We all long to know whether we are truly loved and accepted by those we care about. We will never know how people genuinely feel about us, however, unless they feel free to say no to us. Taking no for an answer is hard, painful and difficult, but it is vital to healthy relationships.
Many years ago, a psychologist friend of mine introduced me to the concept of the “free no.” The idea being that you can never trust that a yes is genuine unless people know they have the freedom to say no to you without penalty.
That without penalty part is very important.
It is natural to assume the people we care about know they can say no to us – and theoretically, they can. The question, however, is what happens when they do? How do we respond?
We give them the silent treatment.
We wait for just the right moment for “paybacks.”
That is not a “free no.
When we punish people for saying no to us, we are not actually giving them the right to say no.
WHY IS A FREE NO SO IMPORTANT?
Any time we say yes to one thing, we inherently have to say no to something else. We all have a certain number of resources that are finite. These include time, money and energy – which includes emotional energy. While we can always get more eventually, once what we currently have is gone, it is gone.
When someone wants my money, my time or my energy and will not take no for an answer, they are essentially manipulating me into doing something I don’t really want to do. In other words, they are taking away my free will and basically holding me hostage to their own.
When we demand a yes, we rarely stop to consider is what it is costing the other person to say yes to us.
For instance, say I want to go out at night, but my spouse is tired. They want to spend the time they have remaining in that day recharging their batteries so that they can start the next day refreshed and recharged.
So, let’s say they say no, they don’t want to go out. That leaves me with several options in regards to how to respond.
* I can whine, beg, pout threaten, manipulate or guilt them into going out with me.
* I can stay there with them and pout, stomp around, slam doors and let them know in every way possible how angry I am at them for saying no to me.
* I can stay there with them but demand they amuse me or entertain me since they wouldn’t go out with me – even further exhausting their batteries in the process.
Or, I can graciously take their no for an answer. I can go out on my own or stay in with them without demanding that they amuse, entertain or in other ways expend even more energy on me. I can leave them in peace to recharge.
Being around someone who is angry with you is exhausting, as is having to amuse or entertain someone. If I choose to respond in one of these ways, I simply exhaust them even more. They may end up even more tired than if they had just gone out.
On some level we know this, which is maybe why we do it – so next time they won’t fight us, they will just do what we want. Over time, this establishes a pattern in which they either just give in and give us what we want or we make their life a living hell. That is called a no-win situation. We may get away with it for a while but over time they will grow to resent us and start fighting back in a million small ways. Ultimately, this just turns our relationships into war zones.
WHY IS A “GENUINE YES” SO IMPORTANT?
Have you ever wondered if someone really likes or loves you or not? Usually, we know how people feel about us by what they do for us, not just by what they say. But if no one can ever say no to you, how do you know what it actually means when they say yes? Are they saying yes because they love you and genuinely want to say yes, or because they are afraid of the consequences of saying no? That’s not love.
You will never never know if a yes is genuine unless you know the other person feels the freedom to say no to you.
Allowing someone to say no to you without punishing them for it is painful and difficult. We all want what we want. Letting someone say no to you is a form of losing. It is not getting what you want.
When we want something, we generally want it for a reason. Sometimes we may even feel we need it, so when someone denies us that thing it can actually cause us pain. No one wants to be in pain, so we work hard to get what we want.
What we don’t think about, however, is that sometimes, getting what we want causes the other person pain. Sometimes when it comes to pain in a relationship, its either us or them. Not getting what we want will cause us pain, but giving us what we want will cause them pain – so we choose us. Sometimes, that’s okay, but not every time. That’s where we have to be careful.
You can’t claim to love someone that you are always forcing to do things for you through some type of emotional manipulation. That’s not healthy for you and it’s not healthy for them.


Lucky to have found an Aida in my life. I am forever grateful and I hope I can make it one day at a time. :)
31 Aug 2014 Leave a comment
And as he spoke, he spoke ordinary words
Although they did not feel
For I felt what I had not felt before
And you’d swear those words could heal.
And as I looked up into those eyes
His vision borrows mine.
And I know he’s no stranger,
For I feel I’ve held him for all of time.
He said take my hand,
Live while you can
Don’t you see your dreams lie right in the palm of your hand
- Ordinary Day, Vanessa Carlton
You used to be just an ordinary boy who spoke the right words on an ordinary day. = )
P.S. Forgive the #highschoolfeels :P
31 Aug 2014 Leave a comment
All my senses come to life
While I’m stumbling home as drunk as I
Have ever been and I’ll never leave again
‘Cause you are the only one
And all my friends have gone to find
Another place to let their hearts collide
Just promise me, you’ll never leave again
30 Aug 2014 Leave a comment
To the girl who loved you first
I know you must have felt an inconceivable pain when he left you because of me. Your trust was shattered and no amount of sorries can heal the pain. I don’t really know you, except for the stories he and his friends tell me. You seem like a great girl which makes it more of a pain for me to know that I caused you pain that I wouldn’t wish for anyone.
Up to now, I am still trying to deny my faults. I still think that you broke up not because of me. It’s because you already had problems all along. You hurt him. We’re really just meant for each other. Everything happens for a reason… And all those other excuses I keep telling myself.
But recently, painfully, I had to come to terms with the truth. It was my fault too. We tried but we couldn’t put an end to what we had. We were selfish. I was selfish. I wanted him too. I wanted the way he loved you. I loved the way he loved me.
You don’t know me, but you must know something about why I let it happen. You must know how he looks at people he loves. You must know how big and forgiving his heart is. I loved him in a way that I allowed things to happen because I wanted him to stay for a bit longer in my life. I chose to love him and be there for him even if I knew the whole truth about you.
I didn’t want to blame myself for everything that happened because I didn’t want to hate myself. Just as I hope you forgive me someday, I hope to forgive myself as well for what I did to you. I know you don’t care. But I want you to know that it still hurts me to know that I have hurt you.
I hope you know that I am not an evil wicked person and that I am sorry. Just as you will try to forgive him, I hope you will have the heart to forgive me as well.
In time, I hope I can forgive myself too.
To the boy I loved and hurt
I am sorry that I put all the blame on you. It’s so much easier to feel strong and tell everyone that I did not give a f&ck. Because while they are trying to understand what happened, they always see me as the one who destroyed everything you had. And so I try so bad to show them I did not care and that I was strong enough to leave should you not have chosen me.
It pains me then to have people know that I was a fling. It pains me now that I am the cause of destroying something beautiful just because I loved you. But what I understand now is that I cannot avoid the pain. I can only come to terms with it. When I chose to love you, I should have been ready to feel pain from all the people who will judge me, just as I judge myself too harshly.
I hope you can forgive me too, as I try to forgive myself as well. I love you and I hope this does not come between the two of us.
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13 Aug 2014 Leave a comment
One thing I have to keep telling myself
Is that the cycle has been broken
And I can be happy
And that even though
There are things beyond my control
I can hope that everything
Will fall into place
At the right moment
In the right place
So we can start forever
As planned by fate.
09 Aug 2014 Leave a comment
I know now why I love you so much. You make me appreciate who I am now but you make me want to be a better person. You make me want to be the best version of myself not just for me and you but for everyone I love.
And I love the way you see me, like I am worthy of love, respect and trust. You make me hopeful that unconditional love exists. And I hope you know how lovely I see you too.
You make me feel thankful for all the little and big things. And you make me believe that there are things bigger than us. Things we cannot control but we can trust enough and have faith that everything happens for a reason.
You made me believe in soul mates. The kind you want to run away from sometimes because you are afraid to get too close and lose them. The kind you want to keep for all your life. The kind that brings out the best in you.
I am still afraid. But for now, I would rather choose to trust and be thankful.


