Happy Fall Y’all!
And there is a difference – don’t get it twisted – there is a difference. Acceptance feels so much better than tolerance. Have a good day ya’ll – love each other! (you don’t have to love on each other just be nice and decent! Shake hands!)


Susan Pinco, Integrative Psychotherapy, LLC, USA
Brainspotting, Ericksonian Hypnosis, NLP and Social Psychology teach us the impor- tance of meta-communication and the power of tone, tempo, and numerous other para-verbal elements. This seminar will focus on a particular element of meta-com- munication; silence. Silence as it occurs within the context of speech and within context of our sessions. In attending this seminar, participants will experience new ways of thinking about, eliciting and utilizing silence drawing from elements of Brainspottingtm, Ericksonian Hypnosis, mindfulness, quantum physics, interpersonal neurobiology, and somatically oriented therapies. Attendees will: be encouraged to rethink their relationship to the space between words and to develop techniques that enhance their own palette and that of their clients; amplifying effectiveness both in and between sessions; be able to differentiate between structured and unstruc tured silence and demonstrate two ways to utilize both structured silence within the context of Brainspotting; expand their understanding of how silence can be used to promote relationship both between therapist and client and within the client system (ie: between ego states) and be able to identify the techniques that can be utilized to facilitate this process and articulate why they are effective.


Welcome! We finally have a blog spot! everyone has been asking us if we had one and i just never got around to it. but its finally here! Eric and I actually met years ago through his best friend Adam, who is married to my sister. Eric went on his mission and we started writing each other. When he got home we were married 6 months later on February 18th, 2008 in the st. george temple.


That PersonJune 24, 2014That Person by Rinni-Boo
It’s taken me forever to write about this. I’ve acknowledged it in my mind but I need a physical version of it.
Love is unconditional.
Every “relationship” I’ve had has been unsuccessful because I didn’t take the time to thoroughly get to know the person, and see if they would still like me after that long of time.
When I met him, I thought he didn’t really care about anything. He was strange. This kid doesn’t say much. I feel uncomfortable being around him.
He’s texting to me now? He must be the kind of guy that doesn’t have to balls to start talking to me in real life. I can’t stand people like this.
At first, it never would have crossed my mind. After time and time again, this person never gave up. I even acted cold. I was so cruel to him, but he still kept coming back.
The longer I knew him, the more attractive he became. I began to see how good of a person he was. How caring, determined, and patient he


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Référence complète de l'étude
De Montigny, F. et Lacharité, C. (2008). Modeling parents and nurses' relationships. Western Journal of Nursing Research, 30(6), 743-758.
Préblématique et cadre théorique
Méthodologie de l'étude
As predicted, nurses’ collaborative practices with multiparous parents were related positively to help-giving practices, perceived control, and perceptions of events, which were then related to increased perceived parental efficacy. The authors had not hypothesized a direct relationship between collaborative practices and perceived parental efficacy because previous studies had not found any such relationship (de Montigny et al., 2006a, Lacharité et al., 2005). Although there was a significant bivariate relationship between these two constructs, no modification indices indicated the need to add a path between collaborative practices and perceived parental efficacy. In this study’s sample, nurses’ collaborative practices contribute indirectly to perceived parental efficacy via postpartum events. The pattern of these results suggests that the quality of the postpartum events may mediate the relationship between collaborative practices and perceived parental efficacy, indicating the pivotal nature of the events occurring during the first 48 hours of an infant’s life in the hospital in both fathers’ and mothers’ development of perceived efficacy as parents.
A previous study modeling first-time parents’ experience of the nurse–parent relationship in the postpartum period highlighted the importance of postpartum events (de Montigny et al., 2006a). In de Montigny et al.’s (2006a) study, the quality of postpartum events affected directly and inversely parents’ anxiety (measured, in this case, with Spielberger’s  instrument) such that negative events increased anxiety and positive events decreased anxiety. In a context where hospital stays are reduced in length and where nurses’ attention is often mother centered (de Montigny & Lacharité, 2004; Ménard, 1999), attention needs to be paid to the quality of the postpartum experience for both parents. Events related to the physical and emotional changes during the postpartum period, such as fatigue, are significant for both parents. As well, events related to parental and conjugal functioning, such as responding to the infant’s needs and maintaining intimacy with one’s partner, were found to have an impact on parents’ experiences. Finally, events related to nurses and the hospital environment, such as exchanging information and receiving feedback from nurses, are also reported by both parents (de Montigny & Lacharité, 2004).
This study’s findings, that nurses’ collaborative practices are related to the quality of postpartum events that may mediate parents’ stress and perceived efficacy, indicate that nurses’ attitudes, behaviors, and beliefs influence parenting development. As such, it is relevant for nursing education and practice to educate nurses to develop collaborative practices with parents, based on mutual sharing of expertise. For nurses, this means adopting practices that recognize the importance of both parents’ experience, by addressing themselves to fathers and to mothers. The marital relationship and the parent–infant relationship need to be supported by reinforcing individual and family strengths, for example. Involving parents in decision making and respecting their rhythm will allow parents to develop a sense of efficacy. As parents develop their abilities to make decisions regarding their health, that of their infant, or that of the family, with the support of collaborative nurses, the postpartum environment will become truly family friendly.
Parents d’un deuxième enfant (Pères et mères).
Objectifs et hypothèses
The purpose of this study was to examine the extent to which a theoretical model of parenting development through nurse–parent relationships was explained by data collected from a community sample of 104 mothers and 87 fathers of a second or third child (M = 22 days, SD = 5) postpartum. The authors hypothesized, as shown in the theoretical model, that there is a direct, positive relation between the quality of the nurse–parent collaboration and the quality of the help-giving practices and perceived control; there is a direct, positive relation between the quality of the help-giving practices and the quality of events during the postpartum period; and there is an indirect, positive relationship between the nurses’ help-giving practices and critical events during the immediate postpartum period and parents’ perceived efficacy, such that when events are positive, parents will be less stressed and report higher parental efficacy.
Mots-clésInfirmières, modèles parentaux, relations, enfants, Pères, mères


Your wedding day will be filled with moments that will remain with you, your family and friends for the rest of your lives. The officiant matters! Whether a long time friend or family member, you will want to work with someone who you have an authentic connection with. Your ceremony can be a true reflection of who you are as a couple, what you cherish about each other and what each of you holds dear.
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Then she will have the adventure of finding her way around in London!! She will meet up with a friend she knows from Bend, but that she actually met when she was in Cornwall last October. She will stay with her Tuesday night (she lives in London). Then Wednesday she will meet up with Heather, the other girl she is teaming up with. They will
try to find each other at Paddington Station in London. Have fun with that girls!!!!
In the meantime, we are still keeping busy working on that tea fundraiser!!!! When that is over it will be almost time to go...... :(


