Personality Profiles of Women in Relationships Involving Men with Pathological Personality Features
Authors and Contributors
Katherine Lucas (0000-0002-6262-5933)
Susan C. South (0000-0003-0341-7074)
Douglas B. Samuel (0000-0003-3592-1523)
Department of Psychology, Purdue University
The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction
Katherine Lucas is now at the Department of Psychology at the University of Mississippi.
We have no conflicts of interests to disclose.
Correspondence concerning this article should be addressed to Douglas B. Samuel, Department of Psychology, Purdue University, West Lafayette, IN 47907 Email: email@example.com
Relationships involving people with antisocial (ASPD), borderline (BPD), and narcissistic (NPD) personality disorders are known to be distressing to partners. There is a relative dearth of research, however, into the personalities of the partners of people with ASPD, BPD, and NPD. The current study examines the personalities of women in relationships with men with ASPD, BPD, or NPD.
Participants completed a battery of online questionnaires, including measures of normal range personality traits for both the participant and their partner, extreme ends of personality traits for both the participant and their partner, and partners’ personality disorder features.
We found that our sample of women was significantly more conscientious and agreeable than a normative sample on both personality scales given. We also conducted a latent profile analysis to account for multiple, conflicting personality profiles that may skew the whole sample comparisons. We found 4 personality profiles for each personality measure that are consistently high on agreeableness and conscientiousness but vary on neuroticism and extraversion.
Our results suggest that that there are several distinct personality profiles of women who find themselves in a relationship with men perceived as high in maladaptive personality features. This information can be used in testing interventions addressing the maladaptive personality features in the men, as the interaction between both partners’ personalities can negate successful interventions aimed at personality. In addition, future research on this topic can determine if these deviations in personality are a result of the relationship or could indicate a vulnerability to entering these maladaptive relationships.
Personality Profiles of Women in Relationships Involving Men with Pathological Personality Features
People with personality disorders have distressed intimate romantic relationships (e.g., South, Turkheimer, & Oltmanns, 2008). In particular, those with elevated levels of antisocial, borderline, histrionic and narcissistic (the Cluster B disorders in Section II of the Fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual; DSM-5, 2013) personality features are more likely to be involved in distressed relationships marked by daily negative behaviors (South, 2014), conflict (South, Turkheimer, and Oltmanns, 2008) and intimate partner violence (Dowgillo, Menard, Krueger, & Pincus, 2016; South et al., 2008). Despite the negative behaviors observed in these individuals, they continue to find partners and enter relationships, even marriages (Whisman, 2007). Research to date has largely focused on how individuals with personality pathology fare in romantic relationships. We know much less about the partners—those who enter into and try to maintain a relationship with someone with maladaptive personality traits. In the current study, we examine the personality traits of individuals who identify their former partners as having high levels of antisocial, borderline, or narcissistic personality pathology.
Negative Impact of Personality Disorder Traits on Relationship Functioning
A person with elevated levels of personality disorder (PD) symptoms is more likely to self-report low levels of relationship satisfaction. In a community sample of married couples, South and colleagues (2008) found that total PD symptoms explained a significant amount of the variance in self-reported marital satisfaction. Higher levels of personality pathology, as reported by the target and his or her spouse, were associated with lower levels of overall self-reported marital satisfaction. Stroud, Durbin, Saigal, and Knobloch-Fedders (2010) also looked at maladaptive personality traits and relationship satisfaction. In a sample of married couples with children, they found that self-reported PD features were positively correlated with marital dissatisfaction. More recently, narcissistic and borderline symptoms have been associated with lower relationship satisfaction, as reported by the target and his or her partner (Lavner et al 2015; Lavner et al 2016).
Beyond marital satisfaction, intimate partner violence is also more likely in couples in which one partner has elevated levels of PD pathology (Spencer et al 2019). For instance, higher levels of target PD symptoms are associated with greater verbal aggression and increased likelihood of physical aggression (South et al., 2008). Dowgwillo, Menard, Krueger, and Pincus (2016) found significant associations between IPV perpetration and self-reported pathological personality traits as measured by the PID-5 (Krueger et al., 2012), an assessment instrument for the alternative trait model of PDs in the DSM. There are also numerous studies that find PD features in samples recruited from individuals with documented histories of partner violence (Hoyt et al., 2012; Buck et al., 2014; Brem et al., 2018).
Among the ten DSM-5 PD categories, antisocial, borderline, and narcissistic PD features tend to be most negatively associated with relationship functioning. Buck, Leenaars, Emmelkamp, and Marle (2014) focused their study specifically on ASPD, BPD, and NPD, finding strong correlations between ASPD and BPD with overall IPV. ASPD traits have also been linked to lower relationship overall reported satisfaction (Strout et al 2010), daily conflict behaviors (South, 2014) and perpetration of psychological and physical abuse (Ehrensaft et al 2006). BPD has also been correlated with lower relationship satisfaction in both the individual with BPD and their partner (Bouchard, Sabourin, Lussier, and Villenueve, 2009; Lavner, 2015). Lastly, while NPD is not as strongly associated with IPV as ASPD and BPD (Spencer et al., 2019), individuals higher in narcissistic features report relationship conflict and dissatisfaction (Back et al, 2013) and have partners that report low satisfaction (Lavner, 2015). Overall, ASPD, BPD, and NPD are consistently connected with dysfunctional relationship features.
Who Are the Partners?
All the research to date on individuals with PDs or elevated PD features capture reports of satisfaction or partner violence once the relationship is under way. We know little about the beginning of these relationships or if the negative impact of PDs on relationships is present from the beginning. It is unclear when in the course of a relationship the negative impact of PD features begins, as the research to date has utilized couples ranging from newlyweds (e.g., Lavner, 2015; Lavner, 2016) to long-term, older, married couples (e.g., South et al, in press). In South et al. (2008), participants had been married on average 3.7 years and 12-15% of the sample met criteria for a PD, according to presence of self-reported symptoms. Similarly, in the Decuyper, Gistelinck, Vergauwe, Pancorbo, and Fruyt (2018) study, in a sample of couples with a PD present in at least one member of the couple, the mean relationship length was 13.3 years and 56.9% were married.
A possible explanation for the initiation of these relationships is that personality pathology from cluster B personality disorders may take time before it begins to negatively impact a romantic relationship. For instance, research on individuals with narcissistic PD has found that on first meeting, and for some time afterward, they are seen as charming, outgoing, and fun; only over time does the arrogance and self-centeredness become damaging to interpersonal relationships (Paulhus, 1998). Friedman, Oltmanns, Gleason, & Turkheimer (2005) found when strangers are presented with a recorded interaction with audio only, video only, or both, they find those with ASPD attractive in both the audio only and video only conditions. Strangers also find those with NPD to be attractive in the video only condition and both attractive and likeable in the audio and video condition and the audio only condition. This indicates that the socially destructive aspects of their personalities are not apparent in initial impressions, but only become apparent over time as the individual’s more maladaptive traits become more visible.
A major methodological limitation of the research to date involves how participants are sampled in studies of pathological personality and relationship functioning. Studies either start with samples of “batterers” or individuals with known history of perpetration of IPV (Hoyt et al., 2021), or they recruit dyads from the community where severe PD pathology is less common (e.g., South et al.). No research to date has started by asking individuals to identify their partners as high in personality pathology and then examined the personalities of those who reported the relationships with high PD partners. The personality similarity of romantic partners on normal (Decuyper et al., 2011) and PD symptoms (South et al., 2011) is low; there may be some assortative mating for personality pathology, such that individuals with maladaptive traits end up together more than would be expected by chance, but for the bulk of couples where one person is elevated on PD pathology, the other is most likely much lower. The goal of the current study is to determine if there are certain personality traits, or certain personality profiles, common among people who get into – and stay in – relationships with people with PD traits.
The current study examined the personality traits of women who identified their former romantic partners as having antisocial, borderline, or narcissistic personality disorder. Our overall goal was to determine if there are certain personality traits that characterize the women who are partners of men with ASPD, BPD, or NPD. Our first aim was to compare the mean personality of the participants to normative personality data, to determine if there are any traits that appear to be more prevalent among women who have been in a relationship with a man with those PDs, than would be expected by chance. We first tested the mean difference between the average personality of the total sample and normative data from Rojas & Widiger (2013).
Even though ASPD, BPD, and NPD, share certain features (e.g., low levels of agreeableness and conscientiousness; Samuel & Widiger, 2008) they also differ in important ways. For example, BPD tends to be defined by high neuroticism, while ASPD and NPD tend to be lower in neuroticism (Lynam and Widiger, 2001). Thus, we would not expect one personality trait or set of traits common to everyone in a distressing relationship with someone with these disorders. Our second aim was to identify different personality profiles displayed within our sample of women. In pursuit of this second aim, we used latent profile analysis to identify different “profiles” or “groups” within the sample; subsequent groups were used as the basis for mean difference comparisons.
The sample consisted of women (n = 601), 18-70 years old, who have been in relationships with men they rated as having antisocial, borderline, or narcissistic personality disorder. Participants were recruited and data collected through the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction website and newsletter. Participants followed a link from the Institute’s webpage to the questionnaires and completed the demographic questionnaire, Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Assessment, Five Factor Model Rating Form (FFMRF) self-report, FFMRF informant report, Five Factor Form (FFF) self-report, FFF informant report, and Multisource Assessment of Personality Pathology (MAPP) informant report. All recruitment methods and procedures were approved by the Purdue University Internal Review Board. Participants were excluded if they were male, outside the age range, or had not been in a relationship with someone with ASPD, BPD, or NPD according to their informant report of symptoms.
Demographic Questionnaire. Participants completed a 12-item questionnaire on demographic information such as age, gender, race, and income. Participants who did not meet the criteria for the study were removed at this point.
Personality. Personality was assessed through two questionnaires. Participants completed these questionnaires about their own personality (self-report) and about their partner (informant report). The Five Factor Model Rating Form (FFMRF) is a 30-item questionnaire assessing the 30 facets of the Five Factor Model in lay language. Items are on a 5-point scale (1- extremely low to 5- extremely high). Participants completed a self-report version and an informant report version. This measure has good internal consistency and validity as demonstrated by convergent associations with other measures of the Five Factor Model (Mullins-Sweatt, Jamerson, Samuel, Olson & Widiger 2006).
In addition, the Five Factor Form (FFF) was used as a self-report measure of the participant’s personality and an informant report measure of their partner’s personality. This measure is a 30-item version of the FFMRF where participants rate themselves on a scale of 1 (maladaptive low) to 5 (maladaptive high) on items aimed at more extreme levels of the Five Factor Model (FFM) personality traits (i.e. Angry hostility ranges from (5) rageful to (1) won’t even protest exploitation). This measure has been shown to have strong convergent and discriminant validity down to the single-item facet level when compared to other measures of personality (Rojas & Widiger 2013).
Personality Disorder Features. The Multisource Assessment of Personality Pathology (MAPP) was used to assess the personality pathology of the participant’s male partner. The MAPP consists of 114 items that assesses the criteria of the 10 PDs as defined by the DSM-5 Section II. The MAPP items consists of the DSM-5 criteria translated into lay language (i.e. is sympathetic and kind to others). Items are rated on a scale from 0 (never this way) to 3 (always this way). The participants filled out a 3rd person informant report version of the MAPP for their partner. This measure was used to determine if the partner met the criteria for antisocial, borderline, or narcissistic personality disorder. This measure has been shown to have high reliability and substantial agreement with other measures of personality pathology, if slightly more conservative (Okada & Oltmanns 2009). (Additional data was collected but not used in this study.)
Data analysis proceeded in two parts. The first step was to use a t test to determine if there are any mean differences between the average personality profile of the total sample of women and normative personality data on the FFMRF and FFF from Rojas and Widiger (2013). The Rojas and Widiger (2013) normative data were collected from a sample of 510 community adults completing the FFMRF and FFF as part of a study to determine the validity of the FFF. Therefore, it will be an adequate normative personality comparison for the sample collect in this study. In the second step, Latent Profile Analysis (LPA) was used to analyze the FFMRF and FFF data. This method of analysis groups participants based on common trends in their personalities. An ANOVA was then be conducted on the resulting groups to look for mean differences on the FFF, FFMRF, and MAPP.