Children's: Spelling 11 - Family
Spelling 11 - Family
This children's spelling video teaches kids how to spell words that describe immediate members of a family. In this video, we demonstrate how to spell these words: Man, Woman, Boy, Girl, Family, Mother, Father, Daughter, Son, Husband, Wife, Sister, and Brother.
This children's video is intended to teach basic family relationships as well as the spellings of family related words. To illustrate relationships, we show members of the family in different levels of exposure.


Do you wish to make him yours? Would you wish to make this occur sooner than he would in any other case transfer? Are you able to get him transferring towards a loving relationship and falling for you quicker than ever earlier than? Males are typically gradual, however when you use the following pointers it is possible for you to to make him transfer sooner than ever earlier than. You can also make him yours a lot sooner than you ever dreamed doable.
Do not push.
It’s important that you just let him proceed to maneuver at his personal tempo. When you make him really feel pushed then it will not matter what it’s that you just do he’ll resist falling in love with you. You need to simply sit again and let him paved the way when he’s comfy.
Make nice emotions.
The factor that you have to do to make him yours is to make him really feel nice. This isn’t bodily, however quite on an emotional degree. You’ll want to contact his coronary heart. Work on turning into his buddy, supporting him, doing issues with him, and even getting in contact together with his pursuits.
Pace up his time line.
Now it’s time to work on rushing up how briskly he strikes. Males are gradual as a result of they want time to calm down. A method which you could make him really feel like he has been seeing you longer than he has is to extend the variety of recollections that he has of you two collectively. You do that by occurring dates that encompass two or three totally different locations and or occasions. That means you’ve got a bigger variety of recollections then you definitely usually would and so does he. It should really feel like he has recognized you for much longer than he has.
Utilizing this methodology you can also make him yours a lot sooner than you’ll in any other case be capable of. He’ll calm down and get comfy with you. After awhile it’s going to really feel like you’ve got recognized one another without end and that can make all of it fall collectively!


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Why Alexia wants to be a voice for children fighting cancer:
When my mom was 18 she was in love with a young man that was diagnosed with a cancerous tumor attached to his heart. After battling cancer for a year he passed away at 19 years old. My mom has shared her story with me and what he went through and how she felt during their time together and how she fell into a dark place after losing him and what it took her to find hope and love again. Then when my little brother was 3 he almost died during a grand mal seizure from a tumor on his brain. His tumor was found to not be cancerous, but changed us all forever. I want children battling cancer to know they are not alone and have love and support there for them.


Updated: Aug 23, 2020
What is Co-parenting?
According to The Michigan State University Extension co-parenting curriculum, “Together We Can,” defines co-parenting as “both parents sharing the responsibility for raising and parenting their children.” This looks different for each person and situation.
Terry and I started dating when I was 19- yes I was a baby! We met in college and became friends and eventually started dating and had our son Tristan in 2017. Tristan is now three years old. With time, we grew up and we unfortunately grew apart. But I found that having a friendship as our relationship’s core has helped our co-parenting relationship tremendously.
We loved each other for a long time. The love we had for each other is not lost; it just has changed its form.
When you move past the emotional hurt of a break up and heal yourself, co-parenting becomes very doable with your former partner. I feel that is because the love you once had for each other is literally all directed to your child (side note: Terry and I are pretty calm & low conflict people so take that into account). The most important thing to do when you are attempting to co-parent is grieve the relationship that was lost. I know that sounds weird... right? But think about it this way, when you've been together with someone for so long they become your other half and losing that completely is like losing your best friend. One thing that I found after my break up with my child's father is that I was really broken. In more ways than one, you go through the stages of denial, anger, and sometimes relapse. The upside is, you get to a point where you look in the mirror and you realize that not only is it better for you to heal and move on, but your child will be much happier because of it. Healing is defined as to make healthy, whole, or sound again according to dictionary.
Listen, communicate clearly and agree to disagree on things that do not pertain to the child.
Put your personal feelings aside and make decisions based off the well being of your child. The goal is to effectively work together as a team. I have learned that it's okay to let it out, be vulnerable and release it all. Each step of this process is essential to having a good co-parenting relationship.
The Emotional Journey
Don't rush this journey... I mean truly take your time to deal with every emotion mad, happy or sad head on. The emotional process has been a liberating experience honestly, when you start dating someone so young your life tends to become all about that person. You all have the same friends, you do the same things and sometimes you lose your sense of self identity because you are now a unit.
Some of the best/worst advice I received was to immediately "get out there" and start back dating.
You may ask, why? Mainly because you can not find happiness in other people, you have to have it with in yourself. So be cautious of who you take advice from, I know people mean well but take this time to get to know yourself. Dating is true work and living in a hook up culture makes it 20x harder. Mr. Right will come to you girl, once you are whole and ready to love. That's the main goal of healing is to become whole again. Here are a few ways I incorporate healing into my day to day to help continue to promote growth in my life.
Set boundaries for myself, with family, friends and colleagues.
Literally unplug from everything at 10:00 pm.
Identify one goal that I want to accomplish each day just for me and get it done.
Being vulnerable, does not mean weakness. It is okay to have flaws and not have it together all the time. As mothers, we feel it is our duty to make sure we are strong and that we are seen that way. In actuality, when admit your flaws, you can then start to improve yourself. Lewis B. Smedes said, "To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you". Don't be afraid to ask for help or to vent to someone close to you. If you do not have people close to you to talk to, there are apps (i.e:AppClose, 2Houses-Coparenting, etc.) and Facebook groups (i.e: Co-Parents, Co-Parenting, etc.) that you could possibly join as well.
“To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable; to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength.”―Criss Jami
At this phase of healing, you are at a point where you truly have put your feelings aside for the sake of your child. You are finally walking the talk, you have released the feelings you once had and now you are ready to make new memories with your co-parent. I have also found that reading is very helpful when it comes to learning new ways to improve our co-parenting relationship.
Check out a list of my top three book choices for guidance with co-parenting:
Stay tuned for next week's post on Co-Parenting: Expectations vs. Reality!
Sources: Dictionary.com and Michigan State University.


hen it comes to learning about legal dissolution of a marriage or union, you may have heard of both annulment and divorce. What is the difference between the two, and which process fits your situation the most? Here is the rundown between what these two legal processes are.
What is an Annulment?
There are technically two types of annulment, civil and religious annulment. Though one is recognized in court and the other in the Catholic Church, both have the same result: the marriage or union is constituted as void and nulled, essentially like it never existed in the first place. There can be a few reasons why you would be able to get an annulment, such as:
- Fraud or misrepresentation (one spouse lied to the other to get them into marriage)
- Lack of consent (you may have been under 18 or were forced in another way into the marriage)
- Bigamy (one spouse was already married before entering into this union)
- Incest (spouses are closely related by blood)
What is a Divorce?
A divorce also terminates a marriage or union, but unlike the annulment, the divorce still recognizes the spouses were married at some point. Divorce is the most common way to end a marriage, and reasons for termination differ from reasons that would grant someone an annulment. Some of the reasons spouses may opt for divorce include:
- Mental or physical abuse
- Irreconcilable differences
- Unfulfilled expectations between spouses
- Unending conflict between ideas such as child-rearing, culture, household operations, etc.
Other Differences Between Divorce and Annulment
The biggest difference between divorce and annulment is that divorce acknowledges that the marriage did happen, while annulment completely voids the marriage. In terms of the legal process of petitioning for a divorce or annulment, it is generally similar. Legal counsel for either of these processes is always recommended. Child custody and support are generally handled in the same manner for divorce and annulment. Though divorce does entail possible spousal support and division of assets, annulment is the opposite. With annulment, there is no spousal support provided, and in terms of assets, the objective after annulment is to leave both parties in the same position they were in before the wedding was held.
Looking For Legal Aid During Your Divorce/Annulment?
Though the divorce and annulment process may be two distinct things, having a legal expert at your side throughout the process can make everything run much smoother. If you are looking for a divorce lawyer in Carlsbad to provide you with unmatched expertise while you go through the divorce or annulment process, we’ve got you covered. At The Law Offices of Marc Duxbury, you will work with a family law lawyer that can offer professional legal advice as you navigate through a divorce or annulment. The dissolution of a marriage through divorce or annulment can require a lot of time and effort, especially when it comes to paperwork and other tasks. Let a legal expert from our team help!


