Should I retaliate against them for excluding me?
DEAR ABBY: I often feel excluded. Last weekend on Facebook, I saw two coworkers and a former coworker go on a weekend getaway. I was not invited. This is not the first time that friends and colleagues have done things like this. I will comment on their post  sounds like fun  but I will never be invited. GIVEN ON MINNESOTA  DEAR MANDATORY: What you need to do is recognize that your coworkers dont have to include you in anything outside of work. They may have common interests that bring them together, or a chemistry that they dont have with you. Instead of ranting and fantasizing about retaliation (which would be unwarranted and inappropriate), build relationships outside of that circle of co-workers and friends, and do weekend things for yourself that are satisfactory. If you do, you will be less dependent on these people and less disappointed if your relationships with them are not as close as you would like. DEAR ABBY: My daughter is separated from her husband, who rents me a room. Recently, without telling her, he took her out of his insurance. Now she wants me to chase him and she is mad at me for refusing to do so. She says it shows that I approve of her behavior. She tells me hes no good, he used her and he hit on his girlfriend. She threatens that if I let him stay, we wont be close. He pays me by the hour and I hardly ever see him because he works at night. I need the rent money, and weve always gotten along well. I say this is my house and I should decide if he leaves. IN THE MIDDLE IN FLORIDA  DEAR IN THE MIDDLE: You have to explain to your daughter that the reason her husband lives with you is that you need the income. Even if you wanted to, you may not be able to evict him right away because of the eviction laws that exist in your state. Its your home, and the decision to evict it should be yours. However, if you continue to allow her to rent from you, it could cause a breakup with your daughter that could be permanent. DEAR ABBY: I have been reading your column for many years but have never seen this question before. I am a senior with a do not resuscitate order. Im worried that if something happened to me and I was taken to a nearby hospital, they wouldnt know I have one on my health care providers file. Thank you for the continued service you provide. LAST APPLICATION IN CALIFORNIA  DEAR LAST REQUEST: Many people accomplish this by posting a notice by their bed, on the refrigerator, or in their cell phone contact list designated as ICE (In Case of Emergency). There are also cards that can be carried in the wallet to alert paramedics of the patients wishes. Your health care provider can tell you how to get one  Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.