Multiple post hoc power analyses were conducted using G*Power 18.104.22.168 to determine the achieved power of the study in various scenarios. A power analysis was run to determine the power to compare the total sample with the normative data. The analysis was run using a t test for the difference between two independent means with an alpha of 0.05. Group 1 was our sample (n = 601) and group 2 was the sample from Rojas and Widiger (2013; n = 510). This analysis indicated that a medium effect size (d = 0.5) could be detected with 100% certainty and a small effect size (d = 0.2) could be detected with 95% certainty. A second power analysis indicated using an ANOVA fixed effects, omnibus, one-way and alpha at .05 with a sample of n = 601, a medium effect size (f = 0.25) could be detected with 99% power with 2, 3, and 5 profile groups. The power only fell below 99% when there were 17 groups; however, this many groups is not expected. Due to the exploratory nature of the study the expected effect size is not confident, therefore, another power analysis was run with the same criteria, except to detect a small effect size (f = 0.10). A small effect could be detected with 69% certainty with 2 groups, 58% with 3, and 47% with 5. These effect sizes were chosen based on other studies with similar comparisons that have found medium to small effect sizes (Hoyt, Wray, Wiggins, Gerstle, & Maclean 2012) Results of our power analysis indicated that we were well powered to detect an effect if one exists.
Comparison of FFMRF scores with a normative group
An independent samples t-test was conducted to compare the FFM personality trait means for the sample of women in these relationships with a general sample of undergraduate women (Rojas and Widiger 2013). There was a significant difference among all five personality traits; p < 0.001 for all traits. The analysis revealed a large effect size for agreeableness (d = 1.01), medium effect sizes for neuroticism (d = 0.31), extraversion (d = 0.31), and conscientiousness (d = 0.49), and a small effect size for openness (d = 0.13). These results suggest that, on average, the women in our sample were higher on all the FFM traits than a general sample of women (Rojas and Widiger, 2013). The effect for agreeableness, in particular, is large suggesting a substantial degree of discrepancy between women in the general population.
Comparison of FFF scores with a normative group
An independent samples t-test was conducted to compare the personality trait means on the FFF from this sample of women in these relationships with means from on the FFF from a sample of undergraduate college women (Rojas and Widiger, 2013). There was a significant difference among all five personality traits; p < 0.001. Analysis revealed medium effect sizes for agreeableness (d = 0.41), openness (d = 0.31), conscientiousness (d = 0.31), and neuroticism (d = 0.24), and a small effect size for extraversion (d = 0.01). These results suggest that on average the woman in our sample were higher on all FFF domains than the general sample of undergraduate women (Rojas and Widiger 2013).
Latent Profile Analysis
The fit statistics for the 2- to 6-profile solutions for the FFMRF and 2- to 7-profile solutions for the FFF can be found in Table 1. The fit statistics for analysis of the FFMRF data steadily decrease until the 4-profile solution, after which the BIC increases and the other fit statistics decrease at a slower rate. This suggest that the best-fitting solution was the 4-profile solution. The fit statistics for the analysis with the FFF data steadily decrease until the 4-profile solution, after which they decrease at a slower rate, beginning with the 5-profile solution, the BIC levels off. This suggests the superiority of the 4-profile solution for the FFF data. This is confirmed by one group dropping to 2.2% of the sample in the 5-profile solution; after a certain number of profiles the fit statistics may still decrease, but the class sizes will become smaller and begin to resemble each other (Daljeet et al., 2017).
The 4-profile solution was chosen for the FFMRF and group membership assigned to each participant. Z-scores were used to determine how exactly the groups differ from each other and are displayed in Figure 1. Each group is characterized by a unique combination of traits. Compared to the entire sample, group 1 is higher in introversion and lower in openness. Group 2 is higher in neuroticism, extraversion, and openness. Group 3 is higher in neuroticism, but lower in extraversion and conscientiousness. Lastly, relative to the sample, Group 4 is higher in extraversion and conscientiousness, but lower in neuroticism. It is important to note that these are comparisons within the sample, so a group being lower on a trait like agreeableness does not necessarily mean they are low on agreeableness, as this sample is extremely high on agreeableness compared to a normal population. Therefore, the raw means of each group’s traits are provided in Table 2.
The 4-profile solution was also the superior solution for the FFF as evidenced by the fit statistics in Table 1. Z-scores were used to determine how exactly the groups differ from each other and are displayed in Figure 2. Group 1 is neurotic and extraverted when compared to the entire sample. Group 2 is comparatively more neurotic, introverted, and disinhibited. Group 3 is introverted, disagreeable, and not open relative to the sample. Lastly, Group 4 is neurotic, extraverted, open, conscientious, and agreeable. Again, these are comparisons within the sample, so being higher or lower on a trait is not indicative of this group being high or low on the trait compared to a normative sample. Therefore, the raw means of each group’s traits are provided in Table 3.
Similarity Between Measures
The validity of these profiles is supported by the way the FFMRF and FFF profiles mirror one another. The z-score differences between profiles can be seen in Figure 1 and Figure 2. As seen when comparing these graphs, FFMRF group 1 resembles FFF group 3, FFMRF group 2 resembles FFF group 4, FFMRF group 3 resembles FFF group 2, and FFMRF group 4 resembles FFF group 1. These groups have similar builds that are unique from the groups outside of their pair but differ in how extreme they are on each trait. This is to be expected as the FFF is aimed at the extreme ends of the same traits as the FFMRF, therefore the FFF may show some extremes capped by the FFMRF while the FFMRF shows a broader range within normal personality, resulting in similar profiles differing in their extremity. This similar build across measures supports that these are true profiles within the sample.
The relationship functioning of people with elevated symptoms/features of ASPD, BPD, and NPD are well studied; however, most of the studies that assess the personality traits of both partners utilize community samples where the prevalence of severe pathology is relatively low. This limits the ability to understand the personality traits of partners of individuals with levels of personality pathology. Understanding the personality traits of individuals who get into relationships with men with personality disorders can inform treatment for distressing relationships. There is almost no literature on couples’ treatment for individuals with PDs. Understanding the partners, and the different ways in which they may enter and maintain a relationship with someone with these PDs, is an important step in understanding and treating the relationships in a broader sense.
We found that women in these relationships are significantly higher on many of the FFM personality traits, as measured using two different inventories. This was especially true for their levels of agreeableness and conscientiousness to a lesser extent, suggesting that these personality traits might be linked in some way with having been in a pathological relationship with men who displayed symptoms of antisocial, borderline, and narcissistic personality disorder. However, from this data we cannot determine the cause. One potential explanation would be that women in this sample are just as likely to enter a relationship with someone with ASPD, BPD, or NPD as any other woman in the population, but their typically adaptive, agreeableness works against them in these relationships. High levels of agreeableness lead to a greater desire to work at maintaining all relationships (Harris & Vazire, 2016; Braithwaite et al., 2011); however, this trait that has helped foster many friendships and relationships (Malouff et al., 2010) in the past now helps to maintain a maladaptive relationship.
One possible mechanism for the role of agreeableness in staying in relationships with men with high levels of pathology is that higher agreeableness (and conscientiousness) are correlated with higher commitment in relationships (Ahmetoglu, Swami, and Chamorro-Premuzic 2009). Higher commitment, in turn, has then been found to indicate greater willingness to maintain maladaptive relationships due to a higher tolerance for both physical and verbal aggression (Arriaga, Capezza, and Daly 2015). Taken together, these studies support the idea that high agreeableness may indicate a risk factor for staying in a pathological relationship. If this were to be true, this information could have clinical implications for psychoeducation about one’s personality and an increased risk of maintaining pathological relationships.
Latent Profile Analysis
Upon conducting an LPA four distinct profiles emerged within the study’s sample of women for both the FFMRF and the FFF. Through the FFMRF LPA, the four profiles were consistently high on agreeableness and conscientiousness, as found in the overall analysis of the sample. Notable differences between the profiles were lower conscientiousness in group 3, lower extraversion in groups 1 and 3 but higher extraversion in group 4, higher neuroticism in group 3 but lower neuroticism in group 4, and lower openness in group 1 but higher openness in group 2 (Figure 1). Through the FFF LPA, the four profiles were also consistently high on agreeableness and conscientiousness. Notable differences between the profiles were lower conscientiousness in group 2, lower extraversion in groups 2 and 3, higher neuroticism in group 2 but lower neuroticism in group 1, and lower openness in group 3. Group 4 was higher on all traits compared to the sample means (Figure 2).
Implications and Applications
These personality profiles have implications for treatment of maladaptive relationships or therapy clients who have a pattern of maladaptive relationships. Understanding which profile a client falls under can provide insight into the perceptions motivating some behaviors that are less adaptive in navigating or exiting relationships that are likely to be distressing. In addition, a client who fits into one of these profiles may gain insight about themselves and feel validated by the knowledge that there are other women with a similar personality type experiencing similar relationship challenges.
The overall differences between the women in this sample and a normative sample, could also inform treatment. The higher agreeableness and conscientiousness found in these women could signify a vulnerability to entering maladaptive relationships, be it romantic relationships, friendships, or professional relationships. Further research is needed to determine this vulnerability, however the knowledge that high agreeableness and conscientiousness is found in women in these maladaptive relationships can inform treatment similarly to the individual personality profiles.
Limitations and Future Research
There are limitations to this study that must be considered when interpreting these results. To begin, there may be personality differences between other women in these relationships and the women on the Institute website, volunteering for a study without compensation. This sample is also compared to a normative sample with different inclusion criteria, including data on both men and women. These differences in samples may lead to an over- or underexaggerated effect in personality differences. In addition, all information on the participant was self-report and information on the partner was informant report, neither of which can be verified. The study is also lacking information on the relationships that may contribute to better understanding these women. Lastly, it is important to interpret the LPA used in this analysis cautiously. The main argument against use of the LPA is that it will find groups within any population. The fact that the LPA finds a group does not necessarily mean that the finding is meaningful (Specht et al., 2014). However, we have chosen to include the LPA in this case as we believe it provides potentially helpful information for clinicians, it exceeds the standards for a valid LPA, provides validity in replicating between the two measures, and can build a base for future research to test recurrence of these profiles.
Future research can address if there are differences among these profiles in relationship duration, level of distress within the relationship, and reason for exiting the relationship. In addition, as cause cannot be determined within the limitations of this study, future research can focus on understanding whether these personality traits indicate a vulnerability to entering and maintaining these relationships or if they are a lasting “scar” from the relationship.
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South, S. C. (2014). Personality pathology and daily aspects of marital functioning. Personality Disorders: Theory, Research, and Treatment, 5(2), 195–203. doi: 10.1037/per0000039
South, S.C., Boudreaux, M., & Oltmanns, T.F. (in press). Personality disorders and intimate partner aggression: A replication and extension in older, married couples. Personality Disorders: Theory, Research, and Treatment.
South, S. C., Turkheimer, E., & Oltmanns, T. F. (2008). Personality disorder symptoms and marital functioning. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology,76(5), 769-780.
South, S. C., Oltmanns, T. F., Johnson, J., & Turkheimer, E. (2011). Level of agreement between self and spouse in the assessment of personality pathology. Assessment, 18(2), 217–226. doi: 10.1177/1073191110394772
Weiss, B., Lavner, J. A., & Miller, J. D. (2018). Self- and partner-reported psychopathic traits’ relations with couples’ communication, marital satisfaction trajectories, and divorce in a longitudinal sample. Personality Disorders: Theory, Research, and Treatment, 9(3), 239–249. doi: 10.1037/per0000233
Whisman, M. A., & Schonbrun, Y. C. (2009). Social consequences of borderline personality disorder symptoms in a population-based survey: Marital distress, marital violence, and marital disruption. Journal of personality disorders, 23(4), 410-415.
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Tables and Figures
Model fit statistics for the 2- to 6-profile and 2- to 7-profile models.
Sample-size adjusted BIC
Raw means from LCA of FFMRF: 4-Profile Solution
*superscripts denote significant differences between traits but not classes
Raw means from LCA of FFF: 4-Profile Solution
*superscripts denote significant differences between traits but not classes
Mean differences from LCA of FFMRF: 4-Profile Solution
Mean differences from LCA of FFF: 4-Profile Solution