A young husband should say to his bride: ‘I have taken you in my arms, and I love you, and I prefer you to my life itself. For the present life is nothing, and my most ardent dream is to spend it with you in such a way that we may be assured of not being separated in the life reserved for us.’
Marry your best friend. I do not say that lightly. Really, truly find the strongest, happiest friendship in the person you fall in love with. Someone who speaks highly of you. Someone you can laugh with. The kind of laughs that make your belly ache, and your nose snort. The embarrassing, earnest, healing kind of laughs. Wit is important. Life is too short not to love someone who lets you be a fool with them. Make sure they are somebody who lets you cry, too. Despair will come. Find someone that you want to be there with you through those times. Most importantly, marry the one that makes passion, love, and madness combine and course through you. A love that will never dilute - even when the waters get deep, and dark.
For the Catholic, contraception is wrong not because it allows too much, but because it doesn’t allow enough, namely, the participation of the entire person, which includes their potentiality for the creation of new life, as terrifying as the fact may be.
A healthy relationship is one where two independent people just make a deal that they will help make the other person the best version of themselves.
Our prayers may be awkward. Our attempts may be feeble. But since the power of prayer is in the one who hears it and not in the one who says it, our prayers do make a difference.


There are a plethora of different aspects of denial that all have the same result. When the issues you have been running from “suddenly” come to a head, denial abandons you, leaving your emotions threadbare as you find yourself picking up the pieces of a life you thought you knew. In romantic relationships, denial creates a dynamic for hanging on or checking out; making you and your partner liars in your emotional game. Harsh words, I know, but the worst of it all is not what I am saying. It is that while you are living in denial, you are losing your soul. The rigor mortis of your relationship sets in and begins to deteriorate the pretty, yet apathetic picture that you have safely painted around yourself. Denial is a matter of spiritual/emotional life and death.
We never want to admit our wrongdoings or past hurts. We may fear that we will be viewed as stupid or even worse, a victim of our circumstances. The fact of the matter is that when we decide to turn away from the garden of our mind, the weeds still grow and we become choked in our lives by the very things we run from. When you step into a relationship, you come with your past and whatever attempts you made at healing hurts, traumatic events, and mistakes made. You bring your family issues, your divorce, your singlehood, and the ways you have set yourself in. That is your baggage. When you look at yourself with half opened eyes, you bring only part of yourself to the relationship, but the baggage ends up preceding you without you noticing. Where is your baggage stowed? Have you prepared for it to fall upon your head in case of a crash landing? Aren’t you exhausted from carrying it from terminal to terminal?
In order to have a healthy present, you must release the painful past. Connecting to the truth of your life makes you more self-accepting and tills the ground to reap the benefits of the seeds of self-love that you have planted. If you keep running from your past, you will run in your relationships.
I was speaking with a woman on the line that always chose emotionally unavailable men. She was trying to figure out why they didn’t want her. She said that the latest man that she was dating was in the processes of a divorce and was still elusive to her needs. I told her to look to her father. Her father had a terrible drinking problem and was never emotionally available for her. At first she vehemently denied that it was because of her father’s addictions, however, when we listed the track record of nineteen different men that left her, she began to think about her past being a factor. Her baggage was that she wanted to fix her father, yet he never validated her presence while he was alive. He drank himself to death, and left her wondering why he didn’t love her. Her purpose was to begin healing herself, breaking the cycle to addiction, and to recognize her own addiction to fixing unavailable men. She is now in the process of healing in order to claim a sense of worthiness to attract the right man.
When you deny your right to grieve the sins of your parents, you stand to repeat their mistakes. It is simply the effect of your not focusing on the festering wound within your soul. When you turn away and believe you can handle the hurts of our past on your own, you never truly attain wholeness. This action invites codependency as well as fellow co-dependents into your life.
Denial is a deadening agent that leads to coldness as well as commitment issues in relationships. “Women are just a dime a dozen. I am looking forward to just getting laid in the New Year.” He said to me, after lamenting over a woman that rejected him. He was telling me that he tried to make it work, but she cheated on him and it hurt him. He didn’t want to see how he could heal the pain, instead he used his pain as an excuse to have emotionless sexual relationships. He was no longer open to understand that love happens; he didn’t want to get married. He just wanted to “Bury it all.” And he did so with so many different women; letting them fall in love with him as he walked from one to another with no remorse for the emotional carnage he left in his wake.
Sorrow is a volatile emotion that must be cared for as a helpless infant. When you feel helpless and unworthy after rejection, look at the benefits that the relationship brought to you. A simple shift of focus is what is necessary to begin living a life of freedom and healing. Connect to your past to be free to enjoy a relationship without running from a level of love you don’t understand. Denial is the kind of comfort zone that kills. Take heart, man up, put on your big girl pants and start sorting things out with a counselor.
You may have long lasting emotional scars that will resurface throughout different stages of your life. When you find the right partner that is the truthful mirror to your inmost self, you will find that your pasts are a strong bonding point. When you find that your baggage matches, you have a lifetime of healing one another.
Be empowered today and make a promise to yourself. Do not use relationships to hide from your emotional issues. Be honorable, face them on your own, and prepare yourself as a sacred icon of your life to share with another.
Categories: Relationship Asylum


Moonumani is the protagonist ,20 year old girl who is mentally retarded. She has two elder brothers.
Her unmarried aunty also stays with them. The tele cinema portrays the situations the girl faces in her life. The girl’s father dies on the previous day of her brothers marriage, which was an accident caused by her.
Her life becomes more drastic after her dads death. Relatives plans to get her married. But on the Day of the ‘Pennukanal’ ,the boy who comes to meet her gets insulted by her. The driver who accompanies him for the Pennukanal, shows interest in her and approaches the family for her hand. She gets married to him.
The twist…! The driver who comes to marry the girl is ex-lover of her 2nd brothers wife..
‘Moonumani’ – Monday to friday, 7.00PM Only on Flowers.
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Somehow, deep down, she cares. She might not show it but she does. She’s always going to care. Always… even if it cuts her deep, even if it leaves her scars, even if she knows that it’s not right anymore. That’s how much she cares. When are you ever going to open your eyes? When are you going notice? Don’t tell me you will on the moment she decides to go.
i’m in love with this
I hate that feeling.. when trying not to miss you makes me even miss you more; when holding myself from replying to your messages spreads a pain inside me; when trying not to think about you is like saying “don’t think about elephants,” but I think of elephants. BULLSHIT.
Please respect that. A**hole. If you’d want to be temporarily happy, go find someone who doesn’t love you.
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He was gone. It was all over.


We met Chris a few years back while my in-laws were looking for a home of their own. We connected with Chris so well that he left us with a great impression. After meeting Chris, we knew that if “ever” we were to sell our house, Chris would be the Realtor we would work with. He’s genuine, knows his stuff and most of all honest! We value our relationship with Chris and will recommend him to our family and friends.
Chris, thank you for treating us with the most respect and selling our house so quickly. We look forward to working with you on the purchase of our forever home.


