Why Are We Such Snobs When It Comes To Weddings?
Put simply, this is because we are all really classist. When it comes to weddings, the tastes of the middle classes have been affirmed by respected cultural institutions like art galleries and well-made TV shows, while contemporary fashion and social politics has decreed anything over the top or garish to be in bad taste. Anything that shows what victims of capitalism we all are is too much to look at and so we judge the big wedding, even though its what all of culture has demanded. Middle class taste is celebrated because its understated. It spends the same, if not more, money on something simple, luxurious  and nobody has to spend a wedding day remembering that weddings are giant capitalist constructs and wondering why we need a legal certificate to prove were in love anymore.