I don’t really write personal posts on here anymore, but if you’re a long time reader you’ll know that I used to blog about everything that passed my mind, AND this is my blog so I’ll do what I like, nerrr.
When I split up with my last boyfriend, I promised myself that I would never do this to myself again. Long distance relationships are, to put it bluntly, absolute cunts. Along with the usual relationship trouble, you can add in a hefty dollop of fresh, geography based strife that will eventually wear you, and your partner, down. This boyfriend, lets call him F (for fucker), was lovely to begin with, and at first neither of us minded travelling up and down the country to see each other and paying extraordinary train ticket fees for the pleasure of doing so, and as with any other new relationship, things were just swell. In the end F turned out to be a bit of a prick, bringing the lovely gift of Relationship Trouble, which is hard enough when you don’t have to travel for 3 hours to see each other, but virtually impossible when all you have to go on are strained phonecalls and arguments over MSN. But then the distance between us played its part – “When are we going to see each other next?!” I’d wail, amazed that I hadn’t seen my very own boyfriend for 6 months. 6 months! I saw my doctor more than I saw my boyfriend!
But he couldn’t afford to come and see me, and was always ‘busy’ whenever I suggested going to visit him. Eventually, I had to end things, as my own boyfriend didn’t want to see me, and didn’t even pretend to like me anymore. So I ended things, feeling a bit bruised but knowing it was for the best. I deleted him on Facebook, and MSN, and with one fell swoop he was out of my life. And I vowed that no matter what, I would never, ever do the long distance thing again. Ever.
…Which is why I find myself in one ten months later.
It wasn’t meant to happen! My boyfriend, we’ll call him L (for lovely), started out as a random man on Twitter, and turned into my best friend, and the only person I could really turn to when things went to shit with F. And slowly I found myself thinking of him more, staying up late to talk to him, feeling butterflies whenever he sent me a text. He was 229 miles away, but I felt close to him. And before I knew it, I was single, we were arranging to meet, and I knew I had fallen. And in real life, it was amazing – he made me happy, we had fun together, and he was pretty much the funniest, sweetest guy I had ever met. Oh, and he wasn’t a 50 year old paedophile, which is always a bonus when you meet someone on the internet. I didn’t really know what to do – my head was telling me that I was doing the wrong thing, rushing in so quickly, and to another long distance mindfuck of shit no less, but my heart.. my heart was in an entirely different place, and so I decided to go for it, because, well, I was in love.
It’s great, yes, but it is not easy. It is still, at the end of the day, a long distance relationship, and when I’m not with him I miss him more than words can describe. It’s strange, though. It hurts, yes, but I don’t let it get me down as much as I probably should. This isn’t the first time I’ve been in a relationship that is defined by the moments you can snatch together, and it isn’t the first time I’ve watched as real life gets in the way of spending time together (fucking work and their fucking holiday allowance!).
I go to university in a month, and my boyfriend is moving to the city to be with me, meaning that we will finally have more of a normal relationship and get to see each other more. I’m very excited, and it’s pretty much all I can think about, meaning that I don’t get emotional when I see couples kissing, like I have done in the past, I don’t get angry when friends who have their partners near neglect them, like I have done in the past – instead I am beyond excited about getting to spend (fingers crossed) the rest of my life with someone that I really, truly love, and who is the greatest friend I’ve ever had. I have my mind firmly set on the future, and therefore I’m pretty numb to the present.
I’m lucky, I suppose, because I can see a way out of it and therefore it’s not as sucky as it would be otherwise, with an indefinite amount of time and space in between myself and all I really want. I feel bad for not feeling like it’s the end of the world when we can’t spend that much time together, but then why should I feel bad? Yes, it is crap that we can’t see each other, but we’re going to get to see each other all the time soon! And how brilliant is that?! I adore him, and I know that I am very lucky to have found him, and to be striving to make it work, and so it’s all worth it.
Long distance relationships are, without a doubt, the shittiest piece of shit there ever was, but if you can make it work – go for it, listen to your heart! Because it always knows what it wants, even when what it wants is 229 miles away.


a favorite of mine. the boyfriend and i back in 2007.
i caught the boyfriend staring at his facebook profile one day.
“what’s going on?” i asked.
he looked back at me and shrugged. “are we that annoying couple?”
“are we that annoyingly cute couple on facebook?” he trailed off.
i thought about it. “i mean, maybe. probably…if you consider us cute…”
this conversation was about three weeks ago after our vacation. it seems that a lot of us go on vacations and then post a lot of pictures of our glorious vacation. this is one of the many issues that we associate with facebook nowadays. in photos, status updates, videos, and more we show each other how glorious life is. if you look at the pitcures, you’d think that all we did while we were on vacation was be cute with each other…and our phones. i posted two, i’d like to think, cute photos of us on vacation. we made them our profile pictures. our newsfeeds are filled with photos of us, status updates including us, etc.
i get his worry.
ever since our first conversation about this, which was probably months ago, i’ve been thinking about it. every time i post a picture or a status to facebook or instagram…i think about it. of course, there are reasons to think about it. facebook is the land of ex-lovers, family, that random person you hooked up with… our photos are being shared with friends, but also potential employers, old students, and more. while every photo i’ve posted would, i think, fall into the category of “appropriate” (whatever that means), we are often forced to think about the varying degrees of “appropriate”, the feelings of others, how much we want to share with strangers… and all those thoughts usually form one particular question in our minds: are we sharing too much?
in this particular case, the question gets more specific: are we that annoying couple? better yet, am i that annoying woman/girlfriend who posts all the pictures? is my online display of affection bad?
but, honestly, i’m not sure i care…
you see, i love my boyfriend. i love him dearly. i loved him for the two years, two months, and twenty days we dated the first time (no no no, i did not keep count when we dated, okay…jeez…i calculated it a few weeks ago…). i loved him when we broke up. i loved him when i hated him. i loved him when i said i couldn’t talk to him. i loved him for the year and a half we didn’t speak. i loved him when we became friends again. i loved him when he asked if we could try this love thing again.
i loved him when he asked if it was too early for him to say “i love you”.
i loved him as i answered something along the lines of “of course not because, duh, i love you. i’ve loved you for seven years.”
and that is sappy. it is so fucking sappy. it is. but it wasn’t always sappy.
there was a time when the amount of love i felt for him was, well, just sad. when i was the girl who couldn’t get over this guy she dated in college and was frustrated by it and angry about it. i would have done anything to not love him. even when the love began to shift and, well, hibernate, even when i fell in love with others, it was still there. this sad, nagging love that would never go away.
“he is just always going to be there, isn’t he?” i asked my mom one day, probably a little less than two years ago. at this point, the boyfriend (well, he was the ex boyfriend then) and i were friends. we were in other relationships with people we loved and respected.
“what do you mean?” she asked.
“the feelings won’t go away, will they? they’ll just change…”
at this point, my mother explained, as she had many times over the four and a half years we weren’t together, that she thought that we, ex-boy and i, would get back together. someday. that is also the point that i had to exercise restraint and not yell at my mother for saying something that OBVIOUSLY was never going to happen (okay, fine, i yelled…). needless to say, she has said “i told you so” a number of times this past (almost) year.
ANYWAY all this love i had wrapped up inside is now out and open…and it wants to be free. it wants to dance. it wants to shout from the rooftops. it wants to be shared. it can’t contain itself.
it is annoying.
it is cute (hopefully).
but most importantly, it is thriving.
believe me, i don’t want to rub my love in others’ faces. i just want to be able to love my boyfriend. happily, sappily, and, sometimes, publicly. in any fashion that is healthy and appropriate.
…because, well, there were a lot of years when i couldn’t and it feels nice to post a picture that shows just how much i care for him and how much fun and happiness we share.
we don’t know what the future holds. i’m happy to be able to share the love, a glimpse of our love. i’m happy to be that annoying couple.
so is my level of online display of affection too high? maybe.
but, to be fair, my online display of affection for my pup, george, is probably a lot higher so…


Australia Japan Society – Victoria Inc
The Australia-Japan Society of Victoria Inc. was established in Melbourne in 1963 in order to promote a common interest in all matters related to Australia and Japan and between the people of the two countries.
The Society is a non-political, non-profit organisation and has the following objectives:]
- To foster mutual understanding between the peoples of Australia and Japan.
- To encourage interest in Australia by Japanese people.
- Provide opportunities and facilities for contact between Australians with a common interest in Japan and between Australians and Japanese.
- To co-operate with other organisations in Australia and Japan with similar objectives.
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Phone: 03 9642 2125
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Social contacts are very important for mental health. Family, friends and other people who make us feel good can help us deal with stress. Therefore, it can be worthwhile to think about your own communication patterns, because interpersonal communication is the basis of all relationships.
To do this, it is first important to realise that everyone sees the world through their “own glasses” and at the same time assumes that other people perceive the world in the same way. This is a fallacy, because our view of the world is shaped by all our experiences and by our personality. If you take this into account, it is often easier to clear up misunderstandings.
To benefit yourself and your counterpart in conversation, it is advisable to practise “active listening”. This method comes from client-centred conversation according to Carl Rogers. It requires a certain attitude and involves various actions:
- congruence: Try to “be with yourself”, notice your body, your breathing and your feelings in the current conversation situation.
- acceptance: Practice positive, appreciative attention. Try not to judge what you hear at first, but to understand the other person’s point of view. Do not interrupt the person you are talking to.
- empathy: Try to understand the feelings of the person you are talking to. Why is she or he feeling this way? How do you think it feels?
- paraphrase: Repeat the central points of what was said without judging. Phrases like “You mean…” or “Did I understand you correctly that…” can help. This may feel artificial or funny at first, but it helps to communicate empathetically and to give the other person the feeling that he or she has really been understood.
- first person messages: If you want to respond to what is being said and give your own perspective, use I-messages, e.g. by using phrases like “I think/believe…” or “To me, this feels …”.
- reflect: Reflect on what is said, as described in the point “Paraphrasing”, but also on the things you observe about your counterpart, such as posture and mood. For example, you could say, “You look sad” or “You seem very upset to me”.
Active listening requires some practice, but already incorporating aspects of it into conversations can be very helpful. Empathetic communication promotes a positive course of conversation in many situations, in conversations with work colleagues or superiors as well as with your partner or your children. It leads to a better understanding of oneself and one’s own reactions and gives the other person the feeling that one is honestly interested in his/her feelings and thoughts and is trying to understand them. Therefore, this partner-centred communication is well suited to improve and strengthen social relationships. (Source: Friedemann Schulz von Thun, “Miteinander reden”, rororo Sachbuch)
Make the moment your friend, you only have him.