This was written January 10, 2016.
I want to live but I don’t want to be alone. I talked to an ex the other day and he took me to the hospital. BS was 545. My partner was worried. He cares but he doesn’t want to be with me. I’m not having sex with him because I don’t want to. Sometimes I feel like I should’ve given my ex another chance. Sometimes I feel like I should’ve left the state all together. My partner will not change so I must work hard to pay off things and save money so that I can leave him. Sometimes I don’t see the point in living. Not even for my brothers. I didn’t sleep in bed with my boyfriend last night. He didn’t care which shouldn’t surprise me. He doesn’t love me. I don’t really understand why he’s still in the apartment. I feel so utterly alone most of the time. I wish that I had close friends that I can open up to. I should be able to open up to my partner but I don’t trust him. Not anymore. I wish I were happy. I wish I were skinny. I wish I were pretty. I wish. I wish. I wish. I’m filled with an unusual sorrow right now. I’m not sure if I want to live anymore. I need a support system. Where do I find a support system? I’d like to have a shoulder to cry on.


You had me at a point where I would’ve left the entire world behind for you.
2:03am, I really loved you that much. - hoetion (via perfect)
It’s 2am and I’m lying in bed with nothing but the idea of you and I.
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When Proposing To Your Girlfriend On The Scoreboard, Make Sure She’s Actually There
Marriage proposals are something of an enigma. Every woman will tell you she wants a marriage proposal to be the most unique, romantic thing she’s ever experienced. None of that just-getting-down-on-one-knee-and-popping-the-question shit. It’s gotta be special.
And then there’s the all-too-real possibility that she can say no. You better be 800 percent sure the girl is as into you as you are into her, because getting a marriage proposal rejection is one of the all-time worst rejections possible.
In this unfortunate guy named Greg’s case, however, the issue wasn’t rejection, but having his girlfriend present to actually see the proposal.
Last night, as the Cubs were crushing the Pirates at Wrigley Field, a Cubs fan had the message “Erica, will you marry me?” displayed on the scoreboard. Only problem was, Erica was buying drinks. I mean, Greg had it all planned out. Even did it on a night when the Cubs would go on to win about their seventh game of the season, so he knew his girlfriend would be in a good mood. So, a reminder to all you heartthrob romantic men out there: You can’t propose unless the woman is actually present to see or hear the proposal.
The good news was, when Erica returned to her seat, Greg popped the question, and she said yes! He went to Jared, clearly.
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February 14 is the day that many people are happy about. You get to appreciate everything you love and those who love you. When you are in a romantic relationship, it only makes that day sweeter.
Being in a relationship on a day that is meant to celebrate love can be a little tricky. It seems obligatory to show your partner that you love them in a way you have not before. You might want to take them out on a romantic dinner date. Or it could be some cheesy balloons with the words ‘I love you’ on them and a box of chocolates.
In high school, it’s more likely to be the latter. While Valentine’s gifts from your significant other should be serious, sometimes you just want to have some fun. It will be more special with them than with your friends because you celebrate a different way.
Now there can be downsides to Valentine’s day, even when you are in a relationship. Generally, you get gifts with high expectations, especially the longer you’ve been together. Your partner could want something expensive and fancy, but you were wanting to give them something you think is special between you two. Where do you compromise?
Instead of choosing one or the other, why not combine the ideas? You can give them what they want and have it be sentimental at the same time. Incorporating a charm of a simple movie ticket from your first date into a necklace can make you both happy.
Being with a significant other on Valentine’s day can go wonderfully, but you also have to remember the rest of the people you care about: your friends and family. You can’t give all of your attention to a person who may not stay with you for the rest of your life. If it doesn’t end well, your friends and family will be there to pick you up again and they will love you just as much as anyone.
Having a girlfriend or boyfriend on this iconic day is great. Your partner has the chance to express their feelings in an over-the-top way that is ridiculous and fun. But don’t let that one love keep you from the others you have.


About 60 percent of the U.S. population is married and roughly 10 percent are divorced. In California, about 76 percent of all marriages end in divorce.
The dissolution of a marriage can be frustrating, painful, upsetting and costly. To ensure that your rights and needs are aggressively represented, consult with one of the experienced divorce lawyers at the Law Offices of David S. Chesley, Inc.
We are committed to providing our clients with discreet, professional representation to:
- help them successfully separate from their spouse
- retain the assets they deserve
- help them win favorable custody and visitation agreements, if children are involved
- negotiate fair spousal support, alimony and/or child support payments
- negotiate a fair division of debt, should the couple share debt
- ultimately allow our clients to move on with their lives
Types of Divorce
While laws regarding divorce waiting periods vary from state to state, in most cases, divorces are categorized as either:
- Fault-based divorce, in which a marriage can only be ended in the event one party can prove the other spouse did something that violated the marriage. Fault-based divorces tend to be more costly and acrimonious than no-fault based divorces due to the increased likelihood of personal attacks during the divorce proceedings.
- No-fault divorce, in which a marriage is dissolved without having to prove fault on the part of one party. Irreconcilable differences and incompatibility are grounds for a no-fault divorce.
Other types of divorce include:
- Summary or simple divorce, which is usually reserved for marriages less than 5 years in which there were no children and minimal mutual property was owned.
- Uncontested divorce, in which the divorcing parties are able to come up with a mutually acceptable agreement regarding custody, division of property, etc.
- Collaborative or mediated divorce, in which agreements regarding property division, custody, etc. are conducted via mediation between the divorcing parties and their respective lawyers.
The following statistics on divorce were compiled by the U.S. Census Bureau, the National Center for Health Statistics and the Americans for Divorce Reform:
- The average age at which a man experiences his first divorce is 30.5 years old.
- The average age at which a woman experiences her first divorce is 29 years old.
- Most divorces (in first marriages) are filed after 7 to 8 years of marriage.
- Only 5 percent of marriages make it to the 50th wedding anniversary.
If you are considering a divorce and are in need of an experienced divorce attorney, contact the Law Offices of David S. Chesley, Inc. for help today. We will work fast to get your divorce resolved in a timely manner so you can move forward with your life.


Still recovering emotionally from a recent assault, Dani spends her days blogging and riding around with her brother, a homicide detective. She’s going through the motions with no real hope of ever getting back to “normal life.” But when she meets Scott Walker, the city’s new arson investigator, the heat between them is undeniable.
Scott’s the nicest guy she’s ever met. And it doesn’t hurt that he’s so attractive she can barely breathe.
Finally out of school and working his first big arson and murder investigation, Scott hasn’t had time to get involved with anyone. But when he meets Dani he’s convinced that gorgeous girl who lights a fire in his heart will be his.
He’s unable to resist her, even though she runs hot and cold.
He refuses to give up on her, even though his new partner is Dani’s brother.
Dani may be able to put the past behind her and allow Scott to teach her how to trust again, but will the case go cold while their love ignites?