A best friend of 20 years — someone with whom I’m usually politically aligned — recently posted something political and inflammatory on Instagram. I strongly disagreed with her point of view, and the “evidence” she used to bolster her case felt speculative at best and conspiracy-theory-adjacent at worst.
I immediately texted her, telling her as much. And while I was grateful that she did end up calling me, I lost my temperas soon as I realized that she wouldn’t accept differing evidence. I yelled, and she yelled back.
In the following days, however, it became clear to her that what she posted was misinformation, and after some emailing, she gave a milquetoast, formal apology to me. After another couple of weeks, I also apologized to her for losing my temper. And yet the friendship still feels terminally damaged. We aren’t speaking.
What should you do when you see that a close friend, someone who considers herself an advocate for truth and justice, posts something not only untrue but also damaging to good-faith arguments in general? And shouldn’t she update her followers? — Name Withheld
From the Ethicist:
It was good that you contacted your friend and set her right. And yes, once she accepted that she’d erred, she should have retracted her post. But the damage to your relationship wasn’t done by your correcting her or by her taking her time to accept that she was wrong. It was done by your losing your temper. Your friend made one kind of mistake with an ill-judged post. You made another in blowing up at her. (And your apology took longer than hers to arrive.) But none of that means that the friendship has to come to an end. If you aren’t speaking to each other, that’s something you have a chance to change by calling her.
I hope you will. In general, it’s bad to get in the habit of severing ties over a political disagreement. It seems even more unfortunate when two people are, like you and your friend, politically aligned, and when, as in your case, the substantive disagreement is over, your friend having conceded that you were right.


