But perhaps most importantly , I have interesting friends that reflect the various facets of my personality and background . I think I ' ve just realized something ... It all comes down to confidence . If you 're not confident in yourself or what you want to do ( like my friend ) then you surround yourself with like - minded people - no confidence , career direction , etc . I do n't always have confidence .
What may happen after I become confident ?
- I lose all my friends .
 - None of the above choices .
 - I lose career direction
 - I gain friends who feel the same .


I gain friends who feel the same .