For both Recruiters and Consultants, there is nothing more frustrating than to connect a Consultant with the wrong opportunity. This is typically a costly mistake where it wastes the time of all parties involved (clients, consultants, and recruiters). This is also a very easy way to damage the relationship that is being built between the Recruiter and the Consultant; not to mention the Recruiter and Client.
These mistakes can often be avoided with the development of the relationship, and the creation of trust between the recruiters and their candidates. Once good relationships are built, they can often lead to a clearer line of communication between the two parties. That in itself, can result in a better understanding of what skills the candidate has, and what the candidate ultimately wants in their next assignment. This also helps the Recruiter match each candidate to the best opportunities available.
With a clear line of communication, both parties should always be honest with one another. So recruiters should always keep the candidate in the loop on any feedback that comes in, and candidates should always let the recruiter know upfront how interested they are with any job being discussed or if their circumstances have changes (eg, they received an extension, or took another role). In the long term, we should remember that to maintain the recruiter/candidate relationship, trust between both individuals is vital.
Finally, when a great relationship is firmly established, the recruiter will be able to present your skills to the Project Managers and separate you from the crowd by discussing the intangibles that are not on the resume. This invariably leads to more interviews, more job offers, better jobs, and higher pay, with less downtime between projects. Great relationships build mutually beneficial successes for everyone.
If you are open to new opportunities, either now or in the future, please feel free to connect with me on LinkedIn or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Please add your own thoughts to this discussion. I look forward to reading your opinions.


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If I were to say, close your eyes and think of a romantic partner who would you think of? What race are they, what would be their skin color, what languages do they speak, where is their family from, and what do they believe? I think the majority of us would imagine somebody pretty close to what we are like. I think this is very common, and there is nothing wrong with it.
I’m choosing to write my paper on intercultural relationships. The Ted talk by Ngoc Tu, brings an interesting view on how we interpret intercultural relationships. His Ted talk talks about how moving to the United States posed dating struggles for him. He is an Asian man looking for love. He talks a lot about how inter-cultural relationships have been a struggle for him because of is differences in culture/race. He wants to encourage people that intercultural or interracial relationships are not a bad thing.
Taboo is a big thing in cultures around the world. Each culture has different taboos and stereotypes with intercultural relationships. Ngoc found some of these taboos to be challenging in trying to find a woman to spend the rest of his life with.
I can relate to this man in ways others cannot. I married a girl from a different culture. My wife is from Germany and there are a lot of differences between her and I. I remember when we started dating some of my family members told me it would be a hard road and that there would be a lot of differences between us compared to marrying somebody with in my own culture. At the time I didn’t think much of it and didn’t really take it into consideration, but there was definitely some truth to what was said.
The first year of marriage was challenging for me just with cultural change. Not only did I marry somebody from Germany but I also moved to her hometown in Germany and lived there for two years. It was extremely hard for me to get used to the change in culture and differences. Now I have a completely different outlook. I love having a multicultural relationship.
In the close of Ngoc’s talk he gives a bunch of positives to why we should be in an intercultural relationships. The biggest one that stood out to me is that if engaged in an intercultural relationship, you can discover an entire new world. This was so true to me and my relationship. I had no idea how different Europe is from the United States. It has opened my eyes and given me so much more knowledge, enjoyment, and travel opportunities than I could imagine.
Yodanis, Lauer, and Ota (2012) talked about how they did many studies with interviews where they asked participants about ethical relationships. They found that people sought out intercultural romantic relationships because of the difference in culture rather than in spite of them. They also found that actively seeking cultures from oneself helps reduce homophily.
This study helps us understand that a lot of people actually choose to be in intercultural relationships just for the advantage of the other person being from a different culture. I think if both parties go into a relationship knowing that cultural differences have positives and negatives they will find that the positives will outweigh the negatives.
Hafenbrack, Eastwick, Maddox, and Galinsky (2017) talked about the positives in having intercultural relationships in the workplace. They do multiple studies to test this theory. They did a study on how intercultural dating relates to creativity in the workplace. They actually had subjects start dating during this study. The results found were that participants having dated people from other cultures has superior creativity performance.
I can totally see how this is an accurate study. I feel that having two different minds that may think completely different opens up opportunities for enhance creativity. If people that are in the same culture and think similarly may not come up with as many creative ideas. I can see how this would play is an advantage in the workplace environment and helping companies progress and come up with new innovation.
I know for me in my life having my wife being able to look at situations differently than I do makes a huge impact on coming up with good solutions. There are a lot of times that the choices I make and how I make them are the right way, and the same goes for her. If I didn’t have her to look at things differently than I do I might be stuck in my own ways and never be as creative or come up with other solutions.
With all this being said I think it is important that we have intercultural relationships. We may not have the opportunity to be in a culturally romantic relationship, but we definitely can increase our way of life by having relationships with others outside of our own culture. I encourage all people to look at intercultural relationships as a positive thing. We need to look at it from the view as Ngoc did, we get to experience a whole new world. Many people do not take advantage of this because of the stereotypes and taboos our own cultures create. If we can let them go and reach out and learn about other cultures, so many more opportunities and positive life experiences will come to us.
Yodanis, C., Lauer, S., & Ota, R.(2012). Interethnic romantic relationships: enacting affiliative ethnic identities. Journal of Marriage and Family, 74(5), 1021. https://doi-org.ezproxy.uvu.edu/10.1111/j.1741-3737.2012.01005.x
Lu, J. G., Hafenbrack, A. C., Eastwick, P. W., Wang, D. J., Maddux, W. W., & Galinsky, A. D. (2017). “Going out” of the box: Close intercultural friendships and romantic relationships spark creativity, workplace innovation, and entrepreneurship. Journal of Applied Psychology, 102(7), 1091–1108. https://doi-org.ezproxy.uvu.edu/10.1037/apl0000212.supp (Supplemental)
Tu, N. Tedx Talks. (2017, February 16) Interracial Romantic Relationships | Ngoc Tu | TEDxTCU. Retrieved from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cO4q2c_d2TA&t=301s


Tuesday, 12 May 20
WHY TRAVELLING WITH YOUR SIBLING IS NECESSARY
In December 2019, my sister and I went on an only sibling trip. I think it was the best decision we made. No parents or friends or partners. Just US. And this particular trip made the two of us realize how wonderful it was for us to travel together. Here’s me sharing why one MUST travel with their sibling at least once.
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Obviously, one of the topics of conversation here is dating Americans, and it appears that things are a little more complicated here than usual. Some of my new American friends have laid out the landscape for me, so I pass it on to you.
In the UK, it’s usual to ask someone out on a date only if you’re not seeing anyone. From that point, you date, figure out if it works or not, and either part ways or … well … get it on.
In the US, it’s not quite the same. It’s normal here to date many people at once. So that means that you can be out on a date with someone who could then date someone else the next night. In fact, there are even defined stages here. I wish I had a copy of Visio handy!
Meet someone -> date (multiple people) -> DTR -> relationship (one only) -> babies
While dating someone, if you think it’s going well, one needs to “Define The Relationship” or DTR. (This is apparently a common acronym.) Only after this stage would one expect a relationship to be exclusive.
One has to respect the efficiency of such a system, though it’s probably best to be warned beforehand.