I always say Sundays are meant for Family days, in a society where we work most of the time and never make actual time for one another.
I woke up feeling seriously crappy, I suppose I didn’t sleep well. Woke after 8 and decided to get my act together and started working on my garden whilst my husband is seeing to lunch.
Once our family arrived my attitude changed, I was happy seeing our grandparents and just enjoying a beautiful lunch and general family gossip if u will..
Somehow I didn’t want them to leave I wanted them to stay so that we could talk some more and it’s not as if we hadn’t spoken alot.
I found myself craving family gatherings more than usual. It’s a bond very few can break.
#fortheloveoffamily #goodconversations #goodfood


Navigating Grief During the Holidays: Finding Joy and Gratitude with LeAnzar Stockley
LeAnzar Stockley is a grief recovery specialist and the founder of Soul Society 61. He is certified in the evidence-based grief recovery program and helps individuals process their grief in a healthy and effective way. Summary: LeAnzar Stockley discusses the impact of the holiday season on grief and provides strategies for navigating through grief during this time. He emphasizes the importance of allowing oneself to feel the emotions associated with grief and not suppressing them. LeAnzar also highlights the need for supportive relationships and offers advice on how to support someone who is grieving. He explains the difference between sympathy and compassion, and how compassion involves being present with someone in their grief rather than trying to fix or alleviate their pain. LeAnzar also explores the role of joy and gratitude in the grieving process, emphasizing that it is possible to experience both grief and gratitude simultaneously.
It is important to allow oneself to feel the emotions associated with grief and not suppress them. Supportive relationships are crucial for navigating through grief, and it is important to let the person who is grieving lead the way in terms of what support they need. Compassion involves being present with someone in their grief, while sympathy often involves pity or feeling sorry for the person. Joy and gratitude can coexist with grief and can provide strength and support during the grieving process. "You can be grieving and grateful at the same time."


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The Enneagram & Relational Health: Increasing Your Capacity for More Love & Better Relationships
March 30th, 2019
This workshop explores the instincts and subtypes of each Enneagram type, and how they influence the way we show up in our relationships. Come learn helpful tools to see your relationships more clearly, and to show up more honestly for yourself and your partner.


I know you’re keeping a little hope that one day, that maybe just one day, he will look at you in a different light. The hope in your heart is too strong that one day he will feel the same way too, to the point that you are willing to wait for that ‘one day’ to come, no matter how long it takes. You tell yourself a lot of times that he just doesn’t seem to get your implied but meaningful statements, that he just doesn’t notice how you secretly look at him from a distance and that he is just so clueless how informed are you with everything about him. You always condition yourself to be patient a little more, because you know in your heart that there is really a chance.
I know this is harsh, but maybe he has noticed it, it’s just that he doesn’t give a damn. Maybe that hope is false, that ‘one day’ may never really come and that there is really no chance – BECAUSE HE IS NOT JUST INTO YOU. Been there, done that! Not convince yet? Here are the signs you might want to consider:
1. HE IS AVOIDING YOU
If he replies after hours or days or weeks – He is not just into you. If he doesn’t take your calls, if he always has excuses whenever you or your friends invite him, and if you are constantly being seenzoned by him, girl, better wake up and give yourself some respect. Don’t feed your mind with justification that he is just busy. A person who is into you will always find a way to be with you or to get in touch with you. But if a guy doesn’t like you he will always have excuses. Don’t waste your precious time checking your inbox, because you are not his priority. He is not making any effort to be with you or to communicate with you, simply because he doesn’t want to. Save yourself from further pain, don’t wait till he becomes blunt about it. So don’t run after the person who is running away from you.
2. HE IS NOT SAYING IT
Action speaks louder than word, but a guy who is into you will not keep you guessing. He will be honest. He will take the courage, however difficult it may seem. He will conquer his fears. He will not confuse you. He will let you know that he likes you. He will be man enough to speak up. He will pursue you, if he is really sure about his feelings for you. No buts, no ifs. If he is not saying anything, if he is not courting you, then better not to waste your time wishing. Because honestly, there is no chance. He is not just into you. I’m sorry. Just focus your energy and attention to some other things.
3. HE LIKES YOU BUT ONLY AS A FRIEND
Do not confuse a good friendship with the kind of relationship you have in mind. Don’t give a different meaning with the treatment he is giving you – because that’s basically how he treats a very special FRIEND. Not a girlfriend, but only as a FRIEND. Not because he is nice to you or he always wants to be around you it doesn’t mean he is falling in love with you. He probably just enjoys your company as a FRIEND. Nothing more, nothing less. Don’t be unfair to him by not appreciating the friendship he is building with you, just because you are blinded by your own feelings. Don’t be unfair to yourself too. You don’t deserve all those wrong assumptions of love and mistaken basis of happiness. If he can only love you as a friend, accept it. Be a friend to him too by respecting his feelings and the relationship he can only offer. Sometimes there are people who are better of as friends. So don’t push it anymore.
4. HE IS SEEING SOMEBODY ELSE
If you see him out with someone, if he keeps posting his picture with another person or if he keeps mentioning or telling stories about somebody else – please, do not think he is just making you jealous. If a guy likes you the least that he will do is to hurt you. He will make all the efforts to appear single and available for you. He will even avoid all the possibilities of being linked to any other girls.
If bad news break, and you learn the sad truth, you have nothing best to do but to accept it with class and grace. Never act as if you are a jealous girlfriend, because you are not – A GIRLFRIEND. Don’t get mad at him, oh please. Don’t create drama. Save yourself some dignity. Let go and move on.
5. HE REMEMBERS YOU ONLY WHEN HE IS BORED OR WHEN HE NEEDS YOUR HELP
Here you are jumping out of joy, because finally he remembers you. But wait! Before you assume that he is checking on you, check the context of his message firat. Is he just bored? Does the conversation make any sense? You would know a person who just texts you out of boredom if he disappears in the middle of the conversation without any warning, because he either finds another person to talk to, or he finds some other things to do.
Also, ask yourself “Does he need anything?” There are guys who text not for any romantic reasons, but simply because they need help. Apparently, you appear to him as the best person to approach, because he is aware that you’re always there for him and you always make a way for him.
Ladies, there is a big difference between a guy who makes an effort to be noticed and a guy who is a plainly a user. Be wise enough to figure out the difference before it’s too late.
Give yourself a big favor and don’t chase the man of your dreams, because the right one will chase you. He will make an effort to be in your life. With that person, it’s not gonna be a one way street. You just got to let go of what’s not meant for you so as to make room for the one who will give you the love you truly deserve. You just got to wait a little more. What’s meant for you will not escape you. It’s just a matter of time – right time. The reason why sometimes people meet the wrong ones is for them to appreciate the right one. At any rate, carry on and do not be a bitter heart. Trust that rejection is sometimes a blessing in disguise. Know that this is all for your good. ♡
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The Social Inclusion Team is also developing a pilot permitting policy that will make it easier for small organizations to hold local events and building neighbourhood clusters that can build relationships and work together on local issues.
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I learned early in life that I am truly a romantic at heart. I am intrinsically built to be in a committed relationship with one other person and my approach to love and dating is oriented in that direction.
I also know what kind of partner I want. I want (and have) someone who:
Challenges me. Calls me on my bullshit (the things I do that mess up my own life, we’ll talk about this again). Loves me before, during, and after major changes in work, life, and even personality and values. Someone I don’t grow tired of. Someone who thinks of me randomly, and does the small things to show thoughtfulness and care. I wanted (and now have) someone to put me first.
Knowing all of that, made me awful at dating. Every girl I dated either couldn’t be that for me, or I wasn’t giving them what they needed.
So, I stopped looking for someone to be that for me.
I started just treating women well. I stopped playing the dating game. If I liked someone, I told them early that they were great and I wanted to get to know them better. Two girls in particular just sort of declined, for lack of a better term. One reciprocated that sentiment.
Then after we flirted and she made me spaghetti and we took photos and just had fun together, we started dating. But this time I approached the dating part differently too.
What if I took all of those things I want in a relationship, and put it aside? What if instead, I committed to being all of those qualities, not just looking for them from someone else? Well, we’ve been together over 3 years now. She’s reciprocated everything I’ve given, and she’s given me more.
Relationships that are built on giving without expectation, and reciprocating behaviors that you like, tend to be meaningful, beautiful, and they tend to last.