In today’s business landscape, customers are more informed and demanding than ever before due to the rise in technology and social media. As a result, businesses must manage customer expectations efficiently to succeed. 86% of consumers are willing to pay more for a positive customer experience, emphasizing the importance of exceeding expectations.
Managing customer expectations is crucial to establish long-term client relationships and can make a difference in securing a satisfied, loyal customer. Effective communication that includes setting realistic expectations, providing accurate information, and addressing concerns or issues is crucial. In this post, we’ll cover top strategies to manage customer expectations successfully.
8 Strategies To Manage Customer Expectations
1. Set Realistic Expectations
Exceeding customer expectations is crucial for businesses to succeed. While reasonable expectation levels help businesses hit targets and provide exceptional customer experiences, failing to meet customer expectations can result in negative reviews.
Therefore, businesses must go above and beyond in meeting customer needs to ensure satisfaction and prevent negative feedback.
Here’s a quick example of how setting realistic expectations can create transparency between you and your customers:
- The product will arrive within 5-7 business working days
- Refunds will take 3-5 business days to process
- Customer service will respond within 24 hours
- Our product is not compatible with older operating systems
By providing such information upfront, your customers now have a clear understanding of what they can expect from your company. This not only helps avoid negative reviews or complaints but also builds trust and loyalty among your customer base.
2. Collect Feedback
As a customer service representative, clear communication is vital when interacting with customers — not just for the sake of clarity but also for building a relationship and fostering trust.
Communicating means conveying your thoughts and ideas succinctly and effectively, without leaving any room for misunderstanding or confusion.
One of the biggest benefits of clear communication is the feedback it generates from customers. By speaking clearly, you provide customers with an opportunity to relay their thoughts and feelings about a product or service, which can give valuable insight into areas that require attention from a business.
But why feedback is important when it comes to the management of customer expectations:
- Feedback helps businesses better understand their customers’ needs and preferences.
- Feedback provides businesses with valuable info about what customers think about their products and services.
- Customer feedback can help businesses anticipate and address issues quickly.
- Feedback allows businesses to adjust their strategies to better meet customer expectations and improve overall satisfaction.
- Collecting feedback allows businesses to recognize areas of potential improvement and create new initiatives or processes that target those areas.
- Customer feedback shows that their opinions matter, increasing customer loyalty.
Therefore, proper communication is not only important for customer satisfaction but for the growth and development of a business too.
In an ever-evolving and competitive business environment, communicating is non-negotiable for any customer service representative.
3. Listen Carefully
Listening carefully is an incredibly effective strategy for managing the expectations of customers. This is because customers expect companies to listen to them when they voice their concerns or provide feedback.
Active listening by customer service teams builds trust and a positive customer relationship by demonstrating an understanding of their needs.
This practice ensures customers feel valued, and clear communication allows for managing expectations.
Here are some tips for listening carefully:
- Be open and receptive when listening to customers.
- Show interest in what the customer is saying by asking questions and clarifying points.
- Pay attention to body language and facial expressions.
- Take notes of customer feedback for future reference.
- Acknowledge customer feedback before responding and try to provide constructive solutions.
All in all, listening carefully is a crucial component of managing customer expectations and creating positive relationships between customers and companies.
4. Omnichannel Support
By allowing customers to connect with your business through various channels, like phone, social media, email, and live chat, you’re providing them with the convenience and flexibility they need to solve their issues or get their questions answered.
But it’s not just about being available on multiple platforms — it’s also about ensuring consistency in your responses and follow-ups across all of them. And this is where team task management comes into play.
A centralized system for managing customer inquiries and complaints will help you streamline your support process and provide a seamless experience for your customers.
Remember, your tone of voice matters too — be conversational, empathetic, and to-the-point, and your customers will appreciate and trust your support team even more.
5. Follow Up Regularly
In the world of business, customer expectations can make or break an organization’s success. One excellent strategy to manage these expectations is through regular follow-ups with customers.
Customer support teams can utilize this strategy to keep customers informed and engaged in their satisfaction. By following up regularly, a sense of connection is built between the customer and the business.
This connection leads to increased customer loyalty and satisfaction, putting businesses ahead of the competition.
Reasons Following Up is Crucial:
- Following up with customers after their purchase lets them know that their feedback is appreciated and valued.
- Making sure to provide timely replies to any customer inquiries can show them that the business cares about their concerns.
- Sending periodic updates about new products or services shows customers that the business is striving to meet their needs.
- Periodically asking for feedback from customers after every interaction allows businesses to stay in tune with what customers like and dislike.
6. Show Appreciation And Reward Loyalty
Showing appreciation to customers builds a deeper connection and understanding of their needs. This increases engagement, loyalty, and positive word-of-mouth.
Appreciation sets a standard of excellence for teams and results in customers who are more forgiving of any mistakes or delays. Incorporating appreciation leads to loyal customers who feel respected and valued.
Creating a strong business relationship through rewarding loyalty is an effective way to manage customer expectations. This practice increases customer satisfaction and provides a competitive advantage over rivals.
Customers who feel valued and appreciated are more likely to stick with you, resulting in a consistent revenue stream. Loyal customers are also inclined to recommend the brand to friends and family, expanding the reach and increasing clientele.
Thus, businesses that prioritize customer loyalty see significant benefits and long-term growth.
Here are some examples of loyalty rewards:
- Discounts on upgrades or add-ons.
- Priority customer support.
- Access to exclusive webinars and tutorials.
- Exclusive discounts on partner products.
- Early access to beta versions of new products.
Rewarding customer loyalty builds trust and loyalty toward the brand while demonstrating the benefits of staying with the company.
It’s a win-win situation that strengthens your business relationship and creates a stable customer base that drives growth and success.
8. Be Flexible
Being flexible is a fantastic way to effectively manage customer expectations. Customers place a lot of weight on their expectations. As a result, businesses need to be adaptable in their approach to meet the rising demands of their customers.
Communication channels play an integral role in this dynamic process, as businesses need to stay connected with their customers and address their needs on time.
Flexibility in meeting customer needs and expectations is crucial for businesses to leave a positive impression on customers.
It’s important to note that this process isn’t one-sided, organizations need to manage their expectations as well. Being transparent and honest about their limitations helps organizations avoid promising something they can’t deliver.
Being flexible in managing expectations is a thoughtful approach and will help businesses build healthy relationships with their customers in the long run.
Effective management of customer expectations is crucial for achieving business growth and success. Eight strategies, including clear communication, setting realistic expectations, and monitoring customer needs, can guide companies.
By exceeding customer expectations through exceptional service, loyalty and satisfaction can be increased, leading to higher revenue and profitability. Implementation requires a customer-centric effort from everyone in the organization. Prioritizing and managing customer expectations is vital for success in today’s competitive market.