Forging Friendships: The Social Dynamics of Small Minecraft Servers
Minecraft, with its vast and immersive world, has become a breeding ground for forming friendships and cultivating communities. While large Minecraft servers offer a bustling environment, small Minecraft servers have their own unique charm. These intimate communities provide an opportunity for players to forge deep and lasting friendships, creating a supportive and tightly-knit social dynamic. In this article, we delve into the social dynamics of small Minecraft servers, exploring how they foster connections, encourage collaboration, and create a sense of belonging among players.
Intimacy and Personal Connections:
Small Minecraft servers promote a sense of intimacy that allows players to form personal connections with one another. With a smaller player base, it becomes easier for individuals to get to know each other, share experiences, and engage in meaningful conversations. The close-knit nature of these communities creates an environment where friendships can flourish.
Collaboration and Mutual Support:
The collaborative nature of Minecraft is amplified in small servers. Players are more inclined to work together, share resources, and assist each other in building ambitious projects. The spirit of collaboration and mutual support cultivates a sense of camaraderie and strengthens the bonds between players.
Niche Communities and Shared Interests:
Small servers often attract players with shared interests or specific gameplay preferences. Whether it's survival, creative building, role-playing, or themed servers, these niche communities bring together like-minded individuals who bond over their common passion for the game. The shared interests act as a foundation for building friendships and fostering a sense of belonging.
Communication and Interaction:
In small Minecraft servers, communication and interaction play a vital role in community building. Players have more opportunities to engage in meaningful conversations, share ideas, and provide feedback. Server chats, voice communication platforms, and dedicated forums facilitate lively discussions and create a sense of belonging and camaraderie among players.
Trust and Cooperation:
Small servers promote a culture of trust and cooperation. As players spend more time together and build relationships, trust naturally develops. This trust encourages cooperation, as players are more inclined to work together on collaborative projects, explore dangerous areas, and rely on each other for support.
Unique Server Culture and Traditions:
Small Minecraft servers often develop their own unique culture and traditions. Whether it's celebrating in-game holidays, hosting server-wide events, or establishing specific rules and customs, these shared experiences contribute to the server's identity and strengthen the bonds between players. These traditions become cherished aspects of the community, reinforcing the sense of belonging.
Server Administration and Community Engagement:
Active server administrators play a crucial role in fostering a positive social dynamic on small servers. Their involvement, engagement, and fair enforcement of rules create a safe and welcoming environment for players to connect and form friendships. Administrators who actively participate in community events and initiatives contribute to a vibrant and thriving social ecosystem.
Small Minecraft servers often lead to long-lasting friendships that extend beyond the virtual realm. Players form connections, support each other in and outside of the game, and even meet up in real life. The bonds forged on these servers can transcend the boundaries of the game, creating lifelong friendships that endure beyond Minecraft.
Small Minecraft servers offer a unique environment where players can forge deep friendships and cultivate a sense of belonging. The intimacy, collaboration, shared interests, and mutual support within these communities create a social dynamic that enriches the Minecraft experience. From lively discussions to collaborative building projects and shared traditions, small servers foster a sense of camaraderie and create a supportive network of friends. As players connect and build relationships, they find that Minecraft becomes more than just a game—it becomes a platform for forging meaningful connections and lasting friendships that extend beyond the virtual world.


"Hold onto this day. Keep inside your heart such faith that we'll walk along the path God made."
Tommy and I are both single.
There are no special ladies in our lives. No major love interests. We really just dig making dinners for one. We travel and make road trips alone (when we don't go together). We treat ourselves to boxes of chocolate. And we both love solo long walks on the beach with bags full of potato chips. It's okay to be jealous. We're both in a really good place in our lives. Single-hood has never looked so sexy.
The fact that I am incredibly single doesn't take away from the fact that I am a hardcore hopeless romantic. I long for walks at sunset. Picnics in the park. Spontaneous road trips. Camping in the mountains. Going to concerts. Cooking together. Spending time with my best friend. I actually have a notebook I have started collecting romantic date ideas. I may be a dork, so what.
So how do I cope with being single and not living out my inner romantic?
I watch a lot of romantic comedies, read a lot of love stories, encourage relationships around me, watch old people be so cute, and listen to my 'Love Playlist.' This list is all of my favorite love songs - from classic Elton John to newer artists like Andrew Belle. This playlist is more about the purest form of romance and love, than solely mushy gushy lovey dovey crap.
The first song, "Duet." Sweet Mary and Joseph I am in love with this song. It talks about a married couple who deal with empty love, but know each other so passionately and promise to be committed to one another. The playlist ends with Ingrid Michaelson's version of "Can't Help Falling in Love." It's beautiful.
Ah! Now I'm in a romantic mood. Please excuse me while I go take myself out on a date.
song - artist - album
Duet - Penny & Sparrow - Tenboom
I Choose You - Sara Bareilles - The Blessed Unrest
How Long Will I Love You - Ellie Goulding - Halcyon Days
The Wedding Song - Matthew Mole - The Home We Built
Pieces - Andrew Belle - Black Bear
Turning Page - Sleeping At Last - Turning Page
Cannonball - Damien Rice - O
The Scientist - Coldplay - A Rush of Blood to the Head
Crazy For You - Adele - 19
Your Song - Elton John - Elton John
Half About Being a Woman - Caroline Smith - Half About Being a Woman
Lover Come Back - City & Colour - If I Should Go Before You
Maybe I'm Amazed - Paul McCartney - McCartney
Tell Her You Love Her - Echosmith - Talking Dreams
Can't Help Falling in Love - Ingrid Michaelson - Be OK


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History of Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day has been celebrated for centuries on February 14th in honor of Saint Valentine, a Christian martyr. The holiday has evolved over the years and is now recognized as a day of romance, with couples exchanging gifts, flowers, and cards to symbolize their love and affection for one another.
The exact origins of Valentine’s Day are unclear, but it is believed to have originated as a pagan festival honoring the Roman god Lupercus. In 496 AD, Pope Gelasius declared February 14th to be Saint Valentine’s Day. Over time, the holiday became associated with courtly love and romantic ideals, and by the 15th century, Valentine’s Day had become a widespread tradition in Europe. Today, it is celebrated in many countries worldwide, often with events such as candlelit dinners, romantic getaways, and flower deliveries.
Decorate House on Valentine’s Day
To decorate your house for Valentine’s Day, you can follow these steps:
- Decorate with flowers: You can decorate your house with red roses or other colorful flowers. Put a vase of fresh flowers on your coffee table, dining table, or mantle.
- Use heart-shaped decorations: Hearts symbolize Valentine’s Day, so use heart-shaped decorations such as banners, balloons, garlands, and wreaths.
- Use lights: Soft lighting adds a romantic touch to any room, so consider using fairy lights or string lights to create a warm and inviting atmosphere.
- Create a cozy atmosphere: Make your home feel cozy and comfortable by lighting candles and using soft cushions, blankets, and rugs.
- Decorate with red and pink: These are the traditional colors of Valentine’s Day. You can use them as tablecloths, curtains, or even tableware.
- Personalize your decor: You can add a personal touch by creating hand-made decorations or displaying photos of your special moments together.
Following these steps, you can easily create a romantic and festive atmosphere in your home for Valentine’s Day.
Best Way to Spend Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day is special for couples to celebrate their love and affection for each other. Some popular ways to spend Valentine’s Day include:
- Romantic dinner: Enjoy a candlelight dinner in a fancy restaurant or cook a romantic meal at home.
- Couple’s activity: Plan a fun and adventurous activity like hiking, kayaking, or going to a concert together.
- Surprise gift: Surprise your significant other with a thoughtful gift such as flowers, chocolates, or jewelry.
- Relaxation time: Take a relaxing bath together, get massages, or watch a movie.
- Show appreciation: Write a heartfelt letter or create a scrapbook filled with special memories to show your appreciation for your partner.
The most important thing on Valentine’s Day is to spend quality time together and show love and affection for each other.
Valentine’s Day Concert
Valentine’s Day concerts are a popular way to celebrate the holiday, particularly for those who are in romantic relationships. On Valentine’s Day, many venues host special concerts featuring popular musical acts, romantic ballads, and romantic themes. These concerts range from small, intimate performances to large-scale events with thousands of attendees.
The atmosphere is usually festive, with couples enjoying the music and each other’s company. Some famous Valentine’s Day concert venues include concert halls, music venues, and ballroom dance studios. Some people opt for a night out at a concert as an alternative to the more traditional Valentine’s Day activities, like dining out or going to the movies.
Valentine’s Day for Couples
Valentine’s Day for couples is a unique celebration of love and affection between partners. Couples typically celebrate this Day by spending time together, exchanging gifts, and going out for a special meal or event. Some common gift ideas for Valentine Day include chocolates, flowers, jewelry, or other sentimental gifts. Couples may also plan romantic activities such as a weekend getaway, a candlelit dinner, or a picnic in the park. The most important thing on Valentine Day is to express love and appreciation for each other, making it a unique and memorable day for couples.
Valentine’s Day Gifts for Boys
Valentine’s Day gifts for boys can include items such as:
- Tech accessories like a smartwatch, headphones, or a portable charger
- Clothing and accessories such as a nice shirt, tie, or wallet
- Outdoor gear, such as camping or hiking equipment
- Gadgets like a drone, gaming consoles,s or a camera
- Books or magazines about his favorite hobbies
- Gift cards to his favorite restaurant, store, or online store
- A personalized item like a monogrammed flask or a custom-made piece of art.
How to Propose a Girl on Valentine’s Day
Proposing to someone is a very personal and intimate experience, and there is no one right way to do it. Here are a few suggestions for proposing on Valentine’s Day:
- Plan a romantic activity: You could plan a romantic picnic, a candlelight dinner, or a scenic walk. Choose a location that is special to both of you.
- Get creative: You could write a poem, create a scavenger hunt, or prepare a video proposal.
- Surround yourself with loved ones: You could propose in front of family and friends or have them involved in the proposal.
- Give a heartfelt speech: Express your love and how much you want to spend the rest of your life with her. Make sure you are calm and speak from the heart.
- Please give her a special gift: A piece of jewelry, a sentimental item, or a handwritten letter would be a great way to show your affection.
Remember, the most important thing is to be sincere and make a proposal about the two of you. Good luck!
Dressing for Valentine’s Day
Dressing for Valentine’s Day can vary depending on the individual’s style and plans. However, some famous Valentine’s Day attire options include formal wear such as a suit or dress for a fancy dinner, comfortable and cute outfits for a casual date, or something romantic and sexy for a special night. Ultimately, the most crucial factor is to wear something that makes you feel confident and comfortable, as this will allow you to enjoy the Day with your special someone.


