with your emotions… Take care.. Innocently, but still wanting it? The shock in his eyes when he saw me satisfied my spirit. The family were previously pictured enjoying time in an elephant rescue park , where they walked with the magnificent animals and fed them lunch. By communicating directly, you have a better chance of ensuring that what was meant to be private stays private. I really need to see you. Texting helps make long distance more bearable by having the ability to be in constant contact.


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This couple just got married and was spending their honeymoon at a secluded campgrounds next to a small lake. Every day the new bridegroom was seen in a boat on the lake fishing.Two old timers who was always setting on the dock thought it kinda funny that the groom was
A young Japanese girl had been taught all of her life that when she married she was to please her husband and never upset him.So the first morning of her honeymoon when the young Japanese bride crawled out of the bed after making love and she stooped down to pick
On their wedding night the new couple are just about to do the deed when the wife tells her new husband that she has a confession.”I lied when I told you I was a virgin. I have been with one other man” she tells her new hubby.The new husband asks
A guy out on the golf course takes a high speed ball right in the crotch. Writhing in agony, he falls to the ground, when he finally gets himself to the doctor.He says, “How bad is it doc? I’m going on my honeymoon next week and my fianc?e is still
A young couple got married and left on their honeymoon.When they got back, the bride immediately called her mother.”Well, how was the honeymoon?” asked the mother.”Oh mamma!” she exclaimed. “The honeymoon was wonderful! So romantic!”No sooner had she spoken the words than she burst out crying. “But mamma . .
One day, a young cowboy and a cowgirl decided to get married.He was a man of the world and she was an innocent bride withno experience.On the first night of their honeymoon the couple washed upand started to get ready for bed. When they get into bed,they start exploring each
A newlywed couple returned to their apartment after being on their honeymoon.”Care to go upstairs and do it?” the husband asked.”Shh!” said the bride “All the neighbors will know what we’re about to do. These walls are paper thin. In the future, we’ll have to ask each other in code.


12th LIFT – Festival of lesbian identities, Budapest, October 26th – 28th 2018 (by Labrisz, Budapest)
Violence in lesbian relationships – a Slovenian perspective
(Saturday, October 27th 2018, 16:00-17:30, Galgóczi Room, Bálint Ház)
The issue of violence in lesbian intimate relationships is a topic that is underrepresented and rarely discussed in our community and in professional circles engaged in working with survivors of violence. Being informed about the dynamics of violence, different forms of violence, challenges when trying to leave the abusive partner and other specifics of violence in lesbian relationships, is the key to prevent further victimisation of survivors and a way to practice community accountability.
Led by Mateja Merkandel, Lesbian Feminist University, Ljubljana. The workshop is in English.
Lesbian relationships in Slovenia
(Saturday, October 27th 2018, 18:00-19:30, Galgóczi Room, Bálint Ház)
The research on lesbian relationships to be presented at this workshop took place in April and May 2017, carried out by Polona Černič and Urška Bremec. Their purpose was to investigate the characteristics of lesbian partnerships in Slovenia. Where do lesbians learn about potential partners? What is the quality of their relationships and how satisfied are they with their relationships? Four hundred respondents responded to the survey, which therefore represents one of the more extensive studies on the lives of women entering into lesbian partnerships in our region.
Presented by Polona Černič, Lesbian Feminist University, Ljubljana. The workshop is in English.