This is a question that appears to be continually asked and answered on a multitude of different platforms throughout the generations.
I myself always used to believe that guys and gals could be just friends, mainly because I have some considerably firm and long lasting friendships with some rather cool guys.
That ideal was held with quiet a few of the other Peter Pan beliefs that I had in my life up until recently and on numerous occasions other people have made a point of saying that NO men and women cannot be platonic friends without some sort of indication towards a sexual attraction.
You will find there are several different groups of the Friends of the Opposite Sex These all have different situations for everyone, I’m just making an observation from things I’ve heard, experienced and seen:
A) Life Buddies Friendships
Guys and Girls who are both single and have been mates for years. Mates like Brother and sisters mates and nothing more. This friendship is normally the best example of a FOS relationship. (Sometimes harder than gold dust to find)
B) Her and the Married Man Friendship
Guys who are married or in a LTR and Girls who are single being mates.
Hrm Dodgy line to cross. Unless the Wife / GF is pretty laid back and doesn’t mind the two of you going out on the lash until 4 in the morning together, without her …… Yeah Trust me from personal experience this one doesn’t really work. It’s only going to end in tears even if the friendship was always platonic.
C) Taken Women and Single Blokes
Girls who are married or in a LTR and Guys who are single mates.
This is basically a rarity only for the fact that the Husband / BF knows what he was like when he was single and sees that in the guy who his Mrs is friends with. That dude ain’t ever gonna let you go out drinking with his woman. Accept Defeat in this case.
D) Ex Friendships
Girls and Guys who used to be in a relationship together and are now friends.
This I don’t get. The dude has seen you naked. Knows all your ugly bits and beautiful bits and you cant be together in a relationship but you can be friends. Also this means you are friends with them when they meet someone new. Yeah. Nah. When it’s over. Finish it off like a bandaid and don’t go getting the Dettol to fix it. This kinda friendship is like the Dettol. It disinfects, wipes clean the past but it doesn’t make it better for long.
E) Gay Friendships.
Blatantly I love these. If one of the friends in the Friendship is attracted to the same sex you’re basically ok and you will never be referred to as a home wrecker or a whore. Plus the double bonus is they won’t ever hit on you.
But then you know we are all adults and our decisions and our friendships are our own Choices. I’m not telling you who you can be friends with, I’m just merely making an observation.
But I wonder how many of you out there have had problems when it came to your FOS and how many of your FOS relationships changed due to your relationship status with someone else.


Idris Elba is the “happiest” he has ever been since tying the knot with Sabrina Dhowre.The “Hobbs & Shaw” star tied the knot with Dhowre earlier this year and he credits her for “opening” him up to marriage because he was so against tying the knot again.
Speaking on “The View”, he said: “It’s been an interesting year, a lot happened. I have been married before and I famously said I wouldn’t get married again. But I met someone that opened me up. I’m actually the happiest I’ve been in a long time. It was love at first sight. I went out on my only day off, true story, it was a Sunday night, I went to this party and there she was. The rest is history.”


Sexual behavior and suicide attempts among adolescents aged 12–15 years from 38 countries: A global perspective
The aim was to investigate the relationship between sexual behaviors and suicide attempts by using data from 38 countries from four World Health Organization regions.
Cross-sectional data from 116,820 adolescents aged 12–15 years participating in the Global School-based Student Health Survey 2009–2016 were analyzed. Data on sexual behaviors were collected: (i) ever having had intercourse; among those who reported having had intercourse, (ii) multiple (≥2) lifetime sexual partners and (iii) condom use in last sexual intercourse and past 12-month suicide attempts were self-reported. Associations were analyzed using multivariable logistic regression.
The prevalence of sexual intercourse and suicide attempts were 13.2% and 9.1%, respectively. A positive association between sexual intercourse and suicide attempts was found in 32 of the 38 countries (pooled OR for whole sample 2.12 [95% CI 1.98–2.27]). Having had multiple sexual partners was associated with increased odds of suicide attempts (pooled OR for whole sample 1.58 [1.27–1.96]). Condom non-use was only associated with suicide attempts among boys in the Americas (OR: 1.75 [1.25–2.45]).
Engaging in sexual intercourse was associated with increased risk of suicide attempt. Moreover, having had multiple sexual partners may also increase the risk of suicide attempts.


Edward weds Kanika
Edward, a handsome army man and Kanika a breath of fresh air; both complete opposites but still they manage to compliment each other perfectly. I met them over a cup of coffee where both seemed like a beautiful but a reserved couple. I met them next for their pre wedding shoot and voila they completely opened up. I heard their love story and their differences. You could easily see how different they were with Kanika in her bright reds and Edward in his greys and blues.
Their wedding was again one of the calm beautiful ceremonies with not too much rush and chaos. Simple and beautiful. Edward coming from an army background, I didn't expect him to be so involed in the photography. He mailed me few references one of them being the silhouette shot. I wasn't sure about it before the wedding not knowing the lighting condition but the stage itself turned out to be an amazing location and gave me one of my favorite couple portraits of all times.


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I try to encourage couples to be silly and play while being photographed...and Meredith & Joe did not disappoint!
For their engagement session, we met inside Grandview Mercantile, the antique store where they found her ring. No shortage of props there...silliness abounded. Then a romp around the neighborhood ending with one of their favorite treats - real ginger ale. It was a great time with them and I'm really looking forward to their wedding next summer!