In this post, I will unravel the secret code which any woman could make use of to discern if her man truly loves her.
In a relationship, where the man and woman are involved most time the women are always the victim, I will tell you why.
From the beginning, women were made weaker vessels who depends on the men for support. Love is supposed to flow from the man down to the woman and not the other way around.
When a man says the “L” word (“I Love You”), the rate of dopamine released in a female is higher than that of the male when stimulated. This implies that the female reacts most positively to Love stimuli than the male.
To ascertain if your man truly loves you, to avoid getting emotionally hurt, I have laid out a few measures to go which include:
- If he uses a password on his phone ask him for the code and if he refuses, then that’s a red flag.
- Ask him for his passwords to his social media handles and wait for his response. This should tell what he is keeping away from you.
- If his friends are more female than male, it’s a red flag which indicates that he most likely is a womanizer.
- If you do not call to visit him before now, all of a sudden he strongly demands that you call before visiting; this simply means that he is powerfully cheating on you ( you’d better run).
On a more serious note:
This is for those with a bold heart, and you need to go to this extent to deduce what your man is up to and what he thinks of you.
- If he doesn’t use a condom during your sexual intercourse with him but of a sudden, he suggests this method; just know already that he’s fed up and probably has another woman to replace you.
- Prank him with a pregnancy result and hear what he has to say. If he denies being responsible then you can already read the handwriting on the wall (I say to you “RUN” or else you become a victim).
Although every relationship is not meant to end in marriage, truth be told, women practically end up being used especially if the breakup came from the man.
This further explains why the hurt of a relationship breakup hunts the female whereas the male goes about their businesses because they have nothing to lose.
When pregnancy occurs in such a toxic relationship, the man runs denying his responsibilities leaving the woman to shoulder it all, this is because:
- The man doesn’t get pregnant and carry it around for 9 months
- The male’s sexual organ is made up of elongated muscles and not a hollow hole in which the depth could be used to tag a female as sexually active or not.
- The man sees it as a normal thing to have as many women as possible outside matrimonial whereas it’s taboo for a female.
This is the reason the women should sit up and stay positive, and demand an explanation when something seems off in their relationship. Don’t wait until you become a victim of a toxic relationship before you would learn. A man who deserves the submission of a woman is that who respects women and this he should start with his mother. A man who adores his mother will pass this on to his woman.


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The signup process for MyTeeb.com is quite simple. First, give them your email address. Give them your date of birth by scrolling down one field. Then state your gender and what gender you are seeking.
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#I agree #I got the same Q so will just reblog yours
In my opinion, the way you love your spouse and the way you love your offspring tend to be so different sort of feelings it’s quite hard to compare them. You know, romantic love and commitment you feel for someone vs. maternal/paternal bond you have with your child from the very beginning. Two totally different things.
I’m pretty sure Magda was quite in love with Joseph around the time they got married and their first years as a couple seemed to be really happy. However, little by little and as a result of numerous things that happened in their lives and between them, their relationship turned into a quite complicated and troubled fiasco that caused much pain and tears. They didn’t separate or divorce - was it “only” because they couldn’t or were there some other reasons behind it is something we cannot really know for sure. Anyway, all in all their marriage was without a doubt a pretty miserable one.
As for the children, I know many people consider Magda a bad mother because of what she decided to do when the Third Reich was collapsing. I’m not trying to make excuses for her and for what she did, however in my opinion it’s very clear that despite everything she loved her children unconditionally and regardless of the situation they always meant the world to her.
So yes, I think the children were more important to her than Joseph. She devoted herself to them and I’m quite sure they were the best thing that ever happened to her.
Having said all of this, I’m ofc no Magda and hence definitely not the right person to answer this question. But this is how I see it.
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Before we start this article, I’d just like to say that I’m single, but maybe one day…
The term “Friends With Benefits” is a more modern term used to describe a relationship with the primary purpose of receiving mutual benefits. Normally it’s used to define a couple who’s only together because of one thing, whether it be free car rides, food, or money. Now, just to be clear, I’m not saying to use people, but I am saying to use people. Having explained this frisky concept, what if the benefit of the relationship was mutual language exchange?
Some language learning enthusiast suggests that one of the best ways to learn a language is to have a relationship with a native speaker of your target language. Language learning is a two-way street; it takes two to do the tango. And it makes sense if you think about it, having a relationship with someone who speaks your target language as their native language can grant many benefits. Such benefits are centred in the school of immersion and exposure.
Benefits of Learning A Language Together With A Friend
Well, the first thing that comes to mind when I think about cross-cultural relationships is the exchanging of cultures. This aspect ties into language learning so well because language cannot exist without culture and culture cannot exist without language. The two are inseparable. By being in a cross-cultural relationship, you’ll be able to expand your horizons in that respective culture as well as gain a sense of value and respect for the language.
Practice your speaking
The beautiful thing about language is that it has the potential to bridge people from different backgrounds together. So when you manage to speak to your partner in their native language not only will you be reaching their hearts, but you’ll also be nurturing your own. A relationship involves speaking to your significant other, or “friend” (whatever you want to call them). If you find yourself struggling to speak to native speakers, then having an official partner to practice with can prove to be extremely convenient and time-efficient.
Practice your listening
Listening in language learning is 80% of the battle. After all, how can you respond to anybody if you can’t comprehend what they are saying? Relationships require both parties to listen attentively and with a sincere heart. The best part about this aspect of things is that your partner won’t be annoyed when you ask them to repeat things (since love is patience right?).
Learn slang phrases
There are just some phrases that you usually wouldn’t hear during your typical studies. Being in a relationship with a native speaker can bridge the gap between casual and formal conversations. You’ll instantly notice small things that’ll make your speaking a lot better, things you usually wouldn’t have noticed if you stuck to a textbook or traditional classroom settings.
Toxic Language Learning Relationships
The key concept of “Friends With Benefits” when it comes to language learning is to ensure that your partner isn’t left hanging.
When only one side is benefiting, then it becomes what we call a toxic relationship.
These kinds of relationships are almost always most definitely 100% of the time BAD and should be avoided at all costs. What should happen for example, is a tandem. Let’s say your “friend” is a native Japanese speaker, and you’re an English speaker then the goal should be that you learn some Japanese while your partner learns some English.
Remember earlier when I said that language is a two-way street? If one side of the conversation outweighs the other, then can it be called communication? Did you, know that in the United States alone the divorce rate for couples is 49.5% and this number is even higher for couples with cross-cultural differences. Don’t be a statistic; communication is at the forefront of maintaining a healthy, stable relationship (says the single guy).
“Communication leads to community, that is to understanding, intimacy, and mutual valuing.” – Rollo May
What Happens If It All Goes Wrong?
Friends with benefits, as loose as the term seems can go wrong…horribly wrong. What happens when one side stops providing their benefit? Language learning ought to be seen as a passion, so when things go wrong, it’s important to keep on pushing through the thick of it all. Your friend will not always be there for you or provide you with your benefits. So I just want you all to know that it’s okay to end a relationship, especially superficial ones.
But at the end of the day, your language learning comes first. So don’t take a broken up relationship out on your love of language, it’s not fair. If you managed to become more than just friends using the Friends with Benefits technique and things went astray, it’s not the end of the world! Just pick up the pieces and find yourself another friend… or take the time you need to recover from emotional heartbreak, whichever comes first.
You might ask yourself why do I need to in a relationship to make this work?
Sure you can always get a language learning partner who you see three times a week for one hour a day. But that kind of takes the fun away from things doesn’t it? The whole point of friends with benefits is to make friends who you can regularly interact with. And since being in a relationship means you’re practically tied to that person you’ll save money, increase language exposure, and learn valuable cultural lessons.