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Few areas of the law evoke stronger emotions than family law matters. Whether you are contemplating divorce, embroiled in a custody battle, or faced with the need to modify the terms of an existing Parenting Plan or Child Support, you want an experienced Washington family law attorney on your side to protect your rights throughout the process. At the North Country Law, PLLC, we provide effective, compassionate representation in the following areas of the law:
The decision to end a marriage is rarely made lightly or easily. Perhaps you just discovered evidence of infidelity, or maybe you and your spouse came to the sad conclusion that the love that once animated the relationship isn’t there anymore. In either case, you’re worried about the challenges and obstacles ahead. The decisions made during the divorce process can impact you and your family for years to come. Our goal is to help you and your spouse reach a clear agreement that resolves all relevant issues in a way that meets your needs; and we can aggressively fight to protect you and your children.
Custody and Visitation
Negotiations over custody and visitation with minor children can turn an amiable divorce into a combative battleground overnight. A delicate, strategic approach may be required. Our team can help you craft and enforce a fair Parenting Plan and strive to avoid a destructive custody battle. If litigation cannot be avoided, we can zealously represent your best interests and those of your children in court.
Division of Assets and Debts
The State of Washington is a community property state, meaning that, as a general rule, all assets acquired during the marriage will be split equitably when the parties divorce. By the same token, the responsibility for debts acquired during the marriage should also be split equitably between both parties. Flexibility exists, however, with respect to how your debts and assets can be divided.
The court can consider an array of issues when developing such an arrangement, including the length of the marriage, the nature and extent of the property, and each party’s financial position and career options. We can explain your rights in clear, simple language and ensure a fair and even process.
Family law is one of the few areas of the law where even final judgments can be revisited. Either party may petition the court for a modification of child support and/or the terms of the overall Parenting Plan long after the divorce is final, if circumstances justify doing so.
That said, although courts do entertain requests to modify the terms of a divorce, the party making the request must convince the court that good cause exists. That bar is high, especially in situations involving children, who need stable environments.
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You walk into a room with your child by your side.
He’s normally rambunctious and noisy. But when an acquaintance stops to speak to your little precious, he won’t open his eyes or say a single word. “That’s okay,” says the grown up. “I imagine he’s a little shy of strangers.” Problem is, you know there’s not a single shy bone in his body! You’re embarrassed by the rude response (or lack thereof) from your child. You know you’ll have to make teaching him good manners a priority. Especially when he says triumphantly “I didn’t even talk to that man!”
You know that he’s not just remembering “stranger danger.” He understands about talking to strangers when he’s with mom or dad. What he’s actually just done by being rude is show you how much he likes control. Maximum control.
Uh oh. He’s rude. Are you too late already?
You may have to take stock of what other signals are coming from him that he’s trying to rule the world. Is he allowed to refuse food he says he doesn’t like (even if he’s never even tasted it)? How about the way he addresses adults and talks to his teacher? Does he get to choose first all the time “because he’s the littlest”? Do you insist that big brother or sister include him in play with their friends, even though he’s four years younger?
Are you aware of the words you use about your child to others, especially in the presence of that child? “Oh, he’s pretty shy. He probably won’t talk to you.” “He doesn’t like squash. He probably won’t eat it.” Or how about (said with a little pride thrown in), “Yes, she’s always been active. She can’t sit still for a minute.” Your kiddo has his ears tuned to what you say, and he’s learning from you to make excuses for his behavior. Those simple statements turn into self-fulfilling prophecies. And each time it happens, he thinks that he really does rule the world.
So, let’s correct the rude greeting faux pas. Have a conversation with your young one about polite conversations. Make sure he understands that when adults speak to him, he is expected to look them in the eyes, smile, and use kind words to answer. No negotiations. No hiding behind mom’s back, no cop-outs of any kind. Your child may actually be an introvert, but that doesn’t mean he never talks outside his comfort zone.
Tools for tomorrow
Children who learn how to greet people politely and how to carry on a cordial conversation will have some of the tools necessary to land a job when they’re older. Teach them that others often make decisions based on first impressions. That’s why each time they meet someone, whether it is the first time or the thirty first time, repeatedly being polite and attentive leaves a positive impact. (Human nature being what it is, if there’s even one negative impression, that’s the one they’ll remember.)
I recently read an article about a family that had this very problem with their three year old. After carefully explaining their expectations, it was inevitable that he would test the limits. So they told him if he didn’t greet people as expected, when they got home, they would practice. They role-played a person speaking to their little boy. If he responded appropriately, great! Celebrate! If not, they kept on practicing until he got it right. By that time, he would do practically anything to be released from his “hello lessons.” And he knew that if he didn’t do what was expected in public, he’d go right back to practicing some more.
Rude is real
We once went out to dinner with a couple and their twin three-year-old girls. While we sat and ate our dinner, the children climbed over the chairs and under the table. Then they took a little trip around the restaurant to talk to all the other diners. They even helped themselves to the food on other people’s plates! Their parents thought their precious little ones were so cute that no one would mind being interrupted or having food stolen out from under their noses. When it became clear that the parents were not going to do anything to control their daughters, I finally got up, put the girls back in their chairs and warned them “Don’t move!” And you know what? They didn’t.
I’ve always believed I have two sets of children: the ones who live in my home and the ones who visit other people. Because invariably people they’ve visited with tell us, “Your children are so polite!” It’s a great feeling to know that those early lessons actually took hold.
Do you have polite, attentive children? If so, tell us how you got there. If not, will you try this solution? Why or why not?


Guys and their views on relationship;
Today is the 3rd day in a row where I talk to different groups of guys about relationships, and life in general.
I couldn’t help but smile listening to them… because guys are just as emotional as girls.
(Obviously. They’re just too proud to admit it).
But it was nice listening to them slowly open up after a while and talk to me about their exes, what went wrong, and what they look for in a girl.
One actually admitted to me that he regrets breaking up with one of his exes. A christian girl who was really sweet, but back at the time he didn’t believe in God.
“I regret that. She was such a good girl, but I wasn’t into religion back then. I didn’t believe in that. But now she’s married. Ironically enough, I go to church every Sunday and sometimes on the weekday when I get a chance. That was ten years ago.”
Mmm… they’re all emotional too. It’s just that girls are more honest about it.
They all get jealous just how we do, they all miss some of their exes who were good girls, but don’t admit it either out of pride or because the girl has a new man, they all want something meaningful…
but they get distracted with physicality, haha.
Nonetheless, it reminded me of the guys at SUNY, and all the conversations I had with them.
And I appreciate these talks, because we get to bond and our friendships become closer and I get to understand guys more.
Ironically enough, everything they said kept making me smile because I had heard it plenty of times before with the guys back upstate. I would actually finish their sentences and they would just go, “OMG YESSSS!!” and it would make me laugh hahaha xD
In all honesty, relationships aren’t complicated at all. They can be so simple. We just make them complicated because of the way we think and conflict with each other and how we deal with it all.


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Each week, I want to share something I appreciate about my community of faith, the Belton Church of Christ located in Belton, TX. Each week, I will highlight one “bright spot” in my congregation.
This week, I am so thankful for the community that helps me parent my children. My wife Debbie and I formed friendships with others who were having children about the same time as we did. These friendships lasted even while we moved away from Belton for three years. When we came back to Belton, we re-entered these friendships and quickly developed even deeper relationships with these people. One thing I love about my church family is that we have given each other permission to make parenting mistakes and to be honest with one another knowing that forgiveness and understanding awaits us.
On Saturday, I made a mistake with my parenting. It turned out to be nothing serious, but it could have accidentally hurt one of my children. This happened while at a birthday party with these friends from church. I risked being honest with everyone about my mistake. The response was instant and immediate grace. One of my friends came to check on me and said, “Hey, are you okay?” She then told me a story of a mistake she had made while parenting. Another friend came up and shared a less-than-proud moment. They gave me grace in a moment where I did not want to give myself any grace, especially since I was scheduled to speak on parenting the next day! In that moment, they accepted me beyond my role of minister and treated me like a friend who needed encouragement and forgiveness.
I love my church because of a network and a community of mutual support, mutual ministry and mutual forgiveness. This is what I need in order to parent my children, and I want to give others the grace that they have given me.
When have you been given grace from others from your faith community?