DAMON (ON THE RADIO)
Hi you’re listening to “The Lonely Hearts Radio Show”, but I know you’re really listening to your heart. You pretend it’s me you’re having a dialogue with but it isn’t. Fess up. It’s the continuous beating of your heart. You wish it would stop, that you couldn’t hear it, because then you could talk yourself into believing you don’t have a heart and you can’t be hurt anymore. You hear your heart thumping and it makes you mad. Mad because if there were other noises surrounding you, perhaps the noise of another human being interested in you, you wouldn’t hear your heart. The pounding noise just underlines with each thud your loneliness. It’s A LOT to ask me to FILL in for your unhappiness. Fuck you. I’m lonely too. I know you because I am you. I’m hurt too. So together we despise each other and need each other. Don’t turn off your radio, I need you too. We’ll be right back after this sickening commercial, I don’t want to play it, you don’t want to hear it, but we’re lonely so we need the NOISE.


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In the IIM Ahmedabad mess, where Krish, a Punjabi boy from Delhi sees a beautiful girl, Ananya, a Tamilian from Chennai, quarreling with the mess staff about the food. They become instant friends and decide to study together. During this time, they become romantically involved. They both get job placements, and have serious plans for marriage. Initially Krish tries to convince Ananya\’s parents, and at last convinces them by helping Ananya\’s father to do his first PowerPoint Presentation, her brother, Manju, by coaching him for his exams, and her mom by asking her to sing in a concert organised by his workplace. After which, they try to convince Krish\’s mom. But the problem is Krish\’s maternal side of the family are completely against such a union. They say that Krish should not marry a \”Madrasi\” but end up agreeing when Ananya successfully helps one of Krish\’s cousins to get married. The last step they had to go through was to get their families to like and respect each other (after a disastrous first meeting during convocation). That though failed miserably as Krish\’s mother kept making snide remarks which led to Ananya\’s parents walking out. In an effort to keep the situation in hand, Krish tries to soothe his mother\’s anger by lying, during this conversation Ananya and her parents walk back in and overhear it all. Ananya then decides to end the relationship. But, at last, Krish\’s father, who since the start had an antagonistic relationship with his son, helps Krish and Ananya to get married by convincing Ananya\’s family and apologizing for his wife\’s actions. Krish and Ananya get married and it is revealed that he became an author and a father of twin boys.


we're synergic (#7) is a scholastic art awards national silver key award winner
this series is a representation of the relationship and similarities between humans and animals in order to raise awareness for endangered species. animals have never been in greater need of human compassion. today, we have a parasitic relationship with animals, as many believe the success of humans is contingent upon urbanization and destruction of nature. but, we must form a symbiotic relationship with other creatures, because for each species that dies out, we lose a piece of ourselves.


Alas my love you do me wrong
To cast me off discourteously;
And I have loved you oh so long
Delighting in your company.
Greensleeves was all my joy
Greensleeves was my delight
Greensleeves was my heart of gold
And who but my lady Greensleeves


She is telling her friend a secret or sharing a problem that she can't solve alone. Maybe she's pregnant by her priest.
Cape Cod Evening
She doesn't know how to tell him that she wants a divorce.
New York Movie Theater
She can't wait for her shift to be over so that she can meet her Puerto Rican boyfriend at a coffee shop in East Harlem.


Contrary to CD40B cells, unstimulated B cells displayed high levels of CXCR5 and incredibly low degrees of CCR7 on the surface, therefore indicating that they could localize in the B cell follicles preferentially. 106 Compact disc8+ human being T cells of the cyclin D1-particular T-cell clone had been embedded inside the collagen matrix alongside the different APC subsets. Towards the coculture with cyclin D1-particular T cells Prior, the various APC subsets had been pulsed with peptide (Fig.?1A). Stunning differences between your interactions patterns of B or DCs cells with T cells had been noticed. Open in another window Shape 1. Relationships between Compact disc40B CTLs and cells are short-lived. Cyclin D1-particular T cells had been inlayed in 3D collagen matrices as well as different APCs: relaxing B cell (B cell), Compact disc40B cells (Compact disc40B), immature (DCimm) and adult (DCmat) DCs. APCs had been pulsed with 10 g/mL from the peptide cyclinD1_228 had been indicated. Cell motions had been documented by time-lapse video microscopy as well as the duration of specific T cell-APC connections was examined. (A) Each dot represents one get in touch with. Bars stand for the median. *< 0.001. Data are pooled from 34 movies from 9 3rd party tests. (B) The percentage of cell connections that go longer than 45?min of most connections are shown. *< 0.002. DCs involved in a lot longer connections with T cells than do B cells (Fig.?1A; Film S1). Oddly enough, both relaxing and Compact disc40B cells change from immature and mature DCs by showing an instant migratory pattern going through highly powerful, short-lived, and sequential relationships with cognate T cells (Films S2C4). Normally mature DCs remained in touch with T AZD1080 cells a lot more than twice as very long as relaxing or Compact disc40B cells. For DCs, we observed a reciprocal romantic relationship between activation duration and position of APCCT-cell get in touch with. Whereas the median get in touch with length for immature DC?T-cell pairs was 12.5?min, mature DC?T-cell connections lasted longer having a median get in touch with duration of 23 significantly.3?min. T cells mainly involved with immature DCs or with adult DCs inside a short-lived way however they additionally shaped stable long connections (specific adult DC?T-cell contacts enduring up to >8?h). The percentage of steady connections (>45?min) was significantly higher in mature DCs than in immature DCs (Fig.?1B). T cells crawled along the top of DCs, and finally stuck to 1 site and remained there through the entire get in touch with (Film S1). Compact disc40B-T-cell relationships had been short-lived and transient, lasting only short while with median get in touch with length of 7.5?min (Fig.?1A; Films S3C4). Nearly all relationships between unstimulated B cells and T cells had been also short-lived having a median duration of 10?min, but significantly much longer than the get AZD1080 in touch with time between Compact disc40B cells and T cells AZD1080 (7.5?min). Whereas in DCs the duration of get in touch with appeared to be Gimap5 reciprocal with APC maturation, the correlation of APC contact and activation duration in B cells were inverse. When you compare the percentage of steady connections (>45?min), the percentage of long-lived connections was significantly higher in unstimulated B cells than Compact disc40B cells (Fig.?1B). The evaluation of cellular motions exposed that unstimulated B-T cell pairs had been frequently motile. An unstimulated B cell typically placed itself AZD1080 in the leading edge of the elongated T cell (Film S2). Sometimes, unstimulated B cells involved several T cell. Compact disc40B cells shown an instant migratory pattern. Compact disc40B -T cell pairs had been even more motile than unstimulated B-T cell pairs regularly changing the orientation of their motion. These observations reveal how the binding power between T cells and B cells can be high plenty of to overcome substantial shear makes imposed on migration from the limited collagen network. A Compact disc40B cell typically founded connection with two T cells or more to four concurrently (Film S4). Compact disc40B cells seemed to possess a DC-like motility and morphology in 3D time-lapse video microscopy. This is backed by movement cytometric analysis uncovering that Compact disc40B cells had been much bigger than unstimulated B cells (data not really demonstrated). T cells crawled on the bigger surface from the Compact disc40B cells much like just how they do along the DC surface area (Films S1 and 3). Unlike previous reviews, which proven that peptide-loaded relaxing murine B cells preserve long-lived relationships with Compact disc4+ T cells19, we discovered that normally peptide-pulsed resting human being B cells type primarily short-lived connections with antigen-specific T cells (median get in touch with length of 10?min). The median get in touch with duration remained nearly unchanged for unstimulated B cells interesting T cells in the existence (10?min) or lack.
Contrary to CD40B cells, unstimulated B cells displayed high levels of CXCR5 and incredibly low degrees of CCR7 on the surface, therefore indicating that they could localize in the B cell follicles preferentially


Our Companion Parishes
God calls us to connect with each other. God calls us into relationship with him in large measure by calling us into relationship with each other. Saint Ignatius has, over the past two decades, engaged in this process of forming relationships across the boundaries of race and class and gender, and across the physical boundaries of distance, of seas, and of mountains. We partnered with the church of All Saints in Khuma, South Africa during the struggle against Apartheid, and we saw the fruits of reciprocal ministry through prayer and through direct engagement. In the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina, we partnered with Christ Church, Slidell, Louisiana, and helped them rebuild their church and ministries.
We are now set to embark upon two new companion relationships that will strengthen us and our new partners, so we may move together as a church, together as a Communion. The first, with the Standing Rock Episcopal Mission in South Dakota, comes from our relationship with the Rev’d Robert C. Schwarz, former interim pastor of this parish church, and now rector of Saint James’s Church, Mobridge, South Dakota and priest-in-charge of Standing Rock. The second, with The Church of Saint Saviour, Pimlico, comes through the initiative of the Bishops of New York and London to forge relationships between parishes in Manhattan and Central London. These two very different church communities, each facing very different issues but united with us in the Sacraments and in our desire to be one Body in Christ’s Body, have now joined with us in mutual prayer and support.
More information about each congregation can be found on our website by clicking the links below:
Saint Saviour, Pimlico, London
Standing Rock Episcopal Mission, South Dakota
Read more about our Companion parishes in the Autumn 2009 newsletter.