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I’m sorry ya’ll but this couldn’t wait till Saturday.
It seems like every time life is going well, skin is clearing up, stomach getting flatter and booty getting fatter, some ain’t shit motha-lova wants to come and waste my time!
I mean jeez! I’m cute, funny, and know how to work the long back my mama gave me, so why does it seem like all the wrong guys come my way?
If I know you like I think I do, right about now you’re looking for a back story, so here it is….
Due to my crippling anxiety, I suck at talking to/flirting with guys in person, so I tend to use dating apps. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t creep behind a screen and wait for my prey but in person my interactions go a little something like this…
Let’s just say I don’t have such a great track record with the male species. Not to mention, whenever I do have enough balls to go for it and not fall flat on my face in embarrassment, the guys I go for always tend to want my lighter-skinned friend with the birthing hips and fatty, but that’s not the story I’m discussing today.
Ya’ll remember the dude I described as “tolerable”? Well tolerable man, this is your tape (corny ass 13 Reasons Why reference).
Long story short, I met this dude on a dating app and he wasn’t the dude I would typically go for. I tried to be as open as I could be because my family says I always pick the same guys and then self-sabotage. While I will not verify the truth of their beliefs, I can say that because of my fear of all the things that could go wrong, I may or may not pull away and make issues where there are none.
Again, we’re not talking about me doe. We’re talking about homeboy that got me fucked up.
At the beginning of our “situationship” I was very closed off and calculated about what I shared, and what parts of me I allowed him to think he knew. I don’t like the idea of putting time and effort into a person just for them to take off with a piece of my vulnerability.
After a while I got tired of having meaningless conversations so I opened up a bit more and pushed him to do the same, only to be met with resistance from his end. So now while I’m being open about my likes, dislikes, passions and kryponite, he’s keeping me at bay; telling me the same stories about all his crazy ex’s and how his father ain’t shit.
Yeah ok, I get that most dudes aren’t as open as females but even when I would push him to think outside of the box, just to get the wheels in his brain turning he would hit me with..
“Why do you always ask me intellectual questions thinking I know how to answer them?”
Mind you, the intellectual questions would be about whether or not life and death was all there is, or some other hippy-dippy shit I had on my mind; things to make him think, you know?
…but apparently it was something he wasn’t willing to entertain.
Other than that, our conversations would be very blah or they would make me feel uncomfortable because he would ask invasive things about my mental health and then invalidate my experiences.
From then I felt like I should have let him blow in the wind, and I even talked to him about how I felt that nothing was going to come of us, but a part of me kept hearing my sister in the back of my head saying “You didn’t even give him a chance“, and I felt that I should try harder.
Fast forward and my drunken self is on the phone telling him I wanted him to come to NY and do what he wanted with me. LAWD. After that, there was no going back.
Every conversation following that one drunken night was how he wanted to meet my sexy alter-ego “Mo Mo”.
Knowing me, I don’t back away from a chance to mess with people so I played with his mind a little bit. Sent him some pics of him of me on the beach and a couple of fun texts, but I always reminded him that nothing was going down unless we were committed to each other. I wasn’t about to let no smooth talking light skin boy get me out my drawers just because we were both feeling some type of way. Nah.
Anywho, he went on a trip and I went on mine, and while I was on my trip he mentioned that we were in an open relationship but I shouldn’t go messing around “with any random dude” but that if he missed me he would have one of his other girls take care of him.
Yes ya’ll. He thought.
Even though he tried it, I wasn’t in my feelings because he was single and so was I so if he wanted to hoe around, I was gonna do the same damn thing.. but obviously I didn’t (wink wink).
So it all brings us to today, when Mr.Tolerable himself called.
In this tragic ass conversation he basically just kept talking about how I need to come see him so he can meet “Mo Mo”, and so I can put some lotion on the places he got mosquito bites, as well as the one place he didn’t.
My response was a casual “boy, you so crazy” and a “anyway, what you up to”. To which he replied “Oh, so you must have gotten what you needed from some other guy last night, huh? Oh I get it. Who’s the guy? Did you meet him on (site where we met)?”
NEGRO, IF YOU DON’T STOP ASKING ME QUESTIONS LIKE YOU OWN ME!!
When I tell ya’ll I looked at my phone like Ms.Nene up there…shoot. He really tried it.
I made sure I let him know that if I was going to do what I needed to do that I didn’t need to report to his ass, AND I reminded him that I was SINGLE so he needn’t worry about who my pum pum wah fi fren up (patois translation: who my vagina wants to be friends with).
At this point I was kinda like, wompppp. Why is homeboy so focused on what I’m doing? I never not once ask about his side dishes or where his penis takes a rest every now and again, so why the hell is he so pressed about me?
When we hung up and promised to talk later I thought to myself.. “Girl, he don’t want you! He wants to wham bam thank you ma’am!” So I decided to send him this wonderful piece of media …
…to which he only replied with laugh emojis.
LADIES, I DUBBED HIM SO HARD. Bye Mr.Tolerable.
I realized that I didn’t need to settle for tolerable, for someone who constantly belittled my mental health, and wanted to put a tracker on my sexuality. I was worth more than that and deserved so much more than what he was willing to give me.
No I’m not mad at him, nor would I say that the situation was a waste of time because I learned that if a dude really wanted you to be his, he would make it known.
I’m open to games and FWB, but if I’m dropping hints that I want more, I refuse to push you to meet me.
I’m not desperate, and I sure as hell someone else will come along as easily as you did, so I’m straight.
…and if that means I have to wait for a bit, I’m cool with that too.
Ain’t nobody got time for you and your games.


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