Doctor refusing to refer to genetic counseling?
Hi! I have very little knowledge of genetics, I also have very little knowledge of my family medical history and found out that my mother lied about some surgeries and diagnoses that I got when I was younger. A good portion of this revolves around brain surgery, I also found out that my father had brain surgery and the same type of seizures as me (found out after ten years). My mom, maternal grandmother, sisters, and I all have really weird menstrual issues and I know of a few other (seemingly genetic issues) that they should see doctors for. Not to mention some form of cancer but nobody knows what kind of cancer.
I also struggle with being asymptomatic on many levels, they thought my tumor (which caused the seizures and was the type of tumor my father had as well) was a chocolate allergy but never did allergy tests. My menstrual issues still haven't been figured out since my hormones are normal, I was kept on daily Miralax for seven years because doctors kept telling me to take it "until it works", etc.
When I've brought these points up with my doctors, they've told me that genetic testing wouldn't be useful at all and I don't have any solid reasoning to need genetic testing. So is there a way I can get independent/elective testing other than places like 23&me or other consumer tests? I've googled my options and came up with one doctor that has a two year waiting list (which I did get on) but would prefer something sooner.