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At this point everybody knows about their tumultuous and self-destructive relationship with each other and how they adored each other more than anybody else. I can only imagine that this programme really only demonstrates a small amount of what they meant to each other and their successes, downfalls and ultimately, their deaths.
Definitely worth catching up with on 4OD if you still haven't seen it (and can view it from whatever you country you may be in)
I'm not lying when I say it brought a tear to my eye. Powerful stuff.


How Why You’re Jealous Of Your Girlfriend’s Ex can Save You Time, Stress, and Money.If another person repeatedly hurts you, then You need to keep away from the connection. In cases like this, you've got a truly good motive never to have confidence in the individual. Move ahead! You ought to have far better.
I grew to become obsessive and checked whether they had been out on the Business alongside one another or sending IMs to each other,And that i generally questioned him.He broke up with me six months in the past, They may be even closer now, obtaining drinks while in the bar immediately after working hours, she has a boyfriend but likes spending time with my ex person. I see them each day laughing and joking at do the job and it tears me apart. I'm searching for work elsewhere just so I might get clear of all of this. Ps my male is married at the same time, so he wasn’t all mine to start with, besides I loved him dearly
Associations are much over sex. A very good relationship is manufactured from two people who find themselves dedicated to one another, are good companions, friends, and enthusiasts. A good relationship is made from a person and girl who will be developing together spiritually, mentally, emotionally and bodily.
"What ought to I do to obtain my ex back?" Be on your greatest conduct and make your ex bear in mind what drew them to you in the first place. They'll remember your good details and will skip them. Then you'll have a greater chance of being able to get again along with your ex.
Tell your ally regarding how you're feeling, in a good serene way, and find out how they react. Whenever they get defensive and impolite, back again off. Should they be currently being great over it, try out to spend additional time with them.
And jealousy doesn’t adhere its head out only after the split up, it pops its unsightly little head even in the most check here healthiest of associations. You really want to unwind, and consider it having a tranquil head.
And some other instances, we’re just not All set to simply accept The point that issues are above and the relationship has fallen apart.
Although a breakup using a boyfriend or using a girlfriend might be seriously depressing, it doesn't ought to indicate that the relationship is in excess of. Whether or not the breakup must suddenly go away you emotion confusion and loneliness, you should still experience seriously wanting to heal the wounds and bounce correct again in to that marriage with your ex.
Hardly ever blame her or yourself for what happened and retain the letter on the favourable Notice. It might not be a difficulty-absolutely free task to convey about getting into account that she has long been preventing you.
Praying, “Lord Jesus, ZZZ has a fantastic want to learn and encounter the fact of You as Lord, the reality of You as head of him and the truth of his responsibility to the very well-getting of his Close friend’s marriage. Support him, Heavenly Father, to fill himself with You and place absent emotions of anger or jealousy or wrongful desires. Thanks for Listening to this prayer that we provide to Your throne to acquire mercy and come across grace to aid in ZZZ’s distress. In Jesus’ title, Amen.”
Department out and commit a lot more time with Other individuals, or come across an activity which makes you pleased. Sometimes, all you'll want to do is always to take superior care of yourself instead of focusing all of your energy on somebody else.
What if the person I'm in adore with is daily in my class flirting with another person in my class? What can I do?
Constantly, the precise reverse inner thoughts of love is professional when you’re jealous. Romantic jealousy is very little but a deep, dark shadow of love and it's the exact opposite of how you really feel when you initial drop in appreciate.
Would you really want to get with somebody who has experienced an uncomplicated past? Somebody that has never felt true emotion? Isn’t the factor that’s earning you jealous the point that captivated you to begin with? Weren’t you seduced by their tales of fearless journey prior to deciding to became irritated that you choose to weren’t there with them? ‘Humour could be the best antidote for jealousy because it lets you have a stage again,’ says Cadalen. Christopher, 36 and six a long time into his relationship, states, ‘My wife was married right before to a man with a lot of money.


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Love and friendship day – Perfect Gift
Love and friendship day is the perfect date to express feelings of affection towards the people we love.
Do not miss the opportunity to give a detail to the person you love, offer your friends a gift or share with your family a delicious dinner full of love. The important thing is that on this date you go out with a different idea.
If you haven’t thought about what to give on this day, do not worry, here we will give you some ideas. Remember that the things that are elaborated by yourself are the most valuable.
1. 50 reasons why I love you
Put in a jar 50 reasons why you feel fortunate to have met that person. You can write things like: your smile, your way of making my days happier, because I have fun with you, your delicious meals…. These are some ideas of what you can write. Think of that person, remember the moments lived and for sure you will have more than 50 reasons.
2. Custom pillow
If the person you love lives far away, this is the perfect gift. This way they will remember you every day. To make it special, you must customize it. Write an inside joke, a phrase like "If you miss me, hug me." Get creative and make this detail something special.
3. Give an experience
Take the person you want to enjoy a weekend to somewhere your always wanted to go. A day at the spa, a dinner, a small trip, a picnic ... In short, an experience that you will surely remember for the rest of your life.
I want you to remember that love and friendship day is no they only special date to demonstrate affection. Love is something we must demonstrate daily.


Sisters of Divine Providence
What’s it like being a Sister? It is a gift. I am able to do what I love and live in a beautiful relationship with God that is so primary to my life. Describing my life as a Sister would be like trying to describe how a fish lives in water. You live in it fully. Words do not seem adequate. It is a great life!
The Reconnector: As a hospice chaplain, I spent one Christmas Eve at the deathbed of a woman and held her hand while her husband held her other hand. He needed someone to talk to, to help him remember the life and love they had shared. He had reconnected, not just with grief and pain, but also with love and faith.
As a psychiatric social worker, I was able to help teenagers reconnect with their families. Terrible hurts and misunderstandings had caused many family problems. Learning new ways to communicate and deal with past hurts, mistakes, and unhealthy habits helped them reconnect as healthier families.Providing HIV counseling with street people in San Antonio, I saw these people-mostly gay men-estranged from their families and life. They told me how wonderful it was to have someone from the church willing to talk to them without judgment. Guidance and judgment are two different things. They needed to somehow “find their way home.” “Home” to themselves; to the full reality of their illness, “home” to reconnect with their families and “home” to reconnect with their faith. I helped them face their situation and take a second look at their deeper values. We all need love and support, especially facing a devastating illness like AIDS. It’s amazing to me to see how love and mercy are stronger than fear and pain. I asked them as adults to consider what the wisdom from the past gives us, wisdom from the medical community and from their faith traditions. I encouraged them to make better choices. Some of them did.
How To Find Love? Sometimes people are surprised how I—a celibate woman—can talk about how to find love. What do I tell them? I say that love is really caring for people and that is the way we practice love. The way to love is started by being a friend and getting to know people. Words only helped when my actions backed them up. I remember a pastoral visit with a person who had been in counseling. The person told me it was very different talking to me than it was to a regular counselor. Ultimately only the Love of God through us can transform the world. Being a Sister is to be part of God’s love active in the world. What a life! That’s the gift of being a Sister.