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Height: 20 inches
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Congratulations, Jolynn and Dave!
What a beautiful baby boy! You have all been in my thoughts. I can't wait to meet him. Cherish every moment!ReplyDelete
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Jolynn: So happy for you and Dave! Thank you for sharing Blake-in-the-Oven with me via Skype. :-) I look forward to many wonderful conversations in 2013!
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Congratulations to you and David. Blake is truly a gift from heaven. Enjoy every magical moment! I look forward to meeting your little angel and wish you all the best!
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What a precious little boy and what a wonderful future awaits him with parents like you. A big congratulations to the Atkins family!
I can't wait to meet this precious baby and give mama a big hug.
Hugs to you and many more blessings from God are wished for all.
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Best Buddy’s Sexual Peccadillo
A group of men sit around talking candidly about their sex lives.
I’m Paul, the host of this party. Thanks for stopping by to read my story.
We were all sitting around the big screen watching the Super Bowl one year. I had invited all of my best buddies to watch the game with me. There were 21 of us guys, including me. Our wives and girlfriends were upstairs drinking wine, laughing, talking about kids and complaining about us, no doubt. We could hear the women getting louder, as they drank more.
During half time, I thought it would be a fun thing for each of us to confess what his personal, sexual peccadillo was. Especially after we’ve all already had a few beers, instead of watching commercials, which we’ve all already seen a million times, the guys would rather talk about sex. Whenever there was a new commercial we haven’t seen before, we stopped to watch that.
Only, I was shocked by what happened next. Instead of going around the room with each guy sharing a few intimate details about his sex life and about his wife, it turned into a men’s meeting, an open forum, on sexual peccadilloes, so much so that we missed watching the second half of the game. Now, we were so into hearing everyone’s story that we actually turned off the Super Bowl to talk about what we did with our wives behind closed doors.
Anthony was first to volunteer. He told us how his wife, Ramona, enjoyed being tied to the bed, blindfolded, and spanked. We were stunned. Attending church every Sunday, Ramona looks so straight laced, we’d never expect her to be so kinky. One never knows what goes on behind closed door.
Bob was next to volunteer to confess his sexual peccadilloes. He told us how he and his wife, Sue, enjoy dressing up and pretending to be Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. Role playing that fantasy excited them both enough to believe that they were actually the celebrity stars and enough for them to have hot sex.
Then, it was Charlie’s turn and he told us how he reenacted his first date with his wife, Helen. They found it exciting for Helen to dress up and sit at a bar, while Charlie pretended that he didn’t know her and picked her up and brought her home, where they had wild sex.
Dave noticed that we had been going in alphabetical order, so he went next and we thought that was a good idea to continue in that way. Dave told us how he enjoyed dressing as a woman, cross dressing, and how his wife was excited just as much that he was dressed as a woman as he was excited dressing as a woman.
Eddie discussed his private sexual preferences with the group by telling us that he and his wife Elaine, antalya escort Mistress El, as did Anthony and Ramona, enjoyed bondage and discipline. Only, where Ramona played the submissive role and more enjoyed the bondage rather than the discipline, other than being spanked, with her husband Anthony playing the more dominating role, Eddie and Elaine were more into the discipline aspect of bondage and discipline preferring pain with their pleasure. Moreover, Eddie was the submissive and Elaine was the dominatrix.
Frank, a day laborer standing a mere 5’6″ tall and his wife an attractive woman looking so much like a shorter version of June Cleaver, Beaver’s mother, was next to go and blew everyone away with what he told the group.
“My wife Rose and I are swingers. We’ve been swinging for a few years, now. I realize that there may be lots of misconceptions about swinging and I hope that I can use this informal meeting as an opportunity to answer any questions you may have about the lifestyle and, perhaps, welcome you to try it with Rose and I or with another couple.”
The room was silent. Shock and surprise would explain the look on everyone’s face. Frank looked nothing like a swinger, not even a lady’s man, yet, here he was telling everyone that he was the big dog here, the real deal, the swinger, the man with the swagger and the cock to back it all up.
“How did you start swinging, Frank,” asked Randy?
“Oh, I brought home one of those swinging magazines with all the ads. I found it in work. The odd thing was that Rose was more keen on the idea than I was. She read all the ads and found a couple that she’d like us to meet. Well, it turns out that the husband of the couple we met is in this very room.”
The men looked from one to another, while wondering who was the other secret swinger, no doubt.
“How many women have you been with, Frank,” asked Jim?
“Oh, I don’t know. I don’t keep count. Rose and I have been doing it for a dozen years. I guess, when you factor some of the house parties we’ve attended, I’d say a few hundred.”
“Wow,” said Wayne. “I didn’t know you had it in you, Frank and Rose is an attractive woman, but I never would have guess she was a swinger.”
“What do you mean, by house parties,” asked Vinnie?
“Swingers open their homes to a dozen or so people that they know, have already experienced and we have a party. There are rooms available where we can have sex with one another or a group of us can have a mini orgy. It’s fun. It’s a great way to meet people who share your interest,” said Frank. “It’s the perfect opportunity to have a threesome with two women or two guys with one lara escort woman, which is what I prefer. I’m too old to be having two women,” he said with a laugh. At least when there’s another fella with me, I can take a breather, while he’s fucking her and she’s blowing me.”
“I’d love to try it,” said Mike, but I know my wife would never trying swinging in a million years.
“So tell us about a typical date,” said Wayne. “Do you call it date?”
“We call it a get together. The first time meeting, we meet the couple for coffee and conversation to see if the four of us are compatible,” said Frank. “We turn down more people than we agree to meet for sex. It’s difficult for four people to hit it off. Sometimes, Rose will like the man and I won’t like the woman and vice versa. If we are compatible, we’ll make arrangements to meet again, usually the next weekend and we’ll have sex. We won’t have sex with anyone that we both don’t agree.”
“What do you say to the couple, if you’re not interested? Thank you very much, but we’re not interested in having sex with you,” said Jim with a nervous laugh.
“There’s nothing wrong with being open and honest. We’re all adults and we all know what we want. Some couples want a foursome, others prefer one on one, and there’s other couples who just want you to watch them having sex, while they watch you having sex. We stay away from the lookers. We’re beyond watching, that’s strictly amateur hour. Also, we stay away from the women who are into other women. Rose isn’t bi-sexual, not even socially. She’d never go down on a woman. Besides, it doesn’t do anything for me to see two women together. We prefer both couples in the same room.”
“Is it all about sex or do you do other things,” asked Vinnie?
“No, it’s not all about sex,” said Frank. “We’ve made friendships with many of the couples that we have sex with. We play cards, go bowling, and have even taken vacations together. The thing about being a swinger is that it raises your level of sexuality. We’re so beyond the immaturity that most couples have when it comes to things that are sexual.”
“Tell us about a typical get together,” said Nick. “I’ll tell you, I don’t think I could handle watching my wife having sex with another man. I’d be jealous.”
“Well, we’ll go to their house or they’ll come to our house. We’ll have a drink and some conversation before we head upstairs to the bedroom,” said Frank. “Some couples prefer separate bedrooms, so I’ll take the wife in one bedroom and the husband will take rose in another. We’ll get on the bed and make out, while removing one another’s clothes. Then, as we become manavgat escort more aroused, I’ll slip on a condom or she’ll put the condom on me. We always have safe sex. And even though we’ve been with a lot of people, we tend to stay within our own little group of swingers. From there we have normal sex, as you would with your wife, only we’re having sex with someone else’s spouse. You can’t be jealous and/or possessive and be in the swinging lifestyle,” said Frank with a look of warning.
“How does it work when you’re in the same room,” asked Dave? “Do you have an orgy? And do the men have sex with one another, too?”
“Men having sex with one another is frowned upon. I’ve never seen men getting on together. I’ve seen plenty of women having sex with one another but, as I said before, it doesn’t excite me watching two women,” said Frank.
“It would excite me to see two women going at it,” said Vinnie with a laugh.
“Hey, it depends on what you like,” said Frank. “That’s what the lifestyle is about, different strokes for different folks. When we’re with a couple in the same room, we’ll each get our own wives going first by making out and touching and feeling one another, before we switch off and change partners. If they only have the one bed, we may take turns with my wife and the husband watching me with his wife and then the husband will have sex with my wife, while his wife and I watch. If the bed is big enough, a king-sized, we’ll all squeeze on the bed. It depends.”
“It depends on what,” asked Dave?
“It depends on the couple,” said Frank. “Sex is serious with some couples and fun and funny with others. We prefer having fun with those couples who aren’t so serious. Sex when you think about it is funny and you should be able to laugh at yourself.”
“Did you ever meet anyone that you really like, I mean, would leave your wife for. Someone who you could fall in love with,” asked Jim.
“Yeah, there’s been some women that I’ve been attracted to more than others, but just because I have sex with others, doesn’t mean that I love my wife any less. I remember one couple, the wife wasn’t happy with her husband. He didn’t satisfy her sexually. She never had an orgasm during intercourse and there I was fucking her, while she was having an orgasm. Well, she was screaming, while he was in the next room having sex with my wife and not even getting a rise out of her. Her husband pulled his cock out of my wife’s pussy and came rushing in the room. He thought I was hurting his wife. No, she said, don’t stop, I’m just about to cum for the first time in fifteen years. He was so mad that I was able to make his wife cum, that he threw us out of the house. The wife and I had a good laugh over it, but the husband didn’t see the humor in any of it. We didn’t see that couple again,” said Frank with a chuckle.
The group went silent with Frank’s candor, while waiting for someone else to take the floor.
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A full-day dedicated to your personal development with specific and interesting subjects.
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Also, you will connect with other persons, create new relationship because of one the main characteristics to live a successful life starts by surrounding yourself by the people you want to become. It that case, by inspiring and determined women willing to improve their life.
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Couples and Family Therapy
Are you having the same old arguments; feeling stuck and unheard; torn by a family situation where you can see no way out. The poet Rilke says “For one person to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult task of all, the work for which all other work is but a preparation”.
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I mean, obviously, they are my girls!
Then, there are these ladies...
...and I just love them, too!
I love that college students that I invested in are my friends!
I love that they minister to and encourage my heart and life.
I love that they are women that my girls love and look up to.
That just makes my heart so incredibly full.
Jenny had a baby about 6 weeks ago, and last week, Bri, Steph, and I got to visit her and meet her baby!
Evan was such a sweetheart!
He was so tired when I was holding him! Jenny's husband, John, had the day off work and stayed home with Evan while the 4 of us when to Panera. Evan didn't nap at all while we were gone...his daddy is pretty exciting :)
Evan was so tired that he was holding so still. I remember when my girls were tiny and would be so exhausted that they didn't even want to move!
It was so great to spend time with Jenny and see her doing so amazingly well as a mama! John and Jenny are a couple who have such a heart for people and they love others really well, so it's no surprise that they are awesome parents!
I love seeing Jenny so happy and confident in her role as mommy :)
It was a quick visit but such a good one!
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Welcome to my home and thanks for taking the time to learn a little more about me. I hope that your visit here will make the time we share together a little more satisfying for the both of us.
I wake up every morning now a little surprised that I'm doing this. For the longest time I wondered if I was the problem? Wasn't I sexy enough? Was I not doing enough? Was I not doing it right? It wasn't long ago that I was a loving and faithful wife to a man who I believed to be as loyal and faithful as myself. I guess you live and you learn. Almost overnight, he went from chasing me around the house to barely touching me at all. I just wanted so badly for things to go back to the way they were. I learned all kinds of tricks and every treat. I offered myself to him in ways that would make a sailor blush. But nothing made a difference. Toys, erotic fiction, and porn became my only outlets.
Not once during the time we dated or during our marriage did any other man touch what belonged to him. It was his, and I was saving it for him. I'd never allowed any other man the pleasure of enjoying me in that way. If only I'd known then what I know now.
Do you know what it's like to wake up one morning and realize you don't recognize either the person staring back at you in the mirror anymore, or the one who sleeps across from you in bed. anymore. You're sharing a house with someone. But you don't really share in his or her life at all. Is it their fault? Is it yours? Or is it just life? What happened to the happy ending?
Despite it all, if you were to ask me today what I think of him, I would say that my husband is a good man. He works hard. He always has. Support has never been an issue. But the day I found out he's been seeing girls he met online for years was the day I was reborn again.
I know that sounds bitter. I'm not. What I am is a firm believer that everything in life happens for a reason. I've spent the past 20+ years saying, "I wish I had" and "I wonder what that's like". But I 'm going to spend the next little bit saying instead, "Maybe I shouldn't have done that". Lol. My new motto, "Why the f**k not!".


