Should We Let Teens Text Their Friends to Say They Are Grounded?
One Reddit made the case that it should. Cell phones-they're a great way to keep in touch with loved ones, but wow, do they complicate things for parents. From mental health concerns to ethical questions about how much parents should monitor their kids' tech use, there's just a lot to sort through these days. Not to throw another one on your plate, but a Reddit parent added something else to think about: What to do If your kid is grounded. It's complicated. "Since landlines aren't the norm, let your kids text that they're grounded," started u/ sapphirerises in the Parenting subreddit. "I get that this might be controversial and that the well-being of our kids will always come first, but just think of that other kid for a minute. One day they have a best friend, and then the next, they've been ghostedFor a lot of teens, the sudden absence can be really confusing." For better or worse, cell phones give us constant access to communications devices (when we're not grounded). But, as the Redditor points out, landlines may actually have been better at communicating when a child was on punishment. "When we were younger, we had the benefit of parents/siblings answering the phone and saying, 'So-and-so is grounded,'" the person wrote. "Kids nowadays don't get that." And the poster fears it may only contribute to mental health issues like anxiety, something teens are experiencing in higher numbers these days. "As an adult, it'd be pretty stressful if a best friend I talked to every dayghosted me," the parent said. "Throw some teenage hormones into the mix. and I'd be a little ball of anxiety and depression." This Redditor knows letting your kids text their friends that they are grounded isn't a perfect solution, but they encouraged others to consider it from all angles. No," the person wrote. Also, no." Though the original poster thought it might be controversial, most commenters were on board. "I think I agree [with] at least giving them the opportunity to tell their friends that they're in trouble and won't have their phone for a while instead of just disappearing," wrote one person. "One-hundred percent agree," another commenter said. "Whenever my friends were grounded and suddenly stopped responding, I always got really nervous. A couple of my friends had severe depression, and then not responding made me really anxious." One parent found a compromise with their teens. "When my teens are grounded, they get five minutes in the morning and five minutes in the evening to reply to texts," the person said. "That way, they don't miss important information or cause their friends to worry, but it's restrictive enough that they feel the effects of the punishment." It's an interesting topic to think about in today's technology-driven world. On the one hand, the grounded kid can probably tell their friends at school. But with summer coming up and the pandemic causing some children to move to virtual-only learning this year, that may be tough for some kids. Plus, not all friends attend school together.