Domestic Violence La violencia doméstica
Are you being hurt or controlled? Do you know someone who is? Domestic Violence is abuse by a current or former, spouse or a boyfriend or girlfriend, in order to maintain power and control over the other person. The abuse can take many forms including verbal, emotional, psychological, physical, sexual, and economic. Domestic violence can happen to anyone.
- Learned behavior
- Often repeated and escalating
- Coercive and targeted
- Present in all ages, races, ethnicities, cultures, sexual orientations, religions, economic and education level
- Carried out in an environment of fear and intimidation


The family law is considered as the set of legal rules and institutions that seek to regulate personal and property relations of the members of a family, each other and with third parties. Such relationships arise from marriage and kinship.
It was considered that the family Law, born of civil law, however, since the latter is based on the individual, family relationships cannot be governed only by criteria of individual interest and autonomy much of the doctrine presently considered to be an autonomous branch of law.
The object of study of family law is the family.
The family is the “group of people who are united by ties of consanguinity or adoption founded on the basis of people called parents and children, who live in a household cultivating the necessary and natural affections with common interests to overcome and progress”
Characters of Family Law
Judgments on procedural matters family do not reach the quality of res judicata, are formal statements i.e. are reviewable further.
The autonomy is restricted. They cannot extinguish or change an interpersonal relationship of the family group without court intervention. Its rules are to regulate the family community.
Divorce is the separation of two people who were united in marriage by court order.
It is the way Law responds to a conflict, failure or marital disruption.
Separation and Divorce Link
Both personnel action such as divorce separation is a personal right of spouses. The common effect of both actions is the cessation of the duty of cohabitation, ie each partner will set new residence.
Divorce and Separation are the following differences:
The separation produces separate status; divorce instead produces the status of “divorced”. Thus, the divorced will recover your bridal fitness. That is, in the case of marital separation, with the sentence: cohabitation is interrupted but also dissolves the bond stop calling the inheritance between spouses.
For separated spouses stop the duty of cohabitation, family help will be limited, both spouses must contribute to the maintenance of the children in proportion to their fortune.
Custody of Children
In joint custody, effects on land tenure and stored in the power over the children.
Parental authority is the set of duties and rights that correspond to the parents of the persons and property of their children, for their protection and comprehensive training to care for and govern their children, from the conception of these and while they are under age and have not been emancipated.
The exercise of parental authority in cases of separation, personal separation, divorce link, it will be up to the parent to exercise legally tenure, without prejudice to the other to have adequate communication with the child and to supervise their education.For detailed information click on-Everett Divorce Attorney.
Autonomy and Location of Family Law
Family Law is autonomous because it has its own special code and structural principles have been sanctioned: The law of the Family Code.
Family Law is located within the Public Law.


The Internet is a tool that can be used in adaptive or maladaptive ways, depending
on the determination, needs and knowledge of individuals and couples. Although sexuality
and emotions are integral parts of most romantic relationships, researches on sexual
behavior and relationships are not highly intertwined (Dewitte, 2012). In addition
to this fact, objective data and research on sexual and emotional behavior through
the Internet and the impact that it has on relationships are lacking. Specifically,
it is not known if cyber friendships on the Internet correlate with high levels of
intense conflicts and break ups among committed couples, or the contrary, if cyber
friendships bring positive outcomes to relationships. The present study explores the
impact of Internet’s cyber friendship on heterosexual’s sex life and their open or
closed relationships. Central to this study is a questionnaire that deals with sexual,
emotional, Internet friendships, infidelity, betrayals, and relationships issues.
The reported data was obtained from 106 participants, 50 men and 56 women, mostly
white (67.9%), committed to open or to closed heterosexual relationships, ranging
in age from 18 to 70 years old. Primary attention was focused on how female and male
respondents in open or closed relationships engaged with their cyber friends, and
the impact that it had on their own sex life and relationships. The findings led to
the conclusion that, overall, cyber friendships on the Internet have a negative impact
on the sex life of heterosexual committed couples, especially a significant negative
impact was found on closed relationships.
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My generation fought to be free. What happened to us? PollySeason 2 Edit Larry starts hanging out with her and helping her out with Finn while Pete is in Alaska. Larry and Polly end up having sex and decide to pursue a relationship together after Piper and Larry end their relationship and Polly and Pete end theirs. Polly and Piper argue about this and shortly after end their friendship. Polly agrees to do one last thing for Piper, she call Alex s probation officer and report her for parole violation, getting her arrested so Piper won t be left alone.


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I have started with a new therapist and we have been focusing on the difficulties within my blended family. At some point Tuesday night, after I was complaining that I didn't feel appreciated my therapist said: You knew he had a son when you married him.
I felt bad when my therapist said it to me. This statement feels very discounting and shaming to me. I spent a few hours trying to understand why. What is the assumption behind the statement? That I should have expected all these problems? That I could have been prepared? This was how I defended myself to my therapist. (Notice I said defended, I felt attacked). I tried to argue that there was no way in hell I could have been prepared for this, never having had kids, not expecting my stepson to live with us since he was in Russia and kids rarely leave their moms in Russia. Add on top of that that I didn't expect my stepson to be such a difficult child. But let's be totally honest here. I knew my husband had a kid when we got involved. Did I give it much thought? No. I was head over heels in love and I only thought about how my heart ached at the thought of not being with him. End of story. Was this smart? No. Does criticizing this now help? No. This leads me to some examples I thought of while driving in the car to work yesterday. When someone complains about how bad their husband is, why don't we say: Didn't you know you husband when you married him? It wasn't an arranged marriage, was it? When someone complains about how difficult their teenager is, why don't we say: Hmmmm. You knew he would grow up into a teenager when you decided to have him didn't you? You weren't ignorant of biology, were you? You understood that sex can lead to teenagers didn't you? When someone complains about their boss why don't we say: You had an interview before you took the job, didn't you? You met him, right, you investigated the company? I could go on and on here but I think you get it. We don't say these things to people when they tell us their problems with their boss or kids or husbands BECAUSE IT DOESN'T HELP --- BECAUSE IT JUST DISCOUNTS THEM AND MAKES THEM FEEL STUPID. IT BASICALLY SAYS "YOU MADE YOUR BED NOW YOU SLEEP IN IT." IF THIS KIND OF ADVICE SEEMS HELPFUL TO ANYONE PLEASE RAISE YOUR HAND.