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In response to the devastation in the Houston area, the Grace Family of Churches is supporting the relief efforts of Preemptive Love Coalition with a gift of 15% of this week’s general offering. We have an established relationship with Preemptive Love and strongly believe in the work they are doing. If you would like to make a personal donation, text any dollar amount followed by the word Houston to (770) 809-6177 or visit www.preemptivelove.org.
We are also working through our relationships with churches and other groups to plan ways to help with recovery efforts there. We will post ways to to get involved as plans emerge.


5 Tips To Win Valentine's Day
Valentine's day is only around the corner, and the pressure is on to make it a special day. Not sure how to celebrate it with your partner this year? Not to worry, to make it easy on you, here are 5 tips to win Valentine's Day.
1. Plan an exciting experience or activity
Instead of just going out for dinner, why not plan a fun experience at home or book a romantic activity. Here are a few ideas:
- Re-create your first date.
- Set up a movie night at home.
- Have an at-home spa / massage day.
- Go to a yoga class.
- Get tickets for a concert or comedy show.
- Take a day trip.
- Hit up a theme park or carnival.
2. Cook dinner together at home
A fancy home-cooked meal can be so much more romantic than going out to eat at a super busy restaurant. Write up the menu of your partners dreams and get all the ingredients you need. Food somehow always tastes a little bit better when you've spent a few hours making it. Plus if you are on a budget its much cheaper then eating at a fancy restaurant. The only downside is that you have to do the washing up.
3. Buy your partner something nice
Buying a gift for your partner is so important, especially on Valentine's day. Whilst gifting her, her favourite chocolates or giving her some lovely red roses is always an option, for 2023 it can be quite cliché. Go a step further this Valentine's day take a risk & treat her some sexy lingerie or some comfy loungewear perfect for snuggling up on the sofa.
4. Make a Valentine's card or a love note
Writing love notes or Valentine's cards is something that is quite old fashioned so no one bothers to give them to their partners. Because of this, when you give her one, she'll be impressed. If you've never done one before write down which of their qualities you admire the most, how they make you feel, and why you feel in love with them. It doesn't have to be anything long as long as it comes from you and not a copy and paste from the internet.
5. Turn off all digital devices
Place your phone, smart watch, iPad, laptop anything that will divert your attention away from your partner in a cupboard or out of sight. One on one time with your loved one never goes unmissed.
In conclusion Valentine's Day should be fun for both you and your partner. Put these 5 tips together for an amazing V-Day ever.


