Will I only ever be my boss bit on the side?
DEAR DEIDRE: IM in love with a married woman  who also happens to be my boss. Ive been her bit on the side for two years, and Im worried this is all Ill ever be. Shes been promising to leave her husband for nearly 18 months. We met four years ago, working for the same call centre. Shes 45, Im 36. 1 She was flirty from the start, always complimenting my looks and buying me coffee  Get in touch with Deidre today Every problem gets a personal reply, usually within 24 hours weekdays. Send an email to deardeidre@the-sun.co.uk. You can also send a private message on the DearDeidreOfficial Facebook page. She was flirty from the start, always complimenting my looks and buying me coffee. On a staff night out after one too many beers, I thought Id try my luck. While the rest of the staff hit the dancefloor, we sat in a booth at the back of the bar. She told me how her marriage was practically over and they were separating. When I leaned in for a kiss, she didnt hesitate to respond. I wanted to make sure she got home safe and asked her to share a taxi with me. Two minutes into the drive, we were all over each other. We re-routed the taxi to my place, then after pulling each others clothes off at the door we had passionate sex on the sofa with her straddling me. Afterwards she said it was her favourite position but her husband only ever wanted oral sex. The next morning, she admitted she and her husband werent actually separated. She was planning to leave, though, as all they did was argue. That was a year and a half ago, and shes still playing the loyal wife. Her husband insisted they have marriage counselling last summer, so she says its too soon to leave  she thinks it would look like she didnt try. Im starting to question whether shes got any intention of leaving. Most read in Dear Deidre BAD BLOOD My sister chose to bubble with her sister-in-law rather than me during lockdown DEAD END My mother's wedding ring was stolen off her dead body GIVING IT LARGE My boyfriend is so big that he caused a tear the first time we had sex FAMILY FEUD My brother hasn't had any contact with our mum for three years DEIDRE'S NEW PHOTO CASEBOOK Lucy can't help being a pushover where Dylan is concerned  DEIDRE SAYS: Right from the start she has lied  to her husband  as well as you. If you really want to give her the benefit of doubt and see a future together, give her a set period of time to leave, say four months. If she still comes up with excuses you have your answer and it is time for you to move on. You must see this relationship for what it is  a convenient bit on the side. You deserve someone who wants to commit to you 100 per cent and you will only meet that special person if you break away from your boss. Your employer is also likely to take a dim view of your relationship, so be careful. You should check your company policy on relationships at work and if you need any advice contact Acas, which gives independent advice on workplace issues (acas.org.uk, 0300 123 1100).