March 2, 2018
Thanks to James Keller, a 2018 Harrison Middleton University Fellow in Ideas, for today’s post.
In leaving Carthage, Augustine abandoned his mother, Monica. A widow, she pleaded with her son not to leave – or, if he must go, not to leave her behind. She would come with him. He lied to his mother, offering her the false comfort that he was not leaving but was only seeing off a friend. In the night, he slipped away, sailing to Rome. Monica suffered a second bereavement. This story, related by Augustine in his Confessions reveals a certain callousness on the part of Augustine toward his mother. Yet, throughout The Confessions, he appears to revere his mother, praising her virtue. How could a man that so loved his mother treat her so despitefully?
That he thought highly of his mother is beyond doubt. He relates several stories of her remarkable virtue and piety. In the third book of The Confessions, he relates how Monica prayed fervently that her son might come to know the Christian god and how she wept over his state of spiritual death. Monica was rewarded with a divinely-authored dream that assured her that Augustine would one day convert to Christianity. In the ninth book, he relates how her mother-in-law originally despised her due to the rumor-mongering of the servants and how Monica, through patience, kindness, and gentleness, won her mother over, so that the two women became quite close. Similarly, she won her husband over to the Christian faith. Augustine sees her as the model wife, never complaining about her husband but defusing his anger with her gentle forbearance. Augustine frequently expresses love and admiration for his mother.
But like most relationships between children and parents, the relationship between Augustine and Monica was complicated. Augustine’s reverence for his mother was mingled with resentment. Though Augustine’s ostensible aim is to confess his own guilt, at times he absolves himself of that guilt by putting the blame on his mother.
For example, even though Monica spent much time praying that her son would become a Catholic, she did not take the opportunity to make him a Catholic when she could. In his childhood, Augustine became quite ill, and it was thought that he should be baptized in order to ensure the saving of his soul. However, he recovered quickly and his baptism was delayed. Monica worried that if he lived a life of profligacy after being baptized, his baptism would be undone and he would be damned. While Augustine praises his mother for her teaching and understands the reason she delayed his baptism, he disagrees with the decision, likening the delay to withholding medicine from the sick man (6). Moreover, he implies that the later sins of his life might not have happened if he had been baptized and purified at that young age and that those years that he wasted as a prodigal son could have been spent in service to the Christian god.
Indeed, that he wasted years serving himself is due in part to Monica’s confused priorities, at least, according to Augustine. It was important to her that he become skilled in rhetoric and be able to make a living at it. To this end, she put him in schools where he was beaten when he did not complete his work, preferring to play games instead. Augustine was quite bitter about the beatings administered by his teachers. He found his teachers to be hypocrites. They too wasted their time with amusements (5). He could not understand why parents would turn their children over to the rough punishment of these teachers. As he grew older, he discovered the intense sexual desire of youth, but he found that his parents did nothing to help him. His mother did not want him to marry, lest he be distracted from his studies and his future career be jeopardized. So, instead of having licit sexual relations with a wife, he sought the illicit relations of a mistress (11-12). Later, he would find the life of a rhetorician empty, the fame that accompanied it hollow. Monica’s emphasis on his career led him to a life of sin and vanity. Moreover, it ultimately delayed his conversion to the Catholic faith, as he did not want to give up his life of sexual libertinism.
Even when he writes of abandoning Monica, while confessing his own callousness, he finds fault with his mother. She is a jealous mother, too desirous of his company. In his opinion, she loves him disproportionately. His leaving her, therefore, is a punishment sent from her god, so that she will learn to love her god first and her son second. Or, to put it more accurately, her distorted love of Augustine, which is the cause of her emotional suffering, is both the cause of her punishment and the punishment itself: “…[God] used her too jealous love for her son as a scourge of sorrow for her just punishment” (39). In this way, Augustine mitigates the guilt he feels over leaving his mother – she has brought this sorrow upon herself.
This attribution of guilt to Monica creates a fascinating dichotomy in The Confessions. On the one hand, he wishes to accept responsibility for his sins. His constant refrain is that every wrong thing he ever did originated from himself. Contradictorily, he relieves himself from guilt by placing the blame on his mother, at least in part. She did not protect him from temptation. She did not purify him through baptism. She taught him to pursue illusory goods – fame and wealth. She drove him away through her neediness and too fervent love. Augustine writes that Monica “inherited the legacy of Eve, seeking in sorrow what with sorrow she brought into the world” (39). But Augustine’s writing echoes the defense of Adam after eating the forbidden fruit, as if Augustine said to his god, “The mother you gave to me, she caused me to sin.”
One can now understand why Augustine, though he adored his mother, abandoned her. He bore her a good deal of ambivalence. While he considered her a model of virtue and religious devotion, he also found her to be negligent of his spiritual good. Though he ostensibly tries to accept responsibility for his own wrongdoing, he finds himself laying much of the blame on his mother: his guilt is her guilt. In confessing his sins, he publicly confesses her sins as well. The mixed feelings that his mother was a most remarkable woman and yet had failed him help explain why he could lie to his mother and leave her lonely in Carthage.
Augustine. The Confessions. Translated by R.S. Pine-Coffin. The Great Books of the Western World, edited by Mortimer J. Adler et al., vol. 16, Encyclopedia Britannica, 1990, pp. 1-159.
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We had a very special reason to be thankful last week, our client’s Eddie and Jordan’s wedding was published in the new issue of Southern Weddings Magazine.
I loved the layout of special moments and details in the 4.5 page spread photographed beautifully by Jeremy Harwell.
The new issue of Southern Weddings is truly special and a breath of fresh air. So many times wedding magazines are just filled with pretty pictures and ideas on how to imitate what you see. The team at Southern Weddings took a different approach to this issue. They published a magazine centered around love and to remind readers what really matters – more than just one wedding day – a strong marriage.
As a wedding planner, I sometimes see couples lose sight of what’s important about a wedding. They get caught up in the expectations and pleasing others. They spend endless hours stressing over details they don’t agree on and are absolutely miserable by the time the wedding day arrives. It breaks my heart to hear a couple say they can’t wait for the day to just be over so they can be done with it.
A wedding is the start of a family, the start of a legacy, and new traditions. It’s the beginning of a lifetime with your partner. I’ve been married for 12 years and I promise you the wedding day is the start of many ups and downs, and very hard times. But in those hard moments, it’s your wedding day that you reflect on to get you through. I still remember the vows we made. The way everything and everyone disappeared in the room when our eyes locked as I walked down the aisle. The way he smiled so incredibly happy when he took my hands into his. How it felt to be surrounded by our loved ones who supported our marriage. These moments on the wedding day are the ones that will get you through the tough times and remind you why you love each other and why you decided to get married.
As I reflect on my favorite weddings, they are the couples who took in every moment of their wedding day. They didn’t rush through it. I remember my bride who twirled in her reception room like a little girl giddy with excitement. I remember my groom who’s breath was taken away at the sight of his bride. I remember my clients who danced and gazed into each other’s eyes on the dance floor as if no one was around. These are the moments you treasure and reflect on to sustain a marriage.
Our approach to wedding planning is to take a limited number of weddings so we can get to know our couples and their love story. We help them manage the wedding planning process so it doesn’t get overwhelming. We help them select a vendor team that enhances their experience and makes planning effortless. We help them incorporate their family traditions and personalities throughout the details of the wedding day so they are surrounded by the details that tell their love story.
Reading the new issue of Southern Weddings has reaffirmed my commitment to help my clients keep in mind the big picture – their marriage – and to help them fill their wedding day with memories they will cherish. To find meaning in the details they select for their wedding day. To break the rules if it means it will allow them to enjoy the day. To create a stress free environment so they can be completely caught up in the moment. If their wedding day is filled with love, it can’t go wrong. Because Love Never Fails!


My son is a gift from God. In 2004, I was told by doctor’s that I wouldn’t be able to have a child. This devastated me. It hurt me deeply because I am a man who wanted to be a father. However, I kept the faith and believed God would deliver. In late 2004, He delivered and in 2005 my son was born.
All of my life I promised myself that whenever I brought a child into this world I would be there for them. I would care for them and they would know me as their father. A child should have a relationship with both his/her parents. A boy should have a strong relationship with his father. In July of 2005 God answered my prayer and delivered unto me a son.
Every Man Has A Choice
This story is all to familiar but I met a man who has two children. His father wasn’t there for him or his siblings growing up. He begged his ex-wife for children and they had two, a boy and a girl.
A few years later they divorced and he left her with two kids. He found himself at that same crossroad that I did. However, he chose differently. He hasn’t been there for his kids and they are hurting for a relationship with him.
Seeing these kids suffer for a relationship with their father made me realize even more how important it is to be in your child’s life. I didn’t have a relationship with my father growing up so I know how they feel.
Reverse The Trend
Men, choosing to reverse the trend will give your child more in life than you could ever give them. The money won’t last. The gifts fade away. Cars breakdown. Clothes and shoes go out of style. But, a relationship between a father and his children will last forever. Teaching them things that will last all their lives is invaluable.
My grandfather was a great example of teaching. I see myself today doing things that my grandfather did. He was very influential in my life and the things he taught me I still carry with me today.
I Am Committed
I had my child late in life but I committed everyday to being apart of his life. Sure it was easier when I was married and living with his mother but even after we were separated I stayed about of his life. Now that I have custody of him, I am that single father and will be that committed father each and every day. If you’re reading this, have children and you are not there for them…change. Your children need you and you need them.


That’s a saucy title isn’t it? A lot of people like to pose the question ‘why do men cheat, why not just break up?’ and I am here to valiantly answer that question by highlighting the obvious benefits of cheating.
I’m not going to go into the moral implications of cheating on your partner and discuss whether it’s right or wrong, so miss me with your moral compass please. I’m simply going to state what I think are some of the benefits of cheating on your girlfriend.
1) It Stops You From Getting Bored Of Your Girlfriend
Having sex with the same person for a really long time can get monotonous. Enjoying a passionate night with someone new can really put the spark back into your relationship. If the sex is good, you may find yourself with a spring in your step. And if the sex is bad, you’ll find yourself appreciating your girlfriend a whole lot more. The guilt and secrecy you have to engage in as a result can also make you feel like a randy secret agent.
2) It Allows You To Embrace Your Natural Instincts
Humans are not meant to be monogamous creatures, it isn’t natural. Society has told us that monogamy is morally correct, but nature tells us something different. The Coolidge effect is a phenomenon seen in mammalian species whereby males (and, to a lesser extent, females) exhibit renewed sexual interest if introduced to new receptive sexual partners. Apparently, only about 3 to 5 percent of mammals are known to form monogamous bonds, so being polygamous or cheating could almost be written off as ‘being human’.
PS – When you use the “I’m just a human” excuse guys, please don’t quote me and say Jay Carteré said it was okay.
3) You Get Sex With Multiple Partners While Still Having Someone To Come Home To
This is probably the most prevalent (and the most obvious) reason why people cheat. Although it includes within it the previous reasons mentioned, it explains why people don’t ‘just break up’. Some individuals desire sex with multiple partners, but also enjoy having a stable consistent partner at home. Maybe it’s someone they really like or want to start a family with, the point is, there’s security. Being single on these roads searching for new females to have sex with can prove tiring and fruitless, why wouldn’t someone want a backup plan?
With that being said, I neither condone nor encourage cheating – polygamy seems like an interesting way of life though. I personally haven’t cheated in any of my past relationships and they’ve all failed, yet I’ve seen many successful relationships that include cheating partners. So according to the facts I have to hand, cheating is healthy for your relationship. Do you agree or disagree? Let’s discuss this juicy topic in the comments below or on Twitter.
Here’s another interesting article:
Humans evolved monogamous relationships to stop men killing rivals’ babies, says study