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I like this guy but i dont know if i should text him first?
there's a guy that i like and he already knows i like him because i told him. so he suggested we hang out and i invited him over to my house and then we talked about the time and got off topic. i was the last one to text him and say goodbye so idk if he's still down. should i text him first and ask him if he's still coming over or is that annoying?


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- you have to accept the consequences of your abusive actions
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Being able to find someone you click with so naturally is the best feeling ever. You feel like you’ve been best friends you’re whole life, it feels like you’re coming home. You’re so comfortable with them. Maybe that’s what a soulmate is. Not someone who shares every single thing in common with you, but someone who feels like home.


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Understanding why people text their partners is a first step to considering its role in healthy relationship development.The Texting Advantage Texting removes some of the barriers that can make face-to-face conversations, or even phone calls, tricky to navigate.
People met, they spent time in each other’s company, they got to know each other's friends and family, and they evaluated the quality of their connection and compatibility .These relations are complex, as men who text to express affection tend to have partners who feel more attached to them. Using technology to connect in romantic relationships: Effects on attachment, relationship satisfaction, and stability in emerging adults. It's quick and easy, and I can still do other things while I wait for confirmation.For both men and women, the more they use texting to hurt a partner (inciting jealousy, expressing anger, etc.) the less attached their romantic partner. However, I have seen texting become a hindrance in my romantic affairs in several ways.While technology makes it easier to avoid having difficult face-to-face conversations, those conversations are often having in person, despite the discomfort they can bring.If nothing else, they are growth opportunities and adhere better to the social expectations for how a breakup should occur.


If you have established a business partnership, it’s because you felt there is at least one other person whom you could collaborate with to achieve objectives mutually beneficial to you both. This is always a somewhat delicate proposition, because it means there are two distinct perspectives at the top of the management chain. In order to know whether or not you’ve chosen someone that you can share responsibilities with as well as profits, consider the following five criteria for creating successful business partners.
Mutual trust and respect
These two characteristics are indispensable in any smooth-working partnership, and when either one of them is missing, there’s virtually no hope of long-term cooperation between business partners. You may need to work closely together to apply and qualify for a business line of credit, which requires a high degree of trust and respect between partners. If either of you doesn’t trust the other, decision-making will be called into question at every turn, and that means respect will suffer as well.
It is essential for business partners to be able to convey to each other their ideas honestly and effectively. This skill can build solidarity between two people that will even overcome other misunderstandings and difficulties, and allow a partnership to persist and prosper for a long time.
Ability to compromise
When two strong leaders get together, there’s always the possibility of conflict and disagreement. This isn’t something that has to be avoided necessarily, but it does have to be dealt with, and when both parties have the ability to compromise, many difficult situations can be defused and workable solutions can be found.
Some of the best partnerships are those where one partner is strong in an area where the other partner is somewhat weaker, and vice versa. If both business partners were to be strong in the same areas, there would probably be more conflict than could reasonably be handled. Fortunately, most people tend to be good at one thing and weaker at another, so if you can find the kind of partner who complements your strengths and weaknesses, it could be a perfect match.
Don’t hold grudges
When the inevitable arguments come, both sides in a partnership need to realize that it shouldn’t be something that’s allowed to linger for days or weeks on end. If it does, that’s the kind of thing that can lead to dissolution. Partners who can quickly recover after disagreements and arguments have a better chance of long-term coexistence, and maintaining a worthwhile business relationship.


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The key to confidence in your relationship
Do you openly share your deepest feelings, greatest desires and your biggest fears with your intimate partner? Do you give yourself permission to speak up as the beautiful unique individual soul you are? Do you focus on the positives about your relationship and your partner? Or are you like me and have made a commitment to yourself and your future partner to make it the ultimate relationship, the one you have always dreamed of?
When I started researching this topic is was for you as much as it was for me and I must be honest with you right from the start, I am definitely no expert on this topic #norelationshipguru. I want to learn everything I can, to discover the how to’s and ultimately to feel confident in a relationship again. I dream of the kind of relationship where we can share our deepest desires, fears and everything in between, the one where the world stops when you are in their presence, where being vulnerable is nurtured, where being our own individuals as much as being together is celebrated and finally where in 10, 20, 50 years time we are still flirting, being spontaneous and making each other go gooey when we look into each others eyes.
Now I have some exciting news, some news that could change your relationship or create the relationship you have always dreamed of. Confidence in your relationship starts with you. I know you have probably heard it by now but before you can love anyone else you have to love yourself first, hear me out though.
“To be intimate with all that we are including our every emotion- is to fully embody & awaken to who & what we truly are”- unknown
Confidence in our relationships and ourselves has to be created and nurtured everyday, it takes work and commitment on both parts, but ultimately it begins with you. I spoke about ‘Acting as if’ back in March and the same principle applies here, if you want a confident and happy relationship you need to start by acting as if you and the relationship are already there. Believing in yourself, developing your self worth #selfworthissexy and showing up as your own beautiful individual soul with desires, fears and the confidence to communicate who you truly are is the key.
When we feel confident in our relationship we don’t feel those negative emotions like jealousy, there are no control issues or the feeling like we own the other person, we are open, vulnerable, confident to admit our mistakes and take responsibility, move on from disagreements quickly without blame or resentment, communicate our every thought and stand up proud as our own people who love each other so.
Are you showing up in your relationship as the beautiful soul you are?
More to come,