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Send your anonymous Campus Crush advice requests here.
I’ve been talking to someone for several weeks. We’ve even gone out a few times, and I had a great time. I think my date had a good time, too, because they continue to text and send snapchats every now and then. We’re making plans to see each other again. The problem is, I don’t know how they really feel about me. We haven’t talked about “what we are,” and it’s driving me crazy to wait for one of us to make a move. At this point, I go back and forth on whether they even like me or not. Please help.
Confused and Unclear
Dear Confused and Unclear,
Sounds like a common problem. Dating can be messy, and starting a dating relationship can sometimes be the hardest step. My advice to you is that dating should go somewhere.
If he or she is just messing around with you, say “buh-bye!”
College is fun and about new experiences. I’m not telling you to overthink things or put more pressure on one date than there needs to be. Say yes to a cup of coffee. Let him buy you a drink. Ask that girl to your semi-formal, and tell her you had a great time afterward. If it doesn’t go anywhere, that’s okay. Dating takes practice. But remember: your time at Clemson is precious, too. Don’t waste it on someone who is stringing you along. I promise Tigertown has way more to offer than that.
Dating can be a blast. The beginning of a relationship is lighthearted; you’re just getting to know each other, and everything is new and exciting. Ultimately, however, dating should go in one direction or the other. Either you’re going to break up, or you’re going to get married. I’m not being harsh or assuming everyone wants to get married. 28 percent of college students marry their college boyfriend or girlfriend, and 85.1 percent of college-age females want to be married by age 30. Why should we pretend dating doesn’t serve a purpose?
So, in the spirit of clarity, here are a few tips.
#1: Ask. Ask if it’s a date. There is no harm in texting, “Hey, is this a date or just hanging out?” If you’ve been out a couple of times and are wondering if your Downtown Friday nights can be better spent, ask where things are going. If you want upfront and honest, be upfront and honest. Here’s a wild idea: when you’re initiating an invite, to begin with, say, “Would you like to go on a date with me?” Clarity can start from the get-go, but if it doesn’t, don’t be afraid to ask for it.
#2: Let go of Snapchat. I don’t mean to delete the app. I mean get a phone number the old-fashioned way. Some people (ladies and gents) may prefer Snap because it’s less pressure. Oftentimes, it takes the sting out of rejection because you can confidently get a Snapchat before asking for a phone number. Avoiding rejection still comes with a cost: confusion and dragging things out. Ask yourself which is worth more. If you want to be taken seriously… text first, don’t snap. Better yet, call. Communication is key in any relationship. Start early.
#3: Be the person you’d want to date. Ladies, if you expect chivalry, be classy. Strive to be a good listener. Thank him if he pays for the meal. Guys, if you expect a quick “I’m not into you” text rather than ghosting, be straightforward. Now, don’t be a creep or overbearing – if she acts uninterested, take a hint and move on. Do not “be the person you want to date” in order to attract someone you’re not; do be authentic. If you’re genuine, you might just get genuine back.
To quote the indubitable Ed Sheeran, “Don’t call me baby unless you mean it.” Good luck out there, tigers!


СОЦИАЛЬНО-ПЕДАГОГИЧЕСКАЯ ЗНАЧИМОСТЬ ПРЕДУСМОТРЕНИЯ
ПРИ ПРИВИТИИ ГЕНДЕРНОГО РАВЕНСТВА
SOCIAL AND PEDAGOGIC SIGNIFICANCE OF CONSIDERING THE INTERFAMILY
RELATIONS DURING THE INCULCATION OF GENDER EQUALITY
Азербайджанский институт учителей
Family is an educational institution that has a special place in the life of every person and forms a social unit. Family that claims a special attention within normal society being a key unit of society reflects mutual relations in the family. From this point of view, it would not be true to consider gender problem outside family problems. Not knowing concept of gender, it is impossible to analyze interfamily relations from gender point of view and build reasonable relations. In the process of inculcating gender equality in children growing up in modern Azerbaijan family relations between parents, participation in family economy, family leadership, financial condition of women and men should be considered.
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my parents have more friends than i do
I fucking hate this bullshit so much.
Its misogynistic, archaic asscrap.
YOUR DAUGHTER IS NOT YOUR PROPERTY.
WHO SHE DATES OR SLEEPS WITH IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. THINKING OTHERWISE IS INCREDIBLY CREEPY AND INVASIVE.
SHE HAS THE RIGHT TO MAKE HER OWN CHOICES AND MISTAKES.
YOU DON’T MAKE THE RULES. SHE IS NOT CATTLE. HER LOVE LIFE IS NOT YOUR CONTRACT. SHE MAKES THE RULES.
Not only are you advocating for a father to not care about his daughter, but you’re also misinterpreting the video horribly. He threatens the man that breaks his daughter’s heart. He threatens the man that hits her. That takes away her smile. He does not say she cannot love anyone, male or female, he says that they better love her. And if that’s not what a father is supposed to do, then I’ll be damned.
Maybe I’m wrong, I accept that, but please… please explain to me how fatherly love and care for his daughter is an archaic and misogynistic practice. Explain to me how allowing her to date who she loves, to do what she wants, and teaching her to not put up with abuse is wrong. I would love to hear it, she might not be his property, but he is her guardian, and guarding her happiness is no crime.
^^^^ ALL OF THIS ^^^^^
I feel like all the other poster did was read the top gif and decide to freak out without actually taking the time to watch the video itself and realize the full context.
These gifs bookend a really wonderful piece of poetry, but they are not the sum of the spoken word piece.
Wow. Rosetylerthevampireslayer did not actually watch the video or pay attention to the words, did they?
This man is not a misogynistic. He’s not making any choices for his daughter. He is, in fact, hoping that his daughter falls in love and has someone to love and support her, an equal partner. He is saying that if anyone hurts the person he loves, if anyone dares to abuse the person he loves he will make them suffer. He does not own her. He does not want to make decisions for her. He wants his daughter to be treated with respect and love by the person his daughter choses, man or woman.
It’s fucking beautiful.
when an idol u liked fucks up
when ppl try to defend them
someone please date me before i die thanks
imagine your favorite band member letting you wear their clothes
Nicki Minaj shining a light on the differences on acceptable sexuality from white women and black women.
Okay drag, Nicki
pros of turning 18: can legally do the stuff i already do
cons of turning 18: no longer the dancing queen
Please note: dates are indicative, i.e. the game will be played during the weekend of the “insert date” (for example Day 1 - 24.08.2014 means the game will be either on Saturday August 23 or Sunday August 24; more rarely, it can also happen on the Friday…
Xavi passing the physical tests Thursday.
Xavi ‘returns’ to Barca
Real Madrid vs. FC Barcelona
- October 26/14
- Santiago Bernabeu
FC Barcelona vs. Real Madrid
- March 22/15
- Camp Nou


Need to go on field meet retails stores and sales the products.
Maintain relationship with existing clients .
Generate sales report.
|Experience||1 - 6 Years|
|Salary||50 Thousand To 2 Lac 25 Thousand P.A.|
|Industry||Sales & Marketing / Business Development/telecaller|
|Key Skills||sales marketing retail sales|
|About Company||Need to go on field meet retails stores and sales the products.|


Friday, October 30, 2009
The least one
My little girl is now 2 and it seems like only yesterday I was being rolled into to have my c-section, praying that she would really be a little girl. I was a little unsure that we would ever have a girl in our house, but when I heard her first cry I knew she had stolen my heart. Oh yes, she is spoiled rotten by everyone. She has a tight hold on her father's heart and I'm sure she will break it 100 times before she turns 3. She is a treasure that each person in our house finds amazing. Her smile, her laugh, the crinkle in her nose when she pouts.....precious! Happy birthday to my little one.......I am madly in love with you but please don't grow up too fast!