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It has taken so long for me to add something new. Actually, I really don’t know what to share anymore. It makes me feel like the sky gets darker each day. I might say it is perfect when people normally see it. I start questioning whenever I look up. I prefer not to be bothered by my problems and pretend that they aren’t there. Life is getting tougher as I age. I may be able to accomplish some things in my life, but I know for myself that it isn’t enough. I’m looking for something new;a new life, a new beginning.
It’s been a long time since I was with someone physically. I was in a long distance relationship for so long, ended not in failure but things didn’t work out how everyone wanted. When I fall in love, I start to lose interest in other activities. Well I guess you can say one of my worst emotions is loving too much. I’m not perfect and I truly admit that I have made mistakes.
I know that each of us have different views when it comes to relationships. At my age, 26, I feel more drawn toliving with someone, building a family. I honestly don’t prefer being in a dating situation but It’s what I have right now. It’s not because we’re not ready to live together but more because he doesn’t feel his situation is stable. Most of my entire life the situation has been unstable, the answer is to know how to handle circumstances properly.
For my BF: I know one day you’ll be able to read this, I’m sorry if this will hurt you emotionally, I’m just being completely honestabout what I feel. And don’t get me wrong, I love you, I truly do!
There’s a lot of questions in my mind, like something is tightening in my head. It is my first time that I’ve been in a relationship where we never speak about the future. It only happens if I ask but it’s the same answer every time. It seems talking about the future is off-limits or it makes me feel like I am running around in a circle. I guess some people will accept that it’s normal to not have a conversation about it, but it’s important to me. I never thought about it when I was a teenager, I felt like my boyfriend is not my future husband, so we just went with life’s flow. Now, it’s different, every second counts. There’s a saying “You’ll never know if you’ll succeed if you don’t try”. That’s why I no longer believe in dating or long-term relationships. Lastly,I believe that in a relationship, you won’t truly know each other’s attitude unless you are both living under the same roof. Sigh! I’m thinking too much. I don’t really know what’s going on, makes me feel like I don’t know myself anymore.


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One rule of dating in a platform that is online persistence but regrettably lots of people lack this feature. It is possible to learn persistence even though the message will not come immediately. Men face this issue as some ladies take some time before responding their communications on online dating sites. Patience ensures them feel affection from you that you understand the other person and makes.


Just let me have him, I want to treat him right
when you and ya bestfriend say something at the exact same time
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I have multiple lovers and while communicating with a user I often have a need to show them the profile of a particular lover. I wish I could save links to each lover's profile so I could send people a direct link to a particular profile.
Linking for couples to only one profile leaves polyamorus people out. I don't want browsing people to always see the same lover or maybe i want links to multiple lovers. How would poly people show lover's profiles without direct links?
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Why do I feel like the only way a man can prove his love and commitment is to want to have children? Oh yeah, probably because of every romantic comedy I've ever seen. It's a pretty twisted yardstick to measure a relationship by, even the more so for me, since my relationship history proves me thoroughly unlovable by this methodology. The unfortunate thing is that as I've gotten older and my maternal drive has kicked out of first gear, I've started feeling like a bit of a loser. Out of all the great (and terrible) guys I've dated, none of them ever confessed their love to me by saying, "I want to have kids with you." And that makes me feel shitty. I feel stupid for feeling this way at the same time, so it's a super fun double whammy of emotional shame.
So thank you, romantic comedies, for making me feel like a pathetic, unloved, never-a-leading-lady fool who will either settle for less than she wants or end up alone in a house of guinea pigs and garbage. Yay me!


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Solomon once said in Ecclesiates 7:25-28, “I applied mine heart to know, and to search, and to seek out wisdom, and the reason of things, and to know the wickedness of folly, even of foolishnes and madness: And I found more bitter than death the woman, whose heart is snares and nets, and her hands as bands:
whoso pleaseth God shall escape from her; but sinner shall be taken by her. Behold, this have I found not: one man among a thousand have I found; BUT A WOMAN AMONG ALL THOSE HAVE I NOT FOUND”.
To know each other more, share our hearts and lives, praying for one another, asking questions and bearing one another’s burden. We will strive to love and serve each other, meeting one another’s needs, encouraging growth and helping one another thrive. 1 Thessalonians 2:7-8
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I never thought I’d feel this way,
You make me smile everyday
We were totally a different strangers,
But love binds us together.
I never knew that I could meet someone like you,
You showed me a love so true
You’re the only person that i adore,
Nothing compares to you anymore.
Your eyes mesmerizes me,
You’re the only one that I see
Hearing your voice makes me fall deeper,
Making good music together
You make my heart beat so fast,
wishing every moment with you won’t last.
You always make me feel that I am the most beautiful,
With you around, everything I see becomes colorful.
I couldn’t spend my day without you,
I like being next to you
I couldn’t ask for anything,
Coz’ I found my everything.


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2012— Dailey v. Dailey, 59 Va. App. 734The court erred when it found that the husband`s retirement and the beginning of the resulting payments to the wife on his pension were reasonably foreseeable when the parties entered into their transaction agreement, and therefore an error in the finding that retirement was not a sufficient basis for the husband`s request for a reduction in spousal assistance. The settlement agreement between the parties provided that sp assistance could be amended on the basis of a substantial change in circumstances. The parties found that the husband`s retirement was a significant change, but the court found that the amendment was reasonably foreseeable, as the parties` transaction contract specifically provided for the wife to receive a portion of the husband`s pension after retirement. However, there was compelling evidence that Husband did not intend to retire at the time of the parties` contract change. In addition, the transaction agreement was not concluded on the question of whether sped assistance would be maintained or terminated with the husband`s retirement. Thus, the Court of Appeal found that the agreement did not provide a basis for concluding that the parties had reasonably contemplated or foreseen the effects of the husband`s departure on his obligation to assist the spouse and therefore dismissed the case in determining whether the husband`s unpredictable retirement warranted a change in sp upon the spouse. In an undisputed divorce, the court almost always approves the consent of the parties when it is generally fair and the court is satisfied that the agreement was reached by both spouses without fraud or coercion.
Often, the court may want to verify the financial sworn insurances that are related to the agreement in order to determine their fairness. A separation agreement is a legal document that binds you together for many years and determines your rights, obligations and responsibilities from your marriage. You and your spouse can amend the agreement if you agree to both changes; it may be amended by a court order, unless the agreement explicitly states that the agreement is not subject to judicial amendment. Nevertheless, the court can still amend the provisions of an agreement on custody and custody of minor children. Back to the top Q. Is an MSA necessary in Virginia? Q. What is a marriage separation and real estate counting contract (MSA)? Q. Why is a marriage separation and real estate counting contract important? Q.


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Although they are different people, they might find their life outlook and opinions, expressions, basic goals and objectives in life are similar. Love Singles Horoscopes Couples Horoscopes Flirt Horoscopes Sex Horoscopes. Self Horoscopes Daily Horoscopes Love Compatibility.
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Feb 19 - Mar Possibly the most independent of all astrology signs, Aquarius is the loner of the zodiac. According to many popular horoscopes, Aquarius love compatibility is virtually non-existent, but is this sign really destined to be a lonely hippy in the festival of life?
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Aquarius history - the history of Aquarius. When two Aquarians join together in a love match, they focus on the more positive aspects of humanity. This pair is loves to make friends, help others and, on a grander scale, contemplate social change.
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