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In the month of December, my dearest cousin visited a lot & being the chatterbox that she is, she was never done regaling me with all manner of stories & tid bits. So there we were on one of such visits, gisting away when a family friend came visiting to drop his wedding invitation. After he left our conversation veered to how there were so many weddings scheduled for the month of December.
She started to tell me about a friend of my uncle’s who had just travelled to the village to get married & how my young uncle had come up with the ‘genius’ idea that he would search for a village wife in the few weeks he was to spend in the village for Christmas, just like his friend who had declared that educated girls in Lagos had “opened eye” too much & were apparently not submissive so he had found himself a fifteen year old village girl to marry (my cousin swore that she was thirteen) & now his friend, my uncle, wanted his own meek, unspoilt, submissive lamb of a wife as well. She had tried to tell him how it would be more beneficial to marry a grown woman that could bring something apart from submissiveness to the marriage but his mind was made up.
As I write, he is still in the village on the ‘great hunt’, we await his return, child bride in tow.
A close friend recently told me how his uncle, who is his father figure, met his girlfriend/ wife-to-be for the first time and wanted to know if she was a virgin when they started dating. He replied in the affirmative & his uncle gave his approval. I couldn’t help wondering if the girl would have been declared unfit for a wife for his nephew if she had not met the virginity criteria.
I recently saw on an interactive blog, an ‘advert’ put up by a lady who was in search of a wife for her nephew & the graduate & virginity conditions were non negotiable for her.
I remember how back in school, crammed into the hostel in first year, some girls would almost break a leg rushing back to the hostel after classes to cook for boyfriends, carting the food off to their rooms & zooming back with their dirty laundry in tow.
One can only hope that in seeking a thousand yards of spousal material we take the time to evaluate our own ‘worthiness’ & the abundance or lack of fabric we represent to the other party so that in the longrun no one is left feeling shortchanged, like they’re holding the short end of the stick.
We must give as much as we demand, maybe even more.
Goodnight my lovelies, have a great week ahead.


On this day, Kindness Day I am thanking you for the good you have done in life. In our class we are doing a letter to someone who there kindness inspires us and you are this person. I’m so lucky to spend the years with you that I did, but to most importantly learn how inspiring you are to all your friends and family. What I love is that when you see someone having a bad day you would give a funny dad joke to make there day a little bit better. We all agreed to this saying so we put it on a shirt to remind us to be so kind to everybody, no matter who they are just like you. I love you and miss you so!
M – Make friends wherever you go
A – Accept everyone …whoever they are
T – Take time for those around you
T – Tell people how much they mean to you


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BEIJING – Chinese President Xi Jinping warmly welcomed U.S. Defense Secretary James Mattis on Wednesday on his first visit to China, with a promise to build a stronger relationship between the two superpowers’ militaries as an example of cooperation for the world.
“Our relationship is one of the most important in the world,” Xi told Mattis as the two sat down for discussions. “If we are able to establish a good relationship, it will have benefit to the peace, stability and prosperity to the world and to our two nations and the people of our countries.”
Xi said the military-to-military relationship is “an important part of our overall relationship” and has already benefited from “quite a number of cooperative exchange programs.
“I would hope this momentum of the relationship will continue,” Xi said.
Mattis is on a week-long trip to China, South Korea and Japan.
“I am happy to be here in China and attach the same high degree of importance to the military-to-military relationship,” Mattis said. “This is an important time in the relationship with China and the United States. I’m here to keep our relationship on the right trajectory, the right relationship and share ideas.”
The visit comes as the Rim of the Pacific exercises, the largest cooperative navy program in the world, begins off Hawaii and California. China was disinvited because of its militarization of islands in the South China Sea — actions that have raised tensions between the two nations.
China is simultaneously conducting naval drills near Taiwan, and the U.S. is reportedly sailing vessels — including an aircraft carrier — through the Taiwan Strait.
Earlier in the day, Mattis met with his Chinese counterpart, Gen. Wei Fenghe. Mattis invited the minister of defense to meet at the Pentagon.


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Relationships, and the transitions into and out of them have dominated conversation lately. A number of friends are renewing vows of commitment after years of matrimony. They are celebrating the [...]


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It is with great sadness that I write this post.
Ron was an amazing person. He absolutely loved engaging in conversation. He would bring the best out of each person that he engaged with. He would go out of his way to lend a hand, say a kind word, or tell you his life experience. A husband, father, grandfather, a guardian ad litem, and a friend.
Ron, your memory will live on through the love of your family, the joy you brought to everyone around you, and the impact you had in this world. We take comfort in the knowing that you are in eternal peace, and that you will always hold a special place in our hearts. Until we meet again.
Cheers! To The Gentleman from Brooklyn.


Today our school was blessed to have Bishop Brennan greet students and say our weekly Mass. It was an honor for us to have him here. As he reminded us at Mass, we all must love one another and it is through our love that we lift each other up. How can we show love to those around us today? Together, let us lift one another up and make a difference.


I got to play wedding planner as we cleared out our living room, decorated the fireplace and brought in chairs. As I worked with this 79 year old who had been a widow for over 25 years, I tried to find out what she wanted in this memorable occasion. Q... Did she want flowers? *no, keep it simple. Q... what about just a couple flowers, something to hold so that your not just standing with fidgety hands? *yes, that would be fine, but keep it small. Q... what was the one thing not in your first wedding that you would like in this one? *well, the church wasn't even finished, so ... well, can we have a cake? I don't want no big fancy thing though. Just something small. I just want a simple wedding, everything simple. Just our kids and their families.
My husband was to do the wedding, we knew the bride really well and the groom had become a friend really quick. Several phone calls and messages made it clear that they both wanted to honor their prior spouse by using their same wedding rings as before. Throughout all the planning, they wanted to be very respectful to their children and their feelings.
So... without further ado... let me share the ceremony and photos with you.
Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today in the sight of God, friends and
family to unite this couple Robert Ervin Walker and Mary Francis Proctor in the bonds of holy matrimony.
Robert and Mary, I do not believe that it was an accident that you met and fell in love. I sincerely believe that this is God’s plan and that you are honoring him in your commitment to each other. I believe you will be blessing to others and to each other. I pray that we who are here will love and support you the way you have unconditionally loved us. Anyone who has been around Robert and Mary can recognize how deeply in love they are with each other. They are both secure enough in that love to talk and fondly remember their former spouses Janice and Bill to each other. Robert and Mary have asked me to take a moment and recognize how God had blessed both of them with loving, godly spouses who have gone on to be with the Lord. Robert was married to Janice for 56 years. Mary was married to Bill for almost 34 years. Both of these marriages were based on a love for each other and the Lord. A marriage based on the Lord has a strong foundation. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. (NIV) Robert and Mary understand that the Lord is the strand, the common bond that will hold them together. Their love for each other, and their life circumstances, reminds me of a love story found in the Bible in the Book of Ruth. It is a love story that Robert and Mary are both familiar with. It is a story that starts with the loss of a spouse and ends with a wedding. It begins with a focus on a mother in law named Naomi who has lost her husband, and her sons and longs to go home to the land of her birth. She advises her daughter in laws, who are also widowed, to stay behind. It is the story of Ruth, her widowed daughter in law, who would not stay behind but who followed and remained devoted to her mother in law, Naomi, even after the death of her spouse. It is also the story of a man named Boaz, an unmarried relative of Naomi's. Naomi, will in time play matchmaker and set a series of events in motion that with God’s help lead to the marriage of Ruth and Boaz. Today, I am reminded of another mother in law and in this case a widowed man that is still devoted to her. That same mother in law was used by God to start a chain of events that have led us here today. Robert, your commitment and love for your mother in law speaks volumes about you. Mary recognizes the kind of man you are and will be to her. And so do we. Now Ruth could have stayed in her own land and remarried but she chose to go with Naomi. In doing this, Ruth choose to remain single. When Ruth got settled in this new land she did not hurriedly seek out a mate but waited focusing on the needs of Naomi. Until Naomi intervened. Mary, you have been a widow for 26 years. You could have chosen to seek out someone years ago but you waited. I believe you waited for the right man and the right season. Robert knows what kind of woman you are because you have waited and have lived your life in service to family and others. Today both of you take a bold step into your new life together. Robert and Mary, if you will turn and face each other and repeat your vows to each other at this time.
I , (name), take you, (name), to be my wedded (wife/husband), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer for poor, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part. And here I pledge you my faithfulness. Robert and Mary have chosen to use their same rings from their previous marriages. They are using them to as a reminder of what has come before, how God had blessed and how they again recognize that Lord is the constant unchanging center of this covenant to each other. Rings May we have the rings? Would you two join hands now?
Nelda Turner (bride's daughter), Mary Proctor (bride), Darrell Proctor (my hubby, oh, did I mention that the Bride is his Mother, yes... my Mother-in-Love!!!), Robert Walker (groom), Johnny Walker (groom's son)
Robert, please repeat after me – Mary, With this ring, I thee wed, and with it, I pledge my heart and my devotion. You may place the ring upon her finger. Mary, please repeat after me – Robert, With this ring, I thee wed, and with it, I pledge my heart and my devotion. You may place the ring upon his finger. The Kiss In recognition of your commitment to each other, by the power vested in me by the state of Texas, and the Almighty God we love and serve, I now pronounce you man and wife. Robert, you may kiss your bride. Mary you may kiss your husband. The Pronouncement It gives me great pleasure to introduce to you for the very first time Robert and Mary Proctor Walker. And all God’s people said – Amen.
And... so now... these six months later?
They lived happily ever after.