Act I:Mike and Jennifer are two Junior High best friends. As they leave for summer break, she gives him a flattened "rail penny" and tells him that it will bring him good luck. She moves away, and he moves on into High school. All through high school, he never goes on a date since no girl can compare to her. He graduates and goes away to college in upstate New York.
Three years later, Mike falls in love with a new girl, Anna. They date for a while, and he invites her to go back home to Santa Cruz, California with him. She accepts, and they make plane reservations. Meanwhile, in New York City, a very busy businesswoman begins making plans to fly to Monterey for a conference. Rather than pay for the extra puddle jump, she elects to rent a car and starts driving, but ends up stuck with a dead car in Santa Cruz.
Mike and his new girlfriend run into Tim, Mike's best friend from high school. Strangely enough, Jennifer is staying in the same hotel. In a comic moment, they manage to accidentally avoid each other repeatedly. Tim, hwowever, sees Jennifer. He says hi to her, but then remembers Anna and tries to keep them from running into each other. Of course, they run into each other anyway.
So, to add a nasty plot twist, they decide to double-date. Mike with Anna, Tim with Jennifer. They have a good time, but when Mike gets back to the apartment, Anna gives him the third degree. Basically, she is jealous that Mike wants to have anything to do with Jennifer. Mike gets mad at her, they fight, and Anna leaves.
Meanwhile, Tim goes back to Jennifer's apartment, where she confesses that she's in love with Mike, and that she always has been. To make matters worse, she makes a comment about Anna, and Tim says that she was "cute", but that he'd never come between his best friend and his best friend's girlfriend. He sinks deeper into depression about the whole thing, and says "if you need me, I'll be in the bar." And leaves.
Tim and Anna get to know each other a little too well, and Mike walks in on them in bed together, half-naked. He stands and stares a moment, shakes his head, and leaves. Devastated, he walks through the park. He looks across and sees Jennifer (or at least someone who looks like her) kissing a guy he doesn't recognize. He sadly pulls out the rail penny. He holds it in his hands for a moment, rubs it, and tosses it away.
Bits of Act II:And so, we find Mike sitting in a bar in California. "And I haven't been back there since," he says to the girl behind the bar. She comforts him a little, and he thanks her, pays for the beer, and leaves. She runs out after him and gives him a flattened piece of metal. It's a "rail penny for your thoughts". Someone gave it to me once. It'll bring you good luck. Every time you hold it, I want you to remember that there's someone who cares about you. It reminds him of the one that Jennifer had given him years before.
But I wouldn't be a good writer if I gave away the plot, so I'll stop with that, and a small hint: think class reunion....


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I’d be heading off to NYSC camp in a few and its going to be my first camping experience tho I can’t say m enthusiastic about is as I have come to realise that I get along better with other people when I am not around them. Just kidding.
Human Relationships a’re complex and they are dynamic. When it is a love relationship it gets even more complicated and this is largely due to the fact that where and when the heart is involved, there are usually little or no certainties:’ ‘a risk, no guarantees’. The best a person can do is give it their best shot. Nevertheless, I always encourage people to see every relationship as a learning experience however the outcome.
Okay sometime last year while dating my now ex boyfriend, I had a picture of my prior Ex (confusing, I know but I am sure you get the ‘gist’ . And again, Lord please let me not leave a long trail of exes behind before finding The One) as my blackberry messenger display picture. A friend saw it and asked whom the dude was and without thinking my reply was,
‘He is the most important man in my life.’
It was only after the words were out of my head and delivered to the receiver I realised how wrong they were considering the fact that I was supposed to be in a committed relationship with another ‘man’.
On bin friends with an Ex, different people have different things to say. While some tend to see it as a bad idea, others like myself take a more ‘liberal approach’. A friend of mine said, and I quote:
“I would not want to be in a relationship with a guy who still has contact with his Ex. That shii is inappropriate and there is no justifying it.”
Another friend said her curiosity to see what becomes of her Ex far outweighs any rational argument to cut ties.
On my part I think being friends with an Ex is okay even though my reasons for bin on the understanding side of the ‘friends with your ex’ continuum are entirely selfish.
Two relationships ago I met an incredible young man who in so little time taught me a whole lot and have subsequently become indispensable to me, such that my life’s story ‘might’ be incomplete if he doesn’t feature significantly in it. Though he is an Ex, he is first and most importantly a very good friend and I dread to think of such a time I might not be allowed to have him in my life as just that…a friend. Yeah, like you are already thinking being friends with him complicated my life a little bit not because I was trying to rekindle the flames of what we once had but strictly cos unconsciously I made him the ‘standard’ which every other contender for my heart had to measure up against.
Now though I have bin able to put things In perspective. I understand that what we had cannot be duplicated and I know now to treat each person as a distinct individual with their own peculiar strengths and accompanying flaws.
The experts say it is unhealthy to ‘remain friends with an ex who treated you badly and here I am inclined to agree with them. When you choose to remain friends with someone who didn’t treat you well, you actually validate whatever negative ideas that they have about you plus its like giving them a get out of assclown jail free card.
The experts also say you are only allowed to be friends with an Ex if:
-they treated you well.
-enough time has passed and you have both gotten over the loss of the relationship.
But I say adopt the approach that works for you and also works for your current partner so he or she does not begin to feel insecure/uncomfortable.
Love Relationships are complicated. Adding an Ex to the cocktail further complicates it but is the alternative (cutting off all ties) the lesser of both evils? Frankly I don’t think so but hey that’s just my opinion. And if the choice is between a guy who is on a strict ‘no talking’ policy with all of his exes and one who still gets along with a few, I’d always opt for the latter.
One thing I guess we all have in common is that ‘someone’ we would always have special feelings for regardless of whom we might be in a relationship with. However messed up that might seem I don’t think there is an off switch somewhere and the most we can do is try to have closure; not with them but with ourselves…coming to terms with why it all went wrong and why it is now necessary to move on…not dwelling on what was or what might have bin but ONLY on what IS.
To you who made me feel like my heart was ripped out from my ribcage, thrown off the roof of a small building and smashed by oncoming traffic lol, HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY. Yeah I know m a couple of hours too early but still…GOD BLESS YOU IMMENSELY. I ♡U.
Women have a hardcore desire to throw themselves at the frontline of pain. #GoFigure.
As usual, all grammatical errors were intended. 😀


" "Best friends" - Speed poetry response (via facingthewaves)
You’ll probably meet someone who carries both the light and the dark in their heart. Someone who will never fail to tell you that you’re beautiful, but struggles to look in the mirror. Someone who remembers your birthday, the celebs you fangirl about, your biggest fears, the things you love and why you love them. You might meet someone who’ll sit with you when you’re down, and celebrate your triumphs as though they are your own.
You’ll probably meet someone who calls you on your shit when you need to hear it. Someone who keeps quiet when you just need to talk. Someone with laughter in their eyes and wit on their tongues. Someone you will fight with, but won’t stop caring for.
"Marry someone who can make you laugh in public and scream in bed." Me giving my friend relationship device. (via dafunnyposts)
the worst is having a dream where someone loves you and you can practically feel them touching you and it feels so real and then you wake up and it’s like the life is being sucked out of you and the happiness just drains out of your body and you feel empty again
the fact that over 300,000 other people know exactly what this feels like too is a source of great comfort
especially if it’s a kiss
"When I’m hurt, I shut down. I turn into a total sarcastic bitch. I shut off my emotions, and act indifferent towards everything even though it might be killing me inside." And I’m sorry (via these-fading-scars)


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One thing that girls tend to detest more than anything else certainly is the idea of obtaining attention from men just who are inferior, needy or maybe don't maintenance. You should make sure that your companion doesn't fall into any of these blocks and that you are confident enough in yourself to have the ability to express yourself.
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If I ever have kids, I would want this for them. I want to marry a man who will be a wonderful father to my children. I want to marry someone who completes my family. I want a man that has a heart like this. I want a complete family.
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Teresa and Leonard were the absolute best! From the very first phone call to the goodbye as they cleaned up! We could not have asked for a better family to have catered our wonderful day! Thank you so much Teresa and Leonard, you guys were part of the family for the night! Love Mr & Mrs Orate.


Photo Shoot of Family:
Professional photographer Alexis Yobbagy (visit her site) donated her amazing skill and talent and did a photo shoot of Hannah and her family. These pictures are poignant and exceptional and really show the love this family has for each other. We hope you enjoy them and it helps you to get to know the family just a little bit.
Up-coming Angel Events:
Below is a list of upcoming Charity Events being held to Help Hannah Heal. Some of these events are geared to have fun AND collect donations. In laughter there is medicine and when we come together in laughter and Love miracles happen.


We love getting together with our senior couples!!! We had a dinner to welcome Sister Guerts, Elder and Sister Howard and Elder and Sister Smith. We say goodbye to Elder and Sister Dittman, Elder and Sister Larsen and Elder and Sister Mills. These are all amazing examples!! We have become eternal friends. One of my greatest memories of our mission will be attending the temple with the senior couples and being together in the Celestial Room. They are true disciples of Christ. We couldn't do this with out their tireless support, happy attitude and fun personalities.


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With the help of her Coke guidance counsellor, she’ll disobey her father to qualify for Pre-Med. She will secretly date Vincente even though he hates her deceit. Finally, Coco will set-up Cody for a crime he didn’t commit, just so that she can get out of their date night. Besides, he really deserves it.
But the whole thing just blows up in Coco’s face and she’s forced to improvise big-time.
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I forgive you for trying to rekindle the things that had burnt out.
I forgive you for wanting closure when life get's tough.
I forgive you for giving me shivers whenever I have doubts.
And I always will understand if you're trying to get affection from the person I love.
I would never be afraid of the things you will do.
I would never break you as much as I wanted to.
I would not forgive if you ever try to cross the line.
And I will never ever be nice if you're trying to take whats mine.


There’s a form of girl males consider as a “cool girl”. She will most likely not always function as a lot of physically appealing girl when you look at the area, but there’s merely anything about their that males come across irresistible. Check out this article to locate the attributes that make a guy see you while the “cool girl” he simply has got to become familiar with.
Have you been the sort of woman the guy is actually drawn to and desires to have an intense, connected commitment with? Precisely what is it which makes a man view you as some body the guy sees as commitment content without some thing everyday?
To fairly share various some tips on just how destination works with men, let me make it clear regarding the “cool girl”.
“Cool girl” is actually guy-speak for your kind of girl that is attractive to guys in a manner that also they can’t explain and wont inform you aboutâ¦but I will.
You can see, “cool girl” is rule for a female who symbolizes certain characteristics that, collectively, trigger attraction in one â a mentally adult man â at a deep amount. I’d like to clarify a bit more about what I meanâ¦and exactly what he is considering.
“THERE IS ONLY SOMETHING REGARDING HER”
If you have ever heard a guy explore a female getting a “cool girl”, you most likely noticed him discuss this lady with a grin.
A “cool girl” has actually a specific good psychological fuel that men can relate genuinely to. She may well not necessarily function as the majority of actually appealing lady when you look at the place, but there is just one thing about this lady that males find irresistible.
Listed Here Is that “something”â¦
Cool ladies bring funny, good feelings and thoughts to circumstances to produce a personal experience that males may wish to have over and over again
This is because an awesome woman understands that producing a first step toward good encounters with one makes him hook up to her in order for the guy wishes increasingly more of this lady within his existence, not much less.
Cool ladies are able to pick the circulation when considering personal situations but make assertions if they have views and ideas
Men, specifically those with high-powered, stressful careers, do not want a lot more anxiety from the feamales in their unique lives. They wish to come home to a woman who are able to be flexible about plans in the place of rigorous and place in her own means. But additionally they respect a woman who’s got limits and claims demonstrably plus simple language what exactly is not okay along with her.
Cool women have actually solutions and things to do that have them satisfied so they don’t feel just like they may be omitted if they are maybe not invited to some thing
And also if they’re omitted, they don’t really complain about this and on occasion even discuss it â they find something to achieve that means they are happy. As soon as you make a man your entire globe, the guy actually starts to see you as another obligation for him without a partner. Take obligation for your own personel contentment, and you become that much more appealing to a guy.
Cool girls favor that men compensate his personal mind; they don’t really try making men do something
Once you just be sure to convince someone to take action, your partner will withstand you. Once you try to do that with a guy, something else entirely occurs â the guy starts to feel less drawn to you. Program him you honor his ideas and value him giving him the chanceâ¦to end up being him.
Cool girls realize that the direction they feel and explore on their own is actually how men will experience them
When you have a propensity to talk adversely about yourself â your body weight, your cleverness, or everything â do not be astonished if a man will start to see you in that framework. Carry out your self a favor by always speaking kindly about your self to ensure that a man sees you and discusses you just as.
Additionally the first “some thing” every cool lady provides that draws a man? A life outside him. End up being that lady using existence the guy desires to end up being part ofâ¦every time. The best time to begin carrying this out is when you are however unmarried â make use of this time for you actually explore your interests, foster your friendships, and enjoy the choices that being by yourself gives you. Practicing these little shifts immediately amplifies the cool girl features in youâ¦and allows you to the kind of woman he really wants to see over and over again. Cool?
Recognizing attraction as well as how it works is totally crucial if you wish to generate a connected, lasting union with a person. For more information on the sort of woman a good man is attracted to for long-term, donate to Christian’s free e-newsletter. He’s going to let you know why is a guy like to invest in you, and you skill attain him truth be told there without having any convincing or video game playing.


Poor Black Man seeking Beautiful Wealthy Woman
Is there anything we can do to romance a beautiful rich girl and doesn’t cost an arm and a leg? Do opposites really attract? Can a rich woman and poor man be compatible?
This really made me smile! It got me thinking, because, if any man deserves a beautiful wealthy woman, it is me:-)
Well, let us see what we are up against! The guy with no money, that’s me, has zilch chance of entering into a friendly relationship with a beautiful wealthy woman? A real man will not try to date a wealthy woman if he is not financially prepared? If a man has a beer wallet, he should stay in his league.
A woman should never drop her standards because she will be miserable and resent being with a loser. Then, if you do succeed, she’s history the minute some rich guy looks twice at her? The first chance the woman runs into a real man she will leave the loser. A woman used to living on a certain standard cannot tolerate a broke man?
Rich women are looking for men who are intelligent, chivalrous and charismatic and who know how to behave and adhere to etiquette.
Rich women are looking for a safe way to find serious men with whom to interact, while ensuring there are no nasty surprises. Rich women really do work hard and are looking for men who are also hard working and are able and willing to dedicate their time to attend business and social functions.
Outstanding individuals with impeccable taste, extremely high standards and who have the desire to meet someone truly exceptional – That’s me! Seriously, is not that “all of us”? Even though we often fall short, we all want the love of our lives, no matter how much money, they have or do not have?
I would like to think being a poor man; does not make me a loser. I am not rich and am getting too old to fool around, but would love to meet my beautiful wealthy match. Is that a “Sugar mama” or a Wealthy older woman (WOWs)?
Any how, for those reasons many do not venture outside their box and tend to look down or put up more guards. I think beautiful people exist in all walks of life, it just ain’t easy finding them and you must continue, but cautiously, reaching outside your box, if you think you deserve each other - classic rags-to-riches stories. They happen everyday and is also what dreams are made of.
How am I going to meet my Beautiful Wealthy Woman, if you think we are a match, email me... what a Christmas present!
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Today I want to talk to you about what LinkedIn means to me and how I grew from 4,000 connections to 17,000 connections in six months on my own without paying a dime. When I think about a connection, I think about two people who come together and are affected by each other. In order to affect people, you must create a difference in their life, so that by being in their life and being connected to them, they have somehow shifted, changed or learned something as a result of that connection. How do you make a connection like that with someone new?
CARE: 4-Steps to Building a Connection
Curiosity. When you meet someone new be curious and ask questions about what they do, who they are, what life means to them, what are they passionate about, etc.
Action. What action can you take when first meeting someone that supports them? Try actions like getting their business card and following up, set up a second meeting or even refer them to someone else.
Resources. Rather than being sales-oriented, try offering resources. You have resources, whether through advice, experience, connections or some type of opportunity that the other person could utilize or benefit from.
Engagement. When I’m in the presence of someone, they know they are the most important person in that moment because I look them in the eye and I am visibly engaged when conversing with them.
When Building a Connection, Remember to CARE!
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