1. What is love? Love is a form of unity.
2. True lasting love is not about desire, it is about intention.
3. Love, based on desire, eventually dies, as any of our desires fade sooner or later.
4. What is true love? True love is love that never ends, is not damaged with lies, and is stronger than any temptations and adversities in its way.
5. It’s strange; for thousands of years people talk, sing, gossip and advise on love, but to look at the number of divorces, human love hasn’t become stronger, longer or more fulfilling. It looks as if the understanding of the phenomena of love is still missing.
6. Who said that love is simple? Whoever said it was probably someone who at that moment in time was in a perfect state of connection with others. I know only two situations when love is simple: first, during the honey moon phase of a marriage; second, when a person embraces the unbreakable attitude of love, which takes many years to master.
7. When we embrace love in every possible form, we see that nothing is more beautiful, contradictory, and complex. By the way, complicity of love makes it both exciting and challenging; it makes love unique for everyone who has ever experienced it.
8. What is the essence of love? The essence of love is unity. It doesn’t matter to what we refer our “I love.” It might be God, a person, literature, a cat, a steak for dinner, or soccer. The word “love” expresses our desire to unite with the subject of our “love” either spiritually, emotionally, mentally, or physically.
9. What is the meaning of love and why is the definition of love not simple? Love is one of several words that embraces so many different aspects that eventually people are confused about what true love is. No wonder that for centuries, many artists, writers and researchers have been dedicated to love volumes of novels, poetry, philosophical tractates, and psychological theses, to say nothing of endless discussions on how to get, rekindle or improve love relationships.
10. The key to eliminating confusions about what is love and what kind of love we are talking about is seeing love as a manifestation of the Law of Unity on different levels: spiritual, mental, emotional and physical. Thus, unity on physical level is sex; unity on emotional level is infatuation; unity on mental level might be collaboration in business or love to a certain disciplines like history or philosophy; and love on a spiritual level is a position of unity; when we embrace, with a holistic view of wisdom, all possible forms of existence.
11. Love is art and business the same time.
12. Lasting love is a daily experiment, work and self-growth.
13. True love doesn’t happen by itself, though from the first sight in might look this way.
14. True Love and true friendship start when two people have the desire to understand each other.
15. Infatuation and love differ: like an apple that has been eaten and its seeds thrown into soil and the abundant apple tree that grows from these seeds. Between the eaten apple and the first fruit of the growing tree, there is a long period of work, care, patience, hope and faith.
16. It is impossible to expect positive changes if you continue to hold onto your illusions. For instance, you would like to rekindle your sexual passion, but at the same time, you are not ready to share financial responsibilities with your spouse, whom you love. Don’t cheat on yourself. The lack of trust in a financial relationship squeezes the flow of energy between two people. Inevitably, it will be reflected in the physical aspect of the relationship. As time goes by, infatuation evaporates and sex becomes fake and boring.
17. Until you’re brave enough to share your true feelings with your companion or soul mate, you cannot develop a real love relationship, or a real connection with this person.
18. According to System Outlook any relationship is an exchange of energy.
19. The relationship of love is also an exchange of energy. To get the energy to circulate in the perfect way, partners are to be totally open with each other. No agenda, no fears, no unspoken expectations should stay between them in the way of the flowing energy.
20. Infatuation is not yet love, and usually it doesn’t last long.
21. Infatuation is like a loan of energy from the Divine Bank of Love. Sooner or later, if people just spend it instead of using for developing a bigger love, it is over.
22. It is impossible to stay in a true love relationship with only one foot; you need to jump in with both feet to keep it going.
23. It is a big temptation to know that we can terminate a love relationship at any moment. Why work on a relationship, if there is a chance to meet someone who is easier to deal with? The illusion that somewhere there is an “effort-free” love is the most dangerous poison that kills relationships.
24. If you lie or cheat on your partner, you will be the first one who loses the feeling of fulfillment, joy and satisfaction.
25. It might feel dangerous and it takes efforts to be open with each other. It means being unprotected and vulnerable. But without the openness, there is no other way to be truly connected and let the energy fill you to the brim with joy and love.
26. Openness is risky. Learn how to be open.
27. Open yourself softly, without blame or expectations. Be gentle and civil, especially if your feelings are not positive. Become a team with your companion to improve the situation. Remember to listen.
28. If to compare humans with live wires, then the feeling of love is pure energy that flows through our bodies in forms of emotions. When there are no clutches in the way of the flowing energy, like fears, for instance, we love and feel loved.
When we are afraid to be open; when we do not trust our partner to share our soul, we stop energy from freely flowing and filling us up. That’s why we never feel totally satisfied. We blame our companion for not being perfect for us. We look for someone better. But after a while, the same story repeats: we don’t share our real feelings, and we inevitably experience a lack of the energy that connects us with another partner in trust and love.
29. Logic is condensed love. It embraces everything in its unity.
30. There is no lasting excitement in an insecure relationship.
31. To make a marriage last it’s important to serve, not each other, but the relationship.
32. “Loving your enemies” is not about wanting to spend every waking moment with them. After all, it’s impossible to love your enemies when they make your life a living hell. Love of enemies is a conscious position of acception that is based on integrity and compassion: compassion toward their ignorance; and integrity as knowing that we all grow through our mistakes and we all connected.
33. Until enemies are united in Truth, which is the law of unity, total forgiveness is impossible.
34. What is infatuation? It’s a romantic prelude of love that generously promises a lot of bliss, and which often immediately evaporates at the sign of a first challenge. Don’t be in a hurry to call this love.
35. What is true love? True love is the unity of two people centered around Truth.
36. Why do we say that love is simple? Separate actions of love can be simple when they are taken out of context of the whole relationship. But a relationship of love is a living system that has its ups and downs, sunny summers and cold winters. It’s simple to enjoy good times, but it also takes a lot of work to go through periods of challenges.
37. Do you hope to find love that is like instant coffee and doesn’t require from you much but to push a button to boil water? Good news – it’s possible to find love like that. There are thousands of love movies that need only for you to push a button and turn on your TV.
38. What is unconditional love? Usually it’s a mother’s love that is dedicated to her children’s wellbeing and happiness and dies with the mother.
39. Love doesn’t excuse a lack of respectful and civil communication. Without it, love dies.


In the dynamic landscape of business, one thing remains constant—the importance of a strong and enduring relationship with customers.
In an era where choices abound and competition is fierce, fostering loyalty is a key ingredient for sustainable success. According to statistics, 86% of buyers will spend more for a great customer experience.
This article explores essential strategies to fortify your bond with customers, ensuring not only their satisfaction but also their commitment to your brand.
Understanding Customer Needs
The foundation of a robust customer relationship lies in a deep understanding of their needs.
To achieve this, invest time in market research and gather feedback regularly. Develop a keen awareness of the evolving preferences and expectations of your target audience.
By anticipating their needs, you position your business as not just a provider but a partner in their journey, thereby establishing a connection built on trust. Also, once you determine their needs you can focus on customer marketing.
Focus on Customer Marketing
You've heard and read a lot about marketing and it's lots of niches, but what is customer marketing exactly?
In a nutshell, customer marketing is the strategic approach of engaging and retaining existing customers by creating targeted campaigns, personalized communications, and loyalty programs.
It involves understanding the unique needs of your current customer base and tailoring marketing efforts to strengthen the relationship.
By employing customer marketing strategies, businesses can maximize customer lifetime value, foster brand advocacy, and drive repeat business.
This proactive approach emphasizes the importance of nurturing existing relationships, recognizing that satisfied customers are not just consumers but valuable assets contributing to the sustained growth and success of a business.
Communication forms the backbone of any healthy relationship, and the same holds true for business-customer relationships. Make sure you have clear channels for communication and that they are easily accessible.
Regularly update customers about new products, services, or any changes that may impact them. Actively seek feedback, and, more importantly, respond promptly and constructively. This two-way communication not only resolves issues swiftly, but also demonstrates your commitment to customer satisfaction.
Effective communication is not a one-time effort but an ongoing process that requires dedication and responsiveness. It goes beyond conveying information; it involves actively listening to customer concerns and incorporating their feedback into your business strategies.
By fostering this continuous dialogue, businesses not only address immediate issues but also showcase a genuine commitment to understanding and meeting the evolving needs of their customers, further solidifying the base for a lasting and meaningful relationship.
Building Trust Through Transparency
Trust is the cornerstone of any enduring relationship, and the business-customer relationship is no exception. Ensure transparency regarding your products, services, and pricing.
Avoid hidden fees and communicate openly about any challenges or setbacks your business may face.
Customers appreciate honesty, and a transparent approach builds credibility. When customers trust your brand, they are more likely to remain loyal and become advocates, spreading positive word-of-mouth.
To truly strengthen your relationship with customers, go beyond meeting expectations—strive to exceed them. Surprise and delight your customers with unexpected perks, exclusive offers, or exceptional customer service.
Through consistently surpassing expectations, you craft memorable experiences that imprint a lasting positive impression. This not only distinguishes your brand from others but also nurtures a sense of loyalty that proves challenging to replicate.
Adaptability in a Changing Landscape
In an ever-changing business environment, adaptability becomes paramount for survival. Remain vigilant to industry trends, technological advancements, and shifts in customer behavior.
Showcase your dedication to delivering value by adapting your products and services in response to these dynamic changes.
A business that adapts to changing circumstances not only stays relevant but also reassures customers that their needs will be met, regardless of external challenges.
In the pursuit of business triumph, recognize the profound influence of a robust and authentic relationship with customers.
This connection thrives on understanding their needs, fostering effective communication, embracing personalization, upholding transparency, surpassing expectations, and demonstrating adaptability.
By steadfastly dedicating resources to these foundational elements, your business can nurture a loyal customer base. This loyalty not only bolsters your present accomplishments but also lays the groundwork for sustained growth in the future.
Strengthening your ties with customers transcends mere strategic considerations; it signifies a steadfast commitment to constructing enduring connections resilient to the challenges of time and market fluctuations.


28 Apr Why Are Your Most Important Relationships so Hard?
Many of the men and women I work with are struggling in their relationships. It is likely a relationship with their partner, but not always. Sometimes it’s a relationship with a family member, boss, co-worker, or neighbor. In almost all cases, it’s a clash between the way men and women do relationships. So I decided to write a book. After more than 15 years of working with clients and addressing relationship issues, it’s time to take what I’ve learned beyond the walls of my office.
Ultimately, I want to change the way men and women interact. I want women to get what they want and need from relationships and I want men to participate more and be less confused about what women expect of them.
The women I work with are asking for what they want, making reasonable demands on their partners, coworkers, bosses and family members, and yet are met with resistance. They aren’t getting what they need. Why is that? This book is an attempt to address this question and to help women (and men) have the relationships they want and deserve.
Below is the introduction to my book. I’d like your feedback and questions. Would you want to read the book based on the introduction? What would you most want to know? What would help you have a better relationship with your partner, co-worker, boss, family member, or neighbor?
This book is meant for women who have realized they have a problem with relating to men. You are single, married, widowed or divorced. In any case, you have taken the opportunity to look at your history in relationships and realized that despite your best efforts and intentions, you don’t have the relationships with men you want and you are confused as to why this is. Your story is my story.
I married in my 20’s to a wonderful man who wanted to start a family. We hit an impasse over my desire to have a career. He was not interested in helping me get my degree and start a career. Within a few years we divorced. One of the most vivid memories I have of our relationship is how unhappy I was with him. We would get into fights, only they were one sided fights. I would yell and he would go to the next room to get away from me. Of course, I followed him around the house yelling about how unhappy I was. Obviously that was a failed strategy. I didn’t understand the dynamic and blamed him for being emotionally unavailable and selfish.
A year later I married another man who was more than willing to engage in conversations about our relationship and any problems we were having. The problem with this relationship was that I had no sense of my own self and when he told me that the problems we had were my fault and I needed to change, I believed him. That set me up for years of feeling like I was never good enough and always doing something wrong. I tried harder and harder, but never felt good enough. Along the way I developed a heaping dose of resentment to go along with his nearly constant commentary on what I was doing wrong.
After all that why would I be interested in yet another relationship? Good question!
For 20 years I’ve offered all manner of counseling and advice to adults from all walks of life. They have come to me with problems with their health and problems at work, home, with family, co-workers, neighbors and friends. Almost without exception at some point in my work with them we talk about their relationships. Over the course of my career I’ve become well-versed in helping people work through their relationship issues. As you might imagine, two things have happened. The first thing is that I began to see patterns in the problems my clients were having. Then, I realized I had dealt with the same problems in my marriages. It was time for the coach to take her own advice.
This book is my attempt to teach you and others what we didn’t learn growing up about men and how to be in a relationships with men. I will walk you through my process for empowering women and teaching them about the psychology of men and the natural dynamic between men and women, areas of knowledge sorely lacking in our culture. Men and women are different and when women expect men to be like them, talkative, emotionally available, and putting the relationship first, we set ourselves and our men up for failure. It doesn’t work that way.
This book is for you if
- If you are single with a history of problematic relationships, this book is for you.
- If you are unhappy or dissatisfied with your marriage, this book is for you.
Over the course of going through the material and exercises in this book, you will gain an better understanding of yourself and learn to trust yourself again. You will learn about dynamics between the genders that will help you understand and appreciate your (past or future) partner in a new way.
When the Women’s Movement became a tour de force in our culture, the dynamic of relationships between men and women began to shift. Women started to have options for work outside the home in unprecedented numbers, resulting in women who were no longer financially dependent on their husbands and free to leave marriages that were not serving them. They began to believe that they didn’t need men. In the work force women encountered resistance to their presence and hurtful behavior. As women began to feel empowered, they began demanding that the men in their lives change. Women wanted more emotional connection, more considerate behavior, and a sense that we are equal in a partnership and just as competent as men. Women made these demands by talking about their unhappiness, labeling behaviors that made them uncomfortable, describing what they wanted out of a relationship, and detailing how they want their husbands and co-workers to be different, better, and more like them. While valid, the concerns and complaints women raise have left men confused about the rules. Men have told me that they feel like the rules get made up mid-stream and/or are designed to benefit women rather than being fair to all parties.
The result of the expectation that men change is that men are beginning to check out. If they aren’t married, they are making the decision to just date around, rather than enter into a relationship that will leave them feeling inadequate, shamed, and trapped. If they are married, they often hunker down, withdraw from any connection with their wives, and check out of their marriages.
As men check out, women are left more unhappy in their relationships than ever before. Single women over 40 can’t find men who are willing to commit to a relationship after their previous wives divorced them. Married women struggle to connect with their sullen withdrawn husbands. Working women feel their needs as mothers and wives are not adequately considered by workplace demands, their male co-workers, and bosses. Additionally, most working women don’t feel their husbands appreciate how hard they work to balance career and home life.
What can be done? Rather than trying to change you or the men in your life, this book is designed to empower you to take responsibility for your happiness; to learn how to relate to men in a healthier way that works better for both of you, instead of demanding that men change to meet your wants and needs; and, to look at your own psychology to master the art of owning your emotions instead of expecting men to know how you feel. It’s not about making either gender wrong for their approach, but it’s about teaching you what you didn’t learn growing up, both about the dynamic between men and women and about knowing what you want and having the confidence to expect it.
By showing up in a healthier more empowered way, men will more naturally learn how to give the women in their lives what they most need, to feel safe and connected. Women will be happier and by extension men will be happier and the relationship between the sexes will be better for it.
Your Feedback and Questions
If you have feedback or questions, feel free to reach out. You can message me on Facebook at www.Facebook.com/julienelliganphd or send me a message through my website at www.JulieNelligan.com/contact/.


She is the most amazing person ever
I can’t even
She’s better than bunnies.
Mother. Fucking. Bunnies.
I’m not even joking
I don’t know how she does what she does. She is the most beautiful, intelligent person ever. She has one of the biggest hearts of anyone I know and the strongest person too. She loves with everything she is and even when she gets hurt, she cares for people regardless. She is so strong and I just want to hold her and protect her so she doesn’t have to be so strong all the time…
I was so empty without her. I really was. Hisoka is my other half. And I cry sometimes when I think about the time we wasted because of something so stupid.
We are apart of each other and I hope to one day live next to her so I can go over her house and and and hug her and protect her and and and just….love her.
She’s just seriously the Hisoka to my Tsuzuki.
But yes, in closing.
Hisoka is better than you.
Deal with it.
edit because I said ‘ever’ so much*


I wish I had the pleasure of knowing any of my grandfather . Its a wish that gets revived whenever some one talks of his / her grandfather .. I feel a special affection and concern in those talks.. I even see that feeling in my dad for my cousin’s baby girl. The adoration she has in her eyes , the smile she gives when dad enters the room , the respect he commands .. I so miss that feeling ! What stories did I miss ? What incidents did he never share with me ? Or any one ? I want that ride on his shoulders , those hidden toffees , those scolding my parent wud have got from him ..
I do not know him .. But daada ji … Nana ji .. I miss you .. And I love you ! Sent from my BlackBerry® smartphone


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I finally told someone who has been taking advantage of me and treating me badly that I'd had enough. It wasn't an easy decision; I remember when this person was a delight to be with; I remember a lot of good times, and I miss them. I miss her; the fun, funny, lovable, incredible her; I miss her more than I can say.
But it's been many years since those days, and our relationship keeps getting worse. She shows no interest in changing her behavior, and I don't like the way she treats me. I never thought I would say this, but given the way she has chosen to live, I'm better off without her.
I won't close the door; if she ever decides to change, I would love to have her back in my life.
But not like this.


Stepsister to Nicole Edelman. Yet they look so much alike that Vera nearly attacked her when she introduced herself. She is a Councilor who works for Shoichi. She hadn't seen her stepsister in years, and claims to not know why she did the things she did. It is later revealed that she is dating Seiji Hama